"Love vs. In Love: What’s the Difference"

Have you ever wondered the difference between loving someone and being in love with them? Join me on Love Our Talks as I unravel this intriguing distinction using a metaphor from my own marriage. Imagine love as the deep roots of a tree, providing stability and support, while being in love is like the vibrant branches and leaves that bring color and excitement. I'll share personal insights on nurturing both these aspects for a truly fulfilling relationship, emphasizing the importance of communication to maintain that connection and keep the in-love spark alive.

So grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let's embark on this heartfelt journey through love and new beginnings together.

We would LOVE to hear from you!

Thank you joining  Love Our Talks and listening to these juicy topics!

Support the show

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, loves, welcome back to Love Our Talks, the
podcast where we dive into allthings juicy about love,
relationships and everything inbetween.
I'm your host, kayla, and todaywe're talking about a topic
that gets thrown around all thetime, but I don't think people
really dig into the difference.

(00:22):
So we're breaking down what itmeans to love someone versus
being in love with someone.
So the topic today is loveversus in love and what's the
difference?
So go ahead, grab your wine,your tea, coffee, whatever makes
you feel good, because I've gotmine.

(00:43):
So let's go ahead and let'sjump right on into it.
So now let's start with love.
You know, love is deep.
Love is real and is often thefoundation of any strong
relationship.
You can love your family, loveyour friends and, yes, love your
friends and, yes, love yourpartner.
You know it's about caring,support and having someone's

(01:08):
back through the ups and thedowns of life.
But here's where it gets prettytricky.
Just because you love someonedoesn't always mean you're in
love with them.
Now, being in love is different.
That's where the chemistry, thepassion and you know that spark
, that's where that comes in,it's the butterflies in the

(01:30):
stomach, it's that magnetic pullwhere you're drawn to that
person emotionally andphysically.
You know this being in love isintense and it's what often gets
people into relationships inthe first place.
But the truth is being in loveis like a flame.

(01:51):
You know, it burns hot right Inthe beginning.
It burns so hot.
But if you don't tend to it itcan fade.
And that's where a lot ofpeople get caught up, thinking
that when the passion dies down,the love is gone, when in fact
it's just evolved.
So here's the real team.

(02:12):
You can love someone withoutbeing in love with them, and
that's why some relationshipsfeel more like partnerships or
friendships as time goes on,like partnerships or friendships
as time goes on.
And on the flip side, you canbe in love with someone and not
have that deep, steadyfoundation of love to carry you
through the hard times.

(02:33):
That's why relationships needsit needs both, you know.
Think of love as the roots of atree.
The roots of a tree, it's whatholds you down, keeps you stable
, right, and being in love arethe branches and the leaves.
You know they're long, they'restrong and it's beautiful, it's

(02:56):
what people see, but withoutthose strong roots it can't
survive the storms.
You can't build a relationshipjust on passion alone.
But you also can't ignore theneed for that emotional and
physical connection.
So how do you know thedifference?

(03:18):
When you love someone, you carefor their well-being first right
.
You respect them and you wantthe best for them.
You're also committed to them,even when things are always
perfect.
But when you're in love there'san emotional intensity, a
desire to be close together, togrow together, to be vulnerable

(03:44):
and to share all parts ofyourself with them.
And here's a little nugget ofwisdom.
You know, for my people outthere, you can fall in and out
of love, of being in love.
But real love can stand.

(04:06):
It can withstand those waves.
It grows and it changes as lifehappens.
You know, if you can nurtureboth love and being in love,
that's where you find that long,lasting, fulfilling
relationship.
See, my husband and I's journeyhasn't always been perfect, but

(04:26):
here's the truth that I'm at.
We found a balance betweenloving each other and being in
love with one another.
There were times when weweren't connecting on that level
, but you know what?
Love held us together until wecould find that spark again,
that in love spark again.

(04:48):
And that's what makes arelationship last.
It's not just about the goodtimes or when everything's so
smooth.
It's about sticking togetherthrough the storms and then
coming out stronger.
So, whether you're justquestioning your own
relationship or you're justtrying to understand the
difference, just remember thisLove is the steady heartbeat

(05:19):
that keeps things alive, andbeing in love is the excitement
that keeps things fresh.
You know they're both important, but they're not the same thing
.
Okay, they're not the samething.
So now that you kind of knowthe difference, with that, I'm
hoping that this gives some typeof clarity, because sometimes
you can, you know, wonder.
You know you've been withsomeone for so long and you can

(05:39):
wonder why.
You know you're having adisconnected feeling to them,
right, and that disconnectioncould be that you do love them.
That's the connector, but thatdisconnect, the feel, that means
that that could be that the inlove and being in love.
It's a little disconnect there.
So you just have to figure outhow you connect the two back

(06:02):
together the love and being inlove.
You link them back together.
Two back together the love andbeing in love.
You link them back together.
Where there's a will, there's away, right, okay.
So whether that's, you know,doing certain activities
together, whether that's havingconversations about this
particular topic, I think youknow you have to be open with

(06:27):
each other and you have tocommunicate.
You know communication is keyand when you do, communicate how
you really feel, that couldhelp you not to fall apart where
you lost being in love and youlost the love.
So you don't want it to get tothat far where you lost both.
So if you know you still havelove for them and you don't

(06:48):
really plan on going anywherebecause that love is strong, but
you just don't know how to getthat in love back, I suggest
that you have a conversation.
Let them know, because you canbe walking around.
That person could be walkingaround unaware.
Everybody's busy in life.
Everybody has a lot on theirmind, a lot of things going on,

(07:11):
whether it's health-wise,whether it's work-wise, whether
it's other outside friendshipsstuff, circles, family, whatever
.
We all have a lot going on andsometimes, unless our partners
pull us aside and we have thatdowntime to talk about certain
things, that person will neverknow that you're feeling
disconnected.

(07:31):
So, like I said, I suggest youhaving that conversation be
upfront, open and vulnerablewith them and let them know this
is coming from a place of loveand that you want to fix it.
You want to work on yourrelationship together.
So I would suggest that you dothat and I want to thank you
guys for listening to thispodcast today.
Thank you for joining me andthat's the love talk for today.

(07:56):
Reflect on that, share withsomeone who you think might find
this helpful and, as always,stay true to yourself, right?
And I'm your host, kayla, andI'll catch you on the next
episode and, until then, don'tforget to like a podcast, share
and subscribe, and let's keepthe conversation going in the

(08:17):
comments and on social media andlet's discuss further.
I mean, you can find more tipsand advice for your relationship
in my new book and you can buyit on Amazon.
The physical copy, which is apaperback, is on Amazon.
You can find Love's secret code.
You can also download your copytoday at the love place, and

(08:38):
that is an ebook.
And don't forget to follow onall social media platforms and
Facebook.
Like I said, love our talks andthe more you support my podcast
, the more we will keep bringingyou relationship advice.
And until next time, I'm K-Loveand I'll see you on, like I
said, on the next episode.
But real quick, just real quick.

(08:58):
Just remember that each dayholds the promise of a new
beginning.
So be better, do better, loveharder than the day before.
Because, guess what?
Your best days aren't behindyou, they're being written today
.
So keep moving forward, becauseyour potential is limitless.
All right, love you guys.
Bye.