Why Victim Mentality Is the Juiciest Trap for Modern Men w/ ‘Ari In the Air’

In a powerful episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sits down with Ari DeLashmutt. He is an extreme sports athlete, transformational men’s coach. He is also the host of his own podcast. He is known for his fearless lifestyle and equally courageous self-inquiry. Ari offers an unflinching look at how men fall into the trap of victim mentality and what it takes to reclaim personal agency.

Ari’s journey into men’s work begins with personal reckoning. “I came across a presentation on peaceful parenting on YouTube, and it turned me onto moral philosophy,” he shares. This early spark led him to years of introspection and conversations with philosophers. This eventually led to professional men’s coaching. “Developing myself as an athlete was huge, but it was always paralleled by my deep desire to be a good partner, a good person, and have great friendships.”

Ari speaks openly about pivotal life moments. He talks about particularly a painful divorce after an eight-year relationship. “It was an incredible inflection point in my life,” he recalls. Ari began to examine his own defensiveness, emotional insecurities, and relational patterns. Then the heartbreak became a catalyst for growth. “I didn’t have the skills to listen from a place of security. I took everything hyper personally.”

Now, Ari works directly with men who’ve faced similar struggles. Men navigating breakup recovery or searching for meaning in midlife, he helps them all. His message is clear. Personal responsibility is non-negotiable if you want to build emotional resilience.