August 12, 2024 • 16 mins
Episode Notes:
Are there things you really want to accomplish in your life that you continually postpone?
Do you live life fully on your own terms, or conforming to what others would deem as “best” or “normal”?
If you only had 24 more hours on this planet, would your “dash” represent the life you intended to live?
In this enlightening episode, we dive into the profound concept of the “dash” – the tiny mark between the birth and death dates on a gravestone that symbolizes the entirety of one’s life. Drawing from my own personal experiences of loss and reflection, I’m sharing an inspiring message about making every moment count.
In our quest for a fulfilling life, we explore how focusing on the journey rather than the destination can enrich our daily experiences. Discover the joys of valuing experiences over material possessions, the upliftment that comes from trying out new hobbies, and the peace that follows from slowing down to cherish life's small moments. I share practical strategies like nurturing meaningful connections and harnessing the power of gratitude to reduce stress and boost happiness. Reflecting on how the loss of my sisters spurred significant positive changes in my life, I hope to inspire you to start making your own positive changes today.
Tune in for 5 Key insights and heartfelt wisdom on how to live fully and appreciate each day we’re given… life is abundant, and life can be short, we just never know how short… let’s make every moment count!
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Rick (00:00):
And you've probably heard this more than a couple times
but when you look at somebody'sgrave marker or headstone,
there's two dates born and diedwith the dash in between them,
right?
Well, the only significant partof that date combo is the dash.
The dash represents what thatperson's life consisted of, what
they did, what they loved, whatthey experienced, what they
(00:22):
created, what they shared, whothey loved and who loved them.
Their entire life's experience,whether it was one year or 111
years, all is within that dash.
And truth is life is abundant.
What's available to us isunlimited, but life can be short
, and we just never know howshort.
If we don't know when our lastdays are, why don't we live like
(00:46):
we want to while we're stillalive?
Welcome to the MindWrenchPodcast with your host, rick
Sellover, where minoradjustments produce major
improvements in mindset,personal growth and success.
This is the place to be everyMonday, where we make small
(01:07):
improvements and take positiveactions in our business and
personal lives that will make amajor impact in our success,
next-level growth and quality oflife.
Hey, what's up everybody?
Welcome to the MindWrenchPodcast.
I'm your host, rick Silover.
Thanks so much for stopping in.
(01:28):
If you're a returning listenerand haven't done so already,
please take a minute and clickthe follow or subscribe button
and then rate and review theshow.
When you rate and review theshow, the algorithms for Apple,
spotify, google Podcasts,iheartradio, amazon Music and
all the other platforms will seethat it's valuable and show it
to more people that have neverseen it before, and hopefully it
(01:49):
can help them too.
I would really, really reallyappreciate your help, sharing
this word with your friends andfamily as well, and if you're a
brand new listener, welcome.
I hope you find something ofvalue here that helps you in
your personal or professionallife as well.
Please make sure to click thesubscribe or follow button so
you never miss another episode.
Most of you that know me knowI'm an extremely positive person
(02:11):
.
I don't dwell on negative orsad stories or subjects.
I just like to keep movingforward, encouraging others to
grow, improve and stay positive.
But, to be honest, I'm notimmune to the heavier, more
difficult subjects that affectus all.
I just deal with them a littlebit different and sometimes I
use them as fuel to help orinspire others.
So this week's message isanchored onto a little darker
(02:34):
subject, but it's not a doom andgloom rant or design to bring
the room down.
This is just a gentle reminderof our own mortality.
My intent is to use it to shinea brighter light on something
we all go through at some pointin our lives, and you've
probably heard this more than acouple times.
But when you look at somebody'sgrave marker or headstone,
there's two dates born and diedwith the dash in between them,
(02:59):
right.
Well, the only significant partof that date combo is the dash.
The dash represents what thatperson's life consisted of, what
they did, what they loved, whatthey experienced, what they
created, what they experienced,what they created, what they
shared, who they loved and wholoved them.
Their entire life's experience,whether it was one year or 111
(03:20):
years, all is within that dash.
This past week I had threefunerals to attend.
Don't they always say deathcomes in threes?
A lot of them was an olderneighbor, one was a friend's
daughter whose life was cut waytoo short, and the last was a
very good friend of mine's momwho lived to be almost 90.
All truly sad indeed and allwell attended, in fact, the
(03:45):
neighbor that passed had themost attendees in that
particular funeral home has everhad, and then, ironically, the
friend's daughter was at theexact same place the next day,
with almost an equal amount ofpeople paying their last
respects.
So naturally, my thoughts aroundthis took me back to 2020, when
I had lost both my sisterswithin 30 days of each other
(04:06):
during COVID.
They were both in their early60s when they passed and, after
the initial shock and emotionalpain subsided, it caused an
awakening in me, a starkrealization that I may only have
a short time left.
I was in my late 50s at thetime and I felt I really needed
to make some changes quickly.
Honestly, it felt all toourgent, not something I could
(04:29):
put off any longer.
And truth is, life is abundant.
What's available to us isunlimited, but life can be short
and we just never know howshort.
It left me with questions, and Iwould bet you've probably asked
yourself some of these exactsame questions how much time do
I have left?
Will I even make it to mymid-60s or longer?
(04:50):
More importantly, should I be abetter steward of the time I do
have left?
Will I even make it to mymid-60s or longer?
More importantly, should I be abetter steward of the time I do
have left?
And if so, how do I do that?
Where do I start If we don'tknow when our last days are?
Why don't we live like we wantto while we're still alive?
Why don't we enjoy our days onthis earth more while we still
have them?
Why do we constantly live in astate of hesitation, put things
(05:12):
off till tomorrow?
You know I'll get it later.
Let's back burner this.
For now.
Let's just do this next week ornext month or next year.
It's so easy to put things off,to kick the can down the road a
bit, isn't it?
Instead of being our trueselves, our original versions?
Why do we worry about whatothers may think about what we
say or what we do?
(05:32):
What's normal, what'sacceptable?
Why do we worry about whatothers may think about what we
say or what we do?
What's normal, what'sacceptable?
Why do we spend our limitedtime trying to be what someone
else thinks we should be orshouldn't be, should or
shouldn't do Better yet orbetter question?
Why do we imagine what othersmay be thinking in the first
place?
We have no effing clue, right?
(05:52):
We are born with such greatpotential.
All of us, and as little kids,we go after whatever crosses our
minds right, tie a blanketaround our neck and our
shoulders and believe we'resuperheroes.
We danced around, we would singwithout a care of who could
hear us, and we had big dreamsof what we'd be someday.
When we were kids, we trulylived in the moment, didn't we?
(06:15):
We lived our little lives tothe fullest and our
possibilities were endless.
Remember that.
Yet as we grow up and becomeyoung adults, we slowly start
subconsciously putting limitsand restraints on what is
possible for us.
Our list becomes a little lessendless every single year.
As we get older, that listkeeps getting shorter and
shorter and shorter, doesn't it?
(06:36):
Eventually, we end up livinglives that are unfulfilling and
monotonous.
Now, I know not everyone goesthrough life this way.
I've met plenty of peoplewithin this industry and outside
of it that absolutely squeezethe most juice out of every day,
every opportunity.
They take chances, they facetheir fears head on.
(06:56):
They'll have amazing lives andthey'll have incredible stories
told of them when they're gone.
I applaud them, I'm inspired bythem.
I'm envious of them you know ina good way, and I strive to live
more like that every day, butI'm still working on it.
I'm not there yet.
So I propose we do a better jobwith our own dash, make more of
(07:19):
our dash.
After the first 15 years or soof the beginning of that dash,
we start making decisions thatwill move us in one direction or
another.
At first, selfishly, we do thethings that we enjoy right, that
make us happy, that utilize ourstrengths or our natural
abilities and talents.
But as we start to get a littleolder, we let that influence of
(07:40):
others, like our parents or ourteachers or our friends or
coworkers or our mates, dictatewhat we do with our dash, don't
we?
And it consistently erodes fromthere and we lose the
importance of each day we'refortunate enough to enjoy, until
one day you're smacked in theface with a reality check, a
(08:01):
heart attack, a stroke, a majorcar accident or the loss of a
loved one, and you wake up andsay, hey, wait a minute, I
almost died.
Or that could have been it forme.
Oh my God.
There's so many things I stillwant to do.
I need to make some changesbefore it's too late.
If you're looking for acompetitive edge for your
(08:24):
business or a more effectivejumpstart to your personal
development in 2024, I'll makeyour first step super simple.
It is a fact that an incrediblenumber of the most successful
business owners, nearly half ofthe Fortune 500 companies,
top-earning professionalathletes, entertainers and
industry leaders likeMicrosoft's Bill Gates, former
President Bill Clinton, richardBranson, amazon's Jeff Bezos and
(08:47):
Salesforce's Mark Benioff allhave one thing in common they
all have at least one coach andsome have several that they work
with on a consistent basis,someone that helps, guide,
mentor and support them,challenge them, help them set
and achieve goals that move themforward and then hold them
accountable to follow throughdriving personal and
professional growth.
Working with a coach has manysubstantial benefits.
(09:10):
Just for an example, 80% ofcoaching clients report improved
self-esteem or self-confidencethanks to coaching, 99% of
individuals and companies thathire a coach report being very
satisfied and 96% would do itagain.
If, deep down, you know it'stime to make those improvements
in your business or yourpersonal life that you've kicked
down the road year after year.
(09:31):
If you're tired of knowingthere's a better version of you
waiting to shine, but unsure ofhow to bring that version to
light.
If you're tired of wanting toenjoy a more successful business
but not sure how to start.
And if you don't want to goanother 12 months without better
results, but you don't want togo it alone, then take the first
step.
It's super simple,no-transcript.
(10:01):
Much like the holiday movie AChristmas Carol when Ebenezer
Scrooge gets visited by theghost of Christmas Future, he
finally sees his own grave.
He decides quickly to changehow he lives his life.
Right?
Remember that.
Let's do a better job with ourdash now.
Let's not wait until thatreality check.
(10:21):
Okay, I know many will findthemselves if they haven't
already in this situation atsome point in their life and
have some of those samequestions.
We just take for granted thatwe'll always have the next day
and the day after that, butthat's not always true.
The cold, hard fact is 150,000people die every single day.
The good news is you and I didwake up today.
(10:43):
That's a good thing, right?
So what are you going to dowith your next 24 hours?
If we knew we only had acertain number of days left,
wouldn't we be a little moredeliberate with our days?
Hell, even with our hours andminutes, wouldn't we?
So what can we do right now tostart becoming more intentional
with our time here?
How can we make the most of ourdash?
(11:04):
Well, today, I want to share afew suggestions with you.
Hopefully they can provide alittle guidance to help you get
started on your way.
So let's take a look at fiveways to make the most of your
dash Now.
It's an impactful realizationthat our time here is limited.
Let's harness that awarenessand create a more fulfilling
experience and squeeze more outof our days.
Life has a funny way ofspeeding up, doesn't it?
(11:27):
One minute you're young,carefree and doing whatever you
want, and the next thing you'rewondering where the time went
and why you haven't done thethings that you wanted to do yet
.
Well, let's change that.
Number one it's about thejourney, not the destination.
We've all worked hard for thethings we have a newer vehicle,
a nice home, a comfortable lifebut it's the experiences that
(11:49):
truly enrich our lives.
Remember that vacation you tookthat changed your perspective
on something, or the time youlaughed so hard your sides hurt.
Those are the moments thatmatter.
So, instead of focusing onaccumulating more stuff, try
making memories and don't nickeland dime yourself out of a more
memorable experience.
Either Pay for that whalewatching excursion or swim with
(12:09):
the dolphins experience insteadof watching it from the side of
the pool.
It's always worth it.
Plan that trip, take up a newhobby or simply spend some
quality time with the ones youlove.
Number two slow down and smellthe roses.
I know it sounds corny, butthis is true.
In today's fast-paced world.
It's easy to get caught up inthe hustle, bustle and the get
(12:31):
things done mode right, buttaking a moment to appreciate
the little things can make a bigdifference.
We miss so much every singleday because we're in a hurry.
Take the back roads, detouronce in a while, or the scenic
drive whenever possible.
You'll be pleasantly surprised.
Try a little meditation, alittle yoga.
Simply taking a walk in naturecan help, or even just sitting
(12:52):
quietly for a few minutes eachday.
Pay attention to your senses.
What do you see, what do youhear, what do you smell?
What do you taste?
What do you feel?
This can help you feel moregrounded and present.
Number three rediscover yourpassions.
Don't let the dreams andaspirations fade away.
Remember that thing you used tolove doing before life got in
(13:14):
the way.
Maybe it was painting orwriting, or playing an
instrument or rock climbing orwhatever.
I believe the enjoyment weexperienced doing those
activities when we were youngdidn't just go away.
It got suppressed and buried bybecoming an adult and focusing
more on quote-unquoteresponsible activities like work
(13:34):
and commitments.
It's never too late to pickback up where you left off.
Engaging in those activitiesthat you enjoy can bring a sense
of purpose and fulfillment toyour life.
Number four nurture yourconnections.
Strong, healthy relationshipsare essential to our sense of
well-being.
We are social animals andconnecting with others should be
(13:55):
completely natural to us.
Make time for the people whomatter the most, whether it's a
phone call, a coffee date, adrink with an old friend or a
family dinner.
Connecting with others canbring joy and support.
Expand your network wheneverpossible.
Don't be afraid to reach out toold friends or make some new
ones.
And number five focus ongratitude.
(14:17):
This one's huge.
It's so easy to get caught upin what you don't have, and
comparing yourself to othersaround us is just well shit.
It's the most harmful thing wedo to ourselves on a daily basis
.
But focusing on what you dohave can shift your perspective.
Start a gratitude journal orsimply take a few moments each
(14:37):
day to reflect on the thingsthat you're thankful for.
I've personally been doing thisevery day for the past four
years and I can tell you with nohesitation this has been one of
the best daily processes I'veever adopted.
This practice can help reducestress and increase overall
happiness.
It's a fact you cannot begrateful and angry or stressed
at the exact same time.
(14:58):
It's physically impossible.
Remember small, little changescan make a big difference.
Start by incorporating just oneor two of these suggestions
into your daily life.
You might be surprised at howmuch more fulfilling your days
become.
Let's not wait until we havethat reality check or the visit
from Christmas future to decideto make some changes.
(15:18):
Why don't we start right now?
Look, I'm still not perfectabout doing this, but after
losing my sisters in 2020, I didstart making some changes that
have allowed me to improve mydash to get a little more
enjoyment and fulfillment out ofevery day since then, and I'm
so grateful for that.
Now, hopefully, you will be too.
Well, that's all I had for youtoday.
(15:41):
Thanks again for tuning in.
I really appreciate yoursupport and I hope you have a
great week.
I can always be reached atwwwrickselovercom, where you can
find all my social media links,podcast episodes, blog posts
and much more.
And you've probably heard this more than a couple times
but when you look at somebody'sgrave marker or headstone,
there's two dates born and diedwith the dash in between them,
right?
Well, the only significant partof that date combo is the dash.
The dash represents what thatperson's life consisted of, what
they did, what they loved, whatthey experienced, what they
(00:22):
created, what they shared, whothey loved and who loved them.
Their entire life's experience,whether it was one year or 111
years, all is within that dash.
And truth is life is abundant.
What's available to us isunlimited, but life can be short
, and we just never know howshort.
If we don't know when our lastdays are, why don't we live like
(00:46):
we want to while we're stillalive?
Welcome to the MindWrenchPodcast with your host, rick
Sellover, where minoradjustments produce major
improvements in mindset,personal growth and success.
This is the place to be everyMonday, where we make small
(01:07):
improvements and take positiveactions in our business and
personal lives that will make amajor impact in our success,
next-level growth and quality oflife.
Hey, what's up everybody?
Welcome to the MindWrenchPodcast.
I'm your host, rick Silover.
Thanks so much for stopping in.
(01:28):
If you're a returning listenerand haven't done so already,
please take a minute and clickthe follow or subscribe button
and then rate and review theshow.
When you rate and review theshow, the algorithms for Apple,
spotify, google Podcasts,iheartradio, amazon Music and
all the other platforms will seethat it's valuable and show it
to more people that have neverseen it before, and hopefully it
(01:49):
can help them too.
I would really, really reallyappreciate your help, sharing
this word with your friends andfamily as well, and if you're a
brand new listener, welcome.
I hope you find something ofvalue here that helps you in
your personal or professionallife as well.
Please make sure to click thesubscribe or follow button so
you never miss another episode.
Most of you that know me knowI'm an extremely positive person
(02:11):
.
I don't dwell on negative orsad stories or subjects.
I just like to keep movingforward, encouraging others to
grow, improve and stay positive.
But, to be honest, I'm notimmune to the heavier, more
difficult subjects that affectus all.
I just deal with them a littlebit different and sometimes I
use them as fuel to help orinspire others.
So this week's message isanchored onto a little darker
(02:34):
subject, but it's not a doom andgloom rant or design to bring
the room down.
This is just a gentle reminderof our own mortality.
My intent is to use it to shinea brighter light on something
we all go through at some pointin our lives, and you've
probably heard this more than acouple times.
But when you look at somebody'sgrave marker or headstone,
there's two dates born and diedwith the dash in between them,
(02:59):
right.
Well, the only significant partof that date combo is the dash.
The dash represents what thatperson's life consisted of, what
they did, what they loved, whatthey experienced, what they
created, what they experienced,what they created, what they
shared, who they loved and wholoved them.
Their entire life's experience,whether it was one year or 111
(03:20):
years, all is within that dash.
This past week I had threefunerals to attend.
Don't they always say deathcomes in threes?
A lot of them was an olderneighbor, one was a friend's
daughter whose life was cut waytoo short, and the last was a
very good friend of mine's momwho lived to be almost 90.
All truly sad indeed and allwell attended, in fact, the
(03:45):
neighbor that passed had themost attendees in that
particular funeral home has everhad, and then, ironically, the
friend's daughter was at theexact same place the next day,
with almost an equal amount ofpeople paying their last
respects.
So naturally, my thoughts aroundthis took me back to 2020, when
I had lost both my sisterswithin 30 days of each other
(04:06):
during COVID.
They were both in their early60s when they passed and, after
the initial shock and emotionalpain subsided, it caused an
awakening in me, a starkrealization that I may only have
a short time left.
I was in my late 50s at thetime and I felt I really needed
to make some changes quickly.
Honestly, it felt all toourgent, not something I could
(04:29):
put off any longer.
And truth is, life is abundant.
What's available to us isunlimited, but life can be short
and we just never know howshort.
It left me with questions, and Iwould bet you've probably asked
yourself some of these exactsame questions how much time do
I have left?
Will I even make it to mymid-60s or longer?
(04:50):
More importantly, should I be abetter steward of the time I do
have left?
Will I even make it to mymid-60s or longer?
More importantly, should I be abetter steward of the time I do
have left?
And if so, how do I do that?
Where do I start If we don'tknow when our last days are?
Why don't we live like we wantto while we're still alive?
Why don't we enjoy our days onthis earth more while we still
have them?
Why do we constantly live in astate of hesitation, put things
(05:12):
off till tomorrow?
You know I'll get it later.
Let's back burner this.
For now.
Let's just do this next week ornext month or next year.
It's so easy to put things off,to kick the can down the road a
bit, isn't it?
Instead of being our trueselves, our original versions?
Why do we worry about whatothers may think about what we
say or what we do?
(05:32):
What's normal, what'sacceptable?
Why do we worry about whatothers may think about what we
say or what we do?
What's normal, what'sacceptable?
Why do we spend our limitedtime trying to be what someone
else thinks we should be orshouldn't be, should or
shouldn't do Better yet orbetter question?
Why do we imagine what othersmay be thinking in the first
place?
We have no effing clue, right?
(05:52):
We are born with such greatpotential.
All of us, and as little kids,we go after whatever crosses our
minds right, tie a blanketaround our neck and our
shoulders and believe we'resuperheroes.
We danced around, we would singwithout a care of who could
hear us, and we had big dreamsof what we'd be someday.
When we were kids, we trulylived in the moment, didn't we?
(06:15):
We lived our little lives tothe fullest and our
possibilities were endless.
Remember that.
Yet as we grow up and becomeyoung adults, we slowly start
subconsciously putting limitsand restraints on what is
possible for us.
Our list becomes a little lessendless every single year.
As we get older, that listkeeps getting shorter and
shorter and shorter, doesn't it?
(06:36):
Eventually, we end up livinglives that are unfulfilling and
monotonous.
Now, I know not everyone goesthrough life this way.
I've met plenty of peoplewithin this industry and outside
of it that absolutely squeezethe most juice out of every day,
every opportunity.
They take chances, they facetheir fears head on.
(06:56):
They'll have amazing lives andthey'll have incredible stories
told of them when they're gone.
I applaud them, I'm inspired bythem.
I'm envious of them you know ina good way, and I strive to live
more like that every day, butI'm still working on it.
I'm not there yet.
So I propose we do a better jobwith our own dash, make more of
(07:19):
our dash.
After the first 15 years or soof the beginning of that dash,
we start making decisions thatwill move us in one direction or
another.
At first, selfishly, we do thethings that we enjoy right, that
make us happy, that utilize ourstrengths or our natural
abilities and talents.
But as we start to get a littleolder, we let that influence of
(07:40):
others, like our parents or ourteachers or our friends or
coworkers or our mates, dictatewhat we do with our dash, don't
we?
And it consistently erodes fromthere and we lose the
importance of each day we'refortunate enough to enjoy, until
one day you're smacked in theface with a reality check, a
(08:01):
heart attack, a stroke, a majorcar accident or the loss of a
loved one, and you wake up andsay, hey, wait a minute, I
almost died.
Or that could have been it forme.
Oh my God.
There's so many things I stillwant to do.
I need to make some changesbefore it's too late.
If you're looking for acompetitive edge for your
(08:24):
business or a more effectivejumpstart to your personal
development in 2024, I'll makeyour first step super simple.
It is a fact that an incrediblenumber of the most successful
business owners, nearly half ofthe Fortune 500 companies,
top-earning professionalathletes, entertainers and
industry leaders likeMicrosoft's Bill Gates, former
President Bill Clinton, richardBranson, amazon's Jeff Bezos and
(08:47):
Salesforce's Mark Benioff allhave one thing in common they
all have at least one coach andsome have several that they work
with on a consistent basis,someone that helps, guide,
mentor and support them,challenge them, help them set
and achieve goals that move themforward and then hold them
accountable to follow throughdriving personal and
professional growth.
Working with a coach has manysubstantial benefits.
(09:10):
Just for an example, 80% ofcoaching clients report improved
self-esteem or self-confidencethanks to coaching, 99% of
individuals and companies thathire a coach report being very
satisfied and 96% would do itagain.
If, deep down, you know it'stime to make those improvements
in your business or yourpersonal life that you've kicked
down the road year after year.
(09:31):
If you're tired of knowingthere's a better version of you
waiting to shine, but unsure ofhow to bring that version to
light.
If you're tired of wanting toenjoy a more successful business
but not sure how to start.
And if you don't want to goanother 12 months without better
results, but you don't want togo it alone, then take the first
step.
It's super simple,no-transcript.
(10:01):
Much like the holiday movie AChristmas Carol when Ebenezer
Scrooge gets visited by theghost of Christmas Future, he
finally sees his own grave.
He decides quickly to changehow he lives his life.
Right?
Remember that.
Let's do a better job with ourdash now.
Let's not wait until thatreality check.
(10:21):
Okay, I know many will findthemselves if they haven't
already in this situation atsome point in their life and
have some of those samequestions.
We just take for granted thatwe'll always have the next day
and the day after that, butthat's not always true.
The cold, hard fact is 150,000people die every single day.
The good news is you and I didwake up today.
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That's a good thing, right?
So what are you going to dowith your next 24 hours?
If we knew we only had acertain number of days left,
wouldn't we be a little moredeliberate with our days?
Hell, even with our hours andminutes, wouldn't we?
So what can we do right now tostart becoming more intentional
with our time here?
How can we make the most of ourdash?
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Well, today, I want to share afew suggestions with you.
Hopefully they can provide alittle guidance to help you get
started on your way.
So let's take a look at fiveways to make the most of your
dash Now.
It's an impactful realizationthat our time here is limited.
Let's harness that awarenessand create a more fulfilling
experience and squeeze more outof our days.
Life has a funny way ofspeeding up, doesn't it?
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One minute you're young,carefree and doing whatever you
want, and the next thing you'rewondering where the time went
and why you haven't done thethings that you wanted to do yet
.
Well, let's change that.
Number one it's about thejourney, not the destination.
We've all worked hard for thethings we have a newer vehicle,
a nice home, a comfortable lifebut it's the experiences that
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truly enrich our lives.
Remember that vacation you tookthat changed your perspective
on something, or the time youlaughed so hard your sides hurt.
Those are the moments thatmatter.
So, instead of focusing onaccumulating more stuff, try
making memories and don't nickeland dime yourself out of a more
memorable experience.
Either Pay for that whalewatching excursion or swim with
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the dolphins experience insteadof watching it from the side of
the pool.
It's always worth it.
Plan that trip, take up a newhobby or simply spend some
quality time with the ones youlove.
Number two slow down and smellthe roses.
I know it sounds corny, butthis is true.
In today's fast-paced world.
It's easy to get caught up inthe hustle, bustle and the get
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things done mode right, buttaking a moment to appreciate
the little things can make a bigdifference.
We miss so much every singleday because we're in a hurry.
Take the back roads, detouronce in a while, or the scenic
drive whenever possible.
You'll be pleasantly surprised.
Try a little meditation, alittle yoga.
Simply taking a walk in naturecan help, or even just sitting
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quietly for a few minutes eachday.
Pay attention to your senses.
What do you see, what do youhear, what do you smell?
What do you taste?
What do you feel?
This can help you feel moregrounded and present.
Number three rediscover yourpassions.
Don't let the dreams andaspirations fade away.
Remember that thing you used tolove doing before life got in
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the way.
Maybe it was painting orwriting, or playing an
instrument or rock climbing orwhatever.
I believe the enjoyment weexperienced doing those
activities when we were youngdidn't just go away.
It got suppressed and buried bybecoming an adult and focusing
more on quote-unquoteresponsible activities like work
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and commitments.
It's never too late to pickback up where you left off.
Engaging in those activitiesthat you enjoy can bring a sense
of purpose and fulfillment toyour life.
Number four nurture yourconnections.
Strong, healthy relationshipsare essential to our sense of
well-being.
We are social animals andconnecting with others should be
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completely natural to us.
Make time for the people whomatter the most, whether it's a
phone call, a coffee date, adrink with an old friend or a
family dinner.
Connecting with others canbring joy and support.
Expand your network wheneverpossible.
Don't be afraid to reach out toold friends or make some new
ones.
And number five focus ongratitude.
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This one's huge.
It's so easy to get caught upin what you don't have, and
comparing yourself to othersaround us is just well shit.
It's the most harmful thing wedo to ourselves on a daily basis
.
But focusing on what you dohave can shift your perspective.
Start a gratitude journal orsimply take a few moments each
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day to reflect on the thingsthat you're thankful for.
I've personally been doing thisevery day for the past four
years and I can tell you with nohesitation this has been one of
the best daily processes I'veever adopted.
This practice can help reducestress and increase overall
happiness.
It's a fact you cannot begrateful and angry or stressed
at the exact same time.
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It's physically impossible.
Remember small, little changescan make a big difference.
Start by incorporating just oneor two of these suggestions
into your daily life.
You might be surprised at howmuch more fulfilling your days
become.
Let's not wait until we havethat reality check or the visit
from Christmas future to decideto make some changes.
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Why don't we start right now?
Look, I'm still not perfectabout doing this, but after
losing my sisters in 2020, I didstart making some changes that
have allowed me to improve mydash to get a little more
enjoyment and fulfillment out ofevery day since then, and I'm
so grateful for that.
Now, hopefully, you will be too.
Well, that's all I had for youtoday.
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Thanks again for tuning in.
I really appreciate yoursupport and I hope you have a
great week.
I can always be reached atwwwrickselovercom, where you can
find all my social media links,podcast episodes, blog posts
and much more.
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