February 20, 2025 • 14 mins
The episode emphasizes that single moms have significant control over their choices, impacting their journey and their children's development. By focusing on decision-making, self-reflection, and nurturing positive connections, mothers are empowered to navigate life’s challenges more effectively.
• Power of choices in personal and parenting life
• Importance of ignoring negativity for peace
• Learning from both good and bad decisions
• Seeking education through personal reflection
• Teaching children about consequences of their choices
• Building strong connections through quality time
• Encouragement for single moms to stay motivated
• Call to share the episode with other single moms
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey ladies, welcome to the Single Moms United
podcast, where we cannot spellunited without you or Y-O-U.
Hey, if this is your first timedropping by, welcome If you are
a repeat listener, thank you,thank you and thank you for your
(00:22):
loyalty.
This podcast is all aboutmotivating and encouraging a
single mom.
I know all about that.
You need encouragement becauseI'm a single mom and I know what
it was like and what it is liketo try to navigate life as a
parent on your own and withminimal support, whether he
(00:46):
chooses to not be able toprovide that support.
But either way, it's not abouthow you arrived at the single
mom title.
It's what you do with it.
That's right, mom.
It's what you do with it.
So you have control over that,and that's what I want to talk
about today.
So I am deviating a little bitfrom my prior topics of the
(01:11):
letter I and I'm going to focuson something else today which I
hope you will find value in itand that it will make you think,
because this is about criticalthinking as well when it comes
to parenting.
So today's topic is aboutchoices.
Yeah, and every day, throughoutthe day, we have to make
(01:36):
choices as it relates toparenting, and sometimes we get
it right, sometimes we get itwrong.
Ask me how I know, okay, buteither way, the good news is you
can learn from it.
You can learn from both.
If it's a good choice, you knowlike well what happened, what
(01:58):
made me come to this decision ofgoing this way versus that way,
and then, if it's a bad choice,you learn to right why did I do
that?
And, as a result of me pickingthat choice, this is what
happened.
So I definitely don't want todo that again For the sake of
(02:18):
this exercise.
I really want to talk aboutlife in general and options that
are available to you, singlemom, and you can pick how you
want your day to go, and I betyou didn't even know you had
that much control over your life.
Yeah, yeah, just becausesomething bad happens doesn't
(02:41):
mean you have to entertain it,right?
You don't have to respond, andI'm so thankful that I'm at a
stage in my life that I knowthat I can just ignore something
.
You know, if I'm choosing notto respond, I don't have to
respond, especially if it'sgoing to interrupt my peace.
(03:02):
So therefore, I'm like, hmm, isit even worth it?
I tell you, since I startedincorporating that in my
lifestyle.
It's been such, such, such arelief, because now I'm picking
and choosing if I want to be mad, upset and angry over something
(03:25):
that's probably not even worthit at the end of the day.
So I'm learning how to ignorethings.
Ignoring people Hmm, Imaginethat.
But anyway, all right, y'allknow me, I get off the highway
every now and then.
So let me get back on.
So this should be brief and tothe point, and we're talking
(03:46):
about choices.
Choices.
Consider this moms.
Sad has three letters, but sodoes joy.
Fall has four letters, but sodoes rise.
Curse has five letters, but sodoes bless.
(04:07):
Ignore has six letters, but sodoes listen.
Enemies have seven letters, butso does friends.
Immature has eight letters, butso does maturity.
Immature has eight letters, butso does maturity.
(04:29):
Ignorance has nine letters, butso does knowledge.
Negativity has 10 letters, butso does positivity.
So, ladies, I just gave you abrief example.
Whether you choose negativityversus positive, or you choose
positivity versus positive,things that either can make your
(04:50):
day or break your day.
Now, that's just a small sampleof choices that you have.
You know, as a single mom, wealready have a lot that we have
to endure.
We have a lot that's on ourplate.
We have a lot of decisions tomake right, and that's okay,
(05:11):
because we made the ultimatedecision not to abort the child.
Right.
We decided to have our child inspite of what the circumstance
was.
So you've already made a greatdecision.
But now you need to take it astep further and not let society
define who you are as a singlemom.
(05:33):
You've already made thatdecision hey, I can do this, I'm
gonna do this right.
So stop being discouraged.
Get encouraged, get motivated.
Yes, okay, if you have a downday, but don't stay there.
Don't stay there, get up andsay shake it off.
(05:54):
I'm going to do this, I'm goingto get through it.
I'm at the stage of my lifewhere I say come on, challenge,
bring it on, bring it on, I'mready, I'm ready for you when it
comes.
And they do come.
Then I said then the next phaseis how am I going to approach
this Right?
Do I need to approach it?
(06:15):
Think about that.
I had a situation yesterdaywhere it could have went totally
different.
But you know what I said, youknow what I'm not going to
entertain this.
I'm going to move on, I'm goingto think about it and I'm going
to come back and use adifferent approach, because once
upon a time I used to just goright after the jugular.
(06:39):
I'd go straight for the neck insome instances.
When I'm upset about something,I wouldn't hold back.
But I'm thankful that I'm ableto control my temper now and
really think about things, thinkabout the approach.
So I would challenge you to dothe same thing, mom, especially
(07:01):
with your kids.
You know they're going tobother your nerves.
I don't know how else to saythat.
Right, learn how to incorporatedifferent discipline methods.
Learn how, maybe, not torespond immediately.
Yeah, you know, I wish I wouldhave known this earlier on with
(07:21):
my kids, because it was alwaysyell, yell, yell, yell, yell.
If you think about what theydid and how they did it.
Did they know any better?
Sometimes they don it.
Did they know any better?
Sometimes they don't.
But yet as parents, we just flyoff the handle and cut it out.
Sometimes they don't knowbetter.
So we have to get into teachingmode and educate them Because
(07:46):
remember, mom, you're more thanjust a mom.
You are a mentor.
Your child is looking up to you.
So you have to practice anddisplay behaviors that are more
positive than negative Because,remember, you have to release
these children, or your child,into the world and they're going
(08:10):
to have to get out there and beable to fend for themselves.
And a lot of times, the onlyknowledge they really get, where
it's there is no hidden agenda,it's with you, mom, because
others you know, hey, I can dothis for you, but you have to do
this.
(08:30):
You've experienced it, I'veexperienced it, but, as parents,
there's no hidden agenda withus, so we should be able to
level set and educate ourchildren properly.
With that being said, mom, again, it's not about how you arrived
at the single mom title, it'swhat you do with it.
(08:51):
I challenge you put your phonedown for an hour or put it on,
do not disturb for an hour.
Spend some time with your child, incorporate that physical
connect right.
That hug right.
A hug a day will help preventthem from straying right,
(09:14):
because they know they can cometo mom with anything and
everything, shouldn't have to gooutside of mom to get answers
and if you don't have the answer, that's okay.
That is absolutely okay.
Once upon a time, way back whenI used to lead teams and I used
(09:37):
to tell them it's okay if youdon't know the answer.
But what's not okay is you nottry to find the answer.
So, moms, I want to reinforcethat with you.
It's okay if you don't know theanswer there's probably a lot
you don't know, and that's okay.
But, moms, I challenge you,please.
(10:00):
You know you have technologyavailable to you and if you have
older folks that are around,they can probably share with you
some of the answers you needabout some of life's topics, and
I would encourage you to dothat.
So, with that said, ladies, Ihope you have a fantastic day, a
(10:21):
wonderful month.
You stay strong, stayencouraged, stay motivated and
also, that's right, tell anothersingle mom.
If you have comments for me, goto my YouTube page, leave me
some comments there, or go to mywebsite,
(10:42):
singlemomsunitedpodcastcom.
I would love to hear from you,take care.
Hey ladies, welcome to the Single Moms United
podcast, where we cannot spellunited without you or Y-O-U.
Hey, if this is your first timedropping by, welcome If you are
a repeat listener, thank you,thank you and thank you for your
(00:22):
loyalty.
This podcast is all aboutmotivating and encouraging a
single mom.
I know all about that.
You need encouragement becauseI'm a single mom and I know what
it was like and what it is liketo try to navigate life as a
parent on your own and withminimal support, whether he
(00:46):
chooses to not be able toprovide that support.
But either way, it's not abouthow you arrived at the single
mom title.
It's what you do with it.
That's right, mom.
It's what you do with it.
So you have control over that,and that's what I want to talk
about today.
So I am deviating a little bitfrom my prior topics of the
(01:11):
letter I and I'm going to focuson something else today which I
hope you will find value in itand that it will make you think,
because this is about criticalthinking as well when it comes
to parenting.
So today's topic is aboutchoices.
Yeah, and every day, throughoutthe day, we have to make
(01:36):
choices as it relates toparenting, and sometimes we get
it right, sometimes we get itwrong.
Ask me how I know, okay, buteither way, the good news is you
can learn from it.
You can learn from both.
If it's a good choice, you knowlike well what happened, what
(01:58):
made me come to this decision ofgoing this way versus that way,
and then, if it's a bad choice,you learn to right why did I do
that?
And, as a result of me pickingthat choice, this is what
happened.
So I definitely don't want todo that again For the sake of
(02:18):
this exercise.
I really want to talk aboutlife in general and options that
are available to you, singlemom, and you can pick how you
want your day to go, and I betyou didn't even know you had
that much control over your life.
Yeah, yeah, just becausesomething bad happens doesn't
(02:41):
mean you have to entertain it,right?
You don't have to respond, andI'm so thankful that I'm at a
stage in my life that I knowthat I can just ignore something
.
You know, if I'm choosing notto respond, I don't have to
respond, especially if it'sgoing to interrupt my peace.
(03:02):
So therefore, I'm like, hmm, isit even worth it?
I tell you, since I startedincorporating that in my
lifestyle.
It's been such, such, such arelief, because now I'm picking
and choosing if I want to be mad, upset and angry over something
(03:25):
that's probably not even worthit at the end of the day.
So I'm learning how to ignorethings.
Ignoring people Hmm, Imaginethat.
But anyway, all right, y'allknow me, I get off the highway
every now and then.
So let me get back on.
So this should be brief and tothe point, and we're talking
(03:46):
about choices.
Choices.
Consider this moms.
Sad has three letters, but sodoes joy.
Fall has four letters, but sodoes rise.
Curse has five letters, but sodoes bless.
(04:07):
Ignore has six letters, but sodoes listen.
Enemies have seven letters, butso does friends.
Immature has eight letters, butso does maturity.
Immature has eight letters, butso does maturity.
(04:29):
Ignorance has nine letters, butso does knowledge.
Negativity has 10 letters, butso does positivity.
So, ladies, I just gave you abrief example.
Whether you choose negativityversus positive, or you choose
positivity versus positive,things that either can make your
(04:50):
day or break your day.
Now, that's just a small sampleof choices that you have.
You know, as a single mom, wealready have a lot that we have
to endure.
We have a lot that's on ourplate.
We have a lot of decisions tomake right, and that's okay,
(05:11):
because we made the ultimatedecision not to abort the child.
Right.
We decided to have our child inspite of what the circumstance
was.
So you've already made a greatdecision.
But now you need to take it astep further and not let society
define who you are as a singlemom.
(05:33):
You've already made thatdecision hey, I can do this, I'm
gonna do this right.
So stop being discouraged.
Get encouraged, get motivated.
Yes, okay, if you have a downday, but don't stay there.
Don't stay there, get up andsay shake it off.
(05:54):
I'm going to do this, I'm goingto get through it.
I'm at the stage of my lifewhere I say come on, challenge,
bring it on, bring it on, I'mready, I'm ready for you when it
comes.
And they do come.
Then I said then the next phaseis how am I going to approach
this Right?
Do I need to approach it?
(06:15):
Think about that.
I had a situation yesterdaywhere it could have went totally
different.
But you know what I said, youknow what I'm not going to
entertain this.
I'm going to move on, I'm goingto think about it and I'm going
to come back and use adifferent approach, because once
upon a time I used to just goright after the jugular.
(06:39):
I'd go straight for the neck insome instances.
When I'm upset about something,I wouldn't hold back.
But I'm thankful that I'm ableto control my temper now and
really think about things, thinkabout the approach.
So I would challenge you to dothe same thing, mom, especially
(07:01):
with your kids.
You know they're going tobother your nerves.
I don't know how else to saythat.
Right, learn how to incorporatedifferent discipline methods.
Learn how, maybe, not torespond immediately.
Yeah, you know, I wish I wouldhave known this earlier on with
(07:21):
my kids, because it was alwaysyell, yell, yell, yell, yell.
If you think about what theydid and how they did it.
Did they know any better?
Sometimes they don it.
Did they know any better?
Sometimes they don't.
But yet as parents, we just flyoff the handle and cut it out.
Sometimes they don't knowbetter.
So we have to get into teachingmode and educate them Because
(07:46):
remember, mom, you're more thanjust a mom.
You are a mentor.
Your child is looking up to you.
So you have to practice anddisplay behaviors that are more
positive than negative Because,remember, you have to release
these children, or your child,into the world and they're going
(08:10):
to have to get out there and beable to fend for themselves.
And a lot of times, the onlyknowledge they really get, where
it's there is no hidden agenda,it's with you, mom, because
others you know, hey, I can dothis for you, but you have to do
this.
(08:30):
You've experienced it, I'veexperienced it, but, as parents,
there's no hidden agenda withus, so we should be able to
level set and educate ourchildren properly.
With that being said, mom, again, it's not about how you arrived
at the single mom title, it'swhat you do with it.
(08:51):
I challenge you put your phonedown for an hour or put it on,
do not disturb for an hour.
Spend some time with your child, incorporate that physical
connect right.
That hug right.
A hug a day will help preventthem from straying right,
(09:14):
because they know they can cometo mom with anything and
everything, shouldn't have to gooutside of mom to get answers
and if you don't have the answer, that's okay.
That is absolutely okay.
Once upon a time, way back whenI used to lead teams and I used
(09:37):
to tell them it's okay if youdon't know the answer.
But what's not okay is you nottry to find the answer.
So, moms, I want to reinforcethat with you.
It's okay if you don't know theanswer there's probably a lot
you don't know, and that's okay.
But, moms, I challenge you,please.
(10:00):
You know you have technologyavailable to you and if you have
older folks that are around,they can probably share with you
some of the answers you needabout some of life's topics, and
I would encourage you to dothat.
So, with that said, ladies, Ihope you have a fantastic day, a
(10:21):
wonderful month.
You stay strong, stayencouraged, stay motivated and
also, that's right, tell anothersingle mom.
If you have comments for me, goto my YouTube page, leave me
some comments there, or go to mywebsite,
(10:42):
singlemomsunitedpodcastcom.
I would love to hear from you,take care.
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