June 26, 2025 • 24 mins
Through personal reflections on migraines and parenting challenges, we explore how to heal broken relationships with our children by speaking life, setting loving boundaries, and covering their futures in prayer.
• Speaking life through our words shapes how children see themselves and their future
• Setting boundaries with love corrects without breaking their spirits
• Prayer coverage for children's purpose helps them walk confidently in their calling
• Healing broken relationships requires forgiveness when children make mistakes
• Avoid reminding children of past failures just as we don't want to be reminded of our own
• Children need to make mistakes to learn and develop their own relationship with God
• Reconciliation between parents and children is essential for spiritual well-being
• Parents must forgive themselves for their own mistakes in parenting
• Seeking wisdom from God helps parents respond appropriately to challenges
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Good morning, dr Tracy.
She's getting ready to boardher flight, so we're going to
pray that the Lord will take yousafely, you'll land safely
where you're going, and y'all.
This morning I was just sittinghere thinking before I got
started.
First of all, I've had littlesleep because I'm dealing with
like a migraine situation, soI'll just put that out there.
(03:52):
Um, that my if, if I, if I, myenergy's out office a little bit
because I am tired and I'mdealing with migraine, okay, but
even so, I'm still grateful andhonored to be here to serve
y'all and to share what Ibelieve is good, solid teaching.
(04:14):
So the month of June, we werereally focusing on our kids and
as parents whether we'regodparents, mom and dad, auntie,
uncle, if you have children asa part of your assignment that
this was really the month thatwe were turning things up in
parenting and how we, we adults,how we treat the kids in our
lives, and so what I want to dothis morning is just kind of
(04:37):
give us a summary, and I'm alsogoing to share this scripture
coming out of Micah that I love,but it's going to be a punch in
the face.
All right, I'm going to giveyou a heads up.
So, before we get started, lord, I just thank you for allowing
us to see another Thursday.
I thank you for all the parentswith the heart to serve, with
the heart to honor and take careof the children you've placed
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in our lives, whether they'rechildren, they're young children
or they're adults now.
I thank you for all of thosewho stood in the gap for parents
and I thank you for those whomaybe they're not parents yet,
but they have a heart that'snurturing and even so, lord, god
, that you'll bless them so thatthey can take care of those
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that you've placed in their path, the young and adult children
that you've placed in their path.
And I pray, lord, as you speakto us this morning, that you've
placed in their path, the youngand adult children that you've
placed in their path.
And I pray, lord, as you speakto us this morning, that you
remind us that, in the same waythat we look to you to help us,
guide us, nurture us, feed usand protect us, it's the same
thing that our kids are lookingfor in us.
And I ask that you'll justspeak to each of our hearts so
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that we'll be better at this,we'll do a better job at this
and you'll encourage us, amen.
So that's my quick amen and um,oh, thank you, dr Tracy.
I appreciate that Y'all.
Migraines are real, okay, and itjust kind of is what it is Um,
my, uh, my.
It's something that runs in myfamily, which means that and
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again, you know I'm not a person, I don't claim curses but it's
something that has been constantin my family and I know
sometimes what triggers it isstress, but actually what
triggered it for me is thiscrazy heat that's happening
right now, bouncing fromdifferent air conditioning to
heat, and it gives me headachesand once I get a headache it
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easily goes into migraine, givesme headaches.
Once I get a headache, iteasily goes into a migraine,
which can be a little bitcrippling, and my migraines they
start.
They actually the worst oneshit around 3 am.
So when they come on at 3 am itfeels like and I have my
younger sister.
She actually survived ananeurysm twice and so did one of
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my brothers.
I know that's not my portionbecause they have additional
health issues.
I'm not trying to get out theirbusiness, but maybe I'm saying
this because somebody else needsto hear this, that when you
start to feel those migrainescoming on, don't panic.
I did pray Lord.
Migraines coming on, don'tpanic.
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Okay, you know, I did pray Lord, heal me, help me.
And and then you are.
You know, don't just do that.
You got to do the practicalthings as well.
So I got up and I had somewater and I took some Tylenol
and then I laid back and Istarted to do the pressure on my
eyes and all the things.
So I'm going to have a full dayof back-to-back meetings, but
that means that I'm also goingto have to manage my time when
I'm done in the afternoon andtake care of myself.
(07:30):
Today I'm going to be a littlebit slower in the way I show up,
but I'm still here 100%.
So I just want to share thatfor anyone who's going through
kind of this type of thing.
Maybe this is new to you.
This is also really good.
(07:55):
Here we are talking abouthealing what's broken.
I'm talking about healing myheadache, but this is also again
a reminder for you as a parent,as a guardian or whatevercare
situation right now, and theyare feeling the stress from that
y'all Working all day, pickingup the kids after camp and just
feeling exhausted.
They're exhausted financially,they're exhausted emotionally.
(08:16):
So I want to encourage you totake time and take care of
yourself.
Y'all.
We don't have to cook dinnerevery single night.
Okay, it's okay to do takeout.
All right, it's okay to do that.
We still have to take care ofourselves as parent and
guardians.
We also have to put thescripture really quickly of the
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things that we might have saidand done this month to our kids.
Okay, so a lot of you arecarrying that heaviness, but you
also have to forgive yourself.
Parenting did not come with ahandbook.
If y'all got one, I didn't getone, and so there's a lot of
things that we're learning alongthe way.
None of us are perfect parents.
Our kids will tell us that.
So, malachi, four to sixactually, before I do that, let
me just tell you really quicklywhere we were.
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Week one, we talked aboutspeaking life and how our words
shape how our kids seethemselves and their actual
future.
So it's really important how wechoose the words.
The words that we use are meantto heal and uplift and guide.
Right, don know, don't talkcrazy to your kids.
The second week, we talkedabout correcting with care, and
(09:29):
it really was about how we canset boundaries with our children
adults also without breakingtheir spirits, and I think about
kids that have.
Maybe they've graduated highschool and they're on their way
to college, or maybe, you know,they've lost their jobs, their
adult kids, and they've had tocome back home.
Well, we have to set boundaries, it's true, but you have to do
that in a way where we'recorrecting and guiding, but
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we're not breaking their spirits, we're not putting them down.
Discipline is supposed toproduce a harvest of
righteousness.
You're not supposed to we, allof us, we're not supposed to
correct in a way that breakstheir spirit.
Okay, even when they makemistakes, y'all, because our
kids are supposed to makemistakes the same way.
Hello, we make mistakes.
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So last week we talked aboutcovering their future in prayer
and we were in Jeremiah 1.5before I formed you in the womb,
I knew you and we really talkedabout speaking life over their
purpose, even when they can'tsee it.
Sometimes they can't see it.
It's not a situation where I'mtelling you because you want
your kid to be a doctor.
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Now you're speaking the purposeand the purpose is for them to
be a doctor.
What I'm saying when I talkabout speaking purpose is
reminding them that they havevalue and helping them to walk
confidently in who they'recalled to be and then we all we
have to support them in that.
So this week is really abouthealing what's broken.
We're going to pull all andeverything together, really,
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when it comes to healingstrained relationships that you
have and being able to buildtrust again, and we're going to
ask God to restore theconnection and the communication
that we have in our families.
Okay, amen, there you go, drTracy.
Again, I don't plan it inalignment with people's issues.
I just release the words and itjust happens to fall where it
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falls.
So Malachi 4.6 says words andit just happens to fall where it
falls.
So Malachi 4.6 says he willturn the hearts of fathers to
their children and the hearts ofchildren to their fathers.
That's reconciliation, lest Icome and strike the land with
the decree of utter destruction.
I'm going to read anothervariation of this from the CEB
version, because I love the wayit says turn the hearts of the
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parents to the children and thehearts of the parents to the
children and the hearts of thechildren to the parents.
Otherwise, I'll come and strikethe land with a curse.
This is more of a warning,y'all.
So we spent the last three weekstalking about how we are meant
to speak life, how we're meantto uplift Again our children are
going to make mistakes.
The most painful part as aparent I think we can all agree
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is watching our kids makemistakes and we can't do
anything to save them andknowing.
This is kind of where you gotto trust God, because just as he
is our father, he is theirfather as well, that they're
going to make mistakes.
If they don't make the mistakes, they won't learn.
If they don't make the mistakes, they won't learn right.
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And it's the most horriblebecause we do not.
We don't want our kids to fail,we don't want them to suffer,
we don't want anything to comeagainst them in any way.
But I'm promising you that ifyou truly believe again the Lord
is working all things togetherfor their good not just for our
good, but also for them thatthere are mistakes that we
actually have, we have to stepout of the way.
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I'm a West Indian mom, whichmeans I'm all up in the entire
business of my child, planningher entire life, plus her
husband and all her kids andwhat their name is going to be.
Okay, I was built, built likethat.
Okay, and I had to learn thatum, in order for her to
experience the Lord the wayJesus, the way I have, that she
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has to.
She has to.
She has to face theconsequences of her decisions.
She has to meet him where sheis not, where I am right.
I know the love of God.
I understand forgiveness.
I understand his grace.
I receive his mercy.
I appreciate the favor.
I know all of these things.
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Now come on, moms and dads,because we have experienced God
in our own way, going throughthe things and growing up.
It's harder to explain where youare to your parents who've
already experienced this forthemselves.
Like our kids want to maketheir own decisions.
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They want to be independent.
We are raising independentthinkers, but when they start
making decisions that are notthe decisions that we would make
, it creates conflict.
It creates conflict and thatconflict, if it's not resolved,
starts becoming bitterness inour hearts against our children.
We start to become sodisappointed in their decisions
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that we start turning our heartsaway our children.
We start to become sodisappointed in their decisions
that we start turning our heartsaway from them.
Then we start to speak I can'tbelieve you did blah, blah, blah
and you should have knownbetter.
We start to speak things intothem and, rather than lifting
them, we start to curse thethings that they're doing, okay,
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and so turning the hearts offathers again we're talking
about mothers, too right Totheir children and the hearts of
children to their fathers.
This come, unless I come,basically, and destroy.
It's hard for us to, as we'retrying to be kingdom builders
and kingdom wars, all the thingsthat we say we're going to do,
breakthrough and blessings, andall the as we're trying to be
kingdom builders and kingdomwars, all the things that we say
we're going to do, breakthroughand blessings, and all the
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things, all the things thatwe're trying to establish in our
own lives, whether it's yourcareer or your business or your
whatever, it is as parents thatwe're trying to establish and
set up legacies and all thethings.
It's very difficult to do thatwhen your heart for your child
is turned against them, right.
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In the same way that, if youthink about this, our
relationship to God, it's hardfor us to have a foundation of
success I mean a long-termsuccess and build legacy and and
all the things when our heartsare turned against god, right,
so, uh, so.
So we are at a point now wherewe we make a couple of decisions
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, and the first one is youcannot, we can't be in panic
when our kids are going thewrong way.
Uh, it is, it is frightful.
I'm gonna say that because,because that's how I feel.
Okay, it is frightful, it canbe disappointing, but we can't
panic.
We can't panic because when wepanic, our response becomes
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panic.
When we panic, we take God outof the mix.
Okay, we take God out of themix.
So one of the things that I urgeall of us to do, because we're
talking about healing what'sbroken, is we're going to focus
on the relationship with ourkids.
We want to have the kind ofrelationship with our kids that
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they feel comfortable coming totalk to us about anything and
everything, and obviously weknow that there's some things
that our kids are never going tocome talk to us about.
If they have friends that theytrust or family members that you
trust or whatever, and there'sother relationships there, you
got to allow that to happen.
Give them the chance, theopportunity to go and talk to
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somebody else.
What we don't want is we don'twant our kids to make the
mistakes and feel like theycan't talk to anybody at all.
Okay, that's the first thing.
The second thing is thathealing what's broken in the
relationship and forgiving themwhen they make a mistake is huge
.
Just like us y'all, if I make amistake with one of my friends
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and they refuse to let thatthing go, and even if they bring
it up as a joke 10 years laterand you remember when you did
so-and-so, it's highly likelyI'm going to cut you off because
I don't want anybody to remindme of the mistakes I've made.
Thank you very much.
I can I can do that very wellby myself.
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Our kids are the same way.
Our kids don't need us toremind them of mistakes they
made a month ago, last week andlast year.
It's one thing to say let'sthink about what you're trying
to do and then, when you bringup something that happened
before, it's more of a guidanceWell, we tried this this way and
maybe this didn't work.
Let's go this direction right,but not holding it over their
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heads like you should havelistened to me.
You shouldn't have done that.
Blah, blah, blah.
Your friends, we got to becareful what we're saying.
Our kids don't need.
Like I said, just like us, wedon't need to be reminded of the
mistakes that we made.
We want to know.
You know what do we do next?
So you need to ask the Lord togive you wisdom in your response
.
That's going to be a part ofthe healing of what's broken.
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And so, again, turning thehearts of fathers to their
children and basicallyreconciling relationships,
healing what's broken.
You know that's what we'regoing to ask the Lord for today.
He's going to reveal to yousome parts of you that's broken.
I say you I'm talking abouteverybody, including myself.
Show us in us, in ourselves,what's broken in us.
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I know, for me, I've always hadtrust issues with people, as as
I got older, I realized howincredible my parents were.
But when I was growing up, Ididn't like those people.
Okay, they were all you know.
They were doing all the thingsfor everybody in the community.
And where was I right?
I literally had that.
Okay, so, uh, so obviously, ageand experience gives you
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clarity and also wisdom.
So we're gonna ask the lord togive us wisdom in how we respond
to what's going on with ourkids.
We know that, by his grace, thegrace that's on us is the grace
that's on our children.
So we are not going to freakout or panic.
Right, we got to let the Lordwork some things out.
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Everything is not a spiritualattack.
Some of these things are justlessons that your kids have to
learn.
A lot of us, especiallychurchgoers, we say how our kids
, our lives.
They're touched, and someonespoke that our kids are going to
do great things and blah, blah,blah.
Well, in order for yourchildren to do great things,
they have to have tremendousexperiences, and not all those
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experiences are going to be good.
So I don't want us to get infront of the experiences our
kids need to have in order sothey can be the great right,
just being for real right.
So we're going to pray, lord,that you'll help us for every
person under the sound of myvoice, whether they're a parent
or godparent, auntie and uncle,even a family member or a
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trusted family friend who youplace in the lives of the
children under our care, whetherthey're adults or they're young
ones.
Father, I pray that you'llfirst help us to heal what's
broken, the relationships that'sbroken, the communication
that's broken, the connectionsthat's broken.
And even, as we're in the US,we're going into another major
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holiday, even asking that you'lleven use this holiday as a way
to reconcile us, bring ustogether, make it light and
bless us so that we'll all havefun together, lord God, that
we'll laugh together, we'llshare joyful moments together
and that, even through thesemoments, that you'll present an
opportunity for us to just hugeach other and love on each
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other and forgive each other andheal the brokenhearted.
I pray for parents who arehaving a sense of feeling of
disappointment, feelingdisappointed in their children
and decisions that they'remaking.
Lord God, that I ask, lord God,that you'll even speak to their
hearts so that it doesn'tbecome bitterness, that it
doesn't play out in a way thatit hurts or harms the kids.
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But I pray for the children inour lives that they will come to
see with clarity, they'll seewisdom, they'll have wisdom and
understanding.
That you'll guide them in theirdecisions or God, even though
they are meant to haveincredible experiences.
We all pray, lord God, thatthat it's not something that
will separate them from you andthat you'll bless our children,
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that the path that they take,that you have wielded for them,
and that there'll be obedient tothat, whatever you call them to
do, whether they're meant to beteachers or doctors, or lawyers
, or analysts, or electriciansor carpenters, whatever the
assignment that you call them todo, that they'll stay focused
on that and that they won't bedistracted by other worldly
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things.
They won't not friends, notpeople, not places, not things,
not drugs, not people, notplaces, not things, not drugs,
nothing like that, not partyingthat they won't waste their time
, lord, god, the short time thatyou've given all of us.
So I pray that you'll reconcileour hearts to our children.
Give us favor, with ourchildren so that they will hear
us when we approach them, togive them guidance and help us
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to guide and correct throughlove.
And I ask that you'll blessevery person under the sound of
my voice who is in that season,whether they are young children
and they have to course correctthem or they're older children.
That you'll give us the wisdom,but give us favor so that they
will hear us, so that we canapproach them and that they'll
hear what we're saying and thatthey'll follow suit.
Thank you, lord, for giving usthis amazing platform and for
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blessing all of us.
And we ask all of these thingsin Jesus's name Amen.
All right, y'all.
So I hope that helped you.
I know it helped me.
Thank you so much, y'all, forwatching, for supporting.
We have a couple of changesthat's coming up in the month of
June.
I'll come back and tell y'allabout the month of June.
Month of August I told y'allI'm tired y'all In the month of
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August.
But, all that said, I reallyhope that you have a good rest
of your day.
Forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself.
We're parents and we do makemistakes.
Forgive yourself so that youdon't play that, you don't
become bitter and you don't playthat out in front of your kids.
And if you're stuck, come to ourprayer phone line.
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Okay, call our phone line.
Let us know what's on yourheart.
If you can't make the phoneline, come to the Facebook group
.
Come out of the wilderness.
We have a chat you can use.
Submit your prayer requests.
Lots and lots of people therewill pray alongside you and I
truly hope that this will helpyou and help your family.
All right, so God bless you.
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I love y'all.
Have an amazing rest of yourThursday.
If you're traveling, I praytraveling grace and mercies that
you have an amazing, successfulday.
When you're done today, you'regoing to look back.
It'll be a busy day, but you'regoing to look back and go oh
man, that was fantastic.
You feel productive, there wasa lot of goodness that came out
of it and that you're blessed inevery area that you worked in.
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All right, I will see y'allnext week.
Take care.
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(03:30):
Good morning, dr Tracy.
She's getting ready to boardher flight, so we're going to
pray that the Lord will take yousafely, you'll land safely
where you're going, and y'all.
This morning I was just sittinghere thinking before I got
started.
First of all, I've had littlesleep because I'm dealing with
like a migraine situation, soI'll just put that out there.
(03:52):
Um, that my if, if I, if I, myenergy's out office a little bit
because I am tired and I'mdealing with migraine, okay, but
even so, I'm still grateful andhonored to be here to serve
y'all and to share what Ibelieve is good, solid teaching.
(04:14):
So the month of June, we werereally focusing on our kids and
as parents whether we'regodparents, mom and dad, auntie,
uncle, if you have children asa part of your assignment that
this was really the month thatwe were turning things up in
parenting and how we, we adults,how we treat the kids in our
lives, and so what I want to dothis morning is just kind of
(04:37):
give us a summary, and I'm alsogoing to share this scripture
coming out of Micah that I love,but it's going to be a punch in
the face.
All right, I'm going to giveyou a heads up.
So, before we get started, lord, I just thank you for allowing
us to see another Thursday.
I thank you for all the parentswith the heart to serve, with
the heart to honor and take careof the children you've placed
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in our lives, whether they'rechildren, they're young children
or they're adults now.
I thank you for all of thosewho stood in the gap for parents
and I thank you for those whomaybe they're not parents yet,
but they have a heart that'snurturing and even so, lord, god
, that you'll bless them so thatthey can take care of those
(05:20):
that you've placed in their path, the young and adult children
that you've placed in their path.
And I pray, lord, as you speakto us this morning, that you've
placed in their path, the youngand adult children that you've
placed in their path.
And I pray, lord, as you speakto us this morning, that you
remind us that, in the same waythat we look to you to help us,
guide us, nurture us, feed usand protect us, it's the same
thing that our kids are lookingfor in us.
And I ask that you'll justspeak to each of our hearts so
(05:40):
that we'll be better at this,we'll do a better job at this
and you'll encourage us, amen.
So that's my quick amen and um,oh, thank you, dr Tracy.
I appreciate that Y'all.
Migraines are real, okay, and itjust kind of is what it is Um,
my, uh, my.
It's something that runs in myfamily, which means that and
(06:00):
again, you know I'm not a person, I don't claim curses but it's
something that has been constantin my family and I know
sometimes what triggers it isstress, but actually what
triggered it for me is thiscrazy heat that's happening
right now, bouncing fromdifferent air conditioning to
heat, and it gives me headachesand once I get a headache it
(06:22):
easily goes into migraine, givesme headaches.
Once I get a headache, iteasily goes into a migraine,
which can be a little bitcrippling, and my migraines they
start.
They actually the worst oneshit around 3 am.
So when they come on at 3 am itfeels like and I have my
younger sister.
She actually survived ananeurysm twice and so did one of
(06:45):
my brothers.
I know that's not my portionbecause they have additional
health issues.
I'm not trying to get out theirbusiness, but maybe I'm saying
this because somebody else needsto hear this, that when you
start to feel those migrainescoming on, don't panic.
I did pray Lord.
Migraines coming on, don'tpanic.
(07:07):
Okay, you know, I did pray Lord, heal me, help me.
And and then you are.
You know, don't just do that.
You got to do the practicalthings as well.
So I got up and I had somewater and I took some Tylenol
and then I laid back and Istarted to do the pressure on my
eyes and all the things.
So I'm going to have a full dayof back-to-back meetings, but
that means that I'm also goingto have to manage my time when
I'm done in the afternoon andtake care of myself.
(07:30):
Today I'm going to be a littlebit slower in the way I show up,
but I'm still here 100%.
So I just want to share thatfor anyone who's going through
kind of this type of thing.
Maybe this is new to you.
This is also really good.
(07:55):
Here we are talking abouthealing what's broken.
I'm talking about healing myheadache, but this is also again
a reminder for you as a parent,as a guardian or whatevercare
situation right now, and theyare feeling the stress from that
y'all Working all day, pickingup the kids after camp and just
feeling exhausted.
They're exhausted financially,they're exhausted emotionally.
(08:16):
So I want to encourage you totake time and take care of
yourself.
Y'all.
We don't have to cook dinnerevery single night.
Okay, it's okay to do takeout.
All right, it's okay to do that.
We still have to take care ofourselves as parent and
guardians.
We also have to put thescripture really quickly of the
(08:46):
things that we might have saidand done this month to our kids.
Okay, so a lot of you arecarrying that heaviness, but you
also have to forgive yourself.
Parenting did not come with ahandbook.
If y'all got one, I didn't getone, and so there's a lot of
things that we're learning alongthe way.
None of us are perfect parents.
Our kids will tell us that.
So, malachi, four to sixactually, before I do that, let
me just tell you really quicklywhere we were.
(09:08):
Week one, we talked aboutspeaking life and how our words
shape how our kids seethemselves and their actual
future.
So it's really important how wechoose the words.
The words that we use are meantto heal and uplift and guide.
Right, don know, don't talkcrazy to your kids.
The second week, we talkedabout correcting with care, and
(09:29):
it really was about how we canset boundaries with our children
adults also without breakingtheir spirits, and I think about
kids that have.
Maybe they've graduated highschool and they're on their way
to college, or maybe, you know,they've lost their jobs, their
adult kids, and they've had tocome back home.
Well, we have to set boundaries, it's true, but you have to do
that in a way where we'recorrecting and guiding, but
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we're not breaking their spirits, we're not putting them down.
Discipline is supposed toproduce a harvest of
righteousness.
You're not supposed to we, allof us, we're not supposed to
correct in a way that breakstheir spirit.
Okay, even when they makemistakes, y'all, because our
kids are supposed to makemistakes the same way.
Hello, we make mistakes.
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So last week we talked aboutcovering their future in prayer
and we were in Jeremiah 1.5before I formed you in the womb,
I knew you and we really talkedabout speaking life over their
purpose, even when they can'tsee it.
Sometimes they can't see it.
It's not a situation where I'mtelling you because you want
your kid to be a doctor.
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Now you're speaking the purposeand the purpose is for them to
be a doctor.
What I'm saying when I talkabout speaking purpose is
reminding them that they havevalue and helping them to walk
confidently in who they'recalled to be and then we all we
have to support them in that.
So this week is really abouthealing what's broken.
We're going to pull all andeverything together, really,
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when it comes to healingstrained relationships that you
have and being able to buildtrust again, and we're going to
ask God to restore theconnection and the communication
that we have in our families.
Okay, amen, there you go, drTracy.
Again, I don't plan it inalignment with people's issues.
I just release the words and itjust happens to fall where it
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falls.
So Malachi 4.6 says words andit just happens to fall where it
falls.
So Malachi 4.6 says he willturn the hearts of fathers to
their children and the hearts ofchildren to their fathers.
That's reconciliation, lest Icome and strike the land with
the decree of utter destruction.
I'm going to read anothervariation of this from the CEB
version, because I love the wayit says turn the hearts of the
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parents to the children and thehearts of the parents to the
children and the hearts of thechildren to the parents.
Otherwise, I'll come and strikethe land with a curse.
This is more of a warning,y'all.
So we spent the last three weekstalking about how we are meant
to speak life, how we're meantto uplift Again our children are
going to make mistakes.
The most painful part as aparent I think we can all agree
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is watching our kids makemistakes and we can't do
anything to save them andknowing.
This is kind of where you gotto trust God, because just as he
is our father, he is theirfather as well, that they're
going to make mistakes.
If they don't make the mistakes, they won't learn.
If they don't make the mistakes, they won't learn right.
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And it's the most horriblebecause we do not.
We don't want our kids to fail,we don't want them to suffer,
we don't want anything to comeagainst them in any way.
But I'm promising you that ifyou truly believe again the Lord
is working all things togetherfor their good not just for our
good, but also for them thatthere are mistakes that we
actually have, we have to stepout of the way.
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I'm a West Indian mom, whichmeans I'm all up in the entire
business of my child, planningher entire life, plus her
husband and all her kids andwhat their name is going to be.
Okay, I was built, built likethat.
Okay, and I had to learn thatum, in order for her to
experience the Lord the wayJesus, the way I have, that she
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has to.
She has to.
She has to face theconsequences of her decisions.
She has to meet him where sheis not, where I am right.
I know the love of God.
I understand forgiveness.
I understand his grace.
I receive his mercy.
I appreciate the favor.
I know all of these things.
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Now come on, moms and dads,because we have experienced God
in our own way, going throughthe things and growing up.
It's harder to explain where youare to your parents who've
already experienced this forthemselves.
Like our kids want to maketheir own decisions.
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They want to be independent.
We are raising independentthinkers, but when they start
making decisions that are notthe decisions that we would make
, it creates conflict.
It creates conflict and thatconflict, if it's not resolved,
starts becoming bitterness inour hearts against our children.
We start to become sodisappointed in their decisions
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that we start turning our heartsaway our children.
We start to become sodisappointed in their decisions
that we start turning our heartsaway from them.
Then we start to speak I can'tbelieve you did blah, blah, blah
and you should have knownbetter.
We start to speak things intothem and, rather than lifting
them, we start to curse thethings that they're doing, okay,
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and so turning the hearts offathers again we're talking
about mothers, too right Totheir children and the hearts of
children to their fathers.
This come, unless I come,basically, and destroy.
It's hard for us to, as we'retrying to be kingdom builders
and kingdom wars, all the thingsthat we say we're going to do,
breakthrough and blessings, andall the as we're trying to be
kingdom builders and kingdomwars, all the things that we say
we're going to do, breakthroughand blessings, and all the
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things, all the things thatwe're trying to establish in our
own lives, whether it's yourcareer or your business or your
whatever, it is as parents thatwe're trying to establish and
set up legacies and all thethings.
It's very difficult to do thatwhen your heart for your child
is turned against them, right.
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In the same way that, if youthink about this, our
relationship to God, it's hardfor us to have a foundation of
success I mean a long-termsuccess and build legacy and and
all the things when our heartsare turned against god, right,
so, uh, so.
So we are at a point now wherewe we make a couple of decisions
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, and the first one is youcannot, we can't be in panic
when our kids are going thewrong way.
Uh, it is, it is frightful.
I'm gonna say that because,because that's how I feel.
Okay, it is frightful, it canbe disappointing, but we can't
panic.
We can't panic because when wepanic, our response becomes
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panic.
When we panic, we take God outof the mix.
Okay, we take God out of themix.
So one of the things that I urgeall of us to do, because we're
talking about healing what'sbroken, is we're going to focus
on the relationship with ourkids.
We want to have the kind ofrelationship with our kids that
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they feel comfortable coming totalk to us about anything and
everything, and obviously weknow that there's some things
that our kids are never going tocome talk to us about.
If they have friends that theytrust or family members that you
trust or whatever, and there'sother relationships there, you
got to allow that to happen.
Give them the chance, theopportunity to go and talk to
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somebody else.
What we don't want is we don'twant our kids to make the
mistakes and feel like theycan't talk to anybody at all.
Okay, that's the first thing.
The second thing is thathealing what's broken in the
relationship and forgiving themwhen they make a mistake is huge
.
Just like us y'all, if I make amistake with one of my friends
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and they refuse to let thatthing go, and even if they bring
it up as a joke 10 years laterand you remember when you did
so-and-so, it's highly likelyI'm going to cut you off because
I don't want anybody to remindme of the mistakes I've made.
Thank you very much.
I can I can do that very wellby myself.
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Our kids are the same way.
Our kids don't need us toremind them of mistakes they
made a month ago, last week andlast year.
It's one thing to say let'sthink about what you're trying
to do and then, when you bringup something that happened
before, it's more of a guidanceWell, we tried this this way and
maybe this didn't work.
Let's go this direction right,but not holding it over their
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heads like you should havelistened to me.
You shouldn't have done that.
Blah, blah, blah.
Your friends, we got to becareful what we're saying.
Our kids don't need.
Like I said, just like us, wedon't need to be reminded of the
mistakes that we made.
We want to know.
You know what do we do next?
So you need to ask the Lord togive you wisdom in your response
.
That's going to be a part ofthe healing of what's broken.
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And so, again, turning thehearts of fathers to their
children and basicallyreconciling relationships,
healing what's broken.
You know that's what we'regoing to ask the Lord for today.
He's going to reveal to yousome parts of you that's broken.
I say you I'm talking abouteverybody, including myself.
Show us in us, in ourselves,what's broken in us.
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I know, for me, I've always hadtrust issues with people, as as
I got older, I realized howincredible my parents were.
But when I was growing up, Ididn't like those people.
Okay, they were all you know.
They were doing all the thingsfor everybody in the community.
And where was I right?
I literally had that.
Okay, so, uh, so obviously, ageand experience gives you
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clarity and also wisdom.
So we're gonna ask the lord togive us wisdom in how we respond
to what's going on with ourkids.
We know that, by his grace, thegrace that's on us is the grace
that's on our children.
So we are not going to freakout or panic.
Right, we got to let the Lordwork some things out.
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Everything is not a spiritualattack.
Some of these things are justlessons that your kids have to
learn.
A lot of us, especiallychurchgoers, we say how our kids
, our lives.
They're touched, and someonespoke that our kids are going to
do great things and blah, blah,blah.
Well, in order for yourchildren to do great things,
they have to have tremendousexperiences, and not all those
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experiences are going to be good.
So I don't want us to get infront of the experiences our
kids need to have in order sothey can be the great right,
just being for real right.
So we're going to pray, lord,that you'll help us for every
person under the sound of myvoice, whether they're a parent
or godparent, auntie and uncle,even a family member or a
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trusted family friend who youplace in the lives of the
children under our care, whetherthey're adults or they're young
ones.
Father, I pray that you'llfirst help us to heal what's
broken, the relationships that'sbroken, the communication
that's broken, the connectionsthat's broken.
And even, as we're in the US,we're going into another major
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holiday, even asking that you'lleven use this holiday as a way
to reconcile us, bring ustogether, make it light and
bless us so that we'll all havefun together, lord God, that
we'll laugh together, we'llshare joyful moments together
and that, even through thesemoments, that you'll present an
opportunity for us to just hugeach other and love on each
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other and forgive each other andheal the brokenhearted.
I pray for parents who arehaving a sense of feeling of
disappointment, feelingdisappointed in their children
and decisions that they'remaking.
Lord God, that I ask, lord God,that you'll even speak to their
hearts so that it doesn'tbecome bitterness, that it
doesn't play out in a way thatit hurts or harms the kids.
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But I pray for the children inour lives that they will come to
see with clarity, they'll seewisdom, they'll have wisdom and
understanding.
That you'll guide them in theirdecisions or God, even though
they are meant to haveincredible experiences.
We all pray, lord God, thatthat it's not something that
will separate them from you andthat you'll bless our children,
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that the path that they take,that you have wielded for them,
and that there'll be obedient tothat, whatever you call them to
do, whether they're meant to beteachers or doctors, or lawyers
, or analysts, or electriciansor carpenters, whatever the
assignment that you call them todo, that they'll stay focused
on that and that they won't bedistracted by other worldly
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things.
They won't not friends, notpeople, not places, not things,
not drugs, not people, notplaces, not things, not drugs,
nothing like that, not partyingthat they won't waste their time
, lord, god, the short time thatyou've given all of us.
So I pray that you'll reconcileour hearts to our children.
Give us favor, with ourchildren so that they will hear
us when we approach them, togive them guidance and help us
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to guide and correct throughlove.
And I ask that you'll blessevery person under the sound of
my voice who is in that season,whether they are young children
and they have to course correctthem or they're older children.
That you'll give us the wisdom,but give us favor so that they
will hear us, so that we canapproach them and that they'll
hear what we're saying and thatthey'll follow suit.
Thank you, lord, for giving usthis amazing platform and for
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blessing all of us.
And we ask all of these thingsin Jesus's name Amen.
All right, y'all.
So I hope that helped you.
I know it helped me.
Thank you so much, y'all, forwatching, for supporting.
We have a couple of changesthat's coming up in the month of
June.
I'll come back and tell y'allabout the month of June.
Month of August I told y'allI'm tired y'all In the month of
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August.
But, all that said, I reallyhope that you have a good rest
of your day.
Forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself.
We're parents and we do makemistakes.
Forgive yourself so that youdon't play that, you don't
become bitter and you don't playthat out in front of your kids.
And if you're stuck, come to ourprayer phone line.
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Okay, call our phone line.
Let us know what's on yourheart.
If you can't make the phoneline, come to the Facebook group
.
Come out of the wilderness.
We have a chat you can use.
Submit your prayer requests.
Lots and lots of people therewill pray alongside you and I
truly hope that this will helpyou and help your family.
All right, so God bless you.
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I love y'all.
Have an amazing rest of yourThursday.
If you're traveling, I praytraveling grace and mercies that
you have an amazing, successfulday.
When you're done today, you'regoing to look back.
It'll be a busy day, but you'regoing to look back and go oh
man, that was fantastic.
You feel productive, there wasa lot of goodness that came out
of it and that you're blessed inevery area that you worked in.
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All right, I will see y'allnext week.
Take care.
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