June 12, 2025 • 21 mins
June brings new parenting challenges as schedules shift and kids spend more time at home, requiring us to be intentional about how we correct and discipline. We explore a scripture-based approach to discipline that yields "peaceful fruit of righteousness" rather than leaving lasting emotional scars.
• Discipline should be "for the moment" not something that echoes through generations
• Ask "what was their intention?" before correcting a child's behavior
• Children make mistakes as part of their learning process, not to personally hurt us
• Check if you're responding based on feelings or facts
• Take a pause before reacting emotionally to a child's behavior
• Be mindful of your own unhealed wounds that might affect how you parent
• Breaking generational cycles requires intentional change in how we correct
• The same principles apply to how we guide colleagues and team members at work
• Summer should be filled with more laughter than tears in our households
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(03:24):
Good morning y'all.
I'm trying something new.
I've got comments now that Ican actually see, so shout out
to StreamYard.
We need technology to work forus, to help us bring the message
forward, so I'm so excitedabout that, so I get to see
who's in the chat.
So good morning family andfriends.
For those, even if you'rewatching the replay, please drop
(03:44):
in the comments and let me knowwhere you're watching from.
We obviously have these livestreams, but we also show up on
the audio streets on all theaudio platforms, so Audible and
Spotify and pretty much whereveryou listen.
You can find the Mrs Pi podcast.
This is a podcast in someshapes and forms, but I'm
(04:08):
excited because we're in themonth of June and this month
we're focusing on our kids.
So, for those of y'all who arewhether it's your kids, your
bonus kids, stepkids, maybeyou're raising nieces and
nephews and we're talking aboutour children who are under our
care and again, they could beyounger, right, or they could be
(04:32):
adult kids.
So it's going to coverparenting essentially for the
month of June and I shared lastweek.
Part of the reason that Ireally was excited about this is
this is kind of the time ofyear our calendars change, our
finances are a little bitdifferent, y'all.
Because we have to.
We got to pay more.
You know, really was excitedabout this is this is kind of
the time of year our calendarschange, our finances are a
little bit different, y'all.
Because we have to.
We got to pay more.
You know.
We got to send the kids to camp, we got to pay for other
(04:53):
expenses.
You know it's very differentpaying for child care during the
summer months and it impactsour temperament, just being
honest, because our schedulesshift and all the things.
Right, if you're working in anoffice, you got to figure out
childcare and how to get all thethings when the kids aren't in
school.
So our response to how we treatthe kids this month is what
we're leaning in on.
(05:13):
So shout out to those who arewatching from Atlanta I feel
like we're in 40 days and 40nights of rain, but we're
grateful.
So we thank you Lord, becausewe do need the rain, but y'all,
we are tired.
We've seen enough.
We are tired, all right.
So I brought this scripture andI'm going to touch a little bit
on this.
I'm going to pray first andthen I'm going to go straight
(05:35):
into this scripture and here wego y'all and forgive me because
I'm also dealing with Atlantaallergies.
It is what it is.
So, first all, we thank you forthe wisdom and the understanding
that you'll give us today andfor all of us who have a heart
to serve the children thatyou've placed in our lives,
whether they are ours, meaningthat we are their mothers and
(05:55):
fathers, or those you put underour care.
I pray that you'll just help usto treat them a little bit
kinder and really think beforewe discipline and make sure that
we're disciplining with loveand showing greater care to
those you put in our lives.
So I pray that for every personauntie, uncle, mother, father,
sister and friend and communitymember that you'll speak to
(06:19):
their hearts this morning andthat they'll take this message
forward in their lives and applyit.
So thank you for blessing us.
Amen.
Y'all will pray for more stuffat the end, but we got to start
right.
So Hebrews 12, 11, this is theESV, a Shelley version, and it
says for the moment, alldiscipline seems painful rather
than pleasant, but later ityields the peaceful fruit of
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righteousness to those who'vebeen trained by it.
For the moment, all disciplineseems painful rather than
pleasant.
So thank you, holy Spirit.
So let's break this down alittle bit and I'm going to give
you three things that I wantyou to think about.
I'm going to drop them in thechat, but there's three things
that I want us to think aboutand just be really mindful of
this month of June.
Now I said on other teachings,if you go back and look at
(07:03):
Monday morning and Tuesday nightand all the things, that we've
turned things up in June.
But this also means that how weare responding, we are turning
things up.
That doesn't mean like we'resetting things on fire.
That means that we're learningand engaging and we're kind of
doing things a little bitdifferent this month.
Ok, so for the moment, alldiscipline seems painful rather
(07:24):
than pleasant, is a very trickyone, and if you think about
discipline, quite frankly wedon't really want to be
disciplined.
We say we do.
We don't really appreciate it.
It is painful at the moment, ifyou think of, you know, some of
us, when we're disciplining ourchildren, it's hard for us to
discipline because we don't wantto see them break down and we
don't.
We don't want, we don't want todiscipline to the point where
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we're destroying their character.
We're destroying their souls,right, we don't want to take it
that far, but there's a timespan.
So for the moment is a timespan.
It means that the disciplinethat we give our children isn't
supposed to echo throughgenerations y'all.
It's not supposed to be thekind of discipline where you
discipline your child in Juneand they're still feeling the
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pain and the repercussions fromthat, the emotional scars from
that, in the future.
It's for the moment, right,there's a timestamp on it, and
though it seems painful ratherthan pleasant, something that we
have to be really careful of iswhen we're disciplining.
This is where we're coming outof love and if you think about
this y'all, even the way wetreat each other when we're
(08:33):
maybe adult to adult, the waywe're kind of disciplining each
other, maybe you're coursecorrecting a friend or a
colleague, a mentee, mentor,whatever, right, one of your
workers, whatever.
But the discipline isn't.
The discipline is structured.
You have to be, you know, youhave to consider like what are
you trying to yield?
What is the fruit you're tryingto yield?
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It says later it yields.
It tells you later it yieldsthe peaceful fruit of
righteousness.
It's not supposed to be later.
It yields bitterness and scars,right when I was growing up.
I'm Jamaican, okay, and sotraining a child in the way they
grow was sometimes, it felt,very harsh, and yet sometimes it
(09:16):
felt it was steeped in love andso I would be corrected on some
things.
But I knew that behind it theintention was never to hurt me
into destruction, right, and yetthere were times where I felt
like these people are crazy,right, but I never had that
sense that I was beingdisciplined because they were
(09:39):
trying to destroy my characteror they were trying to cut
through the marrow y'all.
It was never like that and ityielded something.
So I want us to think aboutthat right it yields.
It's supposed to yield apeaceful fruit of righteousness
to those who've been trained byit.
So when we're thinking about howwe're interacting with our kids
this month and again, kidsunder your care, adult children,
(10:01):
adult kids who maybe they justgraduated from college and
they're still at home becausethey haven't found the right job
yet or they're struggling andthey're going through the things
, and there's some boundariesthat you have to set in the home
, right, but even as you'reapplying that level of
discipline, we're not supposedto make it so that it yields a
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fruit of bitterness or it reallyscars and hurt our friends.
So we've got to be reallycareful about what we're doing
and how we apply it.
So I'm going to drop thesequestions because I want us to
think about these three things.
So just bear with me, I'm goingto grab it from another screen
and then I'm going to drop it inthe chat and we're going to
talk about it real quick.
So the first question that Iwant you to ask this month, when
(10:45):
you're correcting with care,the first question is what was
the intention?
What was the intention, y'all,when your kid did something
wrong?
Okay, what was the intention?
When they did something wrong,you feel like they got on your
nerve, they missed the deadlineor there was something that
required a level of yourresponse.
(11:07):
What was the intention?
When our kids do somethingwrong, their intention most time
is not to take a personal digor to hurt you.
You know, a lot of times wetake what our kids do so
personable.
We take such great offense atour children and yet some of the
things that they're doing y'allsome.
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Can I just say that some ofthose stupid things they do is
because they're in a season oflearning.
They don't know yet.
They don't know the rightanswers.
They have to experience things.
They don't know all that youknow.
They don't have the level ofexperiences that we have, right,
they haven't gone through thesame level of pain that we have.
So they are making mistakesbecause that is a part of their
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learning process, painful as itis right.
So the first question I want youto ask is what was the
intention?
Before you start discipline,before you start correcting, you
think about the intention.
Don't take great offense first.
That's not the first response,all right, so okay, so here's
the second question.
The second question I'm goingto drop in is is how am I
responding?
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And this is where y'all, wetake a pause.
But can I just say these arethe same questions.
I use these on the job as well.
So it's not just it's not, it'snot just something that I do
when I'm, you know, thinkingabout how I'm responding to my
daughter.
But let me grab this and drop itin the chat real quick.
It's how am I responding?
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Is it my feelings or is it fact?
Is it based on my feelings I'min my feelings about something
or is it factual base, like, howam I responding If, um, my
child um comes home late?
You know, passes a curfew.
Am I responding out of myfeelings, because I'm fearful?
I'm afraid that if you stay outlate and you go past the
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timeline that I gave you, youneed to be here.
I'm responding out of fearbecause I don't know what's
happening on the streets and nowI'm overreacting to what
happened, right?
Or is it a fact?
There's a pattern We've givenyou this boundary and you keep.
Maybe've given you this.
We've given you this, this,this boundary, and you're you
keep.
You know, maybe there's a thirdand fourth time and so it is
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fact-based meaning.
Now we have a trend to say thatyou're not respecting our
boundaries.
Is it fact-based or is itfeelings?
So I want you to check howyou're responding to your kids.
Right, that will take that.
That means that you can't justpop off when you're angry.
You can't just pop off out.
If you're responding out offeelings, you'll respond really
quickly.
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If you're responding based onfact, you'll take a moment,
you'll take a beat to thinkabout how you respond before you
respond.
So the first question was whatwas their intention?
Same principle we use withpeople we work with.
What was their intention?
The second one was how am Iresponding?
Is it feelings or is it fact?
All right.
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Now the third one is going tocause some of y'all to just be
you'll be mad at me, but that'sall right, so I'm going to go
ahead and drop it in here.
And this third one is we'regoing to sit on this one for a
second y'all, because this isone of those.
Some of us are still speakingfrom a place that's broken when
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we're speaking to our kids, andso we're reflecting
disappointments that we had, westill have.
So the third thing I want youto do is to be mindful of the
wounds, of your wounds.
Some of your wounds look likescars but they're not healed
fully, like you ever get a cutand it takes a while for it to
heal, and you might mess withthat thing and on the surface it
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looks like it's healed, but ifyou tap that thing long enough,
it starts to feel sore becauseit's not truly healed.
And so I want to advise us isto be mindful of the wounds that
you have.
Some of the wounds that youhave, of disappointment from
maybe your parenting, yourparenting skills, maybe the
mother or father of the child,the in-laws, like all the things
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.
I want you to be mindful of thewounds that you carry, we carry
right, because some of thewounds that we carry, they're
not fully healed.
It looks good, I look good, Ismell good, right, but some of
my wounds aren't fully healedand so that means that the way
that I respond I can't correctwith care if my wounds aren't
fully healed, because I'm goingto take that out on the child or
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the children that are under mycare.
So I want us to think aboutsomething that we'll pray for
this month is Lord, you know,show me what's not fully healed,
because I want healing in thisspace, I want healing with
broken heart, I want healingfrom disappointment.
Show me what, what it is thatyou know, because I don't want
to take this out on my child.
I don't want to take this outon my grandchild, my God child,
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my sister you know my siblingslike whoever's under your care.
You know, show me what are thethings that are not fully healed
and speak to my heart aboutthat and and help me, lord, to
be healed in that area.
And I got to tell you even, youknow, if we think about cause I
I'm on, I'm on the linkLinkedIn profile, like as we
speak, even as we think abouthow we show up, if we, if we, if
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we think about it, from how wecorrect or coach the folks that
we work with our colleagues.
A lot of us are still coachingand correcting people out of
wounds that are still not healed.
So I was treated poorly by myboss and I had to work this way
to get here.
So you're going to feel what Ifelt.
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That's absolutely ridiculous.
You can't coach people out of,out of fear.
You can't coach people withwith when you have scars that
are not fully healed, becausewhat you're doing is y'all is
doing the same principle that Italked about earlier.
Where you are, um, you're,you're yielding not a peaceful
fruit of righteousness, butyou're yielding a fruit of
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bitterness, right, and thatdoesn't work for anybody.
So I hope that helped y'all.
Again, just coming on these onesthis June one is a shorter,
quicker, you know coming onright, quick, to share these
with you, because these are someprinciples that I think we all
know and if you don't know, thisis a good you know.
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This is good education, right?
If you already know some ofthis, this is a good reminder.
Some of it is meant to prickyour heart a little bit.
I want us to really beintentional about how we treat
our kids, how we speak to ourkids and kids under our care.
We're in the month of June and,though I am praying for all and
everything to go right and welland that you're blessed in your
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life, part of what we alwaystalk about Christian folks we
always talk about wanting tobreak generational curses.
You have to do the work to dothat.
Part of breaking generationalcurses means that you've got to
know how to treat the nextgeneration, not just the ones
behind you, but the ones youhave under your care right now.
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You can't say you want to breakgenerational curses and then
continue treating kids the wayyou were just because that's how
grandma did it, that's how mamadid it, that's how mama did it
and that's the way I'm going todo it.
You're not going to breakanything or stop the cycle and
heal anything if you're doingthe same thing that you went
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through y'all.
We can't do that.
So, lord, I thank you for yourteaching this morning and
reminding us to correct withcare those that you have placed
under us, especially for folkswho keep asking for their
calling and their assignments.
That part of our assignment isto take care of those that you
have actually assigned to us,those under our rooms, whether
they're small children or adultchildren that have been moved on
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and moved out.
I pray that you'll prick theheart of every person under the
sound of my voice and you'llteach them.
If there's any scars that havebeen unhealed, if there's any
brokenness in their minds and intheir heart, any form of
disappointment that they stillcarry that still needs to be
healed, that they'll hear thismessage and they'll seek you out
, Lord, and that you'll showthem what they need to do.
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If they need counseling orcoaching or mentorship whatever
it is, the tools and resourcesthat you'll reveal it to them
and make it available to them sothat they can get the healing
that they need.
Lord, I thank you for those whoare listening here live and for
those who are watching thereplay, that you'll speak to
each of them and that you'veheard their cry.
I also ask for healing in thefamilies, lord God, families
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that have been broken andseparated.
I pray for fathers and motherswho are going through a lot this
season.
They can't provide like theydid before because of financial
needs that they have.
Lord, I also ask, lord, god,that you will bless them and
give them all the financialprotection and everything that
they need.
Pray for kids that are at thesummer camps.
Pray for all the teachers andadults that are caring for our
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kids.
That every hand Lord listenLord every hand that touches our
kids is a blessed one.
That our children are protectedthis summer and this will be a
fun one, an amazing one, aneducational one but every one of
our children, whether they areyoung or adult, that this will
be a blessed summer for them.
And all of these things I ask.
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I know that you'll touch everyfamily under the sun of my voice
and give them what they need.
Amen.
I pray that this summer, y'all,that we'll hear more laughter
than tears.
And if we hear tears, y'all, ifthere are tears, it's because
we laugh so hard we areexploding, right.
I swear.
I love the sound of laughterfrom kids.
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Kids, you're old and young.
I love the sound of laughterfrom kids.
So I pray that that floods yourhousehold this summer, that
their household is filled withlaughter from kids, that you
have joy in your heart and thatyou have joy in your house and
that you will correct with care.
All right, god bless you.
I love you.
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Thank you so much for checkingin with me.
I love seeing the chat y'all,so we're going to keep that
going.
Thank you so much forsupporting me.
Don't forget we have the prayerline one o'clock and seven
o'clock today For those of y'allwho are standing in need of
prayer.
I know we have folks that comeon and just listen.
That's all right, we stillcover you, so I hope that helps.
God bless you Y'all.
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Have an amazing rest of yourday.
Take care.
no-transcript.
(03:24):
Good morning y'all.
I'm trying something new.
I've got comments now that Ican actually see, so shout out
to StreamYard.
We need technology to work forus, to help us bring the message
forward, so I'm so excitedabout that, so I get to see
who's in the chat.
So good morning family andfriends.
For those, even if you'rewatching the replay, please drop
(03:44):
in the comments and let me knowwhere you're watching from.
We obviously have these livestreams, but we also show up on
the audio streets on all theaudio platforms, so Audible and
Spotify and pretty much whereveryou listen.
You can find the Mrs Pi podcast.
This is a podcast in someshapes and forms, but I'm
(04:08):
excited because we're in themonth of June and this month
we're focusing on our kids.
So, for those of y'all who arewhether it's your kids, your
bonus kids, stepkids, maybeyou're raising nieces and
nephews and we're talking aboutour children who are under our
care and again, they could beyounger, right, or they could be
(04:32):
adult kids.
So it's going to coverparenting essentially for the
month of June and I shared lastweek.
Part of the reason that Ireally was excited about this is
this is kind of the time ofyear our calendars change, our
finances are a little bitdifferent, y'all.
Because we have to.
We got to pay more.
You know, really was excitedabout this is this is kind of
the time of year our calendarschange, our finances are a
little bit different, y'all.
Because we have to.
We got to pay more.
You know.
We got to send the kids to camp, we got to pay for other
(04:53):
expenses.
You know it's very differentpaying for child care during the
summer months and it impactsour temperament, just being
honest, because our schedulesshift and all the things.
Right, if you're working in anoffice, you got to figure out
childcare and how to get all thethings when the kids aren't in
school.
So our response to how we treatthe kids this month is what
we're leaning in on.
(05:13):
So shout out to those who arewatching from Atlanta I feel
like we're in 40 days and 40nights of rain, but we're
grateful.
So we thank you Lord, becausewe do need the rain, but y'all,
we are tired.
We've seen enough.
We are tired, all right.
So I brought this scripture andI'm going to touch a little bit
on this.
I'm going to pray first andthen I'm going to go straight
(05:35):
into this scripture and here wego y'all and forgive me because
I'm also dealing with Atlantaallergies.
It is what it is.
So, first all, we thank you forthe wisdom and the understanding
that you'll give us today andfor all of us who have a heart
to serve the children thatyou've placed in our lives,
whether they are ours, meaningthat we are their mothers and
(05:55):
fathers, or those you put underour care.
I pray that you'll just help usto treat them a little bit
kinder and really think beforewe discipline and make sure that
we're disciplining with loveand showing greater care to
those you put in our lives.
So I pray that for every personauntie, uncle, mother, father,
sister and friend and communitymember that you'll speak to
(06:19):
their hearts this morning andthat they'll take this message
forward in their lives and applyit.
So thank you for blessing us.
Amen.
Y'all will pray for more stuffat the end, but we got to start
right.
So Hebrews 12, 11, this is theESV, a Shelley version, and it
says for the moment, alldiscipline seems painful rather
than pleasant, but later ityields the peaceful fruit of
(06:40):
righteousness to those who'vebeen trained by it.
For the moment, all disciplineseems painful rather than
pleasant.
So thank you, holy Spirit.
So let's break this down alittle bit and I'm going to give
you three things that I wantyou to think about.
I'm going to drop them in thechat, but there's three things
that I want us to think aboutand just be really mindful of
this month of June.
Now I said on other teachings,if you go back and look at
(07:03):
Monday morning and Tuesday nightand all the things, that we've
turned things up in June.
But this also means that how weare responding, we are turning
things up.
That doesn't mean like we'resetting things on fire.
That means that we're learningand engaging and we're kind of
doing things a little bitdifferent this month.
Ok, so for the moment, alldiscipline seems painful rather
(07:24):
than pleasant, is a very trickyone, and if you think about
discipline, quite frankly wedon't really want to be
disciplined.
We say we do.
We don't really appreciate it.
It is painful at the moment, ifyou think of, you know, some of
us, when we're disciplining ourchildren, it's hard for us to
discipline because we don't wantto see them break down and we
don't.
We don't want, we don't want todiscipline to the point where
(07:47):
we're destroying their character.
We're destroying their souls,right, we don't want to take it
that far, but there's a timespan.
So for the moment is a timespan.
It means that the disciplinethat we give our children isn't
supposed to echo throughgenerations y'all.
It's not supposed to be thekind of discipline where you
discipline your child in Juneand they're still feeling the
(08:10):
pain and the repercussions fromthat, the emotional scars from
that, in the future.
It's for the moment, right,there's a timestamp on it, and
though it seems painful ratherthan pleasant, something that we
have to be really careful of iswhen we're disciplining.
This is where we're coming outof love and if you think about
this y'all, even the way wetreat each other when we're
(08:33):
maybe adult to adult, the waywe're kind of disciplining each
other, maybe you're coursecorrecting a friend or a
colleague, a mentee, mentor,whatever, right, one of your
workers, whatever.
But the discipline isn't.
The discipline is structured.
You have to be, you know, youhave to consider like what are
you trying to yield?
What is the fruit you're tryingto yield?
(08:55):
It says later it yields.
It tells you later it yieldsthe peaceful fruit of
righteousness.
It's not supposed to be later.
It yields bitterness and scars,right when I was growing up.
I'm Jamaican, okay, and sotraining a child in the way they
grow was sometimes, it felt,very harsh, and yet sometimes it
(09:16):
felt it was steeped in love andso I would be corrected on some
things.
But I knew that behind it theintention was never to hurt me
into destruction, right, and yetthere were times where I felt
like these people are crazy,right, but I never had that
sense that I was beingdisciplined because they were
(09:39):
trying to destroy my characteror they were trying to cut
through the marrow y'all.
It was never like that and ityielded something.
So I want us to think aboutthat right it yields.
It's supposed to yield apeaceful fruit of righteousness
to those who've been trained byit.
So when we're thinking about howwe're interacting with our kids
this month and again, kidsunder your care, adult children,
(10:01):
adult kids who maybe they justgraduated from college and
they're still at home becausethey haven't found the right job
yet or they're struggling andthey're going through the things
, and there's some boundariesthat you have to set in the home
, right, but even as you'reapplying that level of
discipline, we're not supposedto make it so that it yields a
(10:22):
fruit of bitterness or it reallyscars and hurt our friends.
So we've got to be reallycareful about what we're doing
and how we apply it.
So I'm going to drop thesequestions because I want us to
think about these three things.
So just bear with me, I'm goingto grab it from another screen
and then I'm going to drop it inthe chat and we're going to
talk about it real quick.
So the first question that Iwant you to ask this month, when
(10:45):
you're correcting with care,the first question is what was
the intention?
What was the intention, y'all,when your kid did something
wrong?
Okay, what was the intention?
When they did something wrong,you feel like they got on your
nerve, they missed the deadlineor there was something that
required a level of yourresponse.
(11:07):
What was the intention?
When our kids do somethingwrong, their intention most time
is not to take a personal digor to hurt you.
You know, a lot of times wetake what our kids do so
personable.
We take such great offense atour children and yet some of the
things that they're doing y'allsome.
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Can I just say that some ofthose stupid things they do is
because they're in a season oflearning.
They don't know yet.
They don't know the rightanswers.
They have to experience things.
They don't know all that youknow.
They don't have the level ofexperiences that we have, right,
they haven't gone through thesame level of pain that we have.
So they are making mistakesbecause that is a part of their
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learning process, painful as itis right.
So the first question I want youto ask is what was the
intention?
Before you start discipline,before you start correcting, you
think about the intention.
Don't take great offense first.
That's not the first response,all right, so okay, so here's
the second question.
The second question I'm goingto drop in is is how am I
responding?
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And this is where y'all, wetake a pause.
But can I just say these arethe same questions.
I use these on the job as well.
So it's not just it's not, it'snot just something that I do
when I'm, you know, thinkingabout how I'm responding to my
daughter.
But let me grab this and drop itin the chat real quick.
It's how am I responding?
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Is it my feelings or is it fact?
Is it based on my feelings I'min my feelings about something
or is it factual base, like, howam I responding If, um, my
child um comes home late?
You know, passes a curfew.
Am I responding out of myfeelings, because I'm fearful?
I'm afraid that if you stay outlate and you go past the
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timeline that I gave you, youneed to be here.
I'm responding out of fearbecause I don't know what's
happening on the streets and nowI'm overreacting to what
happened, right?
Or is it a fact?
There's a pattern We've givenyou this boundary and you keep.
Maybe've given you this.
We've given you this, this,this boundary, and you're you
keep.
You know, maybe there's a thirdand fourth time and so it is
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fact-based meaning.
Now we have a trend to say thatyou're not respecting our
boundaries.
Is it fact-based or is itfeelings?
So I want you to check howyou're responding to your kids.
Right, that will take that.
That means that you can't justpop off when you're angry.
You can't just pop off out.
If you're responding out offeelings, you'll respond really
quickly.
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If you're responding based onfact, you'll take a moment,
you'll take a beat to thinkabout how you respond before you
respond.
So the first question was whatwas their intention?
Same principle we use withpeople we work with.
What was their intention?
The second one was how am Iresponding?
Is it feelings or is it fact?
All right.
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Now the third one is going tocause some of y'all to just be
you'll be mad at me, but that'sall right, so I'm going to go
ahead and drop it in here.
And this third one is we'regoing to sit on this one for a
second y'all, because this isone of those.
Some of us are still speakingfrom a place that's broken when
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we're speaking to our kids, andso we're reflecting
disappointments that we had, westill have.
So the third thing I want youto do is to be mindful of the
wounds, of your wounds.
Some of your wounds look likescars but they're not healed
fully, like you ever get a cutand it takes a while for it to
heal, and you might mess withthat thing and on the surface it
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looks like it's healed, but ifyou tap that thing long enough,
it starts to feel sore becauseit's not truly healed.
And so I want to advise us isto be mindful of the wounds that
you have.
Some of the wounds that youhave, of disappointment from
maybe your parenting, yourparenting skills, maybe the
mother or father of the child,the in-laws, like all the things
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.
I want you to be mindful of thewounds that you carry, we carry
right, because some of thewounds that we carry, they're
not fully healed.
It looks good, I look good, Ismell good, right, but some of
my wounds aren't fully healedand so that means that the way
that I respond I can't correctwith care if my wounds aren't
fully healed, because I'm goingto take that out on the child or
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the children that are under mycare.
So I want us to think aboutsomething that we'll pray for
this month is Lord, you know,show me what's not fully healed,
because I want healing in thisspace, I want healing with
broken heart, I want healingfrom disappointment.
Show me what, what it is thatyou know, because I don't want
to take this out on my child.
I don't want to take this outon my grandchild, my God child,
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my sister you know my siblingslike whoever's under your care.
You know, show me what are thethings that are not fully healed
and speak to my heart aboutthat and and help me, lord, to
be healed in that area.
And I got to tell you even, youknow, if we think about cause I
I'm on, I'm on the linkLinkedIn profile, like as we
speak, even as we think abouthow we show up, if we, if we, if
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we think about it, from how wecorrect or coach the folks that
we work with our colleagues.
A lot of us are still coachingand correcting people out of
wounds that are still not healed.
So I was treated poorly by myboss and I had to work this way
to get here.
So you're going to feel what Ifelt.
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That's absolutely ridiculous.
You can't coach people out of,out of fear.
You can't coach people withwith when you have scars that
are not fully healed, becausewhat you're doing is y'all is
doing the same principle that Italked about earlier.
Where you are, um, you're,you're yielding not a peaceful
fruit of righteousness, butyou're yielding a fruit of
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bitterness, right, and thatdoesn't work for anybody.
So I hope that helped y'all.
Again, just coming on these onesthis June one is a shorter,
quicker, you know coming onright, quick, to share these
with you, because these are someprinciples that I think we all
know and if you don't know, thisis a good you know.
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This is good education, right?
If you already know some ofthis, this is a good reminder.
Some of it is meant to prickyour heart a little bit.
I want us to really beintentional about how we treat
our kids, how we speak to ourkids and kids under our care.
We're in the month of June and,though I am praying for all and
everything to go right and welland that you're blessed in your
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life, part of what we alwaystalk about Christian folks we
always talk about wanting tobreak generational curses.
You have to do the work to dothat.
Part of breaking generationalcurses means that you've got to
know how to treat the nextgeneration, not just the ones
behind you, but the ones youhave under your care right now.
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You can't say you want to breakgenerational curses and then
continue treating kids the wayyou were just because that's how
grandma did it, that's how mamadid it, that's how mama did it
and that's the way I'm going todo it.
You're not going to breakanything or stop the cycle and
heal anything if you're doingthe same thing that you went
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through y'all.
We can't do that.
So, lord, I thank you for yourteaching this morning and
reminding us to correct withcare those that you have placed
under us, especially for folkswho keep asking for their
calling and their assignments.
That part of our assignment isto take care of those that you
have actually assigned to us,those under our rooms, whether
they're small children or adultchildren that have been moved on
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and moved out.
I pray that you'll prick theheart of every person under the
sound of my voice and you'llteach them.
If there's any scars that havebeen unhealed, if there's any
brokenness in their minds and intheir heart, any form of
disappointment that they stillcarry that still needs to be
healed, that they'll hear thismessage and they'll seek you out
, Lord, and that you'll showthem what they need to do.
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If they need counseling orcoaching or mentorship whatever
it is, the tools and resourcesthat you'll reveal it to them
and make it available to them sothat they can get the healing
that they need.
Lord, I thank you for those whoare listening here live and for
those who are watching thereplay, that you'll speak to
each of them and that you'veheard their cry.
I also ask for healing in thefamilies, lord God, families
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that have been broken andseparated.
I pray for fathers and motherswho are going through a lot this
season.
They can't provide like theydid before because of financial
needs that they have.
Lord, I also ask, lord, god,that you will bless them and
give them all the financialprotection and everything that
they need.
Pray for kids that are at thesummer camps.
Pray for all the teachers andadults that are caring for our
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kids.
That every hand Lord listenLord every hand that touches our
kids is a blessed one.
That our children are protectedthis summer and this will be a
fun one, an amazing one, aneducational one but every one of
our children, whether they areyoung or adult, that this will
be a blessed summer for them.
And all of these things I ask.
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I know that you'll touch everyfamily under the sun of my voice
and give them what they need.
Amen.
I pray that this summer, y'all,that we'll hear more laughter
than tears.
And if we hear tears, y'all, ifthere are tears, it's because
we laugh so hard we areexploding, right.
I swear.
I love the sound of laughterfrom kids.
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Kids, you're old and young.
I love the sound of laughterfrom kids.
So I pray that that floods yourhousehold this summer, that
their household is filled withlaughter from kids, that you
have joy in your heart and thatyou have joy in your house and
that you will correct with care.
All right, god bless you.
I love you.
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Thank you so much for checkingin with me.
I love seeing the chat y'all,so we're going to keep that
going.
Thank you so much forsupporting me.
Don't forget we have the prayerline one o'clock and seven
o'clock today For those of y'allwho are standing in need of
prayer.
I know we have folks that comeon and just listen.
That's all right, we stillcover you, so I hope that helps.
God bless you Y'all.
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Have an amazing rest of yourday.
Take care.
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