June 5, 2025 • 15 mins
We're starting a new series about raising kids with discipline and love, not perfection, focusing on speaking life and not labels into our children.
• Parenting is especially challenging during summer when schedules change and kids are home more
• "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit"
• Avoid using negative labels like "lazy" with your children
• Speak life by reminding kids of their value, talents, and the promises of God
• For adult children seeking jobs, offer support and connections instead of criticism
• Take time to listen to your children and what's happening in their lives
• Be self-aware of how you communicate with your kids
• Discipline through love rather than harsh words
• Extend kindness even to children outside your family who might need encouragement
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
no-transcript.
(03:21):
Good morning y'all.
And it's Thursday.
Come out of the wilderness.
If you hear that extra noise inthe background, it's time for
trash pick up in my neighborhood.
So we are a real.
We're a real family with reallives, and I'm so excited to be
back here.
So we are in the month of Juneand we've started a new series
(03:45):
and I think this was timely.
I'm going to just read my shownotes really quickly because I
want to stay on track.
Okay, so the way that I'mapproaching this month of June,
I started out in my show notesbasically saying that parenting
is hard and loving them throughthe mess is harder, and that
this June we're going to getreal about what it really means
to raise our kids withdiscipline and love, not
(04:05):
perfection.
And I think this is also verytimely for most of us, because
this is when you know kidsaren't in school right now.
They're on summer break.
Maybe you have a child that's Ikeep saying child and kids but
some of our kids are adults.
So maybe your child is in theadult phase, so they've just
(04:27):
graduated from high school,they're preparing for college,
or maybe your kids are, you know, they've graduated from college
and they're looking for jobs orthey've been looking for jobs
for a while.
They had to come home, and soour schedules change during the
summer versus when they're notaround.
Right, we're stepping some ofthe families, we're stepping
(04:49):
over each other and schedulingchanges all the things.
Also, what we want to thinkabout are those families who a
mom or dad or mom and dad havelost their jobs, lost their
income and you're trying to workyour way through.
How do you provide for yourkids this season?
So there's a lot of thingsthat's happening right now for
(05:10):
real.
So this is real talk.
Okay, for the month of June,we're going to talk about how we
approach Good morning familyand also if you're on the
LinkedIn streets and you'rewondering what's going on.
So there has been somethingstrange has been I'm not really,
I don't push how do you saythis?
(05:30):
I don't like push, uh,christianity or um, you know my
faith.
I don't.
I don't think I, I don't pushit, I just live the life Right
and uh, some of the things thatI've been learning over this
past, these past few months, isalso not being afraid to show up
.
This is my why.
This is part of um, how I showup, and so I've been growing on
(05:55):
LinkedIn, so I just want to saya quick shout out to the couple
hundred new people who showed upsince I don't know a couple
months ago.
So so, for those of y'all whoare watching this and like what
is going on, I still obviouslytalk about business and all of
those things, but these, theseThursday morning teachings, are
things that are going to beessentially it's a podcast, and
(06:17):
these are going to help you too,all right.
So, all that said, I want topull up a scripture and I want
to talk about this reallyquickly.
We all know this one, and I'malso going to try to use,
continue to use, scriptures thatwe're already familiar with,
because we have a tendency to,you know, read these scriptures
and just be like, yeah, I knowwhat that is, but we have to be
(06:38):
able to apply it right.
We read it, but we have toapply it to our lives.
We can't just say it, and Iactually had something happen to
me yesterday where it wasanother example of someone who I
don't know if she knew what shewas doing, but this person was
literally speaking death into me, into something.
It was crazy, but here we are,all right.
(07:00):
So the first week, this firstweek, we're talking about
speaking life and not labels,and basically what we're trying
to do this week y'all this isbetween us as parents.
So this is, whether you're amom, dad, grandma, auntie, uncle
, or you have your aunt takingcare of family, whatever If
you're in any proximity tochildren, kids and adult kids
(07:21):
that the thing we want to focuson is speaking life, not labels.
Labels meaning that we're notgoing to get into the habit this
month, especially when we'reexhausted and frustrated and
things are happening.
Our schedules are changing, youcan't find the money for camp
and all the things.
All right, kids are gettingsick.
We're not going to use labels.
So you're not going to use thewords like you're lazy you know
(07:44):
what I'm saying?
Like your teenager isn'tgetting up.
We're not going to use labels.
We're not going to put thoselabels on our kids.
We're going to speak life overthem.
The word says death and life arein the power of the tongue and
those who love it will eat itsfruit.
Now, some people love to benegative, nancy, and some people
love to be positive, polly.
(08:05):
Right that some people can'thelp themselves.
They can't wait to saysomething about you and your
kids and how you're raising yourkids and all the things you
should do.
Hello, in-laws, be quiet, takea seat right now.
Okay, for real.
And then you have people who,literally, they speak things to
their kids not knowing that it'sactually death what they're
(08:27):
saying.
So, for example, if you have anadult child right now who's
going through a tough timelooking for a job, it's not your
responsibility.
Come on, fam, it's not our jobright now to remind them that,
yeah, it's hard and you justneed to look harder, because
there are adults in the jobmarket looking for jobs for a
year, 18 months.
(08:48):
So we have to be moresupportive and speak life.
How do you speak life into anadult child that's looking for a
job right now?
Well, if you don't know, thenyou need to refer them to a
friend, maybe invite them toconnect with someone that you
know who might be good atworking on LinkedIn.
Or maybe you sit down with yourkid and you show them how to do
(09:09):
this, but you remind them thatthey have value and that they're
talented and they're gifted andthey're smart.
You remind them of the promisesof God.
You remind them that they areblessed and that they're
talented and they're gifted andthey're smart.
You remind them of the promisesof God.
You remind them that they areblessed and that they're not
cursed.
You remind them of who they are.
Some of you have kids who youknow they wanted to be an artist
and you might've been the onethat spoke death to that thing
(09:30):
and says you can't do it becausenobody in the family has done
it right.
So we've got to be careful.
No labels on your kids.
Again, we're not going to pullout the negative stuff.
Don't keep reminding your kidsof what they're doing wrong.
This month, let's remind ourkids of the things that they are
doing Right, right, let's leanin on that.
The same way, like in business,when you're on the job or if
(09:51):
you own a business, you don'twant your clients and customers,
you don't want your boss tokeep telling you how terrible
you are Right, you don't want tohear that.
So our kids don't need to hearthat.
So we're going to speak lifeinto them, the power of the
tongue and it says, and thosewho love it because some of us
who, again, we just love to hearourselves talk.
(10:12):
This month, let's, let's, let'sswitch it up a little bit and
enjoy listening to our kids,listen to what's happening in
their lives, listening to whatthey're saying.
You know, taking the time, youknow again, including myself
here we haven't, we haven'treally sat down.
You know, sat down and had adinner, because I don't have
that kind of time to cook.
I'm not.
(10:32):
I'm not doing that on Sunday,okay, but even bringing back
some of the things that workedbefore.
You know, family dinner if youneed to, if your kids don't live
with you, you can stillFaceTime them and eat dinner
together.
But the idea is that we need todo better at what we're saying
and speaking life into ourchildren.
Okay, why?
Because it yields certainfruits.
(10:54):
The more that you speak lifeinto your kids, right, the
better fruits that they yield.
And I don't mean like PollyannaPolly, where you just say
everything is all great.
And you know, don't try to makeup affirmations, don't make
this complicated.
We're going back to basics whenit comes to how we deal with
our kids and how we speak lifeinto them.
No labels, y'all.
So don't overcomplicate it,don't you know?
(11:17):
Don't you know?
Don't look for the negative.
Really think about what we aresaying to our kids.
Speak life, not labels.
It's really very simple, it'snot complicated at all, but I do
think, especially because wehave moved into the summer
months and, like I said, ourtemperament has changed, our
schedules have changed that wereally need to think about how
(11:38):
we are talking to our kids,right?
So this is it, y'all.
This is what I had, very, verysimple, good reminder.
I hope this is going to helpyou as you're going out Now by
the time this message is overand you've got to go and talk to
your kid if you're running late.
This is where you might need tobe reminded that the life are
in the power of the tongue.
(11:59):
So don't chastise and don't.
Maybe just for one day, you'llbe a self-aware all of us
self-aware of how we're speakingto our kids, and speaking
through love, you can disciplinethrough love and just I promise
you you're going to see apositive reaction out of it from
your kids.
All of our kids need to hearthis.
(12:19):
So I pray for every family, lord, under the sound of my voice, I
pray for all of our children,whether they are young or
they're teenagers or they'readult children, wherever they
are right now that you'll blessthem, I thank you for these
amazing children, our nieces andnephews, and all that you've
allowed these kids into ourlives.
We thank you that you're goingto bless them, lord.
(12:40):
We speak life over them.
That every child that'sconnected to each and every one
of us, they're blessed.
That everything they stand inneed of they will receive.
That they are healed, lord God.
That they will come to see yourgoodness today.
That doors will open for themof opportunity for our adult
children who are looking forjobs, even our teenage kids,
kids, lord God, at camp.
That you'll protect them and bewith them, lord, I ask that
(13:02):
you'll heal the kids that aresick, lord God, I especially ask
for you to bless Lord God andfind resources and help us give
us the power to be the resourcesand the blessings for those
kids who are homeless, kids whodon't have a place to go this
summer, kids who are lonely andabused, lord God, poor and needy
.
That you'll speak to the heartof every person under my voice.
(13:25):
That they will also want toserve those children.
That they'll work not just intheir families but also extend
to their communities and blessevery kid they see.
Lord God, I ask that you willgive us the blessings so that we
can do this and carry out thiswork.
So I thank you, lord, thatwe're going to keep speaking
life, even into kids that wedon't know.
Just a smile from an adult canchange a kid's life.
(13:47):
So I ask, lord, God, thatyou'll speak to our hearts so
that we'll be gentler in ourdiscipline and that you'll
forgive us for anything thatwe've done to hurt or harm our
kids or any child that'sattached to us.
And all these things we ask.
We thank you, lord, that you'vegiven us favor in business and
favor in every other area of ourlife.
I thank you for all of the newfolks who are joining the
(14:11):
community or following onLinkedIn.
That they'll be blessed inbusiness, that all of the ideas
and everything that they expectto gain and earn, lord, god,
that you'll bless them and givethem all the strategy they need.
That you'll continue to buildout this community far beyond
Facebook, far beyond YouTube,far beyond social media, but
you'll continue to use the threepraying sisters, lord, to touch
(14:33):
as many lives as we can.
So all of these things we ask,lord.
We thank you for this amazingmonth of June.
We are going to turn it up,lord, and we can do that with
your help, amen.
Going to turn it upward and wecan do that with your help.
Amen, y'all, that's what I have.
Thanks for hanging around,quick, short and dirty, but it's
still very powerful.
Death and life are in the powerof the tongue and we're going
(14:57):
to speak that into our kids.
No labels, y'all, just grace.
All right, I love you, don'tforget.
The prayer phone line is todayone and seven, and so y'all
please dial in.
It is open, it's free, and we'dlove to hear from you.
All right, be good to yourself.
I will talk to y'all next week.
Bye.
no-transcript.
(03:21):
Good morning y'all.
And it's Thursday.
Come out of the wilderness.
If you hear that extra noise inthe background, it's time for
trash pick up in my neighborhood.
So we are a real.
We're a real family with reallives, and I'm so excited to be
back here.
So we are in the month of Juneand we've started a new series
(03:45):
and I think this was timely.
I'm going to just read my shownotes really quickly because I
want to stay on track.
Okay, so the way that I'mapproaching this month of June,
I started out in my show notesbasically saying that parenting
is hard and loving them throughthe mess is harder, and that
this June we're going to getreal about what it really means
to raise our kids withdiscipline and love, not
(04:05):
perfection.
And I think this is also verytimely for most of us, because
this is when you know kidsaren't in school right now.
They're on summer break.
Maybe you have a child that's Ikeep saying child and kids but
some of our kids are adults.
So maybe your child is in theadult phase, so they've just
(04:27):
graduated from high school,they're preparing for college,
or maybe your kids are, you know, they've graduated from college
and they're looking for jobs orthey've been looking for jobs
for a while.
They had to come home, and soour schedules change during the
summer versus when they're notaround.
Right, we're stepping some ofthe families, we're stepping
(04:49):
over each other and schedulingchanges all the things.
Also, what we want to thinkabout are those families who a
mom or dad or mom and dad havelost their jobs, lost their
income and you're trying to workyour way through.
How do you provide for yourkids this season?
So there's a lot of thingsthat's happening right now for
(05:10):
real.
So this is real talk.
Okay, for the month of June,we're going to talk about how we
approach Good morning familyand also if you're on the
LinkedIn streets and you'rewondering what's going on.
So there has been somethingstrange has been I'm not really,
I don't push how do you saythis?
(05:30):
I don't like push, uh,christianity or um, you know my
faith.
I don't.
I don't think I, I don't pushit, I just live the life Right
and uh, some of the things thatI've been learning over this
past, these past few months, isalso not being afraid to show up
.
This is my why.
This is part of um, how I showup, and so I've been growing on
(05:55):
LinkedIn, so I just want to saya quick shout out to the couple
hundred new people who showed upsince I don't know a couple
months ago.
So so, for those of y'all whoare watching this and like what
is going on, I still obviouslytalk about business and all of
those things, but these, theseThursday morning teachings, are
things that are going to beessentially it's a podcast, and
(06:17):
these are going to help you too,all right.
So, all that said, I want topull up a scripture and I want
to talk about this reallyquickly.
We all know this one, and I'malso going to try to use,
continue to use, scriptures thatwe're already familiar with,
because we have a tendency to,you know, read these scriptures
and just be like, yeah, I knowwhat that is, but we have to be
(06:38):
able to apply it right.
We read it, but we have toapply it to our lives.
We can't just say it, and Iactually had something happen to
me yesterday where it wasanother example of someone who I
don't know if she knew what shewas doing, but this person was
literally speaking death into me, into something.
It was crazy, but here we are,all right.
(07:00):
So the first week, this firstweek, we're talking about
speaking life and not labels,and basically what we're trying
to do this week y'all this isbetween us as parents.
So this is, whether you're amom, dad, grandma, auntie, uncle
, or you have your aunt takingcare of family, whatever If
you're in any proximity tochildren, kids and adult kids
(07:21):
that the thing we want to focuson is speaking life, not labels.
Labels meaning that we're notgoing to get into the habit this
month, especially when we'reexhausted and frustrated and
things are happening.
Our schedules are changing, youcan't find the money for camp
and all the things.
All right, kids are gettingsick.
We're not going to use labels.
So you're not going to use thewords like you're lazy you know
(07:44):
what I'm saying?
Like your teenager isn'tgetting up.
We're not going to use labels.
We're not going to put thoselabels on our kids.
We're going to speak life overthem.
The word says death and life arein the power of the tongue and
those who love it will eat itsfruit.
Now, some people love to benegative, nancy, and some people
love to be positive, polly.
(08:05):
Right that some people can'thelp themselves.
They can't wait to saysomething about you and your
kids and how you're raising yourkids and all the things you
should do.
Hello, in-laws, be quiet, takea seat right now.
Okay, for real.
And then you have people who,literally, they speak things to
their kids not knowing that it'sactually death what they're
(08:27):
saying.
So, for example, if you have anadult child right now who's
going through a tough timelooking for a job, it's not your
responsibility.
Come on, fam, it's not our jobright now to remind them that,
yeah, it's hard and you justneed to look harder, because
there are adults in the jobmarket looking for jobs for a
year, 18 months.
(08:48):
So we have to be moresupportive and speak life.
How do you speak life into anadult child that's looking for a
job right now?
Well, if you don't know, thenyou need to refer them to a
friend, maybe invite them toconnect with someone that you
know who might be good atworking on LinkedIn.
Or maybe you sit down with yourkid and you show them how to do
(09:09):
this, but you remind them thatthey have value and that they're
talented and they're gifted andthey're smart.
You remind them of the promisesof God.
You remind them that they areblessed and that they're
talented and they're gifted andthey're smart.
You remind them of the promisesof God.
You remind them that they areblessed and that they're not
cursed.
You remind them of who they are.
Some of you have kids who youknow they wanted to be an artist
and you might've been the onethat spoke death to that thing
(09:30):
and says you can't do it becausenobody in the family has done
it right.
So we've got to be careful.
No labels on your kids.
Again, we're not going to pullout the negative stuff.
Don't keep reminding your kidsof what they're doing wrong.
This month, let's remind ourkids of the things that they are
doing Right, right, let's leanin on that.
The same way, like in business,when you're on the job or if
(09:51):
you own a business, you don'twant your clients and customers,
you don't want your boss tokeep telling you how terrible
you are Right, you don't want tohear that.
So our kids don't need to hearthat.
So we're going to speak lifeinto them, the power of the
tongue and it says, and thosewho love it because some of us
who, again, we just love to hearourselves talk.
(10:12):
This month, let's, let's, let'sswitch it up a little bit and
enjoy listening to our kids,listen to what's happening in
their lives, listening to whatthey're saying.
You know, taking the time, youknow again, including myself
here we haven't, we haven'treally sat down.
You know, sat down and had adinner, because I don't have
that kind of time to cook.
I'm not.
(10:32):
I'm not doing that on Sunday,okay, but even bringing back
some of the things that workedbefore.
You know, family dinner if youneed to, if your kids don't live
with you, you can stillFaceTime them and eat dinner
together.
But the idea is that we need todo better at what we're saying
and speaking life into ourchildren.
Okay, why?
Because it yields certainfruits.
(10:54):
The more that you speak lifeinto your kids, right, the
better fruits that they yield.
And I don't mean like PollyannaPolly, where you just say
everything is all great.
And you know, don't try to makeup affirmations, don't make
this complicated.
We're going back to basics whenit comes to how we deal with
our kids and how we speak lifeinto them.
No labels, y'all.
So don't overcomplicate it,don't you know?
(11:17):
Don't you know?
Don't look for the negative.
Really think about what we aresaying to our kids.
Speak life, not labels.
It's really very simple, it'snot complicated at all, but I do
think, especially because wehave moved into the summer
months and, like I said, ourtemperament has changed, our
schedules have changed that wereally need to think about how
(11:38):
we are talking to our kids,right?
So this is it, y'all.
This is what I had, very, verysimple, good reminder.
I hope this is going to helpyou as you're going out Now by
the time this message is overand you've got to go and talk to
your kid if you're running late.
This is where you might need tobe reminded that the life are
in the power of the tongue.
(11:59):
So don't chastise and don't.
Maybe just for one day, you'llbe a self-aware all of us
self-aware of how we're speakingto our kids, and speaking
through love, you can disciplinethrough love and just I promise
you you're going to see apositive reaction out of it from
your kids.
All of our kids need to hearthis.
(12:19):
So I pray for every family, lord, under the sound of my voice, I
pray for all of our children,whether they are young or
they're teenagers or they'readult children, wherever they
are right now that you'll blessthem, I thank you for these
amazing children, our nieces andnephews, and all that you've
allowed these kids into ourlives.
We thank you that you're goingto bless them, lord.
(12:40):
We speak life over them.
That every child that'sconnected to each and every one
of us, they're blessed.
That everything they stand inneed of they will receive.
That they are healed, lord God.
That they will come to see yourgoodness today.
That doors will open for themof opportunity for our adult
children who are looking forjobs, even our teenage kids,
kids, lord God, at camp.
That you'll protect them and bewith them, lord, I ask that
(13:02):
you'll heal the kids that aresick, lord God, I especially ask
for you to bless Lord God andfind resources and help us give
us the power to be the resourcesand the blessings for those
kids who are homeless, kids whodon't have a place to go this
summer, kids who are lonely andabused, lord God, poor and needy
.
That you'll speak to the heartof every person under my voice.
(13:25):
That they will also want toserve those children.
That they'll work not just intheir families but also extend
to their communities and blessevery kid they see.
Lord God, I ask that you willgive us the blessings so that we
can do this and carry out thiswork.
So I thank you, lord, thatwe're going to keep speaking
life, even into kids that wedon't know.
Just a smile from an adult canchange a kid's life.
(13:47):
So I ask, lord, God, thatyou'll speak to our hearts so
that we'll be gentler in ourdiscipline and that you'll
forgive us for anything thatwe've done to hurt or harm our
kids or any child that'sattached to us.
And all these things we ask.
We thank you, lord, that you'vegiven us favor in business and
favor in every other area of ourlife.
I thank you for all of the newfolks who are joining the
(14:11):
community or following onLinkedIn.
That they'll be blessed inbusiness, that all of the ideas
and everything that they expectto gain and earn, lord, god,
that you'll bless them and givethem all the strategy they need.
That you'll continue to buildout this community far beyond
Facebook, far beyond YouTube,far beyond social media, but
you'll continue to use the threepraying sisters, lord, to touch
(14:33):
as many lives as we can.
So all of these things we ask,lord.
We thank you for this amazingmonth of June.
We are going to turn it up,lord, and we can do that with
your help, amen.
Going to turn it upward and wecan do that with your help.
Amen, y'all, that's what I have.
Thanks for hanging around,quick, short and dirty, but it's
still very powerful.
Death and life are in the powerof the tongue and we're going
(14:57):
to speak that into our kids.
No labels, y'all, just grace.
All right, I love you, don'tforget.
The prayer phone line is todayone and seven, and so y'all
please dial in.
It is open, it's free, and we'dlove to hear from you.
All right, be good to yourself.
I will talk to y'all next week.
Bye.
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