166 - Between monogamy and polyamory

In this episode Nicoleta explores relationships and happiness with Jessica Fern, psychotherapist from North Carolina, USA.

 

How we grow up with the unconscious expectations of fun, pleasure and excitement

When the happiness is more the byproduct than the goal itself

Presence, contentment and gratitude as the source of happiness

The neglect surrounding an “easy child” perceived as not-needy

Understanding transgenerational trauma

Why our nervous system is key in happiness

Connected with people and feeling alive supporting others

From psychology to somatic healing and international conflict resolution

How education and mentoring shapes our choices and actions in life

Are there many ways to do love and relationships?

The romantic ideal as the fairy tale happiness

Why statistically 25% to 50% of people pretend to be monogamous 

The experience of consensual non-monogamy  

Monogamy between default programming and the conscious choice 

Deconstructing the social construct of monogamy

We are in the early stages of accepting polyamory

When states and cities see polyamory as a protected characteristic

How to cultivate secure attachment and feel polysecure?

Polyamory as an expression of who you are

The stress of opening relationship in the paradigm of love

How to deal with a reluctant partner to open a relationship

When you feel “I love you, but that does not mean we are compatible”

More love, more diversity, more sexual experiences and more resources in polyamory

Using polyamory as a path to awakening 

Alternative sexuality and the move towards the non-binary 

Healing trauma in the LGBTQ and polyamorous communities 

Reembody, connect with the earth, and be grateful

 

 Connect with Jessica here: https://www.jessicafern.com