May 27, 2026 • 39 mins
It's the WORST when people "hide" information or help because they think it will help them get ahead or gain respect...psychology tells us it will do the opposite.
In this Good Stuff episode about filling our lives with community, I unpack why we're prone to gatekeeping and why it ultimately works against us. In fact, sharing knowledge, connections, and resources freely is the key to building real community and personal success.
What you'll learn:
The three mental traps that make gatekeeping feel logical—even when it isn't
Why sharing what you know actually deepens your own expertise through the "protege effect"
How weak ties and becoming a connector can open doors your closest relationships never could
...and more.
If you're ready to stop protecting your seat at the table and start making the table bigger, this one's for you.
MENTIONED THIS EPISODE:
Ep 45: Determining Your Priorities with Ashli Pollard
Ep 39: How Living with Less Inspires Generosity with Glen Van Peski
Ep 150: How Our Surroundings Shape Our Lives with Leidy Klotz
The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell
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