November 27, 2025 • 22 mins
The cessation of communication from our loved ones can evoke feelings of abandonment and confusion. This episode delves deeply into the reasons why such a silence may occur, asserting that it is not indicative of their departure or abandonment. Instead, it is often a reflection of our own evolution and acceptance in the grieving process. I emphasize that rather than viewing this lack of communication as a loss, it may signify a transition towards a healthier understanding of our relationship with those who have passed. Through this exploration, we aim to provide clarity and comfort, reminding listeners that their loved ones remain connected, albeit in a different manner than before.
Communication with departed loved ones often ceases, leading the bereaved to question the reasons behind this abrupt silence. Throughout this episode of 'Pillars of Grief', we explore the multifaceted nature of such experiences, emphasizing that the cessation of contact is not indicative of abandonment. Rather, it is essential to understand that the dynamics of these spiritual connections can evolve. As individuals navigate their grief, they may find themselves moving towards acceptance, which in turn alters their reliance on constant communication with those who have passed. It is imperative to recognize that loved ones do not abandon the bereaved; instead, they encourage personal growth and healing by stepping back, allowing the living to embrace life anew. This discussion sheds light on the nuances of grief, emphasizing the importance of understanding the emotional journey that accompanies the loss of communication with loved ones in the spirit realm.
Takeaways:
- Communication from loved ones may diminish not due to their absence, but rather your emotional evolution and acceptance of their presence in the spirit world.
- The cessation of messages from departed loved ones can signify a healthy transition in your grief journey, allowing for personal growth and acceptance.
- It is vital to recognize that loved ones do not abandon us; instead, they may refrain from constant communication to encourage our own development and healing.
- Grief is a complex process, and understanding that loved ones wish for us to live fully can aid in reconciling feelings of abandonment or loss.
- The misconception that loved ones have moved on to a different level can lead to feelings of isolation; they remain connected but may wish not to be used as a crutch in our grief.
- Accepting that communication may fluctuate is essential; it reflects our own journey through grief and the evolving relationship we maintain with those we have lost.
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(00:01):
Hello, my friends.
Welcome back to Pillars of Grief.
And this is the secondinstallment on my series that I'm
doing all about the afterlifeand all the questions that you want
to know, you want to learnabout, and questions that I get asked
about the time.
So when we come back, we'regoing to dive into that question.
(00:22):
So make sure you stay with usand also stay with us to the end,
because I'm going to be makinga little announcement about my group,
as long as I don't forget todo do that, because sometimes they
do.
But join me in a moment whenwe're going to dive into the next
question, which I'm sure is onyour mind and many, many other people.
(00:43):
God bless.
Grief is a natural part oflife, and we all experience it at
some point, by becoming awareof our emotions in the process of
grief, we can begin to acceptand move through our pain.
(01:04):
Acceptance doesn't mean thatwe forget or stop feeling the loss,
but it allows us to come toterms with it.
And finally, we can choose tohonor our loved ones by celebrating
their life and finding meaningin our grief.
Join me as we explore thesePillars of Grief and how they can
help us navigate the journeyof grief.
(01:24):
We will explore this journeytogether and you will hear from experiencers,
experts and researchers.
I'm Jock Brokus, and this isthe Pillars of Grief.
Okay, guys, welcome back toPillars of Grief.
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So here's the thing.
I get asked this question allthe time, and it's, why do my loved
ones stop communicating with me?
Why have they.
I used to have communication.
I got communication regularly.
I heard from my mother, myfather, or, you know, my sister,
brother, whatever, whoever,even your friend.
(02:08):
And it's often quitedisconcerting because you kind of
feel a bit abandoned.
You feel like, well, I feellost again.
Or maybe they've gone.
And I have so many people thatcome to me and they'll say, well,
you know, is it becausethey've gone on to another level?
Is there different levels inthe spirit world then?
(02:30):
Yeah, there is differentlevels in the spirit world, but it's
not as clean and clear as wewould think, right?
Because the minute we thinkabout our loved ones communicating
and you have to think aboutthis, it's not that they've gone
(02:52):
on.
They haven't gone on to adifferent level.
A lot of people will say, andsome other mediums will say, yeah,
they've gone on a different level.
They're not communicating theway, or.
They'Ve.
Kind of evolved in the spiritworld, and therefore they're at A
higher vibration.
And they can't.
(03:13):
I've heard all that.
They can't communicate with me.
It's a load of rubbish.
Or it's that they have gone onto a job, they're doing another job
in the spirit world and theydon't have time.
And the problem is that thenthat does actually create some kind
of trigger in you, and itmakes you feel that you're abandoned
(03:37):
again and it makes that griefmaybe kind of rear its head.
Not that I've always said wecan't heal through grief.
Grief is something that wehave to integrate.
So let me just answer this question.
When you experienced signsfrom your loved ones, right, Or I'm
pulling my chair over here,I'll have a wee lean on this.
(04:01):
When you've experienced yourloved ones coming through, you've
experienced many messages.
You've maybe even dreamt aboutthem, right?
And then all of a sudden it stops.
Now, I did a video on this along, long time ago.
But I want to kind of go intoit a little bit more.
And again, I'll go into deeperin the course that I have in my community.
(04:26):
But here's what I want to tell you.
They haven't gone, right?
They haven't gone.
They haven't disappeared, andthey haven't gone on to the different
levels in the spirit worldeither, that you can't communicate
with them anymore.
And it's not that they've goneon and they've got a new job in the
spirit world and then theydon't have time for you anymore.
Because imagine, imaginefeeling like.
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Imagine, like, thinking, well,you know, my mother's too busy and
she don't come through.
She don't bother about me anymore.
It kind of can cause a littlebit of, you know, a bit of a psychological
imbalance, a mental healthissue there when you think about
it, right?
So I don't want you to thinkabout that.
Guys, what I'll tell you is this.
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The reason that they're notcommunicating as much is not because
they have evolved.
It's actually because you'veevolved, right?
And also there could beanother reason potentially, and it
might be your level of griefthat you're experiencing.
(05:33):
So if you think about it, ifyou're so used to communicating,
I know people that arecommunicating with their loved ones
regularly, and then it becomesa bit of a crutch, right?
It becomes they feel that theycan't live in the world because they
have to be in constantcommunication with their loved one.
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That is not a good thing.
That's not you evolving,that's not you moving on.
And it doesn't mean that ifyou move on that you forget about
them.
But you have come to rely onthat communication.
Know on the other side thatit's not healthy for you not to live
your life.
It's not healthy for you tojust keep holding on and trying to
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communicate, you know, constantly.
Because you're not goingthrough your journey the way that
you should be.
And so the other reason isthat you have evolved and you're
happy and you know they'realive and you know that they're on
the other side.
And there's an element ofpeace inside you.
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And so because there's thatelement of peace inside you and that
acceptance, you've becomeaware of their presence.
You become aware of the signsrunning about you.
You become aware of may bethem dreams.
And so you're happy.
You know that they're still alive.
You know that they're in thespirit world, in the heavenly realms.
And you know they're nottrapped, as a lot of other people
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will say, they're trapped inbetween this realm and that realm
or they're trapped on thislevel of the spirit world.
That's just a lot of rubbish, right?
It's not that they're trappedand it's not really.
It's for your benefit.
They don't want you holding onto them as a crutch.
They don't want you toconstantly have to feel that you're
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always gonna be in touch withthem because that's not healthy for
you.
That doesn't mean that you getto a point of acceptance and go through
your journey.
And like I said, on the otherside of the coin is that yeah, you
have accepted them, right?
You've accepted that they'rethere and you know they're alive
and so you're happy.
So they don't have to comethrough as much as what they did
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before because you've come aplace of acceptance.
Like I don't hear from my dadevery single day and now I don't
hear from my friend Sheila ormy mother in law because I know they're
alive, I know they're there.
I've accepted it, my wife hasaccepted it.
But every now and again, yes,we do hear from them.
It doesn't stop them coming to you.
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It just gets to the pointwhere you have become aware that
they're still alive and thatthey're moving on in their life because
there's an element, and I'vetalked about this before as well,
and certainly in my othervideos, there's an element of selfishness
and grief because it's all about.
Well, they've left me.
It's all about my loss and mythis and me and me.
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And me and me.
And we tend to forget aboutour loved ones on the other side
are trying to live their lifeon the other side.
Cause they've got a life onthe other side.
They want to learn things,they want to develop.
It's not that they're going onto different levels, ladies and gentlemen.
They're not doing that.
And then getting more and moredistant from you.
It's only one or two things.
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Things.
And that's what I said.
It's either that they don'twant you to utilize them as a crutch
so that you cannot movethrough your grief and integrate
it, or two, that you've cometo that acceptance that they are
in the spirit world, they arehappy, and that you can live your
life here and they can livetheir life there and you can still
communicate.
That's really important tounderstand, ladies and gentlemen.
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So don't think about that.
They're going on and I'm beingabandoned again.
That's not true.
And they're not moving on todifferent realms.
Yes, there's levels in thespirit world.
Of course there is.
There's lower levels, there'shigher levels.
Grieving can be a lonely andisolating experience, but it doesn't
(09:30):
have to be.
Join my free online supportcommunity for those who are on a
grieving journey.
This community is a safe spacewhere you can receive education,
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because of grief, you don'thave to go through it alone.
(09:54):
Join the online communitytoday and walk the journey together.
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It goes back to, you know, inthe Bible, Jesus said, there's many
mansions in my Father's house.
Which kind of is indicative ofthe different levels within the spirit
realms, vibrational levels, ifyou like.
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Then there's a lot of peopleout there that have these theories
and conspiracy theories thatthey don't cross over.
There's a false light, they goto the false light.
They get trapped betweenthese, or they get almost.
I've heard this as well, thatthey get kidnapped by aliens, other
spirit beings.
I mean, really, it's just ridiculous.
It doesn't do you any Good.
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And it doesn't do you any goodfor your grieving process either.
But to recognize that you.
You don't need them, right?
In order for you, they wantyou to live.
They're still connected to you.
They'll still send you signs.
And the other thing is that ifyou're not dreaming about them as
much again, it's either thatyou've come to an acceptance that
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you're going through.
It might even mean thatthey're not.
Let's say it was a relationship.
Let's say it was a husband ora wife or a girlfriend, boyfriend.
Then they've crossed over, andthey may have that not disconnection,
but they may have not beencommunicating you as much because
they know maybe there'sanother relationship about to come
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into your life.
Maybe that's part of this process.
And so they don't want, youknow, they want you to continue on.
They've maybe orchestrated youconnecting with someone else, whether
it's a love relationship,whether it's just a friend relationship,
whether it's a relationshipthat's been orchestrated in the spirit
world to help you move throughthings, that doesn't matter.
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The fact is they're seeing this.
They know what's going to happen.
And so it's maybe beenorchestrated that side.
So they tend to then don'tconnect with you as much because
they don't want you to have anegative outcome.
They don't want you have anegative feeling about it or to feel
any element of guilt or shameor anything like that.
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So you have to come to a pointwhere you get.
You become happy in your life,that you know that they're still
there and that you cancommunicate with them, but they don't
necessarily have to be at yourbeck and call.
And that's why I say this.
We have a selfishness in our grief.
Even losing, you know, familymembers that Joe and I had lost this
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year, we've tripped ourselvesinto that.
You know, we're angry thatthey left us.
We're angry that mom left us.
We're angry that Sheila leftus and our friends and that have
crossed over.
And that's kind of the angerdown to us.
It's how we feel.
Everybody sit down.
Now.
You want to see me coming down?
If you're listening on thepodcast, you won't see this, but
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I'm just putting my.
You see in the background, ifyou're watching.
That's me and the Queen motherin the background.
Anyway.
Okay, now I go down here.
So I don't want you to getyourself in a bit of a. Tis was right
thinking that they're notcommunicating for any other reason.
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And there's so many peopleyou've got to think about.
There's so many people.
I know.
I knew a woman many, manyyears ago who had affected communication
with her husband but couldn'tmove on because she was continually
trying to connect with her husband.
Continually, constantly tryingto connect.
And she wasn't moving on inher life.
And she couldn't.
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She couldn't really let go.
Now, that's not healthy foryour mental health.
That's not a good thing, right?
Because you can't live your life.
It was getting to the pointwhere she wouldn't go to a restaurant,
she wouldn't go out, shewouldn't go for the weekend because
she wanted to do communication.
She was meditating all the time.
She was trying to connect.
She was even utilizing a Ouija board.
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That's not healthy, really,and it's not healthy.
So let me just reiterate this point.
Your loved ones will know howyou are mentally.
They'll feel the energy thatyou've come to a point of acceptance.
And they don't need to be there.
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They don't have to be thatcrutch for you.
And so there's no need forthem to be constantly in connection
with you because they'll be inconnection with you when it means
something or when they feelthat you're ready to accept it.
And they'll maybe just sendyou a little sign around you or you'll
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dream about them maybe downthe road.
And as I've said many, manytimes, I haven't once dreamt in my
father.
Not once.
Right.
So don't be upset.
In fact, thinking that you'renot even that you don't dream about
your loved one because there'sso many other ways you get signs.
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And I've got to the point Idon't always hear from my dad because
I've got to the point I knowhe's alive, I know he's busy.
I know he's learning things.
I know he's developing.
I don't have to hear from him constantly.
But it's nice every now andagain that I get to hear him.
And I also recognize that if Iwas continually trying to connect,
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it means that I'm notintegrating my grief journey.
I'm not integrating it.
I'm not accepting it andmoving through it and learning from
it.
Because remember, I've saidmany, many times, grief can be your
greatest teacher or yourgreatest Nemesis.
It's really down to you, right?
It's really down to how you gothrough this.
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So, you know, there you go,ladies and gentlemen, this is really
what it boils down to, is thatyour loved ones have another vibration.
They haven't gone on toanother layer within the spirit world
and left you abandoned thatyou felt they were before.
It's just that they know.
They don't want you to justutilize them as a crutch and not
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go through your journey andnot learn from it.
They want you to live your life.
They want you to go and meetnew people.
They want you to come.
Because life is the greatestgift that we are given.
Don't spoil it.
Experiences in this world arethe greatest things that we can have.
Even the negative andfrustrating things, what we all go
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through, it's not about politics.
It's not about material things.
It's about the experiences oflearning to live in a beautiful world,
in a world that has so muchmore benefit than we see anything
that's negative.
Don't get me wrong.
Yes, there's bad in the world.
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There's bad in the spiritworld, there's good in the spirit
world, there's good in this world.
You know, we only know thesethings because the polar opposites,
because we get to experience them.
Experience is a fundamentalimportance to our existence and even
our experience of grief andthe learning, the lessons that we
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can have going through.
So if you're a person that'sconstantly trying to connect with
your loved ones and thenyou're getting upset because they're
not responding to you withyour expectation, then ask yourself
the question, am I beingselfish in my grief?
Am I not allowing them to livetheir life?
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Are you to the point where youcan't experience the rest your life
because you feel you're beingjudged or you feel that the connection's
not all the time, that's not good.
Or is it great that you feelthat, okay, I want to experience
life, and you know, they'rethere and you can still connect with
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them when you want.
You can still send a thought out.
Just don't have thatexpectation that one, I have to have
a dream or I have to have a sign.
I have to be in communicationwith them all the time.
And also remember that there'speople out there that think they're
in communication all the time,and they're not.
They're actually creating thecommunication in their own mind.
They don't have any signs,they don't have any evidence, but
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that's because there'ssomething there that they're needing.
They're needing that connection.
They can't let go, they can'tlearn from their grief.
And so that can be another issue.
It can be a mental healthproblem, it can be a mental health
issue, it can be a catalysteven to psychosis.
So there you go, guys.
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Your loved ones don't juststop communicating because they've
left you and gone on in youand better things.
They want you to experiencelife and they don't want you to use
them as a crutch.
And that's a simpleexplanation for it.
And even if they are evolving,which they will do on the other side,
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it doesn't stop themcommunicating with you and it doesn't
stop them visiting you, itdoesn't stop them seeing you.
But you don't have to use themas a crutch.
You need to come to the placeof acceptance that they're still
alive, that they're overthere, they're learning, they're
growing, they're developing.
And that the fact that they'renot communicating with you as much
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maybe means that you'relearning, you're developing, and
that's a good thing.
Ladies and gentlemen, ifyou've got any questions, then please
reach out to me.
Thank you for joining me today.
Again, it's just a quick one.
This is, you know, seriously,question number two.
Why do my loved ones stopconnecting with me or stop communicating
(19:41):
with me?
They don't.
It's really down to you.
Right, so I was going to saymention towards the end, here it
is, getting the holiday season.
I'm going to keep this going,but I'm going to have a little celebration
if you like, a littleremembrance service, something small
within my community, if you'rea member of the community.
(20:02):
I'm going to be announcingthis over the holiday season where
we're going to get together,we're going to say some prayers,
we're going to share somememories, we're going to light candles
and we're going to rememberour loved ones.
This is not for mediums, it'snot for people who are on a grief
journey, who want to learn.
You can come in.
If you're part of thecommunity, you're already going to
get an invite.
If you're not part of mycommunity, then connect with me.
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Go onto my website,jobbrokers.com grief group, put in
the application form, come andjoin the community.
And then over the holidayseason, we're going to have a couple
of little services, littleprayers, little get together.
I want to remember my father,I want to remember my mother in law,
I want to remember Sheila.
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So this is not about meteaching her in.
It's about us gettingtogether, our loved ones and maybe
even sharing some stories.
Maybe even if you want to comeforward and say something or put
some kind of memory through,then that's what we're going to do.
This is my invitation to youguys, so I'll be doing another question
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answer another question very soon.
So if you've got any questionsabout this question, then do ask
that.
Just remember they haven'tgone on, they haven't abandoned you.
They just don't want you torely on them.
They want you to experiencelife and go through it.
And again, let me reiterate ifyou're already aware and embracing
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the lessons in your givingjourney because they don't need to.
They know that you're happy.
They don't need to communicatewith you, but it won't stop them
sending you signs and watchingover you.
God Bless.
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God Bless.
Hello, my friends.
Welcome back to Pillars of Grief.
And this is the secondinstallment on my series that I'm
doing all about the afterlifeand all the questions that you want
to know, you want to learnabout, and questions that I get asked
about the time.
So when we come back, we'regoing to dive into that question.
(00:22):
So make sure you stay with usand also stay with us to the end,
because I'm going to be makinga little announcement about my group,
as long as I don't forget todo do that, because sometimes they
do.
But join me in a moment whenwe're going to dive into the next
question, which I'm sure is onyour mind and many, many other people.
(00:43):
God bless.
Grief is a natural part oflife, and we all experience it at
some point, by becoming awareof our emotions in the process of
grief, we can begin to acceptand move through our pain.
(01:04):
Acceptance doesn't mean thatwe forget or stop feeling the loss,
but it allows us to come toterms with it.
And finally, we can choose tohonor our loved ones by celebrating
their life and finding meaningin our grief.
Join me as we explore thesePillars of Grief and how they can
help us navigate the journeyof grief.
(01:24):
We will explore this journeytogether and you will hear from experiencers,
experts and researchers.
I'm Jock Brokus, and this isthe Pillars of Grief.
Okay, guys, welcome back toPillars of Grief.
(01:47):
So here's the thing.
I get asked this question allthe time, and it's, why do my loved
ones stop communicating with me?
Why have they.
I used to have communication.
I got communication regularly.
I heard from my mother, myfather, or, you know, my sister,
brother, whatever, whoever,even your friend.
(02:08):
And it's often quitedisconcerting because you kind of
feel a bit abandoned.
You feel like, well, I feellost again.
Or maybe they've gone.
And I have so many people thatcome to me and they'll say, well,
you know, is it becausethey've gone on to another level?
Is there different levels inthe spirit world then?
(02:30):
Yeah, there is differentlevels in the spirit world, but it's
not as clean and clear as wewould think, right?
Because the minute we thinkabout our loved ones communicating
and you have to think aboutthis, it's not that they've gone
(02:52):
on.
They haven't gone on to adifferent level.
A lot of people will say, andsome other mediums will say, yeah,
they've gone on a different level.
They're not communicating theway, or.
They'Ve.
Kind of evolved in the spiritworld, and therefore they're at A
higher vibration.
And they can't.
(03:13):
I've heard all that.
They can't communicate with me.
It's a load of rubbish.
Or it's that they have gone onto a job, they're doing another job
in the spirit world and theydon't have time.
And the problem is that thenthat does actually create some kind
of trigger in you, and itmakes you feel that you're abandoned
(03:37):
again and it makes that griefmaybe kind of rear its head.
Not that I've always said wecan't heal through grief.
Grief is something that wehave to integrate.
So let me just answer this question.
When you experienced signsfrom your loved ones, right, Or I'm
pulling my chair over here,I'll have a wee lean on this.
(04:01):
When you've experienced yourloved ones coming through, you've
experienced many messages.
You've maybe even dreamt aboutthem, right?
And then all of a sudden it stops.
Now, I did a video on this along, long time ago.
But I want to kind of go intoit a little bit more.
And again, I'll go into deeperin the course that I have in my community.
(04:26):
But here's what I want to tell you.
They haven't gone, right?
They haven't gone.
They haven't disappeared, andthey haven't gone on to the different
levels in the spirit worldeither, that you can't communicate
with them anymore.
And it's not that they've goneon and they've got a new job in the
spirit world and then theydon't have time for you anymore.
Because imagine, imaginefeeling like.
(04:47):
Imagine, like, thinking, well,you know, my mother's too busy and
she don't come through.
She don't bother about me anymore.
It kind of can cause a littlebit of, you know, a bit of a psychological
imbalance, a mental healthissue there when you think about
it, right?
So I don't want you to thinkabout that.
Guys, what I'll tell you is this.
(05:10):
The reason that they're notcommunicating as much is not because
they have evolved.
It's actually because you'veevolved, right?
And also there could beanother reason potentially, and it
might be your level of griefthat you're experiencing.
(05:33):
So if you think about it, ifyou're so used to communicating,
I know people that arecommunicating with their loved ones
regularly, and then it becomesa bit of a crutch, right?
It becomes they feel that theycan't live in the world because they
have to be in constantcommunication with their loved one.
(05:53):
That is not a good thing.
That's not you evolving,that's not you moving on.
And it doesn't mean that ifyou move on that you forget about
them.
But you have come to rely onthat communication.
Know on the other side thatit's not healthy for you not to live
your life.
It's not healthy for you tojust keep holding on and trying to
(06:17):
communicate, you know, constantly.
Because you're not goingthrough your journey the way that
you should be.
And so the other reason isthat you have evolved and you're
happy and you know they'realive and you know that they're on
the other side.
And there's an element ofpeace inside you.
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And so because there's thatelement of peace inside you and that
acceptance, you've becomeaware of their presence.
You become aware of the signsrunning about you.
You become aware of may bethem dreams.
And so you're happy.
You know that they're still alive.
You know that they're in thespirit world, in the heavenly realms.
And you know they're nottrapped, as a lot of other people
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will say, they're trapped inbetween this realm and that realm
or they're trapped on thislevel of the spirit world.
That's just a lot of rubbish, right?
It's not that they're trappedand it's not really.
It's for your benefit.
They don't want you holding onto them as a crutch.
They don't want you toconstantly have to feel that you're
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always gonna be in touch withthem because that's not healthy for
you.
That doesn't mean that you getto a point of acceptance and go through
your journey.
And like I said, on the otherside of the coin is that yeah, you
have accepted them, right?
You've accepted that they'rethere and you know they're alive
and so you're happy.
So they don't have to comethrough as much as what they did
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before because you've come aplace of acceptance.
Like I don't hear from my dadevery single day and now I don't
hear from my friend Sheila ormy mother in law because I know they're
alive, I know they're there.
I've accepted it, my wife hasaccepted it.
But every now and again, yes,we do hear from them.
It doesn't stop them coming to you.
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It just gets to the pointwhere you have become aware that
they're still alive and thatthey're moving on in their life because
there's an element, and I'vetalked about this before as well,
and certainly in my othervideos, there's an element of selfishness
and grief because it's all about.
Well, they've left me.
It's all about my loss and mythis and me and me.
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And me and me.
And we tend to forget aboutour loved ones on the other side
are trying to live their lifeon the other side.
Cause they've got a life onthe other side.
They want to learn things,they want to develop.
It's not that they're going onto different levels, ladies and gentlemen.
They're not doing that.
And then getting more and moredistant from you.
It's only one or two things.
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Things.
And that's what I said.
It's either that they don'twant you to utilize them as a crutch
so that you cannot movethrough your grief and integrate
it, or two, that you've cometo that acceptance that they are
in the spirit world, they arehappy, and that you can live your
life here and they can livetheir life there and you can still
communicate.
That's really important tounderstand, ladies and gentlemen.
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So don't think about that.
They're going on and I'm beingabandoned again.
That's not true.
And they're not moving on todifferent realms.
Yes, there's levels in thespirit world.
Of course there is.
There's lower levels, there'shigher levels.
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It goes back to, you know, inthe Bible, Jesus said, there's many
mansions in my Father's house.
Which kind of is indicative ofthe different levels within the spirit
realms, vibrational levels, ifyou like.
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Then there's a lot of peopleout there that have these theories
and conspiracy theories thatthey don't cross over.
There's a false light, they goto the false light.
They get trapped betweenthese, or they get almost.
I've heard this as well, thatthey get kidnapped by aliens, other
spirit beings.
I mean, really, it's just ridiculous.
It doesn't do you any Good.
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And it doesn't do you any goodfor your grieving process either.
But to recognize that you.
You don't need them, right?
In order for you, they wantyou to live.
They're still connected to you.
They'll still send you signs.
And the other thing is that ifyou're not dreaming about them as
much again, it's either thatyou've come to an acceptance that
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you're going through.
It might even mean thatthey're not.
Let's say it was a relationship.
Let's say it was a husband ora wife or a girlfriend, boyfriend.
Then they've crossed over, andthey may have that not disconnection,
but they may have not beencommunicating you as much because
they know maybe there'sanother relationship about to come
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into your life.
Maybe that's part of this process.
And so they don't want, youknow, they want you to continue on.
They've maybe orchestrated youconnecting with someone else, whether
it's a love relationship,whether it's just a friend relationship,
whether it's a relationshipthat's been orchestrated in the spirit
world to help you move throughthings, that doesn't matter.
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The fact is they're seeing this.
They know what's going to happen.
And so it's maybe beenorchestrated that side.
So they tend to then don'tconnect with you as much because
they don't want you to have anegative outcome.
They don't want you have anegative feeling about it or to feel
any element of guilt or shameor anything like that.
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So you have to come to a pointwhere you get.
You become happy in your life,that you know that they're still
there and that you cancommunicate with them, but they don't
necessarily have to be at yourbeck and call.
And that's why I say this.
We have a selfishness in our grief.
Even losing, you know, familymembers that Joe and I had lost this
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year, we've tripped ourselvesinto that.
You know, we're angry thatthey left us.
We're angry that mom left us.
We're angry that Sheila leftus and our friends and that have
crossed over.
And that's kind of the angerdown to us.
It's how we feel.
Everybody sit down.
Now.
You want to see me coming down?
If you're listening on thepodcast, you won't see this, but
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I'm just putting my.
You see in the background, ifyou're watching.
That's me and the Queen motherin the background.
Anyway.
Okay, now I go down here.
So I don't want you to getyourself in a bit of a. Tis was right
thinking that they're notcommunicating for any other reason.
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And there's so many peopleyou've got to think about.
There's so many people.
I know.
I knew a woman many, manyyears ago who had affected communication
with her husband but couldn'tmove on because she was continually
trying to connect with her husband.
Continually, constantly tryingto connect.
And she wasn't moving on inher life.
And she couldn't.
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She couldn't really let go.
Now, that's not healthy foryour mental health.
That's not a good thing, right?
Because you can't live your life.
It was getting to the pointwhere she wouldn't go to a restaurant,
she wouldn't go out, shewouldn't go for the weekend because
she wanted to do communication.
She was meditating all the time.
She was trying to connect.
She was even utilizing a Ouija board.
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That's not healthy, really,and it's not healthy.
So let me just reiterate this point.
Your loved ones will know howyou are mentally.
They'll feel the energy thatyou've come to a point of acceptance.
And they don't need to be there.
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They don't have to be thatcrutch for you.
And so there's no need forthem to be constantly in connection
with you because they'll be inconnection with you when it means
something or when they feelthat you're ready to accept it.
And they'll maybe just sendyou a little sign around you or you'll
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dream about them maybe downthe road.
And as I've said many, manytimes, I haven't once dreamt in my
father.
Not once.
Right.
So don't be upset.
In fact, thinking that you'renot even that you don't dream about
your loved one because there'sso many other ways you get signs.
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And I've got to the point Idon't always hear from my dad because
I've got to the point I knowhe's alive, I know he's busy.
I know he's learning things.
I know he's developing.
I don't have to hear from him constantly.
But it's nice every now andagain that I get to hear him.
And I also recognize that if Iwas continually trying to connect,
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it means that I'm notintegrating my grief journey.
I'm not integrating it.
I'm not accepting it andmoving through it and learning from
it.
Because remember, I've saidmany, many times, grief can be your
greatest teacher or yourgreatest Nemesis.
It's really down to you, right?
It's really down to how you gothrough this.
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So, you know, there you go,ladies and gentlemen, this is really
what it boils down to, is thatyour loved ones have another vibration.
They haven't gone on toanother layer within the spirit world
and left you abandoned thatyou felt they were before.
It's just that they know.
They don't want you to justutilize them as a crutch and not
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go through your journey andnot learn from it.
They want you to live your life.
They want you to go and meetnew people.
They want you to come.
Because life is the greatestgift that we are given.
Don't spoil it.
Experiences in this world arethe greatest things that we can have.
Even the negative andfrustrating things, what we all go
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through, it's not about politics.
It's not about material things.
It's about the experiences oflearning to live in a beautiful world,
in a world that has so muchmore benefit than we see anything
that's negative.
Don't get me wrong.
Yes, there's bad in the world.
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There's bad in the spiritworld, there's good in the spirit
world, there's good in this world.
You know, we only know thesethings because the polar opposites,
because we get to experience them.
Experience is a fundamentalimportance to our existence and even
our experience of grief andthe learning, the lessons that we
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can have going through.
So if you're a person that'sconstantly trying to connect with
your loved ones and thenyou're getting upset because they're
not responding to you withyour expectation, then ask yourself
the question, am I beingselfish in my grief?
Am I not allowing them to livetheir life?
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Are you to the point where youcan't experience the rest your life
because you feel you're beingjudged or you feel that the connection's
not all the time, that's not good.
Or is it great that you feelthat, okay, I want to experience
life, and you know, they'rethere and you can still connect with
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them when you want.
You can still send a thought out.
Just don't have thatexpectation that one, I have to have
a dream or I have to have a sign.
I have to be in communicationwith them all the time.
And also remember that there'speople out there that think they're
in communication all the time,and they're not.
They're actually creating thecommunication in their own mind.
They don't have any signs,they don't have any evidence, but
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that's because there'ssomething there that they're needing.
They're needing that connection.
They can't let go, they can'tlearn from their grief.
And so that can be another issue.
It can be a mental healthproblem, it can be a mental health
issue, it can be a catalysteven to psychosis.
So there you go, guys.
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Your loved ones don't juststop communicating because they've
left you and gone on in youand better things.
They want you to experiencelife and they don't want you to use
them as a crutch.
And that's a simpleexplanation for it.
And even if they are evolving,which they will do on the other side,
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it doesn't stop themcommunicating with you and it doesn't
stop them visiting you, itdoesn't stop them seeing you.
But you don't have to use themas a crutch.
You need to come to the placeof acceptance that they're still
alive, that they're overthere, they're learning, they're
growing, they're developing.
And that the fact that they'renot communicating with you as much
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maybe means that you'relearning, you're developing, and
that's a good thing.
Ladies and gentlemen, ifyou've got any questions, then please
reach out to me.
Thank you for joining me today.
Again, it's just a quick one.
This is, you know, seriously,question number two.
Why do my loved ones stopconnecting with me or stop communicating
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with me?
They don't.
It's really down to you.
Right, so I was going to saymention towards the end, here it
is, getting the holiday season.
I'm going to keep this going,but I'm going to have a little celebration
if you like, a littleremembrance service, something small
within my community, if you'rea member of the community.
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I'm going to be announcingthis over the holiday season where
we're going to get together,we're going to say some prayers,
we're going to share somememories, we're going to light candles
and we're going to rememberour loved ones.
This is not for mediums, it'snot for people who are on a grief
journey, who want to learn.
You can come in.
If you're part of thecommunity, you're already going to
get an invite.
If you're not part of mycommunity, then connect with me.
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Go onto my website,jobbrokers.com grief group, put in
the application form, come andjoin the community.
And then over the holidayseason, we're going to have a couple
of little services, littleprayers, little get together.
I want to remember my father,I want to remember my mother in law,
I want to remember Sheila.
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So this is not about meteaching her in.
It's about us gettingtogether, our loved ones and maybe
even sharing some stories.
Maybe even if you want to comeforward and say something or put
some kind of memory through,then that's what we're going to do.
This is my invitation to youguys, so I'll be doing another question
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answer another question very soon.
So if you've got any questionsabout this question, then do ask
that.
Just remember they haven'tgone on, they haven't abandoned you.
They just don't want you torely on them.
They want you to experiencelife and go through it.
And again, let me reiterate ifyou're already aware and embracing
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the lessons in your givingjourney because they don't need to.
They know that you're happy.
They don't need to communicatewith you, but it won't stop them
sending you signs and watchingover you.
God Bless.
Thank you for tuning in to the.
Pillars of Grief with me.
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join me on the next episode.
Till then, open your mind andallow the power of the divine to
transform your grief tospiritual realization.
God Bless.
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