April 9, 2025 • 31 mins
Welcome to episode #229! In this episode of the Pure Victory Podcast, Braden dives deep into the topic of sexual integrity in a culture that often celebrates the opposite. Drawing from biblical teachings and real-life examples, he explores why sexual integrity matters and how unchecked desires can lead to devastating consequences. Braden discusses the stories of David and Solomon as cautionary tales, highlighting their struggles with compromise and its impact on their lives and relationships. He also shares practical steps for guarding your heart, setting boundaries, and seeking accountability. Whether you’re battling personal struggles or looking to strengthen your relationships, this episode offers encouragement, hope, and actionable wisdom to pursue a life that honors God.
Key Takeaways:
• The importance of addressing inner desires before they lead to harmful actions.
• Biblical examples (David and Solomon) illustrating the progression of unchecked sin.
• Practical strategies for guarding your heart, including accountability, boundaries, and community.
• Encouragement to seek God’s grace and forgiveness while striving for a life of integrity.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Welcome to the Pure Victory podcast, full of hot
tips to help you win at sex,conquer porn, and find purpose
in staying free forever.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Welcome back to Pure Victory podcast, everybody.
Happy March. Happy spring.Actually, it's March here. And
actually I've been getting intoall this March Madness
basketball tournament.
I actually am a big basketballfan and I've just been recently
getting more into thatespecially with my favorite team
Duke right now. So far they'rein the final four, that'll tune
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me out. I mean if you're a fanof a different team and you want
to judge me for cheering onDuke. Oh, just a sidebar here.
If you're wondering I don'twatch basketball, I don't really
care.
I'm a fan of Duke, many peoplethink part of the evil empire
much like if you're a Yankee fanor if you cheer for the Patriots
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in the Tom Brady era. And here Iam, I'm a fan of Duke, okay?
Just just what it is. So don'ttune me out. Anyways, that said
I like this time of year, lotsof great sports events
happening.
That aside, this isn't a sportspodcast, I'm just talking.
You're here for other reasonsand I understand that. So let's
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put that aside, my sportsobsession. Today though, we are
talking about a specific areathat I've been thinking about
for a while, sexual integrity.Integrity.
So my question for you todaylisteners, PvP squad, what does
it mean to live with sexualintegrity in our world that
often celebrates the opposite?What I mean by that, well just
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look around, look online. Sexualintegrity is not upheld as a
value, it really isn't. It'ssomething that's seen as
unimportant or doesn't reallyhave any bearing on our lives.
Live and let live, right?
Do whatever you want, theconsequences are minimal or
inconsequential. You can livehowever you want and it's just
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our truth, our life. Pursuewhatever you want, chase after
whatever you want and when itcomes to sex and sexual
integrity that often leaves usin places we never thought we
would go if we follow what theworld celebrates. Now I don't
mean to hammer on the world,let's just be honest though, we
are in a culture that does notelevate the importance of sexual
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integrity. And this does matterfor us, it really does.
And I know, I mean for many ofus that listen to this podcast
and even myself, we know thatporn is something that has
definitely caused a lot ofissues for us. Struggle, battle
in our lives, don't want it,don't want it in our lives and
we understand the importance ofsexual integrity when it comes
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to that I would say, where wewant sexual integrity. But I'm
talking on a broader sense here,not just when it comes to our
relationship to porn, but let'stalk broader. Let's think
broader here. And I think weshould go to the Bible on this
too.
We're talking about theimportance of sexual integrity.
And my I hope today this issomething that's encouraging,
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uplifting, and maybe a littlebit of a challenge to us to
think about the importance ofthis. And this is I'm with you
in this too. I'm just a regularguy talking about this with you
and I'm learning with you inthis. But what does the Bible
talk about sexual purity, sexualintegrity, the consequences, and
how we can pursue that life thathonors God?
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What does the Bible say aboutthose things? Well, that's what
we want to do in this episode,it's kind of unpack some of
those teachings on theimportance of it, but also maybe
highlight some examples fromScripture and even history to
provide something tangible forus today. I'm going to talk
about maybe some characters inScripture that we can learn
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from. A father son duo, here's alittle bit of a teaser for you,
we're gonna talk about fatherson duo today as well from the
Bible and some other historicalfigures about why sexual
integrity matters and how we canlearn from others, maybe not
what to do. But then there'ssome practical applications that
come out of that even what theBible calls us to in this.
I think this is reallyimportant. This is something
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that is so key for us becausesexual integrity really deals
with our inner life. And ourinner life eventually is what
projects them to the outerworld. It's usually the thing
that we might put on the backburner because we work really
hard on the outer appearance,trying to craft an image for
others to see when really what'sgoing on in the inner life we're
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hurting, we're not doing wellbecause maybe we're not focusing
enough attention on that innerworld, our inner life. We're not
paying attention to that, maybea slow slippery slope of erosion
that's occurring in our life.
We're like, ah, we're good. I'mgood. I'm okay. I don't need to
turn an eye to this. Talk to Godabout this.
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I'm okay. But but friends, wewant to be more than okay. We
wanna fall after Jesus' example.So I'm gonna start this off with
a verse that hopes sets andframes the whole episode today.
This is from James one fifteen.
Love this verse and it is achallenging verse, challenges
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me. It says this, Then afterdesire is conceived, it gives
birth to sin and sin when it'sfull grown gives birth to death.
So I just want to talk aboutthis of understanding of why
sexual integrity matters. Usingthis versus our understanding,
we understand that sin is notsomething when unchecked gets
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better or goes away. And when wetalk about things that are
sexual in nature, I think theycan hold even more of a grip on
our hearts, grip on our behaviorthan even other sin in our life.
It can be very damaging to us.Why? Well, it impacts how we
view us, ourselves, how we viewourselves, and how we view
others, how we view God. Itimpacts so much of our life. It
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can set a trajectory for lifewhere we go places we never
thought we would.
And if you look at this verse,the degenerative work of sin
that can have on our life in thesense that desire, just the
desire, if we give it space inour mind and life, it eventually
leads to an action. And anaction leads to a consequence
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and those consequences can bedevastating. As the verse says
when it's full grown meaning singives birth to death even. Wow.
So there's a progression oframped up behavior that occurs
if it goes unchecked and there'sconsequences in a spiritual and
physical sense even that occurin our life.
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We often don't realize that it'sin the inner world, our inner
life that this starts. Weprimarily just focus on our
outer behavior, things thatmaybe we have evidence for
because unchecked desire, it'snot something we often think
about, right? We maybe brush itoff. We don't do that work of
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calling God and asking God intothat moment. Talking to others
about what we're feeling or whatwe're desiring.
Or even going back into our lifeand looking at maybe where did
this where does this stem from?Maybe something happened to us
that's creating a desire, a needthat we feel we have and we're
going to other things other thanGod. Usually it starts off with
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a fantasy, a thought pattern orthread in our life that we just
water, right? We nurture that.We don't let it go unchecked and
eventually that leads todecisions where we're acting out
on that.
So we know that this damages usand it damages others. I mean
there's even more verses. FirstCorinthians six eighteen to 20
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talks about how our bodies are atemple of the Holy Spirit. So
when we engage in behavior inyour inner life or desires or
thoughts and then lead toaction, we dishonor God in that
because our body is a temple ofthe Holy Spirit living in us.
And this isn't to be down on us,to make us feel bad, it's just
to be honest.
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And God is so good. He's patientwith us, he loves us, he calls
us into repentance, he calls usto follow him. He's reaching out
right now even as I'm speaking.He's reaching out. God never
shames us but his kindness doeslead to repentance.
He does call us to follow afterhim. Why? Not because he's sets
all these rules to stop our funbut because he wants us to
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flourish and thrive and haveabundance in life and that's
only found in following him.Even going further, there's
other verses that talk about ofcourse the sanctity of marriage,
right? The marriage bed, themarriage relationship and how
important it is to keep thatrelationship undefiled, To
really put God center and thenlove our spouse in a way that
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honors not only God but honorsour spouse.
And that's more than just lipservice, it's more than just
even our external outwardactions. It goes all the way to
how we think. The energy behindthat, the choices we make in
that inner world too, to justlove our spouse the way God
calls us to. So sexual integrityimpacts us, our bodies
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physically, and it impacts ourrelationships with others. This
matters, it really does.
This isn't some throwawayepisode I'm doing right now or
some aside, right, like asidebar, this is kind of
important and let's talk aboutit. This really is important, it
really shows that you know, whenwe come to the sexual and the
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relationship that we have to sexmeaning whether it be with
physical person in the sense ofour spouse or even just how we
interact with others in life andeven our self, our relationship
with our self. This isn't justabout breaking rules, it's
really about how it damages ourrelationship with God and then
others. I know none of us wantthat, right? We don't want
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damage to those areas.
Now I know I promised I wasgonna talk about a father son
tandem here because I love to goto examples and I don't ever
mean to hammer on people andeven in this sense people that
lived thousands of years agobecause I'm gonna go to the
Bible on this. But we can learnfrom others and others mistakes.
We can learn from otherssuccesses as well too, for sure.
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But I'm so thankful that Godgives us examples in scripture
of of how that verse plays out.James one fifteen, of how when
desire is conceived gives birthto sin and sin when it's full
grown gives birth to death.
So I've talked about this onother episodes a while back,
just on how David in his innerlife was starting to have a
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slower erosion of compromise andwe know this going back to
second Samuel 11 I think it is,when David was supposed to be at
war but he's on the rooftoppalace in the evening, he's not
where he's supposed to be so Imean he's in this position
because of either indecision inhis life or decisions that have
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led him to this point that are aslow erosion and compromise. But
he's obviously feelingsomething, he's maybe a little
lustful in this moment in thesense that he's open, he is
open, he is looking forsomething to meet a need and he
spots Bathsheba from his rooftoppalace and we know the story,
right? He learns about her andlearns that she is a married
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woman, doesn't care, calls forher and in those days, I mean,
if a king calls you to dosomething, you do it, right? So
I'm not talking aboutBathsheba's motives here, but
David's motives were out of lustand it led him a desire led him
to do an action.
And the action progressed to thepoint where he killed
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Bathsheba's husband, had herkilled, had her husband killed,
so that he could marry her, sothat it looked all on the up and
up. Why? Because Bathsheba gotpregnant, consequences. And
eventually she loses this childand God exposes this sin and
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David has incredibleconsequences. His family's a
wreck, his sons after thiscompletely rebel against him.
There is just trouble in hisfamily from here on out because
of the choices he made. Bet youif he could go back to that roof
top palace in that moment, heprobably would have maybe made a
different decision if he couldhave, right? But this is the
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progression. Now that's thefather, that's David and I mean,
I know this is a Cole's notesbut just showing you how this
works. And there's Solomon, hisson, who was called to be the
wisest person that's ever lived.
That's what was said of him. Soit doesn't matter how smart you
are. It's not really about that,but in first Kings 11, this is a
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guy who had everything, evensaid to be the wealthiest person
that's ever lived. And he askedfor wisdom from God, God granted
him that, he built thisincredible kingdom, obviously
God built this through him andeventually though, some desire
started to spring up within him.Like his father, he liked
beautiful women.
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Because he was a statesman,someone who was well respected,
he rubbed shoulders with a lotof different nations, a lot of
different kings and part of thepractice of the day was you
would marry someone from anothernation to build some sort of
strong bond between thosenations so that there wouldn't
be war and there would becooperation. And Solomon
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definitely had an eye for thebeautiful ladies and he married
a lot of them and he had manyforeign wives and we know that
God called him to somethingdifferent. There's examples of
Scripture of not to do thatbecause eventually that would
lead to idolatry and that's whathappened. Solomon eventually
started worshiping the sameidols that his foreign wives
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were and that eventually led tothe fracturing of his nation, of
Israel and to his death. So thisprogression, this desire that
went unchecked led to an action,the action led to consequences.
So those and it was a long termthing for sure, but it was
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incredibly damaging to him andothers. I mean, decisions
impacted others too and that'sthe thing sometimes I think we
lose sight of, is our sexualintegrity isn't just about us,
it's about people around us too.Because when we falter and we
fall, we fall prey to this,there's a reverberating effect
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that occurs. If you're married,your sexual integrity matters to
your family, to futuregenerations and this isn't again
to be down on us. God has graceand forgiveness for us.
If we've messed up, we mademistakes, we can come to God and
ask for forgiveness and heremoves our sin as far from the
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East as to the West. We have toreceive what Jesus did for us on
the cross. That doesn't meanthere aren't consequences to our
choices and actions. There is.But God has forgiveness for us
available and when we choosethat, we can turn it from our
behavior and follow after him nomatter where you're at right
now, no matter what you've done.
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God has forgiveness for you. Butthat said, of course there's
consequence and so Solomon'schoices impacted not only his
family but a kingdom. So it'sthe same for us. While we may
not rule over a kingdom, we haverelationships and this slow
erosion of moving from a desireto even the physical consequence
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of death, that impacts thosearound us. And if we don't
pursue after God in the midst ofthis, even if we stop right now
and just say, Okay God help mein this.
Our hearts get harder andharder, we compromise more and
more. We don't even see thebeginning of the pathway that we
started down that's led us tothis point and our heart can
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grow harder and harder to God.So even if you're really smart
like Solomon, you can't protectus if we're not pursuing after
God because our smarts only takeus so far. But wisdom from God,
well, that leads us in adifferent way often, in a better
way. So there's some examplesfrom scripture.
Again, Cole's notes about them,but there's that verse at play
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in James one fifteen of how thislooks in the lives of real
people. And I think that's soamazing because we actually get
to see the full story in theirlives leading from point a to
point z. Did I say z? Zed? Oh,American, Canadian, I can't even
remember which one is correct.
You're American, maybe it's Z?Canadian, Zed? Don't know,
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anyways that's on the side. Butthat said, we have other
examples too. I mean there'smodern day historical figures,
know, not thousands of years buteven in the past few hundreds or
even the past fifty sixty yearswhere we've seen this, right?
Unfortunately, we've seen thisin church leaders too. You know,
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I've talked length a little bitabout the Ravi Zacharias
situation of how uncheckeddesires led him to do things to
treat people in just reallyreally terrible ways and it
really impacted the witness thathe had. And I'm gonna be honest,
like I really appreciated RaviZacharias and his ministry. I
didn't know what was going onbehind the scenes, but it was it
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was hard to hear. Slow erosion.
James one fifteen at play insomeone's life. We even see this
in just secular modern figureslike you think of JFK, allegedly
he had an affair with MarilynMonroe and others. I mean
apparently there was a secretback entrance that he in the
White House he would sneak thesewomen in, right? And the impact
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that had on on his leading, hisability to lead and you know,
eventually this this led to somepretty damaging things to his
family. It getting exposed andcoming out and impact on his
family.
There's many other exampleshistorically of that like people
that have fallen as a result ofdecisions they've made that's
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impacted not only themselves butothers. And this is something
that we've always wrestled with.I think sometimes we can remove
ourselves from these biblicalstories because, oh, it happened
so long ago. I don't know if Icould relate. I'm not a king of
a nation.
That's true. But this hasimportance for all of us through
all time. This is a tale as oldas time and this is something
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that can occur in our lives evenif feels like on a smaller scale
in the sense that we're notleading a kingdom and I just
want you to know though that theamazing thing is God has a plan
and purpose for each one of us.And when we don't follow after
what God calls us to and there'sa slow erosion of having
unchecked desires that lead usto decisions and actions that
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lead to consequences thatimpacts upon that. Now God does
use the things we've beenthrough but there's a thing that
can occur where our hearthardens and eventually we stop
turning to altogether.
I have a recent example of thisin my personal life of somebody
I know who made a decision tocheat on his wife. I'm not going
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to say who or my relation tothem but this is something that
I'm aware of and that's happenedand it's been devastating to
everybody related to thissituation. And I'm sure you have
stories like that too. Maybeyour own personal life you have
seen damage that that can happenwhen we don't have sexual
integrity, the decisions thatcan be made or you are impacted
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it by directly by someone inyour life. We know the
devastating effects, how thatcan cause such pain.
So this is kind of like acautionary tale, right? Some of
the these stories in Scriptureand in other historical leaders,
I'm sure you have many examplesthat you could think of, of
people that you've you've heardof falter because of this. But
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David and Solomon, a father sonteam are tandem in this, right?
They're they're they'recautionary tales. And this is
incredible because David wasdescribed as a man after God's
own heart.
He was a godly man who made aterrible mistake but it wasn't
in a moment. We can't just putthat in one moment. It was an
ongoing lack of decision orindecision, whatever you want to
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call it or choices that led himto that point. So we didn't see
all the we didn't read about allthe different nuance to that,
but we can see the subtext inthat, right? That's what
probably led him there.
So God's Word is so timeless forguiding us. So when we're
thinking of sexual integrity,what do we do? I mean, you
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probably heard the verse inProverbs four twenty three,
above all else guard your heartfor everything you do flows from
it. So how can you guard yourheart today? Today?
When it comes to sexualintegrity, how can you do that?
Now we've had many episodes atlength about our relationship to
porn if we're struggling in thatand battling in that and yes, I
want to speak to that. How canwe move away from that behavior
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in the sense of getting help,getting things in place,
building a game plan, breakingthat addiction in our life and
then repairing our lives as Godworks in us, repairing ourselves
through that. Absolutely. Maybethat's what we can do to guard
our heart today is take thosesteps.
But you can even move intothings of perhaps there's
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behaviors that you're involvedin that are you know are leading
you to a not a good place. Itcould be simply from what we
take in, you know garbage ingarbage out, right? You've heard
that before and it's true. Youknow, what are you taking in in
your life? What shows are youwatching?
I'm not just talking about porn,I'm talking about the things
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that maybe are enticing you andbelieve me, I am putting my hand
up to this too to be aware ofthis. Because it's incredible
how there can be an erosion, youbecome okay with that, that one
thing. Eventually you'll becomeokay with other things that are
even more advanced. That's justa natural slow erosion that
occurs with compromise. Maybeit's in how you view the
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opposite sex.
What are the boundaries you'resetting around yourself in that
regard? Are you enticing maybesomething with I mean, maybe
you're married and you'reenticing in other relationships?
Maybe you think it's harmless orinnocent. But you know what? It
doesn't really matter what youthink in the sense of we got to
invite God into this because wemight be informed by our culture
and our world and we we don'tmaybe understand what God's
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calling us into.
And again, this isn't like God'ssome sort of killjoy and he's
controlling us. No, he'sinviting us into a better life.
Setting boundaries around thesethings is important. Maybe we
need to do an audit of ourlives. How are we with the
opposite sex?
Something to think about, couldbe in our desires too. What's
unchecked in your life right nowthat you're entertaining or
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enticing in your own life?What's going on there? What's
your thought life like? Who canwe talk to about this too?
Because sometimes in isolationthese things become worse and we
don't know how to navigate it,but we need the help of others
and that's the beautiful thingthat God calls us into his
community. Have people to checkus, to ask the tough questions
and we need that. I pray thatfor you. It is something we need
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to consider what that lookslike, having that accountability
in our life. Maybe there'sinstances where we need to
remove ourselves physically fromcertain situations that we're
involved in we know are not goodfor us.
Like it's in the going back toscripture here, think of Joseph.
Right? Potiphar's wife wasenticing him day in and day out.
She kept flirting with him,became even forceful with him.
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What did he do in thatsituation?
Eventually, he ran from theroom. He completely removed
himself physically. He wasn'tgonna try to reason his way out
of this, he wasn't gonna try torationalize his way out of this,
he wasn't gonna try to talk tothe tempter in this being
Potiphar's wife. He wasn't gonnatry to see how strong his
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willpower was in that moment.No, he ran, he ran from that
room.
So what room, I know I'mspeaking figuratively here, are
you in right now that you needto leave? Who can kind of
challenge you in this and Comeback to the accountability
piece, who can keep us on trackon these areas? Maybe a mentor
or peers that can friends thatcan challenge us in this and I
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know that this can bechallenging too because when
we're enticed in these desiresand different things, I mean
honestly it feels goodsometimes. We want to explore
that, we want to give it somespace or platform in our life
because maybe it feels good. Iknow that, I mean we've talked
about this at length of porn,the dopamine feeling and rush
that we get when we see thoseimages.
In all honesty, it good when wemasturbate and we think about
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the images we're looking at orengaging in fantasy around that,
it feels good at least in themoment or being involved in a
relationship that we know isn'tgood but the attention that
we're getting feels good. Thecompliments maybe that we get
out of that feel good but that'sjust for a moment because I mean
our worth really is found in ourrelationship with Jesus, not in
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those feelings of or rush ofdopamine that we get or
enticement that we get orexcitement that we feel we're
getting in that stuff. No, themore that we pursue after God,
the more that we live out of theidentity that we have in Him and
that is way more worthwhile,believe me. Maybe that's our
challenge to us today. We putsomething else on the platform
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of our life that we go to makeus feel good and we center our
life around that.
Whether it's how we invest ourtime and our thoughts, our
desires toward it and are wewatering those, providing
nutrients to those thoughts,making them grow in our life,
adopting them as our own.Because I know that we're always
tempted to think things, to viewpeople a certain way. I know
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that, know, me and Kristen, wealways talk about this, you
know, when we're out in thewild, meaning that we're not in
our house, just we're out andabout. There's my Canadian
coming out, a boot? No, it'sabout.
But anyways, when we're out andwe see an attractive person, so
if I see an attractive woman orKristen sees an attractive guy,
we can acknowledge that they'reattractive without being
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attracted to them. There's aclear difference that we've had
a conversation of boundaryaround that. Where it crosses
the line is if I see someoneattractive and I become
attracted to them meaning that Iam enticing that, I'm thinking
about them, I'm placing them inmy mind, I'm including them in
my regular thought patternsthroughout the day and
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eventually that builds to anattraction and then what happens
when that occurs is you startmaking decisions around that.
Maybe not right away, but thatcan open you up to the next
compromise, a bigger compromise.And so that's something that
we've had to do is just set thatboundary.
It's okay to recognize thatpeople are attractive. God's
created beauty in his world.There's beautiful people out
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there, but I have made adecision in my life to love one
woman, to be attracted to onewoman, that's my wife. So I'm
going to show the energy anddecision around that even in the
things and areas of my life thatpeople don't see. And I'm not
claiming perfection in thiseverybody, I'm just just stating
something that I've had to learnin my own life based on even
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what I've seen in my ownfailures in the past, but even
from learning like even what I'mtalking about from David and
Solomon, learning through thosecautionary tales.
So maybe that's where we need tostart asking some questions
because the compromise that wemake in our life will lead to
more. And don't what the worldsays is okay, because if you
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want to listen aboutrelationship advice or anything
on attraction, if you listen toother podcasts or other things
that are secular in nature, youmight learn the odd thing, but
don't elevate that to above theBible because we will be led
astray. By things that seem tosound good to us, like giving
you an example, when it comes torelationships, there's TV shows
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out there, there was one yearsago called Temptation Island.
Kristen, my wife, she alwayscites that that show saying how
bad it was, but it was this ideawhere people, individuals that
are in relationships would leavetheir partner and go to this
island with all these hotsingles, right? Just who of
course in the tropicalenvironment so that there's men
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walking around showing off theirtheir abs and women walking in
bikinis enticing these thesepeople.
And the the idea behind this isif you have a strong
relationship, you're able towithstand all that. Now that's
the world's reasoning, If youhave true love, you can
withstand anything. That's theworld's reasoning. Now that
sounds good on the surface forsure. But God in his word calls
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us to flee sexual temptation, tonot try to stand in front of it.
Joseph ran out of the room, soGod calls us to something
different. It doesn't mean thatif you see an attractive person
on the street, you scream, turnaround and run like the dickens,
jump in your car and screech outof there. No, that's not what
I'm saying. But don't putyourself in positions where
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you're compromised, knowinglycompromised. That show, people
are going in there knowinglycompromising themselves.
They're going in eyes wide openand the funny thing is with that
show, a good majority of themleft their their partner back
home, I think they're mostlydating to go after one of these
other people. Of course theydid. So there's some good
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reminders for us and I just wantto say, no matter what you've
done current or past, God'sgrace is available to all of us.
Maybe this is an episode wherewe just call out to God in
repentance of some of the thingswe've done. I'm going do that
work with you too friends,looking inward, you know, where
are some areas that I amcompromised that I need to have
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more integrity in?
And don't pursue this out offear as well. I just want to be
clear. I didn't say this toscare you straight, but to
encourage you forward. Surrenderthose areas to God. He has
better for us.
So I'm praying you on, cheeringyou on in this regard of having
sexual integrity. It matters. Itmatters to all of us. God bless
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you. Have a great week.
We'll check-in with you nexttime.
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Welcome back to Pure Victory podcast, everybody.
Happy March. Happy spring.Actually, it's March here. And
actually I've been getting intoall this March Madness
basketball tournament.
I actually am a big basketballfan and I've just been recently
getting more into thatespecially with my favorite team
Duke right now. So far they'rein the final four, that'll tune
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me out. I mean if you're a fanof a different team and you want
to judge me for cheering onDuke. Oh, just a sidebar here.
If you're wondering I don'twatch basketball, I don't really
care.
I'm a fan of Duke, many peoplethink part of the evil empire
much like if you're a Yankee fanor if you cheer for the Patriots
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in the Tom Brady era. And here Iam, I'm a fan of Duke, okay?
Just just what it is. So don'ttune me out. Anyways, that said
I like this time of year, lotsof great sports events
happening.
That aside, this isn't a sportspodcast, I'm just talking.
You're here for other reasonsand I understand that. So let's
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put that aside, my sportsobsession. Today though, we are
talking about a specific areathat I've been thinking about
for a while, sexual integrity.Integrity.
So my question for you todaylisteners, PvP squad, what does
it mean to live with sexualintegrity in our world that
often celebrates the opposite?What I mean by that, well just
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look around, look online. Sexualintegrity is not upheld as a
value, it really isn't. It'ssomething that's seen as
unimportant or doesn't reallyhave any bearing on our lives.
Live and let live, right?
Do whatever you want, theconsequences are minimal or
inconsequential. You can livehowever you want and it's just
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our truth, our life. Pursuewhatever you want, chase after
whatever you want and when itcomes to sex and sexual
integrity that often leaves usin places we never thought we
would go if we follow what theworld celebrates. Now I don't
mean to hammer on the world,let's just be honest though, we
are in a culture that does notelevate the importance of sexual
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integrity. And this does matterfor us, it really does.
And I know, I mean for many ofus that listen to this podcast
and even myself, we know thatporn is something that has
definitely caused a lot ofissues for us. Struggle, battle
in our lives, don't want it,don't want it in our lives and
we understand the importance ofsexual integrity when it comes
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to that I would say, where wewant sexual integrity. But I'm
talking on a broader sense here,not just when it comes to our
relationship to porn, but let'stalk broader. Let's think
broader here. And I think weshould go to the Bible on this
too.
We're talking about theimportance of sexual integrity.
And my I hope today this issomething that's encouraging,
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uplifting, and maybe a littlebit of a challenge to us to
think about the importance ofthis. And this is I'm with you
in this too. I'm just a regularguy talking about this with you
and I'm learning with you inthis. But what does the Bible
talk about sexual purity, sexualintegrity, the consequences, and
how we can pursue that life thathonors God?
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What does the Bible say aboutthose things? Well, that's what
we want to do in this episode,it's kind of unpack some of
those teachings on theimportance of it, but also maybe
highlight some examples fromScripture and even history to
provide something tangible forus today. I'm going to talk
about maybe some characters inScripture that we can learn
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from. A father son duo, here's alittle bit of a teaser for you,
we're gonna talk about fatherson duo today as well from the
Bible and some other historicalfigures about why sexual
integrity matters and how we canlearn from others, maybe not
what to do. But then there'ssome practical applications that
come out of that even what theBible calls us to in this.
I think this is reallyimportant. This is something
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that is so key for us becausesexual integrity really deals
with our inner life. And ourinner life eventually is what
projects them to the outerworld. It's usually the thing
that we might put on the backburner because we work really
hard on the outer appearance,trying to craft an image for
others to see when really what'sgoing on in the inner life we're
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hurting, we're not doing wellbecause maybe we're not focusing
enough attention on that innerworld, our inner life. We're not
paying attention to that, maybea slow slippery slope of erosion
that's occurring in our life.
We're like, ah, we're good. I'mgood. I'm okay. I don't need to
turn an eye to this. Talk to Godabout this.
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I'm okay. But but friends, wewant to be more than okay. We
wanna fall after Jesus' example.So I'm gonna start this off with
a verse that hopes sets andframes the whole episode today.
This is from James one fifteen.
Love this verse and it is achallenging verse, challenges
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me. It says this, Then afterdesire is conceived, it gives
birth to sin and sin when it'sfull grown gives birth to death.
So I just want to talk aboutthis of understanding of why
sexual integrity matters. Usingthis versus our understanding,
we understand that sin is notsomething when unchecked gets
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better or goes away. And when wetalk about things that are
sexual in nature, I think theycan hold even more of a grip on
our hearts, grip on our behaviorthan even other sin in our life.
It can be very damaging to us.Why? Well, it impacts how we
view us, ourselves, how we viewourselves, and how we view
others, how we view God. Itimpacts so much of our life. It
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can set a trajectory for lifewhere we go places we never
thought we would.
And if you look at this verse,the degenerative work of sin
that can have on our life in thesense that desire, just the
desire, if we give it space inour mind and life, it eventually
leads to an action. And anaction leads to a consequence
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and those consequences can bedevastating. As the verse says
when it's full grown meaning singives birth to death even. Wow.
So there's a progression oframped up behavior that occurs
if it goes unchecked and there'sconsequences in a spiritual and
physical sense even that occurin our life.
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We often don't realize that it'sin the inner world, our inner
life that this starts. Weprimarily just focus on our
outer behavior, things thatmaybe we have evidence for
because unchecked desire, it'snot something we often think
about, right? We maybe brush itoff. We don't do that work of
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calling God and asking God intothat moment. Talking to others
about what we're feeling or whatwe're desiring.
Or even going back into our lifeand looking at maybe where did
this where does this stem from?Maybe something happened to us
that's creating a desire, a needthat we feel we have and we're
going to other things other thanGod. Usually it starts off with
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a fantasy, a thought pattern orthread in our life that we just
water, right? We nurture that.We don't let it go unchecked and
eventually that leads todecisions where we're acting out
on that.
So we know that this damages usand it damages others. I mean
there's even more verses. FirstCorinthians six eighteen to 20
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talks about how our bodies are atemple of the Holy Spirit. So
when we engage in behavior inyour inner life or desires or
thoughts and then lead toaction, we dishonor God in that
because our body is a temple ofthe Holy Spirit living in us.
And this isn't to be down on us,to make us feel bad, it's just
to be honest.
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And God is so good. He's patientwith us, he loves us, he calls
us into repentance, he calls usto follow him. He's reaching out
right now even as I'm speaking.He's reaching out. God never
shames us but his kindness doeslead to repentance.
He does call us to follow afterhim. Why? Not because he's sets
all these rules to stop our funbut because he wants us to
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flourish and thrive and haveabundance in life and that's
only found in following him.Even going further, there's
other verses that talk about ofcourse the sanctity of marriage,
right? The marriage bed, themarriage relationship and how
important it is to keep thatrelationship undefiled, To
really put God center and thenlove our spouse in a way that
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honors not only God but honorsour spouse.
And that's more than just lipservice, it's more than just
even our external outwardactions. It goes all the way to
how we think. The energy behindthat, the choices we make in
that inner world too, to justlove our spouse the way God
calls us to. So sexual integrityimpacts us, our bodies
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physically, and it impacts ourrelationships with others. This
matters, it really does.
This isn't some throwawayepisode I'm doing right now or
some aside, right, like asidebar, this is kind of
important and let's talk aboutit. This really is important, it
really shows that you know, whenwe come to the sexual and the
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relationship that we have to sexmeaning whether it be with
physical person in the sense ofour spouse or even just how we
interact with others in life andeven our self, our relationship
with our self. This isn't justabout breaking rules, it's
really about how it damages ourrelationship with God and then
others. I know none of us wantthat, right? We don't want
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damage to those areas.
Now I know I promised I wasgonna talk about a father son
tandem here because I love to goto examples and I don't ever
mean to hammer on people andeven in this sense people that
lived thousands of years agobecause I'm gonna go to the
Bible on this. But we can learnfrom others and others mistakes.
We can learn from otherssuccesses as well too, for sure.
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But I'm so thankful that Godgives us examples in scripture
of of how that verse plays out.James one fifteen, of how when
desire is conceived gives birthto sin and sin when it's full
grown gives birth to death.
So I've talked about this onother episodes a while back,
just on how David in his innerlife was starting to have a
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slower erosion of compromise andwe know this going back to
second Samuel 11 I think it is,when David was supposed to be at
war but he's on the rooftoppalace in the evening, he's not
where he's supposed to be so Imean he's in this position
because of either indecision inhis life or decisions that have
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led him to this point that are aslow erosion and compromise. But
he's obviously feelingsomething, he's maybe a little
lustful in this moment in thesense that he's open, he is
open, he is looking forsomething to meet a need and he
spots Bathsheba from his rooftoppalace and we know the story,
right? He learns about her andlearns that she is a married
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woman, doesn't care, calls forher and in those days, I mean,
if a king calls you to dosomething, you do it, right? So
I'm not talking aboutBathsheba's motives here, but
David's motives were out of lustand it led him a desire led him
to do an action.
And the action progressed to thepoint where he killed
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Bathsheba's husband, had herkilled, had her husband killed,
so that he could marry her, sothat it looked all on the up and
up. Why? Because Bathsheba gotpregnant, consequences. And
eventually she loses this childand God exposes this sin and
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David has incredibleconsequences. His family's a
wreck, his sons after thiscompletely rebel against him.
There is just trouble in hisfamily from here on out because
of the choices he made. Bet youif he could go back to that roof
top palace in that moment, heprobably would have maybe made a
different decision if he couldhave, right? But this is the
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progression. Now that's thefather, that's David and I mean,
I know this is a Cole's notesbut just showing you how this
works. And there's Solomon, hisson, who was called to be the
wisest person that's ever lived.
That's what was said of him. Soit doesn't matter how smart you
are. It's not really about that,but in first Kings 11, this is a
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guy who had everything, evensaid to be the wealthiest person
that's ever lived. And he askedfor wisdom from God, God granted
him that, he built thisincredible kingdom, obviously
God built this through him andeventually though, some desire
started to spring up within him.Like his father, he liked
beautiful women.
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Because he was a statesman,someone who was well respected,
he rubbed shoulders with a lotof different nations, a lot of
different kings and part of thepractice of the day was you
would marry someone from anothernation to build some sort of
strong bond between thosenations so that there wouldn't
be war and there would becooperation. And Solomon
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definitely had an eye for thebeautiful ladies and he married
a lot of them and he had manyforeign wives and we know that
God called him to somethingdifferent. There's examples of
Scripture of not to do thatbecause eventually that would
lead to idolatry and that's whathappened. Solomon eventually
started worshiping the sameidols that his foreign wives
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were and that eventually led tothe fracturing of his nation, of
Israel and to his death. So thisprogression, this desire that
went unchecked led to an action,the action led to consequences.
So those and it was a long termthing for sure, but it was
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incredibly damaging to him andothers. I mean, decisions
impacted others too and that'sthe thing sometimes I think we
lose sight of, is our sexualintegrity isn't just about us,
it's about people around us too.Because when we falter and we
fall, we fall prey to this,there's a reverberating effect
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that occurs. If you're married,your sexual integrity matters to
your family, to futuregenerations and this isn't again
to be down on us. God has graceand forgiveness for us.
If we've messed up, we mademistakes, we can come to God and
ask for forgiveness and heremoves our sin as far from the
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East as to the West. We have toreceive what Jesus did for us on
the cross. That doesn't meanthere aren't consequences to our
choices and actions. There is.But God has forgiveness for us
available and when we choosethat, we can turn it from our
behavior and follow after him nomatter where you're at right
now, no matter what you've done.
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God has forgiveness for you. Butthat said, of course there's
consequence and so Solomon'schoices impacted not only his
family but a kingdom. So it'sthe same for us. While we may
not rule over a kingdom, we haverelationships and this slow
erosion of moving from a desireto even the physical consequence
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of death, that impacts thosearound us. And if we don't
pursue after God in the midst ofthis, even if we stop right now
and just say, Okay God help mein this.
Our hearts get harder andharder, we compromise more and
more. We don't even see thebeginning of the pathway that we
started down that's led us tothis point and our heart can
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grow harder and harder to God.So even if you're really smart
like Solomon, you can't protectus if we're not pursuing after
God because our smarts only takeus so far. But wisdom from God,
well, that leads us in adifferent way often, in a better
way. So there's some examplesfrom scripture.
Again, Cole's notes about them,but there's that verse at play
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in James one fifteen of how thislooks in the lives of real
people. And I think that's soamazing because we actually get
to see the full story in theirlives leading from point a to
point z. Did I say z? Zed? Oh,American, Canadian, I can't even
remember which one is correct.
You're American, maybe it's Z?Canadian, Zed? Don't know,
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anyways that's on the side. Butthat said, we have other
examples too. I mean there'smodern day historical figures,
know, not thousands of years buteven in the past few hundreds or
even the past fifty sixty yearswhere we've seen this, right?
Unfortunately, we've seen thisin church leaders too. You know,
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I've talked length a little bitabout the Ravi Zacharias
situation of how uncheckeddesires led him to do things to
treat people in just reallyreally terrible ways and it
really impacted the witness thathe had. And I'm gonna be honest,
like I really appreciated RaviZacharias and his ministry. I
didn't know what was going onbehind the scenes, but it was it
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was hard to hear. Slow erosion.
James one fifteen at play insomeone's life. We even see this
in just secular modern figureslike you think of JFK, allegedly
he had an affair with MarilynMonroe and others. I mean
apparently there was a secretback entrance that he in the
White House he would sneak thesewomen in, right? And the impact
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that had on on his leading, hisability to lead and you know,
eventually this this led to somepretty damaging things to his
family. It getting exposed andcoming out and impact on his
family.
There's many other exampleshistorically of that like people
that have fallen as a result ofdecisions they've made that's
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impacted not only themselves butothers. And this is something
that we've always wrestled with.I think sometimes we can remove
ourselves from these biblicalstories because, oh, it happened
so long ago. I don't know if Icould relate. I'm not a king of
a nation.
That's true. But this hasimportance for all of us through
all time. This is a tale as oldas time and this is something
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that can occur in our lives evenif feels like on a smaller scale
in the sense that we're notleading a kingdom and I just
want you to know though that theamazing thing is God has a plan
and purpose for each one of us.And when we don't follow after
what God calls us to and there'sa slow erosion of having
unchecked desires that lead usto decisions and actions that
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lead to consequences thatimpacts upon that. Now God does
use the things we've beenthrough but there's a thing that
can occur where our hearthardens and eventually we stop
turning to altogether.
I have a recent example of thisin my personal life of somebody
I know who made a decision tocheat on his wife. I'm not going
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to say who or my relation tothem but this is something that
I'm aware of and that's happenedand it's been devastating to
everybody related to thissituation. And I'm sure you have
stories like that too. Maybeyour own personal life you have
seen damage that that can happenwhen we don't have sexual
integrity, the decisions thatcan be made or you are impacted
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it by directly by someone inyour life. We know the
devastating effects, how thatcan cause such pain.
So this is kind of like acautionary tale, right? Some of
the these stories in Scriptureand in other historical leaders,
I'm sure you have many examplesthat you could think of, of
people that you've you've heardof falter because of this. But
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David and Solomon, a father sonteam are tandem in this, right?
They're they're they'recautionary tales. And this is
incredible because David wasdescribed as a man after God's
own heart.
He was a godly man who made aterrible mistake but it wasn't
in a moment. We can't just putthat in one moment. It was an
ongoing lack of decision orindecision, whatever you want to
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call it or choices that led himto that point. So we didn't see
all the we didn't read about allthe different nuance to that,
but we can see the subtext inthat, right? That's what
probably led him there.
So God's Word is so timeless forguiding us. So when we're
thinking of sexual integrity,what do we do? I mean, you
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probably heard the verse inProverbs four twenty three,
above all else guard your heartfor everything you do flows from
it. So how can you guard yourheart today? Today?
When it comes to sexualintegrity, how can you do that?
Now we've had many episodes atlength about our relationship to
porn if we're struggling in thatand battling in that and yes, I
want to speak to that. How canwe move away from that behavior
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in the sense of getting help,getting things in place,
building a game plan, breakingthat addiction in our life and
then repairing our lives as Godworks in us, repairing ourselves
through that. Absolutely. Maybethat's what we can do to guard
our heart today is take thosesteps.
But you can even move intothings of perhaps there's
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behaviors that you're involvedin that are you know are leading
you to a not a good place. Itcould be simply from what we
take in, you know garbage ingarbage out, right? You've heard
that before and it's true. Youknow, what are you taking in in
your life? What shows are youwatching?
I'm not just talking about porn,I'm talking about the things
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that maybe are enticing you andbelieve me, I am putting my hand
up to this too to be aware ofthis. Because it's incredible
how there can be an erosion, youbecome okay with that, that one
thing. Eventually you'll becomeokay with other things that are
even more advanced. That's justa natural slow erosion that
occurs with compromise. Maybeit's in how you view the
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opposite sex.
What are the boundaries you'resetting around yourself in that
regard? Are you enticing maybesomething with I mean, maybe
you're married and you'reenticing in other relationships?
Maybe you think it's harmless orinnocent. But you know what? It
doesn't really matter what youthink in the sense of we got to
invite God into this because wemight be informed by our culture
and our world and we we don'tmaybe understand what God's
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calling us into.
And again, this isn't like God'ssome sort of killjoy and he's
controlling us. No, he'sinviting us into a better life.
Setting boundaries around thesethings is important. Maybe we
need to do an audit of ourlives. How are we with the
opposite sex?
Something to think about, couldbe in our desires too. What's
unchecked in your life right nowthat you're entertaining or
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enticing in your own life?What's going on there? What's
your thought life like? Who canwe talk to about this too?
Because sometimes in isolationthese things become worse and we
don't know how to navigate it,but we need the help of others
and that's the beautiful thingthat God calls us into his
community. Have people to checkus, to ask the tough questions
and we need that. I pray thatfor you. It is something we need
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to consider what that lookslike, having that accountability
in our life. Maybe there'sinstances where we need to
remove ourselves physically fromcertain situations that we're
involved in we know are not goodfor us.
Like it's in the going back toscripture here, think of Joseph.
Right? Potiphar's wife wasenticing him day in and day out.
She kept flirting with him,became even forceful with him.
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What did he do in thatsituation?
Eventually, he ran from theroom. He completely removed
himself physically. He wasn'tgonna try to reason his way out
of this, he wasn't gonna try torationalize his way out of this,
he wasn't gonna try to talk tothe tempter in this being
Potiphar's wife. He wasn't gonnatry to see how strong his
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willpower was in that moment.No, he ran, he ran from that
room.
So what room, I know I'mspeaking figuratively here, are
you in right now that you needto leave? Who can kind of
challenge you in this and Comeback to the accountability
piece, who can keep us on trackon these areas? Maybe a mentor
or peers that can friends thatcan challenge us in this and I
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know that this can bechallenging too because when
we're enticed in these desiresand different things, I mean
honestly it feels goodsometimes. We want to explore
that, we want to give it somespace or platform in our life
because maybe it feels good. Iknow that, I mean we've talked
about this at length of porn,the dopamine feeling and rush
that we get when we see thoseimages.
In all honesty, it good when wemasturbate and we think about
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the images we're looking at orengaging in fantasy around that,
it feels good at least in themoment or being involved in a
relationship that we know isn'tgood but the attention that
we're getting feels good. Thecompliments maybe that we get
out of that feel good but that'sjust for a moment because I mean
our worth really is found in ourrelationship with Jesus, not in
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those feelings of or rush ofdopamine that we get or
enticement that we get orexcitement that we feel we're
getting in that stuff. No, themore that we pursue after God,
the more that we live out of theidentity that we have in Him and
that is way more worthwhile,believe me. Maybe that's our
challenge to us today. We putsomething else on the platform
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of our life that we go to makeus feel good and we center our
life around that.
Whether it's how we invest ourtime and our thoughts, our
desires toward it and are wewatering those, providing
nutrients to those thoughts,making them grow in our life,
adopting them as our own.Because I know that we're always
tempted to think things, to viewpeople a certain way. I know
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that, know, me and Kristen, wealways talk about this, you
know, when we're out in thewild, meaning that we're not in
our house, just we're out andabout. There's my Canadian
coming out, a boot? No, it'sabout.
But anyways, when we're out andwe see an attractive person, so
if I see an attractive woman orKristen sees an attractive guy,
we can acknowledge that they'reattractive without being
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attracted to them. There's aclear difference that we've had
a conversation of boundaryaround that. Where it crosses
the line is if I see someoneattractive and I become
attracted to them meaning that Iam enticing that, I'm thinking
about them, I'm placing them inmy mind, I'm including them in
my regular thought patternsthroughout the day and
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eventually that builds to anattraction and then what happens
when that occurs is you startmaking decisions around that.
Maybe not right away, but thatcan open you up to the next
compromise, a bigger compromise.And so that's something that
we've had to do is just set thatboundary.
It's okay to recognize thatpeople are attractive. God's
created beauty in his world.There's beautiful people out
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there, but I have made adecision in my life to love one
woman, to be attracted to onewoman, that's my wife. So I'm
going to show the energy anddecision around that even in the
things and areas of my life thatpeople don't see. And I'm not
claiming perfection in thiseverybody, I'm just just stating
something that I've had to learnin my own life based on even
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what I've seen in my ownfailures in the past, but even
from learning like even what I'mtalking about from David and
Solomon, learning through thosecautionary tales.
So maybe that's where we need tostart asking some questions
because the compromise that wemake in our life will lead to
more. And don't what the worldsays is okay, because if you
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want to listen aboutrelationship advice or anything
on attraction, if you listen toother podcasts or other things
that are secular in nature, youmight learn the odd thing, but
don't elevate that to above theBible because we will be led
astray. By things that seem tosound good to us, like giving
you an example, when it comes torelationships, there's TV shows
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out there, there was one yearsago called Temptation Island.
Kristen, my wife, she alwayscites that that show saying how
bad it was, but it was this ideawhere people, individuals that
are in relationships would leavetheir partner and go to this
island with all these hotsingles, right? Just who of
course in the tropicalenvironment so that there's men
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walking around showing off theirtheir abs and women walking in
bikinis enticing these thesepeople.
And the the idea behind this isif you have a strong
relationship, you're able towithstand all that. Now that's
the world's reasoning, If youhave true love, you can
withstand anything. That's theworld's reasoning. Now that
sounds good on the surface forsure. But God in his word calls
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us to flee sexual temptation, tonot try to stand in front of it.
Joseph ran out of the room, soGod calls us to something
different. It doesn't mean thatif you see an attractive person
on the street, you scream, turnaround and run like the dickens,
jump in your car and screech outof there. No, that's not what
I'm saying. But don't putyourself in positions where
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you're compromised, knowinglycompromised. That show, people
are going in there knowinglycompromising themselves.
They're going in eyes wide openand the funny thing is with that
show, a good majority of themleft their their partner back
home, I think they're mostlydating to go after one of these
other people. Of course theydid. So there's some good
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reminders for us and I just wantto say, no matter what you've
done current or past, God'sgrace is available to all of us.
Maybe this is an episode wherewe just call out to God in
repentance of some of the thingswe've done. I'm going do that
work with you too friends,looking inward, you know, where
are some areas that I amcompromised that I need to have
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more integrity in?
And don't pursue this out offear as well. I just want to be
clear. I didn't say this toscare you straight, but to
encourage you forward. Surrenderthose areas to God. He has
better for us.
So I'm praying you on, cheeringyou on in this regard of having
sexual integrity. It matters. Itmatters to all of us. God bless
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you. Have a great week.
We'll check-in with you nexttime.
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