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Ryann Watkin (00:00):
Hello, friends.
Welcome back to the show.
I am on a little trek right nowin my little beachy urban town.
And so there's cars passing byand drawbridges coming up and
down.
One of the things that's reallyalive for me right now is
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motherhood.
And becoming a mother was thecatalyst for my growth in a
number of ways.
A decade plus ago.
My oldest is almost 11.
As you're listening to this,she's like about a month away.
So thinking about the past 11years, even conceiving and
carrying her for 42 weeks to beexact, changed me from the
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inside out.
Wasn't an easy journey, andit's interesting in a lot of
ways.
It's taken this long to reallysolidify what I want to talk
about in this setting.
I've been behind the scenestalking to moms and community
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members and soul sisters, evenmy own family, to unravel the
story I had about motherhood andrewriting a new story, an
empowering story, a grace-filledstory, a loving story,
unconditional love, right?
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So, and I'm gonna be reallyreal.
I still get cringy when I comeon here to talk to you about
motherhood.
And I'm gonna tell you why.
So, we as humans, as smart,discerning women, most of us, we
want to see proof.
We want to see the threeresearch studies back it up, and
we want the sources cited, andwe want to see proof.
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And I get that because when Isign on to work with a coach, I
just got done with an amazingpodcasting coaching training
thingy with Sardet Rayel.
Shout out to Sardet.
She is amazing and she iswalking the talk.
So I got done.
And one of the things I askedbefore I joined her program was
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what are some tangible resultsthat other people have seen?
And of course, she listed, youknow, a number of different
results that the women sheworked with had seen.
And when I am walking here,talking about motherhood and
really sharing the wisdom, notonly that, but just like when
I'm not on here talking to youand I'm actually embodying what
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I'm talking to you about byholding space for the tantrum
and holding space for the tweenbig feelings, holding space for
the various challenges that mykids are going through on a
daily basis.
I want you to know that it's inthose moments that the work is
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really being put to the test.
It's easy to, I always say tomy closest girlfriends and my
husband, like, I'm a really goodmom when I'm not with my kids.
Like, it's so easy to be a momwhen I'm not with my children.
And it's easy to look atmotherhood through rose-colored
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glasses.
And that's why when older womenusually approach you, if you
have little kids, I'm sureyou've heard this a number of
times.
I've heard it zillions oftimes.
When they see you with yourlittle kids out in public, you
know, maybe they're acting likelittle angels and maybe they're
not, and they'll tell you, savorthis.
It goes so fast.
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Enjoy every minute, they'llsay.
And that's why they're sayingthat, because they don't have
little fucking kids anymore.
So they're not having to holdthe space for the tantrums and
they're not having to be in theday-to-day of it.
One of the principles ofmotherhood that I live by and
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walk by and breathe by daily,and sometimes I forget, but one
of the principles when Iremember is the time is now.
There is no future when thingswill be easier because the kids
are this age and that age, andout of diapers, and in school,
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or out of school, or this orthat.
There is no other time thanright now.
And one of the things we can doin our super high-speed modern
day society is rushing throughto get to the next thing,
rushing through tasks, rushingthrough routines, rushing,
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rushing, rushing.
And we forget that right now isthe time.
You don't get a shot toreparent your kids at four and
eight and 10 years old.
I'm saying this to you as muchas I'm saying it to myself.
We don't get another shot toparent our kids at these ages,
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in these days.
There will never be another oneof these days.
This is the day.
What comes to mind is like,this is the day that the Lord
has made.
Let us rejoice and be glad.
You can tell I went to Catholicschool and Catholic church
growing up most of my lifebecause that's the immediate
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thought that followed for me.
And it's true.
Like, this is the day.
Can we find joy in each otheras families?
Can we find joy in our closestrelationships?
One of the things that wasimplied in my family growing up
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is that most joy is to be foundoutside of the home, in the
milestones and the big eventsand the graduations and the
birthdays and the big stuff.
Joy is to be found out there.
And if we peel that back, likeI have, we can see that all
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we're left with is today, is thenow.
And if that means workingthrough the challenges, or that
means, you know, just basking inthe joy of the mundane and the
content, maybe basking in thejoy of a pot of soup on the
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stove, or a clean home, or amessy home, for kids that are
hitting milestones, or kids thataren't.
Basking in the joy.
I'd even add here basking incontentment.
Can I be content today?
Can I find small joys today?
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And so when we talk aboutdiscerning and wanting proof
before we really listen to whatsomebody has to say, what comes
to mind for me is that my kidsare still pretty young.
And from an outsideperspective, I don't have like
grown kids out of the house whoare thriving, successful,
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fulfilled, et cetera.
So I'm not standing heresaying, like, look, I've done
this.
Like, I know that it works.
But what I will tell you isthat I have walked through the
fire.
And when my oldest was aboutfive months old, got diagnosed
with acute postpartumdepression, anxiety, whatever
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the mainstream system wanted tocall it.
And since then, I've alchemizedthe various challenges that
have come along and quitetransparent continue to come
along in each season as my kidsget older, as I evolve and grow
into someone new, as myrelationship with my husband
evolves and grows into somethingnew and more beautiful, quite
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honestly.
As I walk through the fire ofmotherhood, I feel the
transformation and I do not saythe right thing all the time.
I do not do the right thing allthe time.
I'm not.
I'm not an ascended master.
I don't nail it every time.
And I think we do this in somany areas of our lives.
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I don't know about you, but Iconsider myself at this juncture
like a pretty ambitious woman.
Like I want the business andthe successful podcast.
And there are dreams anddesires in my heart that are
taking place, quote unquote,outside of the home.
And so if you're anything likeme, you might be stopping
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yourself from doing what you'remeant to be doing because you
don't have any proof yet.
And what I'm here to tell youis that you are the living
proof.
The various fires that you'vewalked through, the various
traumas that you've alchemized,that is your message.
That is your meaning.
And if you want, you could callit your purpose.
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You could call it your mission.
So if I can be so bold to askyou, sister, what is stopping
you from walking in your missionevery single day?
Maybe there's somethingstopping you from even realizing
or acknowledging that you havea mission.
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You are here for a reason.
It is not random.
It is not random that you arelistening to this right now.
It is not coincidental that youclicked on this episode to hear
this message.
I'm going to tell you what mybeloved yoga teacher says when
someone shows up into class andit's a little bit of a different
or challenging set or kriya, asshe calls it in Kundalini
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class.
She says, you came here.
This was your choice.
You landed here, you showed up,you said yes, you consented to
this.
So if you showed up here onthis walk with me, you consented
to it, you said yes.
What is stopping you?
I know for years what stoppedme was doubt, fear, uncertainty,
really old stories, limitingbeliefs, right?
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All this stuff that was notserving.
And I would go even further tosay that the entire belief that
because I don't have the proofof three raised children who are
thriving successful, et cetera,et cetera, still sometimes
stops me and still gets in myhead.
Ooh, should I really say that?
Who am I to say that?
Who am I to talk about this?
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And I'm gonna tell you what Itold a beloved soul sister the
other day.
I've heard this reflected backto me in a number of different
ways, but I'm gonna say it toyou the only way I know how.
And that is who are you to keepyour gift, your gold, your
message from the world?
Each time you choose silence,each time you choose
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complacency, perceive safety,each time you choose that,
someone who needs to hear whatyou have to say, who needs to
buy what you have to offer, whoneeds the guidance that only you
can give to them misses out.
And I want to be really realwith you.
The Rise and Flourish Summitco-hosted in October, we almost
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quit a number of different timesbecause it was too hard and we
were too busy and we'd neverdone it before and it was
uncertain and who are we to dothis, and all the things that
come up.
We almost quit.
But every time we talked aboutit, every time we talked about
how those 40 women who weregoing to show up for themselves
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to be open and poured into,every time we would go back to
the energy of the room, themagic of it, we got so excited
and we said, we can't stop.
We have to keep going.
This is a mission, this is acalling.
We're doing this because webelieve that healthy and happy
mothers and women create happyand healthy homes and
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communities.
And the ripple effect that goesout from there then aligns with
my mission, which is I believewe can change the world by
starting at home.
So, what are you believing?
What mission are you playingout in your daily life?
Are you putting yourself on theback burner?
Are you putting your dreams onthe back burner because there's
gonna be a better time in thefuture?
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There is no other time.
There is only right now.
And if you want to take actionon your dreams, now is the time
to do it.
I'm not saying to blow up yourlife.
I'm saying that smallintentional action in the
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direction of your North Star.
It's time to start now, sister.
It's time.
And I want to tell you, I'veheard from numerous women who
have been witnessing the magicand the miracles that have been
unfolding in their lives.
One of the attendees ran intoone of the speakers at a yoga
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class, was like, oh my gosh, Iusually don't talk to anybody in
yoga.
And look, this speaker washere, and I talked to her, and
it was such a magic moment.
She called me and she's like,You're not gonna believe what
happened.
I'm like, of course I believethat that happened because
you've opened yourself to yourfulfillment.
You've opened yourself tomiracles.
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You said yes to yourself.
When you see synchronicitieslike this in your life, you are
on the right path.
You are on the journey thatyour soul is meant to take.
Another woman who attended thesummit has ideas, big ideas, out
with the old, in with the brandnew ideas, ideas that have been
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on her heart for years, maybeeven decades, is that she is
finally ready to take action onideas that will serve our local
community of young girls.
So if you want to get into theroom when we do another event in
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person or a virtual event,we've got some ideas bubbling up
in the background for thespring of 2026.
So if you're feeling that tugon your heart, if you got
goosebumps like I did at anypoint in this conversation, head
to raisingwildhearts.com slashrise.
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And I'm gonna share one moreexample with you from my own
life.
The summit was on a Saturday.
I had pretty much like constantgoosebumps coming and going for
about 48 hours.
The energy of the women, thecollective, the sponsors, the
speakers, the magic, the gifts,the talents, and the pure
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greatness of that just lingeredin my system, which was really a
clue for me to look at my lifeand say, this is something that
completely filled me up.
It was mostly in my zone ofgenius.
And I went into this saying,you can ask my husband, I'm not
an event planner.
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I don't know how to planevents.
I don't like planning events.
How am I gonna plan an event?
This is so hard.
This is so weird.
This is so different, andwalked out of that room
Saturday, knowing that I hadjust stepped into another level
of my potential, another levelof my business, another level of
my podcast, another level of mypersonal life, my relationship,
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my motherhood.
And I didn't know it like in mybrain, like I know that that
was so good because this, that,and this, it was a knowing, an
inner knowing.
And if I hadn't been doing thework that I've been doing for
the past 11 plus years, I wouldhave never gotten to this place,
building up small capacity,time after time, with each very
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small, very intentional decisionthat I made.
And some decisions weremistakes and some decisions were
the right move, but I just keptgoing.
And if you looked at a linegraph for my life and my
purpose, my vision, myfulfillment, it's certainly
trending up.
I'm so excited to potentiallywelcome you in to our next event
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when you sign up for thewaiting list.
You're gonna get access to mybrand new free three-part video
mini-series.
And this was so much fun tomake because I've taken a lot of
the things that I've done andput it in a bite-sized series
for you.
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And so it's three 15-ish minutevideos that are tiny, but they
pack a punch.
And one of the things that I'mgifting everybody who finishes
the mini-series is a freeone-on-one 20-minute clarity
call with me.
There's no expectations forthis call.
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I'm not gonna pitch youanything.
It's not a sales call.
I don't have an offer that I'mholding out.
When I do have an offer, I willlet you guys know.
But it's really to explore,honestly, like potential
collaborations, potentials forpodcasting magic, potentials for
partnerships.
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Also, I really want to hearwhat you're making.
I really want to hear howyou're impacting your little
corner of the world, right?
The mission here is changingthe world by starting at home.
And whether that's yourpersonal mission or not, big
change starts small.
And so even if you're makingsmall strides, I'd love to hear
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about them.
It brings me so much joy andjust so much fulfillment to see
what's going on with thebeautiful souls who are here in
this community for a reason.
So I loved this chat with you.
This was super fun.
I might show up like thisagain.
I don't know.
But until next time, go lovesomeone well.