How to Get Your Spouse to Work on Your Marriage (Without Conflict)
Your spouse won’t talk about the marriage, won’t go to counseling, and won’t try. In this episode of Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Coach Jack explains why direct efforts backfire and what actually motivates a husband or wife to start caring again. You’ll learn how to rebuild desire instead of creating more resistance.
What you’ll learn
- Why logical arguments fail when a spouse is checked out
- How unwanted pursuit and begging push a spouse farther away
- How to use the relationship continuum to understand motivation
- Steps that increase desire and connection without discussions or pressure
Want to work with Coach Jack?
If you want one-on-one help applying these steps to your situation, the Re-Connections Coaching Package gives you a structured plan to rebuild desire, attraction, and connection with a spouse who is distant or rejecting.
Key takeaways
- Direct pressure makes an unmotivated spouse pull back even more
- Attraction and connection must improve before problem-solving works
- Conversations fail when your spouse wants a different outcome
- Desire grows when you eliminate needy behavior and increase positive interaction
Additional resources
- Connecting through "Yes!" (book) - Learn to connect and resolve problems rather than fight about them
- Self-help quizzes - great for identifying areas where you can make self-improvement that will build your marriage.
Work one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.
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