Relationship Growth: Tools for Communication, Connection, and Long-Term Love
Relationship Growth Podcast Somatic Tools & Couples Coaching for Better Communication, Emotional Safety, and Long-Term Love Description: Welcome to the Relationship Growth Podcast — your go-to resource for relationship therapy, couples coaching, and communication tools that help you build emotional intimacy, resolve conflict, and create long-term love. Hosted by Lilly Rachels, MSW, somatic relationship coach and co-founder of Relational Somatics, this show bridges relationship counseling, nervous system regulation, and trauma-informed communication to help you transform patterns of disconnection into deeper trust and connection. Each week, you’ll learn how your nervous system, attachment style, and childhood blueprint shape your love life — and how to shift from reactivity and shutdown into safety, empathy, and attunement. If you’re tired of the same arguments, feeling unseen, or struggling to communicate with your partner without fighting, this podcast will show you how to repair emotional intimacy, rebuild connection after distance, and create a secure relationship through practical somatic and relational tools. We answer real questions like: How do I talk to my partner without starting another argument? Why do I shut down emotionally during conflict — and how do I stop? How can couples use somatic techniques to regulate together? What to do when your partner withdraws or becomes emotionally unavailable? How do communication patterns and attachment styles affect long-term love? Whether you’re dating, in a long-term partnership, married, or navigating healing after emotional distance, Relationship Growth Podcast will help you communicate better, love deeper, and grow stronger — together. Perfect for anyone exploring couples counseling, relationship coaching, or somatic therapy for relationships — and ready to move from surviving their relationship to truly enjoying it. 🎙️ New episodes drop weekly with insights, stories, and science-backed tools from somatic psychology, attachment theory, and couples coaching. www.lillyrachels.com
Episodes
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly breaks down the three silent killers that quietly destroy communication in relationships: unverbalized expectations, misunderstandings, and assumptions. These hidden patterns create resentment, disconnection, and distance between partners, but they are completely fixable when you know what to look for.
Lilly teaches how to replace fantasy thinking with clear requests, how to stop fightin...
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly walks you through the exact framework she uses with her clients to help them create deeper, healthier relationships. She breaks down each phase of her signature method, the Relational Blueprint Method, and shows how it helps you identify your patterns, expand your capacity to receive love, and learn to communicate from a grounded and loving place.
You’ll learn how to move from reaction t...
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly shares the mission behind the podcast and the personal story that shaped her passion for helping others build healthy, lasting relationships. She opens up about getting married young, struggling with conflict, and how unhealed childhood patterns influenced her ability to receive love. Through her own healing journey, she discovered that relationships are one of the most powerful vehicle...
Welcome to Relationship Growth, the podcast that teaches you the skills to not just find love but keep it alive. In this opening episode, host Lilly Rachels shares the heart behind the rebrand and why this show exists: to help you grow a relationship you don’t just stay in but thrive in.
Lilly explains that healthy relationships don’t happen by luck. They are cultivated through consistent care, communication, and curiosity. Using th...
If your relationship feels harder than it should, you might be playing two different games without realizing it. In this episode, I share how mismatched expectations, childhood blueprints, and unspoken needs create friction and how my Me → You → We process helps couples get on the same page. You’ll learn how to rediscover yourself, relearn your partner, and recreate a relationship built on trust, respect, and growth.
What You’ll Lea...
In today’s episode, I’m unpacking a reel I saw recently that really bothered me.
It suggested that you should strive not to care if your partner cheats — that detachment will somehow make you more desirable.
Here’s the thing: that’s not detachment. That’s avoidance.
I get it, protecting yourself can feel safer than risking being hurt again.
But building walls to avoid pain doesn’t make you stronger. It just keeps you disconnected. I ...
Ever felt yourself shut down after a tense moment with your partner, only to realize it wasn’t really about the moment at all?
In this episode, I share a personal story of conflict, emotional shutdown, and repair. I walk you through how childhood wounds still echo in adult relationships and what it truly takes to navigate those moments with courage and connection.
You’ll hear:
* The childhood belief I uncovered that still affects how ...
Feeling stuck in your relationship?
This episode is for you. I’m sharing what stalemate looks like, how to move through resentment, and why emotional courage (and a little play) might be the reset you need.
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In this unfiltered episode, I talk through grief, perfectionism, emotional armor, and my Friday night.
Recorded from the mountains on the first day of summer — with dogs snoring nearby and tears still fresh — this is me, sharing honestly. About a client I lost. About why I do this work. And about how easy it is to isolate when what we really need is connection.
If you’re tired of holding it all together… this one’s for you.
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In this episode of Relearn Relationships, I share life updates, including an exciting new venture: Relational Somatics, a company focused on trauma training for practitioners. I also dive into recent reflections on relationships, boundaries, and people-pleasing, discussing how setting boundaries has transformed my personal and professional life.
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In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the concept that " how you do anything is how you do everything." We examine how our internal patterns influence all areas of life, especially under pressure. I share a personal story of self-reflection, explaining how to identify the root of negative emotions and choose a more intentional experience in relationships and everyday life.
Key Takeaways
* Core Concept: How you respond ...
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore how to navigate overwhelming situations that are out of our control. I share three key strategies that help me shift from rumination and frustration to acceptance and peace
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Key Takeaways:
* Prayer – Praying for the person or situation helps shift your energy, release resentment, and bring a sense of peace.
* Meditation – Sitting in still...
In today’s episode of Relearn Relationships, we discuss breakups and how to reframe the idea of "relationship failure." I share a personal story about my own divorce and the mindset shift that helped me see relationships—not through the lens of longevity but through growth.
Key Takeaways:
* A relationship doesn’t have to last forever to be successful.
* Growth, self-discovery, and lessons learned are markers of a meaningful relationsh...
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In this episode of Relearn Relationships, I share the three practical tools I use to quiet my mind to fully engage with my partner. These techniques have transformed how I show up in my relationships, and they can do the same for you.
Key Takeaways
Overthinking and Listening:
Overthinking doesn’t mean you’re a bad listener, but it can pull you out of the present moment.
Childhoo...
Why Making Yourself the Problem Makes You the Solution
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the transformative power of personal responsibility. Instead of blaming others for failed relationships, we discusses how identifying yourself as part of the problem opens the door to growth and lasting change. Through introspection, vulnerability, and actionable steps, you can let go of baggage, reclaim your agency, and becom...
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the painful and confusing experience of wanting to be close to someone but finding yourself unintentionally pushing them away. This dynamic often stems from unhealed emotional wounds and protective patterns. Learn why grounded and healthy relationships can feel confusing and how to address the barriers preventing deep connection.
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In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the power of words in shaping your relationship From shifting negative talk to fostering connection through positive communication, this episode highlights how small changes in language can lead to big transformations.
Upcoming Event:Join The Three Silent Killers of Relationships Masterclass on January 9, 2025. Learn how to tackle common communication issues and build a healthier,...
In this episode, we reflect on 2024 and set relationship goals for the new year. I share how I evaluate what worked and what didn’t in my relationships and how to do this with compassion and curiosity. I talk about three common challenges—unspoken expectations, assumptions, and miscommunication—which we will cover in-depth in a free virtual masterclass in January!
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In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the fear of rejection and how it impacts your relationships. Lilly dives into the roots of this fear, stemming from childhood experiences, and examines how it manifests as self-sabotaging behaviors like keeping others at arm's length or constantly seeking validation. You'll learn to distinguish between real and imagined fears, break the cycle of self-rejection, and open yourself ...
Welcome back to Relearn Relationships! In this episode, we explore the two major barriers to effective communication in relationships: misunderstandings and assumptions. You'll get practical tools for fostering clarity and curiosity to strengthen your connections and keep relationships thriving.
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Key Takeaways:
Communication as the Lifeblood of Relationships:
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