In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly breaks down the three silent killers that quietly destroy communication in relationships: unverbalized expectations, misunderstandings, and assumptions. These hidden patterns create resentment, disconnection, and distance between partners, but they are completely fixable when you know what to look for.
Lilly teaches how to replace fantasy thinking with clear requests, how to stop fighting the wrong fight by asking for clarity, and how curiosity can bring new life to your connection. If you’ve ever felt like roommates instead of lovers, this episode will show you how to rebuild trust, connection, and understanding through real communication.
In this episode, you’ll learn:• What the three silent killers of communication are and how they show up in your relationship• Why unverbalized expectations create resentment• How to stop misunderstandings before they turn into conflict• The power of asking clarifying questions instead of assuming• How curiosity keeps your relationship alive and growing
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Feeling more like roommates than lovers? Download Lilly’s guide here, Get Out of the Roommate Rut or by commenting PUMPKIN on any of her Instagram posts. The first 50 people to download it get it completely free.
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.lillyrachels.com
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