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Daily, Beloved, we all gathered here today to get through
this thing called life. You are listening to the Reset yourself?
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Jimmy's thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank
you very much for all everybody, For all of you,
every single one of you. You've been your pets that
I've been listening, I've been watching, have been viewing, and
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especially for the little comments are in there. That means
a lot to me. Thank you. Let me begin by
sharing now that especially to all my regulars. It's been
two hundred and now two episodes, and thank you. Thank
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you for supporting. Thank you for like tuning in every week.
Some of you it's a religious thing and for that
I appreciate you and I'm truly humbled by that. For
my newbies, my name is Jimmy Gazalees. And in this
weekly podcast, I focus on sparking hopefully, hopefully, hopefully value
your inner confidence and igniting your belief in your self yourself,
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you know. Reset yourself. This is all about you. Yes,
not you, you, this is all about actually all of you.
I'm your host, and I'm always extremely thrilled and excited
to share my thoughts and research with you as we
go along on this journey together. We're learning together. I
believe that we can nurture a mindset that empowers us
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to reach our fullest potential. Yes, I write and record
every episode to challenge our thinking, my thinking, your thinking
is thinking, and to encourage us to reflect and inspire actionable,
realistic steps baby steps towards our personal growth. Whether you're
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facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or simply
striving for greater fulfillment in life. This podcast has been
the go to resource for hundreds of people pretty cool
from motivation and practical insights. My inspiration to do this
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show is to teach people to focus more on what
they can accomplish, can being the main word there, so
they do the things they need to do when they
need to do them, so that ultimately you can get
the things you want when you wish to have them.
And this episode is dedicated to all of you. Tell
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me what you want and I will show you how
to get it. The question is are you willing to
do the work. Oh that's the conundrum. Are you willing
to get off your ass and do something or would
you prefer to continue to sit in misery and complain
and not realizing that the little sand clock, little sand
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granules of your life it's going. It's not stopping. Just
because you choose to sit there and not do anything
today doesn't stop your life. Your life is still going.
Time is still going. The possibility for you to make
an impact on your own life or the life of
others will always be there every single day. So my
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advice for many is is every single day, in every
single way, you should be doing something to better yourself
and maybe for just today the life of others. Because
the world doesn't rotate around you. We all share this
ball of energy together. So sometimes the day is for
you to make your move. And sometimes you are not
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a king, a queen, a rook, a knight, but you're
a pawn and you're a poet in somebody else's life
to help them, to inspire them. So that's a beautiful thing.
So if it's morning, good morning, if it's evening for
some of you, if it's afternoon, wherever you're tuning in
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from all over the planet because now I have there's
so many platforms, and basically, let's just make it simple.
I hope you're breathing easy. I hope you're sitting comfortably
and giving yourself just a few minutes to be here
with me. You already know who it is, like I said,
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this is your guy. I'm your friend, your Monday morning meditations,
your Tuesday morning reset yourself, reset your life companion, bringing
you another episode. As I said to two two and today, hmm, today,
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today's topic, it might be a little bit tough for some.
It's one of my reality Like I'm sorry, my real
real life. It's so funny minute I started getting serious
to cats like looking at me. Today, we're going to
talk about something that most people say but don't really feel,
something that we repeat so often that the meeting has
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watered down, like old coffee left on a burner all day.
Sometimes something we all claim to practice, but if we're
being truly honest, most of us barely scratch that surface.
We're talking about gratitude. Now, I know so many of
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you just automatically like, oh, gratitude. Of course, I practice
gratitude I'm always just give me a second. This is
as I said, it's a different angle, but not the hallmark,
the beautiful type of gratitude, beautiful fund appreciate yourself, be
thinking no, no, no, no, cut that shit out, not
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the list three things you're grateful for and move on
kind not the polite force Instagram style gratitude. Now, as
you know, I am a hypnotherapist. I have had some fascinating, fascinating,
very interesting clients that have come to me for what
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they thought was losing weight or smoking or how to
have a better golf game. Actually, yes, I do sports too,
and it's fascinating because they work tremendously. Younger fella, the
mindset is everything kids. People are like, what can you do?
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I can do anything as long as you are ready
for it. What are you? In this episode, we're going
to go much deeper with the concept of gratitude. We're
going to talk about gratitude that wakes you up, the
gratitude that hits you in the gut, the gratitude that
you usually only discover after you've lost something. Yes, let's
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be real, most of us never realize the real value
of something until life takes it away right, and you
know who I'm talking about, and a lot of you
are like me. Actually, I had a couple of conversations
over the past three days with three or four people
about this topic. So today we're not just going to
talk about gratitude. We're going to feel it. We're going
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to explore the uncomfortable truth of losing something in your
mind just long enough to wake up your heart. And
then we're going to talk about what that awareness can
do for your life, your relationships, your mindset, and your
ability to finally live fully. Not just a hamework card
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saying believe in yourself and I love the world and everything. No, no, no, no,
that's that's no no, because that's all talk lip service.
Now I'm talking about feeling it, really saying it. So
take a breath, settle in, let's get into this. So
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the problem with gratitude today is so many of you,
especially through TikTok and Instagram and Facebook and all the
reels and all the memes, you've heard the gratitude speeches before,
over and over and over. You've seen the list, you've
heard the people say. You already know the same voices.
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I'm grateful for my family, I'm grateful for my health.
I'm grateful for my home, I'm grateful for my job.
I'm great. Yeah, I know, I'm grateful for another day
to be alive. I mean, I myself in over two
hundred and two episodes have said that a thousand times.
And don't get me wrong, those things obviously matter. But
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here's the truth. Nobody likes to say out loud. Most
of you aren't great. You're just reading a script, you're
having a horrible shitty day, you're being a complete and
total brat. And then all of a sudden you're reminded that, oh,
I need to be grateful because Tony Robins saidator Jimmy
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Gonzalez said it, or there's a TikTok that reminded me
with a guy with a really good voice saying you
need to believe in yourself. You need to believe in
what you have. If not, you shall lose it. And
then you're like, oh, yeah, he's right. I like what
I have, I love who I am. I am so grateful. Yeah,
And then all of a sudden, the dog, I'm sorry,
the cat starts vomiting on the couch and you're like,
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what the fuck. And then you're angry again, and then
you're pissy for the next forty five minutes. We all
do it. My thing is always the balance. How quickly
do you come back from that anger, that rage, that
moments that you're focused on just something negative. So many
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of us just say the words of gratitude over and
over and over without the weight of gratitude to really
make it true. And it's not only because you're bad people.
Has nothing to do with that. It's not because you
don't care. It's because human beings we adapt way too quickly.
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We get used to blessings the way we get used
to electricity. It's invisible until it's not there anymore. Think
about it. You take it for granted. You're so used
to electricity being there, and right now, all of you,
wherever you are, you don't even notice the hum that hum.
Trust me, I know the hum. I've worked in many
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recording studios, so I immediately, at a very young age,
working in studios as an engineer, having the door closed
behind me, and it's deafening. And even though you think,
what does that have to do with what we're talking about,
for me, it meant a lot because that's one of
those times that you walk into a studio and you
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close the big foam door and everything is deadening, and
you don't realize the hum that lives with you constantly.
It's crazy. And the same thing goes with electricity in
your own home. You're sitting there and you're assuming everything
is nice and quiet, right, it's not. It's not until
the power goes out.
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It is.
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That silence is so deafening. But like that, the same
thing goes for when something, someone that you appreciate is
no longer there, someone that was just a part of
your life an hour ago is no longer there. It's deafening.
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We normalize the things that used to make a smile.
We take for granted the people who show up day
after day because they're always going to be there. Right.
We get numb to the blessings that use to bring
us to our knees. We don't stop and see our
life as the miracle it truly is. We don't slow
down enough to recognize how fragile life is. We don't
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pay attention to the fact that life doesn't promise us anything. Nothing,
not one more mourning, not one more conversation, not one
more chance to say I love you. But we live
as if as if everything is guaranteed. We treat our
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tomorrows like they're infinite. We treat our health like it'll
never slip. We treat our relationships like that can survive
any amount of neglect. We treat our lives like their
permanent fixtures. Our cousins, our nieces, our nephews, our brothers
or sisters, our parents, our children. They're there, They're always
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going to be there. And that is when something has
suddenly gone, Oh my god, that's when we feel it.
That's when the truth wakes us up. That's when gratitude
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becomes real. But what if we just didn't wait for
loss to teach us. What if we learned to feel
value before it disappeared. What if we train ourselves to
appreciate what we have by imagining the moment it's no
longer there. That's where I'm going today with this podcast.
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I'm talking about that moment that wakes you up. Let
me tell you something straight. There are moments in life
that punch you so hard in the chest that gratitude
becomes automatic. A phone call in the middle of the night,
a medical diagnosis, a goodbye you didn't see coming, a mistake.
You can't undo a moment you prayed was a dream
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but wasn't. It's those moments that strip away the nonsense,
the bullshit, that reveals the truth. It skins you alive,
it tears you in half. How how did this happen?
Why did this happen to me? You love deeper than
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you realize, you needed more than you admitted. You were
blessed in ways that you ignored. You took something for
granted that meant everything. But here's the problem. These moments
they come too late. They come after the damage, after
the loss, after the regret, after the goodbye. So today
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we're not waiting for that punch in the chest. We're
going to create a smaller version of it on purpose,
in the safety of your own mind, to me against
you right now. We're going to do something a little uncomfortable,
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but trust me, it'll be worth it. You'll come out
a better person at the end. Because comfort doesn't grow you,
comfort doesn't deepen you, comfort doesn't wake you up. We're
going to look at your life as if something precious
vanished for just a moment, so that when you come
back to reality, you see the truth with clear eyes.
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So if if you're not ready to have your mind
play with a little bit, trust me, I'm a hypnotherapist,
but you have complete and total control. I'm not going
to do anything without your permission, obviously. I'm just gonna
read some stuff and I'm just gonna have you think
about it. So if you're not ready for this right now,
maybe switch over to something else, some early Christmas music
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or some rock, or some country or some I like blues,
some bluegrass, jet anything, and the rest of your ride,
wherever you're going, whatever you're doing. My dog walkers, my many, many,
many dog walkers, Thank you. Just listen to some music.
Maybe this isn't the time, but if you're ready to
have your mindset shifted a little bit, let's go. It's
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very simple. Just take a breath, nice deep breath. Wherever
you are. If you're driving, maybe pull over, but it
doesn't matter. You're not going to lose your focus. Really,
but I want you to think about something in your
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life or someone that you love. What just came to
your mind? Come on? Who? Where?
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What?
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See it? See them? See the place, Almost as if
you were looking at a tapestry, and as you pictured them,
that tapestry the colors were filling up, the shapes were
being created, and you were seeing the place or their
face clearer and clearer and clearer in such rich, beautiful colors.
See them, like I said, it could be a person,
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a child, a partner or spouse, a parent, a friend,
a pet, a moment that always you look forward to.
Your health, your voice, your freedom, your ability to walk,
your ability to see what Yes, things that we take
for granted that mean so much to you. Your ability
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to breathe without machines. But this is for you. So
choose something real? Who when? Where? Just popped in your
mind when I said that something? Someone? You love? Something something?
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See them? Feel them? How do they make you feel?
How does this place make you feel? How much do
you vibrate? How big do you smile? It's a beautiful thing.
It's a blessing, so meaningful. Right again, think of that,
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think of them, see them, see this place. Remember, colors
are getting richer and richer in your mind's eye. It's
a beautiful thing. Now imagine, just imagine you wake up
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tomorrow just like every day you have so far, but
now it's no longer. They are no longer a part
of your life. They are gone. Go on in a
way that isn't coming back, Gone in a way that
you can't argue with. Go on in a way that
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makes your whole body feel hollow. They've been taken from you,
It's gone gone. What does this do to you? Do
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you feel a shift in your chest? Is that the
feeling of your heart breaking or avoid being created in
your chest? Feel how fast that truth rises? I wasn't
ready to lose that, that ache, your feeling, that shock,
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that tightness, that sting behind your eyes, That, my friend,
is real gratitude that you've been missing. That's the gratitude
you don't get from lists or journaling or repeating the
same old mantra manifestations over and over and over. Not
that you don't need those, you do, but if you
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have something and right in front of you put down
the phone. That's the gratitude that comes from recognizing the
fragility of life instead of assuming everything just lasts forever.
That is, to me, the weirdest sickness. I've been blessed
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as an animal control officer and as a human being
to have death in my life quite a bit of it.
I've had a lot of family members, thousands of animals
that I have witnessed die in front of me, just
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here in the farm. It's very weird. So it's a
lifestyle that I've never expected I would have to deal with.
Farm life is very different. Now, breathe, come back to
this moment, the thing that you imagine losing. See that cannabis,
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How beautiful it was for a moment. It's just white,
it's just blank. That person, that place is gone. Sucks.
Huh because you didn't have time today to give them
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a hug, a kiss, a truly meant good morning. Why
because you didn't have time because you're running late. I
don't care. You can take an extra second to stop
to look at that person and say I love you,
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I appreciate you. And if you're not a talker, that's fine.
Just hug them out here for a little bit of magic.
You ready, close your eyes quickly if you're driving, be careful.
They're back on that canvas again, full color, vivid colors, alive.
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How quickly they left, how quickly they came back. The
thing you imagine losing is still there. Let that sink in.
It's still there, that place, the possibilities, the opportunities, that
person is still there right now, You still have it,
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you still have them, you still have time, And that
right there is your reminder to stop sleep walking through
your blessings. Oh my god, the blessings, the so many
blessings that we ignore because we we don't know how
to about. So let's go a little deeper. Really, yeah,
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because life isn't just about the big blessings. It's the
obvious ones that everyone lists at Thanksgiving, right, Like, when
you're sitting at a table, what are you thankful for?
I'm thankful for this turkey, I'm thankful for my job.
I'm thankful for everybody at this table. Even though when
you get family together, most of you know that half
of you hate the other half. Especially with politics, I
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will never understand that. When did that start, like eight,
eight years ago, ten years ago, all of a sudden,
Like you know, you like Trump and I like Biden,
and you voted for this person. I voted for that person.
I'm a Republican and you're a Democrat and I'm a
socialist and you're I get it. I understand it's it's
it's a difficult topic, but I'm sorry. My love for
a person means so much more than who they're voting for.
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I don't give a fuck about your politic political stance,
or even who you pray to or what you pray to.
I just care about you. You another human being going
through this life with me, living, learning, laughing, making a
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lot of mistakes, doing a lot of stupid shit. But
when we truly love each other unconditionally, those little things
they do piss us off. But while we're breaking bread,
you need to learn to put those things aside and
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just cherish that person because remember the canvas, they can
be gone. And then. I've been to many funerals. I
always found it fascinating that through life I see a
lot of people bickering and complaining and talking mad shit
about each other. A good one was today today I
just happened to watch a thing about Paul Stanley from Kiss.
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I knew for years that Gene Simmons and Paul Stanley, okay,
that they didn't get along with Ace Frehley and Peter
Chris from Kiss. So the guitarists that just passed away,
and the drummer other drummers from Connecticut. So I remember
all of the many, many rumors. And I had a
friend in Connecticut that was a huge fan, but I'm
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like a ridiculously large fan. He had their video games
and like pinball machines, and his pickup truck had the
Kiss logo on the door and anyway, So I knew
a lot about what was going on with Kiss for years,
how the band split up. One part just wanted to party,
supposedly and just get high and live life, and the
other party wanted to make Kiss a company, an organization,
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each their own. But now Ace Frehley passed a few
weeks ago, rest in peace, and they're you know, you know,
it's funny because you see so many people talk about
how incredibly he was a guitarist and other people how
he was just a piece of this and a piece
of that, and it's just it's like, I don't really care,
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like on somebody's death and you're still complaining about them.
So I watched an interview with Paul Stanley, and surprisingly,
you could tell you it was actually heartfelt. He knew
they had fights, he knew they had issues, and it's
like being human, you're going to you're gonna have fights
with people in your life, but there has to be
a line that shouldn't be crossed and I could learn,
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I could agree to disagree with your beliefs, with your upbringing.
Because here's the thing. I'm from Connecticut, Okay, even me
being here in Kentucky. The way I was brought up,
I was brought up in the hardhood, and I went
to school in New York City. I spent most of
my time from thirteen up in New York City, around
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the different boroughs, Greenwich Village. It's a very different way
of thinking and living. It's a lot tougher then you
come here and people really are, which is why I
came here. A lot kinder, more forgiving, a lot loving,
a lot more loving. And to this day, I'll be
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honest with you, it's very difficult for me to comprehend
this lifestyle because I almost come off as too tough.
But I appreciate what I had, and I love what
I have now, and I've learned to just go with
it and accept these new blessings and this new way
of living and truly appreciating a lot of stuff that
I never even thought of. And this goes more than
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I said. When you sit next week or next week
and for Thanksgiving, you know, I appreciate this turkey and
this pop pie is this pumpkin pie is so wonderful.
And I appreciate you and you and no like truly
don't say anything. You know what, when it's time to
do that, just get up and hug each other. That's
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how you so true love. Let them feel you. Life
is about the ordinary blessing we overlook every single day.
Waking up without pain, standing up without help, drinking water
whenever you want, your heartbeat doing its job without your permission,
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your eyes opening in the morning, breathing without thinking, having
people who care if you disappear, having to a voice
to speak, having a body that still carries you, having
memories that belong only to you, having a laugh, having
a home, having time. We ignore these things until they're gone.
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We so complain about small stuff while holding miracles in
our hands. Think about that. I know if people that
complain constantly, they don't shut up. It's just complain after complaint.
And like I just said, they're complaining so much in
this hand, now realizing that they carry so many miracles
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in this one, and then when that one's taken away. Oh,
it's God's fault, it's your fault, it's the president's fault,
it's society's fault. It's the liberals fault, it's the socialist's fault,
it's the republican's fault. It's your fault. It's your fault.
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We chase things we don't need, and we forget the
things we can't replace. We wait until hindsight makes us wise,
instead of letting awareness be the thing that makes us grateful.
But not today, today, Hopefully, Hopefully, with this podcast, you
start to crack open your eyes. As many of you know,
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I love the mind. I love psychology. Why we think
how we think. So let's talk science for a second,
the old school, practical kind. There's a reason imagining loss
hits deeper than listing blessings. The human brain is wired
to react more intensely to the loss than the gain.
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It's called loss aversion. Oh it's powerful. I got lost
and it was a rabbit hole for me. Loss aversion.
You can give something something amazing and they will smile.
You can give someone something amazing and they will smile.
But take away something they already have and they'll fight
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you with everything they've got. Because loss hits harder, Loss
wakes you up faster, Loss forces perspective. So when you
imagine losing something precious, even for a split second. You
activate the part of your brain that says, this matters,
this is valuable, pay attention, And once that happens, gratitude
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becomes real, not just mental, but it becomes emotional. This
is gratitude that sticks, gratitude that last, gratitude that changes behavior.
You know what what happens when you practice this, when
you make it a habit, When you regularly imagine what
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life would be like without the blessings, you already have
four things happen every single time. Every single time these
four things happen. One, you become kinder because you stop
taking people for granted, including yes, I know most of
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you've just said it myself, Yeah, yourself. That's the number
one person you take for granted. It's yourself. Number Two,
you just become more patient the small annoyances, the sounds
in the background, the things that aren't working exactly the
way you wish they would, because in somehow you actually
think you have control of things that are happening out there.
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Are you crazy? You don't? Those small noises just stop
mattering so much because you know what truly matters. And
of course, in this moment number three, you become more present,
You stop rushing through your life like it's a race
and start living like it's a privilege, it's a gift.
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And four you do become more grateful, genuinely grateful. Now
just I am more grateful. I am more thankful for
the life I have. Issue not that shallow kind, the
kind that changes how you speak, how you think, how
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you love, and how you just show up every morning
when you wake up. This is the gratitude that evolves you.
But here's the real, raw truth. One day you're going
to wish for a moment you're living right now. Think
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about that. I have a friend right now, me and
her are having a conversation. Right now, she's wishing for
a moment that she was already living. And it could
be for all of you. A conversation, a morning coffee,
a hug, a laugh, a face across the table, a
hand you held, a body that still worked, a memory
you ignored until it was too late. Are you looking
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for a warning? Are you looking for a sign when
this is no longer there? Life doesn't give up warnings,
It doesn't negotiate, It doesn't wait to see when you
were ready to handle it. It doesn't reschedule with you
when you when maybe you're having a bad day, so
today I'm not gonna shit on you. It doesn't say,
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you know what, let's let's wait until they can revisit
this time when they're more grateful. That suck. Excuse me.
Life moves people, age, things change, Time takes what it takes,
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So practice gratitude now, not later. Well, Jimmy, how do
I do that? You turned this into a daily practice,
which becomes a habit. You know, the shitty habits you have? Yes, yeah,
I'm talking to you. You oh and you too. You
people have some shitty habits, but understand that the same
way you created shitty habits, you can easily create good ones.
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It's just funny when people talk about habit. With all
of my clients, whenever I brought up to the word habit,
it's always brought to attention a bad habit, and I'm like,
but there's good habits, And would you believe every single
one of them do this? Yes, there are good habits.
Every morning, I pick one thing you love, and, like
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we did before, imagine losing it. And then for one second,
I dare you I double dog dare you imagine losing
it and then feeling it that that person is not
with you anymore, or this job that you still love.
By the time you get to work you've been fired.
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You get a phone call that someone is very special
to you, just that got into a car accident and
didn't make it, and then realize they're still there. Everything
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is still there, nothing has gone anywhere. So return to
reality and appreciate it for real. Every evening, right before
you go to bed, ask yourself, what or who did
I take for granted today? And if you did, you're not.
You're not a piece of crap. Just correct it tomorrow.
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Do this once a week. Tell someone you love them,
show someone you appreciate them. Say the thing you would
regret not saying. Don't wait, don't assume, don't delay gratitude.
Gratitude isn't about being positive. It's about being awake. It's
about recognizing the fragility of the things you love. It's
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about paying attention while you still have the chance to.
It's about honoring what matters, not with words, oh I
appreciate you, Oh my god, sorry sound was off a
little bit, but with presence. So today let yourself feel
the blessings you've been too busy to feel like I
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think it's funny when people still have this thing, like,
you know, a lot to do to the gym. Oh
you know, I'm balancing the way to the world. The
President of the United States. Isn't that busy? Please? Nobody
is that busy. I'm sorry that there are some of
you that think that what you do throughout your day
is just too busy because you have an appointment at
eleven and another one at three, and you have to
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cook dinner at five. Oh yeah, maybe still get the
clothes and the dryer. Nobody is that busy. Nobody is
that busy. If you can't make the time, it's because
you don't want to because that person or that place
isn't that important to you. And that's fine too. Let
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yourself feel the blessings you've been too busy to feel.
Not the surface level stuff, not the polite answers, not
the automatic scripts, but feel the deep stuff, the real stuff,
the stuff you would break down over if it disappeared.
Who in your life right now, if they disappeared right now,
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would it destroy you? That feeling? Boy, that's gratitude, that's awareness,
that's being alive, that loss is a reminder, and that
right there is how you reset yourself by acknowledging it. Now,
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this one hold on where we're going now is this
next part digs into a place most people will avoid,
the part of gratitude. Nobody likes to talk about, the
part that requires honesty. You know, the grown up kind,
the old school kind, the kinder grandparents lived by when
life wasn't as cushioned with conveniences as it is for
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us now. You ready, most people are walking around half awake.
They're on a cruise control autopilot. I have watched people.
I love to people watch, so I've gone to places, parks.
Just a few weeks ago, I was sitting with a
friend in Etown and we're talking and I trust me,
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I can multi mental task, and we're talking and everything,
and I'm watching people walk by on their cell phones,
completely down when not even watching where they're going. And
I get it. But my god, as they're doing this,
the leaders are changing above them, the birds are flying.
It's a beautiful sunny day, and they're just focused on
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this TikTok video, which is great. But again, as I
talked about its balance, every so often, put your phone down.
But people are. They're walking around half awake, not spiritually,
not emotionally, not mentally, just drifting. Do you find yourself drifting?
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They know they love certain people, but they don't say
it enough. They know they're blessed, but they just choose
to not show it as much. They know life is fragile,
but they act like nothing will ever ever, because you know,
life doesn't change. People go years like this, sometimes decades,
and then one day life taps him on the shoulder
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and says, wake the fuck up. You've heard the stories yourself.
Someone loses a parent and suddenly they realize all the
little things they should have appreciated. Someone gets sick, and
suddenly wake walking becomes a blessing, walking out of your
doctor's office figuring out that what you thought you may
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have you don't. Someone loses a job and suddenly the
routine they complained about kind of looks like paradise. Someone
someone's home burns down, and suddenly the floor they walk
down without thinking becomes holy ground. But here's the thing.
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You don't need tragedies to wake up. You don't need
a disaster to become grateful. You don't need heartbreak to
start paying attention. You just need to choose to stop
living as if you're guaranteed anything, because nothing is owed
to you. Nothing, my God, nothing is. Gratitude is not soft.
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Gratitude is not pretty. Gratitude is not a Pinterest quote
with nice funt Real gratitude is raw. It's humbling, it's grounding.
It reminds you who you are and what matters and
what you can't ever replace again. And when it hits you,
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and God, it truly hits you in the jaw, it
changes the way you show up in the world the
very next day. So again I ask, if you right
now I'm talking to you you, what would you miss
right now if it disappeared today? Think about it. By
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the end this evening, that thing that plays that possibility,
the opportunity is gone, that person is gone. Tomorrow you
will wake up and they will no longer be a
part of your life. Let's take this into real life territory.
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Think about people in your life right now, not in
a polite way, not as names on a list, I
mean the actual physical humans in your world. And ask
yourself a question, if this person disappeared today, what would
I miss most about them? Not what's obvious, not what
you say on the holidays, not stuff that everybody says
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at the funerals. I think funerals from in the most part,
when you when you know a lot of people at
a funeral almost like saying the entire cast of stars,
and you hear all this shit people talk about when
somebody is alive, and then here you are at their funeral.
At You're like, who the hell are they even talking about?
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This person was one I've always told Melissa there should
be true obituaries like so and so. He was a
great person, but god, he was cheap as hell. He
had his moments, but you know what, he was a
piece of shit. He never liked children. I think he
kicked dogs. He kept a clean house. He loved certain things.
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He loved fishing. He loved fishing. That was his time.
He'd been divorced seven times. He hated his wives. I
don't know why I continue to get married. He went
to school, but he barely made it. He hated a
job he did very well, but he hated everybody's job.
He never said Merry Christmas. Tending but he didn't care.
And he thought his birthday was stupid. That's an obituary
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not I have read a bit knowing people that I'm like,
where did they get this bullshit template? What is the small,
quiet personal thing? Maybe nobody knows that if you can
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no longer do ever again, you would ache for or
things about somebody meaningful in your life that if they
were no longer there would truly leave a hollow, empty
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void in your chest. Is it the way they laugh,
the way they walk into a room, the way they
mispronounce a certain word, You know what? Even those little
habits that they have that annoy you. But my god,
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you'd give anything to see it again, to hear it again,
to feel it again. How about those conversations on the couch,
the routine you take for granted because it's just normal.
The sound of them in the kitchen they're cough clearing
their throat, the way they call your name, the warmth
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they bring into the house, the comfort of just knowing
that they're in the house with you. Because here's the
truth that most people run from. You don't miss people
because they're perfect and missed it because they're familiar, because
they've woven themselves into your life. They've become part of
your rhythm, because they occupy a space in your heart
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that nobody else can fill, and those are the things
we tend to ignore while we still have them. That's
why this style of gratitude imagining sudden loss hits you
right in the chest. It reveals the truth without the
hearts break because they're still there. It wakes you up
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before life forces you to. You see, gratitude and regrets
are twins. They're very similar in different ways. You want
another truth bomb, a little bit more reality. Gratitude and regret, well,
the only difference in gratitude and regret is timing. Gratitude
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is recognizing the value while you still have it. Regret
is recognizing the value after you've lost it. Same emotions,
same realization, different moments. And every time you practice this
exercise imagining loss, then returning to reality, and then you're
choosing gratitude instead of regret. You're choosing awareness instead of autopilot.
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You're choosing presence instead of distraction. You're choosing to honor
what you have instead of apologizing for what you lost.
You're choosing to feel the truth now, not later. Let
me tell you something that comes with age, wisdom and
a little bit of living. Regret sucks. Regret is heavy,
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Gratitude is light. Think about that. When it comes to pressure.
I had a scale in front of me. Regret is
very heavy, Gratitude is very light. Regret haunts you, Gratitude
strengthens you. Regret steals your peace, but gratitude restores it.
So if imagining loss for five seconds keeps you out
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of regret for the rest of your life, that's I
think that's a trade worth making every single morning and
every single night before you get to bed. You cannot
appreciate what you refuse to feel. Gratitude isn't meant it's emotional.
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If you don't feel it, you're not practicing it. Don't
don't just share it like car you know the word,
like you know buying a Hallmark card. I hope this
card says the right thing, and then half of the
women are men that read it, read the card and
then look at the person they are like, obviously, you
just this one looks good. I prefer blank cards personally.
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I don't need a person at a Hallmark office to
write how I may feel, because my life is magical
and my feelings are indescribable. I'm truly more than thankful
for my home. I'm truly more thankful than for my family.
It's it's it's indescribable in my life. This may seem
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tough for a lot of people to hear, but if
you found out between this podcast and my next podcast
that I was no longer here because something happened to me,
something whatever, No, As I tell you right now, I
could not have been any more thankful for my fifty
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five years of life. And I mean that, I could
not have been any more thankful. I have received so much,
I have lost a lot more, and I couldn't be
more thankful. I have dealt with some crazy situations, but
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I have been blessed with some amazing situations. And to me,
it's not just gratitude. It's not just a checklist what
I'm trying to accomplish in my goals to reach and
the toys I wish to have before I die. I
don't give a shit about any of that. Feeding my
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chickens and the pigeons and the rabbits and the horse
first thing in the morning. Real gratitude grows in the chests,
not in the head. It's in my breath, it's in
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my body, it's in that moment when something hits me hard,
so I actually have to pause for a second. I
have a little runt pigeon that I was like, it's
not gonna make it. Him and his brother, possibly I
guess what, They were born similar. But the brother grew
up and already is the size of everybody else in
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the pen. He is a quarter of the size. And
every day he fell out of the nest, and every
day I reached down and grabbed him put him back
in the nest. And I know that goes against what
a lot of people believe. I don't care to my nest,
screw you. And now he's half of the size. And
last night I went in to check on them, because
I do it constantly, and he was up on the
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highest perch. In that moment, when something hits you so hard,
you have to pause, you can't appreciate what you refuse
to feel. And we live in a world where people
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run from feelings like they're allergic to them. I run
to them. People will scroll, people will stay busy, people
will numb out. They will distract themselves from the sound
of the birds singing in my two gigantic trees. Here
every morning, thousands of birds and I always have to
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stop and turn on and watch. Take time to smell
the flowers, take time to hear the birds sing. But
gratitude requires emotion. It requires you to sit long enough
to notice the life in front of you. So my friends,
put the phone down, turn TV off, stop trying to
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be numb, and start trying to reconnect with the earth
beneath you and the God above. You don't recite prayers
and let others know how everything is. No, I don't
care what other people think of you. It's what you
think of yourself. Once you stop running from your feelings,
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you start recognizing your blessings and gratitude. Guess what. It
makes me more human Because here's something most people don't realize.
Gratitude reconnects you to your humanity. When you're truly grateful,
you become softer, not weak, but you become more aware
but not paranoid. You become more present, but not passive.
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You become more loving, but not foolish. Gratitude makes you
more ground and more thoughtful, more for giving, more real.
It strips away your arrogance you're in sense of entitlement.
It strips away your ego. It reminds you that life
is bigger than your to do list, bigger than your frustrations,
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your problems, your routines, or reminds you that you're human,
and that being human is a gift, even when sometimes
it's messy, even when it's scary, even when it's imperfect.
Especially then, and how about relationships to my friend that
I've been talking to for the past few days about
this situation. Let's bring this home with something real, simple
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and really important. Gratitude will change how you treat people,
what you say to them when you shouldn't speak and
when you're supposed to. When you appreciate someone, you talk
to them differently. You listen differently, You hold them differently.
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You forgive fast, you argue less. You stop sweating the
small stuff, great book, You stop letting pride ruin moments
fuck pride. You stop holding grudges like trophies. Who cares?
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And you start saying the truth. What's the truth. Most
of the things we get upset about don't matter, but
the people, The people matter more than anything. Gratitude reminds
you of that. It resenters your priorities, It keeps your
heart open, It keeps your relationships alive, and when you
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think about losing someone for even one second, you automatically
love them much deeper in a way. That's the power
of this practice. That's why this if you listen to
this podcast, hopefully there's quite a few of you that
listen to my podcast, Sir, I went over and over
and over. You don't let the moment be gone. You
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stop walking through days like it's like it's a permanent arrangement.
By this time, I do this, and by that time
I do that. By six thirty, I do this, and
by seven thirty I do that, and by nine o'clock
I go to bet. And then those are the people
when when the rug gets pulled out from under you,
those are the people that can't handle life because it's like,
wait a minute, everything has to happen scheduled. I know
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if people that have ended their lives because their schedules
changed and they couldn't deal with it. The people that
you have in your life, they're not part of some
lifetime membership, like the moment we're in this guaranteed to
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show up the next day, and tomorrow and tomorrow. We're
guaranteed that person every day is gonna walk through that
door and say the same thing every day, and they're
gonna make the same phone call at the same time
because it's guarantee. There's no guarantee, and that's why gratitude
gets watered down. We say I'm grateful for my wife,
I'm grateful for my kids, my husband, my home, but
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we say it in the same way we say that
the sky is blue and the grass is green, with
that tone of yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, of course I
am next question. But real gratitude, the kind that shakes
your soul and pulls your attention right back into this moment,
is born when you imagine not no longer having the
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person you love in front of you, not in a
depressing way, not in a doom in gloom life is
suffering way, but in a wake up way. When you
imagine losing something you love suddenly you understand how much
it actually does mean to you. Imagine walking to your
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home right now and for some reason it's empty, and
I mean furniture is gone. Where you're robbed. No, your
life just changed. The familiar little noises your animals' nails
make those your children, how at times they're crying, is
so fucking annoying. You're not a bad parent, it's life.
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The sound of the kids playing, or the dog's barking,
or the cat meowing. Oh my God is just And
then all of a sudden it's silent. You remember the
little things that that person does to fill that house
with warmth. They are now gone. You stand there and
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the emptiness hits you in the stomach, that heavy sinking
something is wrong, feeling something has changed. Now, imagine just
for one second, that this emptiness that I'm describing isn't permanent,
or is it what just happened? Now? Your heart tightens,
your mind raises, your chest gets heavy. That moment where
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real gratitude comes alive, not for comfort, not for repetition,
not from saying thank you because it sounds nice, but
because you just felt the emotional earthquake of imagining life
without the things that you treasure. Deh. Most people only
learn gratitude when life takes something from them, right, as
I said, when a relationship ends, parents pass For me,
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just recently, a peck passes away, when a friend moves away,
when your health begins to slip, and when your time
runs out. We don't want to wait until life hits
us like that. We want to learn before the loss.
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We want to appreciate our blessings while they're right here
in front of us, because nothing, nothing, nothing, not one
thing is guaranteed to stay, and that makes everything amazing.
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Did I make you think? Will you think differently about
the sound of your home? Those people that are meaningful
to you but sometimes can't annoy you, can do the
wrong thing or not do things exactly the way you
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wish they would, don't think to yourself. I'll appreciate it later.
I'll appreciate my kids more when I'm less stressed. I'll
spend more time with my partner. When things calm down,
I'll slow down and enjoy life. When everything is perfect, perfect,
I'll be grateful when life stops overwhelming me. I'll focus tomorrow.
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But here's the truth that most people don't want to
face it. Life never calms down, Life never becomes perfect.
And life, my friends, and I'm speaking to all of you,
will never wait for you. And like I said, when
they those things that you needed to do, those chances,
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those possibilities disappear. That's purpose, that's meaning, that's service. That's
why I write these podcasts. Hopefully, Hopefully something I said moved,
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something made you see the rest of your day differently.
Wherever you are, people love to talk about tomorrow. Tomorrow
is where they'll be better. Tomorrow is where they'll slow down.
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Tomorrow is where they'll will appreciate what they have. But
tomorrow is a myth. Tomorrow has more hearts, has broken
more hearts in any moment in time, because tomorrow told people.
You have time. Later. You can apologize later, you can
say I love you later, you can make that call later,
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You can be grateful later, You can live up life later.
You can enjoy tomorrow even though it may never arrive
for you. People live half of their lives in an
imaginary future and forget to live the only life they
actually have.
Speaker 2 (01:04:00):
Now.
Speaker 1 (01:04:02):
Now is real. Now is where love lives. Now is
where gratitude happens. Now is where life is happening. Don't
wait for life to wake you up. Please wake yourself
up now while you still have everything to be grateful for.
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Your heart always knows what matters and never forgets. It
never misplaces priorities, It never loses track of who or
what is precious. But your mind, oh your mind, Oh
your mind, is a whole different story. Your mind gets distracted.
It gets busy, gets overwhelmed, He gets caught up, pulled
in a thousand directions because I'm so busy, and i
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am so stressed out, and i am so future focused,
problem focused, noise focused. The mind forgets the heart remembers
this exercise, imagining losing something is the bridge between the
two things that matter. It makes the mind listen to
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the heart again. It aligns your head with your truth.
It puts the focus back where it belongs. It's not
teaching you what matters. It's reminding you because you've always known,
you just needed a moment to feel it again. Gratitude
isn't soft and fluffy. It isn't just a pleasant emotion.
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It's a responsibility, a daily discipline. Because when you're grateful,
you love better. When you're grateful, you treat people better.
When you're grateful, you live more fully. When you're grateful,
problems feel lighter. Gratitude makes you a better human. But
you can't practice gratitude properly if you're asleep and you
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are just pissing your life away. Hopefully, Hopefully, this podcast,
this episode will wake people Uppefully, it will shake them
by the shoulders and say, look, pay attention. You are
surrounding by so many blessings. Please don't be blind to them.
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I hope I made you think. I hope I made
you question your existence and to appreciate every tomorrow, every today,
and to be grateful for all of the experiences of
the past that you have made. Keep this in mind.
Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work
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Some of you it's a religious thing and for that
I appreciate you and I'm truly humbled by that. For
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your inner confidence and igniting your belief in your self yourself,
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you know. Reset yourself. This is all about you. Yes,
not you, you, this is all about actually all of you.
I'm your host, and I'm always extremely thrilled and excited
to share my thoughts and research with you as we
go along on this journey together. We're learning together. I
believe that we can nurture a mindset that empowers us
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to reach our fullest potential. Yes, I write and record
every episode to challenge our thinking, my thinking, your thinking
is thinking, and to encourage us to reflect and inspire actionable,
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facing a career transition, seeking to overcome challenges, or simply
striving for greater fulfillment in life. This podcast has been
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show is to teach people to focus more on what
they can accomplish, can being the main word there, so
they do the things they need to do when they
need to do them, so that ultimately you can get
the things you want when you wish to have them.
And this episode is dedicated to all of you. Tell
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me what you want and I will show you how
to get it. The question is are you willing to
do the work. Oh that's the conundrum. Are you willing
to get off your ass and do something or would
you prefer to continue to sit in misery and complain
and not realizing that the little sand clock, little sand
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granules of your life it's going. It's not stopping. Just
because you choose to sit there and not do anything
today doesn't stop your life. Your life is still going.
Time is still going. The possibility for you to make
an impact on your own life or the life of
others will always be there every single day. So my
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advice for many is is every single day, in every
single way, you should be doing something to better yourself
and maybe for just today the life of others. Because
the world doesn't rotate around you. We all share this
ball of energy together. So sometimes the day is for
you to make your move. And sometimes you are not
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a king, a queen, a rook, a knight, but you're
a pawn and you're a poet in somebody else's life
to help them, to inspire them. So that's a beautiful thing.
So if it's morning, good morning, if it's evening for
some of you, if it's afternoon, wherever you're tuning in
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from all over the planet because now I have there's
so many platforms, and basically, let's just make it simple.
I hope you're breathing easy. I hope you're sitting comfortably
and giving yourself just a few minutes to be here
with me. You already know who it is, like I said,
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this is your guy. I'm your friend, your Monday morning meditations,
your Tuesday morning reset yourself, reset your life companion, bringing
you another episode. As I said to two two and today, hmm, today,
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today's topic, it might be a little bit tough for some.
It's one of my reality Like I'm sorry, my real
real life. It's so funny minute I started getting serious
to cats like looking at me. Today, we're going to
talk about something that most people say but don't really feel,
something that we repeat so often that the meeting has
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watered down, like old coffee left on a burner all day.
Sometimes something we all claim to practice, but if we're
being truly honest, most of us barely scratch that surface.
We're talking about gratitude. Now, I know so many of
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you just automatically like, oh, gratitude. Of course, I practice
gratitude I'm always just give me a second. This is
as I said, it's a different angle, but not the hallmark,
the beautiful type of gratitude, beautiful fund appreciate yourself, be
thinking no, no, no, no, cut that shit out, not
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the list three things you're grateful for and move on
kind not the polite force Instagram style gratitude. Now, as
you know, I am a hypnotherapist. I have had some fascinating, fascinating,
very interesting clients that have come to me for what
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they thought was losing weight or smoking or how to
have a better golf game. Actually, yes, I do sports too,
and it's fascinating because they work tremendously. Younger fella, the
mindset is everything kids. People are like, what can you do?
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I can do anything as long as you are ready
for it. What are you? In this episode, we're going
to go much deeper with the concept of gratitude. We're
going to talk about gratitude that wakes you up, the
gratitude that hits you in the gut, the gratitude that
you usually only discover after you've lost something. Yes, let's
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be real, most of us never realize the real value
of something until life takes it away right, and you
know who I'm talking about, and a lot of you
are like me. Actually, I had a couple of conversations
over the past three days with three or four people
about this topic. So today we're not just going to
talk about gratitude. We're going to feel it. We're going
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to explore the uncomfortable truth of losing something in your
mind just long enough to wake up your heart. And
then we're going to talk about what that awareness can
do for your life, your relationships, your mindset, and your
ability to finally live fully. Not just a hamework card
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saying believe in yourself and I love the world and everything. No, no, no, no,
that's that's no no, because that's all talk lip service.
Now I'm talking about feeling it, really saying it. So
take a breath, settle in, let's get into this. So
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the problem with gratitude today is so many of you,
especially through TikTok and Instagram and Facebook and all the
reels and all the memes, you've heard the gratitude speeches before,
over and over and over. You've seen the list, you've
heard the people say. You already know the same voices.
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I'm grateful for my family, I'm grateful for my health.
I'm grateful for my home, I'm grateful for my job.
I'm great. Yeah, I know, I'm grateful for another day
to be alive. I mean, I myself in over two
hundred and two episodes have said that a thousand times.
And don't get me wrong, those things obviously matter. But
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here's the truth. Nobody likes to say out loud. Most
of you aren't great. You're just reading a script, you're
having a horrible shitty day, you're being a complete and
total brat. And then all of a sudden you're reminded that, oh,
I need to be grateful because Tony Robins saidator Jimmy
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Gonzalez said it, or there's a TikTok that reminded me
with a guy with a really good voice saying you
need to believe in yourself. You need to believe in
what you have. If not, you shall lose it. And
then you're like, oh, yeah, he's right. I like what
I have, I love who I am. I am so grateful. Yeah,
And then all of a sudden, the dog, I'm sorry,
the cat starts vomiting on the couch and you're like,
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what the fuck. And then you're angry again, and then
you're pissy for the next forty five minutes. We all
do it. My thing is always the balance. How quickly
do you come back from that anger, that rage, that
moments that you're focused on just something negative. So many
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of us just say the words of gratitude over and
over and over without the weight of gratitude to really
make it true. And it's not only because you're bad people.
Has nothing to do with that. It's not because you
don't care. It's because human beings we adapt way too quickly.
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We get used to blessings the way we get used
to electricity. It's invisible until it's not there anymore. Think
about it. You take it for granted. You're so used
to electricity being there, and right now, all of you,
wherever you are, you don't even notice the hum that hum.
Trust me, I know the hum. I've worked in many
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recording studios, so I immediately, at a very young age,
working in studios as an engineer, having the door closed
behind me, and it's deafening. And even though you think,
what does that have to do with what we're talking about,
for me, it meant a lot because that's one of
those times that you walk into a studio and you
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close the big foam door and everything is deadening, and
you don't realize the hum that lives with you constantly.
It's crazy. And the same thing goes with electricity in
your own home. You're sitting there and you're assuming everything
is nice and quiet, right, it's not. It's not until
the power goes out.
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It is.
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That silence is so deafening. But like that, the same
thing goes for when something, someone that you appreciate is
no longer there, someone that was just a part of
your life an hour ago is no longer there. It's deafening.
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We normalize the things that used to make a smile.
We take for granted the people who show up day
after day because they're always going to be there. Right.
We get numb to the blessings that use to bring
us to our knees. We don't stop and see our
life as the miracle it truly is. We don't slow
down enough to recognize how fragile life is. We don't
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pay attention to the fact that life doesn't promise us anything. Nothing,
not one more mourning, not one more conversation, not one
more chance to say I love you. But we live
as if as if everything is guaranteed. We treat our
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tomorrows like they're infinite. We treat our health like it'll
never slip. We treat our relationships like that can survive
any amount of neglect. We treat our lives like their
permanent fixtures. Our cousins, our nieces, our nephews, our brothers
or sisters, our parents, our children. They're there, They're always
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going to be there. And that is when something has
suddenly gone, Oh my god, that's when we feel it.
That's when the truth wakes us up. That's when gratitude
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becomes real. But what if we just didn't wait for
loss to teach us. What if we learned to feel
value before it disappeared. What if we train ourselves to
appreciate what we have by imagining the moment it's no
longer there. That's where I'm going today with this podcast.
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I'm talking about that moment that wakes you up. Let
me tell you something straight. There are moments in life
that punch you so hard in the chest that gratitude
becomes automatic. A phone call in the middle of the night,
a medical diagnosis, a goodbye you didn't see coming, a mistake.
You can't undo a moment you prayed was a dream
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but wasn't. It's those moments that strip away the nonsense,
the bullshit, that reveals the truth. It skins you alive,
it tears you in half. How how did this happen?
Why did this happen to me? You love deeper than
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you realize, you needed more than you admitted. You were
blessed in ways that you ignored. You took something for
granted that meant everything. But here's the problem. These moments
they come too late. They come after the damage, after
the loss, after the regret, after the goodbye. So today
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we're not waiting for that punch in the chest. We're
going to create a smaller version of it on purpose,
in the safety of your own mind, to me against
you right now. We're going to do something a little uncomfortable,
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but trust me, it'll be worth it. You'll come out
a better person at the end. Because comfort doesn't grow you,
comfort doesn't deepen you, comfort doesn't wake you up. We're
going to look at your life as if something precious
vanished for just a moment, so that when you come
back to reality, you see the truth with clear eyes.
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So if if you're not ready to have your mind
play with a little bit, trust me, I'm a hypnotherapist,
but you have complete and total control. I'm not going
to do anything without your permission, obviously. I'm just gonna
read some stuff and I'm just gonna have you think
about it. So if you're not ready for this right now,
maybe switch over to something else, some early Christmas music
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or some rock, or some country or some I like blues,
some bluegrass, jet anything, and the rest of your ride,
wherever you're going, whatever you're doing. My dog walkers, my many, many,
many dog walkers, Thank you. Just listen to some music.
Maybe this isn't the time, but if you're ready to
have your mindset shifted a little bit, let's go. It's
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very simple. Just take a breath, nice deep breath. Wherever
you are. If you're driving, maybe pull over, but it
doesn't matter. You're not going to lose your focus. Really,
but I want you to think about something in your
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life or someone that you love. What just came to
your mind? Come on? Who? Where?
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What?
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See it? See them? See the place, Almost as if
you were looking at a tapestry, and as you pictured them,
that tapestry the colors were filling up, the shapes were
being created, and you were seeing the place or their
face clearer and clearer and clearer in such rich, beautiful colors.
See them, like I said, it could be a person,
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a child, a partner or spouse, a parent, a friend,
a pet, a moment that always you look forward to.
Your health, your voice, your freedom, your ability to walk,
your ability to see what Yes, things that we take
for granted that mean so much to you. Your ability
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to breathe without machines. But this is for you. So
choose something real? Who when? Where? Just popped in your
mind when I said that something? Someone? You love? Something something?
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See them? Feel them? How do they make you feel?
How does this place make you feel? How much do
you vibrate? How big do you smile? It's a beautiful thing.
It's a blessing, so meaningful. Right again, think of that,
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think of them, see them, see this place. Remember, colors
are getting richer and richer in your mind's eye. It's
a beautiful thing. Now imagine, just imagine you wake up
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tomorrow just like every day you have so far, but
now it's no longer. They are no longer a part
of your life. They are gone. Go on in a
way that isn't coming back, Gone in a way that
you can't argue with. Go on in a way that
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makes your whole body feel hollow. They've been taken from you,
It's gone gone. What does this do to you? Do
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you feel a shift in your chest? Is that the
feeling of your heart breaking or avoid being created in
your chest? Feel how fast that truth rises? I wasn't
ready to lose that, that ache, your feeling, that shock,
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that tightness, that sting behind your eyes, That, my friend,
is real gratitude that you've been missing. That's the gratitude
you don't get from lists or journaling or repeating the
same old mantra manifestations over and over and over. Not
that you don't need those, you do, but if you
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have something and right in front of you put down
the phone. That's the gratitude that comes from recognizing the
fragility of life instead of assuming everything just lasts forever.
That is, to me, the weirdest sickness. I've been blessed
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as an animal control officer and as a human being
to have death in my life quite a bit of it.
I've had a lot of family members, thousands of animals
that I have witnessed die in front of me, just
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here in the farm. It's very weird. So it's a
lifestyle that I've never expected I would have to deal with.
Farm life is very different. Now, breathe, come back to
this moment, the thing that you imagine losing. See that cannabis,
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How beautiful it was for a moment. It's just white,
it's just blank. That person, that place is gone. Sucks.
Huh because you didn't have time today to give them
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a hug, a kiss, a truly meant good morning. Why
because you didn't have time because you're running late. I
don't care. You can take an extra second to stop
to look at that person and say I love you,
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I appreciate you. And if you're not a talker, that's fine.
Just hug them out here for a little bit of magic.
You ready, close your eyes quickly if you're driving, be careful.
They're back on that canvas again, full color, vivid colors, alive.
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How quickly they left, how quickly they came back. The
thing you imagine losing is still there. Let that sink in.
It's still there, that place, the possibilities, the opportunities, that
person is still there right now, You still have it,
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you still have them, you still have time, And that
right there is your reminder to stop sleep walking through
your blessings. Oh my god, the blessings, the so many
blessings that we ignore because we we don't know how
to about. So let's go a little deeper. Really, yeah,
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because life isn't just about the big blessings. It's the
obvious ones that everyone lists at Thanksgiving, right, Like, when
you're sitting at a table, what are you thankful for?
I'm thankful for this turkey, I'm thankful for my job.
I'm thankful for everybody at this table. Even though when
you get family together, most of you know that half
of you hate the other half. Especially with politics, I
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will never understand that. When did that start, like eight,
eight years ago, ten years ago, all of a sudden,
Like you know, you like Trump and I like Biden,
and you voted for this person. I voted for that person.
I'm a Republican and you're a Democrat and I'm a
socialist and you're I get it. I understand it's it's
it's a difficult topic, but I'm sorry. My love for
a person means so much more than who they're voting for.
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I don't give a fuck about your politic political stance,
or even who you pray to or what you pray to.
I just care about you. You another human being going
through this life with me, living, learning, laughing, making a
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lot of mistakes, doing a lot of stupid shit. But
when we truly love each other unconditionally, those little things
they do piss us off. But while we're breaking bread,
you need to learn to put those things aside and
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just cherish that person because remember the canvas, they can
be gone. And then. I've been to many funerals. I
always found it fascinating that through life I see a
lot of people bickering and complaining and talking mad shit
about each other. A good one was today today I
just happened to watch a thing about Paul Stanley from Kiss.
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I knew for years that Gene Simmons and Paul Stanley, okay,
that they didn't get along with Ace Frehley and Peter
Chris from Kiss. So the guitarists that just passed away,
and the drummer other drummers from Connecticut. So I remember
all of the many, many rumors. And I had a
friend in Connecticut that was a huge fan, but I'm
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like a ridiculously large fan. He had their video games
and like pinball machines, and his pickup truck had the
Kiss logo on the door and anyway, So I knew
a lot about what was going on with Kiss for years,
how the band split up. One part just wanted to party,
supposedly and just get high and live life, and the
other party wanted to make Kiss a company, an organization,
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each their own. But now Ace Frehley passed a few
weeks ago, rest in peace, and they're you know, you know,
it's funny because you see so many people talk about
how incredibly he was a guitarist and other people how
he was just a piece of this and a piece
of that, and it's just it's like, I don't really care,
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like on somebody's death and you're still complaining about them.
So I watched an interview with Paul Stanley, and surprisingly,
you could tell you it was actually heartfelt. He knew
they had fights, he knew they had issues, and it's
like being human, you're going to you're gonna have fights
with people in your life, but there has to be
a line that shouldn't be crossed and I could learn,
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I could agree to disagree with your beliefs, with your upbringing.
Because here's the thing. I'm from Connecticut, Okay, even me
being here in Kentucky. The way I was brought up,
I was brought up in the hardhood, and I went
to school in New York City. I spent most of
my time from thirteen up in New York City, around
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the different boroughs, Greenwich Village. It's a very different way
of thinking and living. It's a lot tougher then you
come here and people really are, which is why I
came here. A lot kinder, more forgiving, a lot loving,
a lot more loving. And to this day, I'll be
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honest with you, it's very difficult for me to comprehend
this lifestyle because I almost come off as too tough.
But I appreciate what I had, and I love what
I have now, and I've learned to just go with
it and accept these new blessings and this new way
of living and truly appreciating a lot of stuff that
I never even thought of. And this goes more than
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I said. When you sit next week or next week
and for Thanksgiving, you know, I appreciate this turkey and
this pop pie is this pumpkin pie is so wonderful.
And I appreciate you and you and no like truly
don't say anything. You know what, when it's time to
do that, just get up and hug each other. That's
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how you so true love. Let them feel you. Life
is about the ordinary blessing we overlook every single day.
Waking up without pain, standing up without help, drinking water
whenever you want, your heartbeat doing its job without your permission,
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your eyes opening in the morning, breathing without thinking, having
people who care if you disappear, having to a voice
to speak, having a body that still carries you, having
memories that belong only to you, having a laugh, having
a home, having time. We ignore these things until they're gone.
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We so complain about small stuff while holding miracles in
our hands. Think about that. I know if people that
complain constantly, they don't shut up. It's just complain after complaint.
And like I just said, they're complaining so much in
this hand, now realizing that they carry so many miracles
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in this one, and then when that one's taken away. Oh,
it's God's fault, it's your fault, it's the president's fault,
it's society's fault. It's the liberals fault, it's the socialist's fault,
it's the republican's fault. It's your fault. It's your fault.
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We chase things we don't need, and we forget the
things we can't replace. We wait until hindsight makes us wise,
instead of letting awareness be the thing that makes us grateful.
But not today, today, Hopefully, Hopefully, with this podcast, you
start to crack open your eyes. As many of you know,
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I love the mind. I love psychology. Why we think
how we think. So let's talk science for a second,
the old school, practical kind. There's a reason imagining loss
hits deeper than listing blessings. The human brain is wired
to react more intensely to the loss than the gain.
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It's called loss aversion. Oh it's powerful. I got lost
and it was a rabbit hole for me. Loss aversion.
You can give something something amazing and they will smile.
You can give someone something amazing and they will smile.
But take away something they already have and they'll fight
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you with everything they've got. Because loss hits harder, Loss
wakes you up faster, Loss forces perspective. So when you
imagine losing something precious, even for a split second. You
activate the part of your brain that says, this matters,
this is valuable, pay attention, And once that happens, gratitude
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becomes real, not just mental, but it becomes emotional. This
is gratitude that sticks, gratitude that last, gratitude that changes behavior.
You know what what happens when you practice this, when
you make it a habit, When you regularly imagine what
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life would be like without the blessings, you already have
four things happen every single time. Every single time these
four things happen. One, you become kinder because you stop
taking people for granted, including yes, I know most of
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you've just said it myself, Yeah, yourself. That's the number
one person you take for granted. It's yourself. Number Two,
you just become more patient the small annoyances, the sounds
in the background, the things that aren't working exactly the
way you wish they would, because in somehow you actually
think you have control of things that are happening out there.
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Are you crazy? You don't? Those small noises just stop
mattering so much because you know what truly matters. And
of course, in this moment number three, you become more present,
You stop rushing through your life like it's a race
and start living like it's a privilege, it's a gift.
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And four you do become more grateful, genuinely grateful. Now
just I am more grateful. I am more thankful for
the life I have. Issue not that shallow kind, the
kind that changes how you speak, how you think, how
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you love, and how you just show up every morning
when you wake up. This is the gratitude that evolves you.
But here's the real, raw truth. One day you're going
to wish for a moment you're living right now. Think
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about that. I have a friend right now, me and
her are having a conversation. Right now, she's wishing for
a moment that she was already living. And it could
be for all of you. A conversation, a morning coffee,
a hug, a laugh, a face across the table, a
hand you held, a body that still worked, a memory
you ignored until it was too late. Are you looking
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for a warning? Are you looking for a sign when
this is no longer there? Life doesn't give up warnings,
It doesn't negotiate, It doesn't wait to see when you
were ready to handle it. It doesn't reschedule with you
when you when maybe you're having a bad day, so
today I'm not gonna shit on you. It doesn't say,
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you know what, let's let's wait until they can revisit
this time when they're more grateful. That suck. Excuse me.
Life moves people, age, things change, Time takes what it takes,
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So practice gratitude now, not later. Well, Jimmy, how do
I do that? You turned this into a daily practice,
which becomes a habit. You know, the shitty habits you have? Yes, yeah,
I'm talking to you. You oh and you too. You
people have some shitty habits, but understand that the same
way you created shitty habits, you can easily create good ones.
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It's just funny when people talk about habit. With all
of my clients, whenever I brought up to the word habit,
it's always brought to attention a bad habit, and I'm like,
but there's good habits, And would you believe every single
one of them do this? Yes, there are good habits.
Every morning, I pick one thing you love, and, like
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we did before, imagine losing it. And then for one second,
I dare you I double dog dare you imagine losing
it and then feeling it that that person is not
with you anymore, or this job that you still love.
By the time you get to work you've been fired.
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You get a phone call that someone is very special
to you, just that got into a car accident and
didn't make it, and then realize they're still there. Everything
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is still there, nothing has gone anywhere. So return to
reality and appreciate it for real. Every evening, right before
you go to bed, ask yourself, what or who did
I take for granted today? And if you did, you're not.
You're not a piece of crap. Just correct it tomorrow.
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Do this once a week. Tell someone you love them,
show someone you appreciate them. Say the thing you would
regret not saying. Don't wait, don't assume, don't delay gratitude.
Gratitude isn't about being positive. It's about being awake. It's
about recognizing the fragility of the things you love. It's
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about paying attention while you still have the chance to.
It's about honoring what matters, not with words, oh I
appreciate you, Oh my god, sorry sound was off a
little bit, but with presence. So today let yourself feel
the blessings you've been too busy to feel like I
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think it's funny when people still have this thing, like,
you know, a lot to do to the gym. Oh
you know, I'm balancing the way to the world. The
President of the United States. Isn't that busy? Please? Nobody
is that busy. I'm sorry that there are some of
you that think that what you do throughout your day
is just too busy because you have an appointment at
eleven and another one at three, and you have to
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cook dinner at five. Oh yeah, maybe still get the
clothes and the dryer. Nobody is that busy. Nobody is
that busy. If you can't make the time, it's because
you don't want to because that person or that place
isn't that important to you. And that's fine too. Let
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yourself feel the blessings you've been too busy to feel.
Not the surface level stuff, not the polite answers, not
the automatic scripts, but feel the deep stuff, the real stuff,
the stuff you would break down over if it disappeared.
Who in your life right now, if they disappeared right now,
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would it destroy you? That feeling? Boy, that's gratitude, that's awareness,
that's being alive, that loss is a reminder, and that
right there is how you reset yourself by acknowledging it. Now,
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this one hold on where we're going now is this
next part digs into a place most people will avoid,
the part of gratitude. Nobody likes to talk about, the
part that requires honesty. You know, the grown up kind,
the old school kind, the kinder grandparents lived by when
life wasn't as cushioned with conveniences as it is for
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us now. You ready, most people are walking around half awake.
They're on a cruise control autopilot. I have watched people.
I love to people watch, so I've gone to places, parks.
Just a few weeks ago, I was sitting with a
friend in Etown and we're talking and I trust me,
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I can multi mental task, and we're talking and everything,
and I'm watching people walk by on their cell phones,
completely down when not even watching where they're going. And
I get it. But my god, as they're doing this,
the leaders are changing above them, the birds are flying.
It's a beautiful sunny day, and they're just focused on
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this TikTok video, which is great. But again, as I
talked about its balance, every so often, put your phone down.
But people are. They're walking around half awake, not spiritually,
not emotionally, not mentally, just drifting. Do you find yourself drifting?
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They know they love certain people, but they don't say
it enough. They know they're blessed, but they just choose
to not show it as much. They know life is fragile,
but they act like nothing will ever ever, because you know,
life doesn't change. People go years like this, sometimes decades,
and then one day life taps him on the shoulder
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and says, wake the fuck up. You've heard the stories yourself.
Someone loses a parent and suddenly they realize all the
little things they should have appreciated. Someone gets sick, and
suddenly wake walking becomes a blessing, walking out of your
doctor's office figuring out that what you thought you may
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have you don't. Someone loses a job and suddenly the
routine they complained about kind of looks like paradise. Someone
someone's home burns down, and suddenly the floor they walk
down without thinking becomes holy ground. But here's the thing.
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You don't need tragedies to wake up. You don't need
a disaster to become grateful. You don't need heartbreak to
start paying attention. You just need to choose to stop
living as if you're guaranteed anything, because nothing is owed
to you. Nothing, my God, nothing is. Gratitude is not soft.
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Gratitude is not pretty. Gratitude is not a Pinterest quote
with nice funt Real gratitude is raw. It's humbling, it's grounding.
It reminds you who you are and what matters and
what you can't ever replace again. And when it hits you,
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and God, it truly hits you in the jaw, it
changes the way you show up in the world the
very next day. So again I ask, if you right
now I'm talking to you you, what would you miss
right now if it disappeared today? Think about it. By
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the end this evening, that thing that plays that possibility,
the opportunity is gone, that person is gone. Tomorrow you
will wake up and they will no longer be a
part of your life. Let's take this into real life territory.
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Think about people in your life right now, not in
a polite way, not as names on a list, I
mean the actual physical humans in your world. And ask
yourself a question, if this person disappeared today, what would
I miss most about them? Not what's obvious, not what
you say on the holidays, not stuff that everybody says
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at the funerals. I think funerals from in the most part,
when you when you know a lot of people at
a funeral almost like saying the entire cast of stars,
and you hear all this shit people talk about when
somebody is alive, and then here you are at their funeral.
At You're like, who the hell are they even talking about?
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This person was one I've always told Melissa there should
be true obituaries like so and so. He was a
great person, but god, he was cheap as hell. He
had his moments, but you know what, he was a
piece of shit. He never liked children. I think he
kicked dogs. He kept a clean house. He loved certain things.
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He loved fishing. He loved fishing. That was his time.
He'd been divorced seven times. He hated his wives. I
don't know why I continue to get married. He went
to school, but he barely made it. He hated a
job he did very well, but he hated everybody's job.
He never said Merry Christmas. Tending but he didn't care.
And he thought his birthday was stupid. That's an obituary
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not I have read a bit knowing people that I'm like,
where did they get this bullshit template? What is the small,
quiet personal thing? Maybe nobody knows that if you can
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no longer do ever again, you would ache for or
things about somebody meaningful in your life that if they
were no longer there would truly leave a hollow, empty
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void in your chest. Is it the way they laugh,
the way they walk into a room, the way they
mispronounce a certain word, You know what? Even those little
habits that they have that annoy you. But my god,
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you'd give anything to see it again, to hear it again,
to feel it again. How about those conversations on the couch,
the routine you take for granted because it's just normal.
The sound of them in the kitchen they're cough clearing
their throat, the way they call your name, the warmth
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they bring into the house, the comfort of just knowing
that they're in the house with you. Because here's the
truth that most people run from. You don't miss people
because they're perfect and missed it because they're familiar, because
they've woven themselves into your life. They've become part of
your rhythm, because they occupy a space in your heart
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that nobody else can fill, and those are the things
we tend to ignore while we still have them. That's
why this style of gratitude imagining sudden loss hits you
right in the chest. It reveals the truth without the
hearts break because they're still there. It wakes you up
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before life forces you to. You see, gratitude and regrets
are twins. They're very similar in different ways. You want
another truth bomb, a little bit more reality. Gratitude and regret, well,
the only difference in gratitude and regret is timing. Gratitude
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is recognizing the value while you still have it. Regret
is recognizing the value after you've lost it. Same emotions,
same realization, different moments. And every time you practice this
exercise imagining loss, then returning to reality, and then you're
choosing gratitude instead of regret. You're choosing awareness instead of autopilot.
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You're choosing presence instead of distraction. You're choosing to honor
what you have instead of apologizing for what you lost.
You're choosing to feel the truth now, not later. Let
me tell you something that comes with age, wisdom and
a little bit of living. Regret sucks. Regret is heavy,
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Gratitude is light. Think about that. When it comes to pressure.
I had a scale in front of me. Regret is
very heavy, Gratitude is very light. Regret haunts you, Gratitude
strengthens you. Regret steals your peace, but gratitude restores it.
So if imagining loss for five seconds keeps you out
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of regret for the rest of your life, that's I
think that's a trade worth making every single morning and
every single night before you get to bed. You cannot
appreciate what you refuse to feel. Gratitude isn't meant it's emotional.
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If you don't feel it, you're not practicing it. Don't
don't just share it like car you know the word,
like you know buying a Hallmark card. I hope this
card says the right thing, and then half of the
women are men that read it, read the card and
then look at the person they are like, obviously, you
just this one looks good. I prefer blank cards personally.
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I don't need a person at a Hallmark office to
write how I may feel, because my life is magical
and my feelings are indescribable. I'm truly more than thankful
for my home. I'm truly more thankful than for my family.
It's it's it's indescribable in my life. This may seem
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tough for a lot of people to hear, but if
you found out between this podcast and my next podcast
that I was no longer here because something happened to me,
something whatever, No, As I tell you right now, I
could not have been any more thankful for my fifty
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five years of life. And I mean that, I could
not have been any more thankful. I have received so much,
I have lost a lot more, and I couldn't be
more thankful. I have dealt with some crazy situations, but
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I have been blessed with some amazing situations. And to me,
it's not just gratitude. It's not just a checklist what
I'm trying to accomplish in my goals to reach and
the toys I wish to have before I die. I
don't give a shit about any of that. Feeding my
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chickens and the pigeons and the rabbits and the horse
first thing in the morning. Real gratitude grows in the chests,
not in the head. It's in my breath, it's in
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my body, it's in that moment when something hits me hard,
so I actually have to pause for a second. I
have a little runt pigeon that I was like, it's
not gonna make it. Him and his brother, possibly I
guess what, They were born similar. But the brother grew
up and already is the size of everybody else in
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the pen. He is a quarter of the size. And
every day he fell out of the nest, and every
day I reached down and grabbed him put him back
in the nest. And I know that goes against what
a lot of people believe. I don't care to my nest,
screw you. And now he's half of the size. And
last night I went in to check on them, because
I do it constantly, and he was up on the
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highest perch. In that moment, when something hits you so hard,
you have to pause, you can't appreciate what you refuse
to feel. And we live in a world where people
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run from feelings like they're allergic to them. I run
to them. People will scroll, people will stay busy, people
will numb out. They will distract themselves from the sound
of the birds singing in my two gigantic trees. Here
every morning, thousands of birds and I always have to
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stop and turn on and watch. Take time to smell
the flowers, take time to hear the birds sing. But
gratitude requires emotion. It requires you to sit long enough
to notice the life in front of you. So my friends,
put the phone down, turn TV off, stop trying to
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be numb, and start trying to reconnect with the earth
beneath you and the God above. You don't recite prayers
and let others know how everything is. No, I don't
care what other people think of you. It's what you
think of yourself. Once you stop running from your feelings,
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you start recognizing your blessings and gratitude. Guess what. It
makes me more human Because here's something most people don't realize.
Gratitude reconnects you to your humanity. When you're truly grateful,
you become softer, not weak, but you become more aware
but not paranoid. You become more present, but not passive.
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You become more loving, but not foolish. Gratitude makes you
more ground and more thoughtful, more for giving, more real.
It strips away your arrogance you're in sense of entitlement.
It strips away your ego. It reminds you that life
is bigger than your to do list, bigger than your frustrations,
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your problems, your routines, or reminds you that you're human,
and that being human is a gift, even when sometimes
it's messy, even when it's scary, even when it's imperfect.
Especially then, and how about relationships to my friend that
I've been talking to for the past few days about
this situation. Let's bring this home with something real, simple
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and really important. Gratitude will change how you treat people,
what you say to them when you shouldn't speak and
when you're supposed to. When you appreciate someone, you talk
to them differently. You listen differently, You hold them differently.
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You forgive fast, you argue less. You stop sweating the
small stuff, great book, You stop letting pride ruin moments
fuck pride. You stop holding grudges like trophies. Who cares?
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And you start saying the truth. What's the truth. Most
of the things we get upset about don't matter, but
the people, The people matter more than anything. Gratitude reminds
you of that. It resenters your priorities, It keeps your
heart open, It keeps your relationships alive, and when you
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think about losing someone for even one second, you automatically
love them much deeper in a way. That's the power
of this practice. That's why this if you listen to
this podcast, hopefully there's quite a few of you that
listen to my podcast, Sir, I went over and over
and over. You don't let the moment be gone. You
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stop walking through days like it's like it's a permanent arrangement.
By this time, I do this, and by that time
I do that. By six thirty, I do this, and
by seven thirty I do that, and by nine o'clock
I go to bet. And then those are the people
when when the rug gets pulled out from under you,
those are the people that can't handle life because it's like,
wait a minute, everything has to happen scheduled. I know
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if people that have ended their lives because their schedules
changed and they couldn't deal with it. The people that
you have in your life, they're not part of some
lifetime membership, like the moment we're in this guaranteed to
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show up the next day, and tomorrow and tomorrow. We're
guaranteed that person every day is gonna walk through that
door and say the same thing every day, and they're
gonna make the same phone call at the same time
because it's guarantee. There's no guarantee, and that's why gratitude
gets watered down. We say I'm grateful for my wife,
I'm grateful for my kids, my husband, my home, but
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we say it in the same way we say that
the sky is blue and the grass is green, with
that tone of yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, of course I
am next question. But real gratitude, the kind that shakes
your soul and pulls your attention right back into this moment,
is born when you imagine not no longer having the
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person you love in front of you, not in a
depressing way, not in a doom in gloom life is
suffering way, but in a wake up way. When you
imagine losing something you love suddenly you understand how much
it actually does mean to you. Imagine walking to your
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home right now and for some reason it's empty, and
I mean furniture is gone. Where you're robbed. No, your
life just changed. The familiar little noises your animals' nails
make those your children, how at times they're crying, is
so fucking annoying. You're not a bad parent, it's life.
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The sound of the kids playing, or the dog's barking,
or the cat meowing. Oh my God is just And
then all of a sudden it's silent. You remember the
little things that that person does to fill that house
with warmth. They are now gone. You stand there and
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the emptiness hits you in the stomach, that heavy sinking
something is wrong, feeling something has changed. Now, imagine just
for one second, that this emptiness that I'm describing isn't permanent,
or is it what just happened? Now? Your heart tightens,
your mind raises, your chest gets heavy. That moment where
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real gratitude comes alive, not for comfort, not for repetition,
not from saying thank you because it sounds nice, but
because you just felt the emotional earthquake of imagining life
without the things that you treasure. Deh. Most people only
learn gratitude when life takes something from them, right, as
I said, when a relationship ends, parents pass For me,
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just recently, a peck passes away, when a friend moves away,
when your health begins to slip, and when your time
runs out. We don't want to wait until life hits
us like that. We want to learn before the loss.
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We want to appreciate our blessings while they're right here
in front of us, because nothing, nothing, nothing, not one
thing is guaranteed to stay, and that makes everything amazing.
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Did I make you think? Will you think differently about
the sound of your home? Those people that are meaningful
to you but sometimes can't annoy you, can do the
wrong thing or not do things exactly the way you
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wish they would, don't think to yourself. I'll appreciate it later.
I'll appreciate my kids more when I'm less stressed. I'll
spend more time with my partner. When things calm down,
I'll slow down and enjoy life. When everything is perfect, perfect,
I'll be grateful when life stops overwhelming me. I'll focus tomorrow.
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But here's the truth that most people don't want to
face it. Life never calms down, Life never becomes perfect.
And life, my friends, and I'm speaking to all of you,
will never wait for you. And like I said, when
they those things that you needed to do, those chances,
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those possibilities disappear. That's purpose, that's meaning, that's service. That's
why I write these podcasts. Hopefully, Hopefully something I said moved,
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something made you see the rest of your day differently.
Wherever you are, people love to talk about tomorrow. Tomorrow
is where they'll be better. Tomorrow is where they'll slow down.
(01:03:17):
Tomorrow is where they'll will appreciate what they have. But
tomorrow is a myth. Tomorrow has more hearts, has broken
more hearts in any moment in time, because tomorrow told people.
You have time. Later. You can apologize later, you can
say I love you later, you can make that call later,
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You can be grateful later, You can live up life later.
You can enjoy tomorrow even though it may never arrive
for you. People live half of their lives in an
imaginary future and forget to live the only life they
actually have.
Speaker 2 (01:04:00):
Now.
Speaker 1 (01:04:02):
Now is real. Now is where love lives. Now is
where gratitude happens. Now is where life is happening. Don't
wait for life to wake you up. Please wake yourself
up now while you still have everything to be grateful for.
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Your heart always knows what matters and never forgets. It
never misplaces priorities, It never loses track of who or
what is precious. But your mind, oh your mind, Oh
your mind, is a whole different story. Your mind gets distracted.
It gets busy, gets overwhelmed, He gets caught up, pulled
in a thousand directions because I'm so busy, and i
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am so stressed out, and i am so future focused,
problem focused, noise focused. The mind forgets the heart remembers
this exercise, imagining losing something is the bridge between the
two things that matter. It makes the mind listen to
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the heart again. It aligns your head with your truth.
It puts the focus back where it belongs. It's not
teaching you what matters. It's reminding you because you've always known,
you just needed a moment to feel it again. Gratitude
isn't soft and fluffy. It isn't just a pleasant emotion.
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It's a responsibility, a daily discipline. Because when you're grateful,
you love better. When you're grateful, you treat people better.
When you're grateful, you live more fully. When you're grateful,
problems feel lighter. Gratitude makes you a better human. But
you can't practice gratitude properly if you're asleep and you
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are just pissing your life away. Hopefully, Hopefully, this podcast,
this episode will wake people Uppefully, it will shake them
by the shoulders and say, look, pay attention. You are
surrounding by so many blessings. Please don't be blind to them.
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I hope I made you think. I hope I made
you question your existence and to appreciate every tomorrow, every today,
and to be grateful for all of the experiences of
the past that you have made. Keep this in mind.
Choose action over excuse, purpose over comfort, and the work
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that matters over the distractions that don't. My name is
Jimmy Gonzalez and this was now your reset yourself twenty
two podcasts. Go forward and live your life to the fullest.
Thank you so much for listening, liking, and especially sharing
with others. It means a lot to me. I appreciate
all of my sponsors across all of the platforms. Thank you.
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Thank you think you think you think you think you.
Thank you. Many blessings to you all. Be well, be
well and prosper.
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