Self-Coaching
A revolutionary, new approach to alleviating life’s emotional struggles
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January 13, 2026 • 17 mins
Life often feels hard, not because something is wrong, but because we carry more into each moment than the moment requires. We’re rarely just living; we’re evaluating, interpreting, and judging how we’re doing while we live. That constant self-monitoring turns ordinary tasks into tests and quietly drains energy, leaving us tired even when nothing is falling apart.
In this Self-Coaching episode, I explore why much of our struggle...
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January 5, 2026 • 16 mins
This podcast explores the psychology behind why time seems to fly as we get older. We don’t experience time directly—we experience moments. When life becomes routine and automatic, those moments blur together, and time appears to disappear.
But when we’re present, attentive, and engaged, moments leave an imprint—and time expands. This Self-Coaching episode looks at how attention, memory, and presence shape our experience of time...
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December 21, 2025 • 13 mins
Change has a way of stirring unease even when we know it’s necessary, and hesitation is often interpreted too quickly as weakness or fear. But reluctance isn’t automatically a problem; in many cases, it’s a natural, protective response that deserves attention rather than dismissal. In this Self-Coaching episode, we explore the psychology of this resistance and ask a more helpful question: how do you tell the difference between heal...
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December 11, 2025 • 20 mins
In this Self-Coaching episode, I explore what I call the “winter mind”—the subtle psychological shift that occurs as daylight shrinks and our internal sense of possibility shrinks with it. Shorter days don’t just affect our energy; they quietly distort our interpretations, making ordinary stresses feel heavier and old insecurities feel more convincing. I discuss how this seasonal contraction interacts with the habit of insecurity, ...
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November 23, 2025 • 16 mins
This isn’t your typical “holiday episode.” Thanksgiving has a surprising way of slowing us down, even when we try to outrun it. The gathering, the familiar faces, the rituals—we don’t realize how much they interrupt our usual rushed, distracted rhythm. For one day, life pulls us back into connection, memory, and emotional reality.
In this Self-Coaching episode, I explore why Thanksgiving hits harder than any other day of the yea...
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November 10, 2025 • 22 mins
In this Self-Coaching episode we explore the quiet, relentless habit of measuring ourselves against everyone around us. Whether it’s feeling outmatched in a conversation, watching how easily others seem to navigate life, or seeing social-media posts that make your own progress feel small, comparison turns ordinary moments into silent self-judgments. But these doubts aren’t really about being “normal”—they’re about seeking reassuran...
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October 26, 2025 • 22 mins
We all want to be happy—but what does that really mean? Is happiness something we can actually have, or is it something we only feel for fleeting moments at a time? In this Self-Coaching episode, I explore why happiness can’t be possessed, why others often seem happier than we are, and how insecurity keeps us chasing what we already have the potential to feel. Learn how genuine happiness grows not from control or comparison, but fr...
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October 13, 2025 • 14 mins
You know that little voice in your head—the one that never seems to miss a chance to remind you of what you did wrong, what you should’ve said, or how you’ll probably mess up again? That’s self-criticism, or worse, self-rejection. And for many of us, it’s not just an occasional visitor—it’s a full-time companion. We’ve gotten so used to berating ourselves that we mistake it for motivation, as if tearing ourselves down will somehow ...
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October 1, 2025 • 19 mins
What really happens when we close our eyes at night? Why does the brain weave vivid stories that can make us laugh, cry, or wake up in a cold sweat? In this Self-Coaching episode, we’ll explore the fascinating science of dreaming—what goes on in the sleeping brain, why humans evolved to dream, and how those nighttime narratives may help us process emotions, solve problems, and rehearse for survival.
We’ll dive into the hidden la...
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September 10, 2025 • 24 mins
In this Self-Coaching podcast, I explore the four most common controlling strategies of insecurity—worrying, rumination, catastrophizing, and overanalyzing, also known as analysis-paralysis. These strategies are our reflexive attempts to compensate for insecurity—at its core, the fear that we can’t handle life as it unfolds. Over time, we come to rely on these strategies in an effort to feel safe and in control.
The problem is, ...
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August 18, 2025 • 19 mins
Have you ever walked into a room and instantly felt all eyes on you? That tightness in your stomach, the heat rising to your face—you feel exposed, judged, vulnerable. It’s a universal experience. But here’s the thing: vulnerability by itself isn’t the problem. The real problem begins when vulnerability turns into insecurity—when self-doubt, fear, and the feeling of ‘I’m not good enough’ take over. That’s when life starts to shrink...
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August 4, 2025 • 17 mins
Have you ever had that nagging feeling that you don’t really belong? Where everyone around you seems smarter, more capable, more together—and it’s only a matter of time before they find out you’re a fraud? That’s not just self-doubt talking. That’s something called Impostor Syndrome—and you’re not alone.
In this Self-Coaching episode, I break down what this nefarious syndrome is, how it became part of your life in the first plac...
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July 21, 2025 • 19 mins
Have you ever caught yourself thinking something like… ‘I’m so stupid…I can’t do anything right… everyone else has it together—why don’t I?’ If so, you’re not alone. Most of us talk to ourselves in ways we’d never speak to a friend. We push, criticize, blame, and shame ourselves—often without even realizing it. But why? Why are we so hard on ourselves?Both Self-criticism and what’s called negative bias are inherent aspects of the h...
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July 7, 2025 • 21 mins
Fear is a natural, protective part of life. Without fear, our species would long ago have become extinct. In this Self-Coaching podcast, I discuss not how to become fearless (that would be dangerous) but how to fear less.
How do you know if you’ve become too fearful? I offer seven signs to help you differentiate between realistic, unavoidable fear, versus your level of neurotic, unnecessary fear. It’s important to understand tha...
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June 23, 2025 • 21 mins
What’s so bad about procrastinating? For starters, procrastination slowly erodes the quality of your life by turning your days into a series of missed opportunities and mounting stress. When you delay important tasks, you trade long-term growth and peace of mind for short-term comfort. Over time, this leads to constant pressure, guilt, and a lingering sense that you’re falling behind. Goals remain unfulfilled, relationships suffer ...
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June 9, 2025 • 22 mins
Maybe you’re not depressed and you’re getting along as well as can be expected, but maybe you’re feeling aimless, unfulfilled, or disconnected from a sense of purpose. Or maybe you’re holding out for some clear, passionate, lightning-bold kind of ‘ah-ha’ revelation that will rescue you from your ho-hum life. If this sounds like you, then perhaps this Self-Coaching podcast is just the ticket for understanding how boredom has become ...
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May 25, 2025 • 17 mins
We naturally become bored when our brain isn’t entertained, emotionally engaged, or sufficiently challenged. I’m sure you’ll agree that to some extent, boredom is an inescapable part of life. But how can you tell if your life is too boring? In this Self-Coaching podcast, I discuss the need to determine to what extent boredom may play a disruptive role in your life. Whether it’s a mismatch between ability and challenge, attention is...
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May 12, 2025 • 20 mins
The inability to say ‘no’ is a habit, a habit of insecurity. Whether it’s the fear of disapproval or rejection, a desire to please, guilt, low self-worth, or simply wanting to avoid conflict, when you find yourself saying yes when you’d rather be saying no, then you need to listen to this episode of Self-Coaching.
Learning to say no requires some psychological grounding, but more importantly, it’s understanding that standing up ...
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April 28, 2025 • 16 mins
Do you ever wish you could be more positive, more optimistic? If so, this Self-Coaching podcast may be just what you need.
Did you know that optimism isn’t just a personality trait; it’s a skill. A skill that you can actually build. Join me as I talk about some simple steps and exercises geared to help you focus on possibilities, not problems, reframing reflexive negativity, and learning to risk trusting that you can, in fact, h...
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April 12, 2025 • 17 mins
Life’s demands, challenges, scares, and fears can really pile up. Sometimes it just feels like too much. The tumult of feeling overwhelmed is something that happens to all of us and although we can’t control life and the many challenges we encounter, there are things we can do to minimize, if not, eliminate the chaotic experience of feeling out of control.
In this Self-Coaching episode I offer strategies for coping when we begin...
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