Forgive without an apology, how to forgive someone, reclaim peace, Self Help Podcast

😔 Still waiting on that apology that never came?

In this episode of the Self Help Show, Gina-Margaret Tiger dives into one of the most powerful acts of emotional freedom: learning how to forgive without an apology. Whether it’s betrayal, ghosting, or silent pain—this episode teaches you how to let go, reclaim your energy, and stop letting someone else’s silence control your peace.

🧠 What You’ll Learn:

00:00 – Why Waiting for an Apology Holds You Back

02:15 – How Unforgiveness Blocks Your Healing

04:00 – Real Talk: They May Never Say Sorry

06:30 – Releasing Resentment Without Closure

08:40 – Setting Boundaries After Forgiveness

10:00 – A Personal Story of Betrayal & Letting Go

11:30 – Why Forgiveness Is a Gift You Give Yourself

💡 Episode Highlights:

• Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting or tolerating toxicity

• Closure isn’t something they give you — it’s something YOU create

• Letting go frees your nervous system, your heart, and your future

🛑 Journal Prompt:

“What pain am I still carrying while waiting for someone else to acknowledge it?”

🌱 Affirmation:

“I release the need for an apology. I choose peace, I choose freedom, I choose me.”

🔑 Reminder:

You don’t need their apology to heal. You need your decision.

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
Hello everybody, welcome to a thousand voices podcast. My name is Gina. My name is Gina

(00:09):
I'm thinking of less news. I miss his comedy days, man
Anyway, I am your host of a thousand voices podcast and this podcast talks about all things self
self love self care self development
all about the self and
We are in a chapter that is focusing specifically on forgiveness

(00:33):
Alright, so you can listen back to the previous two episodes
Where I spoke about the first one is understanding what forgiveness is and what it's not
The second one is the cost of holding on
Because it kind of is more expensive of actually over time. So today I'm talking about an apology

(00:53):
Apology
That you are waiting for
So you need to understand that it's this is plus minus the same as the previous but
different in the sense that the previous one it highlights the cost of holding on and then this one it kind of
stretches the cost of holding on because you will probably be holding on because you're waiting for an apology and

(01:18):
If you keep waiting for an apology, here's what you need to learn about that. So many people
believe that forgiveness happens when
the person that did them wrong
apologizes and
Acknowledges their wrongdoing but what if that never happens?

(01:40):
So holding on to resentment while waiting for apology
Keeps those people in control of your peace because in a way you kind of waiting them to come and say, oh, I'm sorry
Ah
Why why must you wait for them to come and say sorry?
Some people will never admit they're wrong and this is

(02:01):
because of so many reasons because of pride because of guilt and
Simply because some people don't even see that they did you wrong. So do you really want to heal?
Depending on somebody else's actions if they did you wrong already. Why do you want to depend on their apology to heal?
Ask yourself that then

(02:23):
Forgiving will free you and not other person
So forgiving sometimes
It doesn't mean what they did was okay
Forgiving means you are not okay with what they did and you refuse to keep that hurting you
Carrying the anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer

(02:48):
How would they suffer if you're angry?
How they suffer if you're yelling?
How would they suffer actually think about it?
You busy shouting and insulting them wherever you are
But how will they suffer you have to ask yourself that so you need to let go of that anger
Some people move on
Without even thinking about the pain that they caused you

(03:11):
So you'll be here just stuck feeling the pain while that person is busy celebrating carrying on with their life
So you have to forgive forgive and let it go
Forgiveness will give you back your power and you can focus on your healing
So here are some of the strategies that you can do
To focus on forgiving and stop waiting for an apology

(03:35):
So you have to focus on just changing your mindset
Releasing that resentment
Acknowledging your pain
And feeling it and let those feelings go like you have to release
Then a very big one is to let go of that feeling
And then a very big one is you have to set boundaries

(03:59):
So forgiving doesn't mean you allow the person back into your life
It simply just means that you
Are freeing yourself from this experience, right?
So once you free yourself from this experience, you still need to set boundaries because if this person still doesn't come to

(04:19):
Ask you for an apology
They have no access to you. You have to be strong in your boundaries
Because yes, we know that that apology will give you closure
It'll make you understand why they did what they did
Maybe it feels sorry. It feels nice. Actually if the person comes and says sorry

(04:41):
You kind of feel like it's a bandaid over that that brokenness for that pain
But again, it's good that the person can come still and say forgiveness
But you are not supposed to be waiting
For the apology
Like
You're not supposed to be waiting for it because think of all the energy that you spent

(05:05):
Just thinking about the situation in your head playing it over and over again
Hoping for a different outcome
All of that is wasted energy that you could have used on your projects on your work
On your life on your diet
On your skincare routine on taking care of your family on anything
And once you waste that energy, there's no way you're gonna get it back

(05:29):
So you just have to let it go for your own sake
For your own sake so release that need
for closure because closure is something that
Is something that somebody else has to give you
But it's also something that you can create for yourself. So in an instance where

(05:56):
I'm trying to find an example about my own life. So, you know how I always talk about my
Like my sharing on here on this platform
It's mostly from my experiences and my own opinions and i'm thinking of an example to give so for example
Let's say when my boyfriend actually the first time my heart was broken

(06:18):
When he cheated on me
with
a
Friend like in the family. Sorry not family in the friend group
He cheated on me with a girl who was in our friend group
And it took me such a long time to forgive
So i'm trying to replay that scenario because I wasn't supposed to hold it on for long

(06:40):
So I needed closure actually there are instances where
People cut you know what? This is so important. I like the fact that I just thought about this while we're on this episode
So there are instances where people actually ask for forgiveness
They do but as a person who's who's been asked for forgiveness am I willing to forgive right?

(07:06):
So asking for forgiveness and an apology. These are two different things because somebody would say please forgive me. Please forgive me
they can just
Tell you to forgive them, but they are not acknowledging
The pain they have caused you. Am I right or am I right?
Am I right or am I right? So in an instance where my

(07:31):
Ex-boyfriend cheated on me
He came and he asked for forgiveness
He asked for forgiveness. He was crying he did this he did that
But he never asked for apology
Actually, i'm thinking about it now
And even if it was a case of him saying i'm sorry

(07:56):
I was not prepared to forgive you see that's also another thing
Human emotions are so complicated
because i'm actually
looking at this whole
discussion
And realizing that wait a minute as much as the person can come and ask for forgiveness
Or they give you an apology

(08:19):
At the end of the day is up to you to decide
To decide whether you forgive them or not
depending on the gravity
Of this wrongdoing
So it's it's very interesting to know
Yeah, it's quite interesting to know okay, let's carry on so

(08:41):
my closing thoughts on this
is that forgiveness is a gift to give to yourself
It's not about you deserve it
But it's about you having peace
You deserve peace you deserve
a healthy

(09:01):
Mind
And no matter how painful the situation is
Trust me
Forgiveness is worth it because once you feel the pain and let it go
Even when the person comes and tries to apologize again because you've moved on from it
It's not going to be that painful. It's not going to be that intense, you know, you will just

(09:27):
Let it go and still just accept that apology or
Just appreciate that. Oh, I appreciate that you came and you said sorry
And for those that do not
Go and apologize
Or ask for forgiveness
And decide they are okay

(09:48):
Or not even acknowledging their wrongdoing
I told you i'm a christian but in the religion of hinduism, there's something called kamma
And
Yeah
You will be shocked why some things are not going your way or some things are you know, not

(10:09):
Happening the way you want them to or you're constantly going through this or going through that
And when you look at it
You could be paying some kamma
So it's always good to know when you've done something wrong and and you've wronged someone apologize ask for forgiveness

(10:31):
forgiveness
Clear your heart
Putify your heart pour it out
Say you're sorry. I am sorry, please forgive me. Thank you. I love you
there's nothing wrong with with with acknowledging that you did wrong and letting it out and

(10:52):
And expressing it in the most vocal way that you can you can express it through gifts. You can express it through whatever gesture
You know some love languages actually work whether it's a relationship or friendship or whatever it is
You can try practice all of that to express
your sincerity

(11:12):
and
Apologize and you know, you will be forgiven
so that is
today's episode
I'm excited to share the next one where I will be talking about letting go of your own mistakes
So this is big one because you know, sometimes
Again, there are reasons that will keep you stuck

(11:34):
onto forgiving because you cannot acknowledge the own mistakes that you played or the own mistakes that you took
in this wrongdoing happening to you, so
Yeah, this show is a self-help show. We will scrutinize every single part of the self
And

(11:55):
Hope to improve every single element of the self
so that we become
the best versions of ourselves and operate at a best
capacity
in order to be good and do good and to give back and to
Show love and receive love and to just live a harmonious life with one another

(12:16):
I hope you have a good one and I will see you on the next episode