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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to she is
Redefined, the podcast where we
break free from societalexpectations, redefine our
identities and step fully intothe woman we were always meant
to be.
I'm Katie Smith, your host andguide on this journey of
transformation.
Here, we're all about embracingchange, cultivating confidence
and living life on our own terms.
Each week, we'll dive intotopics that inspire, challenge
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and empower you to redefine whatit means to be you.
Dive into topics that inspire,challenge and empower you to
redefine what it means to be you.
So if you're ready to rewriteyour story and live life that's
bold, authentic andunapologetically yours, let's
dive in.
Hello, welcome back to anotherepisode of she is Redefined.
I hope you are having abeautiful, beautiful day
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wherever you are, whateveryou're doing and all the things.
The weather in Texas.
You got to love how quick itchanges because it was so
beautiful the last time Irecorded this, which was
literally two days ago, and nowit's like tornado weather, like
woo, but honestly, I find theweather in Texas to be
completely entertaining.
If I'm being totally honestwith you, a couple of updates.
We have potty trained ourtwo-year-old Like what?
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When did that?
Like I'm done with diapers,what, what?
And I know what you're thinkingAre you going to have any more
kids?
Never say never.
But I've been a littlepreoccupied.
I moved my family halfwayacross the country.
My horse had major, majoremergency stuff over the past
like two and a half, threemonths.
So like I don't know, know, butdo we feel done?
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No, but also we're out ofdiapers.
That's also kind of cool.
But let me tell you boy moms outthere, can I get a freaking
amen?
Is that even the right word?
I have no words.
It's the end of the day and I'mhanging on by a thread.
They are each other's bestfriends, worst enemies,
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wrestling, fighting.
One needs this thing that theother has.
All the time, all the live,long day, like full, real,
anyways.
But I love them.
God knew I could handle it andhonestly, deep down, I always
knew I was going to be a boy mom.
But like dang, this stuff ishard, I'm not kidding.
Anyways, okay, what do I wantto talk to you about?
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A freaking awesome topicactually, I want to talk to you
about your edge, how it wasnever missing.
It's just you have not beenmoving within it.
So here on my podcast, I like totalk about things of power and
presence and moving, like youalready have it all and I really
want to now dive into this gamechanger that we need to just
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address.
First of all, the game haschanged entirely.
Obviously, we've been toldstrategy sells and visibility
sells and people buy fromvisibility and strategy and it's
a numbers game and it's changedfrom that.
And I'm here to tell you rightnow being visible, posting more,
following the right cookiecutter strategy is so 2023.
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I can't even tell you Peopledon't buy like that anymore.
People buy from energy.
Before you even speak, theypick up on your energy and they
don't choose you because youfollow the right tactics.
No, your dream clients, whatthey actually want, who they
actually want to invest inthey're not looking for someone
who's just another option.
They're looking for the onlyoption, and I want that to be
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you in your niche, in yourindustry.
Your dream clients don't chooseyou because you follow the
right tactics.
They choose you because theycan't ignore your energy.
And this is where most womenget it wrong.
They're still trying to play bythe old rules that tell them to
do more, show up more, be morestrategic like blah.
But what actually works in myworld, moving with so much
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fucking power and certainty thatpeople feel it before you even
say a word.
That's your edge.
And if you're not seeing resultslike the results that you want
right now, it is not becauseyou're missing something, it's
not because the timing's wrong.
It's because you haven't beenmoving in a power.
That means you already have it,the power that it's already
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yours.
So let's unpack this much morebefore I get all passionate on
you, okay?
So the truth is, right now,without changing a single thing
about who you are, you alreadyhave a way of moving, a way of
speaking and leading thatcommands attention.
You've always had that.
You can even probably remembera time where things just like
like dang, I like just crushedthat right now, or everybody was
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like vibing, like everybody wasfeeling my vibe.
It was that just went so smooth.
You know what I'm talking about.
But if you're stuck when you'refeeling stuck, if you're not
seeing results that you knowyou're capable of, it's not
because you don't have power.
It's because you haven't beenmoving within yours.
Odds are you've been holdingback.
Maybe at some point you weretold you were too much or that
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you like needed to tone it down,or you didn't really know what
you were doing.
Like you know.
Calm down there.
You know what I'm talking about.
Maybe at some point you dilutedyourself, or you have been
diluting yourself because youdon't want to make others
uncomfortable with how big youreally are, like how much energy
and space you want to take up,and maybe you've been playing by
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someone else's rules.
Actually, I see this one themost, where you're trying to fit
into a mold from a previouscoach or from a course and that
mold was never meant for you.
So I actually had a client onetime try to embody a lot of the
things that I do and I lovedthat.
But we had to have a kind of adifficult conversation where I
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was like I love that you'redoing these things, but is this
authentic to you?
Just because you see me doingit, I love that you want to
mimic me, but that is not whatI'm trying to teach you.
I'm trying to teach you to findyour edge.
What gets you going?
If dancing in front of themirror ain't your thing, you
don't have to do it.
Do you know what I mean?
And it was a beautifulconversation and she looked
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within and she realized andfound her own edge and then
double down on it and, oh mygosh, her stuff is blowing up
right now.
It is blowing up.
It makes me beyond happy, okay,anyway.
So back to this.
Is you got to find your moldand stop trying to fit into one
that was made for you but wasn'tmeant for you.
You following me and then theworst part that I see is that
it's so easy to believe this isjust how it is right, like
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you're holding back, you'redeluding yourself, you're
playing by someone else's rules.
Things aren't totally there andyou're thinking this is just
how it is.
Maybe you've fallen into that,maybe you feel that right now,
but let me make this clear themost powerful version of you,
the one that magnetizes highlevel clients, creates massive
momentum and scales with ease,my friend, she's not waiting for
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you to learn more.
She's not waiting for you to bemore visible.
She's waiting for you to stopmuting what's already there.
She can't even find you.
She's waiting for the notwatered down, diluted version of
you.
She's waiting to see you as theonly option, and not one of
many.
And the second you do this,everything shifts.
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So you're probably thinking,okay, well, like how, yeah, well
, how do you start moving?
Like the woman who already ownsthe room, without forcing,
without second guessing, withoutchasing a single thing about
yourself.
It's identify your unique power, your signature power, like
what makes you you.
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You already have a way ofspeaking, moving and leading
that pulls people into you.
What is that?
Look at where you're naturallymagnetic.
Look at where people alreadytrust you.
They listen to you, they followyour lead.
You have had an experience likethis.
Your power isn't something youcreate.
It's something you recognizeand double the fuck down on.
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You lean in harder.
Another thing is stop justifyingliterally everything and
anything.
Just stop, stop, stop, stop andjust start owning.
Like, the second you stopexplaining yourself, people will
start to listen to you.
The second you stop seekingvalidation, you become the woman
who sets the standard.
It's just natural.
It's the way it goes.
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This is how this works, eventhough we want to get up, all up
in our heads because we're notdoing it a certain way.
But this is literally how itworks.
Ask yourself these questionswhen you're starting to feel
yourself justified.
Like where am I still overexplaining my decisions?
Where am I still convincingpeople of my worth instead of
just embodying my worth?
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Like get real honest withyourself, the last thing I want
you to do, or I suggest you do.
By all means do whatever youwant is move with certainty.
Like, instead of waiting forsomeone to give you certainty,
can you give that to yourself inevery move that you make and be
decisive in your moves?
Power isn't about the loudestperson in the room.
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Power isn't the one who beingthe silliest in the room and the
loudest and acting out andwanting attention.
That does not always meanconfidence.
There's fake confidence outthere.
But power it's about thecertainty you carry in every
decision, every room you walkinto, every move you make, where
, like, you make a decision andyou just know it's going to work
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out, every room you walk into,every move you make.
We're like you make a decisionand you just know it's going to
work out, even though you don'tknow it's going to work out.
But you have a just embodimentbelief system around you.
Moving with power and shit justfucking falls into place.
The women who own their powerdo not question, they do not
hesitate and they do not shrink.
The women in my world right now.
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They don't overcomplicate, theydon't overanalyze, they decide
and because they decide, theywin multiple times over, every
single time, because of thecertainty they give themselves.
This is the shift that no onetalks about.
Your dream clients don't wantthe watered down version of you.
Your dream clients arescrolling past you because you
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look at like you're one of many.
They want the version of youthat is unfiltered and
unapologetically you.
They don't want the version ofyou that's been shaped by
industry noise Again one of many.
They want the authentic edgyyou, what is your edge?
And the second you start movingin that direction.
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You stop waiting for permissionon anything, you stop chasing
results and all of a sudden,it's like results are chasing
you.
You stop trying to fit intowhat works for other people and
start becoming the woman peoplelook to.
You feel me, this is how youshift from pushing for success
to attracting it.
This is how you go from feelinginvisible, like you're blending
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in, to becoming the undeniablechoice.
And the best part is, you don'thave to change anything.
You don't have to buy a newstrategy.
You just have to start movingin the power that's already
yours.
Move with your edge, not ignoreit.
If this felt like a wake-up call, good, I love you, but this
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isn't about adding more to yourplate.
I want to get that very, veryclear.
It's about refinement.
It's about refining how youmove, how you lead, how you show
up in a way that makeseverything around you respond
differently.
This is exactly why I createdmy Born For this, the Identity
Shift free audio activation.
It's my free activation thatshifts you into this kind of
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energy immediately, like I justsnapped my fingers.
I don't know if you heard thatImmediately.
So if you want to go evendeeper on this, grab my free
activation link in the shownotes and just have a try for
yourself, see how it feels.
But women in my world who arecoming in, getting the free
activation, stepping into powermoves all of the above are
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literally starting businesses,pivoting their businesses,
increasing their prices,negotiating contracts Like
shit's getting cray cray overhere and I freaking love it.
And so if you want a taste ofwhat your edge could be,
shifting into the identitythat's in you, I'm not asking
you to be anyone else.
I'm not asking you to becomesomeone else.
I'm asking you to just rememberwho you are and own that,
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however that looks within youredge.
That's it, that's the sugar,that's the secret sauce.
It's so good.
So check it out, see if it'syour thing, dm me on Instagram.
If you've listened to it.
I have gotten amazing responses.
If you listen to it, will yoube so kind to let me know what
shift happened for you, what wasactivated within you?
Tell me the goods.
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I need to know this stuff.
I love to know this stuff.
I want to be cheering for youand everyone who has told me
thank you, I love you so much,but trust me, once you start
moving like this, you will neverplay small again.
Everything will just unfold sobeautifully and you're gonna be
like that was it?
Like that was it?
Yes, that was it.
That was it.
All right, I love you so much.
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I will catch you here next week.
Bye.
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Until next time, keep embracingwho you are, because you're
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Thank you.