June 30, 2025 • 14 mins
Do you find yourself constantly justifying your choices to others? That exhausting cycle of seeking validation is robbing you of your confidence and peace. In this energetic and heartfelt episode, I dive deep into why we over-explain ourselves and how breaking this habit can transform your relationship with yourself and others.
At the core of our need to over-explain lies a profound wound — the belief that we're not enough without external approval. I share my personal struggles with this pattern and the liberating realization that true confidence comes from self-trust rather than others' validation. When we approve of ourselves first, we no longer need to justify our existence to anyone else.
This self-trust extends beyond conversations into every area of life. From striking up friendships at the park to following divine nudges toward new opportunities, I reveal how embracing your inherent worth creates space for meaningful connections and unexpected paths to unfold. You'll hear the remarkable story of how a simple breakfast outing with my sons led to a divine business connection that transformed my "God's Got Me" inspiration into something much bigger than I could have imagined.
The peace that comes from trusting yourself and your intuitive nudges is unlike anything else. Ready to stop over-explaining and start living with quiet confidence? Listen now, embrace who you truly are, and remember — you're powerful, you're capable, and you are redefined. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear this message today!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to.
She is Redefined, the podcastwhere we break free from
societal expectations, redefineour identities and step fully
into the woman we were alwaysmeant to be.
I'm Katie Smith, your host andguide on this journey of
transformation.
Here we're all about embracingchange, cultivating confidence
and living life on our own terms.
Each week, we'll dive intotopics that inspire, challenge
(00:22):
and empower you to redefine whatit means to be you.
Dive into topics that inspire,challenge and empower you to
redefine what it means to be you.
So if you're ready to rewriteyour story and live life that's
bold, authentic andunapologetically yours, let's
dive in.
So we are gonna just keep onrolling, rolling Like I keep
(00:44):
have that song right now in myhead like rolling, rolling,
rolling on the river.
I am not a singer, but I justserenaded you, so thank you for
still staying on if you're here.
I am filming this in personagain and I just actually
finished one episode, and I'mhitting record again because
today I have a lot of energy towant to record a podcast when,
hand to God, I have not beenwanting to record anything for
(01:06):
weeks.
I have fully rejected it, butI'm wearing my God's Got Me
shirt and I'm feeling it, and sohere we are, but I just
recorded one episode and we'rerecording another one on a topic
that I really like to talkabout, and it's around stopping
over explaining ourselves.
(01:26):
Now, I'm always speaking aboutmy own experience.
By the way, I'm not talkingabout anyone unless I tell you
I'm talking about one of myclients.
But, man, I have always been anover explainer.
I was gonna say by trade.
But no, just, you know, natural, me always trying to overain to
prove a point, to validate orprove to someone that I'm worthy
(01:48):
of their approval.
And what a giant waste of timethat's been in my 37 years of
living.
And it's funny because whensomeone has to over-explain
themselves to get approval fromsomeone else, it's because they
don't trust themselves and theyhaven't given themselves the
approval.
So they're looking outside 3D,their external world, to
(02:10):
validate me, so that I feel likeI'm enough.
And that's a deep, deep woundthat I think, more times than
not, more people than notstruggle with.
And you're talking like metalking to you right now.
I'm admitting that has beensomething I have completely
struggled with my entire lifeand still do to this day.
Now, what helps me with that?
(02:31):
Realizing that I am enough,realizing that God knows my name
.
God's got me, I'm good.
I don't need to keep looking toevery person I talk to for
validation that I'm enough andthat I'm good when I bet you the
person I'm talking to right now, that I'm trying to over
explain and like prove that I'mgood enough has the same
(02:52):
thoughts about me where they'rethinking what is she thinking of
me?
Does she like me?
Does she approve of me?
Does she think I'm pretty?
Does she think I'm smart?
Does she think I'm funny?
Does she like me?
Will we hang out again?
The list goes on and I bet youyou probably will start to
notice that about yourself.
You can admit that right now.
Like, oh yeah, I've absolutelythought that before.
(03:15):
I saw something on Instagram theother day.
It was a reel of someone whowas like I take my kids to the
park and my kids make all thesefriends.
Meanwhile I'm sitting on thebench and I have too much
anxiety to talk to the mom nextto me, and I was like, wait a
second.
First of all, I am not thatperson.
I'm not tooting my own horn atall.
I'm that person who's like howmany people can I meet and get
(03:36):
their phone number?
Because I still consider myselfnew in Texas, but I was like,
oh my gosh, I bet you there's somany moms who feel that way.
I mean, why else was there areal creative about it?
And then I thought that usuallymeans because they well, number
one, they might be exhausted.
Or number two, they're like Idon't know how to talk to
another mom, I don't know how tomake a new friend.
(03:57):
And that all stems from like,not loving yourself enough.
That stems from you feelinglike you're not good enough.
I know that might sound crazy,but it's the truth.
So you don't trust yourself tobe good enough, you don't trust
yourself to be lovable, youdon't trust yourself to have a
new friend or you have somebelief that you have enough
(04:18):
friends and you're good.
When my best friends in my lifehave been within people I've
met in the last two years,that's crazy.
I'm 37 and I've got like long,long term friendships I'm like
from high school.
But I would say the closestfriends that I have like my ride
or die is that I've only knownthem two years, some less.
(04:39):
That's crazy.
That's crazy.
And so you never know who youcould meet, if you can give
yourself that permission to beOK with who you are and talk to
someone, and if they thinkyou're a weirdo for talking
about the park, that's on themand not you Do you know what I
mean?
This also goes into just likehaving the confidence that you
(04:59):
bring something to the table,whether it be just you being at
the park with your kids andbeing a good mom and letting
them get outdoors and hit thatreset button, if you know what I
mean.
If you have toddlers, gettingthem outside is like hitting a
reset button, but also like youcan bring a lot of value to
someone's life that you don'teven know.
You can brighten their day bysaying hi to them.
It's almost like I like tothink about it.
(05:20):
When I go to places, I'm alwayslike I want to smile and give
someone like a bright part oftheir day and I want to say hi.
And when I talk to moms at thepark, I'm not going to say it's
every time like, oh, I justhappen to always make friends at
the park or whatever.
No, there are cases, handful ofcases, where the mom just did
not want to talk and I read theroom.
(05:40):
Okay, I'm not like beating adead horse, but I do think
there's something, there's ameaning for every encounter that
I have.
So, like, I was supposed to beat the same park as you at the
same time.
So I'm gonna say hello to youand I just hope that you've had
a nice encounter with me around,like I brightened your day in
some way shape or form, becauseI truly think that that is what
(06:02):
life is about.
The small, ordinary, mundanetasks, things we do every single
day is what makes up a greatlife.
So if I'm at the park, I'mgoing to say hi to you.
We can chat.
Maybe we don't chat, but I'mgoing to hope that that
encounter was positive for youand I'm going to believe it was
positive for me.
I'm going to choose to believelike, hey, I'm meant to be here
(06:24):
at the exact same time as youhow weird is that and hope
you're having a great day.
Boom.
But this all stems from trustand confidence and love for
yourself, and that's wherepeople get it twisted, where
sure we can be confident.
Yeah, I've always been veryconfident in my life, but does
that mean I've always thought Iwas good enough?
No, that doesn't.
(06:45):
So it's very interesting andthis can also move into
different parts of your life,like maybe you're being called
to do something but you're notsure how to do it.
So you kind of just like havethis idea but you don't take
action on it, or you start itand then you stop it.
Well, that also goes back tomoving without needing
permission, because you trustthat someone's got your back.
You trust that God's got you.
(07:06):
You trust that if the visionwas dropped in and given to you,
that didn't happen on accidentthere.
If the vision was dropped inand given to you, that didn't
happen on accident.
There's some things out there.
I try not to get as woo-woo asI once was on this podcast.
If you want to go back to mywoo-woo days, go back to season
one.
If you don't stay where you'reat.
But there's people who talk outthere saying an idea planted in
(07:29):
your head wouldn't even bethere if it wasn't possible for
you.
So if you have this wild ideathat you want to fly private,
that's literally meant to be foryou to fly private at some
point in your life.
I have that for myself.
I see it.
So I'm meant to experience that.
Some people have a business idea.
Other people have an idea tohave kids.
(07:51):
Other people have an idea totravel the world with their
family in tow, but they don'tknow how to do that.
Other people have the idea tostart a nonprofit, like it could
be anywhere, it could beanything, so that's not an
accident.
And so it's trusting the nudgesyou're getting and it's not
(08:12):
looking for over, explaining asto why and it's just like move
in that silent confidence thatyou trust yourself, you trust
God's got your back and justtake the small steps.
Look it up.
Ask Chad Chibiti hey, I gotthis crazy idea.
Can you outline a map of how Ican get there?
And it might give you somethingsuper scary.
What's your next step?
Okay, can you bite, size thisdown for me?
(08:34):
Because I need to do this in asafe, regulated way.
When I say safe, I mean foryour body, like I don't want
your cortisol going through theroof because you have an idea to
start a business, or you havean idea to pivot your business.
You have an idea to walk awayfrom your career and go all in
on something else, like whateveryour vision is, how can you do
it in the way that sets you upfor the most success, while you
(08:58):
believe in yourself, because yougot the message in the first
place.
God's got me, god's given methis vision Source.
Whatever you believe in, how doI take the first step into
doing there?
And you don't need to get allin your head about money.
You would be shocked at whathappens if you just start taking
the small nudges.
You might run into someone asyou're taking your two-year-old
son to the bathroom and you'relike God only could have your
(09:23):
two-year-old son to the bathroomand you're like God only could
have orchestrated how I met youjust taking my son to the
bathroom.
It's just a crazy story for me.
I literally one morning God waslike get dressed, get ready,
take your boys to breakfast.
It was actually a morning.
We normally go to church.
I'm like, sorry, ryan, I'mactually going to take the boys
to breakfast, just feelingreally called to do that.
I know we'll catch up churchnext week and also, by no means
(09:44):
am I saying you need to go tochurch every week or you're a
bad person.
That is actually not what I'msaying.
But I just woke up and said Iwanted to go take the boys to
breakfast and like, boom, let'sgo.
So I did that, literally as myson Decker.
He had to go potty, really bad.
So we're rushing into thebathroom and out walked somebody
I had recognized from the boysold school, who now is an
(10:04):
instrumental part of God's gotme.
And I can't tell you anythingmore than that when I just take
the nudges to follow and noticehow they weren't even related to
one another.
It's not like I was looking uplocal vendors or screen printers
.
I was literally like, oh, I'mjust going to go to this
breakfast place because that'swhat sounds good and I really
just want to do that with theboys.
(10:24):
It's a Sunday morning, like Iwant to enjoy this, and Decker
had to go to the bathroom andthen we ran into each other as
they were leaving because thebathroom is by the front door
Crazy, crazy stuff.
So follow the nudges, what isit?
But that goes back to trustAgain, self-trust, knowing that
God's got your back and nothaving to explain yourself to
anyone, having to feel that youneed to share stuff to get
(10:50):
people to buy into your idea.
Just keep it close to the vest,that's the biggest thing.
And just take the little subtlenudges that come that make no
sense but might be related.
You don't even know yet.
It's like oh, go get your carwash at this car wash or
whatever and I'm not trying tosound too out there like all of
a sudden I got these, like thisvoice said something to me.
It's literally not that it'slike an urge, if you will, where
it's like, okay, make a shirt,katie, make a shirt, and this is
(11:13):
what it's going to look like.
Like I did get what it wasgoing to look like, but just
make sure, okay, I made theshirt.
I could have ignored that andnot done anything.
I've been like that's stupid.
It's just.
I'm not a, I'm not a swagmerchandise brand.
You know, I don't.
I'm not creating a clothingline.
Well, I wasn't thinking that atall.
I was just literally like youtold me to make a shirt for
everyone in my family, so I did,and it is now a thing like okay
(11:47):
, cool.
And then the next thing hey,why don't you go to breakfast
with the boys?
How nice does that sound?
You know what that does soundreally nice, let's go.
Now.
The difference between the urgesare it's got to be something
you want to do Like it soundsgood.
It sounds good.
It's not like hey, go work outand exhaust yourself to the
level where you can't calm yourheart rate down and you're now
having to drink tons of waterand get in an ice bath to cool
off?
No, no, no, it's not like that.
It's like, if it's an urge thatsounds appealing to you,
usually that's an alignment hitby God, who's like helping you
(12:08):
to guide you and orchestrate youwhere you want to go.
All right, I wonder if Iexplained that well enough.
I don't know, but that's mymessage for you is follow the
little urges, follow them whenis it going to lead, and do not
do this to get to somewhere.
So like I have a client whogoes like okay, I did all these
things.
And then, like it's been a weeknow, so now what?
(12:30):
It doesn't work like that.
It doesn't work like that atall.
Like I wish I could explain toyou when I was paying, I paid
like 200.
It was actually crazy.
So God told me to create theseshirts, all these things.
And then when I was checkingout I kid you not, are you
sitting down when I was checkingout, the price for all the
(12:52):
items that I wanted was $222,which is an angel number 222.
Cannot make this up.
So obviously God was like yes,thank you for listening, keep
going.
And then it's turned into abusiness Like I can't even.
It's shocking, I don't evenknow how to put it into words.
It's crazy.
So follow those nudges.
(13:13):
Trust, don't over explain.
These are kind of like thehighlights I think that I've
talked about because I just dothese off the cuff, people,
sorry, it's not like I want youto take notes or anything like
that.
I just want to speak from myheart and help get the message
to come through, because thistrust and this peace that you
can have believing God's got youis unlike anything I have ever
(13:34):
experienced, and now I want togive that to people who can also
experience that and just livetheir day with just more peace.
It's just such a beautiful,amazing thing.
Also, side notes I'm working onhats and they are looking so
insane.
I can't even tell you I'm soexcited.
They're just a little bit moreof work, which is interesting,
(13:55):
so stay tuned on that.
Anyway, send this to someoneyou think could hear it.
Love you for being here and Iwill catch you on the next
episode.
Bye.
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Redefined.
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(14:16):
.
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Until next time, keep embracingwho you are, because you're
powerful, you're capable and youare redefined.
Welcome to.
She is Redefined, the podcastwhere we break free from
societal expectations, redefineour identities and step fully
into the woman we were alwaysmeant to be.
I'm Katie Smith, your host andguide on this journey of
transformation.
Here we're all about embracingchange, cultivating confidence
and living life on our own terms.
Each week, we'll dive intotopics that inspire, challenge
(00:22):
and empower you to redefine whatit means to be you.
Dive into topics that inspire,challenge and empower you to
redefine what it means to be you.
So if you're ready to rewriteyour story and live life that's
bold, authentic andunapologetically yours, let's
dive in.
So we are gonna just keep onrolling, rolling Like I keep
(00:44):
have that song right now in myhead like rolling, rolling,
rolling on the river.
I am not a singer, but I justserenaded you, so thank you for
still staying on if you're here.
I am filming this in personagain and I just actually
finished one episode, and I'mhitting record again because
today I have a lot of energy towant to record a podcast when,
hand to God, I have not beenwanting to record anything for
(01:06):
weeks.
I have fully rejected it, butI'm wearing my God's Got Me
shirt and I'm feeling it, and sohere we are, but I just
recorded one episode and we'rerecording another one on a topic
that I really like to talkabout, and it's around stopping
over explaining ourselves.
(01:26):
Now, I'm always speaking aboutmy own experience.
By the way, I'm not talkingabout anyone unless I tell you
I'm talking about one of myclients.
But, man, I have always been anover explainer.
I was gonna say by trade.
But no, just, you know, natural, me always trying to overain to
prove a point, to validate orprove to someone that I'm worthy
(01:48):
of their approval.
And what a giant waste of timethat's been in my 37 years of
living.
And it's funny because whensomeone has to over-explain
themselves to get approval fromsomeone else, it's because they
don't trust themselves and theyhaven't given themselves the
approval.
So they're looking outside 3D,their external world, to
(02:10):
validate me, so that I feel likeI'm enough.
And that's a deep, deep woundthat I think, more times than
not, more people than notstruggle with.
And you're talking like metalking to you right now.
I'm admitting that has beensomething I have completely
struggled with my entire lifeand still do to this day.
Now, what helps me with that?
(02:31):
Realizing that I am enough,realizing that God knows my name
.
God's got me, I'm good.
I don't need to keep looking toevery person I talk to for
validation that I'm enough andthat I'm good when I bet you the
person I'm talking to right now, that I'm trying to over
explain and like prove that I'mgood enough has the same
(02:52):
thoughts about me where they'rethinking what is she thinking of
me?
Does she like me?
Does she approve of me?
Does she think I'm pretty?
Does she think I'm smart?
Does she think I'm funny?
Does she like me?
Will we hang out again?
The list goes on and I bet youyou probably will start to
notice that about yourself.
You can admit that right now.
Like, oh yeah, I've absolutelythought that before.
(03:15):
I saw something on Instagram theother day.
It was a reel of someone whowas like I take my kids to the
park and my kids make all thesefriends.
Meanwhile I'm sitting on thebench and I have too much
anxiety to talk to the mom nextto me, and I was like, wait a
second.
First of all, I am not thatperson.
I'm not tooting my own horn atall.
I'm that person who's like howmany people can I meet and get
(03:36):
their phone number?
Because I still consider myselfnew in Texas, but I was like,
oh my gosh, I bet you there's somany moms who feel that way.
I mean, why else was there areal creative about it?
And then I thought that usuallymeans because they well, number
one, they might be exhausted.
Or number two, they're like Idon't know how to talk to
another mom, I don't know how tomake a new friend.
(03:57):
And that all stems from like,not loving yourself enough.
That stems from you feelinglike you're not good enough.
I know that might sound crazy,but it's the truth.
So you don't trust yourself tobe good enough, you don't trust
yourself to be lovable, youdon't trust yourself to have a
new friend or you have somebelief that you have enough
(04:18):
friends and you're good.
When my best friends in my lifehave been within people I've
met in the last two years,that's crazy.
I'm 37 and I've got like long,long term friendships I'm like
from high school.
But I would say the closestfriends that I have like my ride
or die is that I've only knownthem two years, some less.
(04:39):
That's crazy.
That's crazy.
And so you never know who youcould meet, if you can give
yourself that permission to beOK with who you are and talk to
someone, and if they thinkyou're a weirdo for talking
about the park, that's on themand not you Do you know what I
mean?
This also goes into just likehaving the confidence that you
(04:59):
bring something to the table,whether it be just you being at
the park with your kids andbeing a good mom and letting
them get outdoors and hit thatreset button, if you know what I
mean.
If you have toddlers, gettingthem outside is like hitting a
reset button, but also like youcan bring a lot of value to
someone's life that you don'teven know.
You can brighten their day bysaying hi to them.
It's almost like I like tothink about it.
(05:20):
When I go to places, I'm alwayslike I want to smile and give
someone like a bright part oftheir day and I want to say hi.
And when I talk to moms at thepark, I'm not going to say it's
every time like, oh, I justhappen to always make friends at
the park or whatever.
No, there are cases, handful ofcases, where the mom just did
not want to talk and I read theroom.
(05:40):
Okay, I'm not like beating adead horse, but I do think
there's something, there's ameaning for every encounter that
I have.
So, like, I was supposed to beat the same park as you at the
same time.
So I'm gonna say hello to youand I just hope that you've had
a nice encounter with me around,like I brightened your day in
some way shape or form, becauseI truly think that that is what
(06:02):
life is about.
The small, ordinary, mundanetasks, things we do every single
day is what makes up a greatlife.
So if I'm at the park, I'mgoing to say hi to you.
We can chat.
Maybe we don't chat, but I'mgoing to hope that that
encounter was positive for youand I'm going to believe it was
positive for me.
I'm going to choose to believelike, hey, I'm meant to be here
(06:24):
at the exact same time as youhow weird is that and hope
you're having a great day.
Boom.
But this all stems from trustand confidence and love for
yourself, and that's wherepeople get it twisted, where
sure we can be confident.
Yeah, I've always been veryconfident in my life, but does
that mean I've always thought Iwas good enough?
No, that doesn't.
(06:45):
So it's very interesting andthis can also move into
different parts of your life,like maybe you're being called
to do something but you're notsure how to do it.
So you kind of just like havethis idea but you don't take
action on it, or you start itand then you stop it.
Well, that also goes back tomoving without needing
permission, because you trustthat someone's got your back.
You trust that God's got you.
(07:06):
You trust that if the visionwas dropped in and given to you,
that didn't happen on accidentthere.
If the vision was dropped inand given to you, that didn't
happen on accident.
There's some things out there.
I try not to get as woo-woo asI once was on this podcast.
If you want to go back to mywoo-woo days, go back to season
one.
If you don't stay where you'reat.
But there's people who talk outthere saying an idea planted in
(07:29):
your head wouldn't even bethere if it wasn't possible for
you.
So if you have this wild ideathat you want to fly private,
that's literally meant to be foryou to fly private at some
point in your life.
I have that for myself.
I see it.
So I'm meant to experience that.
Some people have a business idea.
Other people have an idea tohave kids.
(07:51):
Other people have an idea totravel the world with their
family in tow, but they don'tknow how to do that.
Other people have the idea tostart a nonprofit, like it could
be anywhere, it could beanything, so that's not an
accident.
And so it's trusting the nudgesyou're getting and it's not
(08:12):
looking for over, explaining asto why and it's just like move
in that silent confidence thatyou trust yourself, you trust
God's got your back and justtake the small steps.
Look it up.
Ask Chad Chibiti hey, I gotthis crazy idea.
Can you outline a map of how Ican get there?
And it might give you somethingsuper scary.
What's your next step?
Okay, can you bite, size thisdown for me?
(08:34):
Because I need to do this in asafe, regulated way.
When I say safe, I mean foryour body, like I don't want
your cortisol going through theroof because you have an idea to
start a business, or you havean idea to pivot your business.
You have an idea to walk awayfrom your career and go all in
on something else, like whateveryour vision is, how can you do
it in the way that sets you upfor the most success, while you
(08:58):
believe in yourself, because yougot the message in the first
place.
God's got me, god's given methis vision Source.
Whatever you believe in, how doI take the first step into
doing there?
And you don't need to get allin your head about money.
You would be shocked at whathappens if you just start taking
the small nudges.
You might run into someone asyou're taking your two-year-old
son to the bathroom and you'relike God only could have your
(09:23):
two-year-old son to the bathroomand you're like God only could
have orchestrated how I met youjust taking my son to the
bathroom.
It's just a crazy story for me.
I literally one morning God waslike get dressed, get ready,
take your boys to breakfast.
It was actually a morning.
We normally go to church.
I'm like, sorry, ryan, I'mactually going to take the boys
to breakfast, just feelingreally called to do that.
I know we'll catch up churchnext week and also, by no means
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am I saying you need to go tochurch every week or you're a
bad person.
That is actually not what I'msaying.
But I just woke up and said Iwanted to go take the boys to
breakfast and like, boom, let'sgo.
So I did that, literally as myson Decker.
He had to go potty, really bad.
So we're rushing into thebathroom and out walked somebody
I had recognized from the boysold school, who now is an
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instrumental part of God's gotme.
And I can't tell you anythingmore than that when I just take
the nudges to follow and noticehow they weren't even related to
one another.
It's not like I was looking uplocal vendors or screen printers
.
I was literally like, oh, I'mjust going to go to this
breakfast place because that'swhat sounds good and I really
just want to do that with theboys.
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It's a Sunday morning, like Iwant to enjoy this, and Decker
had to go to the bathroom andthen we ran into each other as
they were leaving because thebathroom is by the front door
Crazy, crazy stuff.
So follow the nudges, what isit?
But that goes back to trustAgain, self-trust, knowing that
God's got your back and nothaving to explain yourself to
anyone, having to feel that youneed to share stuff to get
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people to buy into your idea.
Just keep it close to the vest,that's the biggest thing.
And just take the little subtlenudges that come that make no
sense but might be related.
You don't even know yet.
It's like oh, go get your carwash at this car wash or
whatever and I'm not trying tosound too out there like all of
a sudden I got these, like thisvoice said something to me.
It's literally not that it'slike an urge, if you will, where
it's like, okay, make a shirt,katie, make a shirt, and this is
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what it's going to look like.
Like I did get what it wasgoing to look like, but just
make sure, okay, I made theshirt.
I could have ignored that andnot done anything.
I've been like that's stupid.
It's just.
I'm not a, I'm not a swagmerchandise brand.
You know, I don't.
I'm not creating a clothingline.
Well, I wasn't thinking that atall.
I was just literally like youtold me to make a shirt for
everyone in my family, so I did,and it is now a thing like okay
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, cool.
And then the next thing hey,why don't you go to breakfast
with the boys?
How nice does that sound?
You know what that does soundreally nice, let's go.
Now.
The difference between the urgesare it's got to be something
you want to do Like it soundsgood.
It sounds good.
It's not like hey, go work outand exhaust yourself to the
level where you can't calm yourheart rate down and you're now
having to drink tons of waterand get in an ice bath to cool
off?
No, no, no, it's not like that.
It's like, if it's an urge thatsounds appealing to you,
usually that's an alignment hitby God, who's like helping you
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to guide you and orchestrate youwhere you want to go.
All right, I wonder if Iexplained that well enough.
I don't know, but that's mymessage for you is follow the
little urges, follow them whenis it going to lead, and do not
do this to get to somewhere.
So like I have a client whogoes like okay, I did all these
things.
And then, like it's been a weeknow, so now what?
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It doesn't work like that.
It doesn't work like that atall.
Like I wish I could explain toyou when I was paying, I paid
like 200.
It was actually crazy.
So God told me to create theseshirts, all these things.
And then when I was checkingout I kid you not, are you
sitting down when I was checkingout, the price for all the
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items that I wanted was $222,which is an angel number 222.
Cannot make this up.
So obviously God was like yes,thank you for listening, keep
going.
And then it's turned into abusiness Like I can't even.
It's shocking, I don't evenknow how to put it into words.
It's crazy.
So follow those nudges.
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Trust, don't over explain.
These are kind of like thehighlights I think that I've
talked about because I just dothese off the cuff, people,
sorry, it's not like I want youto take notes or anything like
that.
I just want to speak from myheart and help get the message
to come through, because thistrust and this peace that you
can have believing God's got youis unlike anything I have ever
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experienced, and now I want togive that to people who can also
experience that and just livetheir day with just more peace.
It's just such a beautiful,amazing thing.
Also, side notes I'm working onhats and they are looking so
insane.
I can't even tell you I'm soexcited.
They're just a little bit moreof work, which is interesting,
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so stay tuned on that.
Anyway, send this to someoneyou think could hear it.
Love you for being here and Iwill catch you on the next
episode.
Bye.
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Redefined.
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