246. why external validation keeps you stuck! (feat. dr. scott barry kaufman)

‘self-actualization’ isn’t just a tiktok buzzword– it’s how you can unlock your true potential using psychology. today’s guest is dr. scott barry kaufman— a psychologist, coach, professor, keynote speaker, and best-selling author who is passionate about helping all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. he is a professor of psychology at columbia university and host of the psychology podcast, which has received over 30 million downloads worldwide.  in this episode, we translate terms like self-actualization, agency, and mastery into actionable tools you can actually use. whether you’re a college student trying to raise your gpa or a postgrad working your way out of an existential crisis (real), this episode is your instruction manual for living your best life starting NOW! we talk about: • the self-growth metaphor you need to hear  • why we delay our happiness + how to break this habit • self-actualization + what everyone gets wrong about it • if gen z has a victim mentality  • the importance of gaining mastery  • setting achievable goals that don’t cause burnout • comparison culture + how to step out of it • unlocking your potential as a student + learning to enjoy school  • + so much more!! mentioned: • dr. kaufman’s instagram • dr. kaufman’s website • dr. kaufman’s newest book • the psychology podcast • center for human potential ☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter: 1. leave a review on apple or spotify 2. dm me a screenshot on instagram 📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok tags! @shepersistedpodcast shepersistedpodcast.com [e-mail]  © 2026 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.