Simple Wisdom

Simple Wisdom

If you need reassurance, clarity, insights or ideas about how to navigate midlife and create the kind of life and work you want from hereon, you're in the right place! Rob talks openly and honestly about common challenges, and offers insight and hope for finding more freedom and fulfilment. Sometimes we interview guests who have stories to tell and wisdom to share. Sometimes we laugh at what life throws at us. Sometimes we explore the art of wise living. Join us each week. [Note: Simple Wisdom was first called Living a LIfe That Matters and began in 2018] ... Show More

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Rob Bialostocki, expert at feeling stuck and flat at times, discusses why that happens (quite often in people's midlife stage) and offers practical suggestions on how you can breathe new life into your experience.And it doesn't involved dangling crystals, eating alfalfa sprouts or ditching your husband (or wife). He suggests two strategies: widening your visual field, and deepening your expertise. Both have the potential to ge... Read more

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Midlife can be confusing and sometimes you find your mind filled with all sorts of thoughts - some helpful, some not. How can you tame the mind? Can you tame the mind?Well, you've no doubt heard of mindfulness. But what exactly is it? And is it something that normal people would want to do?! In this episode, Rob discusses what mindfulness is, why it's beneficial, and guides you through a short exercise.We promise you, that at the e... Read more

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Following on from the previous list (we didn't get to 10!) Rob explores five more things that matter in midlife, at least from his perspective. Some of these you'll probably find quite surprising (like the first one - hint, it involves a couch). He covers:1. Snoozing in the afternoon (and the benefits to thinking and creativity)2. Listening to understand (something that is done poorly in the corporate world)3. Asking good question ... Read more

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What happens when things haven't gone to plan in your life? Do you get flattened by them? Have you lost hope? Is there anything good that can come out of divorce, redundnacy or financial failure? In this episode, Rob shares five lessons he's learned from five things that have NOT gone to plan.Rather than wallow in self-pity and "what-ifs," Rob suggests that we should turn failures into insights both for ourselves and so we can help... Read more

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Clearly, not everything in life that we can pay attention to, give our time and energy to, and commit to is of equal importance. It can't be - we've got along fine as the human race for centuries without much of what we're told is 'important' today. So, not everything matters. And living like it all does is doing us no favours.In this episode, Rob suggests 10 things that do matter, to varying degrees. Of course, these insights come... Read more

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In today's epsiode, we're going to explore how to make changes in your life. Not what those changes should be, but once you've zeroed in on something you want to stop, adapt or start, how can you make progress?Changing some aspect of your life is not necessarily easy, although it CAN be simple. It depends how you see it, and what you think is needed for change to occur. Rob suggests, it may be a lot simpler than you think. Not easy... Read more

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It happens. Some days you just don't enjoy the work you've been doing. But when that turns into a 'I don't wanna go to work any more!' thing, then you need to pause, reflect and figure out what's going on. Maybe you're bored. Maybe you've grown way past the work you once enjoyed - after all, you've moved on as a person, right?In this episode, Rob shares strategies for when your work doesn't grab you like it once did.

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I was married for 29 years. Divorce was never going to be an option and for decades, it wasn't. But it did. And then, I was not going to get together with any else because I didn't want to be accused of having an affair. But eventually, I found love again. And today's episode is about how we decided to approach it second time around.Rob also covers doubts people sometimes have like, "Will anyone ever want me now that I'm much older... Read more

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June 30, 2019 23 min

Our lives should matter to us - to be the kind of life we really want to live. But they should also matter to those less fortunate. Everywhere around us are people who are slower, more frail, lonely, needing help, or just needing a mentor.Today's episode is a chat with an ordinary person who, along with her husband Alistair, is trying to make a difference in the course of her every day with just these kinds of people. Meet Dr Miche... Read more

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June 30, 2019 19 min

In this episode, Rob talks about developing new friendships in or after midlife. Not necessarily romantic relationships, although maybe those too.As life progresses, so do we. We change our work, our homes and sometimes our friends (for various reasons). We may need to develop new friendships, ones that suit who we are now. If we don't, we can inadvertently end up lonely old men, or women. (But thankfully, not both.)Rob shares some... Read more

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Looking back on your life, no doubt you can see many things that you hoped would happen that haven't, and many things you never anticipated happening, that did. Combine that with all your previous goals and plans, and that kind of reality can soon wear a person down!Despite wanting to be, you're not actually in control of your life. Things happen that no one planned, life goes on, and other people's actions can and do have conseque... Read more

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I don't know about you, but when I get old I don't want to be forgotten. I don't want to end up sitting by myself in my home with no one there, no one visiting, no one seeming to care. In today's episode, Rob explores this very common experience for millions of people around us. And suggests what we can do to help. And it doesn't take much.Hopefully, you will be encouraged to pay more attention to the elderly and offer simple, regu... Read more

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In 2016, Rob traveled Solo around the World having a sabbatical. In his travels, he met new and interesting people and one, Ravi in Mumbai, India, was particularly enjoyable. Rob and he talked about life, philosophy and becoming a wise person. Take a seat and listen in to the talk, which Rob happened to record. (That's Ravi in the picture.)They discuss what they learned from their fathers, observations of human nature, and how to g... Read more

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June 29, 2019 13 min

Hello middle-age peeps! We trust this past week has been good for you and your love ones.You know, midlife considerations often involve the challenges and issues you start facing. Ageing parents, children who are starting a family, making your savings last til you're 90, etc But it's also a time to stop things that no longer work for you, and try out new experiences, learn new skills, and take your life in the direction you truly w... Read more

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It's funny how many people in their 50s and 60s - after decades working - still say, "I'm still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up!" What gives? You'd think they'd have sorted that one out long ago. As it turns out, it's not that simple especially when, in midlife, you come to terms with the choices you've made so far. And some of them might not sit so well.In this episode, Rob (who incidentally still asks that q... Read more

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June 29, 2019 12 min

Volunteering some of your time and skills can be a great way of serving the poor and needy. It's important not to forget that despite wanting to serve, most of us have a personal agenda when doing this. Frankly, it makes us feel good, like we're doing something worthwhile. And that's fair enough. It's also important not to think that by giving some time and energy you're somehow helping in a big, significant way. You're not. But, i... Read more

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It's time to stop paddling so many canoes. Rob shares how he faced unexpected divorce, confusion about what to do next, his new partner's breast cancer diagnosis, and changes like having a daughter get pregnant and become a solo mother etc. All in the space of a couple of years. And then there's the black dog (depression) to have to learn how to live with. After a while, Rob faced a moment where he decided it was time to stop tryin... Read more

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June 29, 2019 12 min

Modern life is characterised by busyness, overload and stress. The pace is just too high and we're not that well equipped evolutionarily speaking to handle it. In midlife, many people just want things to be slower. Life can be more beautiful, more joyful and more interesting if we do indeed just slow down a bit and pay attention. In this episode, Rob tells the story of what happened on Great Barrier Island off the coast of Auckland... Read more

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June 28, 2019 13 min

If you've got children and they've reached late teens/early twetnties or later, no doubt you've looked back at times and wondered, "What the hell happened?!" In this episode, Rob opens up honestly about how he feels about his parenting. He talks about empty nest, wondering how they turned out sooooo differently, and whether he did any good. And shares some encouragement if you've ever felt the same.

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June 28, 2019 8 min

Of course, it's a normal part of life to have to make decisions. And in midlife, it's no different. But, it can be challenging to know which way to go. Should I do this? Or that? Or the other? How can you know which is the right way to go? Whether it's big decisions, like changing jobs or bringing your relatioship to an end, or smaller decisions like whether to start a project or give your time to a good cause, don't suffer from pa... Read more

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