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Joy, hey, beautiful
soul, welcome to spirit. Speak
Easy. I'm Joy Giovanni, joyfulmedium. I'm a working psychic
medium, energy healer andspiritual gifts mentor. This
podcast is like a seat at thetable in a secret club, but with
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time. So come behind the velvetropes with me and see inside my
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Hey, beautiful soul. Welcomeback for another episode of
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spirit speakeasy. Today we arestepping into ask a medium
anything. This is Part seven inour Ask a medium anything series
in the last two and a half yearsor so of this podcast, and in
this episode, we are going toget very real and very practical
about how mediumship actuallyworks from the inside out. If
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you've ever wondered, What doesmediumship really feel like?
Does a medium see, hear, feel orjust know information, what
actually happens during amediumship, reading, step by
step, and how is mediumshipdifferent from intuition, from
psychic perception or simplybeing sensitive to energy? Those
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are the kind of questions we arestarting with. But we are going
even further. We're also goingto talk about your loved ones in
spirit and what they actuallyknow and experience in relation
to your life right now. Do theyrecognize when you're
intentionally trying to connectwith them? Do they know when
you're thinking of them ortalking to them quietly in your
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own heart or mind? Can theysupport or influence your
healing even when you're notconsciously reaching out to
them? Do they have awareness ofwhat you're going through
emotionally, physically and inyour relationships, and can
someone that you barely knew ormaybe never even met in this
lifetime still communicatethrough a medium with clarity
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and love for you, I'm going toreally try to get to everything
today. These are some of yourmost requested questions, but
also some of the most searchedfor questions and most quietly
wondered about. Questions peoplehave about mediumship and the
spirit world, and my intentiontoday is to answer them in a
grounded, honest and clear way,grounded in my own lived
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experience as a working medium,without any mysticism, for the
sake of mysticism, even thoughit's a mystical experience. So
we'll talk about that too, andwithout sugar coating any of the
nuances. And remember, I don'thave all the answers to all the
things I'm always learning andgrowing as well. And if you
don't hear your question in thisepisode, remember, this is the
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seventh in a series, so there'sa chance that we already
answered it. I do try to makethese ask a medium anything
episodes different from eachother. So this first question I
want to get into is, what doesmediumship feel like? Is it
mental, emotional, visual, moreof a sensory experience? People
frequently ask this, and I knowso many of you are curious as
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part of this little bundle ofquestions. I felt like these
other two questions were quitesimilar. What happens during a
mediumship session, step bystep, and is mediumship
different from spiritualintuition, psychic healing,
psychic reading, or just feelingenergy? So I feel like these
three initial questions gotogether, so I'm going to work
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them together, and there'soverlap in the answers, is
really part of why. So what doesmediumship feel like? Well,
first I want to acknowledge thatwhile there are some aspects of
mediumship that it's myunderstanding that all the
mediums I've talked toexperience quite similarly. We
all also are unique individuals,and all of your loved ones on
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the other side are uniqueindividuals. So while I can give
you some answer to this, pleaseknow that there's nuance with
each medium, with eachcommunication, and I, of course,
can only speak for myself. So ifyou experience something
differently, if you are a mediumor in your mediumship or
development, please know I'm nottrying to challenge you in your
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own experience. I'm just sharingfrom my experience of over the
years, of doing this work andreally learning and developing
in this work. Because eventhough it's a quote, unquote
natural gift to reallyunderstand how to use it, how to
give clear details that makesense to my recipients, take
some work to learn how toreceive this information, how to
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perceive the information, andhow to share it, how to know
what we're understanding orreceiving. So to answer these
questions, I'm going to start bytelling you what I experience
and how it works for me as amedium. But as part of that, I'm
also going to tell you the stepby step. Step of how a session
actually works. So when someoneis scheduling a session,
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typically they schedule throughmy website and I don't know any
additional information aboutthem. Sometimes people will even
use like an alias or theirmiddle name if they're feeling
extra concerned about beingresearched or skeptical. I think
you guys know this probably, andI feel like I can probably speak
for all legitimate mediums whenI say we don't have time to
research, nor for me anyway, Iwouldn't want to. I don't like
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to know any extra information,in fact, because this mystical
experience of mediumshiprequires me as the medium to be
in that creative, spiritualright side of my brain and
processing, and I don't want mylogical human mind to be
activated or at least as littleas possible, because the truth
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is, we can never fully turn offour busy human mind. It always
wants to fill in information andhelp but part of the development
of the gift of mediumship islearning how to hold your busy,
conscious mind at bay so thatwe're receiving information from
the spirit world and trying aslittle as possible to not be
coloring the information withour own thoughts, right? So for
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me, knowing additionalinformation from my recipient
beforehand makes it harder toquiet my mind, because then I'm
in my head like, oh, did I knowthis? Did they tell me this? Did
they mention this already? Sofor me, I prefer to know as
little as possible. So that ispart of the setup of how someone
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comes into a mediumship session.
People find me all kinds ofways. And then once someone is
in my office or on my Zoomscreen for a reading. I have a
little bit of like, a speech,quote, unquote, that I give
them. Basically. I just explainthe difference between psychic
work and mediumship. What mighthappen during their session. I
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let them know, really, forresponses, all I really need
from them is just to say yes,no, or I don't know, as they
understand the details that I'msaying to them. I tell people
it's okay to say no to me. I cansometimes misunderstand things,
and I know how to work withthat. And I also let them know
that it's the spirit world whodecides who is going to
communicate in what order. A lotof the session is up to the
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spirit world, to be quite honestwith you, we'll talk about that
more as we go, but they have tochoose to blend and communicate
with me, just as much as I haveto choose to make myself
available to them. So it's a twoway, soul to soul communication.
So after I give my little setupspeech about what to expect for
my sitter, I then move myawareness to the spirit world
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and start to I'm pausinghere because, depending on if
it's a psychic reading or amediumistic reading, we're
talking about mediumship here.
But either type of session is asoul to soul communication,
meaning it is my soul blendingwith the soul of the client in
front of me, or blending withthe soul of the spirit person.
It's part of the training to beable to distinguish which but as
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I start to move my awareness, Iam either drawn more towards the
energy of my client's soul or toa soul on the other side. And
then as I move my awareness toblend with the spirit world, I
generally will become aware ofone or even sometimes more than
one individual. And as Icontinue to move my awareness,
the energy of my soul to thespirit world, one or more
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individuals will choose to blendtheir energy with mine. Now, the
way I understand it, in the mathof it all, is essentially and
again. You 10 years from now, Imight explain this totally
differently if I have adifferent understanding, but
this is my understanding. Now Iam essentially quickening or
moving the vibrational frequencyof my soul to a an energy that
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they can match and then blendtheir energy with. They because
they're non physical, right?
They're not in this dense,tangible, physical body. They
are slowing or lowering thevibration so that we can meet in
the middle right? And in thismiddle place is where they're
blending with the energy of mysoul. Now, one of the jobs of a
medium is to be able to hold ourenergy at that frequency for the
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duration of the session. What doI mean when we're not able to
hold our energy at thatfrequency? Kind of like if you
were working out and you weregoing to lift a heavy weight and
hold it above your head for 45minutes, it's so it's sort of
similar to that, just in themechanics of needing to be able
to hold our awareness in thatspace for that amount of time
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for the session. If we're notable to hold our awareness
there, several things canhappen. Our mind can come in and
create information. We can kindof feel like we're just
snatching bits of informationfrom the spirit world and not
really fully experiencing andunderstanding the soul that's
communicating or the situationthat's happening. So ideally, I
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am intending to be able to holdmy vibrational awareness at the
level need. Did for the soul tosoul, communication with the
soul and the spirit world. Andagain, they have a choice to
communicate or not communicate.
The communication itself isbased on the need, the need of
the soul in the spirit world, orthe need of the soul in my
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office, my clients, however,what we want and what we need is
not often, not always, sometimesnot always the same thing. We
might really want to knowspecific details, but it really
is up to your loved one on theother side to share specific
details with me based on whatthey need to communicate and
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what they know you need to hear.
What we need and what we want isnot always the same. You'll
probably hear me say that a lot.
So then once I blend myawareness, my soul with the soul
on the other side, essentially,I start gently, softly, becoming
aware of information. Now thatcan happen in different ways and
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different proportions, dependingon the communicator, some
communicators, some loved oneson the other side, when I blend
with their soul, some of thecommunication is lots of mental
pictures for me, meaning theyare touching into the
experiences of my life, whetherI remember these experiences or
not, to show me pictures ofparticular experiences or
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memories that they're trying toshare. And as part of this,
there's emotion coming into myawareness as well. So as part of
blending with the energy of mysoul, they're also blending with
my emotions and touching intoemotions and experiences that
I've had to try to get myunderstanding as close to the
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story or memory that they'retrying to share as possible that
can come in, visual mentalvisual experiences, like quick
mental pictures that can comein. I mean, there's always
emotions happening that can comein, the subtlety of the
emotions, only with no mentalpictures. Some of them I can
actually hear. It's not exactlyin my own voice, but it's not in
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a stranger's voice. In my mind,I can sort of hear bits of
information, or sometimes I'llhave a song, the memory of a
song, drop in, and as I give itto my client, it happens to be a
very significant song in theirrelationship or to their person.
Some of it comes just in theknowing. I don't always know why
I know something, but I findmyself feeling and sensing and
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saying and then it's correct.
And I didn't necessarily get amental picture or a thought
word. I just kind of know. Sothese are the Claires, and we
talked about them in the lastask medium episode, I believe.
So if you want to deep dive intothe Claires, look for that
episode. I won't. I won't gointo them again today, but it's
essentially through these subtlesenses that the loved one is
touching into my experience toget me to understand their
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experience. And then it's reallythrough the training and
development and continualdevelopment and relationship
that I'm building with thespirit world that I do my best
to understand specifically whatthey're wanting to convey
because shout out to Andy Bing,who is one of my main mentors in
my mediumship. The way heexplains it, he gives an amazing
example. I'm sure there'sothers, but his is the one
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that's coming to my mind rightnow. So credit where credit's
due. The way he explains is, ifyou see a mental picture of like
a glass of a pint of beer on abar, it's only through the
emotional experience as themedium that you understand. Does
this spirit person work at thisbar? Is it their anniversary
celebration? Do they hang out inthis one bar stool at this
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specific bar all the time? Apub, right? Or are they an
alcoholic? Is there a challengewith this glass of beer on the
bar so and many more emotionaloptions. So it's only through
the emotional experience thatthe medium knows, oh, this is a
poignant memory, or this is ahappy memory, or this is a
joking memory, right? So all ofthose things are happening at
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once, and it is also part of thetraining. For example, I could
be working with someone's dad inthe spirit world and giving
specific details. We call itevidence in the work, but it's
actually just details that aretrue about the person, their
personality, their memories,their character, their life,
things like that. And thensometimes I might become aware,
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in my aware, in my awareness, Idon't know a different way to
say it, of another personjoining the conversation, and
maybe this person, I can senseand know that they had a female
life in this lifetime. And as Iblend more with the next soul, I
realize, oh, this is Mom. Do youalso have mom in the spirit
world? I know that herpersonality is XYZ, depending on
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the individual, and that's partof what makes mediumship such a
profound experience, because weare all unique. Of course,
certain humans might havesimilarities in their
personality, in their lifeexperience, but the unique
collection of details that goesto your spirit person is totally
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specific to them. There are notips. People that are exactly
the same. There are no two lifestories that are exactly the
same. No two relationships thatare exactly the same. It's why,
for example, if I read forseveral members of a family
separately, let's just say, andagain, I typically don't know
that they're related, and Ibecome aware of that same dad in
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the spirit world. For let's justsay the initial client is the
sister, the next client's thebrother. The next client's the
granddaughter. Let's just say,well, that man, that gentleman
and that female, that woman, thethe dad and mom of the original
client. They're going tocommunicate different details,
different memories, differentaspects of their personality to
each different member of theirfamily, because we're different
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in the different relationshipsof our lives. I'm sure that you
are not exactly the same versionof yourself with a parent as you
are with if you have a child orwith a friend. I'm sure that
you're not exactly the same atwork as you are, you know when
you were in high school, let'sjust say so. Part of the
intelligence and the miracle ofthe spirit world is that they
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have all of their memories. Theyknow who you are. They know the
memories they shared with you.
They know what you know aboutthem and what you don't know
about them. So sometimes themost important and validating
details that the loved one isstill there and still continues
on are the very intimate, subtledetails that you could never
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find publicly. It's in the waythat they always brushed your
hair and rubbed your back whenyou were upset. It's the way
that they made corny jokes aboutthinking of one person in
particular, that in thatreading, it came to light, it
came to my awareness that wherethey lived, it was like lots of
corn fields and things. And thedad always made like, the same
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corny jokes driving through themain drag in town, through the
fields and through like he madethe same jokes every time. These
things are all so unique, theymight not seem like the most
significant things about us.
Like when we meet someone in theworld and we say, oh, what's
your job? Where do you live?
What's you know, what I mean,what's your hobby?
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But they're the most significantdetails to my recipient, and it
lets my recipient know that ittruly is their person. And often
the details and the collectionof details that they're giving
goes to either the story they'rewanting to tell or something
they're wanting to address inthe life of my client, right?
Because we have hard things inlives, in our lives, and
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sometimes our loved ones on theother side through a session
will make commentary or share.
I'm thinking about somethingrecently that happened, where
after the person's passing,there was kind of like a
division in the family thathappened, and it was over a
disagreement that had been putto the side when this incredible
woman was ill in the last partof her life, and then after her
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passing, this disagreementerupted and had divided the
whole family. And so that's whatshe wanted to communicate about
during her session, besides thetender memories that she had
with my client, she wanted tosay, Hey, I know that my kids,
who are still in this world, arebehaving like XYZ, and I know
there's a disagreement about thehouse that I lived in. And I
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know, you know, I know who thisperson is, and I know who this
person is, and I know thepersonalities of these people,
and I'm putting my love withyou, so it's really up to them
what they want to communicate.
But essentially, during thatpart of the reading, I'm
getting, receiving, perceivinginformation, and I'm saying it
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to my client. My client issaying yes or no they understand
or they don't understand. Itmakes sense or doesn't make
sense. And again, every sessionis different. Some times, if I
see a client a second time. It'sthe same communicator from the
other side, but sometimesdifferent people will take the
opportunity to also say hello.
So the spirit world is in chargeof all of that. What else do I
want to tell you at the end ofthe session? I typically not
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always, but I often will ask myclient if they had any questions
or anything that they werehoping that would be addressed
that wasn't addressed when itcomes to questions with the
spirit world, I sometimes knowthe answer and I sometimes
don't, so I try to be reallytransparent and honest, but if
I'm going to understand theanswer, typically, as my clients
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telling me the question, I'mstill blended with the soul on
the other side, and sometimes Ijust will receive information as
they're my clients, telling metheir their question or
whatever, and I probably willreceive extra details to
validate that I'm understandingthe answer correctly, meaning,
let's just say their questionis, I really want to visit my
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mom's hometown in Italy. I'mthinking of going to my
grandma's hometown in Italy, andI wanted I just was wondering if
she knows about that. And as myclients telling me this
question, and I'm blended withtheir mom, with her soul, I
probably will also understandbits of information about either
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that hometown or her journey, orthings that. True that my client
can say, Yes, that's true,that's true, that's true. And
therefore the guidance or theopinion can also be taken
because the facts, the details,are also true. So I hope that
makes sense. And then I wrap upthe session. For me, what is
happening is I'm just continuingto trust and blend deeper and
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deeper with the spirit world. Itis different for me. Every time
there's no in the beginning ofmy development, I was taught a
little bit of a different way,where there's more of, like a
quote, unquote, we call it achecklist approach, where it's
like, almost like an interviewstyle, like, what is your job?
What is your hobby? What is yourname, what is your you know, and
demanding information of thespirit world. It just doesn't
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work as well as just being openand trying my best to receive
information, I can be curiousand open minded about what I'm
receiving, but I don't typicallyask those type of firm
questions, because then my mindis wanting to come in and and
help with the information,right? So we're more in our
thinking, processing mind thenthan in that blending creative
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mind. A couple extra detailsthat might just be fun for you
to know. For those of you thathave a little more experience
with mediumship, or have hadsessions yourself, for me, I
typically not always, but oftenwill start to perceive the
spirit person on my right side.
I tend to move my awareness tothis space. Lots of mediums will
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say it's the right and slightlybehind Mine's the right and
slightly in front. I'm always alittle weird if you don't know
me now, you know. And then, forexample, if there are two
communicators, I often will justkind of orient them in my
awareness, where I might havethe dad on my right, and then
when the mom comes in, I mighthave her also on the right next
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to him, but I might orient herdifferently, to where I can feel
the mom from my left and I canfeel the dad from my right.
That's more the getting into theweeds of the mechanics of
mediumship. That's somethingthat came over time. For me,
it's not something that I didright away, necessarily. It's
something I learned overpractice and over development
and over time. It doesn't alwayswork that way. There's really
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very few always in mediumship.
But for me, right now, in mywork and for the last several
years in my work, that really ishow it's worked, where I can
kind of orient the differentsouls kind of differently in my
awareness, so that I especiallyif there's, like, I sometimes
have, I recently had a group of,like, really strong females from
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the other side, and it was, likethe matriarch, and then a couple
of her sisters and a couple ofother females. And so if I in my
awareness, it's sometimes if Idon't know them and they're
quite similar, could feel alittle harder to distinguish
them, whereas if I orient themdifferently in my awareness,
then I'll know. Okay, that'sfrom grandma. That's from
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auntie. I hope this is makingsense the way I'm explaining it,
because the truth is, this is amystical experience. It's not
something that can be replicatedin exactly the same way, exactly
every time. It's more of an artthan a science, the medium is
essentially like an artistpainting a verbal picture with
your loved one, with their soulin the spirit world, and we are
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co creating the details in thesession, meaning I'm in charge
of trying my best to receive andmaking sure I'm correctly
stating the information forthem, making sure if, if I'm not
correctly stating it, that I'mthat I'm, we call it crying out
that I'm, my soul's open toreceive another experience from
them to help me betterunderstand the experience that I
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just misunderstood. Because eachwave of information that I'm
perceiving and receiving isthem communicating, and each
wave is its own mysticalexperience. So it's not like if
they give me, let's just say,recently, I had someone let me
know that there are people stillin the world that wear a jersey
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number of theirs for sportsteams, they wear like their
jersey number now when they'replaying the sport, and that
experience of me understanding,oh, people are still playing
sports, and they're honored.
This person played sports, theyhave a significant jersey
number. Their loved ones are nowwearing the specific jersey
number, and also, you know,bracelets, and also XYZ. And I
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give the details one at a timeand ask if they would understand
it. They did, but that littleexperience, right of me
understanding that part of theirstory that's a fleeting
experience, that's real time,soul, energy blend. It's not
something if I misunderstandsomething, I can then go back to
and say, All right, let merecount my experience, because
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then I'm recounting and thenthat's my human, logical mind
again. What I need to do is goback to their soul, blend deeper
and receive another experience,another mystical, fleeting
experience that helps. I.
Understand, explain, deepen,what I can say about the
previous experience. I hope thatmakes sense this. These are
layers of mediumship that as Igot more into my work, I
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continue even to understanddeeper and deeper and deeper. So
I'm always working on all ofthis. So hopefully that helps
you understand, specifically,step by step, what happens in a
session. What does mediumshipfeel like for me as the medium
and the difference betweenmedium to mediumship is when
you're blending with a soulthat's not inside a body, a
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spirit person and psychic iswhen I'm blending with a soul of
a person that is in a body. Somy client, that's part of what I
tell them in that little speechat the beginning of their
session that I mentioned. Butreally the difference is you're
actually blending with the soulof the person on the other side
and perceiving and receivinginformation from their soul, not
from their loved one who's in myoffice, not from my imagination,
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but they are active in thecommunication and sharing and
communicating details with methat I'm receiving and then
sharing. So I hope that makessense. Let me see, I think
that's all I wanted to say aboutthose questions. Okay, then next
little group of questions is, doloved ones recognize quote,
unquote sessions, or do theyonly show up when there's an
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intention? I'm going to openthat question a little more,
because I think I know what it'strying to ask. And how does one
prepare energetically ormentally for a reading? Both the
sitter and the medium is whatthis person wants to know. Okay,
these are great questions. Youguys are doing such an amazing
job at submitting, like, reallydeep, profound questions. So
does a loved one recognize thesession? Usually, I believe
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they're the one that got you tothe session, because I cannot
tell you how many stories I haveheard from people saying I'm not
quite sure how I found you. Yourwebsite just kept popping up on
my phone and I didn't searchyou. Or I heard a podcast and I
don't know how I heard it. Or Ifelt connected to you. I had
someone tell me they feltconnected to me because one of
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the photos on of me on mywebsite, the background of the
photo, they recognize the areaand used to live like in a
building that's just out offrame. So they felt connected to
me by that. So I have othersthat there are just connections
that they never could have knownabout, very similar stories with
our loved ones or similar namesor so, I believe it's the spirit
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world that is orchestrating thesession. It's not the medium,
and it's not the person here.
Yes, you have to use your freewill to agree to sign up for the
session, or come in for thesession, or whatever it might
be. And I have to use my freewill to become aware and work
with the spirit world, but Ireally feel like they are. They
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know, like, let's just saythere's a big group reading, and
they can get a hello or hey, I'msafe. I love you. I'm at peace.
To their loved one, and maybetheir loved one would never go
for a private session. Theydefinitely know that their loved
ones at that event, and they mayor may not take the opportunity
to try to communicate with them.
I also believe that our lovedones in the spirit world, I
mean, I know for sure, witnessother people's sessions. So
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while I'm blending with the soulof the loved ones and the ones
that I'm becoming aware of, whatI'm also aware of is this. I
want to call it like an outerlayer, the way I probably best
imagine it or see it in mymind's eye, is like if you were
in a stadium, right, and you'reon the field or in the arena and
all the bleachers, all the seatsaround, I think those are
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guides, those are supporters,those are other ancestors that
aren't going to communicate, butthat are lending energy to build
the communication and help ushold our energy connected at the
right place. I believe thatspirit people sit in those
bleachers, those proverbialbleachers in this metaphor, to
learn how to communicate in asession, to see what happens in
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a session. So I believe thatthey're learning and preparing
for the session more than weare. And I also as part of my
development and and continualbuilding of my relationship with
the spirit world. I do a versionof meditation. We call it
sitting in the power, or sittingin the presence, where several
days of the week I spend timejust sitting with the energy of
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the spirit world when I'm notworking, when I'm not trying to
become aware of an individualperson, just with the spirit
world as a world, is the wayAndy says that, Hey, Andy Bing,
so really, I'm continuouslybuilding my relationship with
them and carving out time. Andwhat I know is, during those
meditations where I'm sittingwith just the spirit world as a
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world, my guide is working withthe spirit people to show them.
Okay, here's how you communicatewith my medium. Here's how you
get her to talk about the beach.
Here's how you can get her totalk about, I don't know
whatever it is that they'reneeding to talk about. I believe
they're working on it ahead oftime and learning how to
communicate through a medium. Ialso kind of imagine that
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mediums, amazing mediums, whoare on the other side are like
running some kind of class. Usover there to teach the Spirit
people how to communicate fromthat side mediumistically,
because I it's different, right?
Obviously, it's differentcommunicating out of a body than
in a body. So I believe they doknow when it's a session, and I
believe that they do know whenwe're intending to connect with
them. I believe that they doknow our hearts and how we feel,
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and we'll talk about that alittle bit more later as well.
But how do we prepareenergetically for the reading?
Well, my let me talk aboutmyself first, so me, I am doing
my preparation all the time,meaning, like that meditation
that I was just talking aboutthat is part of my preparation,
part of my relationshipbuilding, part of my honor and
privilege as a medium to sitwith the spirit world and to
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give them access ahead of time,so that the session can be the
best that it could possibly be.
I also, you know, send love overthere quite a bit, and healing
energy over there quite a bit,just because it's my what I'm
trying to give back to them.
Besides that, and besides thetraining and development that I
do, and I work on my ownmediumship and other ways that I
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won't totally bore you withunless you really want to know,
I do a little more practicalprep also. So several of you
know that I have some tummyissues that I work with in this
life. My body is quitesensitive, actually, so things
like, I'm very careful aboutwhat I eat before a session. I
try to eat really light when I'mworking, as light as possible,
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because I don't want my tummy tobe upset and distracting me. I
don't want my body to be loudwith human functions and moving
my awareness or draining myawareness from the full capacity
I could have for the spiritworld, for example, it was not
true for everybody. This is truefor me, because this is how my
body works. Maybe some peopleneed to eat a different way for
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fuel for their body, but I tryto give spaciousness. I eat
little like a little birdthroughout my mediumship days.
And I don't do mediumship everyday. I carve out three to four
days a week for mediumship aspart of what I'm doing to
prepare, I also limit the numberof sessions that I take in a
day, so that I can have the samelevel of energy for each
session. And the truth is, I'vesaid this before, some sessions
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do take more out of you as amedium because of several
reasons, but sometimes there areharder sessions or deeper
emotions in a session. Somesessions are lighter and more
playful, sometimes, especiallyif it's a group or a small
group, I'm also trying to holdtheir energy while I'm holding
my energy while I'm holding theenergy of the spirit world. So
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it could just be a littledraining for several different
reasons. So I limit the numberof sessions I take in the days
that I do mediumship, what elsedo I do to prepare? I kind of do
a lot. Not all mediums do thismuch. Not everyone needs to do
this much. I tend to take iteasy the day before a session.
Typically, my clients start at10am where I am, and I go into
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my if it's in the office thatday, I go in an hour before,
because I like to just make sureour temperatures right, and it
helps with my anxiety if I justcould be there early, because
you never know if there's goingto be a detour, or you can't
find parking, or whatever itmight be. So those are some of
the ways that I prepare myself.
I know myself. I know I dobetter if I leave enough time to
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get there. I know I do better ifI this is
hard, but I'm going to say this,there's certain people I won't
talk to the day before mysession. I've said this before.
Actually, I try to keep myenergy as neutral and easy as
possible. But the other bit is Ialso try to make sure that I'm
building my energy. So I mightlisten to really upbeat music
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that I love. I might listen to apodcast or podcaster that I
really find their voicecomforting. So I'm doing things
to try as much as I can. I mean,I still live a human life, and
life still happens, but as muchas I can, I'm trying to keep
myself upbeat and positive, myenergy feeling good. I learned
this the hard way, because therehave been times when I've, like,
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taken a call right before asession, or even, like, a couple
hours before a session, or hadthings going on in my life that
made it just a little harder tofocus. And truly, you can do a
reading, even if there's chaosgoing on, and even if you know
life's crazy, and even if myemotions have things going on in
them, or I'm worried aboutthings in my personal life, I
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can separate andcompartmentalize those so it's
not like, Oh, if somethinghappens, I can't do readings
that day, but I do try to setmyself up as best as I can. Just
like when I was traveling forwork, I would try to make sure I
was getting enough sleep andmake sure I was taking my
vitamins and like, you know, youjust do the practical things
that work for you, and I'malways checking in on those,
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because those can change for me.
I'm almost like embarrassed toadmit this. I'm also someone
that does really much betterwith a little bit of caffeine.
So I also try to make sure I'mall the way awake and I have
enough caffeine and I've beenawake for a few hours, and so
I'm really trying to just managemy energy the best that I can.
Can. It's not always possible,of course, but you do your best.
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And I try not to get sick, if Ican help it. I don't, you know,
obviously, for safety reasons, Iwouldn't want to get someone
else sick. So if I am sick, Ieither cancel my sessions,
reschedule them, or work online.
But I have had, I've talkedabout this before too. I have
had situations, particularly,I'm thinking of one when I was a
student, where there was a bigevent that was organized for us
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as students to practice gettingup in front of a large group. A
couple of us were very, verysick with a terrible felt like a
flu, and but the people werethere, and we had already
committed to this, and we did goahead and do our demonstration,
which means do mediumship infront of people and give
communication to the members ofthe audience that were there,
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and the power of our soul takesover and will make it possible
to work even when we're I mean,we were really sick, even when
we're really sick, or even whensomething's going on, but I try
to make the conditions as idealas I can, even down to like, I
try to wear short sleeves withlike a sweater, because
sometimes I get really hot whenI'm reading the way my energy
moves, and it's more comfortablefor me to be able to take off a
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layer. So the practical stuff ishow I prepare, besides the
meditation that I do and therelationship that I'm always
building with the spirit world,what do my clients need to do to
prepare? Very little, to behonest. You know, if, in a
perfect world, you would havethe day off of your session, and
you would be able to have aneasy morning, and you would be
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able to have spaciousness afterthe session so you can process
everything that happens. Becausepeople always report to me like
it's a lot to process, it's alot of information, it's a lot
to think about. So in a perfectworld, you might have time after
your session to just take a nicewalk or take it easy, or have
have just some relaxation.
That's not how everyone's lifeworks. So it's not it's not
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necessary, it's not required,it's just ideal. But it's better
if you can have a little bit ofspaciousness around getting to
your appointment, whether it'svirtual or in person, so you're
not freaking out or running lateor trying to dash in at the last
minute. You don't need to begyour loved ones in the spirit
world to show up. They'realready with you. You bring them
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with you to the session. I'm notcommunicating with them ahead of
time. I'm not trying to blendwith them or tune in for them
ahead the energy changes once myclients in the room or on the
screen, the energy shifts. Soit's just not helpful to do that
ahead. There's nothing reallyyou need to do to prepare except
just try to be open. Yeah,that's really all there is. I've
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done deeper talks about this,but, but there's not much you
need to do to prepare. Try togive yourself some spaciousness
to get where you need to go,just because life happens. Okay?
This next little group ofquestions, do loved ones know
what we experience, physically,like pain or major life changes?
And do spirit people notice howothers react to us, like our
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partners or our children, andbring messages targeted to those
dynamics? These are greatquestions. So do loved ones know
what we experience? Physicallypain, surgery, if we bump our
head, they absolutely knowthey're not in a far away place
we are often, culturally, I knowI was when I was young, taught
to think of like heaven, up inthe clouds, far away in the sky,
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and removed from us. It's in myunderstanding, it's not like
that. It's just an unseen worldwithin our world. So they have
access. We just don't see them,but we experience them in a
different way. So they do stillspend time with you. They know
if you're going throughsomething medical, they know if
you're going through somethingphysical. I've even had a spirit
person communicate basicallylike, Hey, let my wife know that
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she needs to adjust thatcabinet, because she bumps her
head on it every time when sheshe opens that cabinet and
leaves it open, she bumps herhead. Can you tell her to adjust
the adjust the thing? So they doknow, and they do see they know
about major life changes, theywill often make commentary on,
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for example, like a graduation,a wedding, a baby coming into
the family. I often have parentsor grandparents on the other
side talk about their grandkidsor babies coming in from the
other side. So they really doknow about our moves, our
milestones.
It's it's an emotional statethat they are in, that they can
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feel and sense and know ouremotions. They know our ups and
downs. They know our lifechanges in real time. They know
if you're having a bad day, theycan feel and sense our emotions
in a different way when we're inour physical form together, like
if you and I were in the sameroom, you might be able to hide
your emotions from me to adegree. So it's why we can say
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everything's fine when it's not.
It's why we can put on a braveface when our heart is breaking
from the Spirit side, we can'thide our emotions in the same
way from them because they see.
The truth of our soul. They seethe vibrational frequency and
resonance of our soul. They feeland sense and know when we are
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emitting happy, joyous, elatedemotions versus when we are
emitting sad, concerned,grieving emotions. So they do
know, and they know the nuanceof the emotion. They know our
thoughts, our struggles and ourtriumphs. They do know in real
time. So I hope that makessense. And do they notice how
others react to us? Yes, like Iwas talking about with that
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story of the family, who, afterthe matriarch past, once again,
was in breakdown and divided,they know what's going on with
the other people that they careabout, too, and the other people
in their lives? So they'll oftenmake commentary about children
or partners or people who arestill here. Often, for example,
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like if one partner is on theother side and one's still here,
they'll make commentary aboutthat. I just recently, I'm
thinking about a session that Ihad where the dad was on the
other side and the mom was stillhere. She was a bit older. She
was having some changes in herhealth since dad had crossed
over, and he was wanting tocommunicate that he knew what
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was going on in her health, thathe knew the care that the family
was providing he knew whichfamily member they moved her in
with, and all through it, he wasexpressing so much gratitude for
the way that they were takingcare of the love of his life and
how she was so important in thefamily so and there's much more
details that came than that, butI'll just give you that so they
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really do prove to me over andover And over that they know how
our relationships are going.
They know the dynamicshappening. They know the
milestones happening. They knowour day to day emotions and they
it's why I love when they bringlike day to day seemingly
mundane details about us,because that's where we live, is
in the day to day life. And forme, certainly, I kind of learned
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this when I was a kid. I'vealways, I guess, been
mediumistic and not reallyrealized it. But you know,
certainly they know the day today happenings of our life
because they care still. We'restill connected by the love that
we share. So I hope that answersthat little group of questions,
the next little group ofquestions, and the final little
group of questions, is, dospirit people know when we're
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trying to reach them, likeintentionally versus randomly
thinking of them? Oh, this is agood question. Do they know when
I'm thinking of them or when I'mtalking to them? Can spirit
people influence or supporthealing even when we're not
consciously trying to contactthem or connect with them? And
can someone in the spirit worldbe reached, even if I didn't
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know them well or at all, okay,what about ancestors? I've never
met biological parents. I didn'tknow people who I only knew
briefly. Okay? So that's thislittle group of questions. So I
love when you guys sendquestions, because there are
common themes and commonalities,and then I can blend the
questions together. Try to giveyou guys as much information as
I can in these ask a mediumsessions. So do spirit people
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know when we're trying to reachthem intentionally? Versus
random thoughts? Okay, thismight blow your mind, so I don't
necessarily think the randomthoughts are random. I think
that is when your loved one is.
I mean, they're they're alwayspresent with us, but that's when
they're present with you andcommunicating with you and
saying hello to you. It mightfeel like they're randomly
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popping into your mind, oryou're driving down the road and
randomly remembering the time wehad ice cream over there at that
new shop. That's themreminiscing with you. That's
them letting you know they'rehere. I don't believe it's
random, and it can also be yoursoul becoming aware of their
presence, right? You might notphysically see them, but your
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soul is aware that they'represent, just like when I move
my awareness to blend with them.
Your soul knows that they'rethere, even if you don't
practice mediumship. So they doknow when we're intentionally
thinking of them, and they dosay hello to us, even when we're
not intentionally thinking ofthem. They know often the
memories we do think about. Theyknow I've often had them
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communicate when we put up a newphoto of them, or when we I just
had one recently, and they werecommunicating, oh, this person
was visiting the family backhome, and they took a picture of
a picture that was on the walland it's in their phone, so
that, yes, they do know. Theyknow when we're thinking of
them. This next part is, do theyknow what I'm thinking of them
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or talking to them? They do, andthey also know so because they
don't have human ears anymoreand human voice box, right? They
know not just when we'rethinking of them, but they can
feel the emotions we have aboutthem. We don't have to talk out
loud to them, because they'renot hearing us and experiencing
us through physical ears. It'sthrough the emotion, through the
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energy, it's through the love.
So even if you're sendingthoughts and prayers to them
from your mind. Mind, even ifyou're not verbalizing it in
your mind into mental words atall, and you're just emitting
love towards them from yourheart, they feel and receive all
of that. The last couple years,they've been showing me that
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when people are sending prayers,healing, loving thoughts in the
particularly like in the lastphase of their life, that when
they cross over, they receiveall of that as waves of love and
compassion and connection fromthose that love them in the
world. So they are even muchmore aware of emotions and
thoughts and feelings, even thanwe are here on the physical
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side. Can our loved ones visitmultiple people at once? This is
a great question, so kind oflike I was saying they're always
with us, but sometimes we sensethem more once we are once the
energy of our soul, thevibrational resonance of our
soul, is not contained in aphysical body. We can be many
places at once. There are lotsof Near Death Experiences that
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explain this in a reallybeautiful way, how they could be
witnessing one thing happeningone place and another thing
happening another place, andalso their souls on the other
side, having whatever experiencethey're having. Yeah, they can,
and they convey it prettyfrequently that they're with
this person over here, and theyknow what's happening with this
person over here, and they knowwhat's happening in this part of
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a life over here. So yes, theycan be with many people at one
time and you're not botheringthem. We did go into this in a
different episode, reallydeeply. So if you want more
around that, check out the otherask a medium episodes, because
we did go really deeply intothat piece of it. Can spirit
people influence or supporthealing when we aren't
consciously trying to contactthem? Yes. So a couple different
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layers here. One, I dosometimes, again, I don't demand
information of the spirit world,so I just receive whatever they
need to communicate. And I havehad spirit people communicate
that they are part of a healingteam on the other side, that
they had one that was sobeautiful, and let me know that
one of the things they do fromthe other side is go sing is the
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word that I use, but it's moreof like a vibrational,
energetic, loving frequency forthe babies who are in the
neonatal intensive care unit theNICU, and as their loved one
said, Oh my gosh, this personloved babies so much. I'm not at
all surprised that that's one ofthe things they're doing. So we
don't necessarily have torequest support. They love us,
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and so they're supporting us,just like even if there's
someone that you love who'sstill in the physical world and
they didn't ask you for support,if you knew something was going
on with them, you would stillwant to support them, because
you love them. So yes, but Iwill say I don't believe that
they can create miraculoushealing for us. I don't feel
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like some people receivemiraculous healing from them and
some people don't. I think thatthey are loving and supporting
and energetically giving usofferings, regardless of if we
ask for it or not. For me, Ialso believe it's based on kind
of our higher self. It's it'sthis is tipping into me and my
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work as a healer, and what Ibelieve about energy healing, I
do Reiki and other forms ofenergy healing, and when I'm
offering healing as a as amedium, as an energy healer, to
someone that I don't have theirexpress consent, right? Where,
let's just say, hypothetically,I have a client, and they have a
person they love who is inhospice or in intensive care,
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and they might say, can you sendhealing for them? So instead of
sending healing to the humanself, I send the healing to the
higher self, to the soul self,and then the soul knows would
that person accept it? The soulcan distribute it as needed,
because I don't pretend to knowwhat someone needs
energetically. So that's how Ido it. So the people on the
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other side that love you knowyour soul, and they know if your
soul would want support, if yoursoul would want healing. And I
don't know why any of uswouldn't want love and support,
but again, sometimes love andsupport doesn't mean making our
human problem go away. Sometimesit's just supporting us and
nurturing us as we step down thejourney of the road of whatever
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this challenge or struggle is.
So yeah, they can support andinfluence healing. I've even
sometimes had them show me, oh,this person is going to have a
surgery, and I want them to knowthat I'll be supporting the
doctors who are doing theirsurgery, for example. So yes,
and this last little piece of itis, can someone in the spirit
world be be reached? Is the wayit's worded, if I didn't know
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them well or at all, and whatabout ancestors or biologic
family that I didn't know, orpeople I only knew briefly?
Anyone who wants to communicatefrom the spirit world can so I
sometimes have people pop into asession, or what I mean by that
is blend with my soul brieflyfor only a segment of the
session. And. Other souls willalso communicate. But I
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sometimes have someonecommunicate in a session that
either my sitter didn't knowthey forgot they knew the like a
childhood neighborhood friendthat they forgot about. For
example, it can I have hadbiological parents that my
sitter didn't necessarily knowor have a relationship with in
life, communicate, and they canvalidate through the details
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that we do know or things we doknow about the family. So I've
had that happen. I've had peoplethat passed away before my
community, my sitter was born,or people that they didn't see
since they were a baby. And I dooften get asked this, like, why
would this person be sayinghello in my session, if I don't
feel particularly connected tothem, there could be lots of
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reasons for this. Again, we inthe same episode where we talked
all about your loved ones on theother side and jobs and what
they're doing and how they feel.
I really went into this quite abit, but I'll give it again,
because it is coming up a lot.
Again, sometimes it's not evenfor you. Let's just say,
hypothetically, you come in fora session and you want to hear
from your grandma, who you'revery close to and a friend,
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right? And those people docommunicate, but as part of the
session, also your grandpa, whopassed away before you were
born, communicates. And youmight think, why is he want to
communicate? I didn't know himat all. And what you're what you
don't realize is that grandpaknows from the spirit world that
your intention is to share therecording of the reading with
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the family, for example. Andmaybe you couldn't validate any
of the evidence. Maybe youdidn't know anything I was
talking about, about thisgentleman, your grandpa, because
you didn't know him. But perhapssomeone else that's going to be
listening to the reading withinthe family knows the answers to
that and can say like, oh mygosh, this is true, and maybe
that communication is for themand not for you. Actually, we
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could all be messengers of thespirit world in our own way. So
sometimes it can be that,sometimes it can be to open our
mind just a little bit wider. Iactually find it quite
validating when it's informationthat my sitter, my client,
didn't know. I feel like to me,because some people will say,
Oh, how do I know that youreceive that detail from my
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loved one and that you didn'tpsychically read it from my
soul, which it's very hard toqualify that, but the truth is,
I feel the informationdifferently. If it's from the
person across from me, or ifit's from the spirit world, my
awareness moves differently andit feels different. So I can't
prove that to you, but it is thetruth. But really, you know they
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do know the true need. Sometimesit's our need, sometimes it's
their need, sometimes it'ssomeone else's need. And if we
didn't even know a bit ofinformation that was
communicated, and we had to gocheck with a different family
member, or look in a photoalbum, or look at the books on
our bookshelf, depending onwhatever comes communicates as
the details. Isn't that, for me,even more validating, because
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it's like, I didn't even knowthat. And I've had people learn
whole chapters of their familyhistory because a spirit person
gave a couple bread crumbs ofinformation, and then they were
like, actually, I have an aunt.
That's the family historian, letme ask her. And it opens this
whole beautiful line ofcommunication between the
family. So the spirit worldknows what they're doing.
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There's an intelligence there.
They know far better than I dowho should communicate, what
they need to communicate, howthe communication needs to
happen. But yeah, they can showup. They are supporting in the
background, even if you neverknew them. Because how I think
about it too is, you know, Ihave two kids. They're grown
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ups. I'm not going to be hereforever. None of us has
guaranteed time here in thisform, in this planet. Let's just
say, hypothetically, my kids arein their 20s. Let's just say, in
the next 10 years, my kids havekids, right? And those kids are
growing up, and I'm building arelationship with them, and I
know these grandkids, and I lovethem so much. And then let's
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just say I'm 48 now, let's justsay when I'm my grandma would be
93 so let's say 93 when I'm 93 Ipass away, my My grandkids are
grown ups, my kids are grownups, and then my grandkids,
after I pass away, start havingmore kids. Wouldn't I still
care? Wouldn't I want to be apart of these babies lives, even
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if I didn't get to know them,even if I only knew my kids and
my grandkids? Wouldn't I stillhave an interest a care?
Wouldn't I still want to supportthose younger generations coming
in? And the truth is, I believeand the spirit world's shown me
a lot of times that when we'reon the other side, in spirit
form, in our soul form, we getto meet and get to know the
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souls that are coming into thefamily. So for example, in this
story, I was just making up withmy great grandkids. If I cross
over and they're not here yet,and they're. Souls are still on
the other side with the family,I would get to know them. I
would get to experience theirsouls before my grandkids, and
then their souls would come intothe lives of my grandkids, and I
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would still care about them. Sosometimes we can just have a
very limited human perspectiveof the way love works. I also
believe that we have theopportunity to reincarnate
multiple times. I do believe inpast lives. You don't have to
subscribe to this belief, but ifyou do, let me just offer this
to you. I also believe that weknow each many of us, maybe not
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all of us, but many of us knoweach other from other
incarnations. Other times wewere here, other adventures we
had in the spirit world, otheradventures we may have had other
places. So even if I didn't knowyou at all in this lifetime,
right? And then I cross over andI realize, Oh my gosh, that
person that was listening to mypodcast, we had other lifetimes
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together. I love them so much. Iwant to support them and see
what they're up to and send mylove to them from the Spirit
side. Doesn't that make sense?
Why wouldn't we? Why would wejust close the window and say,
like, ah, that's the earthworld, and I don't care what's
going on over there. No, we arestill connected by the love that
we share, and I would challengeeven in a much more pure way and
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in a bigger way than we couldpossibly understand in human
form. So hopefully this hasanswered some questions for you
about mediumship, about thespirit world, about your loved
ones, and the truth is it's oneof the beautiful gifts of
mediumship, is that I stillcontinue to learn the spirit
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world is teaching me all of thetime. They're showing things to
me in different ways. I amchallenged in my own emotions
all the time, meaning likesometimes I have a limited view
or a limited belief, and I amtrying to expand my
understanding. I'm trying to letgo of some of the constructs and
patterns and programs that weretaught here and open my mind.
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I'm always working on this aspart of my human experience, and
I'm sure you are, too in yourown way. So let me know if this
resonated with you. Let me knowif you if your mind was like
peaked or intrigued, or if yougot a little curious about
something I was talking about.
And if you have questions you'dlike to submit for the Ask a
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medium anything episode, you canemail them to me directly. Joy
at joyful medium calm. You cansend them through admin, admin
at joyful medium.com and I wouldlove to hear those. If you want
to leave a voicemail, you cangive a call to the spirit
speakeasy Hotline at 305928love that is 305928568
059285683305928, love andleave me either a question for
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the Ask a medium, anythingepisodes, or if you want to
share a sign that you'vereceived from the spirit world,
I would love to hear that aswell. And I could feature you at
least by voice recording, orleave your name out and just
read your voice recording on afuture episode. So I hope that
this has helped you today. Ifthere's one thing that runs
through everything we've talkedabout today, it's this
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connection doesn't end when thephysical body ceases to exist,
it simply changes form. Yourloved ones, in spirit, are not
passive observers somewhere faraway. They're still in a
relationship with you, aware ofyour heart, physical and
emotional, present in your life,connected through that bond of
love that doesn't require wordsor perfect timing. Mediumship is
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not about magic or performanceor spectacle. It's about
relationship. It's about thelove that we share. It's it's a
fleeting, mystical experience,and mediumship is actually an
ongoing, evolving, rooted inlove experience. So whether you
ever sit with a medium in yourlife, or you simply speak to
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your loved ones quietly fromyour own heart, know this. They
hear you more than you think.
They feel the depth and truth ofyour emotions. They understand
you more than you could possiblyrealize, and they're still with
you in ways that are real,meaningful and often deeply
intimate. So if this episoderesonated with you, I'd be
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honored if you share it withsomeone who needs a little
reminder that love never dies.
Or you could also leave a quickrating or review or follow the
pod wherever you are listeningto this. It helps spirit
speakeasy reach more beautifulsouls like you and I would love
to connect with you, so don't bea stranger until next time. Big
hugs, lots of love, keep thatlight shining straight from your
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heart. You beautiful soul. Byefor now from inside spirit
speakeasy, you.