The 5 Love Languages to Spark Self-Love: How to Finally Fill Your Own Cup

What if the reason you feel depleted, disconnected, or like you just can't hear your own intuition — is because nobody ever taught you how to love yourself in the way your soul actually needs?

Most of us are incredible at pouring love into the people around us. But when it comes to ourselves? Empty cup. Running on fumes.

In this episode I'm taking Gary Chapman's “Five Love Languages” and turning them completely inward. We're talking about what each one looks like when you apply it to yourself, why it matters spiritually, and practical ways to actually start filling your own cup in the language your soul speaks.

You'll learn:

• What all five love languages look like as self-love practices
• Why self-abandonment creates energetic and intuitive blocks
• How to identify your primary self-love language
• The one-week challenge to start shifting your energy now

✨This one comes with homework. The good kind.

Show notes:

Take the free love languages quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com 

Dr. Kristin Neff's self-compassion research: https://self-compassion.org

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Episode Transcript

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Joy, hey, beautiful soul, welcome to
spirit. Speak Easy. I'm JoyGiovanni, joyful medium. I'm a
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(00:22):
inside my world as I chatinsider style with profoundly
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and tips. You might even learnthat you have some gifts of your
own so step inside the spiritspeakeasy. Hey, beautiful soul.

(00:43):
Welcome in to another episode ofspirit speakeasy. Today we are
diving into something that Ithink is going to be a total
game changer for a lot of you.
So let me ask you something. Doyou know your partner's love
language, or your best friend'slove language, or your kids?

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Yeah, I thought some of youmight you've probably taken the
quiz, maybe you've read thebook, had the conversation. You
know exactly how others want toreceive love. But here's my
question, do you know your lovelanguage? And more importantly,
are you speaking your lovelanguage to yourself about

(01:25):
yourself? Because here's what Isee all the time in my work as a
medium and intuitive coach,people are so good at pouring
love into everyone else,especially sensitives. All my
highly sensitives, raise yourhand. This is you. So we pour so
much love into everyone else.
They've read their partner'slove language. They're doing all

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the things. They're showing upfor friends, for their kids, for
their family, but when it comesto themselves, silence, empty,
cup running on fumes, and theywonder why they feel so depleted
or disconnected or anxious orresentful, and sometimes they
wonder why their intuition feelsfuzzy, why they can't hear or

(02:07):
feel their intuition, or theirguides, for example, and why
everything just feels so muchharder. Here's the truth, and
this is something spirit hasshown me over and over again,
you cannot pour from an emptycup. Some of you might be
saying, yeah, yeah. Like, I knowthat old adage, you have to fill
up your own cup First, put onyour own oxygen mask before you

(02:29):
help your loved ones, but yourrelationship with yourself, the
way you love yourself, honoryourself, speak to yourself
about yourself, that really setsthe template for every other
relationship in your life,including your relationship with
the voice of your inner compass,your intuition, and, of course,

(02:51):
your relationship with theunseen world, just in general.
So today, we are going to take adifferent look at Gary Chapman's
favorite or Famous Five LoveLanguages framework, and we're
going to turn it completelyinward. We are going to talk
about what each of the five lovelanguages looks like when you

(03:11):
apply it to yourself. Why thismatters from a spiritual
perspective, and mostimportantly, I'm going to give
you a super practical,actionable way to start filling
your own cup in the languagethat your soul actually speaks
with you. Because let me tellyou, when you start loving
yourself in your own lovelanguage, so much can shift your

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energy, shifts your vibrationalfrequency that you're offering,
shifts your relationships withothers can shift. Your intuition
gets clearer, or at least you'rerecognizing it more
opportunities can start showingup. It can look like finally
unlocking the store that youdidn't even realize was closed.

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So buckle up, beautiful soul,because we are going to deep
dive today, and I have a feelingthis episode is going to hit a
little differently for a lot ofyou. So let's dive in. Okay, so
I want to start with the basics.
If you're not familiar with TheFive Love Languages, I'm going
to give you the rundown of whatit is I'm talking about. I have

(04:17):
really worked this book. I havea couple little pet peeves that
I may or may not mention aboutthis work, but overall, I think
this is really helpful work fromDr Gary Chapman, who is the
author of this book. Back in1992 Dr Gary Chapman, who was a
marriage counselor and a pastor,wrote this book called The Five
Love Languages, the secret tolove that lasts and it became

(04:41):
huge. Like over 20 millioncopies sold, huge and translated
into 50 languages, huge New YorkTimes bestseller for, like,
literally so many years. You cancheck all that out on his
website and check out his workthat website's five, like the
number five love languages, dot.
Com, and I'll actually link itin the show notes. I'm not

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affiliated with him in any way,but I feel like if I'm gonna
talk about someone's work, it'dbe nice to cite them as a
source, and for you to be ableto go check out their work if
you choose to. And as part ofthrowing in that link on his
website, you can find a freelove languages quiz. So if you
want to take the quiz yourselfand kind of rate yourself based

(05:22):
on his work and his quiz to seewhat your love language is if
you haven't done it already.
Because, let's be honest, someof you have done this already at
some point. So if you just wantto rate yourself again, or if
you've never done it, I willlink all that below. So
Chapman's whole premise of thiswork was that we all express and

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receive love differently, and alot of relationship problems, he
believed happened because we'respeaking different, like, quote,
unquote love languages, likeyou're over here trying to show
love by doing the dishes and,you know, keeping the house
clean, and your partner is overthere thinking that you don't
love them because you never saythe words I love you. So you're

(06:05):
both loving each other andshowing up in different ways,
but you're just speakingdifferent languages. So Chapman
broke it down into basicallyfive Main Categories, or five
love languages, and I'm going torun through them super quick.
Even if you haven't ever takenthat quiz, you probably will be
able to kind of identifyyourself or those around you in

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these so the number one lovelanguage is words of
affirmation, and these are in noparticular order. They're ranked
by the individual. So everyone,everyone is a little different.
So number one words ofaffirmation. This is all about
verbal appreciation,compliments, words of
encouragement, validation.
People with this love language,they feel the most loved when

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they hear words of love. I loveyou. I'm proud of you. You're
amazing. You did such a good jobmaking dinner or such a good job
on this project, these peoplewho are in this category, it is
truly meaningful and special forthem to hear kind words they
need those words that is howthey feel loved by you or anyone

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else. Okay, number two, qualitytime. This is about undivided
attention. It's not just beingin the same room together while,
like, watching a show, kind ofand separately scrolling on your
phone. It's not that I'm talkingabout, like, fully present
meaningful conversations, eyecontact, doing activities

(07:31):
together, where you're actually,like, engaged in the same
activity. People with this lovelanguage quality time. They feel
most loved when you give themyour time and your attention
undivided. So you'd be betteroff to give them like an hour of
undivided attention, whereyou're just in actual

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conversation with no devices on,for example, than to sit next to
them and watch binge watch 10hours of television. Okay?
Number three, receiving gifts.
Now this one gets misunderstooda lot. It's not about
materialism or being greedy.
It's about thoughtful tokens ofappreciation. So kind of that

(08:13):
the thought that counts. It'sthe I saw this and I thought of
you, or I recognize that youlike this, and so I want to
bring it for you, to make youfeel good because you like this.
It's not just bringing anycoffee, it's bringing their
specific Coffee order, right?
It's not just, yeah, I'll leaveit at that, because I don't want

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to take too long on this part.
But anyway, so it's, you know, Isaw this and thought of you. I
picked up this little snack atthe gas station today because I
know it makes you smile at yourfavorite it's about
acknowledging someone andthinking about them, right? So
people who have this lovelanguage is receiving gifts they
feel most loved when you givethem something tangible that
shows you care and that showsyou either like understand them,

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or know who they are, or payingattention. Okay, number four,
acts of service. This is actionsspeak louder than words, for
this love language. Basically,it's about doing helpful things,
taking care of tasks, easingsomeone's burden, stepping up
without being asked. If theyhave to ask you, it's almost

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like it kind of doesn't count. Ihate to say it that way, people
with the love language of actsof service feel most loved when
you do things for them that maketheir life easier. It typically
has to be like a consideratething, right? Like have to be
considering them. It's not justdoing any task that you want to

(09:41):
do and expecting them toappreciate it. It's doing a task
that will ease their load ormake them feel seen or like for
example, if you have someone inyour life that's this love
language and they really wantyou to hang up your jacket at
the end of the day, it's such asmall thing. To do, but you
doing it because you know itmeans something to them, is how

(10:04):
they feel loved and appreciated.
Okay, so number five of thesefive love languages is physical
touch. It's about physicalconnection, hugs, holding hands,
rubbing someone's shoulder orback. It can be massages. It can
be any, pretty much any, type ofaffection. People with this love

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language, physical touch, theyfeel most loved when you touch
them. Physical closeness orcomfortable touch is how they
feel, most safe, most supported,most connected, most loved. Now,
Chapman says most people have aprimary love language, like the
main one that really fills yourtank. And usually people have,

(10:47):
like, a secondary one too. Soit's like, well, this is the
this is the one I feel the most,and then this one, yeah, I also
kind of agree with that, like,feel that one too. Usually, most
of them, or many of them, canresonate to a certain degree,
but these are, like, the two youwould score the highest in in a
quiz, for example. So if youkind of want to think about
this, you could think about itlike the idea that if you want

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to love someone really well andmake them feel really loved, you
need to learn their lovelanguage, not just speak your
own love language. Because thisis, this is, again, where he was
identifying that, oh, this iswhere these disagreements and
both people feeling unloved whenboth people are showing up, kind
of a way, if your love languageis quality time, for example,

(11:32):
and my love language is gifts,let's just say, and you're
spending time with me, andThat's great, and I might love
it, but if my love language isgifts, I might need you to spend
less time with me. But actuallydo like bring me a little token
that shows that you care orappreciate me? It could be like

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a bag of chips. It doesn't haveto be something crazy. It could
be a flower that you pickedoutside, that you brought in,
you know what I mean? So youhave to love them in the way
that they receive love. For themto feel loved, it's kind of easy
math, right? So he says, most ofus try to love let try to love
others in the language that wewould prefer to receive instead

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of how the other person needs toreceive it. That makes sense,
right? We do what we like, butwe need to do what they like.
But here's where Chapman didn'treally dive into in the physical
book, like in the original book.
What if this is kind of what Iwas thinking about? Because I
have loved these love languagesfor a long time, and I feel like

(12:34):
it helps me understand andbetter care for, you know, my
kids and my friends and peoplethat I want to make feel loved
by me, but for me, there's somethings missing now. The one I
want to talk about today is thispart that I was saying that
Chapman didn't really dive intoin his original book. I really
couldn't stop thinking about,Yeah, but what happened if we

(12:58):
applied this framework toourself, right? We're talking
about loving others and knowingothers love language, which is
wonderful, or how others aregoing to love us, which also
wonderful. But what about how welove ourselves? What if we apply
this framework to us lovingourselves? What if you started
asking, How do I need to beloved by me? What's my love

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language when it comes to selflove, how can I fill up my own
cup for myself? Because, as weknow, most of us are way better
at loving other people than weare at loving ourselves, and
most of us don't know how tofill up our own cup. And
truthfully, we have to do thatfor ourselves, we can't be

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codependent, or it's not ideal,and it's about filling up our
own cup so that we have love tospill over, right? But how do we
fill up our own cup? I thinkLove Languages might be one
potential solution or tool atleast, so it's a real problem,
right? When we're way better atloving other people than

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ourselves, a big one. So whatwe're going to unpack today is
how these five love languagescan turn themselves into self
love practice for you thatactually works for you, because
it's custom for you. So thisnext little bit, I want to dive
a little bit more into why SelfLove Languages matter, and I'm

(14:22):
gonna share a little bit more ofa spiritual perspective here. So
before we get into the how, Iwant to talk quickly about the
why, because I don't want thisto be just another like, Oh, I'm
gonna add it to my self careSunday bubble bath situation,
right? I want you to understandfrom a spiritual and energetic
perspective, why this filling upyour cup or self love or taking

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care of yourself matters somuch. Here's what I know to be
true, both from my work as amedium and from my own journey.
And the truth is, I've learnedthis lesson different times in
different ways, and like allthe. Lessons I continue to
learn. When your cup is empty,you can't connect deeply to your
intuition or to your spirit.

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Think about it. When you'rerunning on fumes, which I'm sure
we've all been there, whenyou're depleted, when you're not
taking care of yourself, you'reprobably exhausted, you're
probably overwhelmed, stressed,spread really thin. What
happens? Your energy gets kindof murky. Your frequency drops
or lowers. We shift into oftenmore of like a survival mode,

(15:30):
not like a thriving mode. Ithappens to all of us. It's not a
judgment, and in that state, itgets so hard to hear our inner
guidance, because we're drowningin that overwhelm or anxiety or
stress, and it's so hard to feelour soul self or our guides or
like we're supported by ourintuition. And it can also, as

(15:52):
part of that, feel really hardto trust ourselves that we know
the next step or that we haveour own answer, or we know what
to do or what we want, right? Isee this with clients, with
students, with people on callsall the time, they come to me
for reading or guidance, andthey're like joy. I can't hear

(16:12):
my intuition anymore, or I don'tknow if I have intuition. I feel
disconnected from spirit, someversion of that, and they don't
know what to do. And when I tunein to the energy of their soul,
what I see more often than not,is someone who is spiritually,
emotionally and energeticallyjust depleted. It's not the

(16:33):
capability that's thereunderneath, but they need to be
restored a little bit. I oftensee someone who's been giving
and giving and giving toeveryone else, it's a common
story, and they have nothingleft for themselves. And here's
the kicker, spirit can only meetyou where you meet yourself if
you're not honoring your ownneeds, if you're abandoning

(16:53):
yourself, if you're constantlyputting yourself last, you're
sending a message to theuniverse, to your own guidance
system that says, I don'tmatter. I'm not a priority. I'm
not listening. I don't want tohear it, and the universe
mirrors that right back to you,right? What we emit is what we

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create more of, right? Andwhat's worse is, most of us
spend years of our lives, I didthis looking outside of
ourselves, for someone else tolove us in a way that we feel
fulfilled and true. Fulfillmentcomes from the inside, self
love, self esteem, but when youstart filling your own cup, when

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you start treating yourself withthe love and care and respect
that you actually deserve whenyou start speaking to yourself
in your own love language,everything can start changing.
Your energy becomes clearer.
Your Vibration rises. You'remore aligned with who you truly
are. When you start speaking toyourself and treating yourself
like this, you can notice thoseintuitive nudges more

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opportunities can start showingup, the right people start
appearing. Synchronicities starthappening or happening around
you, because you're finallyaligned with your own worth and
with who you truly are as asoul, and that alignment is
magnetic. So there's also someresearch that backs this up,
believe it or not, not from awoo woo perspective, but from a

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psychological one. I'vementioned her before, but Dr
Kristin Neff, who is a leadingresearcher on self compassion,
has shown that practicing selfcompassion, which includes self
love practices, is linked togreater emotional resilience
overall, reduced, anxiety,improved, well being, even

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better relationships with othersaround us. You can check out her
work at self compassion.org selfcompassion.org I'll also link
that in the show notes for you,so if you want to see the data
that backs this up, this is notjust some fluffy feel good
stuff. This is real, and thiscan become a foundational part

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of your self care practicethat's more meaningful than you
know, maybe just some likebubble baths and tea also good,
but not the same. And there's aspiritual piece that I also all
jokes aside, really want you tosit with self abandonment
creates energetic blocks, or itmakes us feel blocked in our

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energy. If you've ever feltblocked or stuck when you
constantly ignore your ownneeds, when you override your
own intuition, when you pushthrough and keep powering into
exhaustion, when you talkyourself. Talk to yourself
internally in ways that youwould never talk to someone you
loved. All that really harshinner self talk you create blind

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spots all around you and withinyou that lead to feeling blocked
or stuck. Blocks in your energyfield, blocks in your chakras,
blocks in your ability toreceive. Of blocks and your
clarity on next step in life,and it really is just about
unprocessed emotions orabandoning yourself and not

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recognizing what you need. Andthose type of blocks, they keep
you feeling stuck. They keep youfeeling small, they keep you
from stepping into your fullpower, and sometimes they even
convince you that you can't getout of your comfort zone. So
when I talk about self lovelanguages, I'm not talking about

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just, you know, face masks andexpensive coffee treats. I'm
talking about practicalspiritual practices that can
align you with your own soul'struth, and that helps to clear
your energy and strengthen yourconnection with source, with
your higher self, with your soulself, whatever supports your

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belief system. Because whateveryou're not an energetic match
for, can't kind of stick or staywith your energy. I'm talking
about treating yourself like thesacred being that you really
are. Because you are sacred.
Your body is a temple. We knowthis, right? Your energy is

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precious. Your time is valuable.
We are not guaranteed anycertain amount of time here on
this plane, as we know and yoursoul really deserves to be
honored you chose to come inthis specific body, in this
specific lifetime, there'ssomething to honor there that's
sacred, right? And when youstart operating from that truth,
when you start loving yourselfin ways that your soul actually

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needs to be loved and receiveslove, that is when kind of
magical things kind of start tohappen. So I feel like that's
when we are the most aligned.
That's when we become almostmore magnetic for all the things
that we have been maybe tryingto force or chase or hustle

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towards. Because when we'refinally vibrating in alignment
like that, vibrational alignmentwith our soul self, we know and
own our own worth. Okay, so areyou still with me? Do you feel
what I'm talking about? Do yousmell what the rock is cooking?
This is why the work matters.
This is why that inner work,that personal development, this

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is a little bit of what we'redoing today, just learning a
little bit about ourselves. Solet's get into the how, now that
we understand a little bit moreabout what the love languages
are and why this is such apowerful tool to use for
ourselves. Let us get into howcan we do this? How are we going
to use this? Okay, so lovelanguages applied to yourself,

(22:39):
is really what I want to diveinto next. This is the good
stuff. This is where we getpractical. I'm going to walk you
through all five love languages,one for each Oh, and for each
one, I'm going to break downwhat it will look like if you're
not yourself, like lovingyourself in this language, and
what it will look like if youare. So hopefully you'll see the

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gist as we go. It's superpractical, actionable examples
you can start today, and thespiritual or energetic angle of
this is also really important.
So let's get into it. I want tofirst dive into this first love
language, words of affirmation.
And as always, as you listen tothis episode and see what

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resonates with you and whatdoesn't, it's okay to take what
resonates and leave the rest.
It's always okay. It's alwayskind of what we're working from,
right? So if your love languageis words of affirmation, that's
the one where you need to hearthe love. You need verbal
encouragement, compliments,words of appreciation. Words

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matter to you a lot, and whenyou're not doing this for
yourself, it can look likealmost that harsh, brutal self
talk, constant self criticism,whether it's in a voice in your
head or whether it's just youbeing frustrated or angry at
yourself. It can be beatingyourself up for like little

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mistakes, or even when you'renot perfect, right? This This
can tip into some perfectionism.
With this one. It can bedismissing compliments that
other people try to give you. Itcan be ignoring your own
accomplishments. I mean, no onewants to sound conceited, but
it's okay to celebrate yourself,right? We don't want to ignore
your accomplishments justrunning this kind of internal

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dialog, which is some version oflike, I'm not good enough, or
I'm not smart enough, or I'm notdoing enough, or I should be I
should be better, I should bemore. You should know this by
now. Does any of this soundfamiliar to any of you? So when
you are loving yourself in thislove language, it looks like
speaking to yourself with wordsthat you would speak to your

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best friend or a sweet littlebaby, or, you know, maybe your
own kiddo or. Maybe someone elsethat is, like, very close to
you, with kindness, withencouragement, with compassion.
It's using words of affirmation,but not like toxic positivity,
kind where you're just lying toyourself, or like fluffing up

(25:14):
your feathers for no reason. I'mtalking about like real,
grounded affirmations that feeltrue, things like I'm doing the
best that I can, or I'm learningand growing every day, or I'm
proud of how I handled thatsituation, right? Are you giving
yourself positive feedback aboutthe things that are good,

(25:35):
bright, wonderful as you gothroughout the day. That's what
this is. And you could alsothink about even doing something
like journaling your wins,celebrating yourself, saving
kind messages or compliments sothat you can go back and read
them if you need a boost or ifyou need to be reminded. So I'm

(25:57):
going to give you some superpractical examples for this,
words of affirmation, love lovelanguage. I'm just going to run
through them because we've gotfive of these to get through. So
here are some super practicalexamples of how you can use the
words of affirmation lovelanguage for yourself. It could
be those morning mirroraffirmations where you look at

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yourself like right in the eyesin a mirror, and you say
something kind and make itspecific here. Don't just say,
like, I'm amazing. That feelsfake. Say I'm proud of myself
for getting out of bed today,even though I was exhausted or
I'm I'm so proud of you that youshowed up for that hard
conversation and did your best,right? So it's saying something

(26:41):
that's like, more specific andmore true. And as part of this,
if you want to take to the nextlevel with these mirror
affirmations, you could writeyourself a love letter. I know
it sounds cheesy, but just do itonce and see if you like it.
Write yourself like you'rewriting to someone that you
like, truly adore, tell yourselfwhat you appreciate about you,

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what you're proud of, what yousee in yourself. You can really
even go back and like reflect onhow far you've come in this
letter, if you want, from adifferent version of you to who
you are now. So that can be areally special way of applying
this love language to yourself.

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Another idea is to keep a winsfolder on your phone. It could
just be like screenshots of nicetexts or DMS or emails or
comments, and anytime someonesays something kind or like
gives you a nice compliment oracknowledges you. You could
screenshot it and save it. Oryou could even write a little

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note, you know, to yourselfabout it in your Notes section.
And then when you're having arough day, or when you want to
just practice your mirroraffirmations, you could read
some of them. You could journalthree things that you're proud
of of yourself for, you know,every night before you go to
bed, just three. It doesn't haveto be huge. It could be like I
drank my water today. It couldbe I was kind to a stranger. It

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could be I finished that projectI've been putting off for me
recently. It was like I went Idid a round of clearing from my
closet, and I'm super proud ofthat, because it was busting at
the seams. And it could just beacknowledging something you did
that was hard or something thatyou maybe didn't do perfectly,
but you did your best at right?
Just three little notes toyourself in the evening. Now,

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here's a little bit more on thespiritual angle. Words are
energy in more of the likeWiccan traditions, the reason
they call it a spell is becauseyou're writing words. You're
spelling it out like spelling isabout a spell, because words
have power. So hate to burstyour bubble if you didn't know

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that. But words are energy. Theyare incredibly powerful. The
words you speak to yourselfliterally shape your reality.
They shape your vibration. Theymove your frequency. They really
manifest as energy that you'reemanating out into the world.
And if you want to call in love,if you want to call in

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abundance, or joy oropportunities, you have to speak
those frequencies first toyourself, because you're you
want to magnetize to that,right? You can't walk around
telling yourself you're afailure. Expect the universe to
bring you loads of success,right? It just doesn't work like
that. You have to be a match forthat energy, and that starts

(29:30):
with affirming yourself. So ifwords of affirmation is your
love language, this is yourspiritual practice, speak life
over yourself. Speak truth intoyourself, speak kindness and
grace and gratefulness andcompassion and love, your soul
is listening 100% of the time,okay? Love Language number two,

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for self, love quality time, ifquality time is. Your love
language, that means that youfeel the most loved when someone
gives you their full undividedattention, no distractions, just
like full presence. And whenyou're not doing this for
yourself, it can look like neverbeing alone without a

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distraction, filling everysingle moment with productivity
or numbing or scrolling orNetflix binging or staying busy,
busy, busy, always distracted,always doing something, never
just still by yourself. And thiscan even tip into feeling guilty
for doing nothing. I just washaving this conversation with a

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client earlier this week thatthey were struggling with this
next phase of their life, andthey were feeling really guilty
for like, doing nothing, is whatthey kept saying. They were
really never just being withthemselves. And here's the
thing, if you can't be alonewith yourself, if you're
constantly avoiding your owncompany, that's a little bit of

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a red flag. That's a sign thatsomething's a little off, and it
might be something you can workon within yourself. I if, if
you're new here, I alwaysrecommend trying to find a
wonderful therapist, if that iswithin your means and
capabilities. I think that canalso be really helpful. But you,
we, you, me, all of us need tobe able to be alone with

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ourselves and when we are lovingourselves in this quality time
love language, it can look likeintentional solo time, even if
it's just 10 minutes a day whereyou're like fully present with
yourself, no phone, no to dolist, just you with yourself. It
can be taking yourself on adate, a coffee shop, solo a
nature walk, a museum. You guysknow, I love my museums, a

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bookstore. Just you with yourown thoughts, spending time with
yourself. It can look likemeditation, journaling, creative
hobbies, but doing them withoutmultitasking, right? It's just
being fully in the experience byyourself, with yourself. I'm
going to give you some practicalexamples, because some people,

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you know, we all sometimes it'shard to be creative for
ourselves. So this can look likejust daily practice of five to
10 minutes of meditation orbreath work, or focusing on your
breath, just sitting, breathing,being with yourself, no agenda.
This can look like a weekly likeartist date with yourself. This
can be this is I wrote a littlenote here for myself that

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there's a book called JuliaCameron. It's called The
Artist's Way, and in the book,she talks about once a week
taking yourself on a little soloadventure. So highly recommend
that book. If you are an artistor a creative of any kind,
which, if you're here, youprobably are. So something that
fills your creative well. Itcould be nature. It could be a
visit to a thrift store. Itcould be sitting in a park and

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people watching, like just youexploring, being present with
yourself. You could considerdoing a phone free morning or
evening. A phone free morninglooks like just don't check your
phone for the first hour thatyou're awake. Give that time to
yourself to be the first thingthat you focus on in the day.
You could journal. You could dosome stretching. You could make

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your coffee kind of slowly andwith ease. You could just sit in
silence, just to be withyourself before you let the
whole world in to yourexperience solo nature walks
that you're actually there andpresent are really amazing. Like
not on a call, not listening toa podcast, not writing your to
do list, but just walking,noticing, just being. And the

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spiritual angle here for thisone is you can't hear your
intuition or your spirit guidesor loved ones. On the other
side, if you're never stillquality time with yourself is
quality time with your soul.
There's this, I don't love thisword, but it's almost like a
download or information that cankind of come into our awareness

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or into our mind, and when we'reconstantly consuming or
distracted or constantly doingsomething, we're drowning out
that still small voice, thatinspiration, that clarity, those
moments of just wisdom droppingin. We can totally drown it out
if we are having, you know,consuming information in in a

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like tech and data way around usconstantly, we're not available
for our intuition. You cancreate that space, though, like
it's about thinking, When canyou get quiet? When can you just
sit with yourself? That's whenthe magic and the inspiration
starts to come into your energyfield, and then it can drop in

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at any point, that's when youget ideas and insights and
nudges from spirit. So ifquality time is your love
language, then this is a nonnegotiable for you. You need to
find some way to have that timewith yourself, by yourself for.
Yourself, it is sacred time, andI would suggest finding what

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works for you and then reallycreating, like some boundaries
or protection around getting tohave that time with yourself to
fill up your own cup. The nextlove language, number three is
receiving gifts. Again. This onegets misunderstood. A lot people
here receiving gifts, and theythink it's like, shallow or
materialistic, but like we weretalking about, it's not about

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the stuff. It's I saw this andthought of you. I remembered
you. If this is your lovelanguage, the gifts really gifts
make you feel seen and valuedand remembered and considered,
and that's beautiful. And whenyou're not doing this for
yourself, this receiving gifts,like giving gifts to yourself,

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it can look like waiting forother people to buy you things,
feeling guilty for spendingmoney or time on yourself, only
allowing yourself to buy, likepractical joyless necessities,
never treating yourself tosomething special, even if it's
like the 30 cents to add whippedcream to your drink. Like just

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not allowing yourself to havespecial things. Never investing
in things that bring you beautyor ease or joy. It can be rough
when we are not allowingourselves to give ourselves
little gifts, and when youactually are loving yourself in
this love language, it can looklike treating yourself. It can
be rewarding yourself. It canalso be things like investing in

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things that make your life morebeautiful or easier or more
joyful. This can includeinvesting for your future. It
doesn't have to be expensive. Iknow we hear gifts and we think,
Oh, extravagant is expensive.
It's not about dropping hundredsof dollars. It's about the
intention behind it. So here'ssome practical examples. You
could buy yourself flowers, oryou could even pick yourself

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some wild flowers if you wantedto, not for any special
occasion, like, just because,just because you deserve beauty
in your space. You could treatyourself after an
accomplishment, like, if youfinished a hard project, or if
you, you know, had a tough week,you could order that book that
you've been wanting. You couldhave a little bit of takeout.

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You could celebrate yourselfwith tangible, small rewards.
You can even think about keepinga wish list and choose something
meaningful once a month based onlike, whatever your budget is
that month. It could even besomething small, like a candle,
a journal that 99 cents. Store,if you have any version of that
near you, they sometimes havesome really amazing journals,

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just a little side note so itcould be, you know, anything,
candle journal, a piece of artfor your wall, a cozy blanket,
something that makes you smile.
I did this recently, and for me,it was something that was like
this blue and white stripe printthat reminded me of like the
Oshkosh bagosh from when my kidswere babies. So if you remember

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Oshkosh bagosh, you will knowwhat I'm talking about. But it
wasn't expensive. It's just, youknow, so it's just something
that feels significant andspecial to you. You can upgrade
your daily experience in verysmall ways. Get the fancy coffee
once a week instead of theregular buy the nice quality
olive oil, get luxurious towels.
Invest in things that make yourdaily life feel more luxurious.

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Doesn't have to mean moreexpensive. Give yourself the
gift of ease. You could hirehelp, even if it's like, once a
year you're going to hiresomeone to, like, deep clean
your bathroom. It could besomething like that. It could be
sometimes buying the veggiesthey're already pre cut. It
could be getting that meal kit,because, you know, you're going

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to have a really hard week, soyou're going to have something
that's already partiallyprepared, whatever makes life
easier for you. It's a gift toyourself. The spiritual angle
here is that gifts are physicalrepresentations of our worth. We
shouldn't base our worth on ongifts and material items. But if
we feel love this way, if thisis our love language, when we

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invest in ourselves, whetherit's time or money or energy,
you're telling the universe I'mworthy of good things. I'm
available, I'm valuable, Imatter, I'm ready to receive
good things, and the universewill respond and meet that
energy. So when you operate froma place of scarcity, like, I
don't deserve this or that guiltof like, self denial and like, I

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can't have that, it's not youknow, then we block abundance.
We block the flow of abundance.
But when we treat ourselveswell, when we invest in
ourselves, when you allowyourself to receive and open the
channel, you become magnetic.
One of the gifts I gave myself,this is many years ago, but I
was giving myself the gift. Ofeducation. That's the thing that

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felt like investing in myself,that I wanted to spend my
resource, my little tiny bit ofmoney on, was education for
myself. So it's totally personalto you, and what is, what feels
luxurious or special or like aninvestment to you, and then
you're sending that to theuniverse, and that becomes

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magnetic. So if receiving giftsis your love language, then let
yourself have some of thethings. Let yourself be treated
well by you. You're not beingselfish. You're just being
aligned. Okay. Number four hereis love language, acts of
service. So if acts of serviceis your love language, that

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means when you feel most lovedis when someone is doing
something for you. They'retaking an action. They're easing
your burden. When you're notdoing this for yourself, it can
look like procrastinating onthings that would make your life
so much easier. It can look likeletting your space become
chaotic in a way that feelsreally draining for you. It can

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be never meal prepping, likealways scrambling at the last
minute for just like whateveryou can throw together easily
instead of something that's likereally nourishing or or feels
nice for you. It could be evensomething like ignoring your
health or putting off doctor'sappointments, or not moving your
body, not getting a decentamount of sleep, like staying up

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too late, eating all the timethings that make you feel sick,
basically, future you isstruggling because present you
isn't setting them up forsuccess. So when you are loving
yourself with this lovelanguage, acts of service, it
can look like and rememberpersonalized for everyone, but
it can look like doing thingsfor you that make it easier for

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your future self, like acts ofservice to yourself in the
future. So here's some practicalexamples. Meal Prep is one of my
favorites, personally, for thisfor future you or future me. So
pick a day that's like one ofyour days off, or when you have
a little bit more time so thatyou're not scrambling through
the whole week, even if it'sjust like making a batch of rice

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or beans or chopping up somevegetables, or making a list of
what you're going to make andmaking sure you have the
ingredients for the week,whatever makes cooking easier
for you. For example, it couldeven be like setting up your
space the night before. I oftendo this, lay out your clothes,
prep your coffee like I putwater in the coffee machine. I

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make sure there's coffee insidethere. Not every day, but most
days, you can tidy up yourkitchen, you can kind of get
your lunch made or started. It'sdoing the little things now I
usually pack my work backpackdoing the little things now so
that tomorrow you wakes up withease, feeling cared for, feeling
prepped for not feeling chaotic.

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For some this can bedecluttering organization, like,
if your space affects yourenergy, which it does for most
of us, a cluttered space createslike mental clutter or stress,
or makes us feel scattered, likewe can't focus and get things
done sometimes. So it could evenbe like doing future you a favor
and creating a clean, peacefullike I keep doing this with my

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hand swirling my hand in frontof me, because this is my office
side of my office side of thehouse. So for me, it's like
keeping a little tidy officearea that I can just sit down
and record or jump on a zoom orteach with ease. I'm setting
that up for future me so that ifshe has a busy day, she can just
slide right in and it's alreadyready for her. So what are the

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things for you that you can do?
Book the dentist appointment,handle the annoying tasks, set
the auto pay for the bill, fixthe thing that's been broken for
months, get it done so it's notweighing on you. And so future
you is like, oh my gosh, thankyou. Yesterday me for doing
that. A big one for a lot of usis going to bed early. This is
an act of service to tomorrow.

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You give yourself the gift ofrest. The spiritual angle here
really is about honoringourselves as a vessel, right?
This human experience we live ina human body that is the vessel
that allows our soul to movethrough this 3d reality. Our
bodies are sacred. They are oursacred personal space, our

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energy is sacred. When you me,all of us, when we take care of
these things, we're saying like,hey, this temple matters. I'm
worthy of beauty, offunctionality, of peaceful
environment. I'm worthy ofhealth and ease and care. And
that energy that like reverencefor yourself, it radiates

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outward, and people can feelwhen you honor yourself, and
they start honoring you too alot of the time. So if acts of
service is your personal lovelanguage, do. Do the things,
take care of yourself inpractical ways. Future you is
counting on you, and that is howshe feels loved. So let's get

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into this last love language,physical touch. I think this
one's often misunderstood, to behonest, if physical touch is
your love language, that is whenyou feel most loved through
physical connection andaffection. Now, when it comes to
other people, it's about hugsand hand holding and cuddles and
touching someone the arm whenyou're talking to them, all of

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that. But when it comes toyourself, it's about how you
touch your own body, how youtreat it, how do you connect
with it? When you're not doingthis for yourself, it can look
like, never touching your ownbody with tenderness or care,
rushing through your showers,getting dressed in a hurry, not
putting on lotion, being roughwith yourself, ignoring your

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body cues, hunger or fatigue orpain, treating your body like a
tool or sometimes even like aninconvenience instead of the
sacred vessel that lets you movethrough this life experience. So
when you are treating yourselflovingly with this love
language, this physical touch,what it can look like is

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touching yourself withgentleness, care, reverence,
maybe it's the way that you maketime and ease to really, like
lotion your whole entire body,not just the elbows, right, but
like, the whole thing. Maybe youtake a little extra time to do
some sort of, like night careroutine, or, like face massage

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for yourself, or hand cream foryourself, or something like
that. A little bit of selfmassage. Maybe you give yourself
a little foot massage or scalpmassage, or even, like, do some
version of little wrist massagewith lotion or something. It can
be a ritual. It can be grounded.
It can feel really nice. It canbe just having gentleness with

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yourself, because it's thesebodies are so precious, right?
So it can even look like gentlestretching or yoga for some this
can be sensual touch. If that'ssomething that you feel
comfortable with. This is yourbody, and you can love it
however it feels right to you.

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This can even be really makingsure that we're tending to our
body through doing thestretching that I was talking
about, not like, oh my god, Ihave to, like, get this done, or
I want to burn these calories,or whatever it is, it can be a
little different, right, alittle slower, a little softer,
a little more nourishing ornurturing. So it can be things

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like skincare, but it can alsobe things how we were talking
about, like for your futureself, like for me, I have super
sensitive skin, so if any typeof like itchy tag or metal or
sometimes like something withfragrance or the wrong
ingredients touches my body. I'mprobably going to have some

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version of, like, I'm itchingright now, just thinking about
it, I'm probably going to havesome version of, like, hives or
something. So that's part oftouch, and what we allow to
touch our body if we aresensitive and as sensitive, what
I have noticed is that there areso many of people that I know
that are sensitive or giftedspiritually in some way, that

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also have some version ofautoimmune so we tend to have
just extra sensitivities. So forme, I'm careful about the
fabrics that I buy that aregoing to touch my body. I'm
careful more and more the olderI get, as my body seems to get,
like, even more hypersensitive Iam. Like, I really research the
makeup that I'm going to use thesunscreen. You guys know I'm

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going on a trip this summer. Ijust ordered some sunscreen
that's supposed to be reallygood for the type of skin that I
have and where I'm going to be.
So it's more than just like theway you physically touch
yourself and spread lotion or doyour own massage. It's the
products that you're choosingand the luxurious feeling maybe
you want, like a really thick,creamy lotion, because you love
the way the texture feels onyour body. So it's taking it and

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using it in every level anddirection. For me, I even use,
like, really, like, no dye, nofragrance, soap, laundry soap,
because that will touch my skin.
For me, I even think of this oneas, like, internal touch. And I
know that sounds weird, but whatI mean by this is, this last

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year to do an experiment. Mostof you know by now, if you've
been here, that I have sometummy issues. I have something
called UC, which is ulcerativecolitis. And I was reading that
things in like dishwasherdetergents can really upset
people internally that havethese types of conditions like I
do. So for the last year, I'vebeen doing an experiment where I
only hand wash my dishes. Idon't use my dishwasher. It's

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like a very fancy drying rack.
If you want to know the truth,I. Um, but I've been doing that
as like a self care because if Iput, you know, if I let those
chemicals get on my utensils,and then I'm using it to eat
food and it's getting in mybody, that's a different version
of touch. Don't you agree? Sothe spiritual angle with this
one is this idea that our bodyis a sacred temple. It is the

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sacred home of our soul duringthis lifetime. It lets us move
through this physicalexperience, and physical touch
is just a different way ofsaying thank you to our body for
carrying us through this humanexperience. It's grounding. It's
bringing you back to your bodywhen you've been too much in
your head or too much in theworld, for those of us that are

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empaths and sensitives andintuitives, we can get so
ungrounded. We're, you know,sometimes working in spiritual
realms, and we're feelingeveryone else's energy, or we're
too in our heads. Physical Touchcan bring us back. It can anchor
us. It can remind us that we'rehere on this body, on this
earth, even something liketapping, where we're working,

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like, with actual tapping orpressure points on our energetic
meridians of our physical body,this counts as physical touch.
So anyone doing like, Yeah, anyversion of like tapping, EFT,
it's sometimes called this alsocounts under this, loving your
body with physical touch. It'sthe only you, the only body that

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you have in this lifetime. So betender and honor your body.
Okay, so I want to talk justquickly about how to identify
your self love language here. Sonow you're probably starting to
get a sense of which LoveLanguages resonate with you the
most. But let me give you just afew questions to kind of reflect

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on, to help you get maybe even alittle bit more clear. So if you
want to grab a journal, ifyou're sitting around listening
to this and not driving orwalking or doing any of the
things, you can write down thesequestions and think about them,
or you can even come back andwrite them down and go through
them later. Question one, whenyou feel totally depleted, what

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do you crave the most? Do youcrave hearing like certain kinds
of words? Do you crave alone,time to recharge? Do you want
someone to buy you something ora treat or of some kind? Do you
want someone to do something tomake your time easier, your day
easier? Do you want a hug orphysical comfort? Pay attention

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to where your mind goes and whatyou feel about that. When you
feel totally depleted, what doyou crave the most? Your
depletion often points towardsyour love language, right?
Because it's how do you feel?
How do you feel loved in a toughtime? Okay? Question two, what
form of self care feels mostrejuvenating to you? It's not

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what's easiest. It's not whatyou think you should choose as
your answer. But what actuallyfills your cup for you? You
don't have to share theseanswers with anybody. Is it
journaling and affirmations? Isit taking a solo walk by
yourself? Is it buying yourselfsome flowers or a new scarf? Is
it cleaning up your space? Is itgetting a massage? So what form

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of self care feels the mostrejuvenating for you? In
actuality, not who you want tobe. Question three, when someone
shows you love, what hits thedeepest is it when someone gives
you a compliment, when someonegives you their full and divided
attention, when someone buys youa gift, when someone does
something really helpful foryou, or when they give you a

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hug? Does one of these make youfeel most loved out of these,
like if you had to choose one,when you receive love from
someone else, what kind of hitsthe deepest Okay? Number four,
when you complain about notgetting enough of something,
what are you complaining about?
Do you complain that no one evertells you they appreciate you?
Do you complain that no one evermakes time for you, or that no

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one gets you thoughtful gifts,or that no one helps you, or
that no one's giving youaffection or touching you? When
you think about the complaintsyou have like about not getting
enough of something, what areyou not getting enough of? That
might cue you into that lovelanguage too. So whatever you're

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complaining about not getting,that's probably your love
language. Okay, now here's thething. You might be
multilingual. Most people have,like I was saying before, a
primary love language and atleast one secondary one. And
some people are fluent in threeor even all five. But usually we
can kind of rank them into someversion of a hierarchy of like,

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well, this one's probably themost and this one's probably the
least, and then figure out themiddle. But if you want to
figure out your primary oneagain, you can take that quiz at
five love languages.com it'stotally free. It takes like,
five or 10 minutes just answerall the questions. And think
about them in terms of yourself,not your relationships with
others, but within you,yourself, within yourself. And

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again, it's okay to have one ortwo or for several of the love
languages to resonate with youin different degrees. And once
you know your love language, youcan start really being
intentional about filling yourown cup in a way that your soul
actually needs, that youactually receive and experience
love in this lifetime. Becausewhat I want you to understand is

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self love is not one size fitsall. What works for someone else
or even for me might not workfor you, and that's okay if your
love language is quality timeyou don't need to force yourself
to do daily affirmations. Ifthat feels empty to you, go take
a solo walk instead. If yourlove language, for example, is

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acts of service, you don't needto buy yourself flowers. If that
doesn't move the needle for you,don't do it. Do some meal prep
or instead of buying flowers,buy yourself those carrots that
already are chopped up, insteadthat probably feels more loving
to you, honor what actuallyfills your personal cup, not
what Instagram or Tiktok says,not what your best friend does,

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what actually works for you. Andthat's the beauty of this
framework. It gives youpermission to love yourself in a
way that actually matters toyou. So let's talk a little bit
more about what happens when youactually start doing this,
loving yourself with one or manyof these love languages, when

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you start filling up your owncup using your own love
language, what I've seen, bothin my own life and with clients
and friends, is intuition alsogets clearer, because when we're
not running on empty, when we'reactually taking care of
ourselves, we can hear our owninner guidance, or sense it or
feel it. The noise kind ofquiets down. The clarity comes

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through. We can attract betterrelationships, more experiences
into our lives, because when weare modeling self love, we're
showing the universe and thehumans around us by the way,
that you're worth it, thatpeople can rise and meet the
standard that you are holdingfor yourself, about yourself, or

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sometimes they fall away. Andeither way, honestly, that's a
win. You have more energy togive to others or to yourself
without resentment if you're notgiving it to people that don't
truly actually care about you,and when your own cup is full,
you can pour into others fromthat overflow, not from a place
of depletion, and that feelscompletely different because

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you're giving in a way that youwant to, not because you're
giving in a way that you feelobligated to or guilty about
doing or not doing. When youraise your vibrational
frequency, you really start tounderstand that even your time,
your attention, is a preciousresource, and really, you've got

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to give it to yourself first.
And when you're aligned withyour own worth, when you're
treating yourself well, yourenergy shifts, you become
magnetic in a totally differentway. Opportunities show up.
Synchronicities happen. Doorsopen. Sometimes gifts can rise
to the surface in a differentway. I had a client recently.

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I'll give you a quick example.
We'll call her Sarah. She is andwas burnt out. She is a mom. She
runs her own very successfulbusiness. She's a powerhouse.
She's always taking care ofeveryone else, and she came in
because she felt totallydisconnected from her intuition.
Often, that's when people cometo me for coaching. She just

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couldn't make decisions withinher own life, in work she could,
but in her own life, she wasstruggling, and she felt like
she was really empty and likethere was nothing left. And so I
asked her, when was the lasttime she did something like just
for herself, when was the lasttime that she really kind of
filled up her own cup, likewe've been talking about, and

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she just started crying, becausethe answer was never. She
couldn't even remember the lasttime she prioritized herself or
did something not because, oh,I'm going to I have to make
friends with my kids, friendsmoms, or I have to volunteer at
this school event, or, you know,this company thing, like she
could not even remember when wasthe last time she did something

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to prioritize herself that wasjust for her and wasn't
connected to Any thing else thatshe had to do. So we figured out
her love language, and it wasquality time, and I challenged
her to take 20 minutes a day,not even every single day, just
a couple times a week, just forherself, no phone, no kids
around her, no work, just her,by herself and her own energy.

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She and I'm so excited to sharewhat happened. Within two weeks,
she was getting inspirationagain. Her intuition was right
there, just where she left it.
She was making decisions withmore confidence. She felt like
she had more energy for her kidsand her business, and everything

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shifted. Of course, everything'snot perfect, right? Life is
still messy and busy and withlots of other personalities, but
it was how she felt withinherself, because she finally
started honoring herself andstopped totally ignoring herself
and putting herself all the wayto the back of the bus, right?
That ripple effect, the theripple of truly honoring

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yourself when you fill your cupup, everything else flows from
that. All right, so let me do alittle wrap up here, and then we
will close out, because I feellike I've given you a lot to
think about and assess withinyourself. We have covered a lot
today. We talked about all fiveof the love languages. I'll run
them over one more time, wordsof affirmation, quality time,

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receiving gifts, acts of serviceand physical touch. We talked a
little bit about why these LoveLanguages matter, especially as
self love, and especially asspiritually sensitive beings,
highly sensitive people,empaths, because when we try to
pour from an empty cup, ourrelationship with ourselves

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really sets the the tempo andthe energy for everything else,
and we can't keep giving fromsuch a depleted place. And I
know bubble baths don't work forme, and I know they don't work
for some of you. Some of you, ifyou love them, that's great,
too, but it's just somethingelse I wanted to offer you. We

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really talked today about whatthese Love Languages look like
when we apply them to ourselves,and hopefully any one of these
practical examples that I sharedeither is something you can hold
on to and try, or inspires youfor something else that feels
more resonant with you that youmight try. So here is your

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homework, or my challenge toyou, if you choose to accept it,
think about this week, pickingyour primary love language, just
one that's enough, just one thatresonates with you most, and
commit to one act of self lovein that love language every day
for one week, just one. Keep itsuper simple. If it's words of
affirmation, just like writeyourself a kind note every

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single morning, like 10 seconds.
If it's quality time, take 10minutes solo time free of phones
and alerts and all that 10minutes, if it's acts of
service, meal prep for future,you for the rest of the week. So
just one thing every day, justfor one week. And notice how it
feels. Notice what shifts. Ifyour energy changes, if your

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intuition gets clearer, evenstarts nudging you in a
different way. It's been thereall along. You just might not
have been noticing it, and Ipromise you beautiful soul, when
you start speaking your lovelanguage to yourself, your soul
understands magic happens. Ifyou do want more support, or if
you want a reading of your ownto learn more about yourself,

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you certainly can book with meon my website, joyful
medium.com, in the work with mesection. If you are interested
in learning about signs, I stillhave that sign mini course sign
magnet, which you can find righton the homepage of my website.
And if this conversation wasinteresting to you, if you learn
something or picked up a littletip. Or if you know someone that

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is an empath or a sensitive thatneeds to fill up their own cup,
because you love them so muchand you know that they give so
much to the world, and you wantto encourage them to fill up
their own cup and show them someways, send them this podcast
episode. It might help them morethan you know. I would love it
if you would give me a like or afollow wherever you are watching

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or listening to this. And again,don't forget to check the show
notes to get to that lovelanguages website to take the
free quiz from that author andthat website. I will link
everything below in the shownotes for you. Let me know how
this resonates with you. And Iwould love it if you would share
your primary love language withme. Mine has shifted over the
years, but it is a very slimmargin number one quality time

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for me. So what is yours? Shareit with me wherever you're
watching or listening to this,and I am so grateful to have you
here with me as always. Pleaseknow that I think you are
wonderful, and I know that youare a tender soul moving through
this chaotic world. So I amsending you so much love. Lots

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of love. Big hugs. Bye for now.
From inside spirit speakeasy,you.