May 11, 2025 • 30 mins
Have you ever felt like it’s too late to chase your dream? In this episode, corporate accounting manager and first-time author Anastasia Robinson shares how she finally wrote her book after 20 years of waiting. Her powerful story will inspire anyone who's been holding onto a dream for far too long and show you that it’s never too late to start.
Anastasia reveals how she overcame excuses, leaned on accountability partners, and built daily writing habits to finally finish her book. Her story offers a roadmap for mid-career authors, aspiring creatives, and anyone seeking personal growth or a spark of motivation. If you’ve been stuck, this is your wake-up call.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How to overcome excuses and stop self-sabotage
- The importance of accountability and consistency in achieving your goals
- How to build sustainable habits that lead to long-term success
- The power of starting small and building momentum toward your dreams
If you’ve been stuck or waiting for the right time to start, this episode is your wake-up call.
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👉 Want to learn more about Anastasia’s book?
Visit whostolemydream.com or find her book on Amazon.
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Anastasia Robinson (00:00):
A lot of times, when you think about it,
you think that your dream isburied and your dream may
actually just be planted.
And when you talk about thedifference between being buried
and being planted, when you'replanted, it may take a while for
it to grow, and really that'swhat happened with me.
I mean, when you think about apecan tree a pecan tree a lot of
times, once it starts growing,it takes a while for the becomes
(00:22):
to actually come out, and thatwas really I felt like that was
the situation with me is that Iwas growing but I wasn't
flourishing yet.
Jennifer Loehding (00:33):
Welcome to the Starter Girlz Podcast, your
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We're here to help womensucceed in every area of their
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Whether you're looking tosupercharge your career, build
(00:55):
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Join us as we explore thejourneys of those who dare to
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I'm your host, jenniferLoehding, and welcome to this
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(01:21):
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All right, we are ready to bringour guest on the show.
So Anastasia Robinson is acorporate accounting manager who
has spent years simplifyingfinancial systems and training
professionals while quietlyholding space for a dream of her
own.
She's now the author of whoStole my Dream, a candid guide
that helps women make meaningfulchanges and reconnect with
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their purpose.
With humor, heart and a missionto empower mid-career women,
anastasia is turning her owntransformation into a platform
for others to rise.
So, anastasia, welcome to theshow.
We are so glad to have you heretoday.
Anastasia Robinson (03:47):
Thank you so much and thank you for that
introduction.
I appreciate it and I'm veryexcited for being here.
Jennifer Loehding (03:53):
Thank you, yeah, we have Well, and for our
guests.
They don't know this, but youknow, there's always so many
things that go on when we'retrying to put podcasts together
and, unfortunately, today wewere just having camera issues
and all kinds of things, and sowe had to switch platforms.
And Anastasia was so gracious.
I know she had to wait a fewminutes for us to work these
kinks out, but we are here andwe're excited that she's here so
we can talk about her story,what she's doing, and so,
(04:15):
anastasia, yes, this is going tobe great, and thank you again
for your patience.
Let's open this thing up.
I want to talk about yourjourney, because you've got this
book now.
What led to this creation, thisbirth of this project for you?
Anastasia Robinson (04:28):
Yes, so thank you, and you are right in
regards to the birth because,truthfully, this book who Stole
my Dream, it actually took over20 years to basically come to
fruition, because the dream forme was to write a book and over
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this 20-year period I had beentalking about the book, I had
been taking classes in regardsto the book, I had been
attending workshops.
So I always had a dream towrite a book.
But at the same time, like mostpeople, you have a dream and
life gets in the way.
So in my situation, I wastelling people about writing the
(05:14):
book, but at the same time, Iwas always finding an excuse.
One of the main excuses I hadwas I never had enough time to
do it.
But at the same time I mean,when you think about it, there
are a lot of dreams that we haveand even just thinking about
the book in particular, one ofthe things is the reason I call
(05:38):
the book who Stole my Dream isthat I looked at my life and I
started looking at otherpeople's lives.
I mean, a lot of times we findourselves comparing our life to
other people and when I lookedat the life I was living,
sometimes I would see people,especially with my background
being in accounting, I would seepeople in higher leadership,
(06:02):
executive roles and I felt likethat's the role I should be in.
That person stole the dreamthat I should have had.
When I looked at people whowere married and with children,
I would say, okay, again, that'sthe spouse I should have, those
are the children I should have.
And so I found myself reallyjust almost being jealous of
(06:26):
people in the lives that theywere having, and I felt like
they were still in the dreamsthat I should have been having.
I mean, even to the extentwhere I felt that people I would
see, I would read books, and Isaid that's the book I should
have written, you know.
And it came to a point.
Really, what happened is, infact, I mean, this is the very
(06:50):
first chapter where someone wassaying they asked me, they said,
well, anastasia, is theresomething I could pray for you
about?
And I said I feel like I'm notgetting anything finished.
And basically, after 20 yearsof working on this book, I
wanted to get it finished.
And that particular day, thatSunday, we had a special speaker
(07:12):
that Sunday and basically shewas talking about finishing the
assignment and I knew that theassignment for me was to finish
writing the book and basically,since I have finished writing
this book, I've just seen thingsjust moving forward, because a
lot of times, even when we havecertain dreams, there may be one
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assignment that you need tofinish in order for everything
else to happen.
I mean, a lot of times when youthink about it, you think that
your dream is buried and yourdream may actually just be
planted.
And when you talk about thedifference between being buried
and being planted, when you'replanted, it may take a while for
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it to grow.
And really that's what happenedwith me.
I mean, when you think about apecan tree, a bacond tree, a lot
of times, once it startsgrowing, it takes a while for
the baconds to actually come out, and that was really I felt
like that was the situation withme is that I was growing but I
wasn't flourishing yet.
(08:20):
And now, now that I finishedthe book, it's like now, ok,
it's time to move, and that'swhat I'm feeling like.
Things are starting to happen,things are starting to change.
When you talk about especiallywhen you talk about people in
their dreams, people always haveexcuses for not reaching their
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dreams not reaching their dreamsand, at the same time.
One of the things I wasthinking about is in regards to
we have dreams as we get older.
Especially as we get older,there are some dreams we've had
from the past that we think I'mtoo old to do it now.
There may be some dreams thatyou really need to do and again,
(09:04):
this may be part of theassignment that you have.
I mean, I use plenty of excuses.
When I was writing this book,one of the main excuses was I
don't have enough time because Iwas working all the time.
I was involved in a lot ofvolunteer organizations, so I
spent a lot of time with that.
So that was always.
(09:25):
My biggest excuse is I don'thave enough time.
Everybody has the same 24 hours.
It's true.
There's no changing at 24 hours, it just becomes.
How are you utilizing the 24hours that you have?
And there I mean even workingwith this book.
There were times where I had tostay up two o'clock, three
(09:46):
o'clock in the morning justgoing through finishing up
concepts, going through edits,because basically, once I got to
the mindset where I said, ok,this is going to happen and here
is when it's going to happen,then that's when things really
started to move.
Now, one of the things I endedup having to do, I mean, I did
(10:08):
get a mentor, I did have a bookcoach and I had some
accountability partners.
And those accountabilitypartners it was so funny about
them because they just came inand they said, okay, anastasia,
you said you're going to getthis done, we're going to have a
meeting with you.
And it was five of them yeah,they, they scheduled meetings
(10:31):
with me to hold me accountable.
And, and what's interesting isthat I had friends and I mean I
still have these friends whohave known me for over 20 years.
They could not be thoseaccountability partners for me,
because they actually got to thepoint where they were like,
okay, at some point you'll getit done, but I needed this new
(10:53):
group of accountability partners.
So then, also, I mean, when itcomes to dreams, we always think
about, okay, what is it that weneed to do?
What is it that we need tochange?
And, yes, reality when it comesto dreams, you do have to make
changes, and one of the thingsyou have to do is you have to
change your habits.
You also need to change the wayyou speak.
(11:14):
So and when I talk aboutspeaking, I'm talking about.
You need to make positivespeaks.
You know speak, speak positiveover your life, speak positivity
.
Don't always say, oh, I can'tdo this, stop saying that.
Jennifer Loehding (11:28):
Do you talk about this in the?
Is this in your book?
Is this you're talking about?
Is in the book?
Okay, yeah, yeah, no, I agreewith you and all of these.
I'm going to try whatever toconviction, I'm going to make it
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happen.
That's when stuff happened andI don't know if I shared this
with you when I wrote my firstbook.
I've only well, I've done one.
I'm not I have no intentions ofdoing anymore right now.
But when I did my first book, Ihad gone into somebody's office
to talk to him about some otherbusiness.
And I remember at this timethis was before I had even
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gotten on a podcast and I wastrying to get on one.
This was where I started myshow, trying to get on one.
But I remember I was kind of, Iwas talking to people, I should
write a book, I should write abook, I should write a book,
right, the words we say.
And I remember going into thisoffice and this guy was like you
need to write the book and youneed to get on this podcast.
And it was that day.
Like I can still see this, Iwalked outside of that office
building, I got in my car, Ipulled up my phone.
(12:44):
I pulled up, actually Facebookand I wrote on a post and said
I'm going to write a book.
And I did that.
Because that then became likeyou're talking accountability
partners.
That became accountability forme because I knew that if I put
that out into the universe, Iwas making accountability to
myself.
But not only that, other peoplewere going to witness the
accountability, right.
(13:04):
And so now people will be like,hey, how's the book coming
along, what are you doing withthe book?
And I think I even maybe saidask me when you see me, because
I wanted people to put me on thespot and be like Jennifer, what
are you doing with that book?
And we, and we did, we went to,I did finish it.
Five months later.
I did and it was, it was work,you know, I mean I, but I'm kind
(13:28):
of crazy like that.
Anastasia, I don't peoplelistening to this, you don't
need to do that.
Everything I've done in my lifeI do like that.
It's either like I'm on it fulland I just have to make those
decisions, and that clarity.
Anastasia Robinson (13:37):
But I think that the point here is that
clarity, right, that's what itis, however long it takes you to
do it, even with everythingelse moving you know, moving in
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my career, doing everything elsethat I did, I always had that
dream of writing a book, andthat's part of the reality is
that there are other people whohave dreams that, over the years
, they just may have forgottenabout or even think do I really
want to do that?
Chances are you probably do, ifyou're still thinking about it,
(14:25):
but at the same time, that'swhat I'm doing in the book is
that I want you to really sitthere and think about some of
those things, some of thosehidden dreams that you've had
from the past that you may haveforgotten about, and at the same
(14:45):
time, you may say you know whatI really do want to do, that I
mean, I've known people who saidthey want to do public speaking
.
Okay, so do you still want todo it?
Have you forgotten about it?
What are you doing in regardsto moving towards it?
Yeah, so, so that's really whatI.
The way I wrote the book is.
(15:06):
I have sections ofself-reflection, because as I,
as I talk about myself and myjourney, I'm actually saying,
okay, here's some things that Idid.
I'm also giving examples ofother people as well, and then
I'm saying, okay, what are youdoing?
What do you need to do?
(15:26):
What are some of those dreams,what are some of those thoughts,
what are some of thosehindrances?
Because I think probably thebiggest thing I mean, besides
time and habits there's a lot ofthings that are hindering us
and sometimes some of it'sself-sabotage.
Jennifer Loehding (15:44):
I would say most of it is actually, I would
think, most of us.
It's our belief systems thatare.
This is the work I do, so Iknow that it's like the belief
systems are actuallycontributing to the patterns of
behavior and those are where theself-sabotage comes from.
So I would say yes most of thetime.
Anastasia Robinson (16:00):
Right, right .
I mean, let's just talk aboutweight.
A lot of people talk about okay, I want to lose weight, All
right, what are you doing?
And for me, one of my issueswas I love potato chips.
Jennifer Loehding (16:16):
It's the salty thing.
Huh the salt.
Anastasia Robinson (16:20):
But when I was self-sabotaging myself in
regards to weight loss bykeeping potato chips in the
house Right right, having it soconvenient for me and people
talk about, okay, you can starta habit.
It takes 21 days.
Well, 21 days is a good start.
Yeah, it's a good start.
(16:41):
It's a start, but, yes, it doestake more than 21 days.
Exactly, and one of the thingsthat I did do is I did a 21 day
fast from potato chips.
Ok, good for you.
Yeah, now, the first time, Idid it again, the very first
time, I did it.
Well, you're going to findsomething to substitute, right,
(17:02):
right, well, my substitution waschips.
Not, not very good.
It's not a good substitute.
Jennifer Loehding (17:11):
Well, you're honest, I love, I love the
honesty, anastasia, and that'swhat's important here is the
authenticity Right.
Anastasia Robinson (17:18):
so the second time I did a 21 day, yeah
, I took off potato chips andtortilla chips.
Okay, there you go.
Jennifer Loehding (17:26):
I like tortilla chips too, but I don't
eat very.
I don't.
I don't do carbs, so I don'teat a whole lot of that stuff
anymore.
But I'm with you, I could seethose.
I can totally see how tortillachips can be a yeah exactly.
Anastasia Robinson (17:38):
Oh right, so then after that, I did 21 days
and now I'm doing an additional40 days.
Oh so it's like this is a habit.
Yeah, again, it's like, okay,you have to start somewhere.
You do, you do.
And really, in regards tomaking change, in regards to
meeting, you know doing havingset goals in regards to meeting,
you know doing, having setgoals in regards to meeting your
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dreams, whatever your dreamsmay be, you have to start
somewhere, and part of thereality is, you know when do you
start?
Well, someone said you startfive months, five years ago.
That's when you really shouldhave started.
Jennifer Loehding (18:16):
Yeah, I think you start when you make that
decision years ago.
That's when you really shouldhave started.
Anastasia Robinson (18:19):
Yeah, I think you start when you make
that decision Exactly, but thenext time is now.
Start now and even if you haveto start now every day, yeah.
Because you need to make adecision, that this is the dream
, this is what I want to do,this is how I need to do it,
even if you start making smallsteps, and some of those small
steps, and some of those smallsteps may be turning off the TV,
(18:40):
turning off the internet,sometimes using that time, using
quiet time.
I think people tend to forgetthe importance of having just
quiet time, because that quiettime really gives you time to
really think about some thingsthat you want to do, some
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processes that you want to start, some changes that you need to
make in your life.
How is it in regards to time?
Where is it that there's sometime that you can make?
What changes that you need tomake in order to reach some of
those goals?
Jennifer Loehding (19:17):
Yeah, no, I'm with you on that.
I would love to know.
You said a lot of good thingsand I agree with you.
I wouldn't disagree with any ofthis stuff because this is the
work I do.
So I deal with this all thetime and I specifically I work
with female entrepreneurs onself-sabotaging, limiting
beliefs and self-sabotagingbehaviors, but I'm also funny
enough I'm also a keto trained,certified coach and a supplement
coach, and so I can do all thehealth stuff too.
(19:39):
But I want to know from you,like because there are things
you've learned in this.
You've talked a lot about them.
You've shared different thingshere.
Obviously, you've documentedthis in your book, but I would
love to know if you could sumthis up in a couple of words,
like what you've learned aboutyourself as a human being during
this process.
Anastasia Robinson (19:56):
Well, what I learned about myself is that I
actually can reach goals and itis possible, and really, I think
probably the biggest thing wasjust staying focused.
I think that's also importantand really, for me, that was
something that I was havingstruggles with as well.
It's just staying focused onspecific things that I wanted to
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do and specific goals that Iwanted to reach, and I think,
again, that's somethingimportant in regards to just
moving forward with some of thegoals that you want.
That's one of the main things Ilearned is that I can't stay
focused.
Jennifer Loehding (20:32):
You can't stay focused.
That's what I was just going tosay, that you actually can see
Exactly, Exactly.
Anastasia Robinson (20:38):
Pat your seat on the back, can see
exactly, exactly, and I have thecapability of reaching specific
goals and I have the capabilityof writing a book and finishing
what I started.
Jennifer Loehding (20:51):
yeah, yeah, that's the thing.
You know what.
You know what I always say we,we do self-fulfilling prophecies
, right, like when we're.
When we so often, anastasia,like when I work with people
people will set like these wewere talking about weight right,
like you're talking aboutweight they will set these
really audacious goals andthey're great and they look
amazing and they do theaffirmations, but they're not in
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their league, and what I meanby that is they're not going to
commit.
They're not going to commit tothat goal and a lot of times
there's a couple of things goingon One, probably the pain is
not bad enough that they want tomake the change.
Right, there's that.
Or the dream is in alignmentwith something else that they
want, like you were talkingearly on, somebody else's thing,
right, they want what somebodyelse has.
So they want that dream, right,and it's not really who they
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are or necessarily in alignmentwith who they are.
So I think you know the bigmessage here is to set goals
that stretch you but aremeasurable and you can actually
commit and do them and then gowith that consistency, right.
And so you've said so manythings here, like we were
talking about habits and like Ialways talk about like
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unconscious competent things,like driving your car and
brushing your teeth.
Those are unconscious competentthings.
Okay, you know how to do thembecause you've been doing them
for years.
Just like you learned how tospeak English, if you were in
another country, you would learnhow to speak a language and
that would become an unconsciouscompetent thing for you.
We try to take habits and youmentioned that 21 days and I
hate it when people say it'slike 30 days to a habit that is
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not going to stick for the long.
It might stick temporarily, butyou're going to fall off the
wagon because in order to makechange that to make like
unconscious competent change,like I go to the gym, I work out
almost every single day.
I don't even negotiate theconversation, I just do it.
I've been doing it for so long.
It's not a conversation for me,right?
It wasn't always that way.
So go back to that.
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How do we make that change?
It's doing those small littlethings that we can do repeatedly
that stretch us, but we can dothem and what happens is because
we set goals so big.
Where I was going with thisoriginally is that we set these
so big goals and then we fail,and then guess what happens.
We go oh well, yep, I nowproved to myself I can't do this
.
So you broke that pattern byfinishing the book and saying,
yes, I actually can stay focused, yes, I can actually write a
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book and yes, I can actuallyreach my dream.
So that's what we want, andyou've shown people that, yes,
that can happen.
And that's the beautiful thing Ilove about this show is
everybody that comes on here.
We all have these.
We have something that we somemagical thing we wanted to
create or manifest, and thebeauty of this is that we get to
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show the world every day that,yes, you can have a dream, yes,
you can finish it and you canwin at life, right Like you can.
So thank you for thank you forall of that.
It was awesome.
Anastasia Robinson (23:32):
Thank you and really, in regards to what
you just said, commitment youneed to be committed, and that's
actually one of the first pagesin my book is commit to finish
reading the book.
Jennifer Loehding (23:44):
Yeah, commit to finish reading.
Well, I love it.
You're telling your peoplefinish this book.
And here's a copy of the book.
Awesome, it's a little blurry.
Hold it back, maybe it's, Idon't know why.
It's like letting us see it.
Anastasia Robinson (23:56):
Oh, that's because of the it's the lighting
, yeah well, and and the fact Ihave the blur on that.
Jennifer Loehding (24:02):
Oh, maybe that's it.
Well, we've got we in the shownotes, we'll probably have it in
there anyways, and we'll makesure we tag you all the good
things.
So where do they go to find it?
Anastasia, where is it at?
Is it on?
You have a website, or is it onit amazon?
Anastasia Robinson (24:13):
yes, it's on amazon and you can go to the
website whostolemydreamcom.
Jennifer Loehding (24:20):
Okay, awesome , perfect.
I want to ask you kind of a funquestion.
This is something like totallynot about the book, but it goes
in line with us talking abouthabits and all of that thing,
all of those things, because youare obviously you're an
accountant, which means you'redetailed, and I told you I
studied accounting, so I get it,I get the total accounting
thing, and my mother was anaccountant, had a bookkeeping
service for years when I was akid.
(24:40):
That's why I said I wanted tobe an accountant and then I
shared with you.
I got to the tax law and I waslike you know what?
I don't want to memorize thisstuff, I just wanted to do math.
That's all we got to have to dotoo much.
Now, no more, no more.
So, anyways, but I would loveto know, like, what is the one
thing that you do every day foryourself?
That is like the most importantmorning thing, like when you
get up, and this is like mything, that sets my day.
Anastasia Robinson (25:03):
All right.
So the most important thing Iget up, I have prayer and
devotion time and I actuallylisten to an inspiration,
inspirational message.
It's really about three, three,four minutes.
I listen to that every day.
Good for you.
I love it.
And that's three, three, fourminutes.
I listen to that every day,good for you.
I love it and that's whatthat's my day.
Jennifer Loehding (25:24):
That's what people should do, that honestly.
Right, because I do that too.
You know, I I don't know if Ishared I used to like when I'd
write off.
I did a workshop last, I guessFriday before, and I was telling
the group how like I used totake my notes I would.
I'm a big to-do list person.
I love I just like to be ableto check things off and say I
did stuff.
And I love highlighters andSharpies.
Right now I'm using Sharpiesall over my paper.
(25:46):
I love it, but I would write onthe top of my paper something
amazing is going to happen todayand I would.
And it's kind of like that samething, like you're filling your
head with that positive, youknow stuff.
Now I do different things.
I have a mantra that I say andI use it a lot, like when I'm in
a um, if I'm finding myselfkind of chasing bad thinking, I
call it bad brain thinking whereI'm going down a rabbit hole of
(26:07):
thinking negative thoughts orthinking bad things are
happening.
I interrupt it with the mantraand it's I used to say it on my
show and I love I did it.
I was doing it yesterday becauseI was having anxiety we're
going to be leaving town and I'mlike having all this crazy
anxiety, and so I'm like where'sthat mantra Today is a great
day to be brave.
You might as well start now.
You have the power to changeyour circumstances any day you
decide.
Like that is what I do, youknow.
(26:28):
And so I think all these littleroutines and hacks that we do
are so important to keep usgrounded and help set the mood
for us for the day.
Upset the mood for us for theday.
Anastasia Robinson (26:38):
I think, so that really does help, it does,
it does.
Jennifer Loehding (26:45):
Awesome.
Well, this is awesome.
I want to ask you one lastthing, and we're going to wrap
this up because I know this isgoing to be a fun question for
you.
So if you were to have oh, Idon't want to say this, I'm not
going to say this part, but whatI do want to ask you is this
what would you tell your youngerself if you could say something
now?
I would tell my younger self.
Anastasia Robinson (26:59):
If you could say something now, I would tell
my younger self just keep going, just keep going, write the
book Exactly.
You will get there.
You will get there, keep going,it's going to work out.
I think that's probably thebiggest thing I would say is it
is going to work out.
Jennifer Loehding (27:21):
Isn't that funny?
Isn't it funny how, like you,you know, because I feel like
I'm in my 50s now and it's soweird because I think about
things differently now,obviously, than I did when I was
younger, and I'm like some ofthe things that I used to just
get so bent out of shape about,I'm like like no, like even like
arguing with somebody, like I'mjust not going to argue with
you, I don't have the energy todo this, I'm not going to do it,
like this is not worth my peaceand sanity, like I'm peacing
(27:44):
out on you, you know.
So I think wisdom, wisdom isgood, right, but I love this
that you said keep going,because I think that's an
important message for anybodyright now that whether they're
younger or whether they're, youknow, mature and they're looking
to start a dream.
I don't think you're reallyever too old to start something,
unless you decide at 85 to gobungee jump.
Maybe that's not a good idea, Idon't know, check with your
(28:06):
doctor.
But you know, within reason, Ithink most things we can do and
it doesn't matter, you know, aslong as it doesn't harm us in
any way that we should set oursights on and if we got our eye
on it.
Do it it right.
Anastasia Robinson (28:19):
So don't bungee jump in, though, if
you're not meant to do that butI mean, I think about when you
say that, think about ColonelSanders, oh yeah, right, right,
and the fact that he started hisbusiness at the age I mean he
was pretty older, I'll just sayolder and but when he started,
so yeah, there's.
Jennifer Loehding (28:38):
I don't think you're ever.
I think it's really.
You know, if you are physicallyequipped to do it and you have
the heart and the passion for it, then you know, go for it as
long as it's not harming you oranybody else, right?
And that's what the big thing isyou make good choices.
We want to say this on thisshow make good choices, right, I
got to put the disclaimer outthere.
I don't want anybody to go tellme they're going and doing
(29:00):
something crazy because theylisten to this show.
They're like Jennifer said godo something.
But no, I didn't say that it'sa do anything crazy.
I said you got to be a littlecrazy, you know bold to get
things done.
But you know, again, safety isimportant, right?
Anastasia Robinson (29:12):
Right, right .
But you're right in regards tothe boldness you do At some
point, you have to be bold aboutmaking a decision in order to
move forward.
Jennifer Loehding (29:21):
Well, anastasia, I want to say
congratulations to you onwrapping up your book.
I know that's a huge thing.
I know because I've done one.
I know all the stuff.
I know the.
I don't ever like to say I knowhow you feel, but I know all
the things you got to go throughto make that stuff happen.
You know, and so yay for youfor doing it.
However long it took you to doit, you did it, you got it done,
and that's all that matters.
That's everything, everythingthere, and so we appreciate you
(29:45):
and thank you for sharing all ofyour knowledge and telling us a
little bit about it.
It was fun.
Anastasia Robinson (29:49):
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much and
thank you for having me on theshow.
I appreciate it so much.
Jennifer Loehding (29:56):
Yeah.
And so, of course, to ouraudience we have to always say
the plug-ins.
Here we want to say weappreciate you and we hope you
found this episode bothinspiring and informative and
again, make good choices rightand do all the things like share
, comment, give us some feedbackso that we can keep sharing all
of these stories and all of thefabulous content.
And, as I always say, in orderto live the extraordinary, you
(30:18):
must start, and every startbegins with a decision.
You guys, take care, be safe,be kind to one another and we
will see you next time.
A lot of times, when you think about it,
you think that your dream isburied and your dream may
actually just be planted.
And when you talk about thedifference between being buried
and being planted, when you'replanted, it may take a while for
it to grow, and really that'swhat happened with me.
I mean, when you think about apecan tree a pecan tree a lot of
times, once it starts growing,it takes a while for the becomes
(00:22):
to actually come out, and thatwas really I felt like that was
the situation with me is that Iwas growing but I wasn't
flourishing yet.
Jennifer Loehding (00:33):
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All right, we are ready to bringour guest on the show.
So Anastasia Robinson is acorporate accounting manager who
has spent years simplifyingfinancial systems and training
professionals while quietlyholding space for a dream of her
own.
She's now the author of whoStole my Dream, a candid guide
that helps women make meaningfulchanges and reconnect with
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their purpose.
With humor, heart and a missionto empower mid-career women,
anastasia is turning her owntransformation into a platform
for others to rise.
So, anastasia, welcome to theshow.
We are so glad to have you heretoday.
Anastasia Robinson (03:47):
Thank you so much and thank you for that
introduction.
I appreciate it and I'm veryexcited for being here.
Jennifer Loehding (03:53):
Thank you, yeah, we have Well, and for our
guests.
They don't know this, but youknow, there's always so many
things that go on when we'retrying to put podcasts together
and, unfortunately, today wewere just having camera issues
and all kinds of things, and sowe had to switch platforms.
And Anastasia was so gracious.
I know she had to wait a fewminutes for us to work these
kinks out, but we are here andwe're excited that she's here so
we can talk about her story,what she's doing, and so,
(04:15):
anastasia, yes, this is going tobe great, and thank you again
for your patience.
Let's open this thing up.
I want to talk about yourjourney, because you've got this
book now.
What led to this creation, thisbirth of this project for you?
Anastasia Robinson (04:28):
Yes, so thank you, and you are right in
regards to the birth because,truthfully, this book who Stole
my Dream, it actually took over20 years to basically come to
fruition, because the dream forme was to write a book and over
(04:49):
this 20-year period I had beentalking about the book, I had
been taking classes in regardsto the book, I had been
attending workshops.
So I always had a dream towrite a book.
But at the same time, like mostpeople, you have a dream and
life gets in the way.
So in my situation, I wastelling people about writing the
(05:14):
book, but at the same time, Iwas always finding an excuse.
One of the main excuses I hadwas I never had enough time to
do it.
But at the same time I mean,when you think about it, there
are a lot of dreams that we haveand even just thinking about
the book in particular, one ofthe things is the reason I call
(05:38):
the book who Stole my Dream isthat I looked at my life and I
started looking at otherpeople's lives.
I mean, a lot of times we findourselves comparing our life to
other people and when I lookedat the life I was living,
sometimes I would see people,especially with my background
being in accounting, I would seepeople in higher leadership,
(06:02):
executive roles and I felt likethat's the role I should be in.
That person stole the dreamthat I should have had.
When I looked at people whowere married and with children,
I would say, okay, again, that'sthe spouse I should have, those
are the children I should have.
And so I found myself reallyjust almost being jealous of
(06:26):
people in the lives that theywere having, and I felt like
they were still in the dreamsthat I should have been having.
I mean, even to the extentwhere I felt that people I would
see, I would read books, and Isaid that's the book I should
have written, you know.
And it came to a point.
Really, what happened is, infact, I mean, this is the very
(06:50):
first chapter where someone wassaying they asked me, they said,
well, anastasia, is theresomething I could pray for you
about?
And I said I feel like I'm notgetting anything finished.
And basically, after 20 yearsof working on this book, I
wanted to get it finished.
And that particular day, thatSunday, we had a special speaker
(07:12):
that Sunday and basically shewas talking about finishing the
assignment and I knew that theassignment for me was to finish
writing the book and basically,since I have finished writing
this book, I've just seen thingsjust moving forward, because a
lot of times, even when we havecertain dreams, there may be one
(07:35):
assignment that you need tofinish in order for everything
else to happen.
I mean, a lot of times when youthink about it, you think that
your dream is buried and yourdream may actually just be
planted.
And when you talk about thedifference between being buried
and being planted, when you'replanted, it may take a while for
(07:58):
it to grow.
And really that's what happenedwith me.
I mean, when you think about apecan tree, a bacond tree, a lot
of times, once it startsgrowing, it takes a while for
the baconds to actually come out, and that was really I felt
like that was the situation withme is that I was growing but I
wasn't flourishing yet.
(08:20):
And now, now that I finishedthe book, it's like now, ok,
it's time to move, and that'swhat I'm feeling like.
Things are starting to happen,things are starting to change.
When you talk about especiallywhen you talk about people in
their dreams, people always haveexcuses for not reaching their
(08:42):
dreams not reaching their dreamsand, at the same time.
One of the things I wasthinking about is in regards to
we have dreams as we get older.
Especially as we get older,there are some dreams we've had
from the past that we think I'mtoo old to do it now.
There may be some dreams thatyou really need to do and again,
(09:04):
this may be part of theassignment that you have.
I mean, I use plenty of excuses.
When I was writing this book,one of the main excuses was I
don't have enough time because Iwas working all the time.
I was involved in a lot ofvolunteer organizations, so I
spent a lot of time with that.
So that was always.
(09:25):
My biggest excuse is I don'thave enough time.
Everybody has the same 24 hours.
It's true.
There's no changing at 24 hours, it just becomes.
How are you utilizing the 24hours that you have?
And there I mean even workingwith this book.
There were times where I had tostay up two o'clock, three
(09:46):
o'clock in the morning justgoing through finishing up
concepts, going through edits,because basically, once I got to
the mindset where I said, ok,this is going to happen and here
is when it's going to happen,then that's when things really
started to move.
Now, one of the things I endedup having to do, I mean, I did
(10:08):
get a mentor, I did have a bookcoach and I had some
accountability partners.
And those accountabilitypartners it was so funny about
them because they just came inand they said, okay, anastasia,
you said you're going to getthis done, we're going to have a
meeting with you.
And it was five of them yeah,they, they scheduled meetings
(10:31):
with me to hold me accountable.
And, and what's interesting isthat I had friends and I mean I
still have these friends whohave known me for over 20 years.
They could not be thoseaccountability partners for me,
because they actually got to thepoint where they were like,
okay, at some point you'll getit done, but I needed this new
(10:53):
group of accountability partners.
So then, also, I mean, when itcomes to dreams, we always think
about, okay, what is it that weneed to do?
What is it that we need tochange?
And, yes, reality when it comesto dreams, you do have to make
changes, and one of the thingsyou have to do is you have to
change your habits.
You also need to change the wayyou speak.
(11:14):
So and when I talk aboutspeaking, I'm talking about.
You need to make positivespeaks.
You know speak, speak positiveover your life, speak positivity
.
Don't always say, oh, I can'tdo this, stop saying that.
Jennifer Loehding (11:28):
Do you talk about this in the?
Is this in your book?
Is this you're talking about?
Is in the book?
Okay, yeah, yeah, no, I agreewith you and all of these.
I'm going to try whatever toconviction, I'm going to make it
(12:01):
happen.
That's when stuff happened andI don't know if I shared this
with you when I wrote my firstbook.
I've only well, I've done one.
I'm not I have no intentions ofdoing anymore right now.
But when I did my first book, Ihad gone into somebody's office
to talk to him about some otherbusiness.
And I remember at this timethis was before I had even
(12:24):
gotten on a podcast and I wastrying to get on one.
This was where I started myshow, trying to get on one.
But I remember I was kind of, Iwas talking to people, I should
write a book, I should write abook, I should write a book,
right, the words we say.
And I remember going into thisoffice and this guy was like you
need to write the book and youneed to get on this podcast.
And it was that day.
Like I can still see this, Iwalked outside of that office
building, I got in my car, Ipulled up my phone.
(12:44):
I pulled up, actually Facebookand I wrote on a post and said
I'm going to write a book.
And I did that.
Because that then became likeyou're talking accountability
partners.
That became accountability forme because I knew that if I put
that out into the universe, Iwas making accountability to
myself.
But not only that, other peoplewere going to witness the
accountability, right.
(13:04):
And so now people will be like,hey, how's the book coming
along, what are you doing withthe book?
And I think I even maybe saidask me when you see me, because
I wanted people to put me on thespot and be like Jennifer, what
are you doing with that book?
And we, and we did, we went to,I did finish it.
Five months later.
I did and it was, it was work,you know, I mean I, but I'm kind
(13:28):
of crazy like that.
Anastasia, I don't peoplelistening to this, you don't
need to do that.
Everything I've done in my lifeI do like that.
It's either like I'm on it fulland I just have to make those
decisions, and that clarity.
Anastasia Robinson (13:37):
But I think that the point here is that
clarity, right, that's what itis, however long it takes you to
do it, even with everythingelse moving you know, moving in
(14:01):
my career, doing everything elsethat I did, I always had that
dream of writing a book, andthat's part of the reality is
that there are other people whohave dreams that, over the years
, they just may have forgottenabout or even think do I really
want to do that?
Chances are you probably do, ifyou're still thinking about it,
(14:25):
but at the same time, that'swhat I'm doing in the book is
that I want you to really sitthere and think about some of
those things, some of thosehidden dreams that you've had
from the past that you may haveforgotten about, and at the same
(14:45):
time, you may say you know whatI really do want to do, that I
mean, I've known people who saidthey want to do public speaking
.
Okay, so do you still want todo it?
Have you forgotten about it?
What are you doing in regardsto moving towards it?
Yeah, so, so that's really whatI.
The way I wrote the book is.
(15:06):
I have sections ofself-reflection, because as I,
as I talk about myself and myjourney, I'm actually saying,
okay, here's some things that Idid.
I'm also giving examples ofother people as well, and then
I'm saying, okay, what are youdoing?
What do you need to do?
(15:26):
What are some of those dreams,what are some of those thoughts,
what are some of thosehindrances?
Because I think probably thebiggest thing I mean, besides
time and habits there's a lot ofthings that are hindering us
and sometimes some of it'sself-sabotage.
Jennifer Loehding (15:44):
I would say most of it is actually, I would
think, most of us.
It's our belief systems thatare.
This is the work I do, so Iknow that it's like the belief
systems are actuallycontributing to the patterns of
behavior and those are where theself-sabotage comes from.
So I would say yes most of thetime.
Anastasia Robinson (16:00):
Right, right .
I mean, let's just talk aboutweight.
A lot of people talk about okay, I want to lose weight, All
right, what are you doing?
And for me, one of my issueswas I love potato chips.
Jennifer Loehding (16:16):
It's the salty thing.
Huh the salt.
Anastasia Robinson (16:20):
But when I was self-sabotaging myself in
regards to weight loss bykeeping potato chips in the
house Right right, having it soconvenient for me and people
talk about, okay, you can starta habit.
It takes 21 days.
Well, 21 days is a good start.
Yeah, it's a good start.
(16:41):
It's a start, but, yes, it doestake more than 21 days.
Exactly, and one of the thingsthat I did do is I did a 21 day
fast from potato chips.
Ok, good for you.
Yeah, now, the first time, Idid it again, the very first
time, I did it.
Well, you're going to findsomething to substitute, right,
(17:02):
right, well, my substitution waschips.
Not, not very good.
It's not a good substitute.
Jennifer Loehding (17:11):
Well, you're honest, I love, I love the
honesty, anastasia, and that'swhat's important here is the
authenticity Right.
Anastasia Robinson (17:18):
so the second time I did a 21 day, yeah
, I took off potato chips andtortilla chips.
Okay, there you go.
Jennifer Loehding (17:26):
I like tortilla chips too, but I don't
eat very.
I don't.
I don't do carbs, so I don'teat a whole lot of that stuff
anymore.
But I'm with you, I could seethose.
I can totally see how tortillachips can be a yeah exactly.
Anastasia Robinson (17:38):
Oh right, so then after that, I did 21 days
and now I'm doing an additional40 days.
Oh so it's like this is a habit.
Yeah, again, it's like, okay,you have to start somewhere.
You do, you do.
And really, in regards tomaking change, in regards to
meeting, you know doing havingset goals in regards to meeting,
you know doing, having setgoals in regards to meeting your
(18:02):
dreams, whatever your dreamsmay be, you have to start
somewhere, and part of thereality is, you know when do you
start?
Well, someone said you startfive months, five years ago.
That's when you really shouldhave started.
Jennifer Loehding (18:16):
Yeah, I think you start when you make that
decision years ago.
That's when you really shouldhave started.
Anastasia Robinson (18:19):
Yeah, I think you start when you make
that decision Exactly, but thenext time is now.
Start now and even if you haveto start now every day, yeah.
Because you need to make adecision, that this is the dream
, this is what I want to do,this is how I need to do it,
even if you start making smallsteps, and some of those small
steps, and some of those smallsteps may be turning off the TV,
(18:40):
turning off the internet,sometimes using that time, using
quiet time.
I think people tend to forgetthe importance of having just
quiet time, because that quiettime really gives you time to
really think about some thingsthat you want to do, some
(19:00):
processes that you want to start, some changes that you need to
make in your life.
How is it in regards to time?
Where is it that there's sometime that you can make?
What changes that you need tomake in order to reach some of
those goals?
Jennifer Loehding (19:17):
Yeah, no, I'm with you on that.
I would love to know.
You said a lot of good thingsand I agree with you.
I wouldn't disagree with any ofthis stuff because this is the
work I do.
So I deal with this all thetime and I specifically I work
with female entrepreneurs onself-sabotaging, limiting
beliefs and self-sabotagingbehaviors, but I'm also funny
enough I'm also a keto trained,certified coach and a supplement
coach, and so I can do all thehealth stuff too.
(19:39):
But I want to know from you,like because there are things
you've learned in this.
You've talked a lot about them.
You've shared different thingshere.
Obviously, you've documentedthis in your book, but I would
love to know if you could sumthis up in a couple of words,
like what you've learned aboutyourself as a human being during
this process.
Anastasia Robinson (19:56):
Well, what I learned about myself is that I
actually can reach goals and itis possible, and really, I think
probably the biggest thing wasjust staying focused.
I think that's also importantand really, for me, that was
something that I was havingstruggles with as well.
It's just staying focused onspecific things that I wanted to
(20:18):
do and specific goals that Iwanted to reach, and I think,
again, that's somethingimportant in regards to just
moving forward with some of thegoals that you want.
That's one of the main things Ilearned is that I can't stay
focused.
Jennifer Loehding (20:32):
You can't stay focused.
That's what I was just going tosay, that you actually can see
Exactly, Exactly.
Anastasia Robinson (20:38):
Pat your seat on the back, can see
exactly, exactly, and I have thecapability of reaching specific
goals and I have the capabilityof writing a book and finishing
what I started.
Jennifer Loehding (20:51):
yeah, yeah, that's the thing.
You know what.
You know what I always say we,we do self-fulfilling prophecies
, right, like when we're.
When we so often, anastasia,like when I work with people
people will set like these wewere talking about weight right,
like you're talking aboutweight they will set these
really audacious goals andthey're great and they look
amazing and they do theaffirmations, but they're not in
(21:11):
their league, and what I meanby that is they're not going to
commit.
They're not going to commit tothat goal and a lot of times
there's a couple of things goingon One, probably the pain is
not bad enough that they want tomake the change.
Right, there's that.
Or the dream is in alignmentwith something else that they
want, like you were talkingearly on, somebody else's thing,
right, they want what somebodyelse has.
So they want that dream, right,and it's not really who they
(21:34):
are or necessarily in alignmentwith who they are.
So I think you know the bigmessage here is to set goals
that stretch you but aremeasurable and you can actually
commit and do them and then gowith that consistency, right.
And so you've said so manythings here, like we were
talking about habits and like Ialways talk about like
(21:55):
unconscious competent things,like driving your car and
brushing your teeth.
Those are unconscious competentthings.
Okay, you know how to do thembecause you've been doing them
for years.
Just like you learned how tospeak English, if you were in
another country, you would learnhow to speak a language and
that would become an unconsciouscompetent thing for you.
We try to take habits and youmentioned that 21 days and I
hate it when people say it'slike 30 days to a habit that is
(22:17):
not going to stick for the long.
It might stick temporarily, butyou're going to fall off the
wagon because in order to makechange that to make like
unconscious competent change,like I go to the gym, I work out
almost every single day.
I don't even negotiate theconversation, I just do it.
I've been doing it for so long.
It's not a conversation for me,right?
It wasn't always that way.
So go back to that.
(22:41):
How do we make that change?
It's doing those small littlethings that we can do repeatedly
that stretch us, but we can dothem and what happens is because
we set goals so big.
Where I was going with thisoriginally is that we set these
so big goals and then we fail,and then guess what happens.
We go oh well, yep, I nowproved to myself I can't do this
.
So you broke that pattern byfinishing the book and saying,
yes, I actually can stay focused, yes, I can actually write a
(23:02):
book and yes, I can actuallyreach my dream.
So that's what we want, andyou've shown people that, yes,
that can happen.
And that's the beautiful thing Ilove about this show is
everybody that comes on here.
We all have these.
We have something that we somemagical thing we wanted to
create or manifest, and thebeauty of this is that we get to
(23:27):
show the world every day that,yes, you can have a dream, yes,
you can finish it and you canwin at life, right Like you can.
So thank you for thank you forall of that.
It was awesome.
Anastasia Robinson (23:32):
Thank you and really, in regards to what
you just said, commitment youneed to be committed, and that's
actually one of the first pagesin my book is commit to finish
reading the book.
Jennifer Loehding (23:44):
Yeah, commit to finish reading.
Well, I love it.
You're telling your peoplefinish this book.
And here's a copy of the book.
Awesome, it's a little blurry.
Hold it back, maybe it's, Idon't know why.
It's like letting us see it.
Anastasia Robinson (23:56):
Oh, that's because of the it's the lighting
, yeah well, and and the fact Ihave the blur on that.
Jennifer Loehding (24:02):
Oh, maybe that's it.
Well, we've got we in the shownotes, we'll probably have it in
there anyways, and we'll makesure we tag you all the good
things.
So where do they go to find it?
Anastasia, where is it at?
Is it on?
You have a website, or is it onit amazon?
Anastasia Robinson (24:13):
yes, it's on amazon and you can go to the
website whostolemydreamcom.
Jennifer Loehding (24:20):
Okay, awesome , perfect.
I want to ask you kind of a funquestion.
This is something like totallynot about the book, but it goes
in line with us talking abouthabits and all of that thing,
all of those things, because youare obviously you're an
accountant, which means you'redetailed, and I told you I
studied accounting, so I get it,I get the total accounting
thing, and my mother was anaccountant, had a bookkeeping
service for years when I was akid.
(24:40):
That's why I said I wanted tobe an accountant and then I
shared with you.
I got to the tax law and I waslike you know what?
I don't want to memorize thisstuff, I just wanted to do math.
That's all we got to have to dotoo much.
Now, no more, no more.
So, anyways, but I would loveto know, like, what is the one
thing that you do every day foryourself?
That is like the most importantmorning thing, like when you
get up, and this is like mything, that sets my day.
Anastasia Robinson (25:03):
All right.
So the most important thing Iget up, I have prayer and
devotion time and I actuallylisten to an inspiration,
inspirational message.
It's really about three, three,four minutes.
I listen to that every day.
Good for you.
I love it.
And that's three, three, fourminutes.
I listen to that every day,good for you.
I love it and that's whatthat's my day.
Jennifer Loehding (25:24):
That's what people should do, that honestly.
Right, because I do that too.
You know, I I don't know if Ishared I used to like when I'd
write off.
I did a workshop last, I guessFriday before, and I was telling
the group how like I used totake my notes I would.
I'm a big to-do list person.
I love I just like to be ableto check things off and say I
did stuff.
And I love highlighters andSharpies.
Right now I'm using Sharpiesall over my paper.
(25:46):
I love it, but I would write onthe top of my paper something
amazing is going to happen todayand I would.
And it's kind of like that samething, like you're filling your
head with that positive, youknow stuff.
Now I do different things.
I have a mantra that I say andI use it a lot, like when I'm in
a um, if I'm finding myselfkind of chasing bad thinking, I
call it bad brain thinking whereI'm going down a rabbit hole of
(26:07):
thinking negative thoughts orthinking bad things are
happening.
I interrupt it with the mantraand it's I used to say it on my
show and I love I did it.
I was doing it yesterday becauseI was having anxiety we're
going to be leaving town and I'mlike having all this crazy
anxiety, and so I'm like where'sthat mantra Today is a great
day to be brave.
You might as well start now.
You have the power to changeyour circumstances any day you
decide.
Like that is what I do, youknow.
(26:28):
And so I think all these littleroutines and hacks that we do
are so important to keep usgrounded and help set the mood
for us for the day.
Upset the mood for us for theday.
Anastasia Robinson (26:38):
I think, so that really does help, it does,
it does.
Jennifer Loehding (26:45):
Awesome.
Well, this is awesome.
I want to ask you one lastthing, and we're going to wrap
this up because I know this isgoing to be a fun question for
you.
So if you were to have oh, Idon't want to say this, I'm not
going to say this part, but whatI do want to ask you is this
what would you tell your youngerself if you could say something
now?
I would tell my younger self.
Anastasia Robinson (26:59):
If you could say something now, I would tell
my younger self just keep going, just keep going, write the
book Exactly.
You will get there.
You will get there, keep going,it's going to work out.
I think that's probably thebiggest thing I would say is it
is going to work out.
Jennifer Loehding (27:21):
Isn't that funny?
Isn't it funny how, like you,you know, because I feel like
I'm in my 50s now and it's soweird because I think about
things differently now,obviously, than I did when I was
younger, and I'm like some ofthe things that I used to just
get so bent out of shape about,I'm like like no, like even like
arguing with somebody, like I'mjust not going to argue with
you, I don't have the energy todo this, I'm not going to do it,
like this is not worth my peaceand sanity, like I'm peacing
(27:44):
out on you, you know.
So I think wisdom, wisdom isgood, right, but I love this
that you said keep going,because I think that's an
important message for anybodyright now that whether they're
younger or whether they're, youknow, mature and they're looking
to start a dream.
I don't think you're reallyever too old to start something,
unless you decide at 85 to gobungee jump.
Maybe that's not a good idea, Idon't know, check with your
(28:06):
doctor.
But you know, within reason, Ithink most things we can do and
it doesn't matter, you know, aslong as it doesn't harm us in
any way that we should set oursights on and if we got our eye
on it.
Do it it right.
Anastasia Robinson (28:19):
So don't bungee jump in, though, if
you're not meant to do that butI mean, I think about when you
say that, think about ColonelSanders, oh yeah, right, right,
and the fact that he started hisbusiness at the age I mean he
was pretty older, I'll just sayolder and but when he started,
so yeah, there's.
Jennifer Loehding (28:38):
I don't think you're ever.
I think it's really.
You know, if you are physicallyequipped to do it and you have
the heart and the passion for it, then you know, go for it as
long as it's not harming you oranybody else, right?
And that's what the big thing isyou make good choices.
We want to say this on thisshow make good choices, right, I
got to put the disclaimer outthere.
I don't want anybody to go tellme they're going and doing
(29:00):
something crazy because theylisten to this show.
They're like Jennifer said godo something.
But no, I didn't say that it'sa do anything crazy.
I said you got to be a littlecrazy, you know bold to get
things done.
But you know, again, safety isimportant, right?
Anastasia Robinson (29:12):
Right, right .
But you're right in regards tothe boldness you do At some
point, you have to be bold aboutmaking a decision in order to
move forward.
Jennifer Loehding (29:21):
Well, anastasia, I want to say
congratulations to you onwrapping up your book.
I know that's a huge thing.
I know because I've done one.
I know all the stuff.
I know the.
I don't ever like to say I knowhow you feel, but I know all
the things you got to go throughto make that stuff happen.
You know, and so yay for youfor doing it.
However long it took you to doit, you did it, you got it done,
and that's all that matters.
That's everything, everythingthere, and so we appreciate you
(29:45):
and thank you for sharing all ofyour knowledge and telling us a
little bit about it.
It was fun.
Anastasia Robinson (29:49):
Thank you, thank you, thank you so much and
thank you for having me on theshow.
I appreciate it so much.
Jennifer Loehding (29:56):
Yeah.
And so, of course, to ouraudience we have to always say
the plug-ins.
Here we want to say weappreciate you and we hope you
found this episode bothinspiring and informative and
again, make good choices rightand do all the things like share
, comment, give us some feedbackso that we can keep sharing all
of these stories and all of thefabulous content.
And, as I always say, in orderto live the extraordinary, you
(30:18):
must start, and every startbegins with a decision.
You guys, take care, be safe,be kind to one another and we
will see you next time.
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