"I can't remember anything, I feel like i'm getting dementia!"

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I had a friend tell me that she feels like she’s getting dementia because she can’t remember anything is that you? 

Are you forgetting all the things you have to do during the day?

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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hey guys, how are you?
I was just talking to a friendtoday and I've actually heard it
from a few girlfriends now thatwe're in our 40s or some 50s.
that they're saying that they'reforgetful.
And she was saying, oh my gosh,I feel like I have dementia.
I'm just, I can't rememberthings.
And I'm so fortunate that I havesolved that problem.

(00:25):
Well, not thanks to me, butthanks to Brooke Castillo when
she introduced us to how tomanage your time and your week.
This is what I took away fromit.
The way she suggests to do it isa little bit different, but this
is how I kind of adapted it tomy life so here's what I do I

(00:47):
have two ongoing lists on myphone and the girlfriend that I
was talking to still does it onpaper and I have another
girlfriend that also does it onpaper and I love paper and I
used to do it on paper papercalendar paper everything it's
just not practical in our dailylives now because I believe
we're on the go so much with ourkids, driving them around

(01:10):
everywhere and busy that it'sjust so much easier with the
phone.
So the two lists that I havegoing, one of them is a grocery
list, which is on the app calledAnyList, which I love because I
can actually share with myhusband and he adds things to it
all the time.
And you can create...
many different lists in therelike we have a list of

(01:32):
restaurants we want to visit wehave a list uh a grocery list we
have a list of um costco listsor christmas lists whatever
anything you want to create wecan share it we can add it and
so we have that and so anytime irun out of something or i'm down
to one item i instantly go intothe app and i add the thing

(01:54):
that's that needs to be bought.
So the list is constantly beingedited.
So I never have to wonder whatit is that I need to buy, which
is so freeing because I don'thave to think and go through the
fridge and to the pantry.
And I just added like as I go.
So that's really freeing becauseI never have to remember what it

(02:15):
is that I need.
I just look at the list and Ibuy it.
If it's not on the list, I willnot remember it.
And here's why.
And this is what Brooke helpedme understand is because our
brain is not meant to storeinformation.
It is meant to processinformation, right?
That's why we're so good atthinking about things and

(02:35):
analyzing them and researchingthem and doing all this
processing.
But storing, we just get so badat it, right?
With age, we just can't storeall these different little
things all the time, every day,adding, adding, adding, adding.
So That's why I store it on myphone so that my brain and I

(02:57):
never have to worry that I willforget something because it's on
my list.
So the other list I have goingis actually more helpful to me
than the grocery list.
And I do it in my notes.
So, you know, the phone hasnotes like a section notes to
it.
And I have that going as anongoing to do list.

(03:19):
And I love it because I can setit up as a.
like with little bullet pointswhere I can check them off.
Like once I've done it, I can gocheck and it checks it off as if
I've done it.
And once it gets too long andI've done all the things, I just
delete all the things that I'vedone and I just leave all the
new things.
So also super duper helpfulbecause I can update it anytime.

(03:43):
So as soon as I remember thatsomething needs to be done,
whether it's super important,high priority or super low
priority, It gets added to thelist, and then I get this
freedom of peace of mind ofworrying.
Am I going to forget it?
Did I remember it?

(04:05):
Is it going to get done?
There's no worry.
There's no panic, and I'm notafraid because I know as soon as
it's on the list, it's going toget done.
So the list, whenever I havesomething I added to the list,
Then every day, and I even callthis list my work today.

(04:25):
So that includes my podcast, mykids, my paperwork, my home
office, my, even sometimesgroceries, like whatever comes
into my head, I don't attempt tostore it.
I just write it on the list.
So then every day I have a kindof a, you know, triage system
where I look at the list and Ievaluate, okay, what's, And it's

(04:50):
not that long of a list thattakes a lot of time to scan
through it.
So I just go through it and Idecide, okay, what's more
important?
What's less important?
What will take the most time?
Sometimes I do the thing that Iwant to do the least.

(05:10):
Because I just dread it so much.
I'm just like, want to get itover with.
And then it's just so much morefun to do things afterwards,
because I feel so accomplishedafter I've done the thing that I
don't want to do the most.
Then then I feel so on a rollthat I just keep on getting
things done.
And I love checking them off thelist.

(05:32):
And I feel so accomplished.
And remember, in my otherepisodes, I did tell you about
this, I'm pretty sure, that I doadd to the list rest.
I add it to the list rest.
I add it to the list lunch.
I add...
coffee to the list because it isimportant to me and I feel like

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I need to make space for it inmy day because if I don't put it
on the list, I feel like Ihaven't honored something that's
important to me.
So that list reflects what'simportant to me and what's not
important.
And that is how I have fullfreedom from worry.

(06:17):
I have peace of mind.
I have such a peaceful mind thatI don't think I have dementia.
I don't think, and I also don'texpect myself to remember all
these things.
And actually the girlfriend Iwas talking to, I said, well,
how do you like, what do you doright now for your organizing?
And she said, I have a paper athome.
And I, and I said, well, whatabout when you're out and about?

(06:40):
Like, what do you do?
She says, well, uh, stickynotes.
And I, that's just too muchwork.
to carry.
And I tried that.
I thought, you know, I triedhaving like a notebook or it
just doesn't seem practical tome.
Even though I love paper, I lovewriting things on paper.
So what are you doing right nowfor your organization?

(07:03):
The way Brooke...
Castillo suggests to do it theway she does it is doing that
once a week you do a brain dumpof what you need to do the whole
thing like everything and you dothat as long as you keep have
something else to add you keepwriting things down and then you

(07:23):
ask yourself what else then youask yourself what else so you
write everything down then onceyou have everything done then
you put it into your calendarand And you decide how long each
thing is going to take you.
And then once it's in thecalendar, the list goes in the
garbage because you are honoringyour calendar.

(07:45):
You will get everything done.
So then the list does not needto exist anymore because it's in
your calendar.
It's going to get done.
So that didn't work for me thatwell because I found that I had
constantly things being added tomy list.
All the time.
And so I felt like I couldn't, Ineeded either to remember like

(08:07):
I, this is how I developed myown system of updating list.
And I do it more on a dailybasis.
But I did kind of adapt what shesuggested.
And I loved that she taught methat our brain is not supposed
to store information, then Ifeel free and I don't feel like
I have dementia.

(08:28):
I feel like my brain'sfunctioning really well and I
don't have to remembereverything.
Whatever I need to know, I wouldknow.
And my list is there to help me.
My calendar is there to help me.
So that one I'm really gratefulfor.
And I actually taught mygirlfriend that and she loves
that because we do forgetthings.

(08:49):
And especially on this side of40s, The lists are great.
I love my list.
So I thought of sharing thiswith you because of my
conversation with my girlfriend.
And I'm hoping this will behelpful to you.
I would love to hear what do youdo right now for your
organizing, for your timetable,for your schedule.

(09:11):
How do you remember everythingyou have to do?
I would love to hear some tipsthat you do or some some things
that have worked for you.
I would love to hear that.
I'm sure everyone else would aswell.
So leave a comment and thatwould be very helpful.
All right, guys, have a greatday and I love you and I'll see
you soon.