June 25, 2023 • 55 mins
LaQuita Monley is a certified coach, teacher, trainer, and speaker with The John Maxwell Team. Her passion lies in empowering individuals, organizations, and ministries to unlock their full potential and live out their mission in the most authentic way. With a focus on transformational initiatives as empowerment tools, LaQuita uses her experience as a serial entrepreneur, international speaker, and minister to help others develop the right mindset for personal development and business growth. As a sought-out keynote speaker in the United States and abroad, LaQuita challenges others to transform their thinking to revolutionize their spheres of influence. Leaders and entrepreneurs tune into her live broadcast, La’Quita’s Toolbox Live, and podcast, La’Quita’s Toolbox, for inspiration and implementable action steps to realize their full potential. Through her work, LaQuita proves that with the right tools and mindset, anyone can become the best version of themselves. #transformationalcoaching #personaldevelopment #businessgrowth #leadership #entrepreneurship #mindset #keynotespeaker #empowerment #JohnMaxwellTeam #podcast #livebroadcast #authenticity #motivation #inspiration #actionsteps #successmindset
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And welcome to another live episode.
I am your host, Wize, and I have a very special
guest. She's a coach, fellow podcaster producer.
Welcome to the show, Laquita Monole. Thank
you so much for having me. I'm excited to be here today. Oh, the pleasure
is on mine. Pleasure is on mine. So let's just jump right into
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this. All right, so what inspired you to become a coach and
speaker? It was actually a
transition from ministry. For many years,
I have been full time ministry, traveling
across the states, and the Lord blessed for
me to be able to travel in Europe and Africa in different places.
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Ministry. Well, like most people, 2020 had an impact
on that. It had a major impact on that. And so
by sitting and thinking, okay, what can I do? And how can pivot?
Pivot was the big word. And in that pivot,
I transitioned and partnered with the John Maxwell
team, became certified through John
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Maxwell's company. And I have been
enjoying the speaking and coaching space, which for me is
not really different from what I was already doing. Now I just do it outside
of the four walls of the church. Okay, so
you mentioned the John Maxwell team. What led
you to that team? What about them made you want to be
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like, hey, this is who I want to learn from and get certified
from? But like most people,
I wanted to pivot. I wanted to do something that was
already in alignment with my purpose. And so
for me, the big thing was because I have been
doing the speaking and ministering just
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exclusively within the church community, I wanted to know how
to make that clean transition. I'm not ministering,
I'm still doing that. But I wanted to know how to effectively take
my message and craft it in a way that it would be
applicable to anyone no matter what their faith system is or if they
don't have a faith system. And John Maxwell is one of the
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leading people in that industry. Most people
know him, and they know. That he used to be a pastor.
But his principles and his leadership principles,
they carry across every walk of life. And so
to me, that was just the ideal choice.
Okay, so how do you define
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transformational coaching? Great question. Thanks for
asking. So my definition of transformational coach
is this when I'm speaking with a client or a potential
client, it is my ability to connect
with an individual to help them understand where they
are and where they want to be and work with them to create a
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roadmap to get to that next best version of themselves.
Awesome. So
what do you think are keys for someone to
unlocking their full potential? The number one
key to unlocking your full potential is you have to understand who you
are. You have to understand your identity. And when I say
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identity, I mean who you are as an individual
at your core. Understanding your core values is
very important, because if I don't know who I am,
then how will I possibly be able to connect fully
with the purpose and the plan for my life? Like the thing that I
was created to do? How will I do that? I'm
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not saying that you won't have success prior to having that moment
in your life, you will have success. But it'll be like, man, I'm always
chasing, I'm always grinding, I'm always doing, looking for the next thing, the
next thing, because I have this empty space in me. But when you lock
in on who you are, you'll still seek after the multiple strings of
income, but you'll be solid in your identity,
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and everything that you do moving forward will be in alignment with
that. You won't be tossed, hither thither and everywhere.
That was something that
I didn't have my purpose. And like a lot of people,
when 2020 hit, it kind of
shifted what I was doing and it actually showed
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me what my purpose was and
started doing podcasting because I named this stuck in my mind
because I was stuck in my head for such a long time with wanting to
start the podcast, then making up all types of excuses like, oh,
I'm a suck. People don't want to hear me, my voice is horrible, and all
these different things. And it was just me being stuck
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making excuses, not wanting to step out of my comfort zone,
not willing to make myself uncomfortable and do something that I normally
don't do. And so when I finally decided to press record
and upload it and release it, it was like this big
weight was lifted off me. Yeah. And I
found that, hey, I'm pretty good at this. I enjoy doing this.
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I love speaking to people.
I have a lot of questions to ask. And
so it's helped me grow and
develop personally, being able to do my show,
because I get to speak to wonderful people like yourself and get to learn
in the process. I
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figured, hey, my purpose is to create content where people can learn and
grow, and at the same time, I'm learning and growing.
Yes. I
don't want to minimize the devastation of 2020 in any way because it
was absolutely devastating globally. But at the
same time, 2020 set a lot of people
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free from being stuck in their mind. It
set a lot of people free, and it has caused a lot
of people to tap into and understand for the first time
who they are, what they're created to do. It gave them the courage
and the time to start
seeking out and doing the things that they really love, because
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we are here in these streets adulting. And when you're adulting, you do what you
have to do in order to make the bills pay, right? But for the first
time, people had the time necessary in
their day to go back and said, you know what on the inside of me,
I really want to do that podcast. I really want to write that book. I
really love cooking, and all I really want to do is have my own
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little spot, my little mom and pop spot, and serve some meals and
whatever. People started doing that. And 2020 created some
people that became debt free. They became
wealthy, but most importantly, they connected with who they
really are, and they became free in their mind. And that's a beautiful
thing. That is a beautiful thing. And when you mentioned wealthy,
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it doesn't necessarily mean that they were making
a lot of money, right? Because
wealth means so much more to
different people and there's different things. Yes, you're wealthy
when you're healthy.
It's allowed me.
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To.
Start setting myself up for the future, and
it's allowed me to really find,
discover what my purpose was. Because I was 40 something years old,
didn't have a clue of what I wanted to do with my life, right?
Didn't have a clue, didn't have a purpose, didn't know what I wanted.
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And when I was able to finally start talking
and communicating with people and releasing
my episodes and it took time for it to grow and
everything, but it was the response that
I would get for certain people when I had certain guests on, like, oh, I
needed to hear that episode, or I needed that episode. Yeah. It
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was those moments that really made me feel really good
inside. It wasn't me worrying about getting
monetized. It was the fact that I was impacting people's lives. That's
it. And so when I was able to see that part of it,
it changed the game for me. It's like, this is what I want to do.
Being able to impact people, to show
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them that there's more to this than just going to
work, working a nine to five and not
living your life, not being able to do what you're
meant to do in this world. For sure.
One of my favorite things to say is,
in our life, we have to consistently
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refine and redefine our definition of success. It
has to grow as we grow. And that is so true. How we
define success, how we define wealth. I'm sitting here having this conversation with you
today. 46 year old woman, married 26
plus years, got five kids, six grandkids. You ask this
woman what success means, what wealth means,
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and my answer will be completely different than
the 18 year old me, the 25 year old me, even the 35 year
old me, if I'm just being real. That
definition has to change and grow as we do. And when you tap into
your identity and you understand your purpose,
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your top ten definition, your top ten things,
that what success looks like or what wealth looks like. Money probably not
even in it, to be honest. It's not in it. Like, for me, it's owning
my time. Owning my time. There's
nothing that brings more joy to my heart than
in our backyard. I planted a garden
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with my grandkids. Now, they don't like gardening. They like
dirt, because the oldest one is six.
But having them to come out there and spend time with
me, doing that and then watching them pick strawberries
as they ripen, just different things. Oh, man, that's joy. That's wealth.
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It is. That's success. Some of my favorite moments
are with my grandson, is being able to spend time with my grandson
and to hang out with him and
just enjoying that precious time that you have with
them. And that's exactly what key is.
Time is the most important thing, because you never get that back
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for sure. So that was one of the reasons when I dedicated myself to
doing the podcast, I made sure that I invested
in myself, made sure that I took courses on editing, took
courses on how to audio, video, invested
in equipment, because people were giving me something very
precious, which is their time, and they're tuning in and
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listening. And I felt like, okay, so
I need to make sure that my quality is on point. I need to make
sure my audio is on point so that
they can hear me clearly, make sure the
message is delivered properly.
Like I said, this is something they're giving me, something very precious.
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Yeah, time is it. Time is critical.
We can make more money, but we cannot recreate time.
We cannot go back in time. And what I do with my
time now and how I choose to spend my time,
that's my top ten. That is the premier
definition of success for me, that I get to control and
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dictate how I spend my time and to whom I give my time
to. Time is it
because we can't get it back. We cannot get it back. Where we invest
it, who we spend. It with is precious. And a
younger version of myself or the version of myself that was
not in tune with who I am wouldn't
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have said that. Yeah, it wouldn't have said that. And that's a conversation that I
have often with my clients, a lot of my
clients in coaching. And even when I'm invited out to
speak, that's the big thing. People
are more in tune now with the importance of
that, with the importance of knowing their identity, pursuing their
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purpose. Yes, we all want to chase the bag. You want to make
the money. You want to set up generational wealth. You want to train
your children and your grandchildren and give them the skills necessary
so they can maintain that wealth. As you're accumulating it.
But they know that all of that. The first thing we have to
do is I need to understand who I am so that I can
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make sure I'm doing this thing the right way in a way that I will
consistently keep up with. Yeah.
So what role do you see mindset playing in personal and business
growth? It's everything.
It's everything. It's everything. Having the right
mindset is critical. When we don't have
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the right mindset, we won't be able
to reach our desired results. If we don't have the right
mindset, we won't even know what those desired results are. Let's just be real.
Having a growth mindset, being open to change, being
open to learning, being open to growing, being open to be
self aware is necessary. Having a closed
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mindset, having a closed mindset will keep you broken, broken.
It'll definitely keep you broken. Broken. Having an open mindset, a growth
mindset. Oh, that's everything for sure. You
can take nothing and turn it into something when you have
a growth mindset, because with that growth mindset, you realize
that there's truly never nothing. Nothing
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doesn't really exist in my space. My idea
is something. If all I have is an idea and a dream and I
have a growth mindset, I can turn that idea. I could turn that
dream into a reality. But if I have a closed
mindset, that idea and that dream will lead me to a place of
frustration, and I won't do anything with it and then get
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upset when I see other people doing it.
So how do you help your clients develop a
success mindset? I start off number one
with going through a personality evaluation
with them through the John Maxwell team. Not only was I certified to be
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a speaker and coach, but I also became certified in the
Maxwell method of disc. And many people use
disk in many forms. And with this disc
assessment, once my client has taken that,
we have a session or two where we look at their
complete assessment results. Not only it
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tells them about the three versions of themselves, who they
truly are, who they think people see
them, and how people actually see them, and
we work on those. It talks about their communication styles,
what their natural communication style is, and it also
shows them what their polar opposites are like. These
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are the communication styles that you get
along with these people really well. It's effortless, these communication
styles. You would wish you just really never had to deal with them ever
in life. But guess what? You do. So we work
through that, and it's amazing that in that assessment,
people learn so much about themselves, like,
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they've never realized, oh, that's why I'm like this, and that's why I'm like
that. Especially if they're married, because we tend to marry a polar
opposite. That's why my husband or my
wife is like this. It becomes really liberating and really fringing.
And we begin to develop a personal development plan
based on the results of that assessment. And as we work through,
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depending upon how long the client has
partnered with me for through those sessions, is how we really begin
to work on, all right, this is who you are. What are your core
values, what do you want to be, what do you want to do? So on
and so forth. Okay,
so how do you stay
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motivated and inspired in your work?
Because it's in alignment with who I am. Okay. It's already in
alignment with who I am. It's what I believe
God has created me to do. Having already been
a speaker or coach, if you will, as a minister, my
whole job was to speak to people and to share with
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people. And for
me, ministering, and speaking to people within the four walls
of the church, I directly dealt with identity. This
is who God is, and this is who God's word says that you
are. I don't care where you are in your life right now, what you've done,
what you haven't done. If you're in this room today, this is the
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message that God has for you. So I just transitioned that
into a more intimate setting with being able to speak one on one
or in a corporate setting, being able to speak to different
teams about their identity. Because even in a corporate setting,
it is very important that people understand who they are and the
roles that they've been given to play and why it's important to push the vision
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of the company forward. So I stay motivated because I believe it's what
God's called me to do.
I agree with that. Yeah.
Being able to knowing your purpose
and knowing what you're here to do,
it's motivation in itself. It's like, okay, this is
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what I'm supposed to do. I'm supposed to have these conversations. I'm supposed to interview
these people and have them share their message, because there's people out there like
myself that don't know these things, they don't know
about, that they can
create a better life in themselves. It takes
you switching from a fixed mindset to
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a growth mindset. But
one of the things, like we talked about, 2020, I
fail. If you didn't take 2020 and took advantage of it
and started developing yourself and
growing as a person during that time, especially
since you had all that time. Yeah.
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That's serious. That's a problem. I agree.
Dollars.
I got furloughed from work, and I was getting extra money. And what I did
with that money was invested in myself. I took courses,
I invested in equipment. But it was because I wanted
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to improve. I wanted to be better at podcasting. I wanted to
be better at interviewing people. So I had to take courses because I
wasn't in this medium. This wasn't my field. Yeah, you
had to invest in you. Yeah, because if I wanted to
improve, I had to make sure that let me get the
right teachings. There's
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so many different courses I took. There's so many different coaches that I've been learning
from. I've attracted the people that I've needed in
my life. Yes. Come on now. Yes. People that
I know that I need to help me get to the next level.
I've attracted those people in my lives and now they're here helping me grow and
develop my skills. Yeah. Isn't amazing how that happens
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is
when we get that courage to bet on ourselves, when
we get that courage to say, okay, this is what
I want to do. Let me invest the time
and the resources. Whatever your resources are, let me invest the time and the
resources to be the best version of me possible. And
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it doesn't matter whether we're podcasting, writing
books, doing live streams. I don't mean you could be
making paper machete dolls. It don't matter if that's what you want to do.
And you bet on yourself and you invest in you, and you begin to move
in the direction of your desired result, the resources that
you need will come to you. And the crazy thing
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is, as they come to you, yes, some of them will require a
monetary investment, but oftentimes I found
that the most successful people in the fields that I desire to
grow in, they're all about volunteering their time with
mentorship and just feeding you what you need to grow. All you have
to do is show a willingness to want to get it. If you're showing that
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willingness to want to get it, are they happy to feed you? They're happy to
tap in and plug into you and drop a tool here or drop a tool
there that will help you grow. But it's all about us preparing
ourselves and having a growth mindset and not that
fixed mindset so that we can receive.
Like I said before, when you have a fixed mindset,
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you'll be in those spaces, and instead of appreciating
the gems that the people are giving you, you'll be offended by them
or you'll be too afraid. You'll come up with all kind of
excuses as to why you shouldn't be in this space
or these people are stuck up, these people are boozy. Oh, I don't know enough
to be here. Why am I sitting here? And the whole time and
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you're supposed. To be there, you're supposed to sit there and
absorb all that. One of the things they talk about
is if you're the smartest person in. The room, you're in the wrong
room.
I sit back and I observe and
I want to learn. I'm eager to learn. And that's why
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it's easy for me to do what I do because
I'm coachable. I'm open to people trying to teach me stuff
because I know I don't know everything, right?
No. And that's the best way to be. Like, I played sports in
high school. Let
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me just say this. When we were in high school, things were we bit different
than what they are now.
Let me say, in the generation that I came up in,
I played basketball and I ran track. It did not matter
how many handles the girl had. It didn't
matter how well she was down in the paint. It didn't
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matter if she wasn't coachable. You spent a lot of time
on the bench until you became coachable. You spent a lot of time on the
bench. You spent a lot of time running. Yeah. And you were going to
do one or two things. You were either going to be coachable or you were
going to leave the team. Either way, it was better for the team environment.
So you had to be coachable. If you were coachable,
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even if your. Skill set wasn't as great as the Phenome,
if the phenome wasn't coachable, the coach wasn't having it. But if you were
coachable, they were. Ready to train you to be the
best basketball player you could be. Because back
then we said, you got heart. If that kid got heart, right. If that kid
got heart is coachable, you got the time for them, you're going to spend the
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time with them. I don't see that that principle has
changed in different aspects of
life. No.
People talk about talent. There's people that got talent and then there's people that
just hard workers. I think I
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prefer the hard workers that are
willing to grow and develop and make themselves better
than the person who just has talent and just coasters. On their talent
all day, every day, all day, every day,
all day, every day. Because I'm not going to say that it
doesn't happen. But people who
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have that natural talent and that natural gift and that natural ability to do whatever
they're doing, sometimes it's really hard for them to get
to a place of humility and to be teachable and coachable
someone who has to work their butt off. And it's a skill that they've
determined that they're going to learn. They're open to
whatever. Like, they're open to your wisdom. They're open to your
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advice. They're open to your mentorship and your coaching. People who just have
that natural net, it might take a little work
for them to understand what humility means.
You're absolutely right. Some people need to be humbled and they just
yeah.
I tell for a while. Me and my husband had an AAU
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basketball team here in the city, and we had some great
guys, and it got into it because our youngest loved basketball had
some great guys. And this was
shortly before Kobe Bryant passed away, and all they could see was the
phenome of Kobe Bryant, just the phenomenon of Kobe Bryant.
And we would share stories. Like when he first came
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on, he was phenomenal. What a lot of people loved, they hated.
And it wasn't because of his skills. Because he had a nasty attitude. He had
to go through a few. Things to get humble, to learn
what true humility was before he became America's
favorite basketball player at his time,
having that natural skill set, it can hurt you if you're not
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coachable. You got to be coachable. But the thing with Kobe,
he had the natural ability, but he also had the drive he
did. He was also in the gym costume. You got to be willing to do
the work. He put in the work. Yeah, put in the work to
make himself one of the greatest of all time, for sure.
He's one prime example of someone who has talent, but also had
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that work ethic. He had that dog in him where he went and grinded
and did other players his age were out
clubbing and partying, and he was in the gym for
sure. In the morning, in the gym for sure. Improving
his craft for sure. And that's something that
we have to do. I don't care what it is that you
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want to do in your life. Like you were saying, you took the classes
during 2020. Anybody that did not, I really 100%
agree with you. If you did not take 2020 to
improve yourself, shame on you.
Shame on you. And you're still sitting here in
2023 talking about, I wish I would have, could have
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that was time to maximize because literally, nobody could tell
you you couldn't. Literally, no one
could tell you you couldn't. And even in terms of
and it's no shade, no tea with what I'm about to say. But
our regular workers, service workers, fast food workers,
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people that just honestly don't they work extremely hard,
but they're not making the money that they deserve for the amount
of work that they do. For the first time, they were
blessed with some off time, and they were making more money
because what the government was giving them at that time,
unemployment, was more than what they were getting while they were working.
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That was a pay increase, and you got the time. You should have invested it
in yourself. So that when all that was wrapped
up and done, you either had a side hustle that was
already working and doing when you went back
to your job or you had took that side hustle and made it your dream
job, like your dream thing that you wanted to do. There's a
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lady opened up a little cafe
right by my house. She worked at a call center.
Call center shut down. So sister having no job, single
parent. She loved cooking. So she was cooking, making plates, selling
them on Facebook. When things started to open up, I went into her spot,
because I knew when it closed with nothing in that spot. And me and her
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had the conversation, and she just blew my mind with what she said. She
downloaded every delivery app on her phone
while she make the food the night before in between
delivering groceries or GrubHubbing or Uber
eats or whatever she was doing when people would hit her up on her
Facebook and DM and whatever meal she had prepared
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for the day she'd had go by. Grab that meal, deliver the
meal to the people, and then deliver the groceries to the people.
SIS made enough money in 2020, after the
lockdown for running a couple of months like that to open up
her own spot. And she's won an award from
the Chamber of Commerce here in the city as one of the best new spots
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in town. That was in 2020, when everything was locked down from a single
parent downloading the app. And she always wanted a
restaurant, and she got one, because for the first time, she wasn't locked up
in that call center all day, every day. She had the time to do what.
She wanted to do. We have to maximize that. Absolutely.
And I feel a lot of people did maximize on that. A lot of people
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did take advantage, because a lot of people call it the great resignation,
because a lot of people decided to go the entrepreneur route and start
businesses. And some of them have been successful at what they're doing.
It's been a blessing. I
lost a few friends and family to COVID and everything,
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but at the same time,
I was able to adapt
and go with the time and take
advantage of like you said, we were earning more money. I was
earning way more money than I did at my job, and I made pretty good
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money. So what I did again, I could
have easily went and spent and bought everything, bought clothing
on Amazon, sneakers, you name it. But
that's not what I wanted, right? I wanted to,
like I said, improve. So I took coaching courses. I took
editing courses. It was just me taking that
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time, that time, and just investing that time
into something that I knew was
something I felt was very important to me.
Yeah. And that's the key.
What you did in 2020 and what I did and millions of
other people around the world, what they did, what we all did during that time,
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to improve ourselves and to pivot and
open up ourselves to entrepreneurship and growth
opportunities, and even some people who was like, okay, I don't want to be an
entrepreneur. I'm cool in my job. I just want
to be able to fast track and get upward mobility. They had the
time for the first time to take the courses and the classes and the.
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Certifications that they needed to qualify for that
next promotion. If you didn't take the time to work on yourself
in 2000 and 22,021.
I don't know what to tell you. There is no magic answer outside
of you have to be willing to be
introspective, be honest with yourself. These are my strengths,
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these are my weaknesses. And then develop a personal development plan.
We cannot hit the mark if we do not have a plan.
If you don't have a plan, you've planned to fail. Create a plan
and know that that plan, it needs to be not set in
stone. Sometimes you may have to move a little here and move a little
there differently, but it's like your GPS.
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If you move in according to the GPS and it's a roadblock come
up, it don't say scrap the trip, turn around and go
home. It reroutes you and go a different way to get you where you want
to go. You got to have a growth mindset and be willing to
do that work. And you'll get to the goals.
One of the other things I tell my clients is this there's no
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such thing as failure. Well, the only failure is not trying,
right? If you don't do it, that's the only failure. And
that's something I tell people all the
time. People, oh, I want to start a podcast, but I'm
scared. One of the things that they're afraid to
fail, and I tell them, well, you're failing already, right?
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It's just the fact that you're not taking the chance to do it because you
don't know how do you know if you're good at it or not? I had
a guest on. She didn't do video because she was waiting for the
time that it was going to be perfect, that she wanted to make sure
it was perfect when she did video. And I said
I said, you're messing up right there already, because.
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How do. You know if you're good at it? How are you going to know
if you're good at video? I said, Right now you're doing a live video show
with me. So obviously you can do video,
right? You can do video because you're here doing video with me right now on
my show. She's like true. Yeah, that makes sense.
And it was the same thing for me when I started with
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Strictly Audio and I was going to video. I had a couple on. They were
branding strategists, and first question was,
do you do video? No, not yet. I'm not ready.
Sure you don't do video. And the third time, yes,
I do video now because I understood what he was trying to get to me.
Yes, I understood what he was why he was saying,
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this is more content for you. This
is more fuel and stuff. This is for you to take advantage.
I understand you do audio, but you're already using StreamYard. You might as well do
the video as well. And he didn't have to say it. That way, but I
understand that's what he's getting at. Yeah, for sure.
Dude, you're already using StreamYard? Just record the video.
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It's recording the video anyway. You're having to strip the
audio off of it. Oh, I wasn't even doing that. I
was just using StreamYard and recording it and recording
the audio straight onto my RODECaster. Okay.
I wasn't using video whatsoever, but I was like,
Man, I thought about it. I'm like,
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yeah, it'll make no sense that I'm using this program and not taking
advantage of the full program.
Start using the video. Okay.
Yeah, but look
at how you had all of the tools
right there. You just needed somebody to get you a lapoke.
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You sure about that? Go ahead.
I had already been using it, so it made sense. It does make sense. I
need to use it. And so it went from
audio to pre recorded video to
me making a switch last year to going
live. To going live. Yes. And I enjoy going live. I enjoy
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live. Because you get comments, you get people come through. Ben
who? I'm actually on his Roku channel. I air
every Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday live on his Roku channel. BS three
network. Hawk TV comes on. He's a regular guy.
Regular comes through, and they share their story.
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He didn't make the NBA, but he found home and information and technology.
That's a fuck I mean, you can't let one
thing not going right stop you. It's all
about perspective. NBA might have been one of the things that he
desired, but his purpose and his destiny might have been in
information technology, but he didn't even fail in not getting
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to the NBA because he tried. There's a lot of cats out there who
never tried. They didn't put the work
in for middle school
travel teams, high school, college.
You didn't put the work in. But you just said, one day, I. Want to
be in the NBA. Oh, man, I ain't make it. But what did you do
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to get there? Did you invest? Did you train? Did
you do these things? Maybe my family didn't
have the money. But did you get out there in. The park and shoot to
the street lights came on, have somebody under their
holding? Because that's what I did. That's what a lot of people did.
My family wouldn't have the money for personal training for me or
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for me to be on the AAU team. So I had to make sure I
showed up at all the courts that had all of the right games, because. You
know where the games are. You know where they had
you know. Where the games are. This park has these kind of
players. This park has these kind of players. So when you're a baller, you know
these things. Yeah. So you put in the work. You put in the work.
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Absolutely. WNBA wasn't in my future, but god had a
better future for me. Now I sit and I watch the WNBA,
and I'm happy about it. Go to a game or whatever. I'm happy about it.
But where I am today, oh, man, I'm blessed. I
don't regret that not being the thing that ended up being my
expected end. So it's
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your perspective. It's all how you look at it. Changing your mindset.
Definitely changing your mindset, for sure. So
what advice would you have for individuals who might be struggling
with Impostor syndrome or self doubt?
That's good. That's a real good one. I would say to
that individual, continue to search out and do the
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work. Because what I found is things like self
doubt, impostor syndrome, fear, failure, fear of success, all
of those things, they synergistically work together. So
want to find out what the root cause of it is. What
is causing me to suffer from Impostor
syndrome? What is causing me to suffer from fear of failure,
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fear or fear of success,
even? What is causing the procrastination. And when
you get to the root of it, then you could begin to deal with the
root cause of it and put in the work, whether that's
hiring a coach or whether that's spending time with
a professional, a licensed professional, to get the help
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you need. Because when you overcome that, oh, man, you unstoppable,
because it's something that you'll probably deal with,
and it won't go away. But the difference between a person who's successfully
navigating life but at one point dealt with impostor syndrome and
a person who struggled with it is that person who's
overcoming it every day. They recognize the signs and the
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symptoms. They can see it creeping in. And they know what
type of guardrails to keep in their life
so that they don't fall to that, whether it's guardrails that they
put in place and things that they do. But they also recognize
the type of people that need to be in their lives that can help them
see and say no. You know what, Laquita? You my girl.
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But why you didn't do that again? Why are you
procrastinating on that? You told me, like, three days ago
that you needed to submit this pitch. Why you ain't submitted the
pitch? That's important. Getting the right people around you and getting the
help you need to identify it and overcome it. That would be my
advice. All right,
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so you're a coach. You're speaking in a minister. How do you
balance all this? How do you balance it at all?
That's another good question. So my definition
of balance is giving the right things that's needed at the
right time. There's no way that I am
Mrs. Octopus Arms. They don't work like that.
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At least. Not in liquid monthly, not in the monthly
house. I'm not Mrs. Octopus arms. I
use a lot of time blocking and
putting things in order of importance and
working on a time block schedule. And telling myself
instead of being frustrated that I didn't get a whole task
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done in a certain time block, I celebrate the fact that I
did get done what needed to be done. And I worked that time block all
week in self care, keeping self
care at the forefront, prioritizing not only the work that
I need to do, but prioritizing not
working. The time I spend with my husband, the time I spend with my
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family, making that a priority. And when I make that a priority,
oh, they open up the lane to help me do the other things that I
need to do. So time blocking and
prioritizing. Awesome. It's been wonderful
having you on as a guest. This has been amazing. I said I have
a great time. Always. Whenever I get to have a conversation with a coach
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or someone I enjoy, because it helps
me, especially since
my goal is to eventually go into coaching and speaking and all
that, to be able to sit down and speak to coaches like
yourself and pick your brain and ask these questions, it's beneficial
to me. And at one point, I thought I was being
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selfish because I was asking all these questions, because I was enjoying my
podcast so much, because I was learning so much from it.
And a guest put it wonderfully. Like, man, this is
self love. Yes, it is. To improve. And the fact that
you're sharing it with your audience, there's nothing selfish about. It, not at all.
But you always get that little thing in your brain, in your head.
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Like, you start doubting yourself. And so it takes moments where
people have to check you and let you know, like, man, dude, you're going
about this the whole wrong way. There's nothing
selfish about what you're doing. Absolutely. It had
to take someone to tell me this for it to really
sink in, even though I kind of knew it. But you got to hear from
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somebody. Got to hear it. Yeah. You got to hear from somebody else for it
to really sink in. And you'd be like, okay, yeah, I got this now. Yeah,
man. I was interviewing a guest last year. Her name
is Dr. Tiffany Jenkins. Beautiful sister out of New Jersey.
She's a psychiatrist. And we were talking
about self care. Self care and self love, and she
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said exactly what you just said. Whatever you do
that you've defined as a part of your self care routine, the thing that pours
back into you is never selfish. It is never
selfish. And she gave me an example, and I love to share
it. I mean, I shared this quote like, it's mine because it's beautiful.
She was like, most people have always heard that
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you can't pour from an empty cup. SIS said,
I don't want to pour from the cup. I teach my people how to pour
from the salsa. I just wanted to reach through the screen and hug her
like, bra. Wow, that's beautiful. Yes.
That's a nugget.
That's something I need to let that sink in, let that hit you and let
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you know that why would you want to pour from an empty cup
when you can pour from the sauce?
Right? I am so full that I'm running over into the
saucer, and what's running over in my
saucer that I'm pouring out to you can fill you up like, oh,
man. Yeah. And I keep that at the forefront of ever
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since she said that to me, it's like I amped up on the amount
of time that I spend pouring into me. My whole schedule
shifted. My whole schedule shifted. Like,
I've been teeter tottering about, I don't want to start my work day
until after lunch. And then I'm thinking,
but those clients, that's money. SIS said that
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to me. Oh, I'm solid. I'm not doing work until
after lunch. Why? Because before lunch, that's my time
with myself, my time with my husband and my family.
And then after lunch, I'm going to grind until I knock
out all of my appointments. Had Mr. Penny and
I fill me up every day. I fill me up every
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day. What a couple of things you do to fill yourself up.
My first thing in the morning, I'm a morning person. So I get up about
four or five in the morning and I have my quiet time.
I pray, I meditate. I might take a
walk. Or because I do love to garden,
I'll go out into the garden, spend that quiet time, do some little
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bits and pieces I need to do out in the garden. By that time, my
husband will come and we have a standing morning
coffee date, and we'll have that coffee date for about
an hour or so, come back to the house,
look at my emails or whatever I need to do, go through
there, acknowledge those or who I'm going to respond to.
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By that time, it's like 1230 01:00, and then I
start my day. But that's life's, like, non negotiable. I'm going to
have that morning meditation time, that morning
prayer time with myself. Because in that
time, not only am I spending time with God, but then I'm building me.
I'm reading books, I'm listening to podcasts. I think
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a lot. So I'm writing, I'm journaling, I'm getting it out.
That's something I started doing now is blogging and
writing a little bit more. And honestly, I
didn't think of myself as a creative person whatsoever. I was into
sports, I played baseball, played football, I was a
jock, I played sports, and I was a gamer and all that. So I didn't
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really think of myself as a creator or anything. And then I started
podcasting, and these
creative juices just started flowing, just started coming out. I started
creating graphics. I started creating thumbnails,
this creative side of me that I didn't think I. Had
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a lot of athletes don't think they have a creative side,
and I didn't either for a while,
but athletes do. And the
association, like, how God just dropped it on me,
is like, you're creative. Your best athletes
have a high IQ in their sports. You can read your
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field of play. You can understand what the defense is about to do, what the
offense is about to do. It doesn't matter what sport you're playing, and
you become the most phenomenal. Players have a
high IQ in their sports, and when they're in interviews,
they know how to read the room. They can read the defense. They can
read the offense. It's like a chess player. And you know what steps you
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need to take three, four moves ahead, because this is what's happening. That's
what's happening. That's how your brain works when you're creating
stuff. I'm realizing I started playing chess while other
people are playing checkers. It's a big difference.
Now you're playing
checkers. Okay, dude. Now.
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Chess is a whole different move. My son has to be the only
trash talking chess player I've ever met.
I know plenty of those. We
take him to tournaments and stuff when he was in school.
And chess tournaments is quiet, and you can
hear Devonte tell his opponent, you might as well give up. I'm about to beat
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you in five moves. Like, are you talking trash to this
kid? You are. He beat him in five moves,
though. He backed it up. It wasn't like he wasn't
backing it up. He was backing it up when you could back it up, hey,
all the time. But
you're creative like that. It doesn't matter what sport
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we're in chess, tennis, golf,
basketball, football, baseball. It doesn't matter. You have to have a high IQ
in the sport in order to be great in the sport. Creatives
have a high IQ, and they have a vision, and they
can create that vision and make it become their reality
in whatever medium they choose. Absolutely.
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Oh, man, this has been wonderful. I've had a blast. It's been great.
Now is the time where you get the solo screen. You get to share
what you want people to know, anything like weight links,
web page, everything. Thank you. So it is
so great to be on the show today. I hope you guys
were able to take some tools and some nuggets and be able to use them
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to implement in your personal growth and development. To connect with me
more, please go out to my
website@www.laquidamonley.com
again, that's
www.laquidamonley.com,
and you can connect with me there. Find more about my speaking
coaching. Find out how you could become a guest
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on my TV show, as I am a TV producer as well. Or if you're
interested in becoming a guest on my podcast, Laquida's Toolbox, you
can find all the information that you need about me on
my website or my social media. My kids tell me I'm
Googleable, so just Google LaQuida Monley and all
forms of social media will pop up.
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All right. Thank you so much for being a guest. Had
a blast. This has been great. Thank you for having me. Oh, this has been
great. I love podcasting.
I still work my nine to five. It's 04:00 a.m. To
12:00 p.m.. So once I get out of work, I come home, I take a
nap, and I prepare for my 05:00
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show. And then I get ready
for the new day. But I have a routine
in the morning. I get up, I'll take a few minutes
to just reflect
on my day, on how I want my day to go,
and then just sit down and just meditate.
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Just take time and just sit and
not think of anything. Just think about how my day is going to go.
It usually works out, usually works out as planned.
It does. On those rare occasions where maybe
I slept late or stuff happens, life happens,
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and I didn't get my morning me time, I always
show up in the rest of my day.
People can tell, like, those that know me, know me. Like, oh,
you didn't get your coffee. Date with yourself today? No,
I didn't struggle. It's a struggle bus today,
but it is. And when you study successful
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people, they're non negotiable in that truly
successful, truly wealthy people, they spend more
time and more money investing in themselves
and making sure they have that personal time with
themselves and with their family. It's a
priority. It is. It's a priority for them. And so they've
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tapped into something that we, as regular, everyday people, need to tap
into, because a lot of these successful people started out as regular, everyday
people. Yeah.
It can be done. For sure. It can be done. Just discipline yourself to do
it, and you'll thank yourself later. This has been
wonderful. Don't leave just yet. I'm going to close out the show and we chat
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a little bit off the air, but this has been wonderful. I appreciate you being
on the show. Thank you so much for having me. I appreciate it. The pleasure
is online. All right, so now
it is time for Shout Out. Big shout out to
my man Ben seller if II from the BS Three
network. Check us out there every Monday,
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Tuesday, Wednesday, 05:00 P.m. Eastern, 04:00 P.m.
Central time. Check out Poppy J. Wise
on the BS Three network every Friday night at 08:00 p.m.
Central, 09:00 p.m. Eastern Time. We also have Mentality
on there every Thursday, 02:00 P.m..
Big shout out to the real Wise fan, poppy J. Brandy J. Love you
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guys. Big shout out to the boss lady. Love you and appreciate you,
baby. Big shout out to our jet laquita Monley for coming through.
And as always, a big, big shout out to all the essential workers out
there. God bless you. I'll be safe. Your boy Wise does
it. Peace out.
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And welcome to another live episode.
I am your host, Wize, and I have a very special
guest. She's a coach, fellow podcaster producer.
Welcome to the show, Laquita Monole. Thank
you so much for having me. I'm excited to be here today. Oh, the pleasure
is on mine. Pleasure is on mine. So let's just jump right into
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this. All right, so what inspired you to become a coach and
speaker? It was actually a
transition from ministry. For many years,
I have been full time ministry, traveling
across the states, and the Lord blessed for
me to be able to travel in Europe and Africa in different places.
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Ministry. Well, like most people, 2020 had an impact
on that. It had a major impact on that. And so
by sitting and thinking, okay, what can I do? And how can pivot?
Pivot was the big word. And in that pivot,
I transitioned and partnered with the John Maxwell
team, became certified through John
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Maxwell's company. And I have been
enjoying the speaking and coaching space, which for me is
not really different from what I was already doing. Now I just do it outside
of the four walls of the church. Okay, so
you mentioned the John Maxwell team. What led
you to that team? What about them made you want to be
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like, hey, this is who I want to learn from and get certified
from? But like most people,
I wanted to pivot. I wanted to do something that was
already in alignment with my purpose. And so
for me, the big thing was because I have been
doing the speaking and ministering just
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exclusively within the church community, I wanted to know how
to make that clean transition. I'm not ministering,
I'm still doing that. But I wanted to know how to effectively take
my message and craft it in a way that it would be
applicable to anyone no matter what their faith system is or if they
don't have a faith system. And John Maxwell is one of the
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leading people in that industry. Most people
know him, and they know. That he used to be a pastor.
But his principles and his leadership principles,
they carry across every walk of life. And so
to me, that was just the ideal choice.
Okay, so how do you define
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transformational coaching? Great question. Thanks for
asking. So my definition of transformational coach
is this when I'm speaking with a client or a potential
client, it is my ability to connect
with an individual to help them understand where they
are and where they want to be and work with them to create a
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roadmap to get to that next best version of themselves.
Awesome. So
what do you think are keys for someone to
unlocking their full potential? The number one
key to unlocking your full potential is you have to understand who you
are. You have to understand your identity. And when I say
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identity, I mean who you are as an individual
at your core. Understanding your core values is
very important, because if I don't know who I am,
then how will I possibly be able to connect fully
with the purpose and the plan for my life? Like the thing that I
was created to do? How will I do that? I'm
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not saying that you won't have success prior to having that moment
in your life, you will have success. But it'll be like, man, I'm always
chasing, I'm always grinding, I'm always doing, looking for the next thing, the
next thing, because I have this empty space in me. But when you lock
in on who you are, you'll still seek after the multiple strings of
income, but you'll be solid in your identity,
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and everything that you do moving forward will be in alignment with
that. You won't be tossed, hither thither and everywhere.
That was something that
I didn't have my purpose. And like a lot of people,
when 2020 hit, it kind of
shifted what I was doing and it actually showed
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me what my purpose was and
started doing podcasting because I named this stuck in my mind
because I was stuck in my head for such a long time with wanting to
start the podcast, then making up all types of excuses like, oh,
I'm a suck. People don't want to hear me, my voice is horrible, and all
these different things. And it was just me being stuck
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making excuses, not wanting to step out of my comfort zone,
not willing to make myself uncomfortable and do something that I normally
don't do. And so when I finally decided to press record
and upload it and release it, it was like this big
weight was lifted off me. Yeah. And I
found that, hey, I'm pretty good at this. I enjoy doing this.
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I love speaking to people.
I have a lot of questions to ask. And
so it's helped me grow and
develop personally, being able to do my show,
because I get to speak to wonderful people like yourself and get to learn
in the process. I
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figured, hey, my purpose is to create content where people can learn and
grow, and at the same time, I'm learning and growing.
Yes. I
don't want to minimize the devastation of 2020 in any way because it
was absolutely devastating globally. But at the
same time, 2020 set a lot of people
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free from being stuck in their mind. It
set a lot of people free, and it has caused a lot
of people to tap into and understand for the first time
who they are, what they're created to do. It gave them the courage
and the time to start
seeking out and doing the things that they really love, because
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we are here in these streets adulting. And when you're adulting, you do what you
have to do in order to make the bills pay, right? But for the first
time, people had the time necessary in
their day to go back and said, you know what on the inside of me,
I really want to do that podcast. I really want to write that book. I
really love cooking, and all I really want to do is have my own
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little spot, my little mom and pop spot, and serve some meals and
whatever. People started doing that. And 2020 created some
people that became debt free. They became
wealthy, but most importantly, they connected with who they
really are, and they became free in their mind. And that's a beautiful
thing. That is a beautiful thing. And when you mentioned wealthy,
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it doesn't necessarily mean that they were making
a lot of money, right? Because
wealth means so much more to
different people and there's different things. Yes, you're wealthy
when you're healthy.
It's allowed me.
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To.
Start setting myself up for the future, and
it's allowed me to really find,
discover what my purpose was. Because I was 40 something years old,
didn't have a clue of what I wanted to do with my life, right?
Didn't have a clue, didn't have a purpose, didn't know what I wanted.
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And when I was able to finally start talking
and communicating with people and releasing
my episodes and it took time for it to grow and
everything, but it was the response that
I would get for certain people when I had certain guests on, like, oh, I
needed to hear that episode, or I needed that episode. Yeah. It
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was those moments that really made me feel really good
inside. It wasn't me worrying about getting
monetized. It was the fact that I was impacting people's lives. That's
it. And so when I was able to see that part of it,
it changed the game for me. It's like, this is what I want to do.
Being able to impact people, to show
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them that there's more to this than just going to
work, working a nine to five and not
living your life, not being able to do what you're
meant to do in this world. For sure.
One of my favorite things to say is,
in our life, we have to consistently
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refine and redefine our definition of success. It
has to grow as we grow. And that is so true. How we
define success, how we define wealth. I'm sitting here having this conversation with you
today. 46 year old woman, married 26
plus years, got five kids, six grandkids. You ask this
woman what success means, what wealth means,
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and my answer will be completely different than
the 18 year old me, the 25 year old me, even the 35 year
old me, if I'm just being real. That
definition has to change and grow as we do. And when you tap into
your identity and you understand your purpose,
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your top ten definition, your top ten things,
that what success looks like or what wealth looks like. Money probably not
even in it, to be honest. It's not in it. Like, for me, it's owning
my time. Owning my time. There's
nothing that brings more joy to my heart than
in our backyard. I planted a garden
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with my grandkids. Now, they don't like gardening. They like
dirt, because the oldest one is six.
But having them to come out there and spend time with
me, doing that and then watching them pick strawberries
as they ripen, just different things. Oh, man, that's joy. That's wealth.
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It is. That's success. Some of my favorite moments
are with my grandson, is being able to spend time with my grandson
and to hang out with him and
just enjoying that precious time that you have with
them. And that's exactly what key is.
Time is the most important thing, because you never get that back
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for sure. So that was one of the reasons when I dedicated myself to
doing the podcast, I made sure that I invested
in myself, made sure that I took courses on editing, took
courses on how to audio, video, invested
in equipment, because people were giving me something very
precious, which is their time, and they're tuning in and
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listening. And I felt like, okay, so
I need to make sure that my quality is on point. I need to make
sure my audio is on point so that
they can hear me clearly, make sure the
message is delivered properly.
Like I said, this is something they're giving me, something very precious.
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Yeah, time is it. Time is critical.
We can make more money, but we cannot recreate time.
We cannot go back in time. And what I do with my
time now and how I choose to spend my time,
that's my top ten. That is the premier
definition of success for me, that I get to control and
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dictate how I spend my time and to whom I give my time
to. Time is it
because we can't get it back. We cannot get it back. Where we invest
it, who we spend. It with is precious. And a
younger version of myself or the version of myself that was
not in tune with who I am wouldn't
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have said that. Yeah, it wouldn't have said that. And that's a conversation that I
have often with my clients, a lot of my
clients in coaching. And even when I'm invited out to
speak, that's the big thing. People
are more in tune now with the importance of
that, with the importance of knowing their identity, pursuing their
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purpose. Yes, we all want to chase the bag. You want to make
the money. You want to set up generational wealth. You want to train
your children and your grandchildren and give them the skills necessary
so they can maintain that wealth. As you're accumulating it.
But they know that all of that. The first thing we have to
do is I need to understand who I am so that I can
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make sure I'm doing this thing the right way in a way that I will
consistently keep up with. Yeah.
So what role do you see mindset playing in personal and business
growth? It's everything.
It's everything. It's everything. Having the right
mindset is critical. When we don't have
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the right mindset, we won't be able
to reach our desired results. If we don't have the right
mindset, we won't even know what those desired results are. Let's just be real.
Having a growth mindset, being open to change, being
open to learning, being open to growing, being open to be
self aware is necessary. Having a closed
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mindset, having a closed mindset will keep you broken, broken.
It'll definitely keep you broken. Broken. Having an open mindset, a growth
mindset. Oh, that's everything for sure. You
can take nothing and turn it into something when you have
a growth mindset, because with that growth mindset, you realize
that there's truly never nothing. Nothing
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doesn't really exist in my space. My idea
is something. If all I have is an idea and a dream and I
have a growth mindset, I can turn that idea. I could turn that
dream into a reality. But if I have a closed
mindset, that idea and that dream will lead me to a place of
frustration, and I won't do anything with it and then get
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upset when I see other people doing it.
So how do you help your clients develop a
success mindset? I start off number one
with going through a personality evaluation
with them through the John Maxwell team. Not only was I certified to be
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a speaker and coach, but I also became certified in the
Maxwell method of disc. And many people use
disk in many forms. And with this disc
assessment, once my client has taken that,
we have a session or two where we look at their
complete assessment results. Not only it
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tells them about the three versions of themselves, who they
truly are, who they think people see
them, and how people actually see them, and
we work on those. It talks about their communication styles,
what their natural communication style is, and it also
shows them what their polar opposites are like. These
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are the communication styles that you get
along with these people really well. It's effortless, these communication
styles. You would wish you just really never had to deal with them ever
in life. But guess what? You do. So we work
through that, and it's amazing that in that assessment,
people learn so much about themselves, like,
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they've never realized, oh, that's why I'm like this, and that's why I'm like
that. Especially if they're married, because we tend to marry a polar
opposite. That's why my husband or my
wife is like this. It becomes really liberating and really fringing.
And we begin to develop a personal development plan
based on the results of that assessment. And as we work through,
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depending upon how long the client has
partnered with me for through those sessions, is how we really begin
to work on, all right, this is who you are. What are your core
values, what do you want to be, what do you want to do? So on
and so forth. Okay,
so how do you stay
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motivated and inspired in your work?
Because it's in alignment with who I am. Okay. It's already in
alignment with who I am. It's what I believe
God has created me to do. Having already been
a speaker or coach, if you will, as a minister, my
whole job was to speak to people and to share with
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people. And for
me, ministering, and speaking to people within the four walls
of the church, I directly dealt with identity. This
is who God is, and this is who God's word says that you
are. I don't care where you are in your life right now, what you've done,
what you haven't done. If you're in this room today, this is the
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message that God has for you. So I just transitioned that
into a more intimate setting with being able to speak one on one
or in a corporate setting, being able to speak to different
teams about their identity. Because even in a corporate setting,
it is very important that people understand who they are and the
roles that they've been given to play and why it's important to push the vision
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of the company forward. So I stay motivated because I believe it's what
God's called me to do.
I agree with that. Yeah.
Being able to knowing your purpose
and knowing what you're here to do,
it's motivation in itself. It's like, okay, this is
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what I'm supposed to do. I'm supposed to have these conversations. I'm supposed to interview
these people and have them share their message, because there's people out there like
myself that don't know these things, they don't know
about, that they can
create a better life in themselves. It takes
you switching from a fixed mindset to
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a growth mindset. But
one of the things, like we talked about, 2020, I
fail. If you didn't take 2020 and took advantage of it
and started developing yourself and
growing as a person during that time, especially
since you had all that time. Yeah.
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That's serious. That's a problem. I agree.
Dollars.
I got furloughed from work, and I was getting extra money. And what I did
with that money was invested in myself. I took courses,
I invested in equipment. But it was because I wanted
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to improve. I wanted to be better at podcasting. I wanted to
be better at interviewing people. So I had to take courses because I
wasn't in this medium. This wasn't my field. Yeah, you
had to invest in you. Yeah, because if I wanted to
improve, I had to make sure that let me get the
right teachings. There's
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so many different courses I took. There's so many different coaches that I've been learning
from. I've attracted the people that I've needed in
my life. Yes. Come on now. Yes. People that
I know that I need to help me get to the next level.
I've attracted those people in my lives and now they're here helping me grow and
develop my skills. Yeah. Isn't amazing how that happens
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is
when we get that courage to bet on ourselves, when
we get that courage to say, okay, this is what
I want to do. Let me invest the time
and the resources. Whatever your resources are, let me invest the time and the
resources to be the best version of me possible. And
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it doesn't matter whether we're podcasting, writing
books, doing live streams. I don't mean you could be
making paper machete dolls. It don't matter if that's what you want to do.
And you bet on yourself and you invest in you, and you begin to move
in the direction of your desired result, the resources that
you need will come to you. And the crazy thing
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is, as they come to you, yes, some of them will require a
monetary investment, but oftentimes I found
that the most successful people in the fields that I desire to
grow in, they're all about volunteering their time with
mentorship and just feeding you what you need to grow. All you have
to do is show a willingness to want to get it. If you're showing that
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willingness to want to get it, are they happy to feed you? They're happy to
tap in and plug into you and drop a tool here or drop a tool
there that will help you grow. But it's all about us preparing
ourselves and having a growth mindset and not that
fixed mindset so that we can receive.
Like I said before, when you have a fixed mindset,
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you'll be in those spaces, and instead of appreciating
the gems that the people are giving you, you'll be offended by them
or you'll be too afraid. You'll come up with all kind of
excuses as to why you shouldn't be in this space
or these people are stuck up, these people are boozy. Oh, I don't know enough
to be here. Why am I sitting here? And the whole time and
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you're supposed. To be there, you're supposed to sit there and
absorb all that. One of the things they talk about
is if you're the smartest person in. The room, you're in the wrong
room.
I sit back and I observe and
I want to learn. I'm eager to learn. And that's why
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it's easy for me to do what I do because
I'm coachable. I'm open to people trying to teach me stuff
because I know I don't know everything, right?
No. And that's the best way to be. Like, I played sports in
high school. Let
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me just say this. When we were in high school, things were we bit different
than what they are now.
Let me say, in the generation that I came up in,
I played basketball and I ran track. It did not matter
how many handles the girl had. It didn't
matter how well she was down in the paint. It didn't
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matter if she wasn't coachable. You spent a lot of time
on the bench until you became coachable. You spent a lot of time on the
bench. You spent a lot of time running. Yeah. And you were going to
do one or two things. You were either going to be coachable or you were
going to leave the team. Either way, it was better for the team environment.
So you had to be coachable. If you were coachable,
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even if your. Skill set wasn't as great as the Phenome,
if the phenome wasn't coachable, the coach wasn't having it. But if you were
coachable, they were. Ready to train you to be the
best basketball player you could be. Because back
then we said, you got heart. If that kid got heart, right. If that kid
got heart is coachable, you got the time for them, you're going to spend the
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time with them. I don't see that that principle has
changed in different aspects of
life. No.
People talk about talent. There's people that got talent and then there's people that
just hard workers. I think I
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prefer the hard workers that are
willing to grow and develop and make themselves better
than the person who just has talent and just coasters. On their talent
all day, every day, all day, every day,
all day, every day. Because I'm not going to say that it
doesn't happen. But people who
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have that natural talent and that natural gift and that natural ability to do whatever
they're doing, sometimes it's really hard for them to get
to a place of humility and to be teachable and coachable
someone who has to work their butt off. And it's a skill that they've
determined that they're going to learn. They're open to
whatever. Like, they're open to your wisdom. They're open to your
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advice. They're open to your mentorship and your coaching. People who just have
that natural net, it might take a little work
for them to understand what humility means.
You're absolutely right. Some people need to be humbled and they just
yeah.
I tell for a while. Me and my husband had an AAU
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basketball team here in the city, and we had some great
guys, and it got into it because our youngest loved basketball had
some great guys. And this was
shortly before Kobe Bryant passed away, and all they could see was the
phenome of Kobe Bryant, just the phenomenon of Kobe Bryant.
And we would share stories. Like when he first came
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on, he was phenomenal. What a lot of people loved, they hated.
And it wasn't because of his skills. Because he had a nasty attitude. He had
to go through a few. Things to get humble, to learn
what true humility was before he became America's
favorite basketball player at his time,
having that natural skill set, it can hurt you if you're not
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coachable. You got to be coachable. But the thing with Kobe,
he had the natural ability, but he also had the drive he
did. He was also in the gym costume. You got to be willing to do
the work. He put in the work. Yeah, put in the work to
make himself one of the greatest of all time, for sure.
He's one prime example of someone who has talent, but also had
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that work ethic. He had that dog in him where he went and grinded
and did other players his age were out
clubbing and partying, and he was in the gym for
sure. In the morning, in the gym for sure. Improving
his craft for sure. And that's something that
we have to do. I don't care what it is that you
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want to do in your life. Like you were saying, you took the classes
during 2020. Anybody that did not, I really 100%
agree with you. If you did not take 2020 to
improve yourself, shame on you.
Shame on you. And you're still sitting here in
2023 talking about, I wish I would have, could have
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that was time to maximize because literally, nobody could tell
you you couldn't. Literally, no one
could tell you you couldn't. And even in terms of
and it's no shade, no tea with what I'm about to say. But
our regular workers, service workers, fast food workers,
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people that just honestly don't they work extremely hard,
but they're not making the money that they deserve for the amount
of work that they do. For the first time, they were
blessed with some off time, and they were making more money
because what the government was giving them at that time,
unemployment, was more than what they were getting while they were working.
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That was a pay increase, and you got the time. You should have invested it
in yourself. So that when all that was wrapped
up and done, you either had a side hustle that was
already working and doing when you went back
to your job or you had took that side hustle and made it your dream
job, like your dream thing that you wanted to do. There's a
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lady opened up a little cafe
right by my house. She worked at a call center.
Call center shut down. So sister having no job, single
parent. She loved cooking. So she was cooking, making plates, selling
them on Facebook. When things started to open up, I went into her spot,
because I knew when it closed with nothing in that spot. And me and her
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had the conversation, and she just blew my mind with what she said. She
downloaded every delivery app on her phone
while she make the food the night before in between
delivering groceries or GrubHubbing or Uber
eats or whatever she was doing when people would hit her up on her
Facebook and DM and whatever meal she had prepared
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for the day she'd had go by. Grab that meal, deliver the
meal to the people, and then deliver the groceries to the people.
SIS made enough money in 2020, after the
lockdown for running a couple of months like that to open up
her own spot. And she's won an award from
the Chamber of Commerce here in the city as one of the best new spots
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in town. That was in 2020, when everything was locked down from a single
parent downloading the app. And she always wanted a
restaurant, and she got one, because for the first time, she wasn't locked up
in that call center all day, every day. She had the time to do what.
She wanted to do. We have to maximize that. Absolutely.
And I feel a lot of people did maximize on that. A lot of people
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did take advantage, because a lot of people call it the great resignation,
because a lot of people decided to go the entrepreneur route and start
businesses. And some of them have been successful at what they're doing.
It's been a blessing. I
lost a few friends and family to COVID and everything,
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but at the same time,
I was able to adapt
and go with the time and take
advantage of like you said, we were earning more money. I was
earning way more money than I did at my job, and I made pretty good
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money. So what I did again, I could
have easily went and spent and bought everything, bought clothing
on Amazon, sneakers, you name it. But
that's not what I wanted, right? I wanted to,
like I said, improve. So I took coaching courses. I took
editing courses. It was just me taking that
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time, that time, and just investing that time
into something that I knew was
something I felt was very important to me.
Yeah. And that's the key.
What you did in 2020 and what I did and millions of
other people around the world, what they did, what we all did during that time,
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to improve ourselves and to pivot and
open up ourselves to entrepreneurship and growth
opportunities, and even some people who was like, okay, I don't want to be an
entrepreneur. I'm cool in my job. I just want
to be able to fast track and get upward mobility. They had the
time for the first time to take the courses and the classes and the.
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Certifications that they needed to qualify for that
next promotion. If you didn't take the time to work on yourself
in 2000 and 22,021.
I don't know what to tell you. There is no magic answer outside
of you have to be willing to be
introspective, be honest with yourself. These are my strengths,
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these are my weaknesses. And then develop a personal development plan.
We cannot hit the mark if we do not have a plan.
If you don't have a plan, you've planned to fail. Create a plan
and know that that plan, it needs to be not set in
stone. Sometimes you may have to move a little here and move a little
there differently, but it's like your GPS.
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If you move in according to the GPS and it's a roadblock come
up, it don't say scrap the trip, turn around and go
home. It reroutes you and go a different way to get you where you want
to go. You got to have a growth mindset and be willing to
do that work. And you'll get to the goals.
One of the other things I tell my clients is this there's no
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such thing as failure. Well, the only failure is not trying,
right? If you don't do it, that's the only failure. And
that's something I tell people all the
time. People, oh, I want to start a podcast, but I'm
scared. One of the things that they're afraid to
fail, and I tell them, well, you're failing already, right?
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It's just the fact that you're not taking the chance to do it because you
don't know how do you know if you're good at it or not? I had
a guest on. She didn't do video because she was waiting for the
time that it was going to be perfect, that she wanted to make sure
it was perfect when she did video. And I said
I said, you're messing up right there already, because.
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How do. You know if you're good at it? How are you going to know
if you're good at video? I said, Right now you're doing a live video show
with me. So obviously you can do video,
right? You can do video because you're here doing video with me right now on
my show. She's like true. Yeah, that makes sense.
And it was the same thing for me when I started with
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Strictly Audio and I was going to video. I had a couple on. They were
branding strategists, and first question was,
do you do video? No, not yet. I'm not ready.
Sure you don't do video. And the third time, yes,
I do video now because I understood what he was trying to get to me.
Yes, I understood what he was why he was saying,
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this is more content for you. This
is more fuel and stuff. This is for you to take advantage.
I understand you do audio, but you're already using StreamYard. You might as well do
the video as well. And he didn't have to say it. That way, but I
understand that's what he's getting at. Yeah, for sure.
Dude, you're already using StreamYard? Just record the video.
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It's recording the video anyway. You're having to strip the
audio off of it. Oh, I wasn't even doing that. I
was just using StreamYard and recording it and recording
the audio straight onto my RODECaster. Okay.
I wasn't using video whatsoever, but I was like,
Man, I thought about it. I'm like,
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yeah, it'll make no sense that I'm using this program and not taking
advantage of the full program.
Start using the video. Okay.
Yeah, but look
at how you had all of the tools
right there. You just needed somebody to get you a lapoke.
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You sure about that? Go ahead.
I had already been using it, so it made sense. It does make sense. I
need to use it. And so it went from
audio to pre recorded video to
me making a switch last year to going
live. To going live. Yes. And I enjoy going live. I enjoy
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live. Because you get comments, you get people come through. Ben
who? I'm actually on his Roku channel. I air
every Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday live on his Roku channel. BS three
network. Hawk TV comes on. He's a regular guy.
Regular comes through, and they share their story.
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He didn't make the NBA, but he found home and information and technology.
That's a fuck I mean, you can't let one
thing not going right stop you. It's all
about perspective. NBA might have been one of the things that he
desired, but his purpose and his destiny might have been in
information technology, but he didn't even fail in not getting
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to the NBA because he tried. There's a lot of cats out there who
never tried. They didn't put the work
in for middle school
travel teams, high school, college.
You didn't put the work in. But you just said, one day, I. Want to
be in the NBA. Oh, man, I ain't make it. But what did you do
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to get there? Did you invest? Did you train? Did
you do these things? Maybe my family didn't
have the money. But did you get out there in. The park and shoot to
the street lights came on, have somebody under their
holding? Because that's what I did. That's what a lot of people did.
My family wouldn't have the money for personal training for me or
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for me to be on the AAU team. So I had to make sure I
showed up at all the courts that had all of the right games, because. You
know where the games are. You know where they had
you know. Where the games are. This park has these kind of
players. This park has these kind of players. So when you're a baller, you know
these things. Yeah. So you put in the work. You put in the work.
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Absolutely. WNBA wasn't in my future, but god had a
better future for me. Now I sit and I watch the WNBA,
and I'm happy about it. Go to a game or whatever. I'm happy about it.
But where I am today, oh, man, I'm blessed. I
don't regret that not being the thing that ended up being my
expected end. So it's
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your perspective. It's all how you look at it. Changing your mindset.
Definitely changing your mindset, for sure. So
what advice would you have for individuals who might be struggling
with Impostor syndrome or self doubt?
That's good. That's a real good one. I would say to
that individual, continue to search out and do the
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work. Because what I found is things like self
doubt, impostor syndrome, fear, failure, fear of success, all
of those things, they synergistically work together. So
want to find out what the root cause of it is. What
is causing me to suffer from Impostor
syndrome? What is causing me to suffer from fear of failure,
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fear or fear of success,
even? What is causing the procrastination. And when
you get to the root of it, then you could begin to deal with the
root cause of it and put in the work, whether that's
hiring a coach or whether that's spending time with
a professional, a licensed professional, to get the help
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you need. Because when you overcome that, oh, man, you unstoppable,
because it's something that you'll probably deal with,
and it won't go away. But the difference between a person who's successfully
navigating life but at one point dealt with impostor syndrome and
a person who struggled with it is that person who's
overcoming it every day. They recognize the signs and the
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symptoms. They can see it creeping in. And they know what
type of guardrails to keep in their life
so that they don't fall to that, whether it's guardrails that they
put in place and things that they do. But they also recognize
the type of people that need to be in their lives that can help them
see and say no. You know what, Laquita? You my girl.
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But why you didn't do that again? Why are you
procrastinating on that? You told me, like, three days ago
that you needed to submit this pitch. Why you ain't submitted the
pitch? That's important. Getting the right people around you and getting the
help you need to identify it and overcome it. That would be my
advice. All right,
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so you're a coach. You're speaking in a minister. How do you
balance all this? How do you balance it at all?
That's another good question. So my definition
of balance is giving the right things that's needed at the
right time. There's no way that I am
Mrs. Octopus Arms. They don't work like that.
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At least. Not in liquid monthly, not in the monthly
house. I'm not Mrs. Octopus arms. I
use a lot of time blocking and
putting things in order of importance and
working on a time block schedule. And telling myself
instead of being frustrated that I didn't get a whole task
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done in a certain time block, I celebrate the fact that I
did get done what needed to be done. And I worked that time block all
week in self care, keeping self
care at the forefront, prioritizing not only the work that
I need to do, but prioritizing not
working. The time I spend with my husband, the time I spend with my
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family, making that a priority. And when I make that a priority,
oh, they open up the lane to help me do the other things that I
need to do. So time blocking and
prioritizing. Awesome. It's been wonderful
having you on as a guest. This has been amazing. I said I have
a great time. Always. Whenever I get to have a conversation with a coach
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or someone I enjoy, because it helps
me, especially since
my goal is to eventually go into coaching and speaking and all
that, to be able to sit down and speak to coaches like
yourself and pick your brain and ask these questions, it's beneficial
to me. And at one point, I thought I was being
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selfish because I was asking all these questions, because I was enjoying my
podcast so much, because I was learning so much from it.
And a guest put it wonderfully. Like, man, this is
self love. Yes, it is. To improve. And the fact that
you're sharing it with your audience, there's nothing selfish about. It, not at all.
But you always get that little thing in your brain, in your head.
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Like, you start doubting yourself. And so it takes moments where
people have to check you and let you know, like, man, dude, you're going
about this the whole wrong way. There's nothing
selfish about what you're doing. Absolutely. It had
to take someone to tell me this for it to really
sink in, even though I kind of knew it. But you got to hear from
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somebody. Got to hear it. Yeah. You got to hear from somebody else for it
to really sink in. And you'd be like, okay, yeah, I got this now. Yeah,
man. I was interviewing a guest last year. Her name
is Dr. Tiffany Jenkins. Beautiful sister out of New Jersey.
She's a psychiatrist. And we were talking
about self care. Self care and self love, and she
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said exactly what you just said. Whatever you do
that you've defined as a part of your self care routine, the thing that pours
back into you is never selfish. It is never
selfish. And she gave me an example, and I love to share
it. I mean, I shared this quote like, it's mine because it's beautiful.
She was like, most people have always heard that
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you can't pour from an empty cup. SIS said,
I don't want to pour from the cup. I teach my people how to pour
from the salsa. I just wanted to reach through the screen and hug her
like, bra. Wow, that's beautiful. Yes.
That's a nugget.
That's something I need to let that sink in, let that hit you and let
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you know that why would you want to pour from an empty cup
when you can pour from the sauce?
Right? I am so full that I'm running over into the
saucer, and what's running over in my
saucer that I'm pouring out to you can fill you up like, oh,
man. Yeah. And I keep that at the forefront of ever
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since she said that to me, it's like I amped up on the amount
of time that I spend pouring into me. My whole schedule
shifted. My whole schedule shifted. Like,
I've been teeter tottering about, I don't want to start my work day
until after lunch. And then I'm thinking,
but those clients, that's money. SIS said that
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to me. Oh, I'm solid. I'm not doing work until
after lunch. Why? Because before lunch, that's my time
with myself, my time with my husband and my family.
And then after lunch, I'm going to grind until I knock
out all of my appointments. Had Mr. Penny and
I fill me up every day. I fill me up every
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day. What a couple of things you do to fill yourself up.
My first thing in the morning, I'm a morning person. So I get up about
four or five in the morning and I have my quiet time.
I pray, I meditate. I might take a
walk. Or because I do love to garden,
I'll go out into the garden, spend that quiet time, do some little
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bits and pieces I need to do out in the garden. By that time, my
husband will come and we have a standing morning
coffee date, and we'll have that coffee date for about
an hour or so, come back to the house,
look at my emails or whatever I need to do, go through
there, acknowledge those or who I'm going to respond to.
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By that time, it's like 1230 01:00, and then I
start my day. But that's life's, like, non negotiable. I'm going to
have that morning meditation time, that morning
prayer time with myself. Because in that
time, not only am I spending time with God, but then I'm building me.
I'm reading books, I'm listening to podcasts. I think
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a lot. So I'm writing, I'm journaling, I'm getting it out.
That's something I started doing now is blogging and
writing a little bit more. And honestly, I
didn't think of myself as a creative person whatsoever. I was into
sports, I played baseball, played football, I was a
jock, I played sports, and I was a gamer and all that. So I didn't
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really think of myself as a creator or anything. And then I started
podcasting, and these
creative juices just started flowing, just started coming out. I started
creating graphics. I started creating thumbnails,
this creative side of me that I didn't think I. Had
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a lot of athletes don't think they have a creative side,
and I didn't either for a while,
but athletes do. And the
association, like, how God just dropped it on me,
is like, you're creative. Your best athletes
have a high IQ in their sports. You can read your
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field of play. You can understand what the defense is about to do, what the
offense is about to do. It doesn't matter what sport you're playing, and
you become the most phenomenal. Players have a
high IQ in their sports, and when they're in interviews,
they know how to read the room. They can read the defense. They can
read the offense. It's like a chess player. And you know what steps you
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need to take three, four moves ahead, because this is what's happening. That's
what's happening. That's how your brain works when you're creating
stuff. I'm realizing I started playing chess while other
people are playing checkers. It's a big difference.
Now you're playing
checkers. Okay, dude. Now.
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Chess is a whole different move. My son has to be the only
trash talking chess player I've ever met.
I know plenty of those. We
take him to tournaments and stuff when he was in school.
And chess tournaments is quiet, and you can
hear Devonte tell his opponent, you might as well give up. I'm about to beat
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you in five moves. Like, are you talking trash to this
kid? You are. He beat him in five moves,
though. He backed it up. It wasn't like he wasn't
backing it up. He was backing it up when you could back it up, hey,
all the time. But
you're creative like that. It doesn't matter what sport
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we're in chess, tennis, golf,
basketball, football, baseball. It doesn't matter. You have to have a high IQ
in the sport in order to be great in the sport. Creatives
have a high IQ, and they have a vision, and they
can create that vision and make it become their reality
in whatever medium they choose. Absolutely.
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Oh, man, this has been wonderful. I've had a blast. It's been great.
Now is the time where you get the solo screen. You get to share
what you want people to know, anything like weight links,
web page, everything. Thank you. So it is
so great to be on the show today. I hope you guys
were able to take some tools and some nuggets and be able to use them
(51:01):
to implement in your personal growth and development. To connect with me
more, please go out to my
website@www.laquidamonley.com
again, that's
www.laquidamonley.com,
and you can connect with me there. Find more about my speaking
coaching. Find out how you could become a guest
(51:24):
on my TV show, as I am a TV producer as well. Or if you're
interested in becoming a guest on my podcast, Laquida's Toolbox, you
can find all the information that you need about me on
my website or my social media. My kids tell me I'm
Googleable, so just Google LaQuida Monley and all
forms of social media will pop up.
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All right. Thank you so much for being a guest. Had
a blast. This has been great. Thank you for having me. Oh, this has been
great. I love podcasting.
I still work my nine to five. It's 04:00 a.m. To
12:00 p.m.. So once I get out of work, I come home, I take a
nap, and I prepare for my 05:00
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show. And then I get ready
for the new day. But I have a routine
in the morning. I get up, I'll take a few minutes
to just reflect
on my day, on how I want my day to go,
and then just sit down and just meditate.
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Just take time and just sit and
not think of anything. Just think about how my day is going to go.
It usually works out, usually works out as planned.
It does. On those rare occasions where maybe
I slept late or stuff happens, life happens,
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and I didn't get my morning me time, I always
show up in the rest of my day.
People can tell, like, those that know me, know me. Like, oh,
you didn't get your coffee. Date with yourself today? No,
I didn't struggle. It's a struggle bus today,
but it is. And when you study successful
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people, they're non negotiable in that truly
successful, truly wealthy people, they spend more
time and more money investing in themselves
and making sure they have that personal time with
themselves and with their family. It's a
priority. It is. It's a priority for them. And so they've
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tapped into something that we, as regular, everyday people, need to tap
into, because a lot of these successful people started out as regular, everyday
people. Yeah.
It can be done. For sure. It can be done. Just discipline yourself to do
it, and you'll thank yourself later. This has been
wonderful. Don't leave just yet. I'm going to close out the show and we chat
(54:01):
a little bit off the air, but this has been wonderful. I appreciate you being
on the show. Thank you so much for having me. I appreciate it. The pleasure
is online. All right, so now
it is time for Shout Out. Big shout out to
my man Ben seller if II from the BS Three
network. Check us out there every Monday,
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Tuesday, Wednesday, 05:00 P.m. Eastern, 04:00 P.m.
Central time. Check out Poppy J. Wise
on the BS Three network every Friday night at 08:00 p.m.
Central, 09:00 p.m. Eastern Time. We also have Mentality
on there every Thursday, 02:00 P.m..
Big shout out to the real Wise fan, poppy J. Brandy J. Love you
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guys. Big shout out to the boss lady. Love you and appreciate you,
baby. Big shout out to our jet laquita Monley for coming through.
And as always, a big, big shout out to all the essential workers out
there. God bless you. I'll be safe. Your boy Wise does
it. Peace out.
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