That's Over - with Abby

You know I had to bring in glamazon Abby Gardner a goddess, a writer and host of WE HAVE NOTES to discuss these silly In/Out list that permeated the start of the year, we discussed Quinn Larrabee’s article “Things That Are Over”  I read about everything that is over and debated it’s merits. Sometimes I feel icky discussing that I want wealth and luxury. That’s why I needed an equally sassy and glamorous Gen Xer to help me suss out the concept of quiet luxury and personal style and the relationship between financial security and self-worth. We get into the guilt and shame around wanting nice things, creating time for creativity, the impact of ADHD medication, and the importance of avoiding regrets and giving oneself a break. We touch on setting boundaries, knowing your limitations, and letting go of perfectionism. ALSO: the fun and delusion of being a fan and the challenges of building a creative career in the age of social media. And my 3 recs to go!

Chapters

00:00 Desire for Wealth and Luxury

04:17 Quiet Luxury and Personal Style

08:21 Financial Security and Self-Worth

12:13 Rediscovering Personal Style

17:20 The Freedom of Financial Stability

21:06 Guilt and Shame Around Wanting Nice Things

23:24 Creating Time for Creativity

26:08 Taking Control and Owning Your Work

29:13 The Impact of ADHD Medication

33:08 Avoiding Regrets and Giving Yourself a Break

36:22 Discovering Awesomeness in the Face of Awfulness

39:44 Setting Boundaries and Knowing Your Limitations

40:19 Embracing Delusion and Fandom

45:33 The Fun of Being Delulu in Fandom

50:17 The Exhaustion of Building a Creative Career

54:19 The Desire for Recognition and Success

3 Recs To Go!

• Lordy, I loved Napoleon. I’m still thinking about it. Listen I’m a Ridley Scott fan – its not the best movie ever but it has SICK battle scenes, and Joaquin is a perfectly adequate Napoleon Bonaparte. Vanessa Kirby is an exceptional Josephine. You can stream it on AppleTV+

• Le Fooding is a very resourceful and NECESSARY app when you’re in France. We used this every day and it was incredibly useful, especially during the holidays when restaurants and boutiques have weird hours. Because the French know how to take a break. Download the app here.

• And yea—vacuum bags. Please do yourself a favor and get these. Its a game changer - you do NOT want to check bags during the holiday season and if possible, ever. These changed our lives.

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