When Life Shifts and You Don’t Know Who You Are Anymore

In this week’s episode, Rachel Brooks opens up about the kind of transition most women walk through quietly—the moment when life shifts so deeply that the version of you the world recognizes no longer feels like the woman you are inside. You’re not who you were, but you’re not yet who you’re becoming. You’re somewhere in the middle, trying to understand a season that doesn’t make sense.

Rachel shares what it feels like to lose the identity you’ve carried for years, the grief of outgrowing old versions of yourself, and the disorientation that comes when your internal world changes faster than your outer life. This conversation is for the woman who feels hollow, restless, unsettled, or untethered. For the woman who’s rebuilding—slowly, quietly, and often without language for what’s happening.

Inside this episode, you’ll hear Rachel reflect on:

• why starting over isn’t failure but a natural part of becoming

• the internal unraveling that happens before clarity arrives

• how to recognize when you’ve outgrown an identity that once felt safe

• why the “middle” often feels like loss even when it’s growth

• how God rebuilds you from the inside out

• the tension between who you were and who He’s shaping you to be

• what it looks like to give yourself permission to evolve

You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of why your season feels so heavy, why the middle is necessary, and how God uses these unexpected transitions to shape the woman you’re becoming next.

Quotes:

“Sometimes you don’t choose to start over; life chooses for you.”

“It’s not that you’re lost—it’s that you’re in the middle of becoming.”

“God rebuilds us in the places where the old identity can no longer hold the new calling.”

Ready to Go Deeper?

If this episode met you in your own middle season...

I Am… Becoming is the tool Rachel created for women moving through identity transitions. It gives you space to process who you were, who you are now, and who you’re being shaped into—without pressure, hustle, or perfection.

I Am… Enough Reset – A simple, grounding 10-minute reset Rachel referenced in this episode. Use it when life feels loud, heavy, or unclear and you need space to hear yourself again.

Connect with Rachel Brooks:

Instagram: @iamrachelbrooks

Website: iamrachelbrooks.com