June 8, 2026 • 17 mins
#142 Did you know modern kink culture has roots most people never learn about? In this episode, we're exploring the hidden connection between kink, queer history, leather culture, Pride, consent, and radical self-ownership. Discover how BDSM helped build community, challenge shame, and create space for authentic self-expression. Listen now and see kink history in a whole new way.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Kink has always been part of queer history, not just
adjacent to it, but actuallypart of it.
And most people, even educatorsin the kink community, have no
idea.
I'm Alessandra from DomSubliving, and what I'm sharing
with you today was originally apresentation I gave for the
Queer Joy Summit.
(00:20):
If you've ever wondered wheremodern kink actually came from,
this might completely change theway you see kink, pride, and
queer history.
Welcome to the Dom Sublivingpodcast.
Before we dive in, let me clearsomething up right away.
Kink isn't just whips andchains, it isn't only about sex,
(00:41):
and it's definitely not just theextreme images you see in movies
or from places like FolsomStreet Fair in San Francisco.
I know when I first startedexploring Kink, I thought I was
doing it completely wrongbecause it didn't look like what
I saw online.
But the first time I startedexploring and just really let
myself play, it really hit methat this is about joy.
(01:07):
And that was my first taste ofradical self-ownership.
So kink at its heart is aboutjoy and creativity and freedom.
It's about radicalself-ownership.
It means taking back our bodies,our pleasure, and our queerness.
And today I'm going to show youhow kink and queer joy go hand
(01:28):
in hand.
And I'm going to give youpractical tools that you can
use.
And this will work whetheryou're single or you have a
partner, whether you're shy oryou're bold or you're brand new
or you're already curious andmaybe playing a little bit on
your own.
So let's start simple.
What is kink?
Well, kink is anything playfulor creative or just intentional
(01:52):
and that exists outside ofvanilla sex and relationships.
Vanilla obviously is ourcultural default.
It's the scripts we've beenhanded about how intimacy should
look.
But vanilla isn't bad.
It's just not the only flavorout there.
Kink is when we ask, what elsecould pleasure look like?
(02:16):
What else could connection looklike?
So for example, that could meanrole play.
It could mean bondage.
It could mean something simplelike lighting a candle before
solo play.
It could mean wearing somethingthat makes you feel powerful.
But another term you're going tohear me use a lot is BDSM.
(02:37):
So I just wanted to break itdown really quick.
Um, but it's actually um fourideas combined into one acronym.
So B stands for bondage.
So this is using restraints likerope and cuffs or even a scarf
to just really limit movement.
Some people find it playful orcomforting, others find it you
(03:01):
know sexy or exciting.
And then the D is fordiscipline.
So this is the structure and therules and sometimes punishments
or correction that can be partof the dynamic that you've
consented to.
So think of it as training andaccountability or rituals, it's
(03:21):
not just spankings, and then wehave the DS.
So this is D for dominance and Sfor submission.
So this is the power exchangeside.
So one person takes on a moreleading role, that's the
dominant, and then the otherchooses to follow or yield, and
that is the submissive, andthat's what I identify as.
(03:43):
So it's about trust, it's notabout one person being better.
And then you may have heard of Sand M.
So the S is sadism and the M ismasochism.
So this is where you're playingwith giving and receiving
intense sensations.
So it could be things likespanking or impact play, but
even tickling is can be a formof play.
(04:07):
And you know, for a lot ofpeople, this brings, you know,
catharsis in the body, it bringsrelease, but it can even bring
joy.
And together, BDSM is a wholemenu of possibilities.
You don't have to try them all.
In fact, most people onlyexplore the pieces that speak to
them.
But what unites all of this isconsent and communication and
(04:31):
choice.
But let's bust some mythsbecause I know they're out there
and maybe you've believed someof them.
So, myth number one is that kinkis about abuse.
So, healthy kink is built onconsent and trust and respect.
Um, in fact, a lot of kinkspaces will do consent better
(04:52):
than mainstream spaces or clubs.
I once went to my first dungeonand I was really nervous and
awkward, but I was so surprisedto hear people talking about
boundaries and checking in ontheir partner's comfort and
explain consent frameworks thatI had just really never heard of
in vanilla dating experiences.
(05:14):
And that moment just reallyflipped the script for me and
made me see that kink can feel alot safer than a lot of dating
apps ever did.
And the myth number two is thatkink is always sexual.
So nope, on this one, you can dokink rituals that have nothing
to do with sex at all.
Um, one of my students created aritual where she kneels to
(05:38):
meditate every morning in herBDSM collar.
It's not sexual at all, but shetold me it's the most grounding,
empowering part of her day.
And then myth number three isthat kink is only the extremes
that you see online.
So leather harnesses, floggers,cages, and sure, those things do
(06:00):
exist, but most kink is muchgentler, it's quiet, and it's
even more creative than that.
So if the only images you'veseen of kink come from Fifty
Shades of Grey or from randomhomophobes on the internet when
they rant about pride parades, Iwant you to imagine instead that
(06:23):
kink can be joy, it could belaughter, it could be play,
trust, creativity, and choice.
So that's kink.
Now let's talk about how kinkand queerness overlap because
you may be thinking, what doeskink have to do with the topic
of queer joy?
What is this lady even talkingabout?
Why is she here?
(06:44):
Well, queer and kinkycommunities have always been
connected.
So think leather bars, dragshows, early pride marches.
Kink was there from thebeginning.
And the reason is because bothqueer people and kinky people
have been told the same thingthat you're wrong for wanting
(07:05):
what you want.
So here's where I want to bringin some queer history.
So when we celebrate queerhistory, we usually think about
our elders who fought for rightsand visibility.
But what a lot of times getserased is that kink itself and
BDSM were radical acts ofresistance too.
(07:26):
Before civil rights gained anytraction, kinky spaces were a
lot of times the only placeswhere queer people could form
relationships that were freefrom shame.
Kink subcultures really gavepeople safety when you know the
outside world was saying yoursexuality is dirty and you don't
(07:47):
belong here.
But these spaces let queerpeople explore desire to explore
love and intimacy in ways thatwere really affirming instead of
condemning and judging.
And one of my favorite examplesof this is flagging or the hanky
code, if you've heard it usedthat way.
But flagging is the practice ofwearing handkerchiefs in
(08:11):
different colors.
You tuck them in in your backpocket, and it just really
discreetly shows what you'reinterested in.
So different colors meantdifferent kinks, different
roles, different desires youwere into, and even the
different side of the pantspocket would mean something
(08:31):
totally different, too.
So it was this whole code, andto outsiders, it just looked
like a fashion accessory.
But to those who knew about it,to the insiders, it was a
radical act.
It really said, I'm here, I'mqueer, and I'm kinky, and come
(08:52):
find me if you're interested.
I always kind of laugh becausebasically we had grinder before
there was grinders.
So flagging wasn't just aboutsex, though, it was about
finding each other in a worldthat really didn't want us to
exist.
And it's important because itshows us that kink has always
(09:12):
been about more than play.
It's about survival, it's aboutbuilding community in a world
that has tried to erase us.
And let's be real, that erasurestill happens today.
Because have you ever noticedthat critics will always point
to the extremes, like the SanFrancisco Pride Parade or Folsom
(09:35):
Streets Fair, which is also inSan Francisco, they will use
these events to shame the LGBTQcommunity and use it to shame
pride too.
I'm from the San Francisco BayArea, and yes, it is the
extreme.
Outdoor nudity is legal atevents in San Francisco.
It's always been the extreme,and it's honestly not for the
(09:58):
faint of heart.
So, of course, that's what youknow the critics and the
homophobes tend to show whenthey're talking about pride and
these different events becausethey don't want people to see
that kink and queerness is alsoabout joy and intimacy and
creativity.
They want to reduce us to aspectacle and to a stereotype.
(10:23):
But queer joy and kink joy arepowerful because they're
unapologetic.
They say, my body is mine, mypleasure is mine, my joy is
mine, and you don't get to takethat away.
So, what do I mean by radicalself-ownership though?
Well, radical means thorough.
It means going all the way downto the foundation, and
(10:47):
self-ownership means taking backwhat was honestly always ours,
our bodies, our pleasure, ourqueerness.
Kink is radical because it takeswhat the world told us to hide.
So things like our sexuality,our desires, our queerness, and
it turns it into celebrationinstead.
(11:07):
So again, here are some of theways we can have radical
self-ownership through kink.
It means claiming our bodies.
So kink invites us to say thatthis is what feels good for me,
whether that's being tied up orbeing worshipped or even saying
no, kink is about choice.
Um, in BDSM, we even havesomething called safe words.
(11:31):
So you might say a word likeyellow during play when you want
to slow down or you're at yourlimit.
And then there's the word redwhen all play needs to stop.
So it's really about choice.
And then there's creatingfreedom.
So in kink, we get to write ourown rules.
(11:51):
And and this is even if we'resolo or partnered in sexual or
not, whether we want to do itgentle or extreme.
The only non-negotiable isconsent.
Um, one of my students once toldme, he said, before Kink, I
thought I was broken because Icouldn't fit the script of
(12:12):
vanilla sex and vanillarelationships.
But Kink really gave him a newscript, um, one that he was able
to write himself.
And that's the magic of radicalself-ownership.
And then there's buildingcommunity.
So, like we talked about withleather bars and flagging, and
then we have dungeons.
(12:32):
Kink has always created chosenfamily, people who remind us
that we're not broken, we'refabulous just the way we are.
But here's the key engaging inkink today isn't just about
personal pleasure.
It's connecting with a lineageof queer resistance.
Every time you explore kink,you're part of a history that
(12:56):
said, we will not be erased, wewill not live in shame, we will
live in joy.
That's radical self-ownership.
Okay, let's get practical.
I want to leave you with threesteps you can take this week to
bring more queer joy throughkink.
And I'll give you a wholespectrum here from tame things
you can do to extreme things youcan do so you can choose what
(13:19):
fits your comfort level.
So, step one is to redefinepleasure for yourself.
So, some tame ways you can dothat are journaling about what
feels good.
So, this can be differenttextures, sensations, music,
fabrics.
You can even use something youknow simple like ice cubes, and
then we have more extremethings.
(13:40):
So you can experiment withsensory play.
So things like blindfolds,restraints, impact toys, wax
play, even edging, and explorewhat new forms of pleasure feel
like to you.
And it doesn't have to beexpensive either.
You can use common wholehousehold items like
(14:01):
clothespins, suit ties, woodenspoons, even.
I have one of those.
Just let your kinky imaginationrun wild.
And then step two is to playwith ritual.
So some tame ideas are just tolight a candle or say a mantra
before bed, and then someextreme things you can do is
(14:22):
create a solo or partneredritual scene.
So you can even dress in fetishgear if you want, you can set up
toys and just perform a symbolicact of empowerment.
I know a Dom sub couple who do aritual where the submissive
kneels and removes the Dom'sshoes at the door, you know,
(14:42):
every evening when they comehome from work.
It's a couple minutes, but itgrounds their whole dynamic.
And then step number three is toname one radical act that you
can do.
So some tame ideas you can do isjust wear something that's
unapologetically queer or kinkyin public.
(15:03):
You can actually see me here inthis photo wearing my pride
shirt, and you can see I have adiscrete, submissive collar that
I, you know, do wear out inpublic so people can see that.
But some extreme things you cando is visit a dungeon.
Just honestly go on Google andfind dungeons in your area.
(15:24):
You can flag in public, you cantake a workshop or class and
learn a new skill, or negotiatea you know, total power exchange
scene with a partner, or you caneven attend a pride march or
queer event in full kink gear,you know, like those pictures I
showed you.
(15:45):
Obviously, just be sure to checkthe event dress code.
But the point isn't whether youpick the tame or extreme
version.
This isn't a competition.
The point is that every time youchoose joy and play and
authenticity, you're reclaimingyourself.
(16:05):
So today we talked about whatkink really is, how it connects
with queerness, and how it helpsus reclaim radical
self-ownership.
And if you remember nothingelse, know that queer joy isn't
a luxury, it's a radical act.
And kink isn't about beingextreme, it's about
(16:26):
unapologetically choosingyourself.
Now, if you're sitting herethinking, okay, this sounds
amazing, but where do I start?
I got you.
I created a free kinkpersonality quiz that helps you
discover your unique kink style.
It's quick, it's fun, and itgives you personalized next
steps to explore your joy.
(16:47):
You can take it atdomsubliving.com slash joy.
It's the perfect starting pointwhether you're brand new or just
curious about where you mightfit.
And from there, you'll also getaccess to more tools and
resources to keep your journeygoing.
You can also check out mypodcast and YouTube channel and
step-by-step courses there aswell.
(17:08):
Now go out there, light thatcandle, write that journal
entry, put on that leatherharness, go to that dungeon.
Whatever radical joy looks likefor you, claim it.
Because your body is yours, yourpleasure is yours, your
queerness is yours, and that isworth celebrating.
Thank you so much for beinghere.
Be sure to take the Kinkpersonality type quiz at
(17:30):
domsubliving.comslash joy.
And I cannot wait to see how youstep into your radical self
ownership through the power ofKink.
Kink has always been part of queer history, not just
adjacent to it, but actuallypart of it.
And most people, even educatorsin the kink community, have no
idea.
I'm Alessandra from DomSubliving, and what I'm sharing
with you today was originally apresentation I gave for the
Queer Joy Summit.
(00:20):
If you've ever wondered wheremodern kink actually came from,
this might completely change theway you see kink, pride, and
queer history.
Welcome to the Dom Sublivingpodcast.
Before we dive in, let me clearsomething up right away.
Kink isn't just whips andchains, it isn't only about sex,
(00:41):
and it's definitely not just theextreme images you see in movies
or from places like FolsomStreet Fair in San Francisco.
I know when I first startedexploring Kink, I thought I was
doing it completely wrongbecause it didn't look like what
I saw online.
But the first time I startedexploring and just really let
myself play, it really hit methat this is about joy.
(01:07):
And that was my first taste ofradical self-ownership.
So kink at its heart is aboutjoy and creativity and freedom.
It's about radicalself-ownership.
It means taking back our bodies,our pleasure, and our queerness.
And today I'm going to show youhow kink and queer joy go hand
(01:28):
in hand.
And I'm going to give youpractical tools that you can
use.
And this will work whetheryou're single or you have a
partner, whether you're shy oryou're bold or you're brand new
or you're already curious andmaybe playing a little bit on
your own.
So let's start simple.
What is kink?
Well, kink is anything playfulor creative or just intentional
(01:52):
and that exists outside ofvanilla sex and relationships.
Vanilla obviously is ourcultural default.
It's the scripts we've beenhanded about how intimacy should
look.
But vanilla isn't bad.
It's just not the only flavorout there.
Kink is when we ask, what elsecould pleasure look like?
(02:16):
What else could connection looklike?
So for example, that could meanrole play.
It could mean bondage.
It could mean something simplelike lighting a candle before
solo play.
It could mean wearing somethingthat makes you feel powerful.
But another term you're going tohear me use a lot is BDSM.
(02:37):
So I just wanted to break itdown really quick.
Um, but it's actually um fourideas combined into one acronym.
So B stands for bondage.
So this is using restraints likerope and cuffs or even a scarf
to just really limit movement.
Some people find it playful orcomforting, others find it you
(03:01):
know sexy or exciting.
And then the D is fordiscipline.
So this is the structure and therules and sometimes punishments
or correction that can be partof the dynamic that you've
consented to.
So think of it as training andaccountability or rituals, it's
(03:21):
not just spankings, and then wehave the DS.
So this is D for dominance and Sfor submission.
So this is the power exchangeside.
So one person takes on a moreleading role, that's the
dominant, and then the otherchooses to follow or yield, and
that is the submissive, andthat's what I identify as.
(03:43):
So it's about trust, it's notabout one person being better.
And then you may have heard of Sand M.
So the S is sadism and the M ismasochism.
So this is where you're playingwith giving and receiving
intense sensations.
So it could be things likespanking or impact play, but
even tickling is can be a formof play.
(04:07):
And you know, for a lot ofpeople, this brings, you know,
catharsis in the body, it bringsrelease, but it can even bring
joy.
And together, BDSM is a wholemenu of possibilities.
You don't have to try them all.
In fact, most people onlyexplore the pieces that speak to
them.
But what unites all of this isconsent and communication and
(04:31):
choice.
But let's bust some mythsbecause I know they're out there
and maybe you've believed someof them.
So, myth number one is that kinkis about abuse.
So, healthy kink is built onconsent and trust and respect.
Um, in fact, a lot of kinkspaces will do consent better
(04:52):
than mainstream spaces or clubs.
I once went to my first dungeonand I was really nervous and
awkward, but I was so surprisedto hear people talking about
boundaries and checking in ontheir partner's comfort and
explain consent frameworks thatI had just really never heard of
in vanilla dating experiences.
(05:14):
And that moment just reallyflipped the script for me and
made me see that kink can feel alot safer than a lot of dating
apps ever did.
And the myth number two is thatkink is always sexual.
So nope, on this one, you can dokink rituals that have nothing
to do with sex at all.
Um, one of my students created aritual where she kneels to
(05:38):
meditate every morning in herBDSM collar.
It's not sexual at all, but shetold me it's the most grounding,
empowering part of her day.
And then myth number three isthat kink is only the extremes
that you see online.
So leather harnesses, floggers,cages, and sure, those things do
(06:00):
exist, but most kink is muchgentler, it's quiet, and it's
even more creative than that.
So if the only images you'veseen of kink come from Fifty
Shades of Grey or from randomhomophobes on the internet when
they rant about pride parades, Iwant you to imagine instead that
(06:23):
kink can be joy, it could belaughter, it could be play,
trust, creativity, and choice.
So that's kink.
Now let's talk about how kinkand queerness overlap because
you may be thinking, what doeskink have to do with the topic
of queer joy?
What is this lady even talkingabout?
Why is she here?
(06:44):
Well, queer and kinkycommunities have always been
connected.
So think leather bars, dragshows, early pride marches.
Kink was there from thebeginning.
And the reason is because bothqueer people and kinky people
have been told the same thingthat you're wrong for wanting
(07:05):
what you want.
So here's where I want to bringin some queer history.
So when we celebrate queerhistory, we usually think about
our elders who fought for rightsand visibility.
But what a lot of times getserased is that kink itself and
BDSM were radical acts ofresistance too.
(07:26):
Before civil rights gained anytraction, kinky spaces were a
lot of times the only placeswhere queer people could form
relationships that were freefrom shame.
Kink subcultures really gavepeople safety when you know the
outside world was saying yoursexuality is dirty and you don't
(07:47):
belong here.
But these spaces let queerpeople explore desire to explore
love and intimacy in ways thatwere really affirming instead of
condemning and judging.
And one of my favorite examplesof this is flagging or the hanky
code, if you've heard it usedthat way.
But flagging is the practice ofwearing handkerchiefs in
(08:11):
different colors.
You tuck them in in your backpocket, and it just really
discreetly shows what you'reinterested in.
So different colors meantdifferent kinks, different
roles, different desires youwere into, and even the
different side of the pantspocket would mean something
(08:31):
totally different, too.
So it was this whole code, andto outsiders, it just looked
like a fashion accessory.
But to those who knew about it,to the insiders, it was a
radical act.
It really said, I'm here, I'mqueer, and I'm kinky, and come
(08:52):
find me if you're interested.
I always kind of laugh becausebasically we had grinder before
there was grinders.
So flagging wasn't just aboutsex, though, it was about
finding each other in a worldthat really didn't want us to
exist.
And it's important because itshows us that kink has always
(09:12):
been about more than play.
It's about survival, it's aboutbuilding community in a world
that has tried to erase us.
And let's be real, that erasurestill happens today.
Because have you ever noticedthat critics will always point
to the extremes, like the SanFrancisco Pride Parade or Folsom
(09:35):
Streets Fair, which is also inSan Francisco, they will use
these events to shame the LGBTQcommunity and use it to shame
pride too.
I'm from the San Francisco BayArea, and yes, it is the
extreme.
Outdoor nudity is legal atevents in San Francisco.
It's always been the extreme,and it's honestly not for the
(09:58):
faint of heart.
So, of course, that's what youknow the critics and the
homophobes tend to show whenthey're talking about pride and
these different events becausethey don't want people to see
that kink and queerness is alsoabout joy and intimacy and
creativity.
They want to reduce us to aspectacle and to a stereotype.
(10:23):
But queer joy and kink joy arepowerful because they're
unapologetic.
They say, my body is mine, mypleasure is mine, my joy is
mine, and you don't get to takethat away.
So, what do I mean by radicalself-ownership though?
Well, radical means thorough.
It means going all the way downto the foundation, and
(10:47):
self-ownership means taking backwhat was honestly always ours,
our bodies, our pleasure, ourqueerness.
Kink is radical because it takeswhat the world told us to hide.
So things like our sexuality,our desires, our queerness, and
it turns it into celebrationinstead.
(11:07):
So again, here are some of theways we can have radical
self-ownership through kink.
It means claiming our bodies.
So kink invites us to say thatthis is what feels good for me,
whether that's being tied up orbeing worshipped or even saying
no, kink is about choice.
Um, in BDSM, we even havesomething called safe words.
(11:31):
So you might say a word likeyellow during play when you want
to slow down or you're at yourlimit.
And then there's the word redwhen all play needs to stop.
So it's really about choice.
And then there's creatingfreedom.
So in kink, we get to write ourown rules.
(11:51):
And and this is even if we'resolo or partnered in sexual or
not, whether we want to do itgentle or extreme.
The only non-negotiable isconsent.
Um, one of my students once toldme, he said, before Kink, I
thought I was broken because Icouldn't fit the script of
(12:12):
vanilla sex and vanillarelationships.
But Kink really gave him a newscript, um, one that he was able
to write himself.
And that's the magic of radicalself-ownership.
And then there's buildingcommunity.
So, like we talked about withleather bars and flagging, and
then we have dungeons.
(12:32):
Kink has always created chosenfamily, people who remind us
that we're not broken, we'refabulous just the way we are.
But here's the key engaging inkink today isn't just about
personal pleasure.
It's connecting with a lineageof queer resistance.
Every time you explore kink,you're part of a history that
(12:56):
said, we will not be erased, wewill not live in shame, we will
live in joy.
That's radical self-ownership.
Okay, let's get practical.
I want to leave you with threesteps you can take this week to
bring more queer joy throughkink.
And I'll give you a wholespectrum here from tame things
you can do to extreme things youcan do so you can choose what
(13:19):
fits your comfort level.
So, step one is to redefinepleasure for yourself.
So, some tame ways you can dothat are journaling about what
feels good.
So, this can be differenttextures, sensations, music,
fabrics.
You can even use something youknow simple like ice cubes, and
then we have more extremethings.
(13:40):
So you can experiment withsensory play.
So things like blindfolds,restraints, impact toys, wax
play, even edging, and explorewhat new forms of pleasure feel
like to you.
And it doesn't have to beexpensive either.
You can use common wholehousehold items like
(14:01):
clothespins, suit ties, woodenspoons, even.
I have one of those.
Just let your kinky imaginationrun wild.
And then step two is to playwith ritual.
So some tame ideas are just tolight a candle or say a mantra
before bed, and then someextreme things you can do is
(14:22):
create a solo or partneredritual scene.
So you can even dress in fetishgear if you want, you can set up
toys and just perform a symbolicact of empowerment.
I know a Dom sub couple who do aritual where the submissive
kneels and removes the Dom'sshoes at the door, you know,
(14:42):
every evening when they comehome from work.
It's a couple minutes, but itgrounds their whole dynamic.
And then step number three is toname one radical act that you
can do.
So some tame ideas you can do isjust wear something that's
unapologetically queer or kinkyin public.
(15:03):
You can actually see me here inthis photo wearing my pride
shirt, and you can see I have adiscrete, submissive collar that
I, you know, do wear out inpublic so people can see that.
But some extreme things you cando is visit a dungeon.
Just honestly go on Google andfind dungeons in your area.
(15:24):
You can flag in public, you cantake a workshop or class and
learn a new skill, or negotiatea you know, total power exchange
scene with a partner, or you caneven attend a pride march or
queer event in full kink gear,you know, like those pictures I
showed you.
(15:45):
Obviously, just be sure to checkthe event dress code.
But the point isn't whether youpick the tame or extreme
version.
This isn't a competition.
The point is that every time youchoose joy and play and
authenticity, you're reclaimingyourself.
(16:05):
So today we talked about whatkink really is, how it connects
with queerness, and how it helpsus reclaim radical
self-ownership.
And if you remember nothingelse, know that queer joy isn't
a luxury, it's a radical act.
And kink isn't about beingextreme, it's about
(16:26):
unapologetically choosingyourself.
Now, if you're sitting herethinking, okay, this sounds
amazing, but where do I start?
I got you.
I created a free kinkpersonality quiz that helps you
discover your unique kink style.
It's quick, it's fun, and itgives you personalized next
steps to explore your joy.
(16:47):
You can take it atdomsubliving.com slash joy.
It's the perfect starting pointwhether you're brand new or just
curious about where you mightfit.
And from there, you'll also getaccess to more tools and
resources to keep your journeygoing.
You can also check out mypodcast and YouTube channel and
step-by-step courses there aswell.
(17:08):
Now go out there, light thatcandle, write that journal
entry, put on that leatherharness, go to that dungeon.
Whatever radical joy looks likefor you, claim it.
Because your body is yours, yourpleasure is yours, your
queerness is yours, and that isworth celebrating.
Thank you so much for beinghere.
Be sure to take the Kinkpersonality type quiz at
(17:30):
domsubliving.comslash joy.
And I cannot wait to see how youstep into your radical self
ownership through the power ofKink.
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