May 27, 2025 • 42 mins
What if the next sentence you speak to your child could rewrite years of silence?
I walk through four anchors for any dad who feels forgotten. First, it’s not too late to step back into your children’s lives, even if anger or distance stands in the way. Second, your blessing still matters; a father’s voice can call out design, not just describe behavior. Third, words either imprison or unlock destiny, so we trade chronic sarcasm for a practice of specific, consistent affirmation. Finally, we receive identity before we give it—like Jacob becoming Israel and renaming Ben-Oni to Benjamin—so our blessing springs from a deeper source than willpower.
You’ll hear practical ways to repair trust. We talk about shifting the family culture—from teasing to training, from criticism to coaching—and how short, daily blessings plant courage. If your own father never blessed you, I'll guide you to a prayer to receive that identity from God so you can pass it on with integrity.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
What kind of father do you want to be?
What kind of man do you want tobecome for your family and for
yourself?
If you've ever wondered how tostep into the fullness of your
role as a father, husband, andman of God, then you're in the
right place.
Here at the Father Difference,our mission is to inspire and
equip men to be the best fathersthey can be.
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It's a powerful mission.
And today, we're going toexplore exactly how you can take
steps toward that calling.
Whether you're a father, a son,a husband, grandfather, single
dad, stepfather, or just lookingto grow, I believe God has
something powerful for you intoday's message.
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former NFL player, After EdMcGlass.
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There would love for you to check in on the comments.
Let me know what's going on,where you're coming from.
And trying to get here we go,Instagram finally kicked in and
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the real treasure is.
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Instagram and Rumble for all myfriends out there in Rumble.
So great to be with you.
I'm your host, Ed Tane McLean,and today we're going to talk
about fatherhood.
We're going to start a serieshere that's coming up that's all
about father.
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And I am officially, you know,it's not a national holiday yet,
but uh I'm officially announcingthat the month of June is a
month of fatherhood.
We're gonna celebrate dads, allkinds of dads.
Single dads, regular dads,granddads, grandpops, opas, if
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you are like me with mygrandkids in in Europe, uh,
which is German or Swiss forgrandpa.
We're gonna celebrate dadsbecause you matter.
And I I'm I'm grateful that thethe president is uh renaming
this month to some other things.
We're also honoring theveterans, which are in a real
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sense of fathers in their ownright in our country, in all
their sacrifice.
We just had Memorial Day.
If you didn't get my posts aboutmy dad and and my grandfather,
you can we'll make sure we getthat to you.
But uh, I'm so grateful to bewith you and talk to you about
this incredible privilege thatwe have of being a father.
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And to and tonight we're gonnatalk about just the you know for
every one of the of you dads outthere who feels overlooked or
maybe forgotten out there.
And uh welcome Dr.
Dave and good to see you, Rick,and and people are starting to
chime in now.
Uh we get some rumble people,and tonight uh we're gonna talk
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about to the father who feelsforgotten.
And uh, I got to let you know,we have not forgotten you, God
has not forgotten you.
As a matter of fact, in the inthe priority of God's kingdom,
is there is nothing morepowerful than the role of what a
father can do in the life of hischildren, the life of his
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family, the way he loves mama,and the way he loves his kids.
And we're going to talk aboutjust the four things that happen
that's incredibly powerful justto encourage you that you're not
forgotten and that your rolereally does matter.
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Really does matter.
If you got comments orquestions, would love for you to
uh send those to me tonight.
And uh so let's get right intowhat we're gonna talk about.
And tonight we're gonna talkabout to the father who feels
forgotten.
Well, you know, I meet dads allthe time.
I meet dads who think that theywill never matter, that they've
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loaned it.
It's it's too far gone.
And I want to start out justwith a story, a short story that
happened when I wrote in mybook, The Difference the Father
Makes, and a young dad got it.
Actually, a dad got it.
Here's the the book right here.
If you've not read this, you canstill get copies of this.
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We download it also for free asa gift, and uh, it's one of our
banners right there.
If you want to get this book,but we had a dad uh get this
book, and uh and he wrote me aletter and told me that it's
been years since he is talkingto his daughter.
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He had gotten divorced, and ithad been many years.
The last time he was around herlife, she was somewhere around
13 years old.
But the ex-wife cut that dadoff, thinking that she was
protecting maybe her children orher daughter at the time.
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And yet the bitterness so manytimes in divorce, it's very easy
for you to cut out one of themost important people in the
life of your children.
And and you gotta have both amom and a dad both have
incredibly powerful roles in thelife and the development of a
child.
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Well, this mom cuts him out, andhe reads my book, and he says in
his in his letter, in his emailto me, I've been crying for
days.
I I I can't put it down.
And is it ever too late for meto be a dad in my daughter's
story?
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So immediately I I call up hisnumber.
He was in Texas, his childrenwere back in Ohio, and he said,
Is is it ever too late?
And so I I began to uh Iencouraged him.
He said, I've written for years,and my daughter has never
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responded to a single letter.
I said, just write one more.
And I'm we're gonna praytogether and we're gonna ask
that your daughter would wouldread that letter.
Well, he sends a letter off,he's from Texas, goes to Ohio,
and about a week later, he getsa phone call out of the blue.
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Guess from who?
His daughter.
And she says, Is is this my dad?
And he he was just, can youimagine that moment?
Haven't talked to your daughterin many, many years.
And he goes, uh yes it is.
He says, I would like to meetwith you, she said, because I
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have a question to ask you.
And so they agree to meet, heflies up to Ohio where she's
living, and they agree to meetat uh at a public restaurant.
And so he gets her early, as youcan imagine.
Imagine sitting in a booth, andyou haven't seen your daughter
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in in many years.
You don't know really what shelooks like.
The only pictures you have arewhen she was a little girl, and
then all of a sudden comes agirl who's already probably
pre-crying as she's entering therestaurant.
She sees her dad across the roomand off she walks over, sits
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down in a booth.
Remember him telling me thisstory on the phone, was with so
many tears in his eyes.
I I couldn't see his eyesactually in his voice.
And his daughter said to him,Daddy, before you say anything,
I want to ask you a question.
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He said, What's that?
Was I that ugly?
What?
he said.
Dad, I couldn't figure out whyyou never hugged me, loved me,
touched me, and I just figuredthat the real reason why you
divorced mom was that I wasugly.
You didn't want to be with meanymore.
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Can you imagine hearing thosewords?
And he said, Oh no, sweetheart,I that's not what happened.
You see, your dad was reallybroken back then.
Matter of fact, your dad had apornography issue really bad,
and uh and I was so afraid itmight affect you that I stayed
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away and I am so sorry.
Would you forgive me for notbeing there, loving you,
touching you, hugging you?
And he told me that she leaptacross the booth in the diner
they were in, and just huggedhis neck, crying out, Daddy,
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Daddy, I've waited so long to bewith you after all these years.
And they talk and they catch upas much as they can, and she
says, Would you follow me to myhome?
I have a gift for you.
And off they go, and justimagine it's the moment for this
dad.
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And she pulls in the back of thehouse, he goes into the front,
it's a gravel driveway, he said,and he walks in, and there's a
screen door on the front.
And as he's walking up the stepsof this older kind of
Elizabethan style house, hehears from his daughter, he's
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here, and out from the back ofthe house are two grandchildren
running and screaming, Papa,Papa, to the grandfather they
never met.
Imagine that moment.
Incredible moment where hisdaughter had spent a lifetime in
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this lie in a question that thedevil does so many times to
isolate and to get yourchildren, dad, away from you.
And this story is dramatic andincredibly powerful, but it it
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gives us a clue of the truth ofthe power of a father in the
life of a child.
Even though there was divorceand there was separation and
there was hurt and all thesethings, it's never too late for
God to restore children to afather.
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That's one of the most that'sone of the most amazing things
that I get to experience, youknow, every month at the Father
Difference Ministry here iswatching families reunited,
watching dads learn things anddevelop and become part of our
fatherhood academy and begin tolearn how to really be the
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father that maybe they never hadin their own story.
So I'm going to talk to you justabout four things, you know,
that there are there.
There are many more, but justfour tonight for the sake of our
time together.
To uh be a blessing to you.
And so to the father who feelsforgotten, here's number one no
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matter how bad you think you'veblown it as a dad, it's never
too late for you to be part ofyour children's life.
And see, the reason why that isis because you carry something,
Dad.
You might not feel it, you mightthink you have completely blown
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it.
But you carry something insideof you.
You carry an authority, you youcarry this voice, you carry this
incredible power inside of youand authority from God to help
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your children discover who God'smade your kids to be.
And they're always looking atyou.
I I remember when my sons werewould do things to drive my wife
crazy, they would always belooking towards me.
To wonder what I thought.
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Whether it's a baseball game ora football game or a golf match.
Even to this day, my oldest sonEd, I can tell he's he does
something, he's looking towardsme.
What does my dad think?
It's because we we carry thisincredible privilege.
We're the, you know, whether wehave lived a great life or not,
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we're the first image to ourchildren, someone once wrote
years ago of who God the Fatheris.
That that authority, that thatthat person that carries this
anointing, if you want to usethat word, this this gift to be
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able to help their childrendiscover who they are.
And when you use it well, it itunlocks your children to who
God's called them to be.
When you do it bad, it canreally wound them.
But here's the good news nomatter how good or bad you did
it, it's never too late torepair those things, even if
your children don't wantanything to do with you.
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You know, with all the crazinessin the culture and all of the
psychology that's kind ofdripped in and now taking over
parts of the church, there'sgood part of just of counseling
and wisdom and and humanunderstanding and psychology,
but without the power of God andwithout the with the structure
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of what a family is supposed tobe, our children are going to
forever wonder about who theyare and what they've been made
for.
That's why you matter.
That's why your job is neverreally done.
See, I've watched thousands offathers, you know, become part
of their kids' lives again.
It's one of the most amazingthings.
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I had an event this past weekendwith a dad that uh I was able to
give a word to.
And we had many men get saved atthis event, and about
three-quarters of the room cameforward for the blessing of the
father.
Because they were raised in ahome when the dad never had a
model from his own father abouthow to bless his children, how
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to speak life into his children.
When you see that in a group ofmen, I was with Frank Suntag,
amazing godly man.
And we're going to start postingsome of that event online.
So be watching for it.
And also Vince Evans, you know,the great USC quarterback Vince
Evans, who shared this amazingtestimony about how he came to
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know Jesus playing for theRaiders.
Can you imagine playing for theRaiders and encountering Christ?
It can happen.
My best friend Brian Holloway,who you're going to hear from
more in the future.
Him and I are talking about aproject to do together.
He has been my best friend sincewe've been in high school.
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And even though your kids inthis slide here, even though
your kids maybe even beingraised by great stepdads out
there, your children will neverhave another birth father like
you.
You still carry God's authorityin your life, even if you've not
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been a good dad.
So don't quit.
Get in there.
They need you in their life.
You might be saying, yeah, butyeah, my kids are really angry.
I totally get that.
I absolutely totally get that.
And I've you know been coachingmen long enough to know how
easily and quickly we cutourselves out of the story
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because we think we're not goodfor our kids.
But, you know, a present dad isway more powerful than no dad at
all.
No dad at all.
Number two, your kids still needyour blessing in their life.
So you carry almost like aprophetic gift in the way you
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can speak life or death intoyour kids.
And your kids might even havesaid to you, you're dead to me,
or I don't need you in my life.
I've had young people say thatto their dads and then get with
them and meet with them.
And, you know, I remember thisyoung man that was just so angry
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with his father, could notunderstand why he was so brutal
until he discovered that his ownfather went through the same
story and began to understandthat his dad gave him what he
had, even though it wasn't much.
And he and he he learned how toforgive his dad and ended up
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taking my book, The Difference aFather Makes, the one I talked
to you about earlier.
Taking this book to his fatherand them reading this together.
And somehow in the midst of hisson you know coming back and uh
blessing his father, it began torestore their relationship, and
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that dad encountered Jesus forhimself before he went to
heaven.
What a powerful thing.
I call that operation bless upwhen a son takes the blessing
that he's received from God theFather for himself to his dad,
whose dad never gave it to him.
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Because behind every broken dadis a father who's didn't know
how to be a good dad.
Or there's sometimes as a sonyou just didn't want what your
dad had, and you just figuredyou're just gonna do your life
on your own.
And guess what?
That doesn't end well, does it?
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So, number two, your kids stillneed your blessing.
Number three, no, before we getto number three, so see, what
your kids don't understand isthat you, as their father, carry
an authority given to you by Godto be their father and to bless
them.
And I love this scripture here,this promise in First Peter and
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the message.
And it's talking about how weshould use our voice, especially
as a father.
And he says, that goes for allof you, no exceptions, no
retaliation, no sharp tonguecriticism or tongue sarcasm.
Instead, bless, that's your jobto bless, and you'll be a
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blessing, but also get ablessing.
There's something that happensthat, you know, God speaking
through Peter that happens inour life when we move from
maybe, you know, the familypattern of sort of making fun of
one another and and teasing oneanother to really speaking life
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into one another and to reallyblessing them.
I mean, I I carried into myfamily as a dad kind of the
locker room making fun of oneanother when they come in.
That's kind of the what happensin an NFL locker room, guys are
sitting there, and if somebodywoke up late or their hair is is
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going the wrong way, and or itlooks worse for the wear because
of a crazy night after a game,walks into the locker room.
Oh boy, people are just teeingoff on them.
And I I got to experience thattoo.
And you know, it's it beingteased, making fun of is never a
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powerful thing.
It it's a powerful thing to topush you down.
But think about some of yourways that you speak to your
children, even in jesting, andwhen you're making fun, they
really feel as though there'splaces that that you don't love
about them.
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And it's very hurtful.
I did it to my kids, and I hadto I had to own it, and I had to
ask for forgiveness.
And boy, that was a powerful dayin my family when I realized
that my tongue has uh what theBible says has great power to
give life or start a fire.
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You know, even James, you know,the the brother of Jesus said,
if you can you can control whatcomes out of your mouth, what
you say, you can keep yourselffrom sinning.
Man, isn't that true?
Imagine if that criteria was puton the media today.
People don't understand thatthis this little thing called a
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tongue has great power to blesssort of curse.
And so it's much better tobless.
Number three, your words carrythe power to either unlock their
your kids' destiny or imprisonthem like many of you have been
imprisoned by words.
And you know, I I used to indoing men's events uh ask
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questions of the guys that werecoming.
And uh and I would and I wouldsay, you know, what was the name
that your dad most called youwhen you were a young man?
What was that word?
What was that name?
And more often than not, thename was really derogatory, or
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it was very demeaning and almosta curse word at times because of
the disgust of the father thatyou weren't what you were
supposed to be.
And so those words havetremendous to tremendous power
over the person that hears them.
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It's the same way if you noticedif you're married with your
wife, when you're telling herwhat you love about her, and you
look at her eyes and the way shereacts, it's a completely
different thing compared to whenyou're being critical or you're
you're speaking down, and soGod's made us in such a way that
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we were actually created, we'rea voice activated human beings.
And the more we begin tounderstand, you know, about how
powerful that is over our lives.
And if you think about who isyour your best friends in your
story, who would you say theyare?
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Well, I know the ones in mylife.
You know who my best friendsare?
Are the people who speak lifeinto me.
And it's not that they don'tever help correct me or or teach
me, but those are the peoplethat that that I love being
around.
Who are the people that I resistcompletely?
And those are people who thinkthey're smarter than me all the
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time, and they want to correctme all the time.
Who do you spend time with?
So your words carry power.
So whether your kids are open toyou right now or not, and we're
going to talk about this nextmonth and the month of
fatherhood, how to open yourkids up when they've been closed
down.
They still have these deepquestions inside of them about
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who they are, what God's madethem for.
And guess when that questionfinally gets answered?
Well, it gets answered by theLord one day, but they're going
to ask you over and over andover.
I have all of my sons anddaughters are now adults.
They have families on their own,minus one who's not married yet,
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but they still call dad forencouragement, for words.
And most of those times I amfeeding back to them and helping
them discover their own answersand and blessing them.
And they call me.
And I it's it's one of the mostpowerful things in my life is
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when my sons and daughters callme and go, hey dad, how are you
doing?
Let me tell you what happenedtoday.
Gosh, what a gift.
Didn't start out that way.
So, where's the blessing of thefather found in the Bible?
I'm going to share one littlenugget with you, and then we're
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going to tie together and praytogether.
But I just love this storybecause it's so powerful.
And it says that God appeared toJacob when he came from Padran
Aram and blessed him.
And the way God blessed him wasthat he said, Your name, Jacob,
your name is Jacob, no longerwill be called Jacob, but
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Israel.
So he changed his name.
Well, why is that?
Well, Jacob has a meaning of,watch out, hold your wallow.
Jacob was a great deal maker.
And God changed his name fromJacob because he had a destiny
in the heart of God the Fatherthat was way bigger than what
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his name could could be about.
And so he changed his name toIsrael, which in one of the
understandings of Israel isfather of many nations.
So here God blesses Jacob, who'sreally on the lamb and hiding
out from his brother, because hegot blessed and his brother
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didn't.
And Jacob was a one with thecoat of many colors.
And you know, you see this wholething, that dynamic that
happened in that family.
And it says that as he so hecalled his name Israel and says
to him, I am the Lord GodAlmighty, be fruitful and
multiply.
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And we see that right back inthe book of Genesis: a nation
and a company of nations willcome from you.
I'm going to bless you in such away where you're going to father
many nations, and kings willcome from your own body.
You imagine receiving this.
And this is really before he'shad his first son and his wife,
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who's very pregnant, you know,there, you know, and he had left
to go seek the Lord.
And then he says, and the landthat I gave to Abraham and
Isaac, I'm going to give to you,and I will give you this land
and also to your offspring afteryou.
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So God's blessing upon you as afather goes on to not only to
you, but to your family and tothe difference you're going to
make in your life.
That's how big the blessing ofthe father is on a man's life.
So now he goes back to find hiswife, who's, you know, was close
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to having a baby.
Now he finds her.
And as he finds her, she hasdied in childbirth.
And he wasn't there to name thatbaby.
And look what the Bible says.
And as her soul was dying, forshe was dying, as her soul was
departing, I mean, and she wasdying, she then names this boy,
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because she didn't want her sonshe had just given birth to to
not have an identity or a name.
She named him Benomi, Ben Oni.
And in Hebrew, Ben Oni means sonof my sorrow.
And but I gotta tell you, ifthere's one thing I've seen
around the world, is I see sonsof sorrow everywhere who are
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only named by moms.
Saw in the National FootballLeague, I saw it in life, I saw
that with so many differentpeople.
They they live this life ofsorrow like they never make it.
They're always looking for anupgrade.
They're not clear about who theyare, they're not clear about who
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God has called them to bebecause their dad wasn't there
to name them and bless them.
How about you?
Your own story with your dad.
But look what happens here.
But his father, whose name isnow Israel, renames him
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Benjamin, which Benjamin meansson of my right hand.
And in a moment, a dad blessed ason named by mom, son of my
sorrow, to Benjamin, son of myright hand.
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And the tribe of Benjamin wasborn.
The Benjamites, they were afierce tribe that God used in
powerful ways to even bringdiscipline to Israel in the
future.
The Benjamites are still aroundtoday because of a father's
words.
That's how powerful a dad'sblessing is with children.
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You see it right there.
God backed up that father.
First, we received that blessingfor ourselves, just like Jacob
did.
And as we receive thatourselves, we then have that
same blessing in us for the sakeof our children.
Powerful stuff.
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To the father who feelsdiscouraged, don't be
discouraged, my friend.
Forgotten, don't be discouraged,don't give up.
And remember that your voiceover your children has great
power.
I mean, life-changing power toeither limit or expand the
horizons of your children.
Your words do over yourchildren.
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So I want you just to think fora moment.
You know, you just we just camethrough Memorial Day, or maybe
you were with your kids orthey're far away.
Think about your conversationwith your children.
And how much of thatconversation are you blessing
them and speaking life intothem?
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How many times, maybe, maybeyou've done this and you do this
regularly, but you go, God, whohave you called my children to
be that I can bless them andbless what you're gonna do in
their life?
Because I'm gonna tell you, wewe partner with God for the sake
of our children, powerful thingscan happen.
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Or maybe you're listeningtonight and you're saying, God,
I need that for myself.
My dad never really blessed me,and I I don't know how to be a
blessing to my children becauseI've always been trying to name
myself, rebrand myself, find away, and I'd like to pray with
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you.
Maybe that's your story tonight.
Or you're watching this videoright now, and you're you're
you're wanting, you're saying,Ed, I want that blessing in my
own life.
Because that's, my friends, whathappened to yours truly.
God did something extraordinaryand powerful inside of my life
because I was a broken boy.
My dad was killed in action onthis Memorial Day weekend 69
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years ago.
Here's his dog tags.
He took off the night before hecrashed in Monterey Bay.
He was a test pilot for theNavy.
So I didn't have a dad to blessme and be there.
And so what did I do?
My mom married a some anotherNavy guy, and he did the best he
could in my life.
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But I didn't have my dad.
I didn't know his voice.
I didn't know what he thoughtabout me.
And I was 40 years old.
Kind of feel like I had my Jacobmoment where God changed my name
from Jacob to that true callingof who he wanted to me.
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And he he changed my name reallyfrom football player, where I
got all of my identity orministry to beloved son.
Just like he named his sonpublicly when Jesus came out of
that water.
You are my beloved son in whom Ilove.
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I love the way the message putsit.
You are my son, marked by mylove, the focus of my delight.
See, God the Father wants tospeak that over your life if
your dad never blessed you thatway.
And so if that's if that's whatyou want in your life, just open
your hands.
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I'd love the honor of prayingwith you.
And Father, I thank for thankyou for my brothers that are
here.
And I thank you for guys thatwatch our show every week
because they're coaches withother young men.
Father, I pray right now thatyou would bless their life in
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what Ephesians says with everyspiritual blessing in the
heavenly places in Christ.
That you would bless them asyour sons.
And I say over you the samewords that God the Father said
over me when I was 40 years old,and failing as a dad and
struggling as a husband.
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Ed, your name is no longerfootball player or pastor, but
you are my beloved son too.
And all the blessing that youneed and all the life that you
need, my friend, is yours inChrist.
And God is gonna bless yourlife, He's gonna use your life,
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He's gonna make you the kind offather that you didn't maybe got
to have.
Maybe He's gonna use you to goto your dad and bring healing to
his own story.
And I ask you, Father, to comeand I'll bless my friends in the
name of the Father, in the nameof the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
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And I ask you to expand them andgift them and heal their
families.
In the name of Jesus, I pray.
Amen.
Amen.
So good to be back home withyou.
Been traveling quite a bit.
We're gonna be doing an event inuh two weeks locally here in
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We got a special program calledthe Fatherhood Academy that uh
we're in the midst of launchingand rolling out, and uh, we got
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You can go to our website tofind out about that, and uh, we
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And uh and and also uh maybeyou've never I've gotten my
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We're actually in over 233countries downloading this free,
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So excited about what God'sdoing around the world with
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Maybe you got fathers in yourchurch and uh you want to give
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That's what I said to a numberof Chinese uh workers that were
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That's a joke.
So as far and wise you want todo, if will you help me uh make
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That's our website.
And and we're gonna continuehere, and we're gonna have we're
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I'm really excited about thisseries that we're rolling out.
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That's one of the books we gothrough in a video series in the
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Would love for you to have that.
All that the end of thecommercial and uh back to, oh, I
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got to find out where I turn allthese things on.
Here we go.
I'm back.
And so I want to pray with youbefore we go.
So, Father, thank you again frommy friends.
I think I already prayed once.
I ask you to bless them andraise them up and use them as
the father and men you havecalled them to be.
In Jesus' name.
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Amen.
Just keep hanging on.
We got a little outro videoabout how you might say, How can
I support Ed?
Well, here's a little video.
Thank you so much for joiningin.
If you're watching uh after theday, the Lord bless you as well,
and may He use you, Dad, to bethe father your children need
and the grandpa.
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grandpa makes.
And uh an exciting time.
God bless you.
We'll talk to you soon.
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What kind of father do you want to be?
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So great to be with you.
I'm your host, Ed Tane McLean,and today we're going to talk
about fatherhood.
We're going to start a serieshere that's coming up that's all
about father.
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And I am officially, you know,it's not a national holiday yet,
but uh I'm officially announcingthat the month of June is a
month of fatherhood.
We're gonna celebrate dads, allkinds of dads.
Single dads, regular dads,granddads, grandpops, opas, if
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you are like me with mygrandkids in in Europe, uh,
which is German or Swiss forgrandpa.
We're gonna celebrate dadsbecause you matter.
And I I'm I'm grateful that thethe president is uh renaming
this month to some other things.
We're also honoring theveterans, which are in a real
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sense of fathers in their ownright in our country, in all
their sacrifice.
We just had Memorial Day.
If you didn't get my posts aboutmy dad and and my grandfather,
you can we'll make sure we getthat to you.
But uh, I'm so grateful to bewith you and talk to you about
this incredible privilege thatwe have of being a father.
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And to and tonight we're gonnatalk about just the you know for
every one of the of you dads outthere who feels overlooked or
maybe forgotten out there.
And uh welcome Dr.
Dave and good to see you, Rick,and and people are starting to
chime in now.
Uh we get some rumble people,and tonight uh we're gonna talk
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about to the father who feelsforgotten.
And uh, I got to let you know,we have not forgotten you, God
has not forgotten you.
As a matter of fact, in the inthe priority of God's kingdom,
is there is nothing morepowerful than the role of what a
father can do in the life of hischildren, the life of his
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family, the way he loves mama,and the way he loves his kids.
And we're going to talk aboutjust the four things that happen
that's incredibly powerful justto encourage you that you're not
forgotten and that your rolereally does matter.
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Really does matter.
If you got comments orquestions, would love for you to
uh send those to me tonight.
And uh so let's get right intowhat we're gonna talk about.
And tonight we're gonna talkabout to the father who feels
forgotten.
Well, you know, I meet dads allthe time.
I meet dads who think that theywill never matter, that they've
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loaned it.
It's it's too far gone.
And I want to start out justwith a story, a short story that
happened when I wrote in mybook, The Difference the Father
Makes, and a young dad got it.
Actually, a dad got it.
Here's the the book right here.
If you've not read this, you canstill get copies of this.
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We download it also for free asa gift, and uh, it's one of our
banners right there.
If you want to get this book,but we had a dad uh get this
book, and uh and he wrote me aletter and told me that it's
been years since he is talkingto his daughter.
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He had gotten divorced, and ithad been many years.
The last time he was around herlife, she was somewhere around
13 years old.
But the ex-wife cut that dadoff, thinking that she was
protecting maybe her children orher daughter at the time.
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And yet the bitterness so manytimes in divorce, it's very easy
for you to cut out one of themost important people in the
life of your children.
And and you gotta have both amom and a dad both have
incredibly powerful roles in thelife and the development of a
child.
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Well, this mom cuts him out, andhe reads my book, and he says in
his in his letter, in his emailto me, I've been crying for
days.
I I I can't put it down.
And is it ever too late for meto be a dad in my daughter's
story?
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So immediately I I call up hisnumber.
He was in Texas, his childrenwere back in Ohio, and he said,
Is is it ever too late?
And so I I began to uh Iencouraged him.
He said, I've written for years,and my daughter has never
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responded to a single letter.
I said, just write one more.
And I'm we're gonna praytogether and we're gonna ask
that your daughter would wouldread that letter.
Well, he sends a letter off,he's from Texas, goes to Ohio,
and about a week later, he getsa phone call out of the blue.
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Guess from who?
His daughter.
And she says, Is is this my dad?
And he he was just, can youimagine that moment?
Haven't talked to your daughterin many, many years.
And he goes, uh yes it is.
He says, I would like to meetwith you, she said, because I
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have a question to ask you.
And so they agree to meet, heflies up to Ohio where she's
living, and they agree to meetat uh at a public restaurant.
And so he gets her early, as youcan imagine.
Imagine sitting in a booth, andyou haven't seen your daughter
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in in many years.
You don't know really what shelooks like.
The only pictures you have arewhen she was a little girl, and
then all of a sudden comes agirl who's already probably
pre-crying as she's entering therestaurant.
She sees her dad across the roomand off she walks over, sits
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down in a booth.
Remember him telling me thisstory on the phone, was with so
many tears in his eyes.
I I couldn't see his eyesactually in his voice.
And his daughter said to him,Daddy, before you say anything,
I want to ask you a question.
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He said, What's that?
Was I that ugly?
What?
he said.
Dad, I couldn't figure out whyyou never hugged me, loved me,
touched me, and I just figuredthat the real reason why you
divorced mom was that I wasugly.
You didn't want to be with meanymore.
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Can you imagine hearing thosewords?
And he said, Oh no, sweetheart,I that's not what happened.
You see, your dad was reallybroken back then.
Matter of fact, your dad had apornography issue really bad,
and uh and I was so afraid itmight affect you that I stayed
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away and I am so sorry.
Would you forgive me for notbeing there, loving you,
touching you, hugging you?
And he told me that she leaptacross the booth in the diner
they were in, and just huggedhis neck, crying out, Daddy,
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Daddy, I've waited so long to bewith you after all these years.
And they talk and they catch upas much as they can, and she
says, Would you follow me to myhome?
I have a gift for you.
And off they go, and justimagine it's the moment for this
dad.
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And she pulls in the back of thehouse, he goes into the front,
it's a gravel driveway, he said,and he walks in, and there's a
screen door on the front.
And as he's walking up the stepsof this older kind of
Elizabethan style house, hehears from his daughter, he's
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here, and out from the back ofthe house are two grandchildren
running and screaming, Papa,Papa, to the grandfather they
never met.
Imagine that moment.
Incredible moment where hisdaughter had spent a lifetime in
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this lie in a question that thedevil does so many times to
isolate and to get yourchildren, dad, away from you.
And this story is dramatic andincredibly powerful, but it it
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gives us a clue of the truth ofthe power of a father in the
life of a child.
Even though there was divorceand there was separation and
there was hurt and all thesethings, it's never too late for
God to restore children to afather.
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That's one of the most that'sone of the most amazing things
that I get to experience, youknow, every month at the Father
Difference Ministry here iswatching families reunited,
watching dads learn things anddevelop and become part of our
fatherhood academy and begin tolearn how to really be the
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father that maybe they never hadin their own story.
So I'm going to talk to you justabout four things, you know,
that there are there.
There are many more, but justfour tonight for the sake of our
time together.
To uh be a blessing to you.
And so to the father who feelsforgotten, here's number one no
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matter how bad you think you'veblown it as a dad, it's never
too late for you to be part ofyour children's life.
And see, the reason why that isis because you carry something,
Dad.
You might not feel it, you mightthink you have completely blown
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it.
But you carry something insideof you.
You carry an authority, you youcarry this voice, you carry this
incredible power inside of youand authority from God to help
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your children discover who God'smade your kids to be.
And they're always looking atyou.
I I remember when my sons werewould do things to drive my wife
crazy, they would always belooking towards me.
To wonder what I thought.
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Whether it's a baseball game ora football game or a golf match.
Even to this day, my oldest sonEd, I can tell he's he does
something, he's looking towardsme.
What does my dad think?
It's because we we carry thisincredible privilege.
We're the, you know, whether wehave lived a great life or not,
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we're the first image to ourchildren, someone once wrote
years ago of who God the Fatheris.
That that authority, that thatthat person that carries this
anointing, if you want to usethat word, this this gift to be
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able to help their childrendiscover who they are.
And when you use it well, it itunlocks your children to who
God's called them to be.
When you do it bad, it canreally wound them.
But here's the good news nomatter how good or bad you did
it, it's never too late torepair those things, even if
your children don't wantanything to do with you.
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You know, with all the crazinessin the culture and all of the
psychology that's kind ofdripped in and now taking over
parts of the church, there'sgood part of just of counseling
and wisdom and and humanunderstanding and psychology,
but without the power of God andwithout the with the structure
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of what a family is supposed tobe, our children are going to
forever wonder about who theyare and what they've been made
for.
That's why you matter.
That's why your job is neverreally done.
See, I've watched thousands offathers, you know, become part
of their kids' lives again.
It's one of the most amazingthings.
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I had an event this past weekendwith a dad that uh I was able to
give a word to.
And we had many men get saved atthis event, and about
three-quarters of the room cameforward for the blessing of the
father.
Because they were raised in ahome when the dad never had a
model from his own father abouthow to bless his children, how
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to speak life into his children.
When you see that in a group ofmen, I was with Frank Suntag,
amazing godly man.
And we're going to start postingsome of that event online.
So be watching for it.
And also Vince Evans, you know,the great USC quarterback Vince
Evans, who shared this amazingtestimony about how he came to
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know Jesus playing for theRaiders.
Can you imagine playing for theRaiders and encountering Christ?
It can happen.
My best friend Brian Holloway,who you're going to hear from
more in the future.
Him and I are talking about aproject to do together.
He has been my best friend sincewe've been in high school.
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And even though your kids inthis slide here, even though
your kids maybe even beingraised by great stepdads out
there, your children will neverhave another birth father like
you.
You still carry God's authorityin your life, even if you've not
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been a good dad.
So don't quit.
Get in there.
They need you in their life.
You might be saying, yeah, butyeah, my kids are really angry.
I totally get that.
I absolutely totally get that.
And I've you know been coachingmen long enough to know how
easily and quickly we cutourselves out of the story
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because we think we're not goodfor our kids.
But, you know, a present dad isway more powerful than no dad at
all.
No dad at all.
Number two, your kids still needyour blessing in their life.
So you carry almost like aprophetic gift in the way you
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can speak life or death intoyour kids.
And your kids might even havesaid to you, you're dead to me,
or I don't need you in my life.
I've had young people say thatto their dads and then get with
them and meet with them.
And, you know, I remember thisyoung man that was just so angry
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with his father, could notunderstand why he was so brutal
until he discovered that his ownfather went through the same
story and began to understandthat his dad gave him what he
had, even though it wasn't much.
And he and he he learned how toforgive his dad and ended up
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taking my book, The Difference aFather Makes, the one I talked
to you about earlier.
Taking this book to his fatherand them reading this together.
And somehow in the midst of hisson you know coming back and uh
blessing his father, it began torestore their relationship, and
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that dad encountered Jesus forhimself before he went to
heaven.
What a powerful thing.
I call that operation bless upwhen a son takes the blessing
that he's received from God theFather for himself to his dad,
whose dad never gave it to him.
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Because behind every broken dadis a father who's didn't know
how to be a good dad.
Or there's sometimes as a sonyou just didn't want what your
dad had, and you just figuredyou're just gonna do your life
on your own.
And guess what?
That doesn't end well, does it?
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So, number two, your kids stillneed your blessing.
Number three, no, before we getto number three, so see, what
your kids don't understand isthat you, as their father, carry
an authority given to you by Godto be their father and to bless
them.
And I love this scripture here,this promise in First Peter and
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the message.
And it's talking about how weshould use our voice, especially
as a father.
And he says, that goes for allof you, no exceptions, no
retaliation, no sharp tonguecriticism or tongue sarcasm.
Instead, bless, that's your jobto bless, and you'll be a
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blessing, but also get ablessing.
There's something that happensthat, you know, God speaking
through Peter that happens inour life when we move from
maybe, you know, the familypattern of sort of making fun of
one another and and teasing oneanother to really speaking life
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into one another and to reallyblessing them.
I mean, I I carried into myfamily as a dad kind of the
locker room making fun of oneanother when they come in.
That's kind of the what happensin an NFL locker room, guys are
sitting there, and if somebodywoke up late or their hair is is
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going the wrong way, and or itlooks worse for the wear because
of a crazy night after a game,walks into the locker room.
Oh boy, people are just teeingoff on them.
And I I got to experience thattoo.
And you know, it's it beingteased, making fun of is never a
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powerful thing.
It it's a powerful thing to topush you down.
But think about some of yourways that you speak to your
children, even in jesting, andwhen you're making fun, they
really feel as though there'splaces that that you don't love
about them.
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And it's very hurtful.
I did it to my kids, and I hadto I had to own it, and I had to
ask for forgiveness.
And boy, that was a powerful dayin my family when I realized
that my tongue has uh what theBible says has great power to
give life or start a fire.
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You know, even James, you know,the the brother of Jesus said,
if you can you can control whatcomes out of your mouth, what
you say, you can keep yourselffrom sinning.
Man, isn't that true?
Imagine if that criteria was puton the media today.
People don't understand thatthis this little thing called a
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tongue has great power to blesssort of curse.
And so it's much better tobless.
Number three, your words carrythe power to either unlock their
your kids' destiny or imprisonthem like many of you have been
imprisoned by words.
And you know, I I used to indoing men's events uh ask
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questions of the guys that werecoming.
And uh and I would and I wouldsay, you know, what was the name
that your dad most called youwhen you were a young man?
What was that word?
What was that name?
And more often than not, thename was really derogatory, or
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it was very demeaning and almosta curse word at times because of
the disgust of the father thatyou weren't what you were
supposed to be.
And so those words havetremendous to tremendous power
over the person that hears them.
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It's the same way if you noticedif you're married with your
wife, when you're telling herwhat you love about her, and you
look at her eyes and the way shereacts, it's a completely
different thing compared to whenyou're being critical or you're
you're speaking down, and soGod's made us in such a way that
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we were actually created, we'rea voice activated human beings.
And the more we begin tounderstand, you know, about how
powerful that is over our lives.
And if you think about who isyour your best friends in your
story, who would you say theyare?
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Well, I know the ones in mylife.
You know who my best friendsare?
Are the people who speak lifeinto me.
And it's not that they don'tever help correct me or or teach
me, but those are the peoplethat that that I love being
around.
Who are the people that I resistcompletely?
And those are people who thinkthey're smarter than me all the
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time, and they want to correctme all the time.
Who do you spend time with?
So your words carry power.
So whether your kids are open toyou right now or not, and we're
going to talk about this nextmonth and the month of
fatherhood, how to open yourkids up when they've been closed
down.
They still have these deepquestions inside of them about
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who they are, what God's madethem for.
And guess when that questionfinally gets answered?
Well, it gets answered by theLord one day, but they're going
to ask you over and over andover.
I have all of my sons anddaughters are now adults.
They have families on their own,minus one who's not married yet,
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but they still call dad forencouragement, for words.
And most of those times I amfeeding back to them and helping
them discover their own answersand and blessing them.
And they call me.
And I it's it's one of the mostpowerful things in my life is
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when my sons and daughters callme and go, hey dad, how are you
doing?
Let me tell you what happenedtoday.
Gosh, what a gift.
Didn't start out that way.
So, where's the blessing of thefather found in the Bible?
I'm going to share one littlenugget with you, and then we're
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going to tie together and praytogether.
But I just love this storybecause it's so powerful.
And it says that God appeared toJacob when he came from Padran
Aram and blessed him.
And the way God blessed him wasthat he said, Your name, Jacob,
your name is Jacob, no longerwill be called Jacob, but
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Israel.
So he changed his name.
Well, why is that?
Well, Jacob has a meaning of,watch out, hold your wallow.
Jacob was a great deal maker.
And God changed his name fromJacob because he had a destiny
in the heart of God the Fatherthat was way bigger than what
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his name could could be about.
And so he changed his name toIsrael, which in one of the
understandings of Israel isfather of many nations.
So here God blesses Jacob, who'sreally on the lamb and hiding
out from his brother, because hegot blessed and his brother
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didn't.
And Jacob was a one with thecoat of many colors.
And you know, you see this wholething, that dynamic that
happened in that family.
And it says that as he so hecalled his name Israel and says
to him, I am the Lord GodAlmighty, be fruitful and
multiply.
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And we see that right back inthe book of Genesis: a nation
and a company of nations willcome from you.
I'm going to bless you in such away where you're going to father
many nations, and kings willcome from your own body.
You imagine receiving this.
And this is really before he'shad his first son and his wife,
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who's very pregnant, you know,there, you know, and he had left
to go seek the Lord.
And then he says, and the landthat I gave to Abraham and
Isaac, I'm going to give to you,and I will give you this land
and also to your offspring afteryou.
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So God's blessing upon you as afather goes on to not only to
you, but to your family and tothe difference you're going to
make in your life.
That's how big the blessing ofthe father is on a man's life.
So now he goes back to find hiswife, who's, you know, was close
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to having a baby.
Now he finds her.
And as he finds her, she hasdied in childbirth.
And he wasn't there to name thatbaby.
And look what the Bible says.
And as her soul was dying, forshe was dying, as her soul was
departing, I mean, and she wasdying, she then names this boy,
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because she didn't want her sonshe had just given birth to to
not have an identity or a name.
She named him Benomi, Ben Oni.
And in Hebrew, Ben Oni means sonof my sorrow.
And but I gotta tell you, ifthere's one thing I've seen
around the world, is I see sonsof sorrow everywhere who are
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only named by moms.
Saw in the National FootballLeague, I saw it in life, I saw
that with so many differentpeople.
They they live this life ofsorrow like they never make it.
They're always looking for anupgrade.
They're not clear about who theyare, they're not clear about who
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God has called them to bebecause their dad wasn't there
to name them and bless them.
How about you?
Your own story with your dad.
But look what happens here.
But his father, whose name isnow Israel, renames him
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Benjamin, which Benjamin meansson of my right hand.
And in a moment, a dad blessed ason named by mom, son of my
sorrow, to Benjamin, son of myright hand.
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And the tribe of Benjamin wasborn.
The Benjamites, they were afierce tribe that God used in
powerful ways to even bringdiscipline to Israel in the
future.
The Benjamites are still aroundtoday because of a father's
words.
That's how powerful a dad'sblessing is with children.
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You see it right there.
God backed up that father.
First, we received that blessingfor ourselves, just like Jacob
did.
And as we receive thatourselves, we then have that
same blessing in us for the sakeof our children.
Powerful stuff.
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To the father who feelsdiscouraged, don't be
discouraged, my friend.
Forgotten, don't be discouraged,don't give up.
And remember that your voiceover your children has great
power.
I mean, life-changing power toeither limit or expand the
horizons of your children.
Your words do over yourchildren.
(31:41):
So I want you just to think fora moment.
You know, you just we just camethrough Memorial Day, or maybe
you were with your kids orthey're far away.
Think about your conversationwith your children.
And how much of thatconversation are you blessing
them and speaking life intothem?
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How many times, maybe, maybeyou've done this and you do this
regularly, but you go, God, whohave you called my children to
be that I can bless them andbless what you're gonna do in
their life?
Because I'm gonna tell you, wewe partner with God for the sake
of our children, powerful thingscan happen.
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Or maybe you're listeningtonight and you're saying, God,
I need that for myself.
My dad never really blessed me,and I I don't know how to be a
blessing to my children becauseI've always been trying to name
myself, rebrand myself, find away, and I'd like to pray with
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you.
Maybe that's your story tonight.
Or you're watching this videoright now, and you're you're
you're wanting, you're saying,Ed, I want that blessing in my
own life.
Because that's, my friends, whathappened to yours truly.
God did something extraordinaryand powerful inside of my life
because I was a broken boy.
My dad was killed in action onthis Memorial Day weekend 69
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years ago.
Here's his dog tags.
He took off the night before hecrashed in Monterey Bay.
He was a test pilot for theNavy.
So I didn't have a dad to blessme and be there.
And so what did I do?
My mom married a some anotherNavy guy, and he did the best he
could in my life.
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But I didn't have my dad.
I didn't know his voice.
I didn't know what he thoughtabout me.
And I was 40 years old.
Kind of feel like I had my Jacobmoment where God changed my name
from Jacob to that true callingof who he wanted to me.
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And he he changed my name reallyfrom football player, where I
got all of my identity orministry to beloved son.
Just like he named his sonpublicly when Jesus came out of
that water.
You are my beloved son in whom Ilove.
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I love the way the message putsit.
You are my son, marked by mylove, the focus of my delight.
See, God the Father wants tospeak that over your life if
your dad never blessed you thatway.
And so if that's if that's whatyou want in your life, just open
your hands.
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I'd love the honor of prayingwith you.
And Father, I thank for thankyou for my brothers that are
here.
And I thank you for guys thatwatch our show every week
because they're coaches withother young men.
Father, I pray right now thatyou would bless their life in
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what Ephesians says with everyspiritual blessing in the
heavenly places in Christ.
That you would bless them asyour sons.
And I say over you the samewords that God the Father said
over me when I was 40 years old,and failing as a dad and
struggling as a husband.
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Ed, your name is no longerfootball player or pastor, but
you are my beloved son too.
And all the blessing that youneed and all the life that you
need, my friend, is yours inChrist.
And God is gonna bless yourlife, He's gonna use your life,
(35:40):
He's gonna make you the kind offather that you didn't maybe got
to have.
Maybe He's gonna use you to goto your dad and bring healing to
his own story.
And I ask you, Father, to comeand I'll bless my friends in the
name of the Father, in the nameof the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
(36:01):
And I ask you to expand them andgift them and heal their
families.
In the name of Jesus, I pray.
Amen.
Amen.
So good to be back home withyou.
Been traveling quite a bit.
We're gonna be doing an event inuh two weeks locally here in
(36:26):
Southern California.
If you're not part of ourmailing list, please sign up.
There's a number of things thatuh we would love to share with
you.
One of which, if you want somemore training and uh you want to
connect in and maybe learn howto be the father that God's
called you to be, or maybe learnhow to be a coach for some of
(36:50):
your friends.
We got a special program calledthe Fatherhood Academy that uh
we're in the midst of launchingand rolling out, and uh, we got
a special offer.
You can go to our website tofind out about that, and uh, we
love to bless you with that.
And uh and and also uh maybeyou've never I've gotten my
(37:12):
book, and Father's Day iscoming, and so uh you know, you
can download this book for free.
We're actually in over 233countries downloading this free,
even in China after my trip toZermont last month.
So excited about what God'sdoing around the world with
(37:36):
this.
And uh, it's our gift to you forFather's Day.
Maybe you got fathers in yourchurch and uh you want to give
them a gift this Father's Day.
Well, grab this link rightthere, the fatherdifference.com
slash free book.
You can give this away, andhere's a limitation.
Please only give this away to abillion people.
(37:57):
That's what I said to a numberof Chinese uh workers that were
there in Zermont on vacation.
I said, only give it away to abillion people.
That's a joke.
So as far and wise you want todo, if will you help me uh make
Father's Day a real blessing fordads, you can actually go get
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that book on our website atthefatherdifference.com.
That's our website.
And and we're gonna continuehere, and we're gonna have we're
declaring the series for June offatherhood and reclaiming your
role as a dad, restoring yourfamily, and reflecting the
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father in your family, to yourkids, to your neighborhood, to
the little league fields, etcetera, et cetera, et cetera.
I'm really excited about thisseries that we're rolling out.
I want to want you to inviteevery friend you know, you can
help me by sharing these posts,sharing this video.
If this has been a blessing,share a video and make sure you
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connect into the website and youcan get a copy of my book, How
to Become the Husband and FatherYour Family Needs.
That's one of the books we gothrough in a video series in the
Fatherhood Academy.
Would love for you to have that.
All that the end of thecommercial and uh back to, oh, I
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got to find out where I turn allthese things on.
Here we go.
I'm back.
And so I want to pray with youbefore we go.
So, Father, thank you again frommy friends.
I think I already prayed once.
I ask you to bless them andraise them up and use them as
the father and men you havecalled them to be.
In Jesus' name.
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Amen.
Just keep hanging on.
We got a little outro videoabout how you might say, How can
I support Ed?
Well, here's a little video.
Thank you so much for joiningin.
If you're watching uh after theday, the Lord bless you as well,
and may He use you, Dad, to bethe father your children need
and the grandpa.
(40:05):
We're going to talk about thisin June, the difference a
grandpa makes.
And uh an exciting time.
God bless you.
We'll talk to you soon.
Check out this video.
SPEAKER_00 (40:16):
Dear friends, imagine a world where every
father feels equipped to leadwith faith, love, and purpose.
A world where families thriveand communities grow stronger
because of devoted,Christ-centered fathers.
SPEAKER_01 (40:31):
You know, beloved, that is the vision that God's
put in my heart for every singlefamily.
You know, he is on the move, Ibelieve.
He promises in Malachi thatbefore the great and coming day
of the Lord, he's gonna dosomething profound.
He's gonna turn the hearts offathers back towards their
(40:53):
children.
So the hearts of their childrenwill turn back to their father.
That's what God is doing.
I meet dads daily who want tolearn to be better fathers.
Yet many have never been shownhow.
Too many families are beingfractured through bitterness and
with parents and grandparentseven being canceled.
(41:15):
That's why we're launching anonline community to quit and to
be the fathers that God hascalled them to be.
It's more than a program, it's apart of a movement that God is
already doing to reshapefatherhood.
It's a sacred calling rooted inthe teachings of pride.
(41:36):
And we're calling this theFatherhood Academy, where men
will embark on a journey ofhealing and spiritual
restoration that helps themtransform their family
relationship.
And to make this vision areality, would you consider
partnering with us financiallyas we continue to reach and
(42:00):
disciple every man, dad, andgrandpa that comes our way?
Your donation will help create aripple across the neighborhoods,
communities, you know, andultimately our nation, anchoring
each child through division andthe unwavering love and guidance
of a devoted dad.
SPEAKER_00 (42:22):
Will you partner with us?
Your gift, whether a one-timedonation or ongoing monthly
support, will help to transformlives.
Together, we can equip fathersand grandfathers to lead with
faith and create a brighter,hope-filled future for
generations to come.
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Click the link to donate today.
Thank you for believing in thismission and joining us on this
transformative journey.
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