Sacred Grit: Daily Tools and Spiritual Resilience for Men Determined to Beat Addiction

Have you ever tried to stop a habit but just could not do it?

Stopping my addiction required me to be able to make the right decisions, not take the magic pill. For years I tried to find the combination, turns out, it was in me the whole time. My decisions. 

In this episode you will learn

• Quitting is a decision in your body and your brain 
• Repetition is the mother of skill 
• Accepting the consequences of your decision leads to better...

The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety, it’s connection.
You can’t heal in isolation. You need people who show up, tell you the truth, and love you through the mess.

When I lost my job as a pastor, I didn’t just lose a paycheck — I lost my family, my church, my sense of belonging. What saved me wasn’t willpower. It was connection — coffee with my buddy Chuck, real talks on the farm, men who didn’t need me to be perfect, just h...

Have you ever asked yourself why you’re addicted? Not just how you got hooked, but why the craving even exists?

I spent years stuck in behaviors I didn’t understand — chasing women, food, validation, anything that made me feel alive for five minutes. What I didn’t realize was that addiction isn’t about the drug, the drink, or the dopamine. It’s about connection. Addiction is the counterfeit version of attachment — a desperate attemp...

Have you ever wondered why forgiveness feels more like an idea than an action? 

I found my inner self that needed to be forgiven while running on a country road, and then found the capacity to forgive him in the ice water. 

In the episode you will learn:

• The key to forgiving yourself is figuring out which “self” you’re trying to forgive.
• Regulating your nervous system and sitting with yourself will show you which “you” needs healin...

You ever wonder if an addict can go to heaven? 

I sure did, especially when I woke up in the hell of a pool of my own vomit. 

In this episode you will learn:

• Heaven or hell may someday be somewhere else, but they’re also here and now.
• What you decide next determines which one you live in.
• Forgiveness of yourself is the key to peace.

 So click play my dude, and find your way from hell to peace. 

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Do you long to connect to God, but do not understand how? This episode is for you my dude. 

For years I tried to connect to God through reading books about God, praying to God and going to church. But only ended up addicted, frustrated, and empty. 

In this episode you will learn 

• How to access God through being, not doing 
• How discomfort opens the pathway to the spiritual 
• How baptism in cold water will give you a rebirth 

So cl...

Ever wonder what role spirituality can play in your addiction recovery?

I grew up in a religion that taught me God was in the buildings, books, and baptisms, but that left me empty, addicted, and wanting for more. 

In this episode you will learn 

• How spirituality is not something you do, its something you are
• How God is in you, and how to look in you to find God
• Why recovery is the daily act of reconnecting to love.

So click pla...

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Brother — Are you looking for tools to get started in your recovery journey?

Maybe right now you’re stuck in old thought loops — the ones that whisper, “I’m a failure,” or “I’ll never change.” Those thoughts feel real because you’ve practiced them for years. But here’s the thing — your brain doesn’t know truth, it knows repetition.

In this episode:

• You’ll learn how repetition rewires your beliefs and rebuilds ...

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Brother — have you ever wondered what recovery really means, and asked yourself rather or not you need it?

When I walked into my first meeting after the collapse of my ministry, I didn’t know who I was anymore. But in recovery I found what I needed. No judgment. No preaching. Just acceptance.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why recovery isn’t about healing sickness, but remembering your true self.
• How your thoughts and b...

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Brother — does recovery feel like drudging through molasses, with anxiety, depression, and cravings pulling you back to the life you left?

In early recovery, it takes everything some men have just to get out of bed. Hope feels gone. But what saves us is not breakthroughs or magic moments — it is daily practices and a routine that trains our nervous system, resets our brain, and gives us the grit to keep going.

• Learn th...

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Brother — I’ve been there. After my affair and losing my job as a pastor, the cycle of relapse and regret nearly crushed me. Like the drunk praying over a toilet, I swore I’d never do it again — and then I did. If you know that cycle, this episode is for you.

You don’t break the loop with willpower or empty promises. I tried that. It failed every time. What finally gave me stability was a new way of living: daily routines...

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Brother — after my affair cost me my marriage, my ministry, and my kids’ trust, shame followed me everywhere. I carried it in my body, in my mind, even in the tattoo with my kids’ handwriting. I wanted to cut it off. It nearly drove me to kill myself. This episode is for the man who knows that weight.

You’re not weak for feeling that. You’re human. But you don’t have to live trapped by it. I found the thing that changed e...

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Brother—does shame have you stuck? Do you hear the voice that says, “This is just who I am” every time you fail?

For years, shame haunted me after my affair. I couldn’t escape it—even in the grocery store or at the gas station. And while toxic shame crushes men, there’s also a sacred shame that can move you toward honesty, accountability, and healing. In this episode, I break down the difference, share what the Prodigal S...

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Brother — does your recovery roadmap feel like Mount Everest? Addiction, broken trust, wrecked relationships—it looks impossible to climb.

I’ve been there. My roadmap out of the sh*t show felt overwhelming. But here’s what I learned: you don’t rebuild a life in a day. You take the next right step. Over and over. And you train your nervous system to handle the discomfort so you don’t quit when the work gets hard.

• Learn ...

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Stuck in the loop—affairs, addictions, obsessions—wondering why you keep doing the thing that’s wrecking your life?

It isn’t just “bad choices.” Men get trapped by neural pathways (call it samsara, call it habit) that turn pain into compulsion and compulsion into fallout. In this raw episode, we expose why isolation + justification keep you cycling—and how a clear recovery roadmap plus daily practice breaks it for good.

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What if the real key to staying sober, calm, and clear-headed isn’t more willpower—but a regulated nervous system?

If you’ve ever felt hijacked by your own thoughts, trapped in justification loops, or unable to stop addictive patterns, this episode gives you something deeper than motivation. It introduces the real-world practices that help you access the clarity and strength Jesus called “being born again”—not ...

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What if being “born again” has nothing to do with a prayer—and everything to do with how you live and breathe right now?

If you've ever struggled with sin cycles, religious shame, or feeling like your faith doesn’t work in real life, this episode is for you. Drawing from personal experience, Jesus’ words, and modern nervous system practices, we explore a radical new understanding of what it truly means to be reb...

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Are you tired of living in a cycle of shame and regret—and ready to take back control of your life?

Whether it’s the fallout from an affair, a failed marriage, or strained relationships, we all know what it’s like to be haunted by past decisions. But what if you could use discomfort to build the strength to move forward with purpose? In this episode, we break down the science and practice behind reclaiming power over your...

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Have you ever felt like your past mistakes are too big to come back from—and that hope is just out of reach?

When your life falls apart—whether from addiction, divorce, or the weight of repeated bad decisions—it’s easy to get trapped in shame and rumination. But there’s a path forward that doesn’t rely on fixing the past. This episode unpacks what that really means and how to use it to rebuild your life from the inside ou...