January 19, 2025 • 34 mins
Unlock the secrets to harnessing your subconscious mind and watch your life transform. Ever wondered why two people can react so differently to the same situation? This episode promises to enlighten you on how deeply ingrained beliefs shape our unique responses. From the thrill or fear of public speaking to the way we handle feedback at work, understanding these subconscious patterns is key to personal growth and aligning our actions with our true goals.
We dive into the hidden influence of external suggestions—how the media we consume and the people we interact with can subtly shift our perceptions. But fear not, you can guard your mind with strategic "firewalls" to keep negativity at bay. We explore the power of the conscious mind to reject limiting beliefs and the profound impact of reframing our thoughts to foster a healthier self-image. By recognizing and addressing beliefs that spark emotional responses, you can cultivate a more empowering mindset and reshape your reality.
The episode concludes with inspiring personal stories that demonstrate the ripple effect of mindset shifts, especially within family dynamics. Discover how auto-suggestion can be a powerful tool for personal change, influencing not just your life but also those around you. A touching narrative on parental influence sheds light on how adjusting one’s mindset can positively impact a child’s behavior and emotional health. Join us in this journey of self-discovery and empowerment, and embrace the transformative power of your mind.
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Speaker 1 (01:04):
Welcome back to the Growth Mindset Book Podcast.
We're on episode seven and ifyou're still with us I'm
grateful.
I am hoping that you're gettinga lot of value and you're
sharing this with other people.
I want to give a shout out totwo people that supported our
show.
One is Kyle Schenck and theother is George Simon.
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So thank you, kyle, thank youGeorge.
I appreciate the support of theshow.
Let's go back to the book.
We are on page 29, at the topof chapter two, and we're
starting right here.
Different reactions to the samesuggestion.
It is true that differentpeople will react in different
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ways to the same suggestionbecause of their subconscious
conditioning or belief.
Let's talk about this for asecond.
Let's use a few differentexamples.
One a manager has two differentpeople on his team.
He has to assign them the taskof doing a public talk in front
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of a group of 50 people.
One of the two people is superexcited to do it and the other
is shaking and nervous andterrified of what's about to
occur.
What's the only differencebetween the two of them?
And that is their subconsciousconditioning or belief.
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One might have a belief I'm notgood enough.
What if I make a mistake?
What if people look at me in aweird way and the other may be
saying I can't wait to share.
I have so much to share.
I can't wait to provide peoplewith this information and make a
difference in their life.
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Same situation, two differentsets of subconscious programming
.
So, again, identifying what ourprogramming is and what some of
our limiting beliefs are isvery helpful when it comes to
determining what we need to doto get more of the things that
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we want in our life.
Let's use another example.
Someone comes to you and says Ihave this great investment idea
for you.
I heard that this stock isgoing to go through the roof.
I heard that this stock isgoing to go through the roof.
That same idea is presented toyour friend.
So the two of you will respondto that based on your beliefs.
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You may not want to take risksand may be nervous, may have
been burnt before in the pastwhen they've given you other
ideas like this.
You invested and lost money.
Therefore, your belief is thisis probably not true, this is
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probably not going to happen,and in the past I've lost money,
so there's a good chance that Imight lose it again and I don't
want to take that risk, whereasthe other person may be super
excited.
This is great.
This is an opportunity.
When I take risks, I have theopportunity to make money.
I'm willing to jump in and doit Again.
Two different people, samesituation, different set of
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beliefs.
Which is wrong?
Which is right?
Neither is wrong or right.
This is just information to getus to understand that when
we're looking at a specificsituation, it is our
subconscious programming, thebeliefs that are controlling
everything.
Let's look at one final example.
You and your friend are at work.
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You and your friend own abusiness one of the two.
You get feedback from someonethat works with you.
The feedback is we're notreally happy with what's going
on.
We really would like to seesome changes.
How you're going to respond tothat situation again is based on
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your conditioning in thesubconscious mind or your
beliefs.
If you have a belief that I'mopen to feedback, every time I
get feedback, I can make theproduct, I can make the business
better and better.
If you have that belief inside,then you're going to love
getting feedback.
However, if you have a beliefinside that you're not good
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enough and someone gives youthat feedback, the way you're
going to respond to it is verydifferent.
It is true that differentpeople will react in different
ways to the same suggestionbecause of their subconscious,
conditioning or belief.
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Now we've used three differentexamples to make it clear.
Let's jump back to the book.
For example, if you go to asailor on a ship and say to him
sympathetically my dear fellow,you're looking very ill, aren't
you feeling sick?
You look to me as if you'regoing to be seasick.
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According to his temperament,he either laughs at your joke or
expresses a mild irritation.
Your suggestion fell on deafears in this instance because
your suggestion of seasicknesswas associated in his mind with
his own immunity from it.
Therefore it called up no fearor worry, but self-confidence.
Let's pause for a second Samething we were discussing in the
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three examples prior.
Here is a sailor.
He knows he's been on manyships before.
He doesn't get seasick.
So the suggestion that he mightbe seasick because he has a
look on his face doesn't affecthim at all because he knows deep
down in his subconscious, hisbelief is I never get seasick
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when I'm on a boat.
Therefore, again, no fear,worry or instead what he's
experiencing is confidence.
Yeah, I'm fine, everything'sgood.
But again, if you said that tosomeone else who hasn't been on
a boat before and is worriedthat they may get sick on the
boat, and you suggest to themthat they're looking pale and
they're not looking good, thenwhat's going to happen is
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they're most likely going torespond in a negative way,
especially if they have thesenegative beliefs.
Got it Good, let's continue.
All right Back to the book.
The dictionary says that asuggestion is the act or
instance of putting somethinginto one's mind, the mental
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process by which the thought oridea suggested is entertained,
accepted or put into effect.
Let's pause and talk about thisfor a second.
How do these beliefs get formedin our mind?
Again, we have senses.
We see, hear, smell, taste andtouch.
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If I take someone and I putthem in front of a television
that's playing Fox News or CNNand it's all negative news
that's coming at them all daylong.
It's coming through theirsenses.
They're seeing it, they'rehearing it, they're feeling it.
What's going to happen to thatperson?
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What will be their experienceof the world?
Their experience will be thisworld we live in is not a very
safe and good place.
If we take another person andthat person spends their day
volunteering and helping otherpeople, they'll see the world in
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a very different place, becausewhat they're doing consistently
is helping, and what's comingin through their senses is
smiles and people being happyand people being grateful.
Therefore, their experience ofthe world is very different.
Again, this all comes from oursenses.
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The only way that something canget into our subconscious mind
is through our senses, throughour seeing, our hearing, our
tasting, our touching all ofthose and our smelling.
If we block out our senses, inother words, if we put up
firewalls up in place I put afirewall in front of the
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television set if I don't dothat, then it can't make its way
into my subconscious mindbecause it must come through my
senses first.
These firewalls we have theability to set these up in all
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different locations in our life.
Example what about a negativeperson that we deal with
consistently, someone that wedon't like?
They're always pointing out thenegative Then let's not be
around that person, let's notget together with them, and if
we do, we'll make it brief tothe point and move on and get
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out of there.
That's setting up a firewall.
So if you look at the areas inyour life where messages are
coming in in a negative way, wehave to think to ourselves how
can I block out from mysubconscious mind, how can I
block out the different senses?
What can I do to set it up sothat I win instead of losing in
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the situation, instead of losingin the situation, and that will
protect any suggestions fromthe outside world coming into
our inside world.
And we know whatever it isthat's going on on the inside of
us is ultimately what we'regoing to experience on the
outside.
So we're going to really wantto protect what we allow to come
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inside of us.
Let's go back to the book.
You must remember that asuggestion cannot impose
something on the subconsciousmind against the will of the
conscious mind.
In other words, your consciousmind has the power to reject the
suggestion given.
Again, let's repeat that yourconscious mind, where you do
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your thinking, has the power toreject the suggestion given.
In the case of the sailor, hehad no fear of seasickness, he
had convinced himself of hisimmunity and the negative
suggestion had absolutely nopower to invoke fear.
The suggestion of seasicknessto the other passenger called
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forth his fear of seasickness.
Each of us has his own innerfears, beliefs, opinions, and
these inner assumptions rule andgovern our lives.
A suggestion has no power inand of itself, except if you
accept it mentally.
Let's pause here and discussthis.
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If you look at the last twosentences of what we read, it
says Each of us has his owninner fears, beliefs, opinions
and their inner assumptions ruleand govern our lives, and their
inner assumptions rule andgovern our lives.
A suggestion has no power inand of itself, except if you
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accept it mentally.
I want you to think about thisfor a second.
If I come up to you and I sayyou look just like a pink
elephant, would you be affectedby what I just said to you?
And the answer for most peopleis no.
That's ridiculous.
I would laugh.
It has no meaning.
If I came up to you and saidwhy do you have such green hair?
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And obviously your hair isn'tgreen Would that have any impact
on you?
And again, the answer is no,because you know your hair isn't
green.
Therefore, it would have noimpact.
You don't believe that yourhair is green.
You don't believe that you're apink elephant.
You don't have an opinion thatyou're a pink elephant.
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You don't have an opinion thatyour hair is green.
However, if I come up to youand I say you're such an idiot.
Of all the people I've ever met, you're the dumbest person I've
ever met.
Well, some people that mightnot affect, but if you have a
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belief inside of you that you'renot smart enough or you're not
good enough and, by the way, 99%of all people walk around
feeling like they're not goodenough, and, by the way, 99% of
all people walk around feelinglike they're not good enough
Even the top, top, most elitepeople making tons of money
still walk around with thefeeling that they're not good
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enough, especially in some areaof their life.
Again, if we have that beliefthat we're not good enough or
we're not smart enough, whensomeone says you're a stupid
idiot, how do you think we'regoing to react?
Obviously, we're not going toreact.
Well, because it's triggering abelief that's stored in our
subconscious mind.
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But what we want to startpaying attention to is when we
get emotional and upset aboutthings.
It's a great indication thatinside of us there is a belief
that exists that we need to workthrough and we need to work on.
And it's identifying thatbelief that is really powerful
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thing to do, because once youidentify it, then the next time
something like that happenssomeone says something negative
to upset you.
You can realize oh, one of thereasons why I'm getting so upset
is because I have a beliefinside that I'm not good enough
or I'm not smart enough.
Let me give a different messageto my subconscious mind Instead.
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What I'm going to do here.
I'm going to say I am goodenough, I am smart enough, I'm
really smart.
And you can think back toexamples in your life where you
were really smart, where you didreally good things, where you
were more than good enough,because everyone has examples in
their life of that, provingthat that belief is false.
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So we're going to use the powerthat we have, which is are we
going to accept what someonesays is the truth or are we
going to question everything wehear?
When we question it, we'reusing our conscious mind to
question some kind of thoughtthat someone else shared and it
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came in through our senses andwe stop it and say wait a second
, that's not true, they've gottheir own stuff going on.
I am a very smart person, I ammore than good enough, and
therefore we stop ourselves fromfeeling and getting emotional,
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because if we go the other routeand we buy into what they're
saying and we don't question it.
What do you think we're goingto be experiencing?
Consistently?
We're going to be experiencingupset, hurt, anger, worry, fear,
depression, all those negatives.
They're all going to come fromthese limiting beliefs that we
have inside.
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So the key is that we're goingto start becoming aware of the
fact that we have these beliefs,these limiting beliefs that are
stored inside of us, that arein control of our every move.
Got it?
We were just talking aboutlimiting beliefs, these things
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that we believe are true butreally aren't true.
I'm wearing a shirt If you'relooking on YouTube and it says
you matter a lot.
And the reason that I wear thatshirt is one of my best friends
took his life.
He didn't believe he was goodenough, he believed he didn't
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deserve to live and therefore hetook his life.
So I wear this shirt and I hopeyou're looking at it and if you
can't see it, because you'relooking at it, and if you can't
see it because you're listeningon a podcast, take this in you
matter a lot.
God, a higher power, whateveryou want to call it that's got
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this power in the universedecided that you are important
enough to come into this world.
So, no matter where you're atcurrently, the message that I
have for you is that you aremore than enough.
You are absolutely incredible.
You have this divine powerinside of you.
We've talked about it.
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It controls all the systems ofyour body.
That in and of itself, tellsyou how powerful you are.
Maybe it's time to start havinga new belief.
Instead of I'm not good enough,it is.
I am amazing, exactly as I am.
I am part of divineintelligence, and you repeat
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that to yourself enough.
What's going to happen in timeis you're going to believe it.
So let's go back to the bookand we're going to talk about
the story of how he lost his arm.
This is again the power of thesubconscious mind at work.
Every two or three years, Igive a series of lectures at the
London Truth Forum at CaxtonHall.
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This is a forum I founded anumber of years ago.
Dr Evelyn Fleet, the director,told me about an article which
appeared in the Englishnewspaper dealing with the power
of suggestion.
This is the suggestion a manwho gave to his subconscious
mind over a period of about twoyears.
He said I would give my rightarm to see my daughter cured.
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It appeared that his daughterhad a crippling form of
arthritis, together with aso-called incurable form of skin
disease.
Medical treatment had failed toalleviate the condition and the
father had an intense longingfor his daughter's healing, and
he expressed his desire in thewords just quoted above.
Dr Evelyn Fleet said that thenewspaper article pointed out
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that one day the family was outriding when their car collided
with another.
The father's right arm was tornoff at his shoulder and
immediately the daughter'sarthritis and skin condition
vanished and skin conditionvanished.
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You must make certain to giveyour subconscious only
suggestions which heal, bless,elevate and inspire you in all
ways.
Remember, your subconsciousmind cannot take a joke.
It takes you at your word.
Let's talk about this for asecond.
Do you believe this could betrue?
In other words, do you believethat whatever you're
consistently thinking about orsaying out loud, if it's not
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good, could potentially come tofruition?
I want to give you a couple ofother examples of how this plays
out.
One think of your child.
Now.
Your child may be good inschool, but think of a child
that's not so good in school andthey feel like I am not good at
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math.
Every time they have a mathtest they prepare, and in their
preparation they keep thinkingto themselves.
I'm not going to do good onthis test.
I never do good on my math test.
I'm not going to do good onthis test.
I never do good on my math test.
I'm just not good at math.
What do you think is going tohappen when they sit to take
that math test?
Do you think they're going toexcel or do you think they might
not do so?
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Well, of course we all know theanswer to that because we know,
if we're consistently givingourselves negative feedback,
that it will come true.
This is an extreme example.
In the book.
The guy says I give my rightarm.
But the thing is, oursubconscious doesn't understand
that we're joking around.
So it did in that situation.
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It gave his right arm so thathe would have his daughter be
healed.
I want to tell another personalstory, a personal example of
this.
I want to tell another personalstory, a personal example of
this.
When my son was growing up,initially he was struggling with
some anxiety.
His mother and I were goingthrough a divorce and he had a
lot of negative energy headedhis way from both of us because
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we were both worried andconcerned.
But I'm only going to talk tome for a second what I would do
when I would start to see himget anxious.
I would get very anxiousbecause I didn't want to see him
suffer, I didn't want to seehim in pain, I didn't want to
see him feel bad.
And so when he wasn't feelinganxious, I would be thinking in
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my mind oh boy, I hope hedoesn't feel anxious today.
I hope he does well in schooltoday.
What if he struggles?
What if I'm going to get thatphone call?
I wonder if I'm going to get aphone call from school that he's
struggling.
And I had such nervous energythat when he was around me, what
do you think he was picking up,which we've discussed prior to
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this, what thoughts do you thinkhe must have picked up from my
energy?
Even if I wasn't sayinganything out loud being around
him, he was going to startfeeling anxious because I was
feeling anxious.
So whatever we're thinking aboutconsistently, whatever we're
speaking out loud consistently,our subconscious is going to
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deliver us more of that.
Again, that's the law ofcorrespondence Whatever is
within will show up without.
And that was a great example.
It's incredible because when Istarted to do work on myself not
on my son's anxiety, but onmyself and my anxiety.
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With his anxiety, guess whatended up happening?
I started to calm down, Istarted to be more peaceful, I
started to be more in line.
And guess what happened withhim?
His anxiety leveled off and hestarted feeling better and he
was able to get past it.
So we have this power and wehave this ability.
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Let's use it to help take careof ourselves.
All right, let's go back to thebook.
We're going to talk about atopic here that's one of my
favorite topics.
It's one of the most powerfultools that we have at our
disposal that we can use anytimeto help us get more of what we
want.
So let's go back to the book,we'll read it and then we'll
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discuss how auto-suggestionbanishes fear.
Illustrations ofauto-suggestion.
Auto-suggestion meanssuggesting something definite
and specific to oneself.
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Herbert Parkin, in hisexcellent manual of auto
suggestion, records thefollowing incident.
It has its amusing side, sothat one remembers it.
A New York visitor in Chicagolooks at his watch, which is set
an hour ahead of Chicago time,and tells a Chicago friend that
it's 12 o'clock.
The Chicago friend, notconsidering the difference in
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time between Chicago and NewYork, tells his New York friend
that he's hungry and that hemust go get some lunch.
Auto-suggestion may be used tobanish various fears and other
negative conditions.
A young singer was invited togive an audition.
She had been looking forward tothe interview but on three
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previous occasions had failedmiserably due to the fear of
failure.
This young lady had a very goodvoice, but she had been saying
to herself when the time comesfor me to sing, maybe they won't
like me, I'll try, but I'm fullof fear and anxiety, let's
pause.
I'll try, but I'm full of fearand anxiety, let's pause.
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If she's telling herself whenshe's going to go into this
audition that I'm going to try,but I failed before and I'm full
of fear and I'm full of anxiety, what do you think is going to
happen in that audition?
You know the answer.
I don't have to tell you it'sgoing to go bad, because that's
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how she's showing up.
She's suggesting this to hersubconscious mind and her
performance will be right inline with those fears, doubts
and worries.
Auto-suggestion is one of themost powerful tools that we have
at our disposal.
Again, in simplistic terms,what auto-suggestion is?
One of the most powerful toolsthat we have at our disposal?
Again, in simplistic terms,what auto-suggestion means is
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it's a self-suggestion that wemake to ourself.
Also suggestions that come fromthe outside that we allow in
through our senses and don'tblock out with our firewall.
Those are also auto suggestions.
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They're auto suggestionsbecause it's a suggestion from
the outside that we let comeinto our conscious mind and
allow it in, we don't block itout.
So whether we're suggestingsomething to ourself like I'm
not good enough, I'm not smartenough, I always get anxious, I
always fail at these kinds ofthings, that's auto-suggestion.
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Or we listen to that negativeperson in our life tells us that
oh, you always mess things up,you can never do things right,
and we let that come in throughour senses and allow it.
Guess what's going to happen?
That's auto-suggestion.
And auto-suggestion influencesour subconscious mind.
The beauty is we have the powerto use auto-suggestion for
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ourselves, to give ourselvessuggestions of what we want in
our life in the present tense.
It's important to put it in thepresent tense because, again,
our subconscious mind thinks inpresent, it doesn't think in the
future.
It doesn't think in the past,it hears everything in the
present tense.
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So if I'm worried or anxious,what I can say to auto-suggest
to myself is I am feeling moreand more at ease as each moment
passes, I am feeling calm andpeaceful.
As the day progresses, as Itake deep breaths, I feel more
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calm.
These are all auto-suggestsuggestions.
These are things that we'resaying to ourself.
I want you to think for a moment, while you're in your car or
you're watching this YouTubevideo what are some suggestions
that you tell yourself on aconsistent basis that aren't
helping you get what you want?
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Again, in what we were justreading in the book, this young
lady, who has a very good voiceand probably would excel if she
auto-suggested in the proper way, is auto-suggesting I've failed
before.
I'll try, but I'm full of fearand anxiety.
What are some other examples ofthese negative suggestions that
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you give to yourself?
Maybe something like if I try,I'll fail.
If I try, I'll fail.
Imagine saying that.
You probably heard someone saythat.
If we say that to ourselves,what is the likelihood that when
we go to try to do that thing,whatever it is, we're going to
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have success?
We're not going to have success.
We're suggesting it.
Our subconscious mind says yourwish is my command and therefore
we get the results in theoutside world based on the
suggestions we're makinginternally.
Do you get the power in this?
I really want you to get it,because the words that you're
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speaking out loud, the wordsthat you're thinking in your
mind, have all the power overyour life.
If the results outside are notlike you want them to be, if the
money in your life isn't whereyou want it to be, it's because
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you're using words on aconsistent basis.
You're having thoughts.
You're speaking out loud thingsnegative about money.
I can never make it.
The inflation rates keep goingup, the stock market's down.
Everything seems to go wrongwhenever I invest in money or
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whenever I invest in the stockmarket.
These things that we're saying,these things that we're
thinking, are causing our actualreality in light.
Is this making sense?
So my assignment to you is that,as you're driving now, I want
you to really take a few momentsand think about one of the key
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negative things that youconsistently say to yourself,
and I want you to flip it and Iwant you to say something
positive.
So if you're saying somethinglike I'm not smart enough, you
can now suggest to yourself I amextremely smart, I can figure
things out really easily when Iset my mind to it.
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I can always figure somethingout and just keep repeating that
over and over and what you'llfind is you'll start to believe
that over time.
Okay, so we're going to end onthis note here and I want you to
practice this in the car.
Or if you're watching thisYouTube video, practice it right
now.
Don't turn off the video andthen go back to doing something
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else.
Don't pick up the phone in yourcar and do something else.
Take a few moments and reallythink to yourself what's one
thing?
If I could just change onething that I consistently say to
myself, what could I change itand how can I change it for the
better?
And how can I say it in presenttense, as if I'm already
experiencing it?
Example I am good enough, I amsmart.
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That's a present tensestatement.
It needs to be in present.
It's not I will be smarteventually.
That means you're not right now.
You are smart, I am smart, I amcaring, I am loving.
All of those things are inpresent tense.
So practice that, do it and Ipromise you, if you do that
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consistently, you'll start tonotice changes on the outside.
But until we do that one thingauto-suggestion again, which
we'll get into more next week,again, which we'll get into more
next week you won't have thingschange, because what you're
doing is you're auto-suggestingautomatically in the negative,
on a consistent basis.
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You're automatically sayingthings like I was with my son
when he was struggling withanxiety oh no, what if?
What if he's feeling anxious?
What if I get that phone callfrom school?
What if he takes the test andhe starts to get nervous and
struggles?
What will he do?
And all of that negativitycreated in the outside world.
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Exactly what was going on in mymind?
I would get the phone call fromschool saying, yeah, he kind of
had a little bit of a panicattack while he was taking a
test or he's struggling, and allthose things that I was
thinking about were actuallyhappening.
And what I didn't realize wasit was me who needed to change.
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I needed to change the way Iwas thinking, I needed to change
the way I was feeling and thenmagically, he started to change
as well.
It's an interesting thing, butthat's the way that it works.
So until next week, have anamazing rest of the day and
practice what we talked aboutthrough auto-suggestion.
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Have an amazing day andremember you matter a lot.
Welcome back to the Growth Mindset Book Podcast.
We're on episode seven and ifyou're still with us I'm
grateful.
I am hoping that you're gettinga lot of value and you're
sharing this with other people.
I want to give a shout out totwo people that supported our
show.
One is Kyle Schenck and theother is George Simon.
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So thank you, kyle, thank youGeorge.
I appreciate the support of theshow.
Let's go back to the book.
We are on page 29, at the topof chapter two, and we're
starting right here.
Different reactions to the samesuggestion.
It is true that differentpeople will react in different
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ways to the same suggestionbecause of their subconscious
conditioning or belief.
Let's talk about this for asecond.
Let's use a few differentexamples.
One a manager has two differentpeople on his team.
He has to assign them the taskof doing a public talk in front
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of a group of 50 people.
One of the two people is superexcited to do it and the other
is shaking and nervous andterrified of what's about to
occur.
What's the only differencebetween the two of them?
And that is their subconsciousconditioning or belief.
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One might have a belief I'm notgood enough.
What if I make a mistake?
What if people look at me in aweird way and the other may be
saying I can't wait to share.
I have so much to share.
I can't wait to provide peoplewith this information and make a
difference in their life.
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Same situation, two differentsets of subconscious programming
.
So, again, identifying what ourprogramming is and what some of
our limiting beliefs are isvery helpful when it comes to
determining what we need to doto get more of the things that
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we want in our life.
Let's use another example.
Someone comes to you and says Ihave this great investment idea
for you.
I heard that this stock isgoing to go through the roof.
I heard that this stock isgoing to go through the roof.
That same idea is presented toyour friend.
So the two of you will respondto that based on your beliefs.
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You may not want to take risksand may be nervous, may have
been burnt before in the pastwhen they've given you other
ideas like this.
You invested and lost money.
Therefore, your belief is thisis probably not true, this is
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probably not going to happen,and in the past I've lost money,
so there's a good chance that Imight lose it again and I don't
want to take that risk, whereasthe other person may be super
excited.
This is great.
This is an opportunity.
When I take risks, I have theopportunity to make money.
I'm willing to jump in and doit Again.
Two different people, samesituation, different set of
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beliefs.
Which is wrong?
Which is right?
Neither is wrong or right.
This is just information to getus to understand that when
we're looking at a specificsituation, it is our
subconscious programming, thebeliefs that are controlling
everything.
Let's look at one final example.
You and your friend are at work.
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You and your friend own abusiness one of the two.
You get feedback from someonethat works with you.
The feedback is we're notreally happy with what's going
on.
We really would like to seesome changes.
How you're going to respond tothat situation again is based on
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your conditioning in thesubconscious mind or your
beliefs.
If you have a belief that I'mopen to feedback, every time I
get feedback, I can make theproduct, I can make the business
better and better.
If you have that belief inside,then you're going to love
getting feedback.
However, if you have a beliefinside that you're not good
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enough and someone gives youthat feedback, the way you're
going to respond to it is verydifferent.
It is true that differentpeople will react in different
ways to the same suggestionbecause of their subconscious,
conditioning or belief.
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Now we've used three differentexamples to make it clear.
Let's jump back to the book.
For example, if you go to asailor on a ship and say to him
sympathetically my dear fellow,you're looking very ill, aren't
you feeling sick?
You look to me as if you'regoing to be seasick.
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According to his temperament,he either laughs at your joke or
expresses a mild irritation.
Your suggestion fell on deafears in this instance because
your suggestion of seasicknesswas associated in his mind with
his own immunity from it.
Therefore it called up no fearor worry, but self-confidence.
Let's pause for a second Samething we were discussing in the
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three examples prior.
Here is a sailor.
He knows he's been on manyships before.
He doesn't get seasick.
So the suggestion that he mightbe seasick because he has a
look on his face doesn't affecthim at all because he knows deep
down in his subconscious, hisbelief is I never get seasick
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when I'm on a boat.
Therefore, again, no fear,worry or instead what he's
experiencing is confidence.
Yeah, I'm fine, everything'sgood.
But again, if you said that tosomeone else who hasn't been on
a boat before and is worriedthat they may get sick on the
boat, and you suggest to themthat they're looking pale and
they're not looking good, thenwhat's going to happen is
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they're most likely going torespond in a negative way,
especially if they have thesenegative beliefs.
Got it Good, let's continue.
All right Back to the book.
The dictionary says that asuggestion is the act or
instance of putting somethinginto one's mind, the mental
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process by which the thought oridea suggested is entertained,
accepted or put into effect.
Let's pause and talk about thisfor a second.
How do these beliefs get formedin our mind?
Again, we have senses.
We see, hear, smell, taste andtouch.
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If I take someone and I putthem in front of a television
that's playing Fox News or CNNand it's all negative news
that's coming at them all daylong.
It's coming through theirsenses.
They're seeing it, they'rehearing it, they're feeling it.
What's going to happen to thatperson?
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What will be their experienceof the world?
Their experience will be thisworld we live in is not a very
safe and good place.
If we take another person andthat person spends their day
volunteering and helping otherpeople, they'll see the world in
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a very different place, becausewhat they're doing consistently
is helping, and what's comingin through their senses is
smiles and people being happyand people being grateful.
Therefore, their experience ofthe world is very different.
Again, this all comes from oursenses.
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The only way that something canget into our subconscious mind
is through our senses, throughour seeing, our hearing, our
tasting, our touching all ofthose and our smelling.
If we block out our senses, inother words, if we put up
firewalls up in place I put afirewall in front of the
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television set if I don't dothat, then it can't make its way
into my subconscious mindbecause it must come through my
senses first.
These firewalls we have theability to set these up in all
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different locations in our life.
Example what about a negativeperson that we deal with
consistently, someone that wedon't like?
They're always pointing out thenegative Then let's not be
around that person, let's notget together with them, and if
we do, we'll make it brief tothe point and move on and get
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out of there.
That's setting up a firewall.
So if you look at the areas inyour life where messages are
coming in in a negative way, wehave to think to ourselves how
can I block out from mysubconscious mind, how can I
block out the different senses?
What can I do to set it up sothat I win instead of losing in
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the situation, instead of losingin the situation, and that will
protect any suggestions fromthe outside world coming into
our inside world.
And we know whatever it isthat's going on on the inside of
us is ultimately what we'regoing to experience on the
outside.
So we're going to really wantto protect what we allow to come
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inside of us.
Let's go back to the book.
You must remember that asuggestion cannot impose
something on the subconsciousmind against the will of the
conscious mind.
In other words, your consciousmind has the power to reject the
suggestion given.
Again, let's repeat that yourconscious mind, where you do
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your thinking, has the power toreject the suggestion given.
In the case of the sailor, hehad no fear of seasickness, he
had convinced himself of hisimmunity and the negative
suggestion had absolutely nopower to invoke fear.
The suggestion of seasicknessto the other passenger called
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forth his fear of seasickness.
Each of us has his own innerfears, beliefs, opinions, and
these inner assumptions rule andgovern our lives.
A suggestion has no power inand of itself, except if you
accept it mentally.
Let's pause here and discussthis.
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If you look at the last twosentences of what we read, it
says Each of us has his owninner fears, beliefs, opinions
and their inner assumptions ruleand govern our lives, and their
inner assumptions rule andgovern our lives.
A suggestion has no power inand of itself, except if you
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accept it mentally.
I want you to think about thisfor a second.
If I come up to you and I sayyou look just like a pink
elephant, would you be affectedby what I just said to you?
And the answer for most peopleis no.
That's ridiculous.
I would laugh.
It has no meaning.
If I came up to you and saidwhy do you have such green hair?
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And obviously your hair isn'tgreen Would that have any impact
on you?
And again, the answer is no,because you know your hair isn't
green.
Therefore, it would have noimpact.
You don't believe that yourhair is green.
You don't believe that you're apink elephant.
You don't have an opinion thatyou're a pink elephant.
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You don't have an opinion thatyour hair is green.
However, if I come up to youand I say you're such an idiot.
Of all the people I've ever met, you're the dumbest person I've
ever met.
Well, some people that mightnot affect, but if you have a
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belief inside of you that you'renot smart enough or you're not
good enough and, by the way, 99%of all people walk around
feeling like they're not goodenough, and, by the way, 99% of
all people walk around feelinglike they're not good enough
Even the top, top, most elitepeople making tons of money
still walk around with thefeeling that they're not good
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enough, especially in some areaof their life.
Again, if we have that beliefthat we're not good enough or
we're not smart enough, whensomeone says you're a stupid
idiot, how do you think we'regoing to react?
Obviously, we're not going toreact.
Well, because it's triggering abelief that's stored in our
subconscious mind.
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But what we want to startpaying attention to is when we
get emotional and upset aboutthings.
It's a great indication thatinside of us there is a belief
that exists that we need to workthrough and we need to work on.
And it's identifying thatbelief that is really powerful
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thing to do, because once youidentify it, then the next time
something like that happenssomeone says something negative
to upset you.
You can realize oh, one of thereasons why I'm getting so upset
is because I have a beliefinside that I'm not good enough
or I'm not smart enough.
Let me give a different messageto my subconscious mind Instead.
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What I'm going to do here.
I'm going to say I am goodenough, I am smart enough, I'm
really smart.
And you can think back toexamples in your life where you
were really smart, where you didreally good things, where you
were more than good enough,because everyone has examples in
their life of that, provingthat that belief is false.
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So we're going to use the powerthat we have, which is are we
going to accept what someonesays is the truth or are we
going to question everything wehear?
When we question it, we'reusing our conscious mind to
question some kind of thoughtthat someone else shared and it
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came in through our senses andwe stop it and say wait a second
, that's not true, they've gottheir own stuff going on.
I am a very smart person, I ammore than good enough, and
therefore we stop ourselves fromfeeling and getting emotional,
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because if we go the other routeand we buy into what they're
saying and we don't question it.
What do you think we're goingto be experiencing?
Consistently?
We're going to be experiencingupset, hurt, anger, worry, fear,
depression, all those negatives.
They're all going to come fromthese limiting beliefs that we
have inside.
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So the key is that we're goingto start becoming aware of the
fact that we have these beliefs,these limiting beliefs that are
stored inside of us, that arein control of our every move.
Got it?
We were just talking aboutlimiting beliefs, these things
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that we believe are true butreally aren't true.
I'm wearing a shirt If you'relooking on YouTube and it says
you matter a lot.
And the reason that I wear thatshirt is one of my best friends
took his life.
He didn't believe he was goodenough, he believed he didn't
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deserve to live and therefore hetook his life.
So I wear this shirt and I hopeyou're looking at it and if you
can't see it, because you'relooking at it, and if you can't
see it because you're listeningon a podcast, take this in you
matter a lot.
God, a higher power, whateveryou want to call it that's got
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this power in the universedecided that you are important
enough to come into this world.
So, no matter where you're atcurrently, the message that I
have for you is that you aremore than enough.
You are absolutely incredible.
You have this divine powerinside of you.
We've talked about it.
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It controls all the systems ofyour body.
That in and of itself, tellsyou how powerful you are.
Maybe it's time to start havinga new belief.
Instead of I'm not good enough,it is.
I am amazing, exactly as I am.
I am part of divineintelligence, and you repeat
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that to yourself enough.
What's going to happen in timeis you're going to believe it.
So let's go back to the bookand we're going to talk about
the story of how he lost his arm.
This is again the power of thesubconscious mind at work.
Every two or three years, Igive a series of lectures at the
London Truth Forum at CaxtonHall.
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This is a forum I founded anumber of years ago.
Dr Evelyn Fleet, the director,told me about an article which
appeared in the Englishnewspaper dealing with the power
of suggestion.
This is the suggestion a manwho gave to his subconscious
mind over a period of about twoyears.
He said I would give my rightarm to see my daughter cured.
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It appeared that his daughterhad a crippling form of
arthritis, together with aso-called incurable form of skin
disease.
Medical treatment had failed toalleviate the condition and the
father had an intense longingfor his daughter's healing, and
he expressed his desire in thewords just quoted above.
Dr Evelyn Fleet said that thenewspaper article pointed out
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that one day the family was outriding when their car collided
with another.
The father's right arm was tornoff at his shoulder and
immediately the daughter'sarthritis and skin condition
vanished and skin conditionvanished.
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You must make certain to giveyour subconscious only
suggestions which heal, bless,elevate and inspire you in all
ways.
Remember, your subconsciousmind cannot take a joke.
It takes you at your word.
Let's talk about this for asecond.
Do you believe this could betrue?
In other words, do you believethat whatever you're
consistently thinking about orsaying out loud, if it's not
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good, could potentially come tofruition?
I want to give you a couple ofother examples of how this plays
out.
One think of your child.
Now.
Your child may be good inschool, but think of a child
that's not so good in school andthey feel like I am not good at
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math.
Every time they have a mathtest they prepare, and in their
preparation they keep thinkingto themselves.
I'm not going to do good onthis test.
I never do good on my math test.
I'm not going to do good onthis test.
I never do good on my math test.
I'm just not good at math.
What do you think is going tohappen when they sit to take
that math test?
Do you think they're going toexcel or do you think they might
not do so?
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Well, of course we all know theanswer to that because we know,
if we're consistently givingourselves negative feedback,
that it will come true.
This is an extreme example.
In the book.
The guy says I give my rightarm.
But the thing is, oursubconscious doesn't understand
that we're joking around.
So it did in that situation.
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It gave his right arm so thathe would have his daughter be
healed.
I want to tell another personalstory, a personal example of
this.
I want to tell another personalstory, a personal example of
this.
When my son was growing up,initially he was struggling with
some anxiety.
His mother and I were goingthrough a divorce and he had a
lot of negative energy headedhis way from both of us because
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we were both worried andconcerned.
But I'm only going to talk tome for a second what I would do
when I would start to see himget anxious.
I would get very anxiousbecause I didn't want to see him
suffer, I didn't want to seehim in pain, I didn't want to
see him feel bad.
And so when he wasn't feelinganxious, I would be thinking in
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my mind oh boy, I hope hedoesn't feel anxious today.
I hope he does well in schooltoday.
What if he struggles?
What if I'm going to get thatphone call?
I wonder if I'm going to get aphone call from school that he's
struggling.
And I had such nervous energythat when he was around me, what
do you think he was picking up,which we've discussed prior to
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this, what thoughts do you thinkhe must have picked up from my
energy?
Even if I wasn't sayinganything out loud being around
him, he was going to startfeeling anxious because I was
feeling anxious.
So whatever we're thinking aboutconsistently, whatever we're
speaking out loud consistently,our subconscious is going to
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deliver us more of that.
Again, that's the law ofcorrespondence Whatever is
within will show up without.
And that was a great example.
It's incredible because when Istarted to do work on myself not
on my son's anxiety, but onmyself and my anxiety.
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With his anxiety, guess whatended up happening?
I started to calm down, Istarted to be more peaceful, I
started to be more in line.
And guess what happened withhim?
His anxiety leveled off and hestarted feeling better and he
was able to get past it.
So we have this power and wehave this ability.
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Let's use it to help take careof ourselves.
All right, let's go back to thebook.
We're going to talk about atopic here that's one of my
favorite topics.
It's one of the most powerfultools that we have at our
disposal that we can use anytimeto help us get more of what we
want.
So let's go back to the book,we'll read it and then we'll
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discuss how auto-suggestionbanishes fear.
Illustrations ofauto-suggestion.
Auto-suggestion meanssuggesting something definite
and specific to oneself.
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Herbert Parkin, in hisexcellent manual of auto
suggestion, records thefollowing incident.
It has its amusing side, sothat one remembers it.
A New York visitor in Chicagolooks at his watch, which is set
an hour ahead of Chicago time,and tells a Chicago friend that
it's 12 o'clock.
The Chicago friend, notconsidering the difference in
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time between Chicago and NewYork, tells his New York friend
that he's hungry and that hemust go get some lunch.
Auto-suggestion may be used tobanish various fears and other
negative conditions.
A young singer was invited togive an audition.
She had been looking forward tothe interview but on three
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previous occasions had failedmiserably due to the fear of
failure.
This young lady had a very goodvoice, but she had been saying
to herself when the time comesfor me to sing, maybe they won't
like me, I'll try, but I'm fullof fear and anxiety, let's
pause.
I'll try, but I'm full of fearand anxiety, let's pause.
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If she's telling herself whenshe's going to go into this
audition that I'm going to try,but I failed before and I'm full
of fear and I'm full of anxiety, what do you think is going to
happen in that audition?
You know the answer.
I don't have to tell you it'sgoing to go bad, because that's
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how she's showing up.
She's suggesting this to hersubconscious mind and her
performance will be right inline with those fears, doubts
and worries.
Auto-suggestion is one of themost powerful tools that we have
at our disposal.
Again, in simplistic terms,what auto-suggestion is?
One of the most powerful toolsthat we have at our disposal?
Again, in simplistic terms,what auto-suggestion means is
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it's a self-suggestion that wemake to ourself.
Also suggestions that come fromthe outside that we allow in
through our senses and don'tblock out with our firewall.
Those are also auto suggestions.
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They're auto suggestionsbecause it's a suggestion from
the outside that we let comeinto our conscious mind and
allow it in, we don't block itout.
So whether we're suggestingsomething to ourself like I'm
not good enough, I'm not smartenough, I always get anxious, I
always fail at these kinds ofthings, that's auto-suggestion.
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Or we listen to that negativeperson in our life tells us that
oh, you always mess things up,you can never do things right,
and we let that come in throughour senses and allow it.
Guess what's going to happen?
That's auto-suggestion.
And auto-suggestion influencesour subconscious mind.
The beauty is we have the powerto use auto-suggestion for
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ourselves, to give ourselvessuggestions of what we want in
our life in the present tense.
It's important to put it in thepresent tense because, again,
our subconscious mind thinks inpresent, it doesn't think in the
future.
It doesn't think in the past,it hears everything in the
present tense.
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So if I'm worried or anxious,what I can say to auto-suggest
to myself is I am feeling moreand more at ease as each moment
passes, I am feeling calm andpeaceful.
As the day progresses, as Itake deep breaths, I feel more
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calm.
These are all auto-suggestsuggestions.
These are things that we'resaying to ourself.
I want you to think for a moment, while you're in your car or
you're watching this YouTubevideo what are some suggestions
that you tell yourself on aconsistent basis that aren't
helping you get what you want?
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Again, in what we were justreading in the book, this young
lady, who has a very good voiceand probably would excel if she
auto-suggested in the proper way, is auto-suggesting I've failed
before.
I'll try, but I'm full of fearand anxiety.
What are some other examples ofthese negative suggestions that
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you give to yourself?
Maybe something like if I try,I'll fail.
If I try, I'll fail.
Imagine saying that.
You probably heard someone saythat.
If we say that to ourselves,what is the likelihood that when
we go to try to do that thing,whatever it is, we're going to
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have success?
We're not going to have success.
We're suggesting it.
Our subconscious mind says yourwish is my command and therefore
we get the results in theoutside world based on the
suggestions we're makinginternally.
Do you get the power in this?
I really want you to get it,because the words that you're
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speaking out loud, the wordsthat you're thinking in your
mind, have all the power overyour life.
If the results outside are notlike you want them to be, if the
money in your life isn't whereyou want it to be, it's because
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you're using words on aconsistent basis.
You're having thoughts.
You're speaking out loud thingsnegative about money.
I can never make it.
The inflation rates keep goingup, the stock market's down.
Everything seems to go wrongwhenever I invest in money or
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whenever I invest in the stockmarket.
These things that we're saying,these things that we're
thinking, are causing our actualreality in light.
Is this making sense?
So my assignment to you is that,as you're driving now, I want
you to really take a few momentsand think about one of the key
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negative things that youconsistently say to yourself,
and I want you to flip it and Iwant you to say something
positive.
So if you're saying somethinglike I'm not smart enough, you
can now suggest to yourself I amextremely smart, I can figure
things out really easily when Iset my mind to it.
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I can always figure somethingout and just keep repeating that
over and over and what you'llfind is you'll start to believe
that over time.
Okay, so we're going to end onthis note here and I want you to
practice this in the car.
Or if you're watching thisYouTube video, practice it right
now.
Don't turn off the video andthen go back to doing something
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else.
Don't pick up the phone in yourcar and do something else.
Take a few moments and reallythink to yourself what's one
thing?
If I could just change onething that I consistently say to
myself, what could I change itand how can I change it for the
better?
And how can I say it in presenttense, as if I'm already
experiencing it?
Example I am good enough, I amsmart.
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That's a present tensestatement.
It needs to be in present.
It's not I will be smarteventually.
That means you're not right now.
You are smart, I am smart, I amcaring, I am loving.
All of those things are inpresent tense.
So practice that, do it and Ipromise you, if you do that
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consistently, you'll start tonotice changes on the outside.
But until we do that one thingauto-suggestion again, which
we'll get into more next week,again, which we'll get into more
next week you won't have thingschange, because what you're
doing is you're auto-suggestingautomatically in the negative,
on a consistent basis.
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You're automatically sayingthings like I was with my son
when he was struggling withanxiety oh no, what if?
What if he's feeling anxious?
What if I get that phone callfrom school?
What if he takes the test andhe starts to get nervous and
struggles?
What will he do?
And all of that negativitycreated in the outside world.
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Exactly what was going on in mymind?
I would get the phone call fromschool saying, yeah, he kind of
had a little bit of a panicattack while he was taking a
test or he's struggling, and allthose things that I was
thinking about were actuallyhappening.
And what I didn't realize wasit was me who needed to change.
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I needed to change the way Iwas thinking, I needed to change
the way I was feeling and thenmagically, he started to change
as well.
It's an interesting thing, butthat's the way that it works.
So until next week, have anamazing rest of the day and
practice what we talked aboutthrough auto-suggestion.
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Have an amazing day andremember you matter a lot.
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My Favorite Murder is a true crime comedy podcast hosted by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark. Each week, Karen and Georgia share compelling true crimes and hometown stories from friends and listeners. Since MFM launched in January of 2016, Karen and Georgia have shared their lifelong interest in true crime and have covered stories of infamous serial killers like the Night Stalker, mysterious cold cases, captivating cults, incredible survivor stories and important events from history like the Tulsa race massacre of 1921. My Favorite Murder is part of the Exactly Right podcast network that provides a platform for bold, creative voices to bring to life provocative, entertaining and relatable stories for audiences everywhere. The Exactly Right roster of podcasts covers a variety of topics including historic true crime, comedic interviews and news, science, pop culture and more. Podcasts on the network include Buried Bones with Kate Winkler Dawson and Paul Holes, That's Messed Up: An SVU Podcast, This Podcast Will Kill You, Bananas and more.
Dateline NBC
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