We are often sold the idea that more goals, more milestones and more approval will make us happy. What if they are exactly what keeps you stressed and stuck? In this episode I unpack why “object-referral” success never satisfies and how Self-referral flips the game.
You will hear why a “Reverse Bucket List” helps with non-attachment, and how to rethink KPIs, how to swap Key Performance Indicators for Key Personal Indicators that actually inspire you. We look at pragyaparadh – the mistaken intellect – and how Vedic Meditation normalises Self-referral so you can enjoy happiness for no reason.
00:00 I Can't Get No Satisfaction
02:07 Circumstantial Happiness
03:44 What Will They Think?
04:56 Never, Never Give Up
05:45 Pragyaparadh - The Mistaken Intellect
07:21 Object-referral Status and Self-referral Status
09:02 Enough...
11:34 Self-referral = Self-sufficiency
13:01 The Real KPIs - Key Personal Indicators
14:33 Vairagya - Non-attachment Without Apathy
17:26 Wanting What You Get
20:25 Vedic Meditation - Normalising Self-Referral
22:04 Self-referral in Action
23:39 Take the Road Less Travelled
Additional Resources:
If you like to watch, you can also see this episode on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/YlPHRkNbFDI
Here’s the full video where Professor Arthur Brooks discusses his Reverse Bucket List with Tim Ferriss: https://youtu.be/vGBVf1wwAj0?si=6zju6MhhVRs4zfm7
The Vedic Worldview Podcast. Thom Knoles episode on vairagya: https://thomknoles.com/podcast/vairagya-spontaneous-non-attachment/
You can find me here:
BrettJarman.com (Vedic Meditation and Mentoring enquries): https://brettjarman.com
The Meditation People (Vedic Meditation courses): https://themeditationpeople.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brettjarman/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@brett.jarman
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