December 1, 2025 • 44 mins
What happens when the life you built can no longer hold who you’re becoming?
In this raw and luminous conversation, Aideen sits down with Kanika Vasudeva, energy coach, strategist, and truth-teller, to explore the transformation that began with a private unraveling: a business losing momentum, a marriage dissolving, and the unimaginable grief of stillbirth.
What followed wasn’t a quick reinvention, but a clearing. Years of inner work. Training in energy healing. Leaving misaligned relationships. Rebuilding wealth from resonance, not performance. In this episode, Kanika shares how grief became a doorway to truthful visibility, sovereign boundaries, and pricing that honors your energy.
We explore:
• Moving from guilt and grief to guidance, permission, and power
• Leaving misaligned relationships and rebuilding self-trust
• Redefining visibility through self-knowing, energy, and resonance
• Why “pricing as truth-telling” changes client outcomes
• Baby-step leadership: becoming the lighthouse without forcing the tide
This episode offers a more human roadmap: begin with your energy, honor what lights you up, and build slowly from inner truth outward. Because wealth, real, soul-aligned wealth, follows resonance, not performance.
Connect with Kanika
Instagram: @kanikaenergycoach
Website: www.artoflifecenter.com
LinkedIn: @kanikaenergycoach
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Aideen Ni Riada (00:03):
Welcome to the Resonate Podcast with Aideen.
My guest today, Kanika, is atransformational guide who helps
visionary entrepreneurs,leaders, and coaches expand
their wealth, visibility, andimpact.
With a background as anengineer and an MBA, she blends
grounded business strategy withAkashic wisdom to help her
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clients gain clarity, attractaligned opportunities, and step
powerfully into their next levelof purpose and expansion.
Welcome, Kanika.
How are you?
Kanika Vasudeva (00:35):
I'm doing so well.
Thank you for having me on theshow, Aideen.
Aideen Ni Riada (00:38):
Oh, so great.
And it's so lovely to see youcombining, you know, the
strategy, the MBA, the obviouslythe logical linear, this is the
path we're supposed to take,you know, from a family
perspective.
I bet your parents were veryhappy when you chose to study
all of that, but it has evolvedfrom there, and now there's
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something to do with magic inyour work.
Akashic Records is somethingnot everybody even understands,
and you're mentioning it here inyour bio.
Tell us more about what drewyou from that linear world into
this new expression of yourself.
Kanika Vasudeva (01:20):
Yeah, so I would just say in a short
sentence that life happened.
Um, I was in my mid-30ssuccessful, if you would see
Facebook or LinkedIn.
And inside my world wasn'tthat.
Um, if I paint a picture atthat time, my son was two years
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old.
I was married, um, I was alsopregnant with my daughter, and
life seemed okay on the outside,but inside my marriage was
crumbling.
I had a business at that timethat wasn't doing well, and I
was really questioning myselfwhat I was doing.
And then I lost my daughter at31 weeks, so I had to give still
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birth to her.
It was hard, it was painfullyhard.
But I can say that it was alsosuch a moment of grace, and I
know it's hard to understand,but you know, before that, I
knew my life was hard, I wastrying to make sense of my life,
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I was trying to like just behappy, or even not cry every
day, because that time I waswaking up every day and I just
felt completely meaningless inlife, and I was just crying for
no reason.
But when I lost her, that wasprobably the first time I could
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pause and I could just cry.
It was overwhelming.
That grief, that shock wasoverwhelming.
I was so guilty because I lostmy daughter when I was sleeping,
and I was feeling so guilty asa mom.
So it was so much of acrumbling moment, but I needed
that massive crumbling in mylife to be able to just really
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think that something's got tochange.
And that time guilt was drivingme.
I wanted to really connect withmy daughter, um, say sorry to
her, have a chat with her, tellher, hey, I loved you, because I
felt now so guilty about somany things.
I felt guilty about sleepingwhen she was passing away.
I felt guilty about not tellingher I love you when she was
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with me because I was so busyrunning around.
So that is the time when Ireally started diving into
energy healing and acaricrecords, like all these
modalities because I wanted toconnect with her.
This was the first time my MBAengineer mind was open to this
stuff.
And I learned them because Iwanted to connect with my
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daughter myself.
Um, but here's the beautifulthing.
I connected with her, and Iremember our conversation, and I
said, Hey, you know, I'm sosorry.
I'm so sorry that I wasn'tthere.
And this is the most liberatingthing that she said to me, she
said, Well, it wasn't yourfault.
And I said, What do you mean?
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She said, No, I was never meantto be born.
So she and I had an agreementwell before I incarnated in this
lifetime.
Our agreement was that if I wasnot following my path, if I was
wasting my life, that she wouldcome and wake me up.
So she tried, and I wasn'tstill listening, and then she
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had to pull like the big thingout.
And this is how I listen.
So I'm so glad that she didbecause my life before that and
after that has really changed.
I'm still in touch with mydaughter, she guides everything
that I do, but life is sodrastically different.
I'm excited, I am inspiredevery day, and that's what I
share with the world as well.
Aideen Ni Riada (05:08):
What a journey, and what a heartbreaking but
heart opening that you wentthrough.
It's so interesting.
Not very many people closetheir eyes and pause and ask to
hear from their loved ones,right?
They we kind of expect to see asign, maybe, or you know, we
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hope, but when we can allow theenergy of our loved ones to be
around us, because they're Ibelieve they're always around
us.
Yes.
Um, so I my my grandmother washas been a a force in my life
since she died as well when Iwhen I was about 12 or 13 years
old, and I now can sense whenher energy is near me and the
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love that she has for me.
Um, but I I it's funny becauseyou don't you don't know it's
there at all until you quietenyour mind and you maybe make
that request.
And so you gave yourselfpermission to connect directly
with your daughter.
So you didn't want to go to amedium, you didn't want someone
else to be a conduit for thatconnection.
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Why was that so important toyou?
Kanika Vasudeva (06:26):
Well, to be honest, I really tried it in the
beginning because that's theeasier way.
I wanted to connect with mydaughter, and I did go to a lot
of other intuitives and mediums,and they would say, Well, we
are talking to your daughter andshe's doing this, and it just
did not feel right.
Not that they were not doingthe right things, but it was
very much like, well, she's mydaughter.
I've lost my touch with her.
I want to have a conversationwith her, and I had no idea
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about this whole world.
Um, I've been, I had been avery logical thinker till then,
but that is the time when I wasstarting to step into the
universe and just going, like,you know, you've given me this.
And I had a two-year-old son atthe time, so I didn't want to
really.
I actually thought of ending mylife.
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Seriously, contemplated that.
Like full-on made a list, butthen of course, my son's there,
and I didn't want to go out onhim.
And so my conversation with theuniverse would be well, you've
given me this, and you bettergive me a way that I can talk to
my daughter.
Not in an angry form, not in apleading form, but it was very
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much like a mom talking to theuniverse.
And it was like, I deservethis, you know, it came with
that deep sense that come on,I've never got to hold her.
But to be able to live throughthis, I deserve to be able to
speak with her.
And there was certainty aboutit.
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I still don't know how, butthere was full-on certainty
about this that I need to speakwith her, just the way I can
speak with my son.
And so that's how this teachercrossed my life.
Um, and I started learning fromhim, and um, it was very quick
when I could just converse withmy daughter.
Um, and that was importantbecause I really wanted to feel
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her and have a directconversation with her.
The other thing that I said atthat time was because I was so
new starting with all of this, Ialso made a very specific
intention that when she comes inand when she's around me, I
really need to know that she'saround me.
Like not just a whiff of air,not just a feather, you know,
that I'm guessing.
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Um, but I really need to knowthat she's there.
And this is so, so, so, sointeresting.
Um, because, you know, she andI, we never really had living
moments together.
We really never had anythingthat bound us together.
But there was a tea that I usedto drink when I was pregnant
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with her, and that's made of umthat's sort of like a licorice
tea.
It was a herb that I got fromIndia that was the herbal thing
that I used to have.
And so, even till date, whenshe is coming, I'll just feel
that taste and such anout-of-the-world taste.
Like, I don't have any licoricein my pantry or nothing.
And so all of a sudden thattaste would come and I would go
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like, okay, this is unmistakenlyher.
Aideen Ni Riada (09:28):
Wow, that's such a blessing to have that
connection, isn't it?
And it obviously has changedyour whole way of living and
working since then.
Kanika Vasudeva (09:38):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Like me before that, afterthat, so different.
Um, I wouldn't say like it justchanged, you know, day one, I
started talking to her andthings changed.
It didn't happen like that.
But when I could converse withher, the first thing that
happened was that I could givemyself permission to not feel
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guilty.
Like when she said that it'sokay, that you did nothing
wrong, that was such a hugething.
And then whatever I needed todo, instead of thinking it that,
oh, I lost her, it was morelike, well, I've got her, and
you know, this is the higherguidance.
And then it was more aroundfinding peace, purpose, because
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I didn't believe in myself tillthen.
I was so like a person who'scontemplating suicide, they
really have no hope, they haveno meaning.
It's like it's below zero.
Yeah, you know, the status.
Um, so it was so far down.
I had I mean, if you told methat I would be doing this
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podcast or I would be inspiringother people one day, I would
have laughed at that.
That made no sense.
Um, but yet when she could saythat, and then she said that no,
you have a bigger purpose.
I came to wake you up becauseyou have a bigger purpose.
This is what you've got to do.
I couldn't fully understandthat, but I could believe that
she saw some bigger light in me.
And then I wanted to do thatfirst for myself, for my son,
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just to raise him happily.
Then through the process, Ibecame a lot more open.
And really, for me, what Ithink now signs a cliche because
so many people say it, that youare unpeeling layers of
yourself and you're reallyremembering who you are.
But that's what startedhappening.
Because as life had grown up, Ireally became the version
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others wanted me to be, withouteven remembering, knowing who I
was.
And then those layers, becauseI was getting that guidance, I
could let all of that go.
And slowly, oh, this is what Iwant, this is who I am.
That started emerging out ofthat pile of debris, then the
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light started coming out.
Aideen Ni Riada (11:54):
Well, I'm very glad it did.
Very, very glad it did.
So, what was the first um mostsurprising thing that happened
that kind of you allowed tohappen out of that that
unfurling, that flowering andthat blossoming of your real
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self?
Kanika Vasudeva (12:16):
Oh, lots of things, lots of things, and it
wasn't pretty in the beginningat all.
Um it's like a tornado ofclearing.
I really would say that.
It's like a tornado of clearingbecause the reason I was
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feeling so shitty was becausethe world around me was shitty
and I had allowed it to beshitty.
So the first tornado clearingwas realizing that, oh gosh, you
know, there's so many peoplewho are in my space who are
violating my boundaries, and Ihave allowed that.
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So uh it was a lot around,well, I don't want this, I don't
want this, I don't want this.
It wasn't pretty at all.
Aideen Ni Riada (13:05):
Um, you had to start expressing yourself a lot
differently in yourrelationships and have more
voice, right?
Kanika Vasudeva (13:13):
Yeah.
I remember my husband at thetime, because we were married um
then, and I remember him sayingthat, you know, I don't think
you're doing it right becauseit's supposed to give you peace.
And in my head, I was thinking,no, now it's made me more
confident to be able to reallytalk about my boundaries.
So the first thing that I didwas walked out of the
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relationship that was notserving either of us.
And I was staying in therebecause I felt we had a young
child, and I felt, you know,that that was the best
environment to bring him, togive him a home with both the
parents there.
And the first layers wereunderstanding that, well,
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everybody needs to have theirown boundaries, everybody needs
to have a space where they feelsafe being seen, being heard,
being themselves.
And then that is also thelegacy that you leave for
everybody else.
So rather than give my son aspace where he was sensing chaos
or conflict, even though wewere not fighting in front of
him, but they sense it.
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So rather than giving him thatplace, give him a space where
he's seeing his parents beinghappy in their own lives, and
that's what we did.
So that was the first thing,not pretty to begin with, but
it's pretty now, and it becamepretty very soon.
Once I could let that wholeunpeeling happen, it was a lot
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more easier space for all of us.
Aideen Ni Riada (14:43):
Wow, yes, and did it take how long was it
before you started working inthis area uh for yourself and
helping other people?
Kanika Vasudeva (14:53):
I think I well, I did about eight odd years of
just this own inner healingwork.
And when I talk about my work,so there was a psychic school
that I was attending at thetime.
Um, and I so I went fromteachers to teachers and
literally learned whatever theyhad to teach me.
So I graduated from my firstteacher, then I went on to this
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whole school that has a programon clairvoyance, then they had
another program on teachingclairvoyance, and I didn't
particularly do it to teachanybody, but I just kept doing
it because it helped my owninner world so much.
Like the stuff that I wasdoing, it was massive.
You know, I walked out of mymarriage, um, and I did not
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really take things from my ex.
But I started a completely newlife.
I was able to get a mortgagefor my home, buy my own place.
I was able to get promotionsfor myself, repeated promotions.
I was able to get into jobsthat I liked.
So life was really going well.
The more I was able to shift myinner world, really peel off
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the layers that was not needed,the more there was space to
allow the things that I neededor wanted to come in.
And that was happening more andmore.
So I just kept doing this.
After a while, life gotcomfortable, good, but I still
kept doing it because by now Iwas um I had tasted the poison.
You're addicted to the energy.
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It's coming to you.
You want to hold on, right?
Yes, I wanted to learn newthings and I went on, did some
certifications.
Like I just dived into it moreand more and more.
And then there was this voicethat became really strong that
you should become a coach andyou should teach this.
And for a while, I uh I didn'tlisten to it.
Like I was like, this is just ahobby, this is just something
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that I'll do on the side.
And I did that, but the voicedid not go away.
Neither did my excitement inseeing people transform really
go away.
Um, and then it just startedgetting louder, and then one day
I had to, and circumstanceshappened as well that I just had
to take a sabbatical and go,okay, let me try this now and do
this.
Aideen Ni Riada (17:03):
Yes, and you did, and now here we are.
Um, I know that you run umevents and you bring people
together, but what is yourfavorite part of the work that
you do now?
Kanika Vasudeva (17:18):
Well, I love having people transform.
I love watching them transform.
Like my passion now is to helppeople have more money, have
more visibility, especiallyheart-led entrepreneurs,
especially um the leaders whoreally want to create that
change.
I want to help them have thatvisibility, have that impact
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that they've been craving for.
So it brings me a lot of joybecause I know that when I
healed myself, the more I healedmyself, the more I healed and
helped everybody around me.
I've helped my family, I'vehelped my son, I've helped even
friends who just watch, evenpeople who just watch, they get
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a different way of seeingthings.
So it is such a healing.
I know from the deeper healingwork that I've also healed
ancestral generations and theirtraumas.
So it is massively empowering.
And when I'm able to do that orsee that happen for someone
else, it lights me up in so manyways because we often see just
the one person, but there's sucha big ripple effect that's
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happening.
That lights me up.
Just the fact that we're havingthis conversation and somebody
else might listen to it andmight give them some nugget that
changes their life, that lightsme up.
Aideen Ni Riada (18:36):
And I know that a lot of us have spent too much
time holding ourselves back.
And visibility requires acertain amount of courage.
So, how do you help people findthat courage?
Kanika Vasudeva (18:52):
Oh, such a deep question.
Because um, like you said,visibility is so much around,
first of all, just gettingreally okay with who you are.
That's the first step.
And often we might think thatwe are okay, we are comfortable
with who we are, but we're not.
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I'll give you an example umbefore I dive into the business
side of it.
It's a very personal story.
I remember walking out of mymarriage, and this is when I'm
sitting with a friend and we'rejust having lunch together.
And he's asking me, Well, whatwould you like to have for
lunch?
And I had been so used togiving to others, I really had
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to think.
Honestly, I had to think what Iwanted to eat because before
that, not that anybody waspressurizing me, but I'd always
thought of someone else.
What would they like?
What would my son like?
Because in case he's not havinghis meal, then maybe he'll have
mine, you know.
So it took me time, and that'sthe first thing that I see with
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clients or anyone who wants tobe visible.
First of all, understand whoare you?
What is it that you want tooffer?
Because when you tap that, thatwill light you up when you are
really in resonance with youressence.
So it took me a while to findout my favorite food now.
I have no problems saying thatnow, I have no problems posting
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on social media because thereis, I know that I love
transforming people.
I know that I love talkingabout money or visibility.
I know I love talking about,you know, this is how you create
an impact.
That's my jam.
That's what inspires me, fuelsme.
But that stuff that you arereally excited about, that is
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your stuff.
So first figure that out.
And to figure that out, youhave to first unpeel layers of
you.
But once you've got that, thenit's easier to be visible.
And then there might be otherblocks after that, as you know,
I'm sure.
Uh, there could be blocksaround, well, I don't want to be
seen so much, I don't want tobe seen at all.
I can't say this.
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This will upset people.
There are other things thatcome with it, but it's just more
and more stepping into orallowing yourself to be you
rather, rather than anythingelse.
Just giving yourself givingyourself permission, yes,
trusting and giving yourselfpermission to be seen.
Aideen Ni Riada (21:19):
Yes, and what we're talking about there with
even choosing something that youlike, and that idea of making a
choice, a lot of people avoidmaking choices, you know, and
that's it's easier, right?
To go along with, oh yeah, theywant to go to this place, or I
I know even you know, inconversations with my own
husband, there's times where I'mjust like, well, he seems to
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want to do that, so I'll just goalong with it.
And then after a few times, youknow, that might have happened,
I I kind of get irritated.
And the the irritation is justmy soul going, when are you
gonna just admit you want to dosomething different?
Right?
When are you going to just say,why don't you go to the movies
by yourself to watch thatsuperhero, you know, things that
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I don't really care about?
And we know each other betternow because I I was able to find
the courage to express myinterests, express my choice.
And it's okay if someone is putout originally, they might be
like, Well, now I'm going to themovies by myself, but you know,
what's that's good too?
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Maybe you find a friend to gowith.
So people will adjust around uswhen we start making those
changes.
And I feel like what mostpeople don't understand is when
you connect in with your highestgood, even if there is a little
tornado to be had around youbecause you're starting to align
with your highest good, that itwill, you know, resonate with
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the highest good for everybodyinvolved.
Kanika Vasudeva (22:49):
Oh, I love it.
Love that you said that becausethat is truly what happens.
We often get scared of speakingour truth because we feel truth
hurts, right?
And that is what's happening.
That you know, in the moment itmight feel like, oh, it was
something different for me, butliterally that's all that it is,
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and then there's arecalibration happening.
Your truth is a gift because itallows them to be in their
truth as well, it allows them torealign their world, and
sometimes your worlds willmatch, and you know, you'll find
like your happy balance.
Sometimes for some things, itmight be like, okay, I'm gonna
do it this way without you, andI'm gonna do it with another
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friend or so on, and these arethe things that we're gonna do
together, but it allows morehappiness, it actually allows
more expansion.
Truth is liberating, truth isnot limiting.
It might just feel daunting,scary, but take that bite
because it's good for everybody.
Aideen Ni Riada (23:49):
And how does that um truth translate into
money?
Because I know um beingrewarded and you know, asking
for the right pricing is stuffthat you work with your clients
on, and so I bet that there's away that this translates, right?
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Do you feel that people are notbeing truthful enough in their
businesses, which is why they'renot achieving enough in their
business?
How does that work?
Kanika Vasudeva (24:22):
Yes, and I'm so glad that you've picked up this
undercurrent because there'llbe times when, especially when
coaches are just starting out,and I've had that for a really
long time till I've overcome it,you freeze around the prices or
you lower your prices.
And what's really happening isthat not you were untruthful,
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but there's an essence of, well,maybe I'm not worthy, maybe I
can't say this.
You know, like if I go back tothe lunch example, and even when
I was with my husband, yes, wewere not really working out, but
he'd not really um ever saidthat you can't have this food.
I was doing it to myself, I wasbeing the untruthful person
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there because I wanted somethingand I was just not giving
myself permission to think andorder the food that I wanted to
order.
When we are saying a price, weare telling that, oh, this is my
worth.
This is how much the servicecosts because of the
transformation that it willbring for you.
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So it's a gift to them as well,when we can express that truth.
The more we can be in thetruth, the when that is our
frequency where everybody iscoming in, if they're coming in
with the vibration of truth,because we have been very honest
with ourselves, we've saidthat, oh, I'm worth this much,
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the results are going to be thismuch.
So you step in there, when theystep in there, they're stepping
into their truth as well.
Whereas if you're bringing themwith not that you're trying to
be dishonest, but if you havelowered your price, then you
have sort of dimmed your light.
And then when they enter thatportal, they're dimming their
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light too, because the portalitself did not have enough light
to begin with.
So when you say the truth,you've allowed light to enter,
and then they can bring that in,and they actually get a lot
more expansion.
So your truth is such a gift tothe whole world, and it will
translate to money, it willtranslate to bigger, better
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transformation because it isthat open, that aware, that
expansive space.
So maybe um, like when I lookedat money, and you know, I'm the
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same.
I've tried doing this for mycountry back in India, and I
really lowered my prices, andbecause I wanted to reach out to
a lot more people in India, Ikept it affordable for them, but
still like a good entry level.
And I'm the same coach teachingpeople in other countries as
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well, teaching people there aswell.
The level of transformationthat they could have, not that
they did not try, the level oftransformation they could have
wasn't as big.
Like it brought peace intotheir life.
They were able to changethings, they were able to sleep
better.
Um, I had a client of mine whowas um who had migraine, and so
she got enough peace that shedidn't have to go to the doctors
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and she was able to find peace,right?
That's what happened becausethe price was lower.
It was still good, but was notgreat.
It was not wow.
Whereas I work with my clientshere, and if I give you examples
of what's happened there, um,there's a lady who came to me
because she wanted to write abook for about seven years she'd
been carrying in her head.
And there was just somethinggoing on with her that whenever
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she wanted to really write, andit was something that wasn't
going away, but whenever shewanted to write, she would
freeze up, her body would starthaving literally some ache or
something, she would be in bedfor a few days, and she's like,
I really need to write thisbook, and I don't know how.
We worked together, and youknow, within a month, she has
now finished her book, she'sactually doing her cover, it's
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all done.
And there's so many otherexamples like that.
When the full priceconversation happens, because
the transformation that they areallowed to the portal that
they're entering is fullytransformative, they can really
experience big shifts and bigresults.
So, money is such a servicewhen you are bringing in the
full money for yourself andallowing another person to
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invest fully in themselves.
When they invest with the fullprice, then they are also
investing in their ownself-worth that itself is
activating for them because ittells them, well, I'm worthy
enough that I can invest thismuch on me and I can have this
level of transformation andgrowth.
Aideen Ni Riada (29:08):
Well, that's so good.
I want to hear it twice.
So they are they are able tomake the investment because
their belief is in theirself-worth.
Kanika Vasudeva (29:21):
Yes.
So if you have lowered theprice, let's say whatever your
price is, right?
Maybe let's say just ballpark$1,000, and let's say you lower
that to $500 for someone, yousay, Well, I see your situation,
and you know, now I'm gonnamake it $500 for you, and they
come in $500.
What they haven't been able todo with that $500, because that
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is just comfortable for them, sothey haven't really expanded
their energy in the process.
$500 was like just a man, andthey could afford it.
They said, Okay, you know, I'lldo $500.
They haven't shifted theirenergy enough.
The money exchange itself iswhere the transformation starts
happening.
And that is that containerwhere it starts happening.
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So if it's just 500, if it wascomfortable enough, if that
energy is coming fromcomfortable enough, well, I'll
do this, then this is a littlebit of energy like, well, maybe
I'll do this, maybe I won't dothis, and maybe I'll fully do
this, we'll see how it is.
It's a little bit more testingenergy.
Whereas if they come in fullyand they have put in the full
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price, and it's a little bit ofa stretch for them, they have
stretched their energy out, andthen they're going, Well, this
is a stretch for me.
I really want to do this.
I'm fully invested in this.
I'm going to make this work,and I'm going to have such
brilliant results.
So all of a sudden, you'vemoved from the mindset of
someone who's coming in fullyleaned in, fully ready to soak
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in.
And you'll see that again andagain.
I just ask you to maybe do anexperiment.
Get in clients with full price,get in clients where you're
giving a discount, and you'lljust find the energy mismatch,
especially for coaches who aregetting people on a
transformation journey.
Aideen Ni Riada (31:08):
Yes, absolutely.
And when you do discount,because I know from an
experience in the last yearwhere someone kind of negotiated
this is what I can afford, andit was a monthly payment.
And anytime that payment camein, I just felt my heart drop.
I was like, doesn't feel good.
I was like, this doesn't feelgood.
(31:30):
This is like not feeling rightat all.
And we had a conversation, andshe pushed back for sure when I
suggested that it doubled orwhatever it was, because it
wasn't that big an amount.
Um, but I stuck to my guns, andnow the relationship and the
transformation and the energy isis improving because it's it's
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it has to feel good.
It has to be awin-win-win-win-win, right?
That's what I always ask for inlife.
You know, we like my highestgood means that'll resonate with
the highest good of everyone.
It's like everybody should berising, you know, a rising tide
raises all the boats.
So we should be all allowingthis thing to be rising around
us.
And there's an element ofpeople feel when someone's
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struggling around them that theyhave to lower themselves, that
they have to come down to thatlevel.
But the analogy I would use isum if you're in a boat and
someone is drowning, you don'tjump in the water, don't jump in
the water with them, right?
You've got to stay in the boatand pull them in, right?
You have to bring them up toyour level and they will come,
(32:37):
they will gladly come becausethey'll see that you've got more
stability, you've got theresources that you need.
Um, so yeah, don't jump out ofthe boat.
Kanika Vasudeva (32:47):
Yeah, absolutely.
And I think especially for allthe light workers, um, you know,
we struggle with wanting to beliked, and because we want to
really impact as many people aswe can.
We really want to spread thatlight.
But it's a similar example thatwhen you are the candle or when
you are the lighthouse, it'syour job is to be the candle.
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And of course, sometimes peoplewill go look at the candle and
they'll be like, Wow, it's litup, and you know, I want to be
near here.
And then some people might say,How dare you?
Because it's such a dark room,and how come you are shining
your light?
But that's your job.
That's what you're supposed todo.
You're supposed to be thecandle.
So you be the candle, you doyou, and let people rearrange
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around you.
Because even if people are notcoming into your light, that's
absolutely okay.
Like if somebody cannot comeinto your circle and get your
transformation for whateverreason, that is absolutely okay.
But just the fact that they cansee you shining in your light,
that already is a gift and aservice to them.
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Your expansion is a gift to theworld.
Whether they enter your worldas a paying client or a free
person or not at all, it isstill a gift to the world.
Definitely.
Yeah.
Aideen Ni Riada (34:14):
So, where do you go from there?
So when we have this, um we wecreate something, right?
We're ready to share it withthe world, we're ready to be
visible.
How do you um encourage peoplewhen they don't seem to be
getting the results that theywould like yet?
Kanika Vasudeva (34:34):
And that's when I'd ask them to start looking
at their calling or their innerguidance.
What is it telling them?
You know, in our world, we havelots of gurus who tell us this
is how you do it, this is thewebsite that you do, this is the
strategy, this is the funnel,this is the app that you make,
(34:56):
like thousands of things.
This is the podcast, this isblah, blah, blah.
There's just so many things todo.
And you start with you.
Seriously, it's that easy.
You start with you, you startwith what sings in your heart,
what is your passion, you startdoing that first.
You really, when you serve froma place that is full, you will
(35:18):
get more fullness back.
So I always say that start withthe place that really resonates
very deeply with you.
For some people, that, forexample, for you, it might be
singing sometimes, it might bedoing a podcast.
There are other clients wholove to speak in my case, and we
haven't really gone out anddone anything with Instagram or
websites, but we've literallyjust worked on that process
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because that was very energizingfor them.
But find your energy, energyessence.
Find what it is you like, likeget really clear around what is
energy draining for you.
Take that off.
Get really clear around what isenergy giving for you, and then
hone in on all that energygiving stuff and whatever gives
(36:03):
you energy, and I bet youthere's stuff there that will
lead to more visibility and moreclients just automatically.
But just hone in on that and dothat.
Do you better?
Aideen Ni Riada (36:13):
I love that.
Do you better?
That's awesome.
Really, really that's abeautiful phrase, and it brings
to mind something that's, youknow, because I've had, you
know, a pause in my onlinebusiness and frustration with
being on Zoom and you know,being separated from real people
because um a lot of the workthat I've been doing in the past
(36:36):
five years since COVID has beenonline, and I have more
in-person things starting now,and I've got, you know, that's
just starting to really light meup.
Um, so I think we spend sometime, we see outside of us what
other people are doing, and wethink, oh, I'll have to have my
online group program, or I do myonline this, or you know,
there's there's lots of shinyobjects out there.
(36:59):
Um, but I knew what I neededwas to be around people.
And so that's my my latestchange because where I've been
living here in America has beenlike a whole new community.
I didn't have a lot of supportto be in the community, so it's
taken me some time to take thosesteps, and that is that's what
(37:20):
I'm leaning into be uh doingmore of me.
Kanika Vasudeva (37:24):
Yeah, and you'll find that the more you do
you, the more your businessjust starts smile because when
you start doing the work, itjust brings you a natural smile.
Before people come even intoyour field, they're actually
attracted by your energy.
Before they read your post,they sense you.
There's like these energeticundercurrents that we're our
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heart is a center, our heart isan electromagnetic center, um,
like at all the other bodychakras, but heart's been
studied so much that when yourheart field is vibrating, it is
actually attracting those peoplewho are really aligned with
you.
Um, and they're just cominginto your field automatically.
Actually, I said that allreally stupidly, but I thought
(38:08):
that made a lot of sense.
No, I said when your heart isvibrating, well, your heart is
vibrating all the time.
But what I mean to say is thatyour heart is always emitting
that field, that electromagneticfield where people will come
into your space and people whoare really resonant with your
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message will come to you.
So just do you first.
And it's good that you are in aplace where you feel more
energized, you're more withpeople, because that brings out
the shiny smiley you.
Aideen Ni Riada (38:43):
My best self, that's the one I want to be
every day.
Kanika Vasudeva (38:46):
Yes, and then that even feels like less work,
it feels more enjoyable, it justfeels easier.
Aideen Ni Riada (38:52):
Absolutely.
Whoa, I'm so excited.
And I know that um you workwith people all over the world.
And what is it you would liketo say to the listeners?
Like, what's the one thing thatyou want people to really
remember from our conversationtoday?
Kanika Vasudeva (39:09):
Oh, I'd say that if you have a calling and
you feel like this is somethingthat I want to do, and then
you're also thinking, like,gosh, this is so big, I'll never
do this, or how will I do thisstep, and so on, I'd encourage
you just to take a step back.
Think of it this way, right?
The universe chose you for anidea.
(39:29):
Universe is actually funnelingan idea through you, and it's
asking you that, hey, go aheadand do this.
So now, before you startthinking, how am I going to be
on stage?
How am I going to write thisbook?
How am I going to get itpublished?
How am I going to do this songor dance or whatever it is?
And you start going down therabbit hole of I don't know the
right people and so on, take apause.
(39:51):
That's not required.
That's very, very far out.
Be in the here and now, you'vegot a little idea.
You think it's a big idea, butfor the universe that is funding
everything, it's a little idea.
This the universe createseverything around you.
So the universe is giving youone idea.
Universe has chosen you.
So it's not making mistakes,it's chosen you, it knows what
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it's doing.
Just trust that and lean in.
Take the first baby step.
And maybe that is just that yousing the little bit that you
need to, you write the littlebit that you need to, and then
ask, okay, what do I need to donext?
That's it.
If you have a calling, knowthat it's bigger than you, know
that you have the chosen one,and just do the little baby
(40:36):
step.
That's it.
That's all your job is.
Aideen Ni Riada (40:40):
You make it sound very simple, and I think
it is that simple when we have alittle bit of support around us
and we get those reminders.
And you know, I think we allneed those reminders.
Not everybody will get it.
And we, you mean you spoke tothis earlier, but when we have
that little kernel of an ideaand it drops in, no one else can
(41:02):
see that the way you see it.
And until you you nurture it alittle, you won't be able to
even explain what it is that youwant to do to anybody else.
You have to sit with it.
And I think this is one of thethings that I think people
forget is you know, we've gotdaylight and we have nighttime,
and the nighttime and the andyou know, the burrowing under
(41:25):
the covers and or a sowing of aseed deep in the soil where we
kind of hide the little baby.
You know, the baby doesn't comeout like you know, burst
through on day one.
It has a time of incubation.
So sometimes those ideas needthe darkness, they need us to
hold them tight.
We don't need to telleverybody, we need to find our
(41:46):
own little small steps.
And I think that that what yousaid is it's genius, right?
Because you're remindingyourself that you do have a
place in the world, that thisidea is not a mistake, and you
just need to do one small thing,and one small thing can be
(42:08):
tiny, and as long as you keeptaking one small step, you can
go very, very far.
Kanika Vasudeva (42:14):
Yeah, and then I love your idea around support
as well.
That yes, you want to besurrounded with people who are
thinking like that.
So if that is your next level,then you can start thinking of
well, these are people thatinspire me.
Follow them on Instagram, readthe stories, but just up-level
yourself in the terms ofthinking.
People where you feel inspired,not where you've where
(42:37):
something in your body goes,gosh, I have to do so much.
No, not that energy, but peoplewho inspire you.
And you'll automatically startfinding them.
Because when you do, when youare on that up-level frequency,
automatically your body is alsomatching up and getting ready.
When you hear them over andover again, the way they're
saying their things and thethings that are already true for
(42:59):
them, and even just the wayyou're listening to this podcast
right now, it's like, gosh,okay, I can do this because for
us it's a reality.
Like, this is what we wake updo every day.
Aideen Ni Riada (43:08):
Completely.
I mean, I didn't know in 2015that my business was going to
look how it does now.
All I was told was do a singingworkshop for adults, and then
the next thing, my life took ona completely new meaning, and it
was just taking one little stepat a time, just like you're
saying.
It's been beautiful to talk toyou today, Kanika.
(43:28):
I really appreciate you takingthe time.
And I'd encourage you, ifyou're listening, to um connect
with Kanika.
I'm going to be putting herlinks in the show notes.
We would both love to hear fromyou because we've both been in
that position of not knowing whoto share our little precious
ideas with.
And so we're really open tothat.
(43:50):
You're welcome to just email,we'll we would definitely
respond.
And we look forward to umseeing what you do with your
business next, Kanika, and overthe next few months.
Um, follow her on Instagram.
That's where you're gonna findsome fun and heartwarming
inspiration.
Thank you so much, Kanika, um,for joining me on the Resonate
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Podcast.
And thank you all forlistening.
Kanika Vasudeva (44:15):
Thank you so much, Aileen.
It was such a pleasure, andthanks to all the listeners as
well for tuning in.
And go ahead, follow your joy.
You can find me at KanikaEnergy Coach.
Oh, we'd love to hear from you.
Take care.
Aideen Ni Riada (44:27):
Bye bye.
Welcome to the Resonate Podcast with Aideen.
My guest today, Kanika, is atransformational guide who helps
visionary entrepreneurs,leaders, and coaches expand
their wealth, visibility, andimpact.
With a background as anengineer and an MBA, she blends
grounded business strategy withAkashic wisdom to help her
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clients gain clarity, attractaligned opportunities, and step
powerfully into their next levelof purpose and expansion.
Welcome, Kanika.
How are you?
Kanika Vasudeva (00:35):
I'm doing so well.
Thank you for having me on theshow, Aideen.
Aideen Ni Riada (00:38):
Oh, so great.
And it's so lovely to see youcombining, you know, the
strategy, the MBA, the obviouslythe logical linear, this is the
path we're supposed to take,you know, from a family
perspective.
I bet your parents were veryhappy when you chose to study
all of that, but it has evolvedfrom there, and now there's
(01:01):
something to do with magic inyour work.
Akashic Records is somethingnot everybody even understands,
and you're mentioning it here inyour bio.
Tell us more about what drewyou from that linear world into
this new expression of yourself.
Kanika Vasudeva (01:20):
Yeah, so I would just say in a short
sentence that life happened.
Um, I was in my mid-30ssuccessful, if you would see
Facebook or LinkedIn.
And inside my world wasn'tthat.
Um, if I paint a picture atthat time, my son was two years
(01:42):
old.
I was married, um, I was alsopregnant with my daughter, and
life seemed okay on the outside,but inside my marriage was
crumbling.
I had a business at that timethat wasn't doing well, and I
was really questioning myselfwhat I was doing.
And then I lost my daughter at31 weeks, so I had to give still
(02:08):
birth to her.
It was hard, it was painfullyhard.
But I can say that it was alsosuch a moment of grace, and I
know it's hard to understand,but you know, before that, I
knew my life was hard, I wastrying to make sense of my life,
(02:29):
I was trying to like just behappy, or even not cry every
day, because that time I waswaking up every day and I just
felt completely meaningless inlife, and I was just crying for
no reason.
But when I lost her, that wasprobably the first time I could
(02:50):
pause and I could just cry.
It was overwhelming.
That grief, that shock wasoverwhelming.
I was so guilty because I lostmy daughter when I was sleeping,
and I was feeling so guilty asa mom.
So it was so much of acrumbling moment, but I needed
that massive crumbling in mylife to be able to just really
(03:15):
think that something's got tochange.
And that time guilt was drivingme.
I wanted to really connect withmy daughter, um, say sorry to
her, have a chat with her, tellher, hey, I loved you, because I
felt now so guilty about somany things.
I felt guilty about sleepingwhen she was passing away.
I felt guilty about not tellingher I love you when she was
(03:37):
with me because I was so busyrunning around.
So that is the time when Ireally started diving into
energy healing and acaricrecords, like all these
modalities because I wanted toconnect with her.
This was the first time my MBAengineer mind was open to this
stuff.
And I learned them because Iwanted to connect with my
(04:00):
daughter myself.
Um, but here's the beautifulthing.
I connected with her, and Iremember our conversation, and I
said, Hey, you know, I'm sosorry.
I'm so sorry that I wasn'tthere.
And this is the most liberatingthing that she said to me, she
said, Well, it wasn't yourfault.
And I said, What do you mean?
(04:20):
She said, No, I was never meantto be born.
So she and I had an agreementwell before I incarnated in this
lifetime.
Our agreement was that if I wasnot following my path, if I was
wasting my life, that she wouldcome and wake me up.
So she tried, and I wasn'tstill listening, and then she
(04:46):
had to pull like the big thingout.
And this is how I listen.
So I'm so glad that she didbecause my life before that and
after that has really changed.
I'm still in touch with mydaughter, she guides everything
that I do, but life is sodrastically different.
I'm excited, I am inspiredevery day, and that's what I
share with the world as well.
Aideen Ni Riada (05:08):
What a journey, and what a heartbreaking but
heart opening that you wentthrough.
It's so interesting.
Not very many people closetheir eyes and pause and ask to
hear from their loved ones,right?
They we kind of expect to see asign, maybe, or you know, we
(05:33):
hope, but when we can allow theenergy of our loved ones to be
around us, because they're Ibelieve they're always around
us.
Yes.
Um, so I my my grandmother washas been a a force in my life
since she died as well when Iwhen I was about 12 or 13 years
old, and I now can sense whenher energy is near me and the
(05:59):
love that she has for me.
Um, but I I it's funny becauseyou don't you don't know it's
there at all until you quietenyour mind and you maybe make
that request.
And so you gave yourselfpermission to connect directly
with your daughter.
So you didn't want to go to amedium, you didn't want someone
else to be a conduit for thatconnection.
(06:22):
Why was that so important toyou?
Kanika Vasudeva (06:26):
Well, to be honest, I really tried it in the
beginning because that's theeasier way.
I wanted to connect with mydaughter, and I did go to a lot
of other intuitives and mediums,and they would say, Well, we
are talking to your daughter andshe's doing this, and it just
did not feel right.
Not that they were not doingthe right things, but it was
very much like, well, she's mydaughter.
I've lost my touch with her.
I want to have a conversationwith her, and I had no idea
(06:50):
about this whole world.
Um, I've been, I had been avery logical thinker till then,
but that is the time when I wasstarting to step into the
universe and just going, like,you know, you've given me this.
And I had a two-year-old son atthe time, so I didn't want to
really.
I actually thought of ending mylife.
(07:12):
Seriously, contemplated that.
Like full-on made a list, butthen of course, my son's there,
and I didn't want to go out onhim.
And so my conversation with theuniverse would be well, you've
given me this, and you bettergive me a way that I can talk to
my daughter.
Not in an angry form, not in apleading form, but it was very
(07:36):
much like a mom talking to theuniverse.
And it was like, I deservethis, you know, it came with
that deep sense that come on,I've never got to hold her.
But to be able to live throughthis, I deserve to be able to
speak with her.
And there was certainty aboutit.
(07:56):
I still don't know how, butthere was full-on certainty
about this that I need to speakwith her, just the way I can
speak with my son.
And so that's how this teachercrossed my life.
Um, and I started learning fromhim, and um, it was very quick
when I could just converse withmy daughter.
Um, and that was importantbecause I really wanted to feel
(08:20):
her and have a directconversation with her.
The other thing that I said atthat time was because I was so
new starting with all of this, Ialso made a very specific
intention that when she comes inand when she's around me, I
really need to know that she'saround me.
Like not just a whiff of air,not just a feather, you know,
that I'm guessing.
(08:41):
Um, but I really need to knowthat she's there.
And this is so, so, so, sointeresting.
Um, because, you know, she andI, we never really had living
moments together.
We really never had anythingthat bound us together.
But there was a tea that I usedto drink when I was pregnant
(09:01):
with her, and that's made of umthat's sort of like a licorice
tea.
It was a herb that I got fromIndia that was the herbal thing
that I used to have.
And so, even till date, whenshe is coming, I'll just feel
that taste and such anout-of-the-world taste.
Like, I don't have any licoricein my pantry or nothing.
And so all of a sudden thattaste would come and I would go
(09:24):
like, okay, this is unmistakenlyher.
Aideen Ni Riada (09:28):
Wow, that's such a blessing to have that
connection, isn't it?
And it obviously has changedyour whole way of living and
working since then.
Kanika Vasudeva (09:38):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Like me before that, afterthat, so different.
Um, I wouldn't say like it justchanged, you know, day one, I
started talking to her andthings changed.
It didn't happen like that.
But when I could converse withher, the first thing that
happened was that I could givemyself permission to not feel
(10:03):
guilty.
Like when she said that it'sokay, that you did nothing
wrong, that was such a hugething.
And then whatever I needed todo, instead of thinking it that,
oh, I lost her, it was morelike, well, I've got her, and
you know, this is the higherguidance.
And then it was more aroundfinding peace, purpose, because
(10:25):
I didn't believe in myself tillthen.
I was so like a person who'scontemplating suicide, they
really have no hope, they haveno meaning.
It's like it's below zero.
Yeah, you know, the status.
Um, so it was so far down.
I had I mean, if you told methat I would be doing this
(10:45):
podcast or I would be inspiringother people one day, I would
have laughed at that.
That made no sense.
Um, but yet when she could saythat, and then she said that no,
you have a bigger purpose.
I came to wake you up becauseyou have a bigger purpose.
This is what you've got to do.
I couldn't fully understandthat, but I could believe that
she saw some bigger light in me.
And then I wanted to do thatfirst for myself, for my son,
(11:10):
just to raise him happily.
Then through the process, Ibecame a lot more open.
And really, for me, what Ithink now signs a cliche because
so many people say it, that youare unpeeling layers of
yourself and you're reallyremembering who you are.
But that's what startedhappening.
Because as life had grown up, Ireally became the version
(11:32):
others wanted me to be, withouteven remembering, knowing who I
was.
And then those layers, becauseI was getting that guidance, I
could let all of that go.
And slowly, oh, this is what Iwant, this is who I am.
That started emerging out ofthat pile of debris, then the
(11:53):
light started coming out.
Aideen Ni Riada (11:54):
Well, I'm very glad it did.
Very, very glad it did.
So, what was the first um mostsurprising thing that happened
that kind of you allowed tohappen out of that that
unfurling, that flowering andthat blossoming of your real
(12:15):
self?
Kanika Vasudeva (12:16):
Oh, lots of things, lots of things, and it
wasn't pretty in the beginningat all.
Um it's like a tornado ofclearing.
I really would say that.
It's like a tornado of clearingbecause the reason I was
(12:36):
feeling so shitty was becausethe world around me was shitty
and I had allowed it to beshitty.
So the first tornado clearingwas realizing that, oh gosh, you
know, there's so many peoplewho are in my space who are
violating my boundaries, and Ihave allowed that.
(12:57):
So uh it was a lot around,well, I don't want this, I don't
want this, I don't want this.
It wasn't pretty at all.
Aideen Ni Riada (13:05):
Um, you had to start expressing yourself a lot
differently in yourrelationships and have more
voice, right?
Kanika Vasudeva (13:13):
Yeah.
I remember my husband at thetime, because we were married um
then, and I remember him sayingthat, you know, I don't think
you're doing it right becauseit's supposed to give you peace.
And in my head, I was thinking,no, now it's made me more
confident to be able to reallytalk about my boundaries.
So the first thing that I didwas walked out of the
(13:33):
relationship that was notserving either of us.
And I was staying in therebecause I felt we had a young
child, and I felt, you know,that that was the best
environment to bring him, togive him a home with both the
parents there.
And the first layers wereunderstanding that, well,
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everybody needs to have theirown boundaries, everybody needs
to have a space where they feelsafe being seen, being heard,
being themselves.
And then that is also thelegacy that you leave for
everybody else.
So rather than give my son aspace where he was sensing chaos
or conflict, even though wewere not fighting in front of
him, but they sense it.
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So rather than giving him thatplace, give him a space where
he's seeing his parents beinghappy in their own lives, and
that's what we did.
So that was the first thing,not pretty to begin with, but
it's pretty now, and it becamepretty very soon.
Once I could let that wholeunpeeling happen, it was a lot
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more easier space for all of us.
Aideen Ni Riada (14:43):
Wow, yes, and did it take how long was it
before you started working inthis area uh for yourself and
helping other people?
Kanika Vasudeva (14:53):
I think I well, I did about eight odd years of
just this own inner healingwork.
And when I talk about my work,so there was a psychic school
that I was attending at thetime.
Um, and I so I went fromteachers to teachers and
literally learned whatever theyhad to teach me.
So I graduated from my firstteacher, then I went on to this
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whole school that has a programon clairvoyance, then they had
another program on teachingclairvoyance, and I didn't
particularly do it to teachanybody, but I just kept doing
it because it helped my owninner world so much.
Like the stuff that I wasdoing, it was massive.
You know, I walked out of mymarriage, um, and I did not
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really take things from my ex.
But I started a completely newlife.
I was able to get a mortgagefor my home, buy my own place.
I was able to get promotionsfor myself, repeated promotions.
I was able to get into jobsthat I liked.
So life was really going well.
The more I was able to shift myinner world, really peel off
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the layers that was not needed,the more there was space to
allow the things that I neededor wanted to come in.
And that was happening more andmore.
So I just kept doing this.
After a while, life gotcomfortable, good, but I still
kept doing it because by now Iwas um I had tasted the poison.
You're addicted to the energy.
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It's coming to you.
You want to hold on, right?
Yes, I wanted to learn newthings and I went on, did some
certifications.
Like I just dived into it moreand more and more.
And then there was this voicethat became really strong that
you should become a coach andyou should teach this.
And for a while, I uh I didn'tlisten to it.
Like I was like, this is just ahobby, this is just something
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that I'll do on the side.
And I did that, but the voicedid not go away.
Neither did my excitement inseeing people transform really
go away.
Um, and then it just startedgetting louder, and then one day
I had to, and circumstanceshappened as well that I just had
to take a sabbatical and go,okay, let me try this now and do
this.
Aideen Ni Riada (17:03):
Yes, and you did, and now here we are.
Um, I know that you run umevents and you bring people
together, but what is yourfavorite part of the work that
you do now?
Kanika Vasudeva (17:18):
Well, I love having people transform.
I love watching them transform.
Like my passion now is to helppeople have more money, have
more visibility, especiallyheart-led entrepreneurs,
especially um the leaders whoreally want to create that
change.
I want to help them have thatvisibility, have that impact
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that they've been craving for.
So it brings me a lot of joybecause I know that when I
healed myself, the more I healedmyself, the more I healed and
helped everybody around me.
I've helped my family, I'vehelped my son, I've helped even
friends who just watch, evenpeople who just watch, they get
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a different way of seeingthings.
So it is such a healing.
I know from the deeper healingwork that I've also healed
ancestral generations and theirtraumas.
So it is massively empowering.
And when I'm able to do that orsee that happen for someone
else, it lights me up in so manyways because we often see just
the one person, but there's sucha big ripple effect that's
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happening.
That lights me up.
Just the fact that we're havingthis conversation and somebody
else might listen to it andmight give them some nugget that
changes their life, that lightsme up.
Aideen Ni Riada (18:36):
And I know that a lot of us have spent too much
time holding ourselves back.
And visibility requires acertain amount of courage.
So, how do you help people findthat courage?
Kanika Vasudeva (18:52):
Oh, such a deep question.
Because um, like you said,visibility is so much around,
first of all, just gettingreally okay with who you are.
That's the first step.
And often we might think thatwe are okay, we are comfortable
with who we are, but we're not.
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I'll give you an example umbefore I dive into the business
side of it.
It's a very personal story.
I remember walking out of mymarriage, and this is when I'm
sitting with a friend and we'rejust having lunch together.
And he's asking me, Well, whatwould you like to have for
lunch?
And I had been so used togiving to others, I really had
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to think.
Honestly, I had to think what Iwanted to eat because before
that, not that anybody waspressurizing me, but I'd always
thought of someone else.
What would they like?
What would my son like?
Because in case he's not havinghis meal, then maybe he'll have
mine, you know.
So it took me time, and that'sthe first thing that I see with
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clients or anyone who wants tobe visible.
First of all, understand whoare you?
What is it that you want tooffer?
Because when you tap that, thatwill light you up when you are
really in resonance with youressence.
So it took me a while to findout my favorite food now.
I have no problems saying thatnow, I have no problems posting
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on social media because thereis, I know that I love
transforming people.
I know that I love talkingabout money or visibility.
I know I love talking about,you know, this is how you create
an impact.
That's my jam.
That's what inspires me, fuelsme.
But that stuff that you arereally excited about, that is
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your stuff.
So first figure that out.
And to figure that out, youhave to first unpeel layers of
you.
But once you've got that, thenit's easier to be visible.
And then there might be otherblocks after that, as you know,
I'm sure.
Uh, there could be blocksaround, well, I don't want to be
seen so much, I don't want tobe seen at all.
I can't say this.
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This will upset people.
There are other things thatcome with it, but it's just more
and more stepping into orallowing yourself to be you
rather, rather than anythingelse.
Just giving yourself givingyourself permission, yes,
trusting and giving yourselfpermission to be seen.
Aideen Ni Riada (21:19):
Yes, and what we're talking about there with
even choosing something that youlike, and that idea of making a
choice, a lot of people avoidmaking choices, you know, and
that's it's easier, right?
To go along with, oh yeah, theywant to go to this place, or I
I know even you know, inconversations with my own
husband, there's times where I'mjust like, well, he seems to
(21:41):
want to do that, so I'll just goalong with it.
And then after a few times, youknow, that might have happened,
I I kind of get irritated.
And the the irritation is justmy soul going, when are you
gonna just admit you want to dosomething different?
Right?
When are you going to just say,why don't you go to the movies
by yourself to watch thatsuperhero, you know, things that
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I don't really care about?
And we know each other betternow because I I was able to find
the courage to express myinterests, express my choice.
And it's okay if someone is putout originally, they might be
like, Well, now I'm going to themovies by myself, but you know,
what's that's good too?
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Maybe you find a friend to gowith.
So people will adjust around uswhen we start making those
changes.
And I feel like what mostpeople don't understand is when
you connect in with your highestgood, even if there is a little
tornado to be had around youbecause you're starting to align
with your highest good, that itwill, you know, resonate with
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the highest good for everybodyinvolved.
Kanika Vasudeva (22:49):
Oh, I love it.
Love that you said that becausethat is truly what happens.
We often get scared of speakingour truth because we feel truth
hurts, right?
And that is what's happening.
That you know, in the moment itmight feel like, oh, it was
something different for me, butliterally that's all that it is,
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and then there's arecalibration happening.
Your truth is a gift because itallows them to be in their
truth as well, it allows them torealign their world, and
sometimes your worlds willmatch, and you know, you'll find
like your happy balance.
Sometimes for some things, itmight be like, okay, I'm gonna
do it this way without you, andI'm gonna do it with another
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friend or so on, and these arethe things that we're gonna do
together, but it allows morehappiness, it actually allows
more expansion.
Truth is liberating, truth isnot limiting.
It might just feel daunting,scary, but take that bite
because it's good for everybody.
Aideen Ni Riada (23:49):
And how does that um truth translate into
money?
Because I know um beingrewarded and you know, asking
for the right pricing is stuffthat you work with your clients
on, and so I bet that there's away that this translates, right?
(24:09):
Do you feel that people are notbeing truthful enough in their
businesses, which is why they'renot achieving enough in their
business?
How does that work?
Kanika Vasudeva (24:22):
Yes, and I'm so glad that you've picked up this
undercurrent because there'llbe times when, especially when
coaches are just starting out,and I've had that for a really
long time till I've overcome it,you freeze around the prices or
you lower your prices.
And what's really happening isthat not you were untruthful,
(24:44):
but there's an essence of, well,maybe I'm not worthy, maybe I
can't say this.
You know, like if I go back tothe lunch example, and even when
I was with my husband, yes, wewere not really working out, but
he'd not really um ever saidthat you can't have this food.
I was doing it to myself, I wasbeing the untruthful person
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there because I wanted somethingand I was just not giving
myself permission to think andorder the food that I wanted to
order.
When we are saying a price, weare telling that, oh, this is my
worth.
This is how much the servicecosts because of the
transformation that it willbring for you.
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So it's a gift to them as well,when we can express that truth.
The more we can be in thetruth, the when that is our
frequency where everybody iscoming in, if they're coming in
with the vibration of truth,because we have been very honest
with ourselves, we've saidthat, oh, I'm worth this much,
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the results are going to be thismuch.
So you step in there, when theystep in there, they're stepping
into their truth as well.
Whereas if you're bringing themwith not that you're trying to
be dishonest, but if you havelowered your price, then you
have sort of dimmed your light.
And then when they enter thatportal, they're dimming their
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light too, because the portalitself did not have enough light
to begin with.
So when you say the truth,you've allowed light to enter,
and then they can bring that in,and they actually get a lot
more expansion.
So your truth is such a gift tothe whole world, and it will
translate to money, it willtranslate to bigger, better
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transformation because it isthat open, that aware, that
expansive space.
So maybe um, like when I lookedat money, and you know, I'm the
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same.
I've tried doing this for mycountry back in India, and I
really lowered my prices, andbecause I wanted to reach out to
a lot more people in India, Ikept it affordable for them, but
still like a good entry level.
And I'm the same coach teachingpeople in other countries as
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well, teaching people there aswell.
The level of transformationthat they could have, not that
they did not try, the level oftransformation they could have
wasn't as big.
Like it brought peace intotheir life.
They were able to changethings, they were able to sleep
better.
Um, I had a client of mine whowas um who had migraine, and so
she got enough peace that shedidn't have to go to the doctors
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and she was able to find peace,right?
That's what happened becausethe price was lower.
It was still good, but was notgreat.
It was not wow.
Whereas I work with my clientshere, and if I give you examples
of what's happened there, um,there's a lady who came to me
because she wanted to write abook for about seven years she'd
been carrying in her head.
And there was just somethinggoing on with her that whenever
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she wanted to really write, andit was something that wasn't
going away, but whenever shewanted to write, she would
freeze up, her body would starthaving literally some ache or
something, she would be in bedfor a few days, and she's like,
I really need to write thisbook, and I don't know how.
We worked together, and youknow, within a month, she has
now finished her book, she'sactually doing her cover, it's
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all done.
And there's so many otherexamples like that.
When the full priceconversation happens, because
the transformation that they areallowed to the portal that
they're entering is fullytransformative, they can really
experience big shifts and bigresults.
So, money is such a servicewhen you are bringing in the
full money for yourself andallowing another person to
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invest fully in themselves.
When they invest with the fullprice, then they are also
investing in their ownself-worth that itself is
activating for them because ittells them, well, I'm worthy
enough that I can invest thismuch on me and I can have this
level of transformation andgrowth.
Aideen Ni Riada (29:08):
Well, that's so good.
I want to hear it twice.
So they are they are able tomake the investment because
their belief is in theirself-worth.
Kanika Vasudeva (29:21):
Yes.
So if you have lowered theprice, let's say whatever your
price is, right?
Maybe let's say just ballpark$1,000, and let's say you lower
that to $500 for someone, yousay, Well, I see your situation,
and you know, now I'm gonnamake it $500 for you, and they
come in $500.
What they haven't been able todo with that $500, because that
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is just comfortable for them, sothey haven't really expanded
their energy in the process.
$500 was like just a man, andthey could afford it.
They said, Okay, you know, I'lldo $500.
They haven't shifted theirenergy enough.
The money exchange itself iswhere the transformation starts
happening.
And that is that containerwhere it starts happening.
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So if it's just 500, if it wascomfortable enough, if that
energy is coming fromcomfortable enough, well, I'll
do this, then this is a littlebit of energy like, well, maybe
I'll do this, maybe I won't dothis, and maybe I'll fully do
this, we'll see how it is.
It's a little bit more testingenergy.
Whereas if they come in fullyand they have put in the full
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price, and it's a little bit ofa stretch for them, they have
stretched their energy out, andthen they're going, Well, this
is a stretch for me.
I really want to do this.
I'm fully invested in this.
I'm going to make this work,and I'm going to have such
brilliant results.
So all of a sudden, you'vemoved from the mindset of
someone who's coming in fullyleaned in, fully ready to soak
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in.
And you'll see that again andagain.
I just ask you to maybe do anexperiment.
Get in clients with full price,get in clients where you're
giving a discount, and you'lljust find the energy mismatch,
especially for coaches who aregetting people on a
transformation journey.
Aideen Ni Riada (31:08):
Yes, absolutely.
And when you do discount,because I know from an
experience in the last yearwhere someone kind of negotiated
this is what I can afford, andit was a monthly payment.
And anytime that payment camein, I just felt my heart drop.
I was like, doesn't feel good.
I was like, this doesn't feelgood.
(31:30):
This is like not feeling rightat all.
And we had a conversation, andshe pushed back for sure when I
suggested that it doubled orwhatever it was, because it
wasn't that big an amount.
Um, but I stuck to my guns, andnow the relationship and the
transformation and the energy isis improving because it's it's
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it has to feel good.
It has to be awin-win-win-win-win, right?
That's what I always ask for inlife.
You know, we like my highestgood means that'll resonate with
the highest good of everyone.
It's like everybody should berising, you know, a rising tide
raises all the boats.
So we should be all allowingthis thing to be rising around
us.
And there's an element ofpeople feel when someone's
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struggling around them that theyhave to lower themselves, that
they have to come down to thatlevel.
But the analogy I would use isum if you're in a boat and
someone is drowning, you don'tjump in the water, don't jump in
the water with them, right?
You've got to stay in the boatand pull them in, right?
You have to bring them up toyour level and they will come,
(32:37):
they will gladly come becausethey'll see that you've got more
stability, you've got theresources that you need.
Um, so yeah, don't jump out ofthe boat.
Kanika Vasudeva (32:47):
Yeah, absolutely.
And I think especially for allthe light workers, um, you know,
we struggle with wanting to beliked, and because we want to
really impact as many people aswe can.
We really want to spread thatlight.
But it's a similar example thatwhen you are the candle or when
you are the lighthouse, it'syour job is to be the candle.
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And of course, sometimes peoplewill go look at the candle and
they'll be like, Wow, it's litup, and you know, I want to be
near here.
And then some people might say,How dare you?
Because it's such a dark room,and how come you are shining
your light?
But that's your job.
That's what you're supposed todo.
You're supposed to be thecandle.
So you be the candle, you doyou, and let people rearrange
(33:32):
around you.
Because even if people are notcoming into your light, that's
absolutely okay.
Like if somebody cannot comeinto your circle and get your
transformation for whateverreason, that is absolutely okay.
But just the fact that they cansee you shining in your light,
that already is a gift and aservice to them.
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Your expansion is a gift to theworld.
Whether they enter your worldas a paying client or a free
person or not at all, it isstill a gift to the world.
Definitely.
Yeah.
Aideen Ni Riada (34:14):
So, where do you go from there?
So when we have this, um we wecreate something, right?
We're ready to share it withthe world, we're ready to be
visible.
How do you um encourage peoplewhen they don't seem to be
getting the results that theywould like yet?
Kanika Vasudeva (34:34):
And that's when I'd ask them to start looking
at their calling or their innerguidance.
What is it telling them?
You know, in our world, we havelots of gurus who tell us this
is how you do it, this is thewebsite that you do, this is the
strategy, this is the funnel,this is the app that you make,
(34:56):
like thousands of things.
This is the podcast, this isblah, blah, blah.
There's just so many things todo.
And you start with you.
Seriously, it's that easy.
You start with you, you startwith what sings in your heart,
what is your passion, you startdoing that first.
You really, when you serve froma place that is full, you will
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get more fullness back.
So I always say that start withthe place that really resonates
very deeply with you.
For some people, that, forexample, for you, it might be
singing sometimes, it might bedoing a podcast.
There are other clients wholove to speak in my case, and we
haven't really gone out anddone anything with Instagram or
websites, but we've literallyjust worked on that process
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because that was very energizingfor them.
But find your energy, energyessence.
Find what it is you like, likeget really clear around what is
energy draining for you.
Take that off.
Get really clear around what isenergy giving for you, and then
hone in on all that energygiving stuff and whatever gives
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you energy, and I bet youthere's stuff there that will
lead to more visibility and moreclients just automatically.
But just hone in on that and dothat.
Do you better?
Aideen Ni Riada (36:13):
I love that.
Do you better?
That's awesome.
Really, really that's abeautiful phrase, and it brings
to mind something that's, youknow, because I've had, you
know, a pause in my onlinebusiness and frustration with
being on Zoom and you know,being separated from real people
because um a lot of the workthat I've been doing in the past
(36:36):
five years since COVID has beenonline, and I have more
in-person things starting now,and I've got, you know, that's
just starting to really light meup.
Um, so I think we spend sometime, we see outside of us what
other people are doing, and wethink, oh, I'll have to have my
online group program, or I do myonline this, or you know,
there's there's lots of shinyobjects out there.
(36:59):
Um, but I knew what I neededwas to be around people.
And so that's my my latestchange because where I've been
living here in America has beenlike a whole new community.
I didn't have a lot of supportto be in the community, so it's
taken me some time to take thosesteps, and that is that's what
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I'm leaning into be uh doingmore of me.
Kanika Vasudeva (37:24):
Yeah, and you'll find that the more you do
you, the more your businessjust starts smile because when
you start doing the work, itjust brings you a natural smile.
Before people come even intoyour field, they're actually
attracted by your energy.
Before they read your post,they sense you.
There's like these energeticundercurrents that we're our
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heart is a center, our heart isan electromagnetic center, um,
like at all the other bodychakras, but heart's been
studied so much that when yourheart field is vibrating, it is
actually attracting those peoplewho are really aligned with
you.
Um, and they're just cominginto your field automatically.
Actually, I said that allreally stupidly, but I thought
(38:08):
that made a lot of sense.
No, I said when your heart isvibrating, well, your heart is
vibrating all the time.
But what I mean to say is thatyour heart is always emitting
that field, that electromagneticfield where people will come
into your space and people whoare really resonant with your
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message will come to you.
So just do you first.
And it's good that you are in aplace where you feel more
energized, you're more withpeople, because that brings out
the shiny smiley you.
Aideen Ni Riada (38:43):
My best self, that's the one I want to be
every day.
Kanika Vasudeva (38:46):
Yes, and then that even feels like less work,
it feels more enjoyable, it justfeels easier.
Aideen Ni Riada (38:52):
Absolutely.
Whoa, I'm so excited.
And I know that um you workwith people all over the world.
And what is it you would liketo say to the listeners?
Like, what's the one thing thatyou want people to really
remember from our conversationtoday?
Kanika Vasudeva (39:09):
Oh, I'd say that if you have a calling and
you feel like this is somethingthat I want to do, and then
you're also thinking, like,gosh, this is so big, I'll never
do this, or how will I do thisstep, and so on, I'd encourage
you just to take a step back.
Think of it this way, right?
The universe chose you for anidea.
(39:29):
Universe is actually funnelingan idea through you, and it's
asking you that, hey, go aheadand do this.
So now, before you startthinking, how am I going to be
on stage?
How am I going to write thisbook?
How am I going to get itpublished?
How am I going to do this songor dance or whatever it is?
And you start going down therabbit hole of I don't know the
right people and so on, take apause.
(39:51):
That's not required.
That's very, very far out.
Be in the here and now, you'vegot a little idea.
You think it's a big idea, butfor the universe that is funding
everything, it's a little idea.
This the universe createseverything around you.
So the universe is giving youone idea.
Universe has chosen you.
So it's not making mistakes,it's chosen you, it knows what
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it's doing.
Just trust that and lean in.
Take the first baby step.
And maybe that is just that yousing the little bit that you
need to, you write the littlebit that you need to, and then
ask, okay, what do I need to donext?
That's it.
If you have a calling, knowthat it's bigger than you, know
that you have the chosen one,and just do the little baby
(40:36):
step.
That's it.
That's all your job is.
Aideen Ni Riada (40:40):
You make it sound very simple, and I think
it is that simple when we have alittle bit of support around us
and we get those reminders.
And you know, I think we allneed those reminders.
Not everybody will get it.
And we, you mean you spoke tothis earlier, but when we have
that little kernel of an ideaand it drops in, no one else can
(41:02):
see that the way you see it.
And until you you nurture it alittle, you won't be able to
even explain what it is that youwant to do to anybody else.
You have to sit with it.
And I think this is one of thethings that I think people
forget is you know, we've gotdaylight and we have nighttime,
and the nighttime and the andyou know, the burrowing under
(41:25):
the covers and or a sowing of aseed deep in the soil where we
kind of hide the little baby.
You know, the baby doesn't comeout like you know, burst
through on day one.
It has a time of incubation.
So sometimes those ideas needthe darkness, they need us to
hold them tight.
We don't need to telleverybody, we need to find our
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own little small steps.
And I think that that what yousaid is it's genius, right?
Because you're remindingyourself that you do have a
place in the world, that thisidea is not a mistake, and you
just need to do one small thing,and one small thing can be
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tiny, and as long as you keeptaking one small step, you can
go very, very far.
Kanika Vasudeva (42:14):
Yeah, and then I love your idea around support
as well.
That yes, you want to besurrounded with people who are
thinking like that.
So if that is your next level,then you can start thinking of
well, these are people thatinspire me.
Follow them on Instagram, readthe stories, but just up-level
yourself in the terms ofthinking.
People where you feel inspired,not where you've where
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something in your body goes,gosh, I have to do so much.
No, not that energy, but peoplewho inspire you.
And you'll automatically startfinding them.
Because when you do, when youare on that up-level frequency,
automatically your body is alsomatching up and getting ready.
When you hear them over andover again, the way they're
saying their things and thethings that are already true for
(42:59):
them, and even just the wayyou're listening to this podcast
right now, it's like, gosh,okay, I can do this because for
us it's a reality.
Like, this is what we wake updo every day.
Aideen Ni Riada (43:08):
Completely.
I mean, I didn't know in 2015that my business was going to
look how it does now.
All I was told was do a singingworkshop for adults, and then
the next thing, my life took ona completely new meaning, and it
was just taking one little stepat a time, just like you're
saying.
It's been beautiful to talk toyou today, Kanika.
(43:28):
I really appreciate you takingthe time.
And I'd encourage you, ifyou're listening, to um connect
with Kanika.
I'm going to be putting herlinks in the show notes.
We would both love to hear fromyou because we've both been in
that position of not knowing whoto share our little precious
ideas with.
And so we're really open tothat.
(43:50):
You're welcome to just email,we'll we would definitely
respond.
And we look forward to umseeing what you do with your
business next, Kanika, and overthe next few months.
Um, follow her on Instagram.
That's where you're gonna findsome fun and heartwarming
inspiration.
Thank you so much, Kanika, um,for joining me on the Resonate
(44:13):
Podcast.
And thank you all forlistening.
Kanika Vasudeva (44:15):
Thank you so much, Aileen.
It was such a pleasure, andthanks to all the listeners as
well for tuning in.
And go ahead, follow your joy.
You can find me at KanikaEnergy Coach.
Oh, we'd love to hear from you.
Take care.
Aideen Ni Riada (44:27):
Bye bye.
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