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December 11, 2025 17 mins

My dear Shiny Mind…

 

Have you ever walked away from a conversation questioning your own reality?

 

Wondering, “Am I crazy? Did I really say that? Is this actually MY fault?”

 

My dear Shiny Mind, you're NOT crazy.

You’re being gaslighted.

 

In this eye-opening episode of The Shiny Minds Show, I bring you my 25+ years of experience, two doctorate degrees, and my global award-winning Neuro-Shine Technology™ curriculum… to expose the truth about gaslighting — one of the most subtle yet destructive psychological patterns happening in our world today.

 

Inside this episode, you’ll discover:

🔥 What gaslighting REALLY is (beyond social media definitions)

🔥 How manipulation hides inside conversations, tone, and word choice

🔥 Why both the gaslighter and the gaslighted need awareness

🔥 The 3 emotional roots behind gaslighting

🔥 How your subconscious wounds recreate toxic dynamics

🔥 Why gaslighting is against your human rights, dignity & FREEDOM

🔥 How to break the cycle using Awareness × Willingness — my formula for change

🔥 What the 2027 Great Awakening has to do with psychological manipulation

🔥 How understanding human psychology protects your confidence and truth

 

This episode is NOT about blame.

It’s about awakening your mind, reclaiming your sovereignty, and breaking unconscious patterns that keep you small.

 

If you’ve ever been manipulated, dismissed, twisted, misunderstood, or blamed, I invite you to watch this.

And if you’ve accidentally been the gaslighter… watch this with compassion and courage.

 

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✨ Thank you for allowing my light into your neurons.

 

Let’s make the world safer, more conscious, and more dignified, one awakened mind at a time.

 

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(00:00):
Ever felt like your reality was being
twisted by someone else? You're not crazy.
You're being gaslighted.
And that's exactly what we are going to
talk about today.
Let's begin.
Are you ready to shine? Come on.
It's the shiny one.
You got this.
Welcome to the Shiny Minds Show with Dr. Shiny.
I am Dr.

(00:20):
Shiny Burcu Unsal and I bring
more than 25 years of experience working
with people
and two doctorate degrees.
focusing on human behaviors and
metaphysical psychology, positive
psychology, neuro-linguistic programming,
neuroscience, and my own
global award-winning ICF accredited

(00:41):
curriculum for change, truth, and
enlightenment, Neuro-Shine Technology™.
I am going to talk about gaslighting today
because I see it everywhere and I cannot
stay quiet anymore.
We need to define what this is.
We need to talk about how it
is in your life that you may not realize,

(01:02):
and we also need to talk about solutions,
right? So we're going to apply my formula
for change,
which is
change equals awareness multiplied by
willingness.
The change that we want is that
we want to get you out of gaslighting.
Doesn't matter if you are the gaslighter or
if you are the one who's being gaslighted,

(01:24):
we want to change.
And
because we want that change,
we need to bring the awareness of what
gaslight
is
and the willingness
of how to
break free from gaslighting.
If you are doing it and if you are the one
who's being done, doesn't matter.
We don't want that because it is against

(01:44):
our human rights
and it is against our freedom
and it's against the frequency that we are
about to enter
with
the great awakening of gaslighting.
So
let's define what gas lighting is first.
Okay.
Yes, lighting is
manipulation.
That's it.
If your thoughts,

(02:05):
words,
and your reality
are being twisted
and distorted and manipulated by somebody else's
thoughts, that's it.
words and reality,
that's gaslighting.
That's manipulation at the highest level.
And
you need to become aware of that.
You know those moments when you go into

(02:25):
your head and
then you question, am I crazy?
But that was not what happened.
That was not my intention.
That's not what I said.
That's, that's, and then that's not what
happened. It's
not the truth.
Was,
was that the reality? Am I
Am I crazy?
That confusion?
If you're feeling like this, after
communicating with people, you're being

(02:47):
gaslighted. Okay?
Another clue.
You are being totally authentic and
truthful and operating from your own
truth and intention, pure, pure vibrations,
high level frequencies, right?
And still, the person in front of you
is committed to
being misunderstood and is committed

(03:08):
to make you feel like you're the bad guy.
Ever felt like
that? Ever
found yourself in those situations?
Yep.
That's also gaslighting.
Your
truth
is being distorted, is being twisted, and
you are being
accused of being the bad guy.
Oh, and then you are the one to blame.

(03:28):
Yeah,
that's gaslighting.
No matter how hard you try, no matter
how clean you show up,
no matter
how
incredibly
positive you are,
if the person in front of you
is again,
Why?

(03:49):
Now let's look at why people gaslight.
If you are the one gaslighting,
and if you are not aware,
please listen to me super carefully,
because I know you don't want that.
I know there is a part of you
that wants to understand why you're doing it.
And if you are the one you are doing it,
you're about to

(04:10):
break free from it.
Reason number one, you have been
manipulated, you have been manipulated by
yourself.
emotionally abused and gaslighted yourself.
That's why
you have
had
that experience
and your physical body,
your emotional frequency and your psyche,
your aura
is carrying that.

(04:30):
And because you're carrying that, you're
projecting it
and you're not even aware of it.
Please become aware.
Awareness is the first step
to freedom.
Okay,
ask yourself this question:
Have I felt emotionally abused, emotionally
manipulated,
and have I ever felt
like
I was
not important, I was not worthy of my

(04:52):
thoughts, my words, my opinions,
my expression? Then...
Perhaps you have been gaslighted,
manipulated,
and that's why you learned it
unconsciously, and then you're carrying it
within the deeper layers of
your
emotional,
subconscious
parts,
and that's why you bring it.

(05:14):
So that's the first reason.
Second reason,
you are
a control freak.
You know it or you don't. You
have a desire to control.
You have a desire to twist reality. I
mean, which can be your superpower, but
if it is at the cost, at the expense of
other people's wellbeing,
then may I have a conversation with you?

(05:35):
May I ask you to
stop it
immediately?
Because
you are
not helping. You are
damaging others.
And I know you don't want that.
You do not want that.
You just need to become aware of it.
so that you can
become free from it,
right?
I know.
If you are the one
trying to control, exploit,

(05:56):
abuse,
and manipulate others, please.
Please stop it.
You're better than that.
The world
needs you
to break free from it.
The world
needs your better version.
And we're going to thank you and you're
going to thank yourself for stepping
out of it.
Reason number three, you are insecure and
you have fears and
you don't want the world to see your

(06:19):
truth.
Because
you don't want to see your own truth.
You cannot
look in the mirror
because you don't like
what you see in the mirror.
You have fears and you have insecurities
and you have doubts and
super negative conversations with yourself.
Is that right?
I understand that.
We all go through those stages in our lives.

(06:40):
I get it.
What I don't want you to do
is to project it onto others.
It's not easy, I know.
But
if you become aware of it,
you're going to understand it, and
then you're going to transform it.
You're going to transcend it.
We all have insecurities.
We all have fears.
We all have frustrations.
But to represent our

(07:02):
human dignity,
our freedom, our human rights,
yesterday
was
International Human Rights Day.
And so here we go.
Let's talk about that.
What is our right?
Our right
to be authentic, to be true to ourselves.
That's the biggest freedom.
I know that's what you want.
And because you cannot

(07:22):
be who you're meant to be, you're stuck in
somebody else that you're not.
And then that is so painful that you
project it onto others.
I get it.
I understand it.
I
have seen this mechanics over and over and
over again for the past 15 years as I have been
teaching
mindset, NLP, coaching,

(07:43):
and emotional intelligence,
and all kinds of psychological tools.
I've seen it.
I've written books about it.
I've written dissertations about it.
Two of those.
I get it.
That's why I am
offering my
my help.
If you want to be free, there are tools.
Okay, so I'm, I'm talking to the ones
who are gaslighting and manipulating

(08:05):
and not aware.
Let me talk to the ones who are being
manipulated and gaslighted.
You need knowledge.
You need awareness.
You need to close the gap
of knowledge.
You cannot stay ignorant about human
psychology anymore,
not in the world that we live today.
We are saying goodbye
to 2025 in the next year with the Great

(08:27):
Awakening coming up in 2027,
and the planetary alignments that we're
going to experience.
in February and April
of 2026.
Yep.
There's always
cosmic stuff.
There's always cosmic weather
before the human weather.
And I always look at the sky
and
I study
the sky mechanics

(08:48):
and I'm bringing you to sky mechanics and I
am combining
different disciplines
and different philosophies.
And I'm inviting you
to step into a
stronger,
more prepared, more
educational
more
wise version of you.
If you're being gaslighted, you need to
understand that.

(09:08):
You need to spot it.
How are you going to spot it? You need to
know what that is.
You need to be able to define it.
If you don't know what that is, if you
don't have the awareness of it,
how are you even going to catch it? You're
going to keep questioning yourself, which
is going to damage your confidence,
which is going to project in your
relationships, which is going to project in
your self-love.

(09:28):
And that's exactly what we don't want, do
we? humanity doubting, criticizing, judging
itself.
We want humanity
rising up
strong, powerful, confident,
and shining with the cosmic light within.
That's what we want.
And that's why I wanted to talk about
guest lighting today.
It's

(09:49):
so
subtle that you don't realize,
and that's why
I get so passionate about it.
If I see it,
you'll see.
If I see it, I need to talk about it, and
then Zoom also catches it.
It is important where we stand
in our psychology. I

(10:09):
am inviting you
to study
human psychology.
When you understand
human psychology, when you understand
your unmet needs,
your
gap of knowledge, what you don't know that
you don't know.
what you know that you don't know that you
need to know.
And also what you know that you need to
know more about.

(10:30):
All of that
is all about information.
It's all about knowledge.
That's life.
You're here to learn.
You
are born
to study life.
Experiencing is learning.
Think about it.
If you are not learning,
then you're not growing.
And if you're not growing, then you're not
ascending.
If you're not ascending,

(10:51):
then you're not really
integrating
all
there is
to experience
as consciousness.
One of my dissertation papers is about
consciousness is all there is, experiencing itself
through us.
What it means is
there is only consciousness,
and that consciousness can enter into many

(11:14):
different forms.
Sometimes black, sometimes white, sometimes
colorful.
There are all the colors in the rainbow.
Consciousness
is there for us
to choose and to manifest.
What are you choosing?
Without the knowledge, you don't even know
what to choose.
That's why you need knowledge. I
mean, that's why I became super,

(11:35):
super aware when I studied all of these
things.
And that's,
and that's what I wanted to study.
I wanted to learn.
I wanted to understand human psychology.
I wanted to understand
the human brain.
I wanted to understand
relationships
because everything is a relationship.
This, this whole entire universe is a web
of relationships.
Planets have their own relationships, the

(11:57):
sun and the moon and the
time and the space and the dimension.
and consciousness and experiences.
Everything is interrelated.
Everything is a map of consciousness.
So that's why as I study,
I learn
more
that I realize that
I don't know so much.

(12:17):
There's so much that I don't know.
It's big.
So we need to keep studying.
That's why you see all
my certificates behind me because I am a
professional student for life.
I mean, there's so much to learn
and that's Why,
if you don't even know what gaslighting
means, if you don't even know such a
terminology exists,

(12:39):
of course you're not going to understand
what's going on.
Of course you're going to experience
self-doubt
and you're going to confuse yourself and
then you're going to lose your
self-confidence because you're going to be
like...
Well, that's not what I meant, but people
are actually giving me this feedback and
you're going to be in this biofeedback loop
constantly
making you doubt yourself.

(12:59):
Like, how can you expect to build your
confidence in a feedback loop like that?
You can't.
Why? Because you don't have the fundamental truth.
You don't have the knowledge.
Please study.
Please become aware. Please
look at human behaviors
and then please
look at your own behaviors
and see.

(13:19):
what's missing and see what you need to
know. So
let's talk about solutions right now.
Gaslighting, being gaslighted,
doesn't matter who is doing what, we need
to stop it
because it is costing us.
And that's where.
I bring
my
Neuro-Shine Technology™,
my
coaching mindset,

(13:40):
curiosity,
gratefulness, love, and light forever,
eternally.
I
created
my own curriculum
of change and truth and enlightenment and
growth.
That's my Neuro-Shine Technology™.
I needed it because I didn't know, just
like you, you don't know what
guest lighting is, you don't know what
victim mentality is,

(14:01):
you don't know the symptoms of unmet needs,
you don't know how it shows up in your
language.
You don't know how you're controlling
people in your
sentences.
You're not even aware.
You don't know you're leading when you're
thinking that you're just giving people
options.
You're not aware.
I get it.
I get it.
That's why I'm telling you.
So
if you choose to learn,

(14:22):
if you choose
to close the gap,
we are here
and we want to help.
You can go to shinyunsal.com.
Grab the PDF and
then look
at what we are offering.
And if you resonate,
get on a call with us,
e-mail us, talk to one of my faculty
trainers,
because
we are here
to turn

(14:43):
this
game around.
This human game,
we are here to represent human rights.
We are here to represent humanity with
dignity, humanity with freedom mindset, not
victim mindset.
We are here to
change the game.
If you are with us, join us.
I call it coaching,
you call it something else.
In today's world,

(15:04):
it's called
coaching mindset.
That's where you get to give people the
autonomy, the freedom to be who they are,
to be their authentic self.
Gaslighting is coming from the lack of
being your authentic self.
When you understand that there are so many
parts of you
that need to integrate, that need to merge

(15:26):
from
mental to emotional to physical,
because there are wounds that we are
experiencing.
There are
wounds of separation, rejection, guilt, and
depression.
There's so many things that we can teach you.
We cannot teach you if you do not bring us your,
if you do not bring
us your open mind and open heart.

(15:47):
We can only teach you
when you're ready.
Right?
The teacher shows up and the student is ready.
So whenever you're ready,
we are here to work with you.
And
I have another website that I'm going to
share with you, neuroshinetechnology.com.
You can also go
look at my faculty cohorts.
We are now offering it
to

(16:08):
the world starting in 2026.
You're going to have your luminary pass for
the entire 12 months
where you get to attend as many cohorts as
you wish
with my faculty.
We would love to have you.
We would like to work with you and
transform you inside out so that you
become one of us.
You join us

(16:29):
to
awaken the conscious leaders and the world
because the world needs more of us today.
Thank you for watching.
If you liked it, please put a like on it.
Share it with other conscious leaders
so that we can
make this world
a more conscious,
more delicious,
more
responsible place together.

(16:49):
Thank you for allowing my light
into your neurons.
Until next time,
keep shining your light.
Go galactic.
Then you're in the right place. Let's
go, let's go.
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