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SPEAKER_00 (00:03):
Welcome to the Show Up Society podcast, where I hope
you get super clear on what youreally want so you can focus on
doing the things that reallymatter to you instead of getting
overwhelmed with all the extra.
I also hope you learn how to bekinder to yourself so you can
overcome perfectionism, peoplepleasing, and your inner critic.
I'm Life and Business CoachTammy Bennett, and I'm about to
(00:24):
help you show up for the lifeyou want to live.
Hello, friend.
Welcome to episode 240 of theShow Up Society Podcast.
Today we're going to be talkingabout handling disappointment
and moving in a positivedirection.
So this was another topic thatwas submitted to me from my
newsletter readers.
And if you have a topic tosubmit that you'd like to hear
me talk about on the podcast,there's actually a place in the
(00:46):
show notes where you can text mecomments on the episode.
It doesn't go to my phone.
It's not really my text number,but it does get to me.
Or you can always reach out tome on Instagram at Show Up
Society and you can DM me atopic that you would love to
hear about.
So I know that talking abouthandling disappointment sounds
like kind of a downer of atopic, especially this week when
(01:06):
there are many families that arecelebrating Thanksgiving and
focusing on gratitude.
But I believe it's a reallyimportant topic, and I believe
that we can have space for bothgratitude and disappointment in
the same day or even in the samehour, right?
And there are a lot of peoplewho experience disappointment
around family or around theholidays.
So that's what we're going totalk about today, handling
disappointment.
(01:27):
Having said that, I do practicegratitude every single day, and
I have done since 2009.
So I just do want to take thismoment to say that I am so
thankful for you being here, forsharing this podcast with
people, and for commenting and,you know, giving me feedback and
letting me know when episodesreally speak to you.
So before we get to the topictoday, I wanted to just give you
(01:47):
a little update and a littlebehind the scenes of the Bennett
household.
We dropped off our dogs at thesitter last week before we
headed to uh watch our daughterrun in a race.
And after we dropped them off,we came outside.
There was a dog tied up to uh alight pole and it attacked me
and it bit a hole in my pants.
And I'm just super glad that Ileft the house in really flowy
(02:09):
kind of sweatpants instead oflike getting dressed for the day
because the dog bit a hole in mypants and it would have broken
the skin if I had tighter pantson.
So thank goodness for dressinglazily, right?
Um and then when our dog was atthe sitter, he was trying to get
his ball out from this nicewoven basket kind of hamper, and
(02:29):
he ripped it to shreds the firsttime he's ever done that.
So we had to pay for that, andit was a very nice hamper, and I
would have never spent that muchmoney on a hamper in our house
because laundry is not like, youknow, high on my um priority or
love list.
So that was not fun.
But then we did get to go toMissouri to watch our youngest
daughter and her Georgetown teamrun in the NCAA Cross Country
(02:52):
Nationals, so that was superfun.
It was an awesome event.
Uh, I never got to go as anathlete in college.
Um, so it was really cool to bethere as a spectator.
And I have never seen so manyspectators at a cross-country
event in my life.
It was the biggest race of ourdaughter's life for sure.
It was just super fun.
Having said that, their team wasa little bit disappointed with
(03:13):
their result, but it was a greatexperience.
And that is the thing aboutthese big life events.
There are gonna be some peoplethat are jubilant and other
people at the same event thatare disappointed, and some that
are even devastated.
And that's sort of the beauty oflife and really what it's all
about, which is kind of why Ichose today's topic.
So we'll get to that in just aminute.
(03:33):
But I started this episode withsome of the not most positive
experience.
I just wanted to balance it outa little bit.
We're renting a house on theJersey Shore for a few weeks,
and we are a few blocks awayfrom the ocean, and we have seen
some beautiful sunrises andsundowns.
It has been gorgeous.
So that has been a nice bonus.
Uh, I also ran for 20 minutes,which is the most I've done in
(03:56):
all of 2025 due to some ongoingknee issues that I am avoiding.
Um, but it was a night run onthe boardwalk.
It was a really crisp, clearnight, stars were out, and
there's something so beautifulabout running at nighttime if
you are in a safe place to do itor you have, you know, put
safety measures in place, whichI did.
Um, so anyway, that wasbeautiful.
(04:18):
So I just wanted to sort ofbalance out the negative stuff I
started this episode with.
Not that we always have to havea balance, but I just thought it
would be nice to give you alittle taste of each.
Um, but let's talk about nowhandling disappointment and
moving forward.
So, first I want to saydisappointment is normal.
It is natural, it is just partof being alive and being a
(04:41):
human.
So nothing has gone wrong.
Just sometimes we'redisappointed no matter how much
we prepared, no matter how badlywe wanted a different outcome.
So I think sometimes it'shelpful to just know right off
the bat, sometimes shit happens,sometimes disappointing things
happen, and we will be okay.
It's not like we have toquestion the whole meaning of
the universe.
(05:01):
I think sometimes we forget, andlike sometimes we think that if
if it's not all smooth sailing,if it's not all going well, then
like something has gone wrongand we need to fix everything
and panic.
No, sometimes it's not meant togo right all the time, it's not
meant to be happy endings allthe time.
And so I think sometimes justnormalizing that there are some
disappointing times that can bereally helpful.
(05:23):
Another tip I will say abouthandling disappointment is to
allow yourself to feel it.
Allow yourself to have a pityparty, wallow in some sad music
with the lights off if you wantto, but I want you to truly feel
it.
And that sounds so terrible forme to say, right?
I want you to feel trulydisappointed, but I want you to
truly feel whatever feelings andemotions are coming your way.
I want you to be present withthem and allow them to be there.
(05:45):
So when I was a running coachfor uh middle school, high
school age, sometimes myathletes would have a
disappointing race.
And I would have them go ontothe cooldown and I would say, I
want you to go throw your pityparty on this cooldown.
I want you to really feel theemotions.
I understand that you'redisappointed and I want you to
feel it.
So while you're on the cooldownwith your friends, or if you
(06:06):
want to go solo, allow yourselfto say, I feel really
disappointed, I feel really sad,I feel frustrated, I feel upset,
or whatever those feelings are.
And I said, I want you to allowyourself to really feel upset
for this whole cooldown.
And then when you come back, wecan talk about the race, we can
talk about what you did well, wecan talk about like what maybe
you would change for next time,and then maybe we can start
(06:29):
making our game plan.
Sometimes I would even send themhome and say, you get to be
upset all night, right?
And then next time you come topractice, we're going to kind of
shift gears from the feelingdisappointment to feeling uh in
control of what you can do.
And we're gonna talk a littlebit more about that on this
episode.
But the point is, is I told myathletes it was so important to
allow yourself to feel thefeelings, allow yourself to have
(06:51):
the pity party, allow yourselfto feel disappointed because it
can be incredibly invalidatingto be like, oh, don't be upset,
don't cry, don't, don't worryabout it.
It's all good.
To just sort of poo-poo people'semotions or our own emotions can
feel really invalidating and itit actually hinders our ability
to handle those emotions.
So instead of pretending it'snot there and kind of sweeping
(07:13):
it under the rug, let's bring itto light and acknowledge that
it's there.
It may be helpful to set a timerand say, okay, for 30 minutes, I
am going to be reallydisappointed.
I'm going to wallow in myself-pity.
Or maybe you need a few days.
But I think sometimes it can behelpful to ahead of time set how
long you're going to allowyourself to wallow in your
misery before you try to getback into action.
(07:34):
So that might be a helpful tipfor you to try to just decide
how long am I going to letmyself really feel this
disappointment before I move on.
And the key here is to allowyourself to fully feel the
feelings instead of trying tonumb them.
So, you know, during this timeof wallowing, this is not when
you're going to scroll endlesslyon the internet or watch a
million episodes of something onNetflix or drink so much wine
(07:59):
that you like can't get off thecouch, right?
So this is when you're reallyfeeling the feelings.
Um, one thing, journaling hasbeen shown to be an effective
way to process disappointment.
So there's something thathappens in your brain when you
have to put feelings into wordson the page that helps your
brain process those feelings andit helps you learn how to handle
them.
(08:19):
Um, so sometimes journalingsomething even like I feel
disappointed because enlistingthe reasons why can really help
your brain turn those emotionsthat are running around in your
body into actual words, and thenthat helps your brain learn how
to process them.
So have your pity party, wallowin the sad music if you want, do
a little journaling, but allowyourself to really feel the
(08:41):
feelings.
Sometimes it can also be helpfulto think about where the
feelings are in your body.
You know, maybe you feel it inyour chest or maybe in your
abdomen, and to sort of describein your journal or to yourself
what that feels like.
It feels heavy and dark and dampand brown, right?
Like if you were describing it,let's say you were describing it
to a sketch artist that wasgoing to make a sketch of
(09:04):
whatever that feeling was.
This may sound kind of like aweird exercise, but it actually
helps you to process it.
So think about how you woulddescribe this to somebody that
was going to have to paint it ordraw it.
And so you can talk about how itfeels, where it is in your body,
what it looks like, if it'sheavy, if it's soft, but
actually describe what thatdisappointment feels like in
your body can help you to justsort of um, it helps the emotion
(09:25):
to kind of dissipate.
So that's another thing that youcan do while you're sort of
having your pity party andwallowing in the sadness or the
disappointment.
The next thing I want you toknow is to what I call don't
argue with reality.
So, yes, it stinks that thisdisappointing thing happened,
but spending energy ruminatingabout how unfair it is, or
(09:46):
ruminating that happened at all,or beating yourself up for
decisions you made that may haveled to this disappointment, or
spending all your energy wishingit were different.
Ah, I'm so mad that thishappened.
I wish it were different, I wishI would have done this, I wish
that would have happened.
None of those things are useful.
What has happened has happened.
And no amount of ruminating orsecond guessing yourself or
beating yourself up or wishingit away, no amount of that is
(10:09):
going to change it.
So instead, you can just acceptthis is the reality now, this is
what happened, thisdisappointing thing happened,
and what am I gonna do fromhere?
Now what?
Right?
So instead of arguing with thereality, oh, I wish that didn't
happen, I'm so mad thathappened.
We can be disappointed.
Yes, this happened, I'm superdisappointed that it happened.
Now what?
(10:29):
So that disappointing thing hashappened, yes, it stinks.
Acknowledge that it happened,acknowledge that you feel
disappointed, allow yourself tofeel those feelings, have your
petty party, and then now what?
What is in your realm ofcontrol?
How do you want things to gofrom here?
We can't change what's happened,but from this moment forward,
what can we do?
(10:49):
What do we want to do?
What can we do?
What is in our realm of control?
What will we do?
Who do we want to be?
How do you want to show up inthe world, right?
So, yeah, sure, we wish thingswere different, but they aren't
different.
They are the way they are.
So, what can we do from thismoment forward to change course,
to change how we're feeling, tochange how we're showing up?
(11:11):
Okay?
That might be something you wantto journal also.
And then I just want to tell youtoo, this will be a powerful
chapter in your story.
The story does not end with adisappointment.
The story actually begins whenyou decide to dust yourself off
and get going again.
The story becomes even sweeterwhen you tell the back-to-back
chapters of the disappointmentyou felt and how it got there,
(11:33):
and then followed by the chapterof how you kept going and didn't
let the disappointment win.
So I listened to How I BuiltThis.
It's a podcast on NPR, How IBuilt This with Guy Roz.
And I've listened to at least 20episodes, and it's all about how
entrepreneurs have started theircompanies.
And every single one of theseepisodes that I've listened to
(11:54):
has had a dramatic anddisappointing setback.
There have been things that seemlike they would break people and
that they would end thebusinesses.
I mean, really bigdisappointments.
And yet, these entrepreneurs didnot break, they came back and
they came back stronger and theycame back successfully.
And it makes the story so muchbetter and more interesting to
(12:16):
know that they struggled soterribly and still found a way
to keep going.
And I'm telling you, theseepisodes would be so much more
boring and less impressive ifthey didn't have any
disappointments in them.
It'd be like, yeah, yeah, yeah,success, success, which is
great, right?
But there's something sopowerful about seeing, like, oh
my gosh, these people weredevastated by this event or this
(12:38):
thing that happened.
And they learned how to pickthemselves up and now look how
successful they are.
And there's something soinspiring about that, and also
something so powerful aboutknowing that we aren't alone,
that every success story hasthat moment of deep
disappointment or many moments,right?
But it is just part of thestory.
So if you are in a moment ofdisappointment, just know that
(13:00):
this is temporary.
This is just the rough chapter.
And yes, it hurts like hell.
Disappointment doesn't feelgood, but this is not the end.
It isn't the disappointment thatdefines you, but it's the way
that you bounce back fromdisappointment that defines you.
So you get to write that part ofthe story that's totally in your
control.
(13:20):
Sometimes the disappointmentsaren't in our control, but you
can definitely control andhandle and be in charge of what
you do after the disappointment,how you pick yourself up.
So after you have felt sad anddisappointed, and after you have
acknowledged it, and after youhave had your pity party, and
after you have journaled aboutit, hopefully, wipe your tears,
(13:40):
lift up your chin, look out atthe horizon, lift up your chest,
and carry on.
Just take one step towards thefuture that you want.
Take one step toward who youwant to be.
And then take another and thentake another.
And that's how we handledisappointment and we move on.
That's all I have for you today.
(14:01):
Have a great week.
If you're with family, I'msending you my thoughts and
prayers to just love each otherand survive.
And I thank you so much forbeing here for this episode of
the Show Up Society Podcast.
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(14:23):
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you get super clear on what youreally want so you can focus on
doing the things that reallymatter to you instead of getting
overwhelmed with all the extra.
I also hope you learn how to bekinder to yourself so you can
overcome perfectionism, peoplepleasing, and your inner critic.
I'm Life and Business CoachTammy Bennett, and I'm about to
(00:24):
help you show up for the lifeyou want to live.
Hello, friend.
Welcome to episode 240 of theShow Up Society Podcast.
Today we're going to be talkingabout handling disappointment
and moving in a positivedirection.
So this was another topic thatwas submitted to me from my
newsletter readers.
And if you have a topic tosubmit that you'd like to hear
me talk about on the podcast,there's actually a place in the
(00:46):
show notes where you can text mecomments on the episode.
It doesn't go to my phone.
It's not really my text number,but it does get to me.
Or you can always reach out tome on Instagram at Show Up
Society and you can DM me atopic that you would love to
hear about.
So I know that talking abouthandling disappointment sounds
like kind of a downer of atopic, especially this week when
(01:06):
there are many families that arecelebrating Thanksgiving and
focusing on gratitude.
But I believe it's a reallyimportant topic, and I believe
that we can have space for bothgratitude and disappointment in
the same day or even in the samehour, right?
And there are a lot of peoplewho experience disappointment
around family or around theholidays.
So that's what we're going totalk about today, handling
disappointment.
(01:27):
Having said that, I do practicegratitude every single day, and
I have done since 2009.
So I just do want to take thismoment to say that I am so
thankful for you being here, forsharing this podcast with
people, and for commenting and,you know, giving me feedback and
letting me know when episodesreally speak to you.
So before we get to the topictoday, I wanted to just give you
(01:47):
a little update and a littlebehind the scenes of the Bennett
household.
We dropped off our dogs at thesitter last week before we
headed to uh watch our daughterrun in a race.
And after we dropped them off,we came outside.
There was a dog tied up to uh alight pole and it attacked me
and it bit a hole in my pants.
And I'm just super glad that Ileft the house in really flowy
(02:09):
kind of sweatpants instead oflike getting dressed for the day
because the dog bit a hole in mypants and it would have broken
the skin if I had tighter pantson.
So thank goodness for dressinglazily, right?
Um and then when our dog was atthe sitter, he was trying to get
his ball out from this nicewoven basket kind of hamper, and
(02:29):
he ripped it to shreds the firsttime he's ever done that.
So we had to pay for that, andit was a very nice hamper, and I
would have never spent that muchmoney on a hamper in our house
because laundry is not like, youknow, high on my um priority or
love list.
So that was not fun.
But then we did get to go toMissouri to watch our youngest
daughter and her Georgetown teamrun in the NCAA Cross Country
(02:52):
Nationals, so that was superfun.
It was an awesome event.
Uh, I never got to go as anathlete in college.
Um, so it was really cool to bethere as a spectator.
And I have never seen so manyspectators at a cross-country
event in my life.
It was the biggest race of ourdaughter's life for sure.
It was just super fun.
Having said that, their team wasa little bit disappointed with
(03:13):
their result, but it was a greatexperience.
And that is the thing aboutthese big life events.
There are gonna be some peoplethat are jubilant and other
people at the same event thatare disappointed, and some that
are even devastated.
And that's sort of the beauty oflife and really what it's all
about, which is kind of why Ichose today's topic.
So we'll get to that in just aminute.
(03:33):
But I started this episode withsome of the not most positive
experience.
I just wanted to balance it outa little bit.
We're renting a house on theJersey Shore for a few weeks,
and we are a few blocks awayfrom the ocean, and we have seen
some beautiful sunrises andsundowns.
It has been gorgeous.
So that has been a nice bonus.
Uh, I also ran for 20 minutes,which is the most I've done in
(03:56):
all of 2025 due to some ongoingknee issues that I am avoiding.
Um, but it was a night run onthe boardwalk.
It was a really crisp, clearnight, stars were out, and
there's something so beautifulabout running at nighttime if
you are in a safe place to do itor you have, you know, put
safety measures in place, whichI did.
Um, so anyway, that wasbeautiful.
(04:18):
So I just wanted to sort ofbalance out the negative stuff I
started this episode with.
Not that we always have to havea balance, but I just thought it
would be nice to give you alittle taste of each.
Um, but let's talk about nowhandling disappointment and
moving forward.
So, first I want to saydisappointment is normal.
It is natural, it is just partof being alive and being a
(04:41):
human.
So nothing has gone wrong.
Just sometimes we'redisappointed no matter how much
we prepared, no matter how badlywe wanted a different outcome.
So I think sometimes it'shelpful to just know right off
the bat, sometimes shit happens,sometimes disappointing things
happen, and we will be okay.
It's not like we have toquestion the whole meaning of
the universe.
(05:01):
I think sometimes we forget, andlike sometimes we think that if
if it's not all smooth sailing,if it's not all going well, then
like something has gone wrongand we need to fix everything
and panic.
No, sometimes it's not meant togo right all the time, it's not
meant to be happy endings allthe time.
And so I think sometimes justnormalizing that there are some
disappointing times that can bereally helpful.
(05:23):
Another tip I will say abouthandling disappointment is to
allow yourself to feel it.
Allow yourself to have a pityparty, wallow in some sad music
with the lights off if you wantto, but I want you to truly feel
it.
And that sounds so terrible forme to say, right?
I want you to feel trulydisappointed, but I want you to
truly feel whatever feelings andemotions are coming your way.
I want you to be present withthem and allow them to be there.
(05:45):
So when I was a running coachfor uh middle school, high
school age, sometimes myathletes would have a
disappointing race.
And I would have them go ontothe cooldown and I would say, I
want you to go throw your pityparty on this cooldown.
I want you to really feel theemotions.
I understand that you'redisappointed and I want you to
feel it.
So while you're on the cooldownwith your friends, or if you
(06:06):
want to go solo, allow yourselfto say, I feel really
disappointed, I feel really sad,I feel frustrated, I feel upset,
or whatever those feelings are.
And I said, I want you to allowyourself to really feel upset
for this whole cooldown.
And then when you come back, wecan talk about the race, we can
talk about what you did well, wecan talk about like what maybe
you would change for next time,and then maybe we can start
(06:29):
making our game plan.
Sometimes I would even send themhome and say, you get to be
upset all night, right?
And then next time you come topractice, we're going to kind of
shift gears from the feelingdisappointment to feeling uh in
control of what you can do.
And we're gonna talk a littlebit more about that on this
episode.
But the point is, is I told myathletes it was so important to
allow yourself to feel thefeelings, allow yourself to have
(06:51):
the pity party, allow yourselfto feel disappointed because it
can be incredibly invalidatingto be like, oh, don't be upset,
don't cry, don't, don't worryabout it.
It's all good.
To just sort of poo-poo people'semotions or our own emotions can
feel really invalidating and itit actually hinders our ability
to handle those emotions.
So instead of pretending it'snot there and kind of sweeping
(07:13):
it under the rug, let's bring itto light and acknowledge that
it's there.
It may be helpful to set a timerand say, okay, for 30 minutes, I
am going to be reallydisappointed.
I'm going to wallow in myself-pity.
Or maybe you need a few days.
But I think sometimes it can behelpful to ahead of time set how
long you're going to allowyourself to wallow in your
misery before you try to getback into action.
(07:34):
So that might be a helpful tipfor you to try to just decide
how long am I going to letmyself really feel this
disappointment before I move on.
And the key here is to allowyourself to fully feel the
feelings instead of trying tonumb them.
So, you know, during this timeof wallowing, this is not when
you're going to scroll endlesslyon the internet or watch a
million episodes of something onNetflix or drink so much wine
(07:59):
that you like can't get off thecouch, right?
So this is when you're reallyfeeling the feelings.
Um, one thing, journaling hasbeen shown to be an effective
way to process disappointment.
So there's something thathappens in your brain when you
have to put feelings into wordson the page that helps your
brain process those feelings andit helps you learn how to handle
them.
(08:19):
Um, so sometimes journalingsomething even like I feel
disappointed because enlistingthe reasons why can really help
your brain turn those emotionsthat are running around in your
body into actual words, and thenthat helps your brain learn how
to process them.
So have your pity party, wallowin the sad music if you want, do
a little journaling, but allowyourself to really feel the
(08:41):
feelings.
Sometimes it can also be helpfulto think about where the
feelings are in your body.
You know, maybe you feel it inyour chest or maybe in your
abdomen, and to sort of describein your journal or to yourself
what that feels like.
It feels heavy and dark and dampand brown, right?
Like if you were describing it,let's say you were describing it
to a sketch artist that wasgoing to make a sketch of
(09:04):
whatever that feeling was.
This may sound kind of like aweird exercise, but it actually
helps you to process it.
So think about how you woulddescribe this to somebody that
was going to have to paint it ordraw it.
And so you can talk about how itfeels, where it is in your body,
what it looks like, if it'sheavy, if it's soft, but
actually describe what thatdisappointment feels like in
your body can help you to justsort of um, it helps the emotion
(09:25):
to kind of dissipate.
So that's another thing that youcan do while you're sort of
having your pity party andwallowing in the sadness or the
disappointment.
The next thing I want you toknow is to what I call don't
argue with reality.
So, yes, it stinks that thisdisappointing thing happened,
but spending energy ruminatingabout how unfair it is, or
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ruminating that happened at all,or beating yourself up for
decisions you made that may haveled to this disappointment, or
spending all your energy wishingit were different.
Ah, I'm so mad that thishappened.
I wish it were different, I wishI would have done this, I wish
that would have happened.
None of those things are useful.
What has happened has happened.
And no amount of ruminating orsecond guessing yourself or
beating yourself up or wishingit away, no amount of that is
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going to change it.
So instead, you can just acceptthis is the reality now, this is
what happened, thisdisappointing thing happened,
and what am I gonna do fromhere?
Now what?
Right?
So instead of arguing with thereality, oh, I wish that didn't
happen, I'm so mad thathappened.
We can be disappointed.
Yes, this happened, I'm superdisappointed that it happened.
Now what?
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So that disappointing thing hashappened, yes, it stinks.
Acknowledge that it happened,acknowledge that you feel
disappointed, allow yourself tofeel those feelings, have your
petty party, and then now what?
What is in your realm ofcontrol?
How do you want things to gofrom here?
We can't change what's happened,but from this moment forward,
what can we do?
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What do we want to do?
What can we do?
What is in our realm of control?
What will we do?
Who do we want to be?
How do you want to show up inthe world, right?
So, yeah, sure, we wish thingswere different, but they aren't
different.
They are the way they are.
So, what can we do from thismoment forward to change course,
to change how we're feeling, tochange how we're showing up?
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Okay?
That might be something you wantto journal also.
And then I just want to tell youtoo, this will be a powerful
chapter in your story.
The story does not end with adisappointment.
The story actually begins whenyou decide to dust yourself off
and get going again.
The story becomes even sweeterwhen you tell the back-to-back
chapters of the disappointmentyou felt and how it got there,
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and then followed by the chapterof how you kept going and didn't
let the disappointment win.
So I listened to How I BuiltThis.
It's a podcast on NPR, How IBuilt This with Guy Roz.
And I've listened to at least 20episodes, and it's all about how
entrepreneurs have started theircompanies.
And every single one of theseepisodes that I've listened to
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has had a dramatic anddisappointing setback.
There have been things that seemlike they would break people and
that they would end thebusinesses.
I mean, really bigdisappointments.
And yet, these entrepreneurs didnot break, they came back and
they came back stronger and theycame back successfully.
And it makes the story so muchbetter and more interesting to
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know that they struggled soterribly and still found a way
to keep going.
And I'm telling you, theseepisodes would be so much more
boring and less impressive ifthey didn't have any
disappointments in them.
It'd be like, yeah, yeah, yeah,success, success, which is
great, right?
But there's something sopowerful about seeing, like, oh
my gosh, these people weredevastated by this event or this
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thing that happened.
And they learned how to pickthemselves up and now look how
successful they are.
And there's something soinspiring about that, and also
something so powerful aboutknowing that we aren't alone,
that every success story hasthat moment of deep
disappointment or many moments,right?
But it is just part of thestory.
So if you are in a moment ofdisappointment, just know that
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this is temporary.
This is just the rough chapter.
And yes, it hurts like hell.
Disappointment doesn't feelgood, but this is not the end.
It isn't the disappointment thatdefines you, but it's the way
that you bounce back fromdisappointment that defines you.
So you get to write that part ofthe story that's totally in your
control.
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Sometimes the disappointmentsaren't in our control, but you
can definitely control andhandle and be in charge of what
you do after the disappointment,how you pick yourself up.
So after you have felt sad anddisappointed, and after you have
acknowledged it, and after youhave had your pity party, and
after you have journaled aboutit, hopefully, wipe your tears,
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lift up your chin, look out atthe horizon, lift up your chest,
and carry on.
Just take one step towards thefuture that you want.
Take one step toward who youwant to be.
And then take another and thentake another.
And that's how we handledisappointment and we move on.
That's all I have for you today.
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Have a great week.
If you're with family, I'msending you my thoughts and
prayers to just love each otherand survive.
And I thank you so much forbeing here for this episode of
the Show Up Society Podcast.
Now go out there and show up foryourself.
Hey friend, if you liked thispodcast episode and you want
help applying it to your life soyou can do more of what you want
and feel good while doing it,you're gonna love working with
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me one-on-one for six months.
I'll help you with strategy andmindset so you can figure out
what you want, make an actionplan, and I'll help you get
unstuck all along the way.
Go to showupsociety.com forwardslash coaching to set up a
consultation to see if we are agood fit for each other.
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Oh hey, loyal podcast listener.
Thank you for being here all theway through to the end.
Okay, you ready for your secretmission?
Go find me on Instagram at ShowUpSociety and go find the post
that corresponds to this podcastepisode.
And I want you to leave me a sadface and then a happy face to
just show me that you know thatlife has disappointments and it
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also has joyful surprises, or ithas, you know, happy moments
too.
So just to show that you'velistened to this episode and
you're acknowledging with methat life is full of the ups and
downs.
Okay.
Thank you so much for beinghere.
Keep up the good work.
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