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He who works the most wins.
At least, that's what I believed.
I grew a company from negative $500K to $4.5 million in revenue.
On paper? Success.
In reality? I was completely falling apart.
I lost my passion.
I lost my mind. Literally forgot how to open my own trunk.
I lost my will.
And I didn't even see it coming.
In this video, I'm sharing what burnout actually looked like for me. Not the Instagram version, the real one. The walks with my husband where all I could say was "I'm just so unhappy." The moment in a coaching session where it hit me like a ton of bricks.
And then I'll tell you what I did about it.
I took a 4-month sabbatical.
No email. No Slack. No meetings.
Just rest. And it terrified me.
Because when your identity is your work, stopping feels like dying.
But here's what I know now:
Rest is not weakness.
You are limited. And that's actually a good thing.
If you're running hard right now and something feels off, this video is for you.
Stop grinding. Start resting.
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SPEAKER_00 (01:29):
You've heard it said that he who works the most wins,
but what if actually he whoworks the most loses?
Let me explain.
12 years ago, I started workingat a company and that year we
lost$500,000.
I then was able to lead thatcompany and help it grow to four
and a half million dollars ayear of revenue, which on paper
(01:52):
sounds amazing.
But in actuality, I was losingmy mind.
In actuality, my husband and Iwould start going on walks and
he would say, What's what'swrong?
What's going on with you?
And I remember my constantanswer back to him was, I'm just
so unhappy.
I know that life isn't all abouthappiness, but here's the thing:
(02:15):
I felt like I was running on atreadmill, running on a hamster
wheel that I couldn't get off ofand I didn't know how.
Because everyone else wassaying, this is what I should
do, that I should be workinglong hours, that he who works
the most is the one who wins,that you can outwork your
competition.
These are the things that youhear in the business space.
(02:36):
And when you're a type A, highachiever, get it done kind of
person, you feel it even morebecause to stop feels like
failure.
And it's not even just stopping.
In fact, working a lot is abadge of honor in some of the
areas of our lives, especiallyfor go-getters like you and I.
(02:56):
You want to win.
In fact, working a lot is abadge of honor.
Never taking a rest day, alwaysbeing there when other people
aren't.
It's something that we begin tofind our identity in, at least I
did.
And maybe you can identify withthat too.
In fact, rest to me was afour-letter word.
Rest.
I didn't need rest.
(03:17):
I needed to work, I needed toproduce because my identity was
in the production.
It was in the outcome, it was inthe results.
If I wasn't working, who was I?
What was the cost though?
What was it costing me in orderto grow to this milestone, to
run a company, to achieve all ofthe things at what cost?
(03:42):
I have a friend, we were talkinga couple of weeks ago, and she
told me a story about when sheended up finding out she had a
heart condition.
And what was happening insideher body was that her heart was
double beating all the time,constantly, double beating.
That's like you're constantlyjogging, constantly on the
elliptical, constantly ridingyour bike.
(04:03):
24-7, there was no stop, therewas no resting.
And what ended up happening washer heart began to fail.
The capacity for her heart beganto wear out, to where they said,
if we don't do something aboutthis, you're going to go into
heart failure.
Just like my friend wasexperiencing how her heart was
(04:25):
running out.
What I realized, thinking backto when I was overworking all of
the time, completely on the edgeor at burnout, was that the
heart for what I was doing wasrunning out as well.
So what I want to share with youtoday are the three signs that I
had that I was burning out.
(04:45):
And then I'm going to tell youwhat I did about it.
Here was the first one.
I lost my passion.
I completely lost passion forwhat I was doing.
I remember there were days Iwould wake up and just think, do
I have to go to work today?
There were times that I wouldlook at my emails, look at the
(05:07):
things that were on the to-dolist, and just think, there was
this weight.
It was this heaviness on myshoulders and on my chest that I
just felt like I was trying toperform.
I was trying to meet otherpeople's expectations because I
was so caught up in me.
I was so caught up with thewrong focus, with the wrong
vision that I didn't havepassion anymore.
(05:30):
And it was actually very scarybecause I loved the work I was
doing at its core.
I loved the lives being changed.
I loved everything that washappening as a result of the
work that I was doing.
But the actual work I was doingfelt heavy.
It felt really heavy.
I lost my passion.
The second thing that happenedwas I lost my mind.
(05:55):
Now, some of you were thinking,we knew that a long time ago,
Kimberly.
But in actuality, I rememberthat there was a day I was so
overwhelmed.
I was so just caught up in howmy life was work, work, work,
work, work that when I finallybegan to take a break, I went to
go pick up groceries, like Inormally do.
And then when I got to thepickup spot, I parked my car.
(06:17):
They came to my window and theysaid, Do you where do you want
us to put this?
I couldn't remember how to openthe trunk of my car.
I couldn't remember because Iwas so cognitively overwhelmed
and burnt out.
I just, I, I just looked aroundand I had this moment of terror
thinking, I think something isactually legitimately wrong with
(06:39):
me.
And I looked at the guy and Isaid, I guess just put him in
the backseat.
And the whole time I wasfreaking out thinking, I've lost
my mind.
It was because I was so stressedout, I was so burnt out, and I
wasn't able to rest.
And then finally, I lost mywill.
(07:02):
There was a specific moment whenthis happened.
It was February of 2024.
And I was sitting in this chairright here, having a coaching
meeting with my business coachnamed Luke, who I've done videos
with before.
He's amazing.
But as we were sitting here, hewas talking about how he
realized he was burnt out.
He was telling me his storyabout how the company he had
(07:24):
been at, he had been there 14years, and he just he he felt
like he was losing the vision ofwhat he needed to do in that
role.
And there was a lot of bigprojects coming up, and he just
didn't feel like he had thecapacity to carry it forward.
It's when he knew that therewere pulls happening to get him
to do something new and to dosomething different.
(07:46):
And as he was talking, I wassitting here in this chair and I
was looking out the window, andit all hit me like a ton of
bricks.
Kimberly, you need a break.
And honestly, it was terrifying.
I ended up going home and got myhusband and I took him into the
bedroom and I said, Rob, I thinkI'm gonna take a break from
(08:09):
work.
And I think I'm gonna go forfour months.
And I kept trying to bargain it.
I started with, well, maybe I'lljust take like two weeks off and
then work a week and then twoweeks off and then work a week.
And then I thought, well, maybeI'll just do a full month or a
full two months.
But what I really knew I neededwas four months off.
And as I was telling him, I wasI was crying and I couldn't
(08:31):
quite figure out why.
But what I ended up realizingwas the thought of not working
was so absolutely terrifying tome because I had wrapped my
whole identity in my work.
Who was I if I wasn't working?
Who was I if I wasn't producing?
(08:52):
And the thought terrified me.
And honestly, what terrified meeven more was that I would walk
away and everything would befine without me.
What if I wasn't even needed?
And so as I was sharing all ofthis with my husband, he said,
absolutely, you absolutely needto take this time off.
(09:12):
He was 100% behind it.
I prepped for it, I prepared forit, and starting in April of
2024, I took four months off ofwork.
And that first day, I had noemail, I had no Slack.
I told people, do not talk tome, do not contact me unless
something is literally burningdown.
And when I woke up that Mondaymorning, I didn't know what to
(09:34):
do with my life.
I didn't know what to do withmyself.
And what transpired and unfoldedover the next four months was
some of the most healing,transformative time of my life.
There were emotions that I hadbeen running from and not
(09:57):
allowing myself to process orfeel.
I was just covering them overwith work.
There were family issues that Ihad to work out.
There were just things aboutmyself that I was believing
about myself that weren't true.
That during those four months,it's not like they all of a
sudden went away, but I began torealize that life was more than
(10:23):
work.
I napped.
I never nap.
I hate napping, but I would napevery day around 2 p.m.
as I was just sitting in myliving room reading a book.
I took time to purposefully readGod's word, to purposefully seek
out, God, what is it you want meto do?
And I think maybe that was thefirst time I had done that in
(10:45):
forever.
I don't know that I had everactually seeked what God wanted
me to do with my life untileverything else was stripped
away.
I was able to be there with myhusband, I was able to be with
there with my kids.
If you're a working parent, youknow how hard it is, the guilt
that we carry all of the time ofnot being at all of the things,
(11:08):
not being there when they gethome all of the time, not always
being able to cook breakfast.
But for those four months, I wasable to be fully present.
And my kids noticed, my husbandnoticed, I noticed.
I don't think I truly knew whatrest was until I took that time.
But it was scary.
It was truly scary.
(11:30):
But here was the takeaway forme, and what I hope is the
takeaway for you.
Rest is not weakness.
Rest is not a four-letter word.
And just like my coach told me,Kimberly, you are limited.
And I hated when he said that.
I'm not limited.
(11:50):
I can do it all.
No, I can't.
I can't.
My favorite movie is Wicked.
Don't judge me.
I love these movies so much.
I love Wicked One and I loveWicked Two.
But here's the thing (12:03):
even if you've never seen it, the very
end of the first Wicked movie,you have these two witches,
right?
So we have Elphaba, who is theWicked Witch of the West,
although she's not actuallyWicked.
And then we have Gelinda, who isthe good witch, who everyone
loves.
And they end up becoming friendsin the first movie.
But at the very end, Elphaba isfighting for a cause that she
(12:25):
believes in.
And no one sees it her way orher perspective.
They all see her as the enemy.
And finally, she sings theamazing final song of the first
movie, Defying Gravity.
And at the all through it, she'ssaying unlimited.
And she's talking to Glenda andshe's saying, Together we're
unlimited.
There's nothing that we can'tdo.
There's nothing that I can't do.
(12:47):
She fundamentally believes sheis unlimited, that she's gonna
get her way.
And her way is a good thing.
She's wanting a quality for allthe animals and all the things.
But what we see happen in thesecond movie is that people like
the way she's doing what she'sdoing isn't working.
(13:07):
She's not getting the resultsthat she's hoping for.
And towards the end of thatsecond movie, there's a second
song.
And at the beginning of thatsecond song, it's Alphabet again
singing, and she's saying, I'mlimited.
I am not unlimited.
I am limited.
And she passes on the baton toGlenda to take over what she
(13:30):
ultimately realized she couldn'tdo.
I love that picture.
I love that charactertransformation and formation in
Alphabet because I think in manyways I have felt that way.
I started out in my careerworking hard, trying to do all
of the things, and there becamethis really terrible place and
time where I believed I wasunlimited, where I believed that
(13:53):
I had this Midas touch and thateverything I would do would
work.
I had pride that I didn'trealize I had.
For my own, for my ownshoulders.
But when I had that pride takenaway over some things that
happened through the business,when things ended up not going
(14:14):
that way, I realized, Kimberly,you have had the wrong mindset,
the wrong heart set, and you'vebeen putting wrong priorities in
place.
And so the sabbatical was anatural outpouring of realizing
I am limited.
And of course, because of myfaith, I knew like I during
(14:35):
those years, I always knew thatGod was the one who would bring
the provision, but I wasn'tacting like it.
And over the past several years,and especially with the time
that I took off work and rested,it's been a constant and
continual reminder of submissionto his will, not my own, but
also to the fact that I amlimited, but he is not.
(15:02):
The more that I was putting allof the faith and hope in what I
could do, the more burnt out Ibecame.
Now I'm in a season of workwhere things are crazy, things
are hard.
These are things that if I wasfacing this pre-sabbatical, I
would be losing my passion,losing my mind, and losing my
(15:25):
will.
I don't know how I would faceevery day.
But that time off taught me thepurpose and the blessing of
rest.
Do I still rest perfectly?
No, I don't, but I am waybetter.
I am so much better at cuttingoff, at taking weekends off.
(15:47):
There are some weekends I needto work, but I really try and
protect that time because I nolonger see rest as weakness.
And I know even when we look atour physical bodies, rest isn't
weakness.
We shouldn't work out or pushour bodies seven days a week.
That's actually how we getinjured quicker, how we can't
recover from things and how wecan't do our full ability.
(16:10):
The more you train too hard, theless hard you can train.
We know that from our physicalbodies, but it absolutely
translates to our intellectual,our emotional, and our spiritual
lives as well.
I actually created an assessmentthat you can take for free,
where it will ask you severalquestions.
(16:32):
I think there's about 48 orsomething like that.
And at the end of it, you'regonna get a graph to be able to
see the areas in which you arestruggling, physically,
intellectually, emotionally, andspiritually, and the areas that
you're doing really well.
And one of those areas, just tolet you know, is rest and
regulation.
Because if you're strugglingwith your rest and regulation,
(16:53):
it could absolutely be impactingyour emotional health, your
spiritual health, even yourmindset.
So you can see the link to thatin the show notes.
I hope you take it.
But the bottom line is this restis not weakness.
You can look successful on paperinto the world and still be
completely unhappy.
And while the goal of life isnot to be happy, when you are
(17:18):
drained and burnt out, andthat's what's leading to your
depletion of energy, it willshow in what you do.
You're not going to be able toshow up to your maximum ability
and to live the life that Godhas called you to do in the way
that He has called you to do it.
We are weak, he is strong, buteven if you're not a person of
(17:40):
faith, what I hope you hear mesaying through this is you are
limited.
And that's okay.
It's not just okay, it'sactually a good thing because it
shows you that you can't do itall alone, that you need other
people, and that you need astrength outside of yourself,
which I believe is God.
(18:03):
I would love to know if thisvideo hit with you.
Leave a comment, tell me aboutyour story.
And actually, what I really wantyou to do is rest.
Find some time this weekend,this evening, make a plan.
Turn off rest.
You've heard it said that he who works the most wins,
but what if actually he whoworks the most loses?
Let me explain.
12 years ago, I started workingat a company and that year we
lost$500,000.
I then was able to lead thatcompany and help it grow to four
and a half million dollars ayear of revenue, which on paper
(01:52):
sounds amazing.
But in actuality, I was losingmy mind.
In actuality, my husband and Iwould start going on walks and
he would say, What's what'swrong?
What's going on with you?
And I remember my constantanswer back to him was, I'm just
so unhappy.
I know that life isn't all abouthappiness, but here's the thing:
(02:15):
I felt like I was running on atreadmill, running on a hamster
wheel that I couldn't get off ofand I didn't know how.
Because everyone else wassaying, this is what I should
do, that I should be workinglong hours, that he who works
the most is the one who wins,that you can outwork your
competition.
These are the things that youhear in the business space.
(02:36):
And when you're a type A, highachiever, get it done kind of
person, you feel it even morebecause to stop feels like
failure.
And it's not even just stopping.
In fact, working a lot is abadge of honor in some of the
areas of our lives, especiallyfor go-getters like you and I.
(02:56):
You want to win.
In fact, working a lot is abadge of honor.
Never taking a rest day, alwaysbeing there when other people
aren't.
It's something that we begin tofind our identity in, at least I
did.
And maybe you can identify withthat too.
In fact, rest to me was afour-letter word.
Rest.
I didn't need rest.
(03:17):
I needed to work, I needed toproduce because my identity was
in the production.
It was in the outcome, it was inthe results.
If I wasn't working, who was I?
What was the cost though?
What was it costing me in orderto grow to this milestone, to
run a company, to achieve all ofthe things at what cost?
(03:42):
I have a friend, we were talkinga couple of weeks ago, and she
told me a story about when sheended up finding out she had a
heart condition.
And what was happening insideher body was that her heart was
double beating all the time,constantly, double beating.
That's like you're constantlyjogging, constantly on the
elliptical, constantly ridingyour bike.
(04:03):
24-7, there was no stop, therewas no resting.
And what ended up happening washer heart began to fail.
The capacity for her heart beganto wear out, to where they said,
if we don't do something aboutthis, you're going to go into
heart failure.
Just like my friend wasexperiencing how her heart was
(04:25):
running out.
What I realized, thinking backto when I was overworking all of
the time, completely on the edgeor at burnout, was that the
heart for what I was doing wasrunning out as well.
So what I want to share with youtoday are the three signs that I
had that I was burning out.
(04:45):
And then I'm going to tell youwhat I did about it.
Here was the first one.
I lost my passion.
I completely lost passion forwhat I was doing.
I remember there were days Iwould wake up and just think, do
I have to go to work today?
There were times that I wouldlook at my emails, look at the
(05:07):
things that were on the to-dolist, and just think, there was
this weight.
It was this heaviness on myshoulders and on my chest that I
just felt like I was trying toperform.
I was trying to meet otherpeople's expectations because I
was so caught up in me.
I was so caught up with thewrong focus, with the wrong
vision that I didn't havepassion anymore.
(05:30):
And it was actually very scarybecause I loved the work I was
doing at its core.
I loved the lives being changed.
I loved everything that washappening as a result of the
work that I was doing.
But the actual work I was doingfelt heavy.
It felt really heavy.
I lost my passion.
The second thing that happenedwas I lost my mind.
(05:55):
Now, some of you were thinking,we knew that a long time ago,
Kimberly.
But in actuality, I rememberthat there was a day I was so
overwhelmed.
I was so just caught up in howmy life was work, work, work,
work, work that when I finallybegan to take a break, I went to
go pick up groceries, like Inormally do.
And then when I got to thepickup spot, I parked my car.
(06:17):
They came to my window and theysaid, Do you where do you want
us to put this?
I couldn't remember how to openthe trunk of my car.
I couldn't remember because Iwas so cognitively overwhelmed
and burnt out.
I just, I, I just looked aroundand I had this moment of terror
thinking, I think something isactually legitimately wrong with
(06:39):
me.
And I looked at the guy and Isaid, I guess just put him in
the backseat.
And the whole time I wasfreaking out thinking, I've lost
my mind.
It was because I was so stressedout, I was so burnt out, and I
wasn't able to rest.
And then finally, I lost mywill.
(07:02):
There was a specific moment whenthis happened.
It was February of 2024.
And I was sitting in this chairright here, having a coaching
meeting with my business coachnamed Luke, who I've done videos
with before.
He's amazing.
But as we were sitting here, hewas talking about how he
realized he was burnt out.
He was telling me his storyabout how the company he had
(07:24):
been at, he had been there 14years, and he just he he felt
like he was losing the vision ofwhat he needed to do in that
role.
And there was a lot of bigprojects coming up, and he just
didn't feel like he had thecapacity to carry it forward.
It's when he knew that therewere pulls happening to get him
to do something new and to dosomething different.
(07:46):
And as he was talking, I wassitting here in this chair and I
was looking out the window, andit all hit me like a ton of
bricks.
Kimberly, you need a break.
And honestly, it was terrifying.
I ended up going home and got myhusband and I took him into the
bedroom and I said, Rob, I thinkI'm gonna take a break from
(08:09):
work.
And I think I'm gonna go forfour months.
And I kept trying to bargain it.
I started with, well, maybe I'lljust take like two weeks off and
then work a week and then twoweeks off and then work a week.
And then I thought, well, maybeI'll just do a full month or a
full two months.
But what I really knew I neededwas four months off.
And as I was telling him, I wasI was crying and I couldn't
(08:31):
quite figure out why.
But what I ended up realizingwas the thought of not working
was so absolutely terrifying tome because I had wrapped my
whole identity in my work.
Who was I if I wasn't working?
Who was I if I wasn't producing?
(08:52):
And the thought terrified me.
And honestly, what terrified meeven more was that I would walk
away and everything would befine without me.
What if I wasn't even needed?
And so as I was sharing all ofthis with my husband, he said,
absolutely, you absolutely needto take this time off.
(09:12):
He was 100% behind it.
I prepped for it, I prepared forit, and starting in April of
2024, I took four months off ofwork.
And that first day, I had noemail, I had no Slack.
I told people, do not talk tome, do not contact me unless
something is literally burningdown.
And when I woke up that Mondaymorning, I didn't know what to
(09:34):
do with my life.
I didn't know what to do withmyself.
And what transpired and unfoldedover the next four months was
some of the most healing,transformative time of my life.
There were emotions that I hadbeen running from and not
(09:57):
allowing myself to process orfeel.
I was just covering them overwith work.
There were family issues that Ihad to work out.
There were just things aboutmyself that I was believing
about myself that weren't true.
That during those four months,it's not like they all of a
sudden went away, but I began torealize that life was more than
(10:23):
work.
I napped.
I never nap.
I hate napping, but I would napevery day around 2 p.m.
as I was just sitting in myliving room reading a book.
I took time to purposefully readGod's word, to purposefully seek
out, God, what is it you want meto do?
And I think maybe that was thefirst time I had done that in
(10:45):
forever.
I don't know that I had everactually seeked what God wanted
me to do with my life untileverything else was stripped
away.
I was able to be there with myhusband, I was able to be with
there with my kids.
If you're a working parent, youknow how hard it is, the guilt
that we carry all of the time ofnot being at all of the things,
(11:08):
not being there when they gethome all of the time, not always
being able to cook breakfast.
But for those four months, I wasable to be fully present.
And my kids noticed, my husbandnoticed, I noticed.
I don't think I truly knew whatrest was until I took that time.
But it was scary.
It was truly scary.
(11:30):
But here was the takeaway forme, and what I hope is the
takeaway for you.
Rest is not weakness.
Rest is not a four-letter word.
And just like my coach told me,Kimberly, you are limited.
And I hated when he said that.
I'm not limited.
(11:50):
I can do it all.
No, I can't.
I can't.
My favorite movie is Wicked.
Don't judge me.
I love these movies so much.
I love Wicked One and I loveWicked Two.
But here's the thing (12:03):
even if you've never seen it, the very
end of the first Wicked movie,you have these two witches,
right?
So we have Elphaba, who is theWicked Witch of the West,
although she's not actuallyWicked.
And then we have Gelinda, who isthe good witch, who everyone
loves.
And they end up becoming friendsin the first movie.
But at the very end, Elphaba isfighting for a cause that she
(12:25):
believes in.
And no one sees it her way orher perspective.
They all see her as the enemy.
And finally, she sings theamazing final song of the first
movie, Defying Gravity.
And at the all through it, she'ssaying unlimited.
And she's talking to Glenda andshe's saying, Together we're
unlimited.
There's nothing that we can'tdo.
There's nothing that I can't do.
(12:47):
She fundamentally believes sheis unlimited, that she's gonna
get her way.
And her way is a good thing.
She's wanting a quality for allthe animals and all the things.
But what we see happen in thesecond movie is that people like
the way she's doing what she'sdoing isn't working.
(13:07):
She's not getting the resultsthat she's hoping for.
And towards the end of thatsecond movie, there's a second
song.
And at the beginning of thatsecond song, it's Alphabet again
singing, and she's saying, I'mlimited.
I am not unlimited.
I am limited.
And she passes on the baton toGlenda to take over what she
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ultimately realized she couldn'tdo.
I love that picture.
I love that charactertransformation and formation in
Alphabet because I think in manyways I have felt that way.
I started out in my careerworking hard, trying to do all
of the things, and there becamethis really terrible place and
time where I believed I wasunlimited, where I believed that
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I had this Midas touch and thateverything I would do would
work.
I had pride that I didn'trealize I had.
For my own, for my ownshoulders.
But when I had that pride takenaway over some things that
happened through the business,when things ended up not going
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that way, I realized, Kimberly,you have had the wrong mindset,
the wrong heart set, and you'vebeen putting wrong priorities in
place.
And so the sabbatical was anatural outpouring of realizing
I am limited.
And of course, because of myfaith, I knew like I during
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those years, I always knew thatGod was the one who would bring
the provision, but I wasn'tacting like it.
And over the past several years,and especially with the time
that I took off work and rested,it's been a constant and
continual reminder of submissionto his will, not my own, but
also to the fact that I amlimited, but he is not.
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The more that I was putting allof the faith and hope in what I
could do, the more burnt out Ibecame.
Now I'm in a season of workwhere things are crazy, things
are hard.
These are things that if I wasfacing this pre-sabbatical, I
would be losing my passion,losing my mind, and losing my
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will.
I don't know how I would faceevery day.
But that time off taught me thepurpose and the blessing of
rest.
Do I still rest perfectly?
No, I don't, but I am waybetter.
I am so much better at cuttingoff, at taking weekends off.
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There are some weekends I needto work, but I really try and
protect that time because I nolonger see rest as weakness.
And I know even when we look atour physical bodies, rest isn't
weakness.
We shouldn't work out or pushour bodies seven days a week.
That's actually how we getinjured quicker, how we can't
recover from things and how wecan't do our full ability.
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The more you train too hard, theless hard you can train.
We know that from our physicalbodies, but it absolutely
translates to our intellectual,our emotional, and our spiritual
lives as well.
I actually created an assessmentthat you can take for free,
where it will ask you severalquestions.
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I think there's about 48 orsomething like that.
And at the end of it, you'regonna get a graph to be able to
see the areas in which you arestruggling, physically,
intellectually, emotionally, andspiritually, and the areas that
you're doing really well.
And one of those areas, just tolet you know, is rest and
regulation.
Because if you're strugglingwith your rest and regulation,
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it could absolutely be impactingyour emotional health, your
spiritual health, even yourmindset.
So you can see the link to thatin the show notes.
I hope you take it.
But the bottom line is this restis not weakness.
You can look successful on paperinto the world and still be
completely unhappy.
And while the goal of life isnot to be happy, when you are
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drained and burnt out, andthat's what's leading to your
depletion of energy, it willshow in what you do.
You're not going to be able toshow up to your maximum ability
and to live the life that Godhas called you to do in the way
that He has called you to do it.
We are weak, he is strong, buteven if you're not a person of
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faith, what I hope you hear mesaying through this is you are
limited.
And that's okay.
It's not just okay, it'sactually a good thing because it
shows you that you can't do itall alone, that you need other
people, and that you need astrength outside of yourself,
which I believe is God.
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I would love to know if thisvideo hit with you.
Leave a comment, tell me aboutyour story.
And actually, what I really wantyou to do is rest.
Find some time this weekend,this evening, make a plan.
Turn off rest.
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