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January 21, 2025 22 mins

Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!) 
 
In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself. 
 
Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why your inner child needs a time-out from running your relationships.

Key Takeaways

  • Why are you testing your partner with "abandonment scales" that don't exist 
  • How suppressing emotions is actually self-abandonment in disguise
  • The truth about external validation and why it's like trying to fill a leaky bucket
  • Why building self-trust doesn't mean becoming a totally independent island
  • How to stop abandoning yourself (even when you're feeling super insecure)

Memorable Quotes

💭 "Self-trust is the belief that you can rely on yourself to make decisions, handle emotions, and honor your needs"

Signs You Might Be Abandoning Yourself

  1. Ignoring or suppressing your true feelings
  2. Saying "yes" when you really mean "no"
  3. Overworking to prove your worth
  4. Putting others' needs first (even when you're running on empty)
  5. Tolerating disrespect to keep the peace

Your Self-Trust Action Plan

  1. Notice when you're seeking external validation
  2. Challenge your black-and-white thinking
  3. Start honoring your emotions 
  4. Practice setting boundaries
  5. Trust that you can handle whatever comes your way

Episode Timeline

  • 00:00 Welcome & Episode Recap
  • 02:33 The Only Person Who Can't Abandon You
  • 07:15 What Would Complete Self-Trust Feel Like?
  • 12:45 The Closet Meltdown Story
  • 18:30 Understanding Self-Abandonment
  • 25:45 Building Real Self-Trust
  • 29:20 Final Thoughts & Resources

Resources Mentioned

  • Free Self-Discovery Workshop (Registration is Open!)
  • Last Week's Episode with Dr. Brittany McGeehan (Episode 100)

 

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