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Hello, and welcome to
Truth and Beauty.
So I want you to imagine thatyou're late to work.
In your car, waiting at alight, you see another car, a
fellow traveler, trying to makea left.
You guess he's been sittingthere for quite some time.
You have the thought that youshould let him in, create space
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for him to turn, but that'squickly replaced by, "Not today.
I don't have the time." Andalong with the car ahead of you,
pretend you don't see him andcontinue on once the light turns
green.
For a bit, it seems liketraffic is flowing, and you
think you're going to make it.
At the next turn, you'reimmediately forced to slow down.
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Traffic has come to a dead stopdue to what appears to be road
construction a quarter miledown, and you realize that you
will definitely be late for worknow.
Your next thought?
Karma.
Do you believe in karma?
My unofficial consensus is thatmost people appreciate the idea
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of karma and might agree thatthere's something to it.
But other than the occasionalrueful thought, don't spend a
lot of time thinking about it.
I think it's because life oftenfeels so random and chaotic
that the idea of karma seemskind of irrelevant or like an
afterthought.
Why worry about that when allsorts of crazy things could
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happen to us that are unaskedfor, unwanted, and out of our
control?
But the thing is, karmaactually plays a much bigger
role in our lives than mostpeople would guess.
Karma is a key player in thehuman puzzle, and whether or not
you are paying attention to itis part of everything you
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experience and every choice thatyou make the principle of karma
provides a clear and concreteframework for understanding what
we experience.
At its simplest, karma is auniversal law of cause and
effect.
While many of us associatekarma with bad or unfortunate
experiences, the truth is thatkarma is neither good nor bad.
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It is only neutral.
Karma is not the universejudging us or attempting to
punish us.
It is merely consequence,effect.
Negative creates negative.
Positive creates positive.
Karma is both action and theconsequences of that action,
what we do and the effects ofwhat we do.
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However, while karma is aboutaction, it is actually even more
about intention.
Karma begins in the mind.
Yes, external actions alsomatter, but the inner state and
intention that motivates anaction or choice is where it's
really at.
In fact, the same action with adifferent intention creates
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different karma.
An easy example is somethingwe've all done at one time or
another, told a lie.
We might choose to lie with theintention to protect ourselves
from the consequences of anegative behavior, or we might
choose to lie with the intentionof protecting someone's
feelings.
The action remains the same, alie, but the intention changes
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the karmic consequence.
Makes sense, right?
Lying in general is considerednegative.
But let's try another example,something that at first glance
would appear to be a good orpositive action, such as buying
a friend a beautiful, expensivebirthday gift.
Lovely, right?
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If the intention with this giftwas to honor your friend by
giving them something thatperhaps they really wanted but
couldn't otherwise afford, thatwould lead to one type of karmic
effect.
If, on the other hand, youpurchased an expensive gift for
your friend with the intentionof making them feel guilty for
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not getting you anything foryour birthday, that would create
a completely different karmicconsequence.
So dear listeners, it's notjust about what you do, it's
about why you do it.
Action plus intention plusconsequence is karma So karma is
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a neutral, universal law basedon cause and effect.
But actually, it is even morethan that.
Karma provides a very importantaspect of our learning process.
If we pay attention, closeattention, to the seemingly
random paths our lives take, wewill notice patterns or cycles
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of behaviors and experiences.
Karma creates the lessons weare here to learn.
In the words of Pema Chödrön,nothing ever goes away until it
has taught us what we need toknow." So while we might
experience one-off types ofkarma, more frequently, and more
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importantly, are the consistentways we think about ourselves
that motivate ourdecision-making.
While it may seem like you aremaking a decision purely from
the way you think or feel inthat moment, the reality is
there is an unconsciousnarrative driving you.
That unconscious, or sometimespartly conscious, narrative is
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karmic.
Here's why.
Our thoughts and feelingscreate behaviors or choices that
create outcomes.
These outcomes or experiencesconsistently reinforce our
personal identity.
Here's an example.
Perhaps you are someone whostruggles with romance, finding
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your person.
In your private thoughts, youmight consider yourself unlucky
in love, or even more likely,not good enough, unwanted.
These conscious thoughts giveevidence to a deeper unconscious
belief system or karmicnarrative that followed you into
this life unbeknownst to you.
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I know, right?
Totally unfair.
But because you carry thisnegative belief system about
your ability to find a partnerand the seemingly unlucky
romantic experiences you havehad so far in your life, you are
unknowingly reinforcing yourkarma The subconscious belief
system that you are not worthyof finding a partner is acted
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out in the experiences andrelationships, or lack of
relationships, that come yourway.
Your response to theseexperiences is to feel badly,
angry, hopeless, despondent,depressed, resigned, and in
doing so, add more fuel to thatkarmic belief system that lies
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just below the surface of yourthinking mind.
Feeling bad about ourselvesreinforces a negative karmic
belief system.
Remember, negative createsnegative.
Another reminder, we are notjust a body or a personality, we
are consciousness, awareness.
Our mind is a creator, and ourbeliefs, conscious to some
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extent, but more importantlythose that are unconscious,
generate what is experienced.
If we believe that we areunworthy or not good enough,
that no one will pick us or loveus, then we absolutely have a
hand in creating thatexperience, even if on the
outside it looks like we aredoing everything we can, putting
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ourselves out there, swipingleft and right in every spare
moment.
Action plus intention plusconsequence is karma.
But to complicate matters,karma reinforces identity.
Karma creates conditionedpatterns or automatic responses
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that persistently shape ourbelief in who we are.
Our identity is not just ourdemographics, but who we believe
ourselves to be at our core.
If we struggle to appreciateour worthiness in any aspect of
our identity, it will be playedout in our lives.
We all have intrinsic worth.
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We are each infinitely morethan what we appear to be on the
surface.
The errors and mistakes of thislifetime, no matter how
seemingly bad, are a blip on thescreen, a momentary lapse in
judgment, and carry no realevidence as to who we actually
are or the value that lieswithin.
Many, many of us struggle withour self-worth.
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It is important to understandthat the struggle with
self-worth isn't a failure.
It is merely a learned pattern.
But when we are unaware of howit influences us, it becomes a
major driver in our lives,giving carte blanche to karmic
decree to allow painful patternsto repeat in our lives, each
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new experience deepening thewound while reinforcing the very
cause of our pain.
So what's the answer?
How do we find our way out ofwhatever karmic mess we may be
experiencing?
The answer, dear listener, isawareness.
Karma is reinforced throughunconscious patterns.
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Presence and awareness disruptskarmic cycles.
Rather than running onautopilot, it is necessary to
slow down, breathe, and begin torespond to our environment in a
different way.
Eckhart Tolle is famous forreminding us of the power of
now.
All you ever have to deal with,cope with in real life is this
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moment.
It is how we respond to eachmoment and the conscious
awareness that we bring to ourdaily experience that changes
everything.
When we understand that thethings that happen to us that we
don't like are not random, ourperspective changes from being a
victim to being a creator.
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I hope this feels empowering toyou because it should be.
Healing karma is aboutresponding to our environment,
daily experiences, other people,and equally important,
ourselves, with forgiveness andlove.
The benefit is twofold.
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This practice allows us to healold karma while simultaneously
avoiding creating new karma.
The human life is a perpetualobstacle course, really.
We are persistently andunavoidably forced to deal with
one problem, issue, frustrationafter another.
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We can respond in one of twoways: blame or forgiveness.
It really does come down tothat.
Start noticing.
Today, when something crossesyour path that you don't like,
what are your feelings?
What are your thoughts?
I'll bet if you're honest withyourself, there is some blaming
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going on.
But the reality is the verynatural human act of blaming is
extremely disempowering When weblame others, we give away our
power.
When we blame ourselves, wealso give away our power.
Both come from a limitedunderstanding that what we
experience is personal.
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But here's the thing, it's notpersonal, and it doesn't define
us.
It can upset us, for sure, butthe extent to which we allow it
to influence us is completelywithin our control.
We can see things for what theyactually are, karmic patterns
that want us to learn something.
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The purpose of the lesson isalways the same, to learn that
we are not lacking, that we arenot less than, that instead we
are whole, that we are holy, andeverything we seem to
experience is meant to beaccepted, and through that
acceptance, overcome.
The truth is we are thecreator, and we are one.
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Nothing is outside of us.
When we forgive what appears tobe outside of us, we unravel
the karmic debt.
But please, I am not here toconvince you that your pain
isn't real.
On a human level, pain is real,or at least it really feels
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real.
There is a reason it is meantto feel real.
But what we seem to experiencedoesn't change the reality of
truth.
The truth is experiences areneutral.
What matters is how we respond.
When we respond withforgiveness and love, we
transcend what seems to behappening to us and get closer
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to graduating the Earth school.
It's not that we have topretend that we are not affected
by life.
In fact, denying our thoughtsand feelings only contributes to
the problem and keeps us stuck.
It's okay to feel the feels andthink the yucky thoughts, but
then there comes a point to seethem for what they are and to
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allow them to be released andreplaced with truth We don't
need to deny our human selves.
We just need to recognize thatit isn't all of who we are.
The moment we become aware,karma begins to change.
When we become present with thetruth of our identity, our
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perspective shifts, weunderstand the choices in front
of us in a new way, and thissupports us in making small
changes.
These small changes add up.
Awareness interrupts oldpatterns, and new choices equal
new outcomes.
Karma heals, our path pivots.
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Life starts to get easier insmall, subtle ways and
significant, unmissable ways.
That's the external.
For the internal, we arehealing karmic debt without
accumulating more, a dynamicthat is persistent when we
remain unaware.
Ultimately, the goal isfreedom, freedom from recycling
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lessons that no longer serve us,lessons that are now learned.
So I hope this all sounds goodto you, but also maybe a little
idealistic.
Let's come back to Earth for aminute.
What does this actually looklike in real everyday life?
If we break it down, it comesto a simple equation, which is
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to replace reacting withresponding.
And when I say responding, Imean responding with awareness.
At this point, it is stillgonna feel like there's a lot
that we can't control, and thereis absolutely an aspect of
human life that-- where thisremains true.
But even though we don'tconsciously choose every
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experience, we are alwaysparticipating in what comes
next.
Relationships are a greatopportunity for reflection and
change because they tend to bethe most emotionally demanding
parts of our lives.
If you know that you aresensitive to perceived criticism
or judgment and tend to reactdefensively, here's an
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opportunity to respond fromawareness instead.
When a coworker or friend orspouse suggests that you made a
bad decision or messed somethingup, before reacting, pause.
Remember that this interactionis here to teach you something
and is not a reflection of whoyou are.
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It actually has nothing to dowith who you are.
Instead of reacting with anger,respond with openness.
Ask a question.
Clarify what they are saying.
Acknowledge what you arehearing.
Or if you are someone who tendsto ignore your own needs and
instead consistently prioritizesthe needs of other people,
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spend some time consideringthat.
The next time someone asks youto do something that is not in
alignment with who you are orwhat you need, practice setting
a boundary.
Practice giving yourself timeto give an answer.
Practice saying no.
If you notice that you speakunkindly to yourself, that you
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ruminate on your mistakes andmentally punish yourself, work
at changing your self-talk.
The next time you notice thisnegative internal monologue,
stop, breathe, and release.
Choose instead to speak withgrace and patience.
Offer yourself forgiveness,even if you don't totally
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believe you deserve it yet.
While karma is no doubt enduredas a very real cause-and-effect
catalyst within our human life,the reality is, like everything
else that appears to be, it isonly another aspect of the
illusion.
Our experiences don't defineus, nor is our worth a sum total
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of our choices.
Give yourself permission to seethe truth of who you are, and
karma, like a long line ofdominoes, will one by one gently
lay down and give way to a newand beautiful path.
You are light.
You are love.
You are holy