272 Bold Moves: Purple Hair, a Tattoo, and No Take-Backs

Bold Moves: Purple Hair, a Tattoo, and No Take-Backs

Patricia (she/her) reflects on what it really means to make bold moves—and how we talk to ourselves when those decisions don't land the way we hoped. Through the very real experiences of dyeing her hair purple for the first time and getting a tattoo she isn't sure she likes, she explores autistic decision-making, sensory overwhelm, masking, regret, and self-compassion. This episode is about reframing regret as information, honoring neurodivergent needs in the moment, and learning how to be kinder to ourselves when we take risks and feel unsure afterward.

WHAT YOU'LL HEAR IN THIS EPISODE

·  End-of-year reflection: How has this year been, and what are we carrying into the next one?

· The desire to make bold moves—and the fear that often comes with them

· Deciding to dye hair purple for the first time

· Letting excitement, doubt, and second-guessing coexist

· Experiencing a deeply neurodivergent-affirming salon appointment

· The importance of predictability, process explanations, and bodily autonomy

· Getting over-hungry, tech issues, and how small barriers can cascade into overwhelm

· Allowing a meltdown in a safe space instead of masking through it

· Not knowing immediately whether you like something—and the pressure to perform enthusiasm

· Scheduling a tattoo the very next day as another bold move

· Sensory overload, unexpected pain, and difficulty advocating in the moment

· Masking through physical pain and being praised for "doing great"

· Immediate tattoo regret and the awareness of permanence

· Naming regret without spiraling into shame or self-blame

· Reframing regret as data, not a moral failure

· Disconnecting from the body temporarily as a coping strategy

· How rigid rules around food, ownership, and permission show up in autistic lives

· The power of communicating needs instead of carrying silent embarrassment

· Challenging the belief that we must always make the "right" decision

· Ending with reminders about gentleness, lowered expectations, and honoring sensitivity

SOUND BITES

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