May 4, 2026 • 17 mins
The most expensive part of getting across town is not always the fare. Sometimes it is the vigilance, the tight shoulders, the scanning, the calculation you do every minute just to feel safe enough to move through the world.
I’m taking you with me on a real-life decision: driving into Manhattan during rush hour instead of taking the train. I talk through the hidden safety checklist many of us run from the second we step outside, why that constant hypervigilance is so draining, and how the commute can follow you home long after you’ve arrived.
We also get into the emotional side of self-protection: what happens when people minimize your concerns, how gaslighting can make you question your own judgment, and why I’m done apologizing for boundaries. I share practical self-care tools that help me come down from a wired state.
Tune in to get the big takeaway, which might surprise you.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:07):
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
SPEAKER_01 (00:39):
I'm your host, Tiana, and on this episode,
we're actually not going to talkabout the gym, dumbbells, rep
counts, nutrition, protein,fiber, any of that stuff.
But what we are going to talkabout is inner strength and
self-protection.
And by the end of this episode,you'll walk away with some
strategies so that you know whatto do the next time you find
(01:00):
yourself questioning yourchoices or gaslighting yourself.
Now, you have to forgive mebecause the landscapers are
outside mowing the lawn andplucking the grass and doing
whatever they're doing.
And I have tried to record thisepisode about four times to no
avail.
So we're gonna give it a go onemore time and see if we can get
(01:20):
the job done.
So thank you for being here.
I appreciate your patience andtime as we work through this.
And if you hear the backgroundnoise, I apologize up front.
Now I drove into the city, andwhen I say the city, I'm talking
about the borough of Manhattanfor those of you who are not
from the New York tri-statearea.
I drove into the city duringrush hour.
(01:40):
I parked my car on the street.
I had to pay for parking and payfor tolls and gas and all that
good stuff.
And I absolutely did not carebecause it was more appealing to
me than taking publictransportation.
Now I live in the suburbs of NewYork.
I'm probably, I would say, about35 miles north of Times Square,
(02:03):
if I had to give you a referencepoint on a map.
Um, but it can vary in length oftime travel depending on what
route you go, what day, whattime of day.
Are you taking a bus, an Uber,driving yourself, taking the
train?
Typically, I take the train tothis appointment, and typically
(02:26):
I go either midday on a day offor in the afternoon.
This time it was later in theday because I had some stuff I
needed to do prior to.
And I decided to drive, which iscrazy because I knew I was
rolling the dice, I could besitting in a lot of traffic in
both directions, and it was arisk that I was willing to take.
(02:49):
Now, you're probably asking why.
And why is this even a topic ofconversation?
Well, stick with me.
You'll you'll know by the end ofthe episode.
So typically I'll take the trainto this appointment, which means
that I leave my apartmentbuilding.
Sometimes I walk to the train,sometimes I will drive to the
(03:09):
train station.
And if I walk, it's about a12-minute walk if I'm walking
fast.
Then you gotta walk up to theplatform, buy your ticket, take
the train, get off at Harlem125th, and then walk a couple
blocks to take the subway.
And then I take the green sixtrain to go downtown about seven
(03:31):
stops.
And it probably sounds like alot of steps, or maybe not.
But what I don't mention, justin that quick summary, is the
number of times that I amthinking about my safety.
From the moment I step out of myapartment door and turn the key
(03:52):
to lock the door and walk away,I am on high alert.
I'm looking over my shoulder.
I'm listening for sounds.
I'm making sure I'm payingattention.
I'm not wearing my best jewelry.
I'm not wearing my best clothes.
I will be using some type of bagor um belt bag that keeps all of
my really important personalitems close to my body.
(04:15):
I'm looking over my shoulderconstantly.
I'm not on my phone that much,and I'm also trying not to stare
at people.
This is a lot.
This is a lot for anyone, notjust for me, not just for women,
but for anyone.
And this is also a piece of whatit takes to make sure that you
(04:36):
can tap into our pretty goodpublic transportation system and
do it unscathed.
Now, for some people who are notfrom the city or have never
taken the subway, it's abasically the Wild West.
Some stations, some stops arerelatively clean.
(05:01):
And we're not comparing this towhat I've seen as far as the
trains in Japan.
But relative to New York City,we have some stations that have
been modernized or partiallymodernized.
Some are old as hell, some havea pretty big number of vagrants,
(05:25):
homeless people, anyone tryingto make a dollar.
And during the time of COVID andpost-COVID, the initial period,
I would say, probably all of2020, most of 2021, and even
into 2022, you couldn't, youwouldn't catch me dead on the
train.
Absolutely not.
(05:45):
Not because the train is notsafe itself, but because of what
you have to subject yourself to,be around, and stand on the
platform and wait, that energy,that vibe, those people.
And listen, I will never knockanyone for having a hustle.
However, when it comes tosafety, I'm always gonna put my
(06:07):
safety and the safety of those Icare about the most first and
foremost.
So why did I decide to drive?
Now, mind you, before I even getinto that, the train system has
improved.
It has gotten a little bitbetter.
Uh, that element will always bethere.
However, it seems to have gottenbetter since 2020, 2021.
(06:34):
But why did I chat choose todrive, to roll the dice, to
possibly sit in traffic, to payfor parking, which is also the
variety there.
So if you if you find parking,sometimes parking on the street
is free, sometimes you have topay a meter, sometimes you have
to put it in a garage or a lot,and the cost can vary.
(06:57):
So if you find a free spot,great.
Uh, sometimes you have to paythe meter, that could be
anywhere from like two, four,five, ten, fifteen dollars.
And then if you put it in agarage, all bets are off.
You have no idea.
That is a system that I it stilleludes me to this day because
(07:18):
the the garage business is ownedby like a few different
companies, and then they make uptheir own rates and their own
pricing schedule, and they baseit on the time of day you show
up, how long you're gonna bethere.
Is it a weekday?
Is it a weekend?
Is it a holiday?
Are they open 24 hours?
I mean, you need to know whatyou're doing.
However, all of that being said,I wanted that experience for
(07:42):
myself because I wanted to beable to just chill, to just
breathe.
And even if it meant that I wasgonna be sitting in traffic in
both trips, going to theappointment and coming home from
the appointment, it wassomething that I wanted for
myself.
Why?
Because the mental load and theexhaustion and fatigue that
(08:08):
ensues from being out in thepublic, on public
transportation, walking on thestreets, I just didn't want to
deal with it.
Now I still had to walk on thestreet a little bit to get from
where I parked my car to theappointment.
No big deal.
But even in those two trips toand from the car,
(08:30):
hyper-vigilance, looking around,making sure you're okay, making
sure nobody's following you, allof that.
It is in a very insane worldthat we live in right now.
And while I'm hyper-vigilant andaware, I also believe that you
can't stay cooped up in yourhouse all day forever and ever.
(08:53):
You have to get out into theworld, you have to experience
things.
But it's up to you to decidewhat cost you are willing to
pay.
So, are you willing to pay moremoney to have a little bit more
comfort and to be able tobreathe a little bit, to listen
to your own music however loudyou want to, without having to
(09:13):
worry about making eye contactwith the wrong person sitting
across the train from you, oryou know, standing too close to
you, all of those things.
Or would you rather save alittle bit of money?
And there's no right answerhere.
This is truly just aconversation, but it's one worth
having because it's one thatmany women have to have with
(09:35):
themselves every single day.
I don't think we realize howtaxing and how overwhelming this
can be because for many of us,this is just how we were raised.
This has been ingrained in usfrom day one.
There are things I have to thinkabout that I know men do not
(09:58):
need to think about.
I mean, they probably should,but they certainly don't to the
same extent that we do.
Looking over their shoulder,making sure no one's following
them home, making sure thatthere's no one standing close to
or around their car when theyget in their car, whether it's
in the morning, night, itdoesn't even matter what time of
day it is anymore.
Okay.
(10:18):
And the thing is to do all ofthat, to take the train, to get
there, walk back and forth, walkfrom the train station home, all
that good stuff.
It is so exhausting.
And guess what happens for me?
By the time I get home, I am sowound up.
So I'm mentally exhausted, buttypically my heart rate is
(10:40):
racing and my nervous system isin overdrive.
Now I have tools and strategythat I use to help myself.
They may or may not be for you.
Some of them would be listeningto meditation music when I get
home, putting on uh some type ofmeditation that's guided, using
(11:02):
EFT tapping, journaling, makingtea, making something comforting
to eat.
I know all of this stuff soundsso basic and rudimentary, but
these are the things that helpme, and maybe they'll help you.
But nine times out of ten, whenI get home from that
appointment, when I'm on publictransportation, it takes me
(11:23):
forever to fall asleep at nightbecause I'm so wound up, I'm so
wired, and it's nothing that Ican control.
So here's the thing for you thatI would like for you to
consider.
When you're thinking about thecost of something, do you take
(11:44):
into account the emotional costof something besides the
financial cost?
Do you think about what it'sgonna cost you internally, how
much of your mental bandwidthit's gonna take, how much of
your energy it's gonna zap fromyou, how much effort it
requires.
Because that's something that'sworth noticing.
That's something that's worthconsidering.
(12:05):
How many times are you told inyour life when you're sharing a
story and someone says, oh, it'snot that bad, oh, but nothing
happened, you're just beingdramatic or you're overreacting.
And what happens when thatoccurs is you're feeling like
you're not being seen, you'renot being heard, you're being
(12:27):
gaslit.
And that also is taxing in andof itself, wondering if the
person you're sharing yourexperience with has your back
and if they support you.
So you have to be willing tomake these choices without
having without apologizing,without saying, I'm so sorry,
(12:49):
but, or sorry to be rude, orsorry to be this or sorry to be
that.
Stop saying sorry.
You don't need to be sorry forexisting, for doing what's best
for you, for establishing aboundary, for creating space for
yourself to move forward, tothrive, to get the best
(13:10):
experience.
So the next time that you're ina situation similar to this,
where maybe you're sharing astory or maybe you're about to
go experience something andsomething doesn't feel right,
you need to pay attention.
What does that feel like in yourbody?
Can you see it clearly?
Can you feel it?
Because that's energy.
That's energy that you're gonnaspend.
(13:31):
That's energy, like it's justlike when you make plans with
people, and then on the day of,you're secretly hoping they
cancel, or you're secretlyhoping that they do things the
way you want to, instead of youactually voicing what you need
or what you desire, because youdon't want to ruffle feathers,
(13:53):
you don't want to go against thegrain, you don't want to be the
one that's the most expensive.
Now, I will say, in almost everyfriend group, there is someone
who's like, I don't give a fuck.
This is what I want to do, and Idon't care how much it costs.
But that person aside, expensiveis not just about the money,
it's about the time, it's aboutlogistics, it's about
(14:14):
convenience, it's about alsobeing okay with feeling quote
unquote extra.
It's about your sense of safety.
And when you want to be cheaperabout something, at what cost
are you willing to do that?
So I want you to stop arguingwith yourself.
(14:34):
I want you to listen to yourgut.
And I know I say that a lot onthis show, and I also know that
I'm in my late 40s, so it'seasier for me to trust my gut
because I've been through a lotmore than maybe someone who's
still in college.
At that age, you're juststepping into experiences and
(14:55):
you kind of have to go with theflow and figure out what
trusting your gut actually feelslike.
And when you build thatstrength, you build enough trust
in yourself to trust yourinstincts.
That's one decision at a timethat you do that.
You can then look back and say,like, yeah, no, this worked for
me, this didn't work for me,this is what I want to do, this
(15:17):
is what I don't want to do, andyou stick to your guns.
Now I know this episode is alittle different from my norm
because I usually talk about thegym or strength training and
mindset, but I also think it'sreally timely because we are
seeing a lot of material comingto the surface in the media
(15:38):
about safety.
And the first person that needsto keep you safe is yourself.
So, yeah, I drove to the city, Ispent more money because I had
to pay for gas to put in my car,I paid for the tolls on the
highway, and I paid for parkingon the street, which by the way
(16:00):
was like significantly higherthan I thought.
It used to be in thisneighborhood I went to, I think
for two hours just a coupleyears back, it was somewhere
around six or seven dollars,maybe eight dollars.
Now it's almost 14 for two hourson like Sethon Avenue in the
high 60s.
(16:21):
That's the neighborhood I wentto.
So, whatever.
It is what it is.
A couple dollars is not gonnakill me, but it's just the
point.
It's annoying, but it's thepoint.
So when you find yourselfdeliberating, second guessing
yourself, maybe even gaslightingyourself, I want you to stop.
I want you to recognize whatyou're feeling, I want you to
(16:44):
slow down and get real withyourself and figure out what it
is that's most important foryou.
What are you willing to spend orto tap into as an expense that
maybe you didn't want to do whenyou were younger, but now it's
more important to you.
And oh, by the way, guess what?
(17:04):
You get to change your mindevery single time.
You do not have to always do thesame thing over and over and
over again.
That is the beautiful part oflife.
So if this hits home, share itwith someone who gets it, share
it with someone that you careabout, that you know might be
that person that's gaslightingthemselves constantly and that
(17:25):
they need to learn how to trusttheir gut.
If you want to stay in touchwith me, check the show notes on
how to do that.
And I would love for us toconnect on social media.
So if you happen to be onInstagram, please give me a
follow and let me know that youfound me through the podcast,
and I will follow you back.
All right, I'll catch you on thenext one.
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
SPEAKER_01 (00:39):
I'm your host, Tiana, and on this episode,
we're actually not going to talkabout the gym, dumbbells, rep
counts, nutrition, protein,fiber, any of that stuff.
But what we are going to talkabout is inner strength and
self-protection.
And by the end of this episode,you'll walk away with some
strategies so that you know whatto do the next time you find
(01:00):
yourself questioning yourchoices or gaslighting yourself.
Now, you have to forgive mebecause the landscapers are
outside mowing the lawn andplucking the grass and doing
whatever they're doing.
And I have tried to record thisepisode about four times to no
avail.
So we're gonna give it a go onemore time and see if we can get
(01:20):
the job done.
So thank you for being here.
I appreciate your patience andtime as we work through this.
And if you hear the backgroundnoise, I apologize up front.
Now I drove into the city, andwhen I say the city, I'm talking
about the borough of Manhattanfor those of you who are not
from the New York tri-statearea.
I drove into the city duringrush hour.
(01:40):
I parked my car on the street.
I had to pay for parking and payfor tolls and gas and all that
good stuff.
And I absolutely did not carebecause it was more appealing to
me than taking publictransportation.
Now I live in the suburbs of NewYork.
I'm probably, I would say, about35 miles north of Times Square,
(02:03):
if I had to give you a referencepoint on a map.
Um, but it can vary in length oftime travel depending on what
route you go, what day, whattime of day.
Are you taking a bus, an Uber,driving yourself, taking the
train?
Typically, I take the train tothis appointment, and typically
(02:26):
I go either midday on a day offor in the afternoon.
This time it was later in theday because I had some stuff I
needed to do prior to.
And I decided to drive, which iscrazy because I knew I was
rolling the dice, I could besitting in a lot of traffic in
both directions, and it was arisk that I was willing to take.
(02:49):
Now, you're probably asking why.
And why is this even a topic ofconversation?
Well, stick with me.
You'll you'll know by the end ofthe episode.
So typically I'll take the trainto this appointment, which means
that I leave my apartmentbuilding.
Sometimes I walk to the train,sometimes I will drive to the
(03:09):
train station.
And if I walk, it's about a12-minute walk if I'm walking
fast.
Then you gotta walk up to theplatform, buy your ticket, take
the train, get off at Harlem125th, and then walk a couple
blocks to take the subway.
And then I take the green sixtrain to go downtown about seven
(03:31):
stops.
And it probably sounds like alot of steps, or maybe not.
But what I don't mention, justin that quick summary, is the
number of times that I amthinking about my safety.
From the moment I step out of myapartment door and turn the key
(03:52):
to lock the door and walk away,I am on high alert.
I'm looking over my shoulder.
I'm listening for sounds.
I'm making sure I'm payingattention.
I'm not wearing my best jewelry.
I'm not wearing my best clothes.
I will be using some type of bagor um belt bag that keeps all of
my really important personalitems close to my body.
(04:15):
I'm looking over my shoulderconstantly.
I'm not on my phone that much,and I'm also trying not to stare
at people.
This is a lot.
This is a lot for anyone, notjust for me, not just for women,
but for anyone.
And this is also a piece of whatit takes to make sure that you
(04:36):
can tap into our pretty goodpublic transportation system and
do it unscathed.
Now, for some people who are notfrom the city or have never
taken the subway, it's abasically the Wild West.
Some stations, some stops arerelatively clean.
(05:01):
And we're not comparing this towhat I've seen as far as the
trains in Japan.
But relative to New York City,we have some stations that have
been modernized or partiallymodernized.
Some are old as hell, some havea pretty big number of vagrants,
(05:25):
homeless people, anyone tryingto make a dollar.
And during the time of COVID andpost-COVID, the initial period,
I would say, probably all of2020, most of 2021, and even
into 2022, you couldn't, youwouldn't catch me dead on the
train.
Absolutely not.
(05:45):
Not because the train is notsafe itself, but because of what
you have to subject yourself to,be around, and stand on the
platform and wait, that energy,that vibe, those people.
And listen, I will never knockanyone for having a hustle.
However, when it comes tosafety, I'm always gonna put my
(06:07):
safety and the safety of those Icare about the most first and
foremost.
So why did I decide to drive?
Now, mind you, before I even getinto that, the train system has
improved.
It has gotten a little bitbetter.
Uh, that element will always bethere.
However, it seems to have gottenbetter since 2020, 2021.
(06:34):
But why did I chat choose todrive, to roll the dice, to
possibly sit in traffic, to payfor parking, which is also the
variety there.
So if you if you find parking,sometimes parking on the street
is free, sometimes you have topay a meter, sometimes you have
to put it in a garage or a lot,and the cost can vary.
(06:57):
So if you find a free spot,great.
Uh, sometimes you have to paythe meter, that could be
anywhere from like two, four,five, ten, fifteen dollars.
And then if you put it in agarage, all bets are off.
You have no idea.
That is a system that I it stilleludes me to this day because
(07:18):
the the garage business is ownedby like a few different
companies, and then they make uptheir own rates and their own
pricing schedule, and they baseit on the time of day you show
up, how long you're gonna bethere.
Is it a weekday?
Is it a weekend?
Is it a holiday?
Are they open 24 hours?
I mean, you need to know whatyou're doing.
However, all of that being said,I wanted that experience for
(07:42):
myself because I wanted to beable to just chill, to just
breathe.
And even if it meant that I wasgonna be sitting in traffic in
both trips, going to theappointment and coming home from
the appointment, it wassomething that I wanted for
myself.
Why?
Because the mental load and theexhaustion and fatigue that
(08:08):
ensues from being out in thepublic, on public
transportation, walking on thestreets, I just didn't want to
deal with it.
Now I still had to walk on thestreet a little bit to get from
where I parked my car to theappointment.
No big deal.
But even in those two trips toand from the car,
(08:30):
hyper-vigilance, looking around,making sure you're okay, making
sure nobody's following you, allof that.
It is in a very insane worldthat we live in right now.
And while I'm hyper-vigilant andaware, I also believe that you
can't stay cooped up in yourhouse all day forever and ever.
(08:53):
You have to get out into theworld, you have to experience
things.
But it's up to you to decidewhat cost you are willing to
pay.
So, are you willing to pay moremoney to have a little bit more
comfort and to be able tobreathe a little bit, to listen
to your own music however loudyou want to, without having to
(09:13):
worry about making eye contactwith the wrong person sitting
across the train from you, oryou know, standing too close to
you, all of those things.
Or would you rather save alittle bit of money?
And there's no right answerhere.
This is truly just aconversation, but it's one worth
having because it's one thatmany women have to have with
(09:35):
themselves every single day.
I don't think we realize howtaxing and how overwhelming this
can be because for many of us,this is just how we were raised.
This has been ingrained in usfrom day one.
There are things I have to thinkabout that I know men do not
(09:58):
need to think about.
I mean, they probably should,but they certainly don't to the
same extent that we do.
Looking over their shoulder,making sure no one's following
them home, making sure thatthere's no one standing close to
or around their car when theyget in their car, whether it's
in the morning, night, itdoesn't even matter what time of
day it is anymore.
Okay.
(10:18):
And the thing is to do all ofthat, to take the train, to get
there, walk back and forth, walkfrom the train station home, all
that good stuff.
It is so exhausting.
And guess what happens for me?
By the time I get home, I am sowound up.
So I'm mentally exhausted, buttypically my heart rate is
(10:40):
racing and my nervous system isin overdrive.
Now I have tools and strategythat I use to help myself.
They may or may not be for you.
Some of them would be listeningto meditation music when I get
home, putting on uh some type ofmeditation that's guided, using
(11:02):
EFT tapping, journaling, makingtea, making something comforting
to eat.
I know all of this stuff soundsso basic and rudimentary, but
these are the things that helpme, and maybe they'll help you.
But nine times out of ten, whenI get home from that
appointment, when I'm on publictransportation, it takes me
(11:23):
forever to fall asleep at nightbecause I'm so wound up, I'm so
wired, and it's nothing that Ican control.
So here's the thing for you thatI would like for you to
consider.
When you're thinking about thecost of something, do you take
(11:44):
into account the emotional costof something besides the
financial cost?
Do you think about what it'sgonna cost you internally, how
much of your mental bandwidthit's gonna take, how much of
your energy it's gonna zap fromyou, how much effort it
requires.
Because that's something that'sworth noticing.
That's something that's worthconsidering.
(12:05):
How many times are you told inyour life when you're sharing a
story and someone says, oh, it'snot that bad, oh, but nothing
happened, you're just beingdramatic or you're overreacting.
And what happens when thatoccurs is you're feeling like
you're not being seen, you'renot being heard, you're being
(12:27):
gaslit.
And that also is taxing in andof itself, wondering if the
person you're sharing yourexperience with has your back
and if they support you.
So you have to be willing tomake these choices without
having without apologizing,without saying, I'm so sorry,
(12:49):
but, or sorry to be rude, orsorry to be this or sorry to be
that.
Stop saying sorry.
You don't need to be sorry forexisting, for doing what's best
for you, for establishing aboundary, for creating space for
yourself to move forward, tothrive, to get the best
(13:10):
experience.
So the next time that you're ina situation similar to this,
where maybe you're sharing astory or maybe you're about to
go experience something andsomething doesn't feel right,
you need to pay attention.
What does that feel like in yourbody?
Can you see it clearly?
Can you feel it?
Because that's energy.
That's energy that you're gonnaspend.
(13:31):
That's energy, like it's justlike when you make plans with
people, and then on the day of,you're secretly hoping they
cancel, or you're secretlyhoping that they do things the
way you want to, instead of youactually voicing what you need
or what you desire, because youdon't want to ruffle feathers,
(13:53):
you don't want to go against thegrain, you don't want to be the
one that's the most expensive.
Now, I will say, in almost everyfriend group, there is someone
who's like, I don't give a fuck.
This is what I want to do, and Idon't care how much it costs.
But that person aside, expensiveis not just about the money,
it's about the time, it's aboutlogistics, it's about
(14:14):
convenience, it's about alsobeing okay with feeling quote
unquote extra.
It's about your sense of safety.
And when you want to be cheaperabout something, at what cost
are you willing to do that?
So I want you to stop arguingwith yourself.
(14:34):
I want you to listen to yourgut.
And I know I say that a lot onthis show, and I also know that
I'm in my late 40s, so it'seasier for me to trust my gut
because I've been through a lotmore than maybe someone who's
still in college.
At that age, you're juststepping into experiences and
(14:55):
you kind of have to go with theflow and figure out what
trusting your gut actually feelslike.
And when you build thatstrength, you build enough trust
in yourself to trust yourinstincts.
That's one decision at a timethat you do that.
You can then look back and say,like, yeah, no, this worked for
me, this didn't work for me,this is what I want to do, this
(15:17):
is what I don't want to do, andyou stick to your guns.
Now I know this episode is alittle different from my norm
because I usually talk about thegym or strength training and
mindset, but I also think it'sreally timely because we are
seeing a lot of material comingto the surface in the media
(15:38):
about safety.
And the first person that needsto keep you safe is yourself.
So, yeah, I drove to the city, Ispent more money because I had
to pay for gas to put in my car,I paid for the tolls on the
highway, and I paid for parkingon the street, which by the way
(16:00):
was like significantly higherthan I thought.
It used to be in thisneighborhood I went to, I think
for two hours just a coupleyears back, it was somewhere
around six or seven dollars,maybe eight dollars.
Now it's almost 14 for two hourson like Sethon Avenue in the
high 60s.
(16:21):
That's the neighborhood I wentto.
So, whatever.
It is what it is.
A couple dollars is not gonnakill me, but it's just the
point.
It's annoying, but it's thepoint.
So when you find yourselfdeliberating, second guessing
yourself, maybe even gaslightingyourself, I want you to stop.
I want you to recognize whatyou're feeling, I want you to
(16:44):
slow down and get real withyourself and figure out what it
is that's most important foryou.
What are you willing to spend orto tap into as an expense that
maybe you didn't want to do whenyou were younger, but now it's
more important to you.
And oh, by the way, guess what?
(17:04):
You get to change your mindevery single time.
You do not have to always do thesame thing over and over and
over again.
That is the beautiful part oflife.
So if this hits home, share itwith someone who gets it, share
it with someone that you careabout, that you know might be
that person that's gaslightingthemselves constantly and that
(17:25):
they need to learn how to trusttheir gut.
If you want to stay in touchwith me, check the show notes on
how to do that.
And I would love for us toconnect on social media.
So if you happen to be onInstagram, please give me a
follow and let me know that youfound me through the podcast,
and I will follow you back.
All right, I'll catch you on thenext one.
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