Have you spent a lifetime making others comfortable—while quietly dismissing your own needs?
Do you still struggle to say "no," even though you're no longer tied to a job, boss, or routine?
In this empowering episode, mindset coach Victoria Oborny joins me to unpack the deep-rooted habit of people-pleasing—something so many women carry into retirement without even realizing it. Together, we explore why it's so hard to put ourselves first, how these patterns develop, and most importantly, how to let go of them so you can step fully into the life you desire.
Retirement isn't the end—it's a new beginning. And there's no better time to break free from old patterns that limit you in living life boldly. You'll discover:
• What people-pleasing really looks like in everyday life (it's sneakier than you think).
• Why self-worth and identity are key to reclaiming your voice.
• Mindset shifts and practical strategies to help you set boundaries with confidence.
• How to stop neglecting to want more—and start saying yes to yourself.
If you're ready to stop living for everyone else and finally put your joy, needs, and dreams at the center, this episode is a must-listen. You'll walk away not only with insight, but with a renewed sense of power, purpose, and permission to live your life on your terms.
AFFIRMATION of the MONTH
"I am loved and valued even when I disappoint people"
GUEST BIO:
If there's one thing I've learned in life, is that difficult times are really miracles in disguise to help us become who we were meant to be.
I came from a small farm in Nebraska where I learned at an early age to work hard and serve others. Getting my degree in Animal Science and then Nursing was just another way to serve. I didn't realize until years later that much of my serving others was at the expense of my own needs.
Everything changed in my 50s when I discovered personal development and experienced a profound spiritual awakening. I realized that my fears, limiting beliefs, and circumstances weren't who I was—they were just stories I had been telling myself. And I had the power to rewrite them.
I took control. I set boundaries. I found my voice. And for the first time, I became the driver of my own life.
Starting over at this stage of life can feel overwhelming—divorce, career shifts, empty nests, or simply waking up and wondering "Is this all there is"? When you shift your mindset, you transform your life. And the best part? No one can take that away from you.
Because of the impact coaching has had on my life, I had to share. I became a Life Coach to help others Transform their life.
Here is how to get in touch with guest Victoria Oborny:
Program: Transform Your Life! Assisting Women over 50 to Replan & Revitalize the second half of their life. For a complimentary call: Website: https://msha.ke/coachvictoriaoborny
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/victoria.peeksswanson?mibextid=LQQJ4d
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachvictoriao/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coachvictoriao Email:
victoria@victoriaobornyconsulting.com
Book she recommends and is part of a book study that you can be part of: Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen Lakhiani
CONNECT with MARIA
Want to meet like-minded women that are just like you discovering their next chapter in life? Join the Facebook group Women Seeking Blissful Retirement HERE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenSeekingBlissfulRetirement
Love to hear from you!
Get in touch with Maria for questions or topic suggestions: maria@marialucassenHQ.com
ACTION STEP
It's my gift to you because every woman deserves a retirement that excites her!
Do you want to master your time by allocating time for structured appointments, weekly activities, and also leave time for spontaneous adventures? I have created the Vibrant Retirement Planner to help you stay more focused and embrace new opportunities.
This is a digital monthly planner designed to make your retirement more intentional and fulfilling:
• Daily activity planning to keep your days engaging and meaningful
• Habit tracking to help you build and maintain routines that support your wellbeing
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