You say yes when you mean no. You take on work that isn't yours because saying no feels too risky. You soften feedback until it loses its meaning, apologize for things that aren't your fault, and spend more energy managing other people's emotions than doing your actual job. And the strangest part? You know you're doing it. You can see it happening in real time. And you still can't stop.
People-pleasing at work isn't a habit you can just decide to break. It's a nervous system strategy that your brain developed for very good reasons, and until you understand those reasons, willpower won't touch it. Today you'll get the psychology and neuroscience behind why people-pleasing is so hard to quit, what it's actually costing you at work, and my three steps to change it.
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