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October 22, 2025 26 mins

Episode Overview

We’re revisiting connection - and layering in self-worth. We talk about why these two are inseparable, how midlife logistics (kids, caregiving, energy, perimenopause) change how we connect, and what to do when loneliness starts to chip at your worth. We share real stories of moving “home” and still feeling out of place, rebuilding identity, and redefining what counts as connection so it nourishes (not drains) you.


Key Discussion Points

  • The loop between worth and connection: shaky worth makes us hide; disconnection then lowers worth further.
  • Loneliness ≠ unworthiness: it’s a signal, not a verdict - and why vulnerability (admitting “I feel lonely”) often unlocks support.
  • Redefining connection: letting small touchpoints (a meme, a voice note, a 15-minute coffee) count.
  • Letting go to make room: grieving old forms of connection so new, right-sized ones can grow.
  • Self-connection first: anchoring in “who I am now” to choose connections that affirm your worth.


Listener Takeaways

  • Name it: “I feel lonely” is not a flaw.
  • Start small: one message, one invite, one walk-and-talk - it all counts.
  • Stop pegging your worth to a social calendar.
  • Choose people and formats that leave you feeling more you.
  • Vulnerability (“this is where I’m at”) often brings people closer.


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