The Perfect Location Can’t Fill the Gap Inside | Sanity Check No.40

Episode Overview
We all have our dream locations - the sea breeze, the mountain air, or the buzz of the city. But what happens when you finally get there and still don’t feel the way you thought you would? In this episode, we share our own stories of longing for the “perfect” place and what we discovered along the way.

From Aileen’s dream of the Spanish coastline to Julie’s years of hopping between major cities, we explore how easy it is to pin our happiness and self-worth on external things - and how that rarely delivers what we’re really looking for. Because the truth is, no postcode, no view, and no lifestyle will ever fill the gap if we don’t feel enough as we are.

Key Discussion Points

• Why we often attach our dreams to a location - and why it doesn’t work.
• The hidden fear behind Aileen’s love of the sea.
• Julie’s restlessness across cities like LA, London, and New York.
• How external “backdrops” can distract us from doing the inner work.
• The real question: What feeling do we think the place will give us?
• Why building self-worth from the inside out changes everything.
  
  

Listener Takeaways

• Happiness isn’t in a postcode. The sea, mountains, or city can’t fix how you feel inside.
• The backdrop is never the main character. You bring yourself - and your unresolved issues - wherever you go.
• Start now. Instead of waiting for the perfect move, ask yourself what feeling you’re really chasing and find ways to create it today.
  
  

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Have you ever dreamed of a move, a lifestyle change, or a new location, only to discover you still felt the same once you got there? We’d love to hear your story. Share your thoughts and DM us or drop us a voice note. Your experiences help others feel less alone.

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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.