November 1, 2023 • 14 mins
Guess what? It's not just your partner you're going to propose to, but your wedding party too! Get ready to have an insightful conversation with Trisha Mack, the genius behind Boyfriend Baskets, and host Kathy Piech-Lukas, wedding planner with Your Dream Day, about the growing trend of 'proposing' to your wedding party. Discover how personalized gifts and boxes can help you ask your friends to be part of your big day in the most memorable way. There's also a financial element to being in a wedding party, so think about your friends' and family members' current life situations before popping the question. From surprise deliveries, small gatherings, and special messages, we've got you covered on unique ways to make the proposal special.
As we move on, Trisha opens up about her invaluable experience in crafting bespoke gifts for weddings and how she helps couples make their proposals unforgettable. We walk you through the process she employs to customize baskets and the exciting range of gifts she offers. Wondering where to find her? She's on Etsy! And before we wrap things up, Trisha has some priceless advice for those planning a proposal. Don't miss out on future episodes of Your Dream Day Podcast for more amazing wedding planning tips and tricks. Tune in on yourdreamday.com or your preferred podcast platform.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
We are making our own story as we go, as we go, as we
go, hopin'.
We are hopin' that we'll go, sowe'll be ever after, ever after
(00:20):
.
Hi, I'm Kathy Keech-Lucas.
Welcome to your Dream DayPodcast.
And today we are with TriciaMack from the.
Boyfriend's Baskets.
And we are going to talk aboutthe second proposal that you
(00:43):
need to have during the courseof your wedding planning.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
It's not just the one from your fiance.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
You have to ask your wedding party.
Will you be my bridesmaid?
Will you be my groomsman?
So that is what we're going totalk about today.
Tricia, thank you so much forcoming in.
Thank you so much for having me, Kathy.
So talk a little bit aboutBoyfriend Baskets.
Okay, well.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Boyfriend Baskets.
It came to life in 2022.
I always had a love of givinggifts and, you know, making
people feel extra special, andso with that, I've always wanted
to have a small business and itjust one day came to life.
And here we are nearing the endof 2023.
(01:26):
And I now have my Etsy shop andI've served us lots of brides
and other people and it's goinggreat.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Oh, that's wonderful, that's wonderful.
So the new trend now, I thinkit kind of evolved from when
people were doing prom proposals, when they would say would you
go to the prom with me?
And because that was when Istarted seeing the proposals for
the wedding party.
So tell us a little bit moreabout how does that whole
process work?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Okay, so first we would have a consultation with
the bride.
I can do one of two things.
I could do a theme, if she hadsome kind of theme for her
wedding.
Or I could do the colors of thewedding flowers, colors that
can be incorporated.
But she would choose a basketor a box and then kind of set a
(02:20):
budget.
And then when we go from there,how many people are in your
wedding party?
How many you know?
Do you want to do a mother ofthe bride box, a mother of the
groom box?
Mother of the bride box is oneof my most popular boxes.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I could see that Like does she probably include some
things for the day of thewedding?
Absolutely, Absolutely and onetime even though it's called
boyfriend, it's actually specialoccasion basket, it is.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
It's for any occasions.
It just so happens that bridalparties and brides I just kind
of hit the nail on the head withthat and I feel like there's a
real need for that.
You want to make those peoplefeel special that are going to
support you on that special day.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Yeah, so how are people proposing?
Okay?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
So what have you?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
been seeing.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
What I have been seeing the most of is you know
they want to have something kindof that fits their personality.
So you know some of them areputting a personal note in there
from themselves, or I cancreate something for them.
Does this just explain thatthey can't do this without them?
(03:29):
And inside the box it can beanything from like spa products
to be like a pampering thing foryour bridal party, or it could
be something more special forthe day of Well like one thing I
think people need to remember,when you ask somebody to be in
your wedding party, that you'reasking them to make a
(03:51):
significant time commitment andfinancial commitment.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I think people don't realize that when they're
thinking, oh, my best friend hasto be in my wedding party
because I was in hers and she'smy best friend from college, you
also have to look at herpersonal situation and what
she's dealing with at that pointin time.
She may be expecting a baby,she might be between jobs
because you have to look at allthe costs that are associated
(04:17):
with being in a wedding party.
It's going to include the costof the dress, the cost of shoes,
the cost of altering that dress, a hotel night stay the weekend
of the wedding, hair makeup,absolutely, if you're doing the
wedding shower, some of thedecoration costs for that.
(04:40):
If you are doing theBachelorette party, there might
be a party buzz rental involved.
So there's definitely afinancial commitment when you
are proposing to somebody to bein your wedding party.
So when you're at that stage,you know, take a step back and
take a look and see where is shein her life.
(05:03):
If she says no, it may haveabsolutely nothing to do with
you.
It may have to do with whereshe is in that chapter of her
life.
And is she going to have thefinances to be part of your
wedding party?
Or is she going to be expectinga baby and having to get a
dress size that's three sizesbigger than what she normally
(05:23):
would wear and maybe she mightnot feel comfortable with that?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
What are?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
some things that you notice as far as when people are
asking Like how?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
are they?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
asking.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
How are they asking?
Well, we can do one of twothings Either I can actually
personally deliver this box andit's a surprise, or I deliver to
the bride and then she's havinga gathering and she's
presenting it.
I had one case where this was ahuge bridal party.
(05:54):
I think there were 12 people.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Oh my goodness, that's a sorority house.
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And they had a fun evening.
They planned this huge dinnerand all of them had at their
place seating.
They had their gift from thebride.
So, yeah, yeah, so it wasreally a great way of joining it
.
So I think it depends on thebride's personality and what
(06:22):
vision she has.
And when I have thatconsultation with the bride
whether it be the phone, a videoor in person we can discuss
that and I can bring theirvision to life.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Oh, that's awesome, yeah Well.
And the same thing kind of goesfor groomsmen as well, because
they have to rent a suit or atuxedo.
There's a cost associated withthat.
There's a cost associated withthe bachelor party.
There's a cost associated withthe weekend of the wedding,
covering the hotel,accommodations and whatnot.
And we do see, depending on thebride and groom's budget, some
(06:58):
take care of that cost or someof the costs.
Like I have a bride right nowwho said I'm covering the cost
of hair and makeup for mywedding party.
That's my gift to them.
And then there are others whoare just like no, if they want
hair and makeup done, I willmake the artist available to
them, but they need to cover thecost of that.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Great.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
And I think that you know.
The other thing that peopleneed to keep in mind is how
large your bar to party is aswell.
Right, because when you saidthe 12 people, first thing that
comes to my mind usually when wehave large wedding parties like
that, it's either somebody whohas a lot of siblings yeah, for
both sides have a lot ofsiblings, and the siblings are
(07:42):
in the wedding party or it'ssomebody who's been in a
sorority of fraternity and theyall been in each other's
weddings and it's just kind ofcontinuing with the tradition,
right?
Um?
So on the wedding day, not tokeep in mind 12 people on each
side is 24 people plus the brideroom is 26, or you know what?
(08:04):
the engaged couple, that's ahermit of your own, with
bride-to-bride.
If you have flora rose ringbearers, that's also a few more,
I mean the biggest weddingparty I've ever had had 28
people on it, oh my goodness.
And you know, one thing to keepin mind is it's very difficult
when people are consumingalcoholic beverages.
(08:24):
Yes, and trying to do crowdcontrol with that number of
people.
So if you have a large wedding,party like that, make sure you
let me photographer know, makesure you let your DJ know,
because they may need a littlebit of extra time.
Rounding up the troops, becausethey need to get indistracted,
because they may have some, youknow, alcohol in their systems,
(08:46):
or even just the large crowditself can make it difficult to
keep everybody's attention span,absolutely.
And then also the thing to keepin mind with your wedding party.
If you have a large weddingparty and you have, let's say,
have your ceremony in a churchand then you have your reception
at a banquet hall, you have toget transported from point A to
(09:07):
point B, right, and so party buswill accommodate about 30
people and you can fit a broaderparty of 24 plus, you know, the
couple in A vehicle like that,right, a vehicle like that is
going to run you.
I mean, you're gonna have athree hour, three to five hour
minimum, because that's how eventhat's how transportation
(09:28):
companies work, right, and youknow you're gonna have to budget
for that as well.
So there's a lot to keep inmind when you're choosing your
wedding party one, how you gotboxy, how you're gonna propose
to them which is what Tricia canhelp you with, that's your
department.
Right, but once they've beenproposed to.
You know you have to take alook at your overall wedding
budget because some of thosecosts associated with a large
(09:50):
group of people may fall on you.
You know, if now you have yourwedding ceremony reception in
the same location and they havea suite where you can get ready
at the location, then you don'thave to worry about Renting a
party bus, right.
But if you are into locations.
that's another feat that you'regonna have to incur as a result
(10:10):
of having that big group, right,yeah, and so, like I'm gonna go
back to the baskets, what aresome things that, like you've
seen that the mothers get on thewedding day?
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Okay, so Brights, you know, with their moms, this can
be a special bonding experiencebetween a mother and a daughter
and Just something that themother has dreamed of, you know,
maybe for their daughter sincethey were a little girl.
And you want your mom to feelspecial, you want, you know, I
want her to feel that she'sthere and included and you're
(10:43):
thinking of her and you'rethinking her for raising you.
So what I've seen mostly is Idid have one bride include a
necklace in the box, but mostlyit's pampering items.
It's maybe her favorite scentof candle, maybe some shower
(11:05):
steamers, maybe a bath bomb,maybe some really nice hand
lotion, bubble bath, somethingto make her feel special and
pampered and loved.
That is my slogan make themfeel loved.
Love weddings no, I've neverput that together.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Great great.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
But I do include.
If I'm delivering a date out, Icould include a fresh flower,
but I like to include a flowerthat's artificial, just for
preservation reasons.
But I make it look beautifuland I've had nothing but
compliments and I have five starreviews.
(11:51):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Yeah, and it's such a great idea.
You can do something as simpleas just writing a really nice
note, but doing somethingpersonalized like that really
makes it look like you took thetime to think about them as a
person and extend them a specialgift for them getting the gift
(12:13):
of themselves to you for thenext year.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Absolutely, and speaking of notes part of my
business, I do they canpersonalize it.
So if they wanted the mug tosay you know I have to wind
tumblers and mugs it can saymother of the bride, it could
say their name, it could bewhatever you want it to be.
And then also, I do include, ifsomeone wanted to personalize a
(12:38):
note, I hand write personallywhatever words they'd like to
include to make that extraspecial.
You had mentioned Flower Girls,ring Bearers earlier.
The big wedding party of, Ithink, 12, they also included
their Flower Girls and RingBearers and I did do boxes for
them as well and I made itreally kid friendly, really
(13:03):
wonderful things.
She had a theme and things shewanted included in each and I
followed through with that.
Oh, that's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Yeah, that's so sweet .
So how can people findboyfriend baskets?
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Okay, so my Etsy shop .
You just look up boyfriendbaskets and you should be able
to find me on there.
I'm the shop owner.
Again, I'm Trisha Mack, so justlook me up and you'll see a
list of all that I have to offer.
I can do it for any occasion,but I just specialize in
(13:35):
providing for weddings.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Trisha, thank you so much for coming in today.
Thank you for tuning in.
We hope you enjoy your weddingparty proposals proposal number
two that you'll have during yourwedding planning process.
Please tune in for futurepodcasts.
You can go on yourdreamdaycomand stream from there, or you
can get it wherever you downloadyour podcasts.
This is Kathy Peach Lucas withyour dream day.
(14:00):
Happy planning.
We are making our own story as we go, as we go, as we
go, hopin'.
We are hopin' that we'll go, sowe'll be ever after, ever after
(00:20):
.
Hi, I'm Kathy Keech-Lucas.
Welcome to your Dream DayPodcast.
And today we are with TriciaMack from the.
Boyfriend's Baskets.
And we are going to talk aboutthe second proposal that you
(00:43):
need to have during the courseof your wedding planning.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
It's not just the one from your fiance.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
You have to ask your wedding party.
Will you be my bridesmaid?
Will you be my groomsman?
So that is what we're going totalk about today.
Tricia, thank you so much forcoming in.
Thank you so much for having me, Kathy.
So talk a little bit aboutBoyfriend Baskets.
Okay, well.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Boyfriend Baskets.
It came to life in 2022.
I always had a love of givinggifts and, you know, making
people feel extra special, andso with that, I've always wanted
to have a small business and itjust one day came to life.
And here we are nearing the endof 2023.
(01:26):
And I now have my Etsy shop andI've served us lots of brides
and other people and it's goinggreat.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Oh, that's wonderful, that's wonderful.
So the new trend now, I thinkit kind of evolved from when
people were doing prom proposals, when they would say would you
go to the prom with me?
And because that was when Istarted seeing the proposals for
the wedding party.
So tell us a little bit moreabout how does that whole
process work?
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Okay, so first we would have a consultation with
the bride.
I can do one of two things.
I could do a theme, if she hadsome kind of theme for her
wedding.
Or I could do the colors of thewedding flowers, colors that
can be incorporated.
But she would choose a basketor a box and then kind of set a
(02:20):
budget.
And then when we go from there,how many people are in your
wedding party?
How many you know?
Do you want to do a mother ofthe bride box, a mother of the
groom box?
Mother of the bride box is oneof my most popular boxes.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I could see that Like does she probably include some
things for the day of thewedding?
Absolutely, Absolutely and onetime even though it's called
boyfriend, it's actually specialoccasion basket, it is.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
It's for any occasions.
It just so happens that bridalparties and brides I just kind
of hit the nail on the head withthat and I feel like there's a
real need for that.
You want to make those peoplefeel special that are going to
support you on that special day.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Yeah, so how are people proposing?
Okay?
Speaker 2 (03:06):
So what have you?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
been seeing.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
What I have been seeing the most of is you know
they want to have something kindof that fits their personality.
So you know some of them areputting a personal note in there
from themselves, or I cancreate something for them.
Does this just explain thatthey can't do this without them?
(03:29):
And inside the box it can beanything from like spa products
to be like a pampering thing foryour bridal party, or it could
be something more special forthe day of Well like one thing I
think people need to remember,when you ask somebody to be in
your wedding party, that you'reasking them to make a
(03:51):
significant time commitment andfinancial commitment.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I think people don't realize that when they're
thinking, oh, my best friend hasto be in my wedding party
because I was in hers and she'smy best friend from college, you
also have to look at herpersonal situation and what
she's dealing with at that pointin time.
She may be expecting a baby,she might be between jobs
because you have to look at allthe costs that are associated
(04:17):
with being in a wedding party.
It's going to include the costof the dress, the cost of shoes,
the cost of altering that dress, a hotel night stay the weekend
of the wedding, hair makeup,absolutely, if you're doing the
wedding shower, some of thedecoration costs for that.
(04:40):
If you are doing theBachelorette party, there might
be a party buzz rental involved.
So there's definitely afinancial commitment when you
are proposing to somebody to bein your wedding party.
So when you're at that stage,you know, take a step back and
take a look and see where is shein her life.
(05:03):
If she says no, it may haveabsolutely nothing to do with
you.
It may have to do with whereshe is in that chapter of her
life.
And is she going to have thefinances to be part of your
wedding party?
Or is she going to be expectinga baby and having to get a
dress size that's three sizesbigger than what she normally
(05:23):
would wear and maybe she mightnot feel comfortable with that?
Speaker 2 (05:27):
What are?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
some things that you notice as far as when people are
asking Like how?
Speaker 2 (05:33):
are they?
Speaker 1 (05:33):
asking.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
How are they asking?
Well, we can do one of twothings Either I can actually
personally deliver this box andit's a surprise, or I deliver to
the bride and then she's havinga gathering and she's
presenting it.
I had one case where this was ahuge bridal party.
(05:54):
I think there were 12 people.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Oh my goodness, that's a sorority house.
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
And they had a fun evening.
They planned this huge dinnerand all of them had at their
place seating.
They had their gift from thebride.
So, yeah, yeah, so it wasreally a great way of joining it
.
So I think it depends on thebride's personality and what
(06:22):
vision she has.
And when I have thatconsultation with the bride
whether it be the phone, a videoor in person we can discuss
that and I can bring theirvision to life.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Oh, that's awesome, yeah Well.
And the same thing kind of goesfor groomsmen as well, because
they have to rent a suit or atuxedo.
There's a cost associated withthat.
There's a cost associated withthe bachelor party.
There's a cost associated withthe weekend of the wedding,
covering the hotel,accommodations and whatnot.
And we do see, depending on thebride and groom's budget, some
(06:58):
take care of that cost or someof the costs.
Like I have a bride right nowwho said I'm covering the cost
of hair and makeup for mywedding party.
That's my gift to them.
And then there are others whoare just like no, if they want
hair and makeup done, I willmake the artist available to
them, but they need to cover thecost of that.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Great.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
And I think that you know.
The other thing that peopleneed to keep in mind is how
large your bar to party is aswell.
Right, because when you saidthe 12 people, first thing that
comes to my mind usually when wehave large wedding parties like
that, it's either somebody whohas a lot of siblings yeah, for
both sides have a lot ofsiblings, and the siblings are
(07:42):
in the wedding party or it'ssomebody who's been in a
sorority of fraternity and theyall been in each other's
weddings and it's just kind ofcontinuing with the tradition,
right?
Um?
So on the wedding day, not tokeep in mind 12 people on each
side is 24 people plus the brideroom is 26, or you know what?
(08:04):
the engaged couple, that's ahermit of your own, with
bride-to-bride.
If you have flora rose ringbearers, that's also a few more,
I mean the biggest weddingparty I've ever had had 28
people on it, oh my goodness.
And you know, one thing to keepin mind is it's very difficult
when people are consumingalcoholic beverages.
(08:24):
Yes, and trying to do crowdcontrol with that number of
people.
So if you have a large wedding,party like that, make sure you
let me photographer know, makesure you let your DJ know,
because they may need a littlebit of extra time.
Rounding up the troops, becausethey need to get indistracted,
because they may have some, youknow, alcohol in their systems,
(08:46):
or even just the large crowditself can make it difficult to
keep everybody's attention span,absolutely.
And then also the thing to keepin mind with your wedding party.
If you have a large weddingparty and you have, let's say,
have your ceremony in a churchand then you have your reception
at a banquet hall, you have toget transported from point A to
(09:07):
point B, right, and so party buswill accommodate about 30
people and you can fit a broaderparty of 24 plus, you know, the
couple in A vehicle like that,right, a vehicle like that is
going to run you.
I mean, you're gonna have athree hour, three to five hour
minimum, because that's how eventhat's how transportation
(09:28):
companies work, right, and youknow you're gonna have to budget
for that as well.
So there's a lot to keep inmind when you're choosing your
wedding party one, how you gotboxy, how you're gonna propose
to them which is what Tricia canhelp you with, that's your
department.
Right, but once they've beenproposed to.
You know you have to take alook at your overall wedding
budget because some of thosecosts associated with a large
(09:50):
group of people may fall on you.
You know, if now you have yourwedding ceremony reception in
the same location and they havea suite where you can get ready
at the location, then you don'thave to worry about Renting a
party bus, right.
But if you are into locations.
that's another feat that you'regonna have to incur as a result
(10:10):
of having that big group, right,yeah, and so, like I'm gonna go
back to the baskets, what aresome things that, like you've
seen that the mothers get on thewedding day?
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Okay, so Brights, you know, with their moms, this can
be a special bonding experiencebetween a mother and a daughter
and Just something that themother has dreamed of, you know,
maybe for their daughter sincethey were a little girl.
And you want your mom to feelspecial, you want, you know, I
want her to feel that she'sthere and included and you're
(10:43):
thinking of her and you'rethinking her for raising you.
So what I've seen mostly is Idid have one bride include a
necklace in the box, but mostlyit's pampering items.
It's maybe her favorite scentof candle, maybe some shower
(11:05):
steamers, maybe a bath bomb,maybe some really nice hand
lotion, bubble bath, somethingto make her feel special and
pampered and loved.
That is my slogan make themfeel loved.
Love weddings no, I've neverput that together.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Great great.
Speaker 2 (11:29):
But I do include.
If I'm delivering a date out, Icould include a fresh flower,
but I like to include a flowerthat's artificial, just for
preservation reasons.
But I make it look beautifuland I've had nothing but
compliments and I have five starreviews.
(11:51):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Yeah, and it's such a great idea.
You can do something as simpleas just writing a really nice
note, but doing somethingpersonalized like that really
makes it look like you took thetime to think about them as a
person and extend them a specialgift for them getting the gift
(12:13):
of themselves to you for thenext year.
Speaker 2 (12:15):
Absolutely, and speaking of notes part of my
business, I do they canpersonalize it.
So if they wanted the mug tosay you know I have to wind
tumblers and mugs it can saymother of the bride, it could
say their name, it could bewhatever you want it to be.
And then also, I do include, ifsomeone wanted to personalize a
(12:38):
note, I hand write personallywhatever words they'd like to
include to make that extraspecial.
You had mentioned Flower Girls,ring Bearers earlier.
The big wedding party of, Ithink, 12, they also included
their Flower Girls and RingBearers and I did do boxes for
them as well and I made itreally kid friendly, really
(13:03):
wonderful things.
She had a theme and things shewanted included in each and I
followed through with that.
Oh, that's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
Yeah, that's so sweet .
So how can people findboyfriend baskets?
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Okay, so my Etsy shop .
You just look up boyfriendbaskets and you should be able
to find me on there.
I'm the shop owner.
Again, I'm Trisha Mack, so justlook me up and you'll see a
list of all that I have to offer.
I can do it for any occasion,but I just specialize in
(13:35):
providing for weddings.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Trisha, thank you so much for coming in today.
Thank you for tuning in.
We hope you enjoy your weddingparty proposals proposal number
two that you'll have during yourwedding planning process.
Please tune in for futurepodcasts.
You can go on yourdreamdaycomand stream from there, or you
can get it wherever you downloadyour podcasts.
This is Kathy Peach Lucas withyour dream day.
(14:00):
Happy planning.
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If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people.