Your Extraordinary Life & Dating After Divorce

In this episode, I break down exactly how the halo effect shows up in dating, in difficult marriages, and in divorce — and why smart, high-achieving women fall for it just as hard as anyone else. (Maybe harder. Because we're good at building convincing stories.)

A man can pay for every dinner from the first date to the wedding — and still refuse to share anything that matters once you're married. A partner can be a good pr...

In this episode of Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce Podcast, I pull back the curtain on one of the most destructive patterns I see in women who are smart, capable, and completely worn out. I share stories from my own first marriage — including the season I drove to sales calls while six months pregnant so my ex-husband could build a business he never built. I was functioning as his parent, not his partner.

This patte...

This episode is for the woman who has ever looked back and said, "I knew it. Why didn't I trust myself?"

Sade unpacks why so many women dismiss their own instincts and how that dismissal — not the red flags themselves — leaves them most exposed. Memorizing red flags doesn't protect you. Situational awareness does. When you build that skill, no disguise fools you.

Your nervous system collects data. Fear, discomfort...

You pride yourself on reading people. You pick up on moods, scan facial expressions, and adjust to keep the peace. But then your partner files for divorce, and you never saw it coming. A close friend betrays you, and it hits you like a truck. A man you're dating turns out to be nothing like you imagined.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Sade breaks down why smart, capable women keep getting blindsided in relationships — and it h...

What if the reason you keep ending up in draining relationships has nothing to do with what's wrong with you — and everything to do with how your brain operates?

In this episode, I break down discernment — the skill that transforms every relationship in your life, from your marriage to your friendships to how you co-parent with your ex. Here's the truth: your brain runs on autopilot. It creates shortcuts for everything — i...

You tell yourself it won't happen. You avoid the word "divorce" like saying it out loud will make it real. You wait. You hope. You pray things shift.

Meanwhile, assets move. Attorneys get hired — just not by you. And when it hits, you're blindsided.

That was my story. I lost assets, lost leverage, and watched my divorce drag on because I refused to face what was happening. I thought I could handle it. I thought we...

Divorce doesn't just break your heart — it can shatter your mental health in ways you never saw coming.

You tell yourself you'll feel better once the papers are filed, once he moves out, once the court date passes. But the truth is, healing doesn't work on a timeline. Grief hits you in the strangest moments — standing in an unfamiliar grocery store, driving 40 minutes to your kids' activities, watching your whole...

In this podcast episode, I discuss mistakes and mindset strategies for divorcing a person with narcissistic tendencies.

Some people say the word narcissist is overused. I disagree. And I love that those people have the privilege of never having experienced a narcissist in an intimate setting.

When women use this word, we know what we mean. We're describing an experience that can't be captured in one simple term—the gaslight...

In this episode, I break down something I've coached women through but hesitated to share—quiet quitting your marriage. Quiet quitting works by releasing the fairy tale "Plan A" marriage that was never going to exist and designing a Plan B life that brings you peace.

Your partner may have never had the capacity for the dream marriage you thought you were going to have. Until you grieve that reality, it's impossib...

Thinking about divorce? The way you approach telling your spouse can determine your safety, your financial future, and your children's wellbeing. This isn't about whether you should leave—it's about understanding what happens when you do.

Most women walk into this conversation with the same mindset that kept them stuck in the relationship. You've minimized problems for years. You've told yourself "I can...

You know that feeling when you say "I can't believe this is happening"? That phrase reveals something important: you might be stuck in denial.

Divorce shatters your reality. It forces you to question your past, present, and future all at once. Your brain protects you by avoiding these overwhelming truths. But denial keeps you vulnerable. While you refuse to engage, reality moves forward—often against your interests.

Ma...

You might have noticed something different—we changed our name.

Welcome to Your Extraordinary Life and Dating After Divorce. Same host, expanded mission.

Here's what happened: I spent years focused on dating after divorce. But the truth? Half my clients work with me on other parts of the divorce journey—thinking about divorce, surviving the process, healing afterward. And I realized I was hiding these stories and frameworks from...

You think getting divorced at 23 is too young to learn anything valuable? Think again.

Sade Mickelson, life coach and Chinese medicine expert, shares her story of marrying an Iranian restaurant owner who was arrested for federal drug charges while she was still in college. Instead of walking away, she doubled down—visiting him in prison, planning to move to Iran, and proving her capability at every turn.

The wake-up call came on a br...

You know all about red flags and what men want. That information fills every dating coach's feed. But here's what nobody talks about: where your attention goes during your dating journey.

Your attention determines everything. When you focus on the 99% of guys who aren't right for you, your mental energy flows there instead of toward your vision. When you obsess over your ex's new girlfriend or rehearse angry text...

Rebuilding your life after divorce means rebuilding your career too. In this episode, I share how I escaped two layoffs in four years at my corporate job—and the four principles that saved me. These same principles apply whether you're navigating the job market or the dating scene.

The Four Moves That Changed Everything:

1. Set Your Intention I put "full-time employee" on my vision board. That simple act trained my bra...

You did the therapy. You read the books. You know your childhood patterns. So why do you keep running into the same toxic situations?

Here's what I've discovered after six years of coaching divorced women: the awareness you need goes deeper than you think.

Yes, you know your family-of-origin patterns. But there's a second layer most women miss—the conditioning around how women "should" behave in relationships...

You are strong. You are capable. You can handle anything life throws at you. But here's the truth: those exact traits might trap you in relationships that drain your soul.

In this episode, I break down why high-achieving women—CEOs, attorneys, physicians, mothers who run the world—end up walking on eggshells with men who don't deserve them. Your resilience becomes your cage. Your strength gets misapplied. You convince your...

You've heard people talk about decentering men. But here's the problem: even that conversation still centers men.

In this episode, I share a different approach. Instead of asking "Does he like me?" or "Will he treat me right?"—I teach you to ask better questions: "What do I want? What serves me? Do I feel safe and valued right now?"

This is hard work. We spent our whole lives putting everyone e...

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Sade Curry kicks off a new series on what it means to live a relationship-centered life—and why that might be the thing keeping you stuck. You’ll hear Sade unpack the social conditioning that trains women to prioritize everyone else first: partners, kids, bosses, siblings, even exes.

Sade breaks down why simply saying “decenter men” isn’t enough—because the issue runs deeper. Women are conditioned to...