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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Wake wake yo wa Hi, Right, what's going on with me?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Just like with anybody, oh with anybody?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Nothing?
Speaker 4 (00:23):
Just freezing out and I can't stand that. For once,
I'm going to complain about how cold it is.
Speaker 5 (00:28):
Well, yeah, what's the boiler situation update? Because it's it's
i mean zero degrees out there. I know foreign you
had said that the it was leaking a little bit,
but you still got me.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I still got heat, so it's still working, thank god.
You know, I've been what's the game plan here?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Because they're only gonna get colder?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Well, I gotta plug, right, I gotta plug through a company.
Speaker 6 (00:46):
My man works for a company, so he's trying to
get me a boiler for like the low because everybody
else is charging like three four, five, six thousand dollars.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
So he's trying to get me a boiler for damn.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Near clearance boiler.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Not clearance, but you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
But he's in the boiler world.
Speaker 6 (00:59):
Yeah, it's like some friends and family program they got,
which ends up like me getting the boiler damn near
for free, and then I just got to find someone
to install it. So I'm just waiting on the boiler
to come and then I get a company come in
and install it, save me like four grand. But yeah,
thank god, knock on wood, it's still working.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I don't know, because what you would like, you couldn't
stay there.
Speaker 6 (01:19):
If no, probably going to have your pipes will freeze. Well, okay,
and that's another thing that somebody told me. You have
to have consistent maybe two three days of below or
next to zero temperature a cold.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
For your pipes to freeze.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
You even think about that.
Speaker 6 (01:35):
Other than that, as long as you stay in the
tens the teens or whatever, your pipes usually do not freeze.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
But the word usually I don't like.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
We don't want to roll the dice just about this house.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
No, no, no, no. That's another thing I don't need.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
We said this yesterday or whenever it was Monday. When
you're a homeowner, there's always something to be done. I
don't know if you feel that sign, because you do.
Guys have been there for a while. Well, what I
was going to ask is does that go away? Because
it's all still so to me every day I look
at something like now my new thing is like I
just hate the kitchen counters and I'm sorry the cabinets
(02:08):
and I want to change those, and I'm like looking
up companies, like every day I find something that I
want to change.
Speaker 6 (02:13):
And here's a friend of mine who schooled me to
the game. He's been doing this for a while and
he said that. He said, you're gonna walk in then,
and you're gonna want to do everything over. He's like,
but you know your return on investment and what is
it rot or whatever. He's like, you got to make
sure that you're going to get your money back. So, yeah,
you want to do all these fancy things, but is
it really worth it at the end of the day. Now,
this might be your forever home, right Ashley.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I will die.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
Okay, they're going to find my bones in that lie,
So you could you could go ahead and start doing
your thing for me. This is gonna end up being
a rental property. So he's like, why you dumping that
much money into it? Remodel what you need to remodel.
You know, the biggest thing to remodel is a kitchen,
a bathroom and maybe a bedroom. But yeah, do that
and then you're done with it, and don't don't worry
about spending no more bread. You you could go hand
if you wanted to.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
Well, that was part of the reason I was able
to convince the fire man to redo the bathroom, because
he does think when we're in our elderly age, there's
so many steps in my house, like I mean crazy
about She's like, we're not gonna want to be.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Old in here. But that's a very long time away.
Speaker 5 (03:08):
Like it'll be same for us, Like I'll be eating
all soft foods.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
At some point.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
A house is going to be too big for just
two of us for sure, So we're going to eventually
sell that home. But at that time, like the kids
will be already like out of the house and.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Like all that.
Speaker 5 (03:21):
We've had those weird discussions too, where it's like, okay,
well when that time comes, where are we going? It's like, well,
where are the girls, Like are they together somewhere?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Are they close?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Are they Like would you move close?
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I would absolutely be close.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yeah, I would want to at least be in the vicinity.
But I also want to spend my retirement doing stuff
whatever in my life. Yeah, so there's gonna be an
even balance there too. And I also don't want to
hold the kids back from finding their path.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
I understand, but I feel like I'm in a different
place than you guys are because of your ages of
your kids. Yes, I can't even tell you. We've talked
about this, but you guys know, I like, I actively
look up average death ages and then I say to myself, Okay,
well if at the age of seventy seven, daisies zero,
(04:11):
you know, and it's like, I think about that, so
I'm going to want to spend every second that's.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
What you're used to. Your mom is here next to you, you
know what I'm saying, She's not that.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Well, but I wasn't.
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Remember for a long time I had nobody here, and
now my mom's here and it's nice. I'm not saying
I won't be on top of them, but I want
to be able to get in a car and see that's.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
To say, what if one's in California when you know
what I mean.
Speaker 6 (04:32):
I find that balance. I'm not moving any of my kids.
You don't want to go go live in Florida, go
do your thing. I'll I'll go a where I need
to go.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
So to the.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Thousand girls, maybe I don't know if that changes it.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Oh well, and then girls will get married with their
partners and all that stuff. And it turns into like
their own little circle, so you have to find balance
in there. I know, but to the death thing, the
craziest thing that happens in Flora might be able to
like talk about this too.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Though.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
When your kids get older, you start thinking about mortality
in your own right, when you start thinking, all right,
if I'm in my forties, now, how much more time
do I have to live? How much more time do
I have with them? They're going to be in colleging
or start to move out. And that's when it really
hits you in the face of like spend the time
with your family with what's important, like right like right now,
right now, because all that doesn't matter.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
This is this conversation is making me emotional because oh
my god, when I think about this, and I really
and I have to stop because I'm also like, you
know what, ash seventy seven might be the average age
for just the average American, but I feel like I do,
like I try to eat right, I try to.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Go to the gym.
Speaker 5 (05:32):
I see all these things which I know is important,
and it's like, you know, the fireman and I have
this discussion, is like we need to be doing this
stuff now because it will means something. Yeah, But when
I do the math, like when I think, like when
Ashley is seventy something years old, like they're barely thirty,
I know they don't have their life figured out. I
don't want to be dead until I know that those
two are set.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
But that I can't.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I want to have but but I think they'll keep me.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Young to do the work now, like you know, like
put the working to raise some amazing kids.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
By the time they're like that age, you don't have
to worry about as as much.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
And that is why I'm only drinking for occasions.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
You say that now, but then the occasion of a
Friday comes, I'm it's Friday.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
It's an ocasion.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
You're just start pounding Jambers. Thursday's occasion. It just depends
you know who you have. I know I got I
gotta be better. Life has changed, man, It's all about
the kids.
Wake wake yo wa Hi, Right, what's going on with me?
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Just like with anybody, oh with anybody?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Nothing?
Speaker 4 (00:23):
Just freezing out and I can't stand that. For once,
I'm going to complain about how cold it is.
Speaker 5 (00:28):
Well, yeah, what's the boiler situation update? Because it's it's
i mean zero degrees out there. I know foreign you
had said that the it was leaking a little bit,
but you still got me.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I still got heat, so it's still working, thank god.
You know, I've been what's the game plan here?
Speaker 2 (00:42):
Because they're only gonna get colder?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Well, I gotta plug, right, I gotta plug through a company.
Speaker 6 (00:46):
My man works for a company, so he's trying to
get me a boiler for like the low because everybody
else is charging like three four, five, six thousand dollars.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
So he's trying to get me a boiler for damn.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Near clearance boiler.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Not clearance, but you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
But he's in the boiler world.
Speaker 6 (00:59):
Yeah, it's like some friends and family program they got,
which ends up like me getting the boiler damn near
for free, and then I just got to find someone
to install it. So I'm just waiting on the boiler
to come and then I get a company come in
and install it, save me like four grand. But yeah,
thank god, knock on wood, it's still working.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I don't know, because what you would like, you couldn't
stay there.
Speaker 6 (01:19):
If no, probably going to have your pipes will freeze. Well, okay,
and that's another thing that somebody told me. You have
to have consistent maybe two three days of below or
next to zero temperature a cold.
Speaker 3 (01:33):
For your pipes to freeze.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
You even think about that.
Speaker 6 (01:35):
Other than that, as long as you stay in the
tens the teens or whatever, your pipes usually do not freeze.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
But the word usually I don't like.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
We don't want to roll the dice just about this house.
Speaker 3 (01:45):
No, no, no, no. That's another thing I don't need.
Speaker 5 (01:48):
We said this yesterday or whenever it was Monday. When
you're a homeowner, there's always something to be done. I
don't know if you feel that sign, because you do.
Guys have been there for a while. Well, what I
was going to ask is does that go away? Because
it's all still so to me every day I look
at something like now my new thing is like I
just hate the kitchen counters and I'm sorry the cabinets
(02:08):
and I want to change those, and I'm like looking
up companies, like every day I find something that I
want to change.
Speaker 6 (02:13):
And here's a friend of mine who schooled me to
the game. He's been doing this for a while and
he said that. He said, you're gonna walk in then,
and you're gonna want to do everything over. He's like,
but you know your return on investment and what is
it rot or whatever. He's like, you got to make
sure that you're going to get your money back. So, yeah,
you want to do all these fancy things, but is
it really worth it at the end of the day. Now,
this might be your forever home, right Ashley.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
I will die.
Speaker 6 (02:34):
Okay, they're going to find my bones in that lie,
So you could you could go ahead and start doing
your thing for me. This is gonna end up being
a rental property. So he's like, why you dumping that
much money into it? Remodel what you need to remodel.
You know, the biggest thing to remodel is a kitchen,
a bathroom and maybe a bedroom. But yeah, do that
and then you're done with it, and don't don't worry
about spending no more bread. You you could go hand
if you wanted to.
Speaker 5 (02:54):
Well, that was part of the reason I was able
to convince the fire man to redo the bathroom, because
he does think when we're in our elderly age, there's
so many steps in my house, like I mean crazy
about She's like, we're not gonna want to be.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Old in here. But that's a very long time away.
Speaker 5 (03:08):
Like it'll be same for us, Like I'll be eating
all soft foods.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
At some point.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
A house is going to be too big for just
two of us for sure, So we're going to eventually
sell that home. But at that time, like the kids
will be already like out of the house and.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
Like all that.
Speaker 5 (03:21):
We've had those weird discussions too, where it's like, okay,
well when that time comes, where are we going? It's like, well,
where are the girls, Like are they together somewhere?
Speaker 2 (03:30):
Are they close?
Speaker 3 (03:31):
Are they Like would you move close?
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I would absolutely be close.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yeah, I would want to at least be in the vicinity.
But I also want to spend my retirement doing stuff
whatever in my life. Yeah, so there's gonna be an
even balance there too. And I also don't want to
hold the kids back from finding their path.
Speaker 5 (03:48):
I understand, but I feel like I'm in a different
place than you guys are because of your ages of
your kids. Yes, I can't even tell you. We've talked
about this, but you guys know, I like, I actively
look up average death ages and then I say to myself, Okay,
well if at the age of seventy seven, daisies zero,
(04:11):
you know, and it's like, I think about that, so
I'm going to want to spend every second that's.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
What you're used to. Your mom is here next to you, you
know what I'm saying, She's not that.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Well, but I wasn't.
Speaker 5 (04:21):
Remember for a long time I had nobody here, and
now my mom's here and it's nice. I'm not saying
I won't be on top of them, but I want
to be able to get in a car and see that's.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
To say, what if one's in California when you know
what I mean.
Speaker 6 (04:32):
I find that balance. I'm not moving any of my kids.
You don't want to go go live in Florida, go
do your thing. I'll I'll go a where I need
to go.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
So to the.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Thousand girls, maybe I don't know if that changes it.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Oh well, and then girls will get married with their
partners and all that stuff. And it turns into like
their own little circle, so you have to find balance
in there. I know, but to the death thing, the
craziest thing that happens in Flora might be able to
like talk about this too.
Speaker 3 (04:55):
Though.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
When your kids get older, you start thinking about mortality
in your own right, when you start thinking, all right,
if I'm in my forties, now, how much more time
do I have to live? How much more time do
I have with them? They're going to be in colleging
or start to move out. And that's when it really
hits you in the face of like spend the time
with your family with what's important, like right like right now,
right now, because all that doesn't matter.
Speaker 5 (05:17):
This is this conversation is making me emotional because oh
my god, when I think about this, and I really
and I have to stop because I'm also like, you
know what, ash seventy seven might be the average age
for just the average American, but I feel like I do,
like I try to eat right, I try to.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Go to the gym.
Speaker 5 (05:32):
I see all these things which I know is important,
and it's like, you know, the fireman and I have
this discussion, is like we need to be doing this
stuff now because it will means something. Yeah, But when
I do the math, like when I think, like when
Ashley is seventy something years old, like they're barely thirty,
I know they don't have their life figured out. I
don't want to be dead until I know that those
two are set.
Speaker 3 (05:52):
But that I can't.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
I want to have but but I think they'll keep me.
Speaker 4 (05:55):
Young to do the work now, like you know, like
put the working to raise some amazing kids.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
By the time they're like that age, you don't have
to worry about as as much.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
And that is why I'm only drinking for occasions.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
You say that now, but then the occasion of a
Friday comes, I'm it's Friday.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
It's an ocasion.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
You're just start pounding Jambers. Thursday's occasion. It just depends
you know who you have. I know I got I
gotta be better. Life has changed, man, It's all about
the kids.
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