Daily Choices That Shape Your Integrity (S4) S44 E4

Welcome to another episode of Inspirations for Your Life with your host, John C. Morley — serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, award-winning video producer, respected podcast host, business coach, dedicated graduate student, and above all, a passionate lifelong learner. Every week, John brings his rich experience and relentless curiosity to you, helping unlock the wisdom and energy you need to thrive in today’s fast-moving world. Whether you’re aiming for workplace breakthroughs, personal growth, or leadership mastery, John’s blend of expertise and heartfelt motivation will inspire you to elevate your life, celebrate your progress, and turn obstacles into opportunities.

Daily Choices That Shape Your Integrity (Season 4, Show 44 Episode 4)

1️⃣ Doing what’s right begins when no one’s looking. True integrity lives in the moments others never see. When nobody’s watching, our smallest choices reveal the depth of our character. Returning lost money, speaking honestly in private, or helping someone without notice—these everyday actions lay the foundation for your reputation and self-respect.

2️⃣ Integrity is built one uncredited act at a time. It’s not the public displays that shape your moral core, but the countless little acts that go unnoticed. When you help out, tell the truth, or stand up for fairness with no expectation of recognition, you’re strengthening your integrity muscle for life’s big challenges.

3️⃣ Fix the small wrongs—big ethics grow from small habits. Don’t ignore the little slips or missteps, even when they seem trivial. Every time you fix a mistake or correct a minor wrong, you’re teaching yourself to uphold your values. These micro-corrections shape your ethical habits and prepare you for major decisions.

4️⃣ The quiet “no” is often louder than the crowd’s “yes.” Saying “no” quietly when pressure or popularity pushes for a “yes” is a powerful act of courage. It’s in these moments—turning down gossip, refusing unfair advantages, declining shortcuts—that your true resolve echoes louder than any public approval.

5️⃣ Real strength is choosing fairness over favor. Authentic power comes from treating people justly, regardless of what’s personally convenient. Fairness means giving everyone equal consideration, even when favoritism would make your life easier. When you choose what’s equitable, you command true respect.

6️⃣ When you admit a mistake, your character levels up. Owning up to errors is a badge of growth, not shame. Honest self-reflection and apology show emotional maturity and the willingness to learn. Each time you admit fault, you unlock new opportunities for trust and deeper relationships.

7️⃣ What you tolerate today becomes your standard tomorrow. Allowing small lapses or accepting the unacceptable sets the stage for your future norms. Raise the bar today by being mindful of what you let slide—because tomorrow, those choices will either elevate or lower your standards.

8️⃣ Doing right doesn’t always shine—it often steadies. Ethical choices aren’t always glamorous or praised. More often, they provide stability and calm in your life, anchoring your journey in values that sustain you through tough times.

9️⃣ The truth doesn’t need defending; it needs living. Let your actions reflect the truth, rather than constantly having to defend it. When you live with honesty and transparency, your life itself becomes a testament to truthfulness.

🔟 You can’t fake conscience for long—it exposes itself. Even if you try to put on a moral façade, your true intentions will come through over time. Stay sincere and trust that authentic conscience always outlasts pretense.

1️⃣1️⃣ Honesty pays no instant reward but builds long-term trust. Truth-telling rarely gets quick applause. Still, it’s honesty that builds the pillar of enduring trust—with yourself and others. Over months and years, truthful living becomes your credibility.

1️⃣2️⃣ Kindness is morality in motion. Every act of kindness is a live demonstration of morality. Leading with compassion—helping, listening, or giving—transforms intention into visible goodness.

1️⃣3️⃣ Every shortcut you skip shapes your legacy. Choosing the honest route, even when a shortcut beckons, adds a block to your legacy. Let your record show not how quickly you arrived, but the integrity displayed on your way.

1️⃣4️⃣ Gossip tests your loyalty more than your silence. Refusing to engage in gossip is not just about staying quiet—it’s about protecting trust. Loyalty shines brighter when you safeguard others’ reputations behind their back.

1️⃣5️⃣ Doing right when tired is mastery of self. The toughest test of morality comes when you’re exhausted or stressed. Pushing yourself to act ethically at these times cultivates discipline and profound self-mastery.

1️⃣6️⃣ Decency is rarely seen, but always felt. People may overlook everyday decency, yet the

Episode Transcript

(00:22):
Well, hello there everyone, it is John C.
Morley here, serial entrepreneur, great to be with
you on Inspirations for Your Life early this
morning.
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Without any further ado, let's kick the show
off, but before I do, I want to
let you guys know the master topic is.
So the master topic is everyday wisdom on
doing what's right.
You know, we have to do what's right
even when no one is watching.
Daily choices that shape your integrity was, I
think, an important point, and so that's why

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I made it the master, the granular topic
for today, daily choices that shape your integrity,
series 4, show 44, episode number 4.
Without any further ado guys, let's kick the
show off.
So welcome to another episode of Inspirations for
Your Life.
Again, it is so great to be with
everyone today.
I hope you're all doing well, and I'm

(02:07):
your host, John C.
Morley.
I'm a serial entrepreneur.
I'm an engineer, marketing specialist, award-winning video
producer, respected podcast host, business coach, dedicated graduate
student, and above all, a passionate lifelong learner.
Every week I bring you my rich experience
and relentless, yes, that's right guys, my relentless

(02:28):
and respected information that I know will make
a very big, big difference in your life.
And I think that's an important thing, you
know, to understand is experience, and also my
curiosity to help you unlock the wisdom and
the energy that you need to thrive in
today's fast-moving world.

(02:49):
Now, we all want to survive, right?
So before we can thrive, we have to
survive, but now once we survive, we have
to thrive, right?
That's the key, right?
We don't want to just live life.
We want to really enjoy every moment, every
beat of our heart, every breath.
So whether you're aiming for workplace breakthroughs, personal

(03:10):
growth, or perhaps leadership mastery, my blend of
expertise and heartfelt motivation will inspire you to
elevate your life, celebrate your progress, and turn
obstacles into opportunities.
Daily Choices That Shape Your Integrity is what

(03:31):
it's about today on Season 4, Show 44,
Episode Number 4.
Wow, guys, in just a few months, we're
going to be out of Season 4.
That means we'll be on the air four
years.
I can't believe that.
And we'll be starting our fifth year in
January, on January 1st, 2026.
Wow.
So number one, doing what's right begins with

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no one else.
Meaning that when no one else is looking,
you still need to do what's right.
So true integrity lives in the moments others
never see.
When nobody's watching, our smallest choices and hunches
reveal the depth of our true character.

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Returning lost money, speaking honestly in private, or
helping someone without notice, these everyday actions lay
the foundation for your reputation and self-respect.
A quick story here.
My mom had a dry clean plant for
many, many years, since I was in second

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grade through, I think it was 20, actually
2004.
So I had it for quite a while.
And sometimes we would find money in people's
pockets.
It could be a dollar.
It could be $50, $100.
And we would put it in a little
looky bag.
And then we would call the customer and
tell them, look, we found money.

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We found a wallet.
We found credit cards.
We found cash.
I'll tell you the times that I would
bring things to the dry cleaner before we
had our store.
And maybe grandma gave me $50 or $100.
And I went back and I'm like, oh
no, we didn't find anything.
So it was in there, but somebody took
it.
Now, maybe not the owners, but maybe the
people marking.

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And we told the people that if you
find money, you need to let us know
about it.
You don't put it in your pocket.
And those are the kind of people that
we hired, kids that had that kind of
integrity.
So that gets me to number two.
Integrity is built one uncredited act at a

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time.
It's not the public displays that shape your
moral core, but the countless little acts that
go unnoticed each day.
When you help out, tell the truth or
stand up for fairness with no expectation of
recognition, you're strengthening your integrity muscle for life's

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big challenges.
That's right, guys.
It's a muscle.
And just like other muscles you work out
in the gym, you need to work out
your muscle that is your integrity muscle.
Number three, fix the small wrongs.
Big ethics grow from small habits.
Don't ignore the little slips or the missteps,

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even when they seem trivial.
Every time you fix a mistake or correct
a minor wrong, you're teaching yourself to uphold
your true values.
These micro corrections shape your ethical habits and
prepare you for major decisions in life.
Number four, guys, the quiet no is often

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louder than the crowds yes.
Saying no quietly when pressure or popularity pushes
for a yes is a powerful act of
courage.
It's in these moments, turning down gossip, refusing
unfair advantages, declining shortcuts that your true resolve
echoes louder than any public approval ever could.

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Number five, guys, real strength is choosing fairness
over favor.
Authentic power comes from treating people justly.
Regardless of what's personally convenient, fairness means giving
everyone equal consideration.
Even when favoritism would make your life easier.

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When you choose what's equitable, you command true
respect.
Number six, when you admit a mistake, and
not everyone likes to admit a mistake.
I know when I was younger, I never
liked to admit as a mistake.
But when you admit a mistake, it actually
helps build your character, right?
Your character levels up.

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And owning up to errors is a badge
of growth, of honor, and it's not shame.
Honest self-reflection and apology show emotional maturity
and the willingness to learn.
Sometimes, you know, we make a mistake, but
we do it, you know, purely, let's say,
accidentally.

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It's still a mistake, right?
Each time you admit fault, you unlock new
opportunities for trust and deeper relationships.
Number seven, guys, what you tolerate today becomes
your standard tomorrow.
And I want to talk about something I

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said yesterday, and that is, you might think
if you're around people, and they're saying things,
and you're just like, I don't want to
get involved.
Well, I got news for you.
If you're around people, and those people are
paying attention to you, or you're paying attention
to them, or vice versa, and they say
something, and you don't agree with it, but
you're quiet, right?
Like a lot of times in grammar school

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and high school, like, oh, you can hang
around us, you just have to be quiet,
can't say anything.
So what that basically means is when you're
there, and you're there doing something, and you
don't agree with it, but you have to
keep quiet, that means that you're silently agreeing
or consenting to it.
Pretty nasty trick, isn't it?
That's why older kids always say, you can
hang around us, but you just can't say
anything.
That means that if you're going to hang

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around us, you have to keep quiet.
And by keeping quiet, that's a standard saying
that you agree.
Yeah.
So if you don't agree with something, and
you can't speak up, get out, get away
from them.
Allowing small lapses or accepting the unacceptable sets
the stage for your future norms.

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Raising the bar today by being mindful of
what you let slide, because tomorrow, guys, those
choices will either elevate or they're going to
lower your standards in life.
And I think that's important for us to
realize is we always want to be better,
right?
But sometimes, like, well, it throws a monkey

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wrench, and we get a wire, like, which
way we got to go, right?
Number eight, doing right doesn't always shine.
It often steadies though.
Ethical choices aren't always glamorous or praised.
More often, they provide stability and calm in

(10:12):
your life, anchoring your journey in values that
sustain you through the tough times.
Number nine, guys, the truth doesn't need defending.
It needs living.
Let your actions reflect truth rather than constantly
having to defend it.
When you live with honesty and transparency, your

(10:34):
life itself becomes a testament to truthfulness.
That's right.
Number 10, guys, you can't fake conscience for
long.
It exposes itself eventually.
Even if you try to put on a
moral facade, your true intentions will come through

(10:55):
over time, even if you try to suppress
them.
Stay sincere and trust that authentic conscience always
outlasts pretenses.
Number 11, guys, honesty, honesty, honesty, honesty.
I can't say that word enough times.
Honesty and integrity, honesty and integrity.
Honesty pays no instant reward.

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So you might say, why do it?
But it builds long-term trust and character.
Truth-telling rarely gets quick applause.
Sorry.
Still, it's honesty that builds the pillar of
enduring trust with yourself and others.
Over months and years, truthful living becomes your

(11:37):
credibility.
That's right.
It becomes your credibility.
Kindness is morality in motion.
Every act of kindness is a live demonstration
of morality.
Leading with compassion, helping, listening, or giving transforms

(11:57):
intention into visible goodness.
Number 13, every shortcut you skip shapes your
legacy.
Choosing the honest route, even when a shortcut
beckons, adds a block to your legacy.
Let your record show not how quickly you

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arrive, but the integrity in the way you
arrive, displaying that whole character of what makes
you.
Number 14 is one of my favorites.
It's called the gossip tests, because gossip tests
your loyalty more than your silence does.
Once you get a piece of gossip, are
you going to spread it?
If you are, then you're a gossiper.

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Refusing to engage in gossip is not just
about staying quiet.
It's about protecting trust.
I remember so many times in grammar school,
you'd say something, or mostly in high school,
you'd say something.
You can keep this a secret.
Then five minutes later, you would test them.
It would be all over the class.
Like, hey, you can't tell anybody about this.

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You told this one person, and literally within
about 30 minutes, the entire freshman class knew
the secret, which you didn't want it to
be a secret, but you were testing it.
Because you've been burnt many times where you've
done, they're like, that's not right.
Loyalty shines, guys, brighter when you safeguard others'

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reputations behind their back.
Number 15, doing right when tired is mastery
of self.
We all get these moments in life where
we get overwhelmed.
I think the secret to that is getting
a little more rest at night and approaching

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everything as a stepping stone.
Don't expect you have to get it all
done right now.
I love doing my sheet, and then I
cross off the sheet every time.
That's the best thing.
And it makes you feel good when you
do that.
So it's not the amount of work.
It's the thought process you put into when
you think you have things to do.

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You have things to do, but don't let
it overwhelm you.
The toughest test of morality comes when you're
exhausted or stressed.
That's the truth, guys.
Pushing yourself to act ethically at these times
cultivates discipline.
And profound self-mastery.

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Number 16, guys, are you ready for number
16?
Is this making sense to everybody?
I hope it does.
Decency is rarely seen, but it's always felt.
People may overlook every day decency, yet they
feel its effects, a positive environment, gentle support,
and mutual respect stem from small, unheralded choices.

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Maybe you've done a handshake with somebody for
business, and maybe they've decided to now play
the contract game.
Well, I never signed a contract when you
took their hand and that was the contract.
Now, your whole trust for them has pretty
much disintegrated.

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Number 17, small fairness now prevents big regret
later.
Being fair about the little things helps avoid
major regrets down the line.
Don't undervalue minor acts of justice.
They save you from bigger ethical dilemmas.
That's important, guys.
A moral compass works best when collaborated and

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calibrated daily.
Ethics aren't static.
Examine your intentions and behaviors every day, adjusting
as needed.
This keeps your inner guidance strong and accurate.
Number 19, guys, choosing right after failure.
It counts double.

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Yes, it does.
After a slip or a setback, making the
right choice is doubly powerful.
It restores lost ground and showcases your commitment
to ethical recovery.
Think about that for a moment.
Does that hit home with everybody?
I mean, I'm hoping it does.
If it hits home, it means this stuff
is starting to make sense with you.

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A lot of things I told you that
half of life is being aware of something,
being aware to help us change it.
Number 20, ethics aren't preached.
They're practiced in every whisper.
Even though I'm sharing ethics here, true ethics
come from us embodying who we are.

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The real lessons in ethics aren't loud or
public.
They just happen quietly in our daily decisions
that we make.
Practice not proclamation, okay?
This is what builds enduring virtue.
Number 21, guys, your smallest yes to good

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creates ripple change.
Tiny commitments to goodness, helping, supporting, correcting, spread
outward, inspiring others, and uplifting communities in subtle
but powerful ways.
These are things a lot of people don't
get.
Number 22, staying silent against wrong makes the

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wrong louder.
I've said this many times.
Silence is not neutrality.
It amplifies the wrongdoing and lets them take
root.
It basically says that, well, I consent to
what you're doing, even though I'm not saying
anything.
Speak up.
Your voice matters more than you think it
does.
Number 23, doing right when unseen is life's

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hidden training, okay?
Each unseen action is practice for greater integrity.
These moments strengthen your moral muscles, readying you
for bigger tests, when eyes are watching, that
is, because the practice comes when you're alone.

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But then when you start to share it
later, you've already been tested.
Number 24, real moral courage looks awkward before
it looks inspiring.
Standing for what's right, it can feel daunting,
uncomfortable, or lonely at first.
But with time, these awkward moments become stories

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of inspiration for others.
Number 25, every ethical stand you take inspires
invisible followers.
People notice your convictions, even when you don't
know that they're doing it.
Every time you stand for values, you model
integrity and inspire quiet admiration.

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You model integrity.
You model quiet admiration.
Powerful words.
Number 26, guys, don't justify wrong just because
it's popular.
That was the thing in high school, right?
It's popular, so of course we're going to
go jump off a bridge.

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Now, I'm being facetious, but you get my
point, right?
Whether it was smoking, whether it was drinking,
whether it was something else, well, because it's
popular, we're going to go do it, even
if it's going to harm us or hurt
us, or even if it's not the right
thing.
Or cheating.
Well, it's popular now, so we're all going

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to cheat.
I never fell into that boat.
And when I had people that were trying
to push me down that boat, I just
decided to terminate the friendship, because I knew
that my character and my morals meant more.
And that's because of my parents and them
instilling that in me.
It's easy to let wrong slide when everyone's

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doing it, right?
The bandwagon effect.
Oh, well, Joey's doing it, Mary's doing it,
Bobby's doing it, Ronnie's doing it, Paul's doing
it, right?
And if they jump off the bridge, you're
going to go with them too?
Uh-huh.
Seriously.
True character is built by resisting the lure
of popularity and sticking to principles.

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I know we all want to be popular,
but if we do this for the wrong
reasons, it can bite us.
Number 27, sometimes doing right, it isolates you.
That's your proof of progress.
Sometimes you'll lose friends.
Those were never friends in the first place.

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Acting with integrity can make you feel alone.
Don't let that discourage you.
Isolation often means you're leading, not following, on
the ethical front, the ethical journey that is.
And I know when you think about ethics,

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people say, well, you know, nobody's watching, so
what does it matter if I do this?
Like, I've only got to do this, you
know, basically while the boss is here.
That's not integrity.
Or I've only got to do this when
the teacher's here.
That's not integrity, right?

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How many times in school has the teacher
said, I have to go to the teacher's
room to get something?
Everyone be quiet.
Everyone, uh, keep studying.
If you go back on that, your integrity
is dropped.
I remember the time when that would happen,
and then somebody would be like, oh, she's

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coming.
She's going to be quiet.
That's no way to live, guys.
No way to live at all.
Number 28.
You ready for number 28?
It's a hard one.
No pun intended.
The hardest truth spoken is the purest self
-respect.
There's dignity in telling a difficult truth.

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Sometimes people don't want to share the difficult
truth because they're afraid that they're going to
get alienated.
They're afraid they're going to get isolated.
But who really cares?
Stand up for what you believe in.
Uh, this happened to me several weeks ago.
I made a comment because somebody was doing
a great thing.
Didn't know that that was going to lead
to so much drama.

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Well, they decided that they were going to
ignore me for the rest of the day.
Why?
Well, I'll tell you why.
Because they thought that if they ignored me,
that they would basically, um, that that would
set a standard.
Because I was not agreeing to something, that
meant that I was something else.
And that's no way, guys.
No way to be.

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Speaking honestly, okay?
Speaking honestly, even when it's painful, builds deep
self-respect and earns genuine trust from others.
Trust.
What if somebody we're trying to gain trust

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from just blows this off?
Well, don't get upset about it.
You know, don't get discouraged.
It's one person.
And I'm not saying we could change people
because that's not what I want you to
do.
But if we could be the example, we
could be the model, we'd be enough of
those good fish in the world that want

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to build trust and respect.
I think sometimes you don't know until you
spent a few hours with them, maybe a
day with them, maybe a weekend with them.
You get to learn what they really stand
for.
I think that's powerful.

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Number 29, guys, each small moral act rewrites
your inner story or really alters your inner
compass, if I'd like to say.
Your ethical choices that you make shape not
just your reputation, but your internal narrative.
And your narrative is how you continue to
live the rest of life.
Make these stories ones you're proud to retell.

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Don't do things to impress people.
Don't do things because, you know, you're trying
to get in their good light.
Do things because you want to do them.
That's important, guys.
And although that may not reward you today
or tomorrow or the next day, it will

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reward you more powerfully and more beautifully you
ever could imagine.
Number 30, guys, the world, the world around
us, the world changes mostly through invisible good
deeds.
Those are the things that no one sees
that we're doing.

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It's that inner quiet every day that brings
about good collectively and causes a shift in
our society.
It's when people don't know we did the
good.
Maybe they know the good, but they don't
also know who did it.

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I think that's pretty powerful.
And that's an example for us to say,
you know what?
I need to pass that on to other
people.
I need to be that example, not because
I have to, but because I want to
be that good example.
Never, never, never, never, never, never, never, never,
never, never, never, never, never underestimate the power

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of your unseen moral actions.
They're the sparks of real transformation.
And you might say, John, how can I
make a difference in the world today or
tomorrow?
Well, one thing is to operate from your
heart.

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Do things for the greater good of all
concerned.
I think that's one thing that a lot
of people don't act on.
They act, well, if I do it, what
am I going to get?
They act on the pleasure principle, right?
But just because something isn't pleasurable, doesn't mean
it's not the right thing to do.
Sometimes we have to make a sacrifice, right?

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Volunteering, whatever it is, even though you may
or may not enjoy that, that sacrifice, that
thing you're doing helps us become a better
person.
I think that's hard for a lot of
people to fathom or to even realize, you
know, how does that even work?

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And I think it's something that, it's hard
for some people to come to grips or
come to terms with the choices, especially the
choices people have to make when they're alone,
when no one's around.
Those are the hard choices to make, guys.
The easy choices are to make when people
are around because everyone's watching.

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Oh, well, look what he did.
Look what he did.
We're going to praise them.
That's really no reward.
That's no reward.
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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and impactful experience of what we call life.
You see, ladies and gentlemen, life was meant
to be lived.
It wasn't meant to be put in a
situation that we don't enjoy.
We need to live every moment.
If enjoying a sacrifice is also part of
life, then yes, the sacrifice will make everything

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else much richer.
Have yourself a great rest of your day
or evening.
Be well, everyone.